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atheos · atheos

I have a cat who sometimes decides to pee in places other than the litterbox. I have put up with it for over a year, and done all sorts of things vets and cat people recommended, but nothing stopped it (so please don't turn this into a thread of cat behavior tips... the situation is past that point). I am abs...

newwoman · newwoman

Today i feel better while my love is away in rehab and have had such loving support from this board. (thank you) Because I feel better I find myself glossing over the reality of what happened leading him into rehab and the emotional mess I found myself left to address alone. Now, he and his counselor have...

cinders · cinders

I stood up for myself yesterday and am so at peace because of the growth I have found while working the Alanon steps. My AH called and said that he wanted to continue to have a relationship but put many conditions on it. First, we will get divorced. Secondly, we will never live together again. Thir...

wyndwhsthlr · wyndwhsthlr

I never thought my life would end up here. My big plans for the year included 6 half-marathons, starting a business and possibly getting engaged. I knew my BF had a problem with alcohol. He had said he had stopped drinking. A trip to the ER a week ago crashed my world entirely. He's admitting now that he h...

RobinKSC · RobinKSC

I won't be able to chair the Wednesday morning meeting. -- Edited by RobinKSC on Tuesday 29th of January 2013 11:35:46 AM

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

Does anyone kniw if there are any electronic versions of c2c and or other great al anon family support books&if so from where can I download...id like an android version og c2c or similar...any suggestions...thanks

stephaniej · stephaniej

Thank you thank you thank you! Thank you for all your support, and prayers, and kind words. I received a call today, and I have been offered a job with the county; a job that I know I will be great at. A job that I need, and that I am terribly excited about.

NewMember · NewMember

I am so angry with my husband. I came to terms with the fact that he's a functioning alcoholic a few months ago. I've always struggled to really pin down whether or not he was an alcoholic before I found that definition online. Then it all became so clear! But this week was a whole new low. He has this pa...

rehprof · rehprof

I honestly am sitting here in tears. I truly feel like the universe is trying to break me. I can't sell my house because I owe more on it than it's worth, and there are so many things wrong with it...because I trusted my exA to hire competent people to do "upgrades" -- what a joke. I have $100 to m...

pinkchip · pinkchip

Do I have the definitive answer to this. No. Do I have ESH and thoughts...always and I often share them (maybe too much lol). I don't think this ESH is so special or so unique but I do think it's probably generic in terms of what is to be gained through alanon and other 12 step programs too. I responded t...

scaredandconfused · scaredandconfused

I shouldn't be suprised anymore by anything my husband says. We are separated and I've been doing a good job the past several days of avoiding communication and focusing on myself. Now he has sucked me back into his sick world and he has me angry and crying over his cruel comments. After he continued to r...

Email sent to all members... · John

Hello Everyone! You are receiving this email as a registered member on the MIP Al-Anon Message Board at http://alanon.activeboard.com. I try to truly minimize the number of emails I send out to the members each year. Usually it does not exceed 3 per year, so please take a few moments of your time to r...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I fell today on ice & snow. But I am a trooper; I got up & trudged on. I don't think I am hurt that bad but I think that I have prayers going out for me just in case. I am so glad that I didn't feel like crying. I laughed it off w/ my husband on the phone. Another day in the small town. I have to admit that I lov...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I still sometimes think it is all about me but after 27 years in the program, it is getting to be more about YOU! I have been able to get out of my world into helping others more. What a concept? I am so grateful for the years I have been on here. I have shared all kinds of emotions & experiences that I proba...

Katy · Katy

It's been of some comfort to know my sister inlaw has allowed him to use her sofa to sleep on this last two weeks, but things have been getting worse she can't afford to keep him for free and had asked him for some board money, he has complained he doesn't get fed well and she treats her cats better, I have sta...

tortuga · tortuga

I need your help or advise. it has now become clear to me that I have been massively emotionally abused. one thing now is to forgive myself for not having removed myself from this situation earlier. But i still think i did best with what i knew at the time. the other thing is to not obsess anymore about the p...

tnmom · tnmom

How to you deal with an AH who comes in so intoxicated that he starts frying something , passes out and doesn't even hear the fire alarm? Passes out with food in his mouth. Lets the dogs outside and passes out and forgets them in the freesing cold. If I didn't have to work I could stay up, but I do have to work...

PP · PP

I am angry tonight and don't want to admit it to anyone, which is why I am admitting it here. It is a clue that I want to hide out. When I want to hide, it is best to get myself to an al anon meeting asap. I am angry at 3 of my 4 adult children...all have addictions to substances. Two owe us money and 1 exposes...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

Well. The may be the last straw. My ah of 15yrs came home having had a few....early though I was just getting 8yo to bed. It was clear he was agitated and I tried to stay low ....nothing worked. First he went off on ploitics...rage. Then it turned on me...i didnt react right so..."youre s***, and fu....

Fool4You · Fool4You

My A is soon to be 53 years old, a smoker and recovered heroin addict from before I knew him. He's been drinking since he was a child (abstinence for years because of a prison stint) and the past three years I just found out he's been smoking crack. I thought he stopped the crack 2 years ago, but he didn't....

imom · imom

So lately I found myself really not paying much attention to my AH. I cannot figure out if its my way of detaching or if I just cannot stand him anymore. I really try not to be rude because I don't want to be that way, but sometimes I just cannot help but be disgusted by him.

likemyheart · likemyheart

We were watching Lord of the Rings, Part Two, Extended Version (highly recommended to those who like LOTR) and I saw the scene that birthed my MIP Nickname. Arwen is giving Aragorn this silver jewelry thing, he tries to get her to take it back, not give it, and she tells him it is hers to give, like my heart...

newwoman · newwoman

The request has been made by my love (who is in rehab) and the counselor to come for an hour visit in two weeks. HELP!!!! My feelings about this are running amuck. Yes, I want to see him. But I am JUST now starting to get myself pulled somewhat together after the mess I found myself in when he left for rehab....

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Hi EveryoneIn the 3 short months I have been on MIP with all the support and encouragement I have received, I have come a long way. I have learned to detach more and more every day. What I might or might not have done in my past cant be changed, but Im learning to except it, forgive, and move on to have a bet...

abbyalana · abbyalana

Well, I've been in therapy for almost 3 years now. I know I'm co-dependent and working on that. I'm working on myself and self-esteem as a result of the abuse, chaos and trauma too. I am divorced and have been dating - here and there. So, I finally catch a break and meet a nice guy. I mean nice guy. Par...

Magster · Magster

Every moment you spend upset, despaired, anguished, angry or hurt because of the behavior of anyone else in your life, is a moment in which you've given up control of your life.

1976love · 1976love

Just a little note to share. When I first started alanon i was truely going to get my AH "fixed" was pretty sure they would have all the answers to fix him. When I went to my first meeting and was in total shock that they expected me, of all people, to do the same steps my sick AH had to do. I am ve...

Dee3 · Dee3

My son has a drug problem. It has been going on for years and last week we had an intervention with him. He did admit he has a problem and he was willing to get help. He is now in a rehab center. I never thought I would have to go through any of this but I am sure we all thought that. I am asking for understand and h...

hotrod · hotrod

IN ALANON WE BELIEVE LIFE IS FOR GROWTH-PHYSICAL, EMOTIONAL AND SPIRITUALSTEP 8 MADE A LIST OF ALL PERSONS WE HAVE HARMED AND BECAME willing to make amends to them allPlease join us and share your eSHhttp://stepwork.activeboard.com/t52406122/step-8-alanon/

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I am really struggling with my eating right now and am gaining weight. Last time I became single I lost weight and worked out a lot. Now I am in school sitting in class and studying a lot 5 classes right now 2 of which are twice a week, with 2 kids and work on the weekends I have really turned to food. I am not lo...

el-cee · el-cee

I'm just not feeling my program tonight. My son who still hasn't moved out of course I still don't have the courage. Had a row with him completely reacted, I'm obviously resentful over what happened at the weekend and let go Of my anger, I'm still angry, he's out tonight and I feel like not letting him ba...

sheristeele · sheristeele

I kicked my A son out of the home over 2 months ago. This past week he calls and says that he "needs money for groceries" and that he needs to see a doctor. I went and picked him up and took him to the ER and paid for his medications when he was released. He was smart mouthed and rude to me several ti...

militantsparrow · militantsparrow

It is difficult to write about something that has affected me my entire life yet have never really spoken to anyone about. I started to write this several times, but it keeps spinning out of control. So, I will try one more time to write just enough to get my story across. It will likely be hard to follow. I...

Keaghan · Keaghan

My A is trying to quit drinking. However many times she has tried to fool me and she is clearly drunk or at least buzzed. she repeats herself a lot when is buzzed. Clear give away. Anyway should I not call her out on it ? Should I just keep to myself ? I don't want to accuse her but then again I want to know and her...

Minaret · Minaret

I know this topic has probably been started before, but I had a tough time the other night...my AH was drinking and yelling at the kids and on and on, the typical chaos on a worknight (a worknight for me at least), and I wound up putting both children to bed, usually if AH is not picking a fight with me, he hel...

LetDownandLost · LetDownandLost

Hi there. I had known my husband for almost six years. We got married in 2009. I discovered last fall that he had a drinking problem because he got arrested for OWI and he had a blood alcohol level of .352! Of course, I couldn't find him that night and after calling numerous police stations and area hospi...

Mommamimi · Mommamimi

I'm posting this because it's important for all of us as enablers to know! Once you have allowed your A friend or family member establish their "residence" with you, you can NOT force them to leave without officially evicting them. That can be a long drawn out process, it will also require y...

WornOutMrsFixIt · WornOutMrsFixIt

Why am I still having such a hard time realizing that NOTHING I do is going to make a difference? Believe me, I have tried it all - drill seargent, supportive wife, nurse and in the end, separated myself from the situation but still, he tries and fails. Part of me feels so sad for him when I see how insec...

imom · imom

My AH claims he has been told and has read a lot of research about how a small percentage of people cannot ever be helped by recovery programs ( I.e. rehab and aa). Has anyone come across this research or is this just another one of his lame excuses to avoid recovery?

oldergal · oldergal

They abuse you physically, and verbally, uses you, doesnt agree with you, hates you, takes advantage of you, manipulates you abuse your children etc. etc.? I am not sure I understand this, are people that instantly forgiving or what is it. I am sincere about this question. Please shed some light on th...

motherof5 · motherof5

I am new to the idea of Al-Anon. My mother has suggested that I go. My partner of the last 4 years is an alcoholic. We have had numerous arguements.. lately things have gotten physical. Today I came home from work and he was stumbling and intoxicated. This just 1 1/2 weeks after he drug me across the h...

Keaghan · Keaghan

My wife is an A. She is going to a psycholgist now and I thought she would be getting better. However things have changed. At first she was definitely sober. Maybe the first month. Now although she appears sober, something is clearly up. It's like instead of drinking a ton she now measures and knows just...

AStrongerMe · AStrongerMe

6 years of abuse my kids have endured may be ending with a bang. Unfortunately I have to go through the same scrutiny as well. A therapist for my middle son who lives with his great aunt called CPS. Unfortunately the manner the "data" was presented makes it sound like I knew they were going...

Afraidparent · Afraidparent

After hearing my daughter be drunk again this weekend and learning she was fighting with her one last friend whose been there for her since they were in the 1st grade, I decided to send this email to her. I probably shouldn't have as her replies were spewing hatred to me afterward. She threatened to wr...

tortuga · tortuga

I am sorry, my posts are so scared recently. But I just am trying hard to see through this. newest accusations of my ex, 'you have a polluted mind, with all that reading you do, false knowledge, it's not the truth about life...i feel sorry for you, i hope you realize one day, how wrong you are'....this an...

Number30 · Number30

This is kinda off-topic but my grandmother is in her last few days on earth and our family could really use prayers and mental support. She has been ill for years, and stopped knowing us a long time ago but it is still hard, esp. for my mom and uncle. I went through much of the grieving process when she sto...

Tracey C · Tracey C

Hi I found this the other night and it was really interesting to see how my behaviour related with the alcoholics. This may interest some of you too: Stage 0: Alcoholic Characteristics: Non-drinker, No alcoholic behaviour or symptoms. Co-Alcoholic Characteristics: No co-al...

Aloha · Aloha

I've been chatting fairly regularly with a friend for quite a while. It was almost a psudo boyfriend/girlfriend kind of relationship, but I haven't been kidding myself that we're truly committed to one another. Just kind of settled him into the close friend category with the understanding that not...

cinders · cinders

I just had to share my good news. My oldest son who graduates this year got accepted at his top pick university. I am so incredibly proud of him. Its nice to get good news. He works so hard and has maintained some awesome grades. I could not be prouder. Ok, enough parental bragging.

el-cee · el-cee

My son, 19, has been behaving himself relatively well lately because I have asked him to leave and get his own place. Well, he has blown that tonight. He has been drinking since friday night and he storms in here drunk with a menacing look on his face. He starts ranting about a fight with someone and hes go...

el-cee · el-cee

I have realised that immediately after a crisis, any crisis, I am relieved that all is ok and I am actually quite happy and I can go on as if nothing has happened but then comes the reality and I begin to get angry. I then want to let my anger out by shouting and being dramatic but Im trying hard to work my progr...

littlehob · littlehob

Hi, Lost it a bit this morning. Was not in a great mood my A is still trying drinks most days, not fall down drunk but under the influence. I'm not mentioning it at all, going to my meetings trying to do the readings but I am fed up. I can't stand it when I see her under the influence with our two beautiful youn...

MACTX · MACTX

just feeling frstration, because I have my boundaries & have not spoken to the A since i decided to separate myself from his issues & the blame that he placed on me. now, I just received an email, semi-blaming me, and also crying out admitting he has problems & a disorder. I do not want to r...

scaredandconfused · scaredandconfused

My husband and I have been having serious problems since he started drinking very heavily in October. He also started an affair with some trashy woman at this time. In October he first told me that he wants a divorce because "we are trapped in a loveless marriage." Throughout November and...

stephaniej · stephaniej

When I applied for that totally fantastic job with the county, I gave two former mentors as references, along with the director of the daycare center my son attendes (and where I have been volunteering a lot since I was laid off). The daycare center director called me Friday night to tell me the count...

imom · imom

I signed the papers today and the divorce will be filed tomorrow. I told my AH and also told him that I am requesting he be removed from the house for the emotional safetynof myself and my kids. Of course he said he would need to be forcefully removed and that I was breaking up our family. He said everything...

Annie1234 · Annie1234

Last night I had a bad night of worry and stress. Tomorrow night, my AH goes to the DUI Hotel for three nights. I'm anxious to see how the weekend helps him with his recovery. Today he has been sober for 37 days, and I am hopeful that he is taking the right steps. In the meantime, as hopeful as I am about al...

tortuga · tortuga

It is now 4 weeks since we had that violent clash. where I seperated myself physically and geographically during the first 2 weeks, I felt a sort of peace and calm, that i haven't felt at all lately in this relationship. I almost felt selfish and guilty, but due to th eviolence of the events, I also felt st...

Findinghope · Findinghope

I've been on here before, and as is my way, I tend only to post when in the throes of the disease. My AH who is in recovery, but hasn't been as "in" recovery lately as in the past, is drinking tonight, I think. I came home and he's taking on online class upstairs in the den and when I passed by, it sme...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

I have been doing very good lately, Now today I get my phone and look at my emails and BOOM...there is one from my son. I go into panic mode. I open it and he is asking me about my new car and why I didn't send him any pics yet....I told him I would. I replied with I forgot and will as soon as I get it washed...l...

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	Selfishness and pets (Preview) I have a cat who sometimes decides to pee in places other than the litterbox. I have put up with it for over a year, and done all sorts of things vets and cat people recommended, but nothing stopped it (so please don't turn this into a thread of cat behavior tips... the situation is past that point). I am abs...	atheos	4	457	Jan 30, 2013 by atheos
	Reality Check Needed (Preview) Today i feel better while my love is away in rehab and have had such loving support from this board. (thank you) Because I feel better I find myself glossing over the reality of what happened leading him into rehab and the emotional mess I found myself left to address alone. Now, he and his counselor have...	newwoman	7	438	Jan 30, 2013 by newwoman
	A new start (Preview) I stood up for myself yesterday and am so at peace because of the growth I have found while working the Alanon steps. My AH called and said that he wanted to continue to have a relationship but put many conditions on it. First, we will get divorced. Secondly, we will never live together again. Thir...	cinders	7	328	Jan 29, 2013 by Afraidparent
	New and Overwhelmed (Preview) I never thought my life would end up here. My big plans for the year included 6 half-marathons, starting a business and possibly getting engaged. I knew my BF had a problem with alcohol. He had said he had stopped drinking. A trip to the ER a week ago crashed my world entirely. He's admitting now that he h...	wyndwhsthlr	4	399	Jan 29, 2013 by Theoceancalls
	Wednesday morning meeting - tomorrow (Preview) I won't be able to chair the Wednesday morning meeting. -- Edited by RobinKSC on Tuesday 29th of January 2013 11:35:46 AM	RobinKSC	0	103	Jan 29, 2013 by RobinKSC
	??Books and daily rdgs Resource ?? (Preview) Does anyone kniw if there are any electronic versions of c2c and or other great al anon family support books&if so from where can I download...id like an android version og c2c or similar...any suggestions...thanks	Theoceancalls	4	302	Jan 29, 2013 by Overcome
	I got the job! (Preview) Thank you thank you thank you! Thank you for all your support, and prayers, and kind words. I received a call today, and I have been offered a job with the county; a job that I know I will be great at. A job that I need, and that I am terribly excited about.	stephaniej	16	281	Jan 29, 2013 by pinkchip
	So Angry (Preview) I am so angry with my husband. I came to terms with the fact that he's a functioning alcoholic a few months ago. I've always struggled to really pin down whether or not he was an alcoholic before I found that definition online. Then it all became so clear! But this week was a whole new low. He has this pa...	NewMember	6	386	Jan 29, 2013 by Pushka
	UNCLE! (Preview) I honestly am sitting here in tears. I truly feel like the universe is trying to break me. I can't sell my house because I owe more on it than it's worth, and there are so many things wrong with it...because I trusted my exA to hire competent people to do "upgrades" -- what a joke. I have $100 to m...	rehprof	11	302	Jan 29, 2013 by Breakingfree
	Sweeping my feelings under the rug. Why? (Preview) Do I have the definitive answer to this. No. Do I have ESH and thoughts...always and I often share them (maybe too much lol). I don't think this ESH is so special or so unique but I do think it's probably generic in terms of what is to be gained through alanon and other 12 step programs too. I responded t...	pinkchip	7	348	Jan 29, 2013 by Breakingfree
	A new low (Preview) I shouldn't be suprised anymore by anything my husband says. We are separated and I've been doing a good job the past several days of avoiding communication and focusing on myself. Now he has sucked me back into his sick world and he has me angry and crying over his cruel comments. After he continued to r...	scaredandconfused	9	383	Jan 29, 2013 by Jerry F
	Email sent to all members... (Preview) Hello Everyone! You are receiving this email as a registered member on the MIP Al-Anon Message Board at http://alanon.activeboard.com. I try to truly minimize the number of emails I send out to the members each year. Usually it does not exceed 3 per year, so please take a few moments of your time to r...	John	2	409	Jan 29, 2013 by f2fmember
	winter fall but I am OK (Preview) I fell today on ice & snow. But I am a trooper; I got up & trudged on. I don't think I am hurt that bad but I think that I have prayers going out for me just in case. I am so glad that I didn't feel like crying. I laughed it off w/ my husband on the phone. Another day in the small town. I have to admit that I lov...	Hoot Nanny	2	176	Jan 29, 2013 by Annie1234
	it isn't all about me anymore (Preview) I still sometimes think it is all about me but after 27 years in the program, it is getting to be more about YOU! I have been able to get out of my world into helping others more. What a concept? I am so grateful for the years I have been on here. I have shared all kinds of emotions & experiences that I proba...	Hoot Nanny	3	233	Jan 28, 2013 by Annie1234
	Son update! (Preview) It's been of some comfort to know my sister inlaw has allowed him to use her sofa to sleep on this last two weeks, but things have been getting worse she can't afford to keep him for free and had asked him for some board money, he has complained he doesn't get fed well and she treats her cats better, I have sta...	Katy	7	293	Jan 28, 2013 by Katy
	emotional abuse and recovery: HELP! (Preview) I need your help or advise. it has now become clear to me that I have been massively emotionally abused. one thing now is to forgive myself for not having removed myself from this situation earlier. But i still think i did best with what i knew at the time. the other thing is to not obsess anymore about the p...	tortuga	10	363	Jan 28, 2013 by milkwood
	alchol poisoning risk (Preview) How to you deal with an AH who comes in so intoxicated that he starts frying something , passes out and doesn't even hear the fire alarm? Passes out with food in his mouth. Lets the dogs outside and passes out and forgets them in the freesing cold. If I didn't have to work I could stay up, but I do have to work...	tnmom	6	483	Jan 28, 2013 by maryjane
	I want to hide; a clue I need a meeting (Preview) I am angry tonight and don't want to admit it to anyone, which is why I am admitting it here. It is a clue that I want to hide out. When I want to hide, it is best to get myself to an al anon meeting asap. I am angry at 3 of my 4 adult children...all have addictions to substances. Two owe us money and 1 exposes...	PP	3	265	Jan 28, 2013 by PP
	This might be it.what now pls respond Help. Overwhelmed.done (Preview) Well. The may be the last straw. My ah of 15yrs came home having had a few....early though I was just getting 8yo to bed. It was clear he was agitated and I tried to stay low ....nothing worked. First he went off on ploitics...rage. Then it turned on me...i didnt react right so..."youre s***, and fu....	Theoceancalls	22	618	Jan 28, 2013 by newwoman
	Confused (Preview) My A is soon to be 53 years old, a smoker and recovered heroin addict from before I knew him. He's been drinking since he was a child (abstinence for years because of a prison stint) and the past three years I just found out he's been smoking crack. I thought he stopped the crack 2 years ago, but he didn't....	Fool4You	5	241	Jan 28, 2013 by Fool4You
	Am I detached or disgusted? (Preview) So lately I found myself really not paying much attention to my AH. I cannot figure out if its my way of detaching or if I just cannot stand him anymore. I really try not to be rude because I don't want to be that way, but sometimes I just cannot help but be disgusted by him.	imom	12	595	Jan 28, 2013 by Theoceancalls
	Birth of a Moniker (Preview) We were watching Lord of the Rings, Part Two, Extended Version (highly recommended to those who like LOTR) and I saw the scene that birthed my MIP Nickname. Arwen is giving Aragorn this silver jewelry thing, he tries to get her to take it back, not give it, and she tells him it is hers to give, like my heart...	likemyheart	7	257	Jan 28, 2013 by pinkchip
	Request Made to Visit Him in Rehab (Preview) The request has been made by my love (who is in rehab) and the counselor to come for an hour visit in two weeks. HELP!!!! My feelings about this are running amuck. Yes, I want to see him. But I am JUST now starting to get myself pulled somewhat together after the mess I found myself in when he left for rehab....	newwoman	6	246	Jan 27, 2013 by hopeful4ever
	Did I think this would ever happen ( No ) (Preview) Hi EveryoneIn the 3 short months I have been on MIP with all the support and encouragement I have received, I have come a long way. I have learned to detach more and more every day. What I might or might not have done in my past cant be changed, but Im learning to except it, forgive, and move on to have a bet...	Cathyinaz	5	328	Jan 27, 2013 by Pushka
	Lessons to be learned (Preview) Well, I've been in therapy for almost 3 years now. I know I'm co-dependent and working on that. I'm working on myself and self-esteem as a result of the abuse, chaos and trauma too. I am divorced and have been dating - here and there. So, I finally catch a break and meet a nice guy. I mean nice guy. Par...	abbyalana	2	220	Jan 27, 2013 by el-cee
	Heard a good message today and wanted to share (Preview) Every moment you spend upset, despaired, anguished, angry or hurt because of the behavior of anyone else in your life, is a moment in which you've given up control of your life.	Magster	4	307	Jan 27, 2013 by Jerry F
	As time goes on (Preview) Just a little note to share. When I first started alanon i was truely going to get my AH "fixed" was pretty sure they would have all the answers to fix him. When I went to my first meeting and was in total shock that they expected me, of all people, to do the same steps my sick AH had to do. I am ve...	1976love	2	253	Jan 27, 2013 by Jerry F
	My Son (Preview) My son has a drug problem. It has been going on for years and last week we had an intervention with him. He did admit he has a problem and he was willing to get help. He is now in a rehab center. I never thought I would have to go through any of this but I am sure we all thought that. I am asking for understand and h...	Dee3	4	260	Jan 27, 2013 by Courage
	Step 8 has been posted to the Step Work Board (Preview) IN ALANON WE BELIEVE LIFE IS FOR GROWTH-PHYSICAL, EMOTIONAL AND SPIRITUALSTEP 8 MADE A LIST OF ALL PERSONS WE HAVE HARMED AND BECAME willing to make amends to them allPlease join us and share your eSHhttp://stepwork.activeboard.com/t52406122/step-8-alanon/	hotrod	0	181	Jan 26, 2013 by hotrod
	Since becoming single my new love is food. (Preview) I am really struggling with my eating right now and am gaining weight. Last time I became single I lost weight and worked out a lot. Now I am in school sitting in class and studying a lot 5 classes right now 2 of which are twice a week, with 2 kids and work on the weekends I have really turned to food. I am not lo...	Breakingfree	2	286	Jan 26, 2013 by tiredtonite
	feeling sick thinking (Preview) I'm just not feeling my program tonight. My son who still hasn't moved out of course I still don't have the courage. Had a row with him completely reacted, I'm obviously resentful over what happened at the weekend and let go Of my anger, I'm still angry, he's out tonight and I feel like not letting him ba...	el-cee	1	282	Jan 26, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	Detatchment during abusiveness is hard. (Preview) I kicked my A son out of the home over 2 months ago. This past week he calls and says that he "needs money for groceries" and that he needs to see a doctor. I went and picked him up and took him to the ER and paid for his medications when he was released. He was smart mouthed and rude to me several ti...	sheristeele	10	341	Jan 26, 2013 by likemyheart
	Newly Seeking Peace (Preview) It is difficult to write about something that has affected me my entire life yet have never really spoken to anyone about. I started to write this several times, but it keeps spinning out of control. So, I will try one more time to write just enough to get my story across. It will likely be hard to follow. I...	militantsparrow	6	304	Jan 26, 2013 by militantsparrow
	Calling her out (Preview) My A is trying to quit drinking. However many times she has tried to fool me and she is clearly drunk or at least buzzed. she repeats herself a lot when is buzzed. Clear give away. Anyway should I not call her out on it ? Should I just keep to myself ? I don't want to accuse her but then again I want to know and her...	Keaghan	8	553	Jan 26, 2013 by orchidlover
	In the bedroom with the A (Preview) I know this topic has probably been started before, but I had a tough time the other night...my AH was drinking and yelling at the kids and on and on, the typical chaos on a worknight (a worknight for me at least), and I wound up putting both children to bed, usually if AH is not picking a fight with me, he hel...	Minaret	12	595	Jan 26, 2013 by orchidlover
	New here. Married 3 years and just discovered last fall that my husband is an alcoholic. (Preview) Hi there. I had known my husband for almost six years. We got married in 2009. I discovered last fall that he had a drinking problem because he got arrested for OWI and he had a blood alcohol level of .352! Of course, I couldn't find him that night and after calling numerous police stations and area hospi...	LetDownandLost	3	302	Jan 26, 2013 by orchidlover
	Police won't help! (Preview) I'm posting this because it's important for all of us as enablers to know! Once you have allowed your A friend or family member establish their "residence" with you, you can NOT force them to leave without officially evicting them. That can be a long drawn out process, it will also require y...	Mommamimi	10	331	Jan 26, 2013 by orchidlover
	Is it a Choice??? (Preview) Why am I still having such a hard time realizing that NOTHING I do is going to make a difference? Believe me, I have tried it all - drill seargent, supportive wife, nurse and in the end, separated myself from the situation but still, he tries and fails. Part of me feels so sad for him when I see how insec...	WornOutMrsFixIt	12	510	Jan 26, 2013 by orchidlover
	Quick question (Preview) My AH claims he has been told and has read a lot of research about how a small percentage of people cannot ever be helped by recovery programs ( I.e. rehab and aa). Has anyone come across this research or is this just another one of his lame excuses to avoid recovery?	imom	10	294	Jan 26, 2013 by Aloha
	How Can You Still Love an AH, ABF When... (Preview) They abuse you physically, and verbally, uses you, doesnt agree with you, hates you, takes advantage of you, manipulates you abuse your children etc. etc.? I am not sure I understand this, are people that instantly forgiving or what is it. I am sincere about this question. Please shed some light on th...	oldergal	7	335	Jan 25, 2013 by Zimmy
	New here... new to alanon. (Preview) I am new to the idea of Al-Anon. My mother has suggested that I go. My partner of the last 4 years is an alcoholic. We have had numerous arguements.. lately things have gotten physical. Today I came home from work and he was stumbling and intoxicated. This just 1 1/2 weeks after he drug me across the h...	motherof5	6	223	Jan 25, 2013 by motherof5
	Tough to figure (Preview) My wife is an A. She is going to a psycholgist now and I thought she would be getting better. However things have changed. At first she was definitely sober. Maybe the first month. Now although she appears sober, something is clearly up. It's like instead of drinking a ton she now measures and knows just...	Keaghan	1	246	Jan 25, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	Ok HP you got the reigns this time (Preview) 6 years of abuse my kids have endured may be ending with a bang. Unfortunately I have to go through the same scrutiny as well. A therapist for my middle son who lives with his great aunt called CPS. Unfortunately the manner the "data" was presented makes it sound like I knew they were going...	AStrongerMe	4	207	Jan 25, 2013 by Ebunny59
	Email Sent to daughter-22 yrs old-sinking (Preview) After hearing my daughter be drunk again this weekend and learning she was fighting with her one last friend whose been there for her since they were in the 1st grade, I decided to send this email to her. I probably shouldn't have as her replies were spewing hatred to me afterward. She threatened to wr...	Afraidparent	2	351	Jan 25, 2013 by WornOutMrsFixIt
	polluted mind? (Preview) I am sorry, my posts are so scared recently. But I just am trying hard to see through this. newest accusations of my ex, 'you have a polluted mind, with all that reading you do, false knowledge, it's not the truth about life...i feel sorry for you, i hope you realize one day, how wrong you are'....this an...	tortuga	6	283	Jan 24, 2013 by Annie1234
	OT prayer request (Preview) This is kinda off-topic but my grandmother is in her last few days on earth and our family could really use prayers and mental support. She has been ill for years, and stopped knowing us a long time ago but it is still hard, esp. for my mom and uncle. I went through much of the grieving process when she sto...	Number30	3	238	Jan 24, 2013 by Annie1234
	Stages of Co-Alcoholism (Preview) Hi I found this the other night and it was really interesting to see how my behaviour related with the alcoholics. This may interest some of you too: Stage 0: Alcoholic Characteristics: Non-drinker, No alcoholic behaviour or symptoms. Co-Alcoholic Characteristics: No co-al...	Tracey C	8	1932	Jan 24, 2013 by KennyFenderjazz
	When a friendship suddenly changes. (Preview) I've been chatting fairly regularly with a friend for quite a while. It was almost a psudo boyfriend/girlfriend kind of relationship, but I haven't been kidding myself that we're truly committed to one another. Just kind of settled him into the close friend category with the understanding that not...	Aloha	10	401	Jan 24, 2013 by Aloha
	Awesome news! (Preview) I just had to share my good news. My oldest son who graduates this year got accepted at his top pick university. I am so incredibly proud of him. Its nice to get good news. He works so hard and has maintained some awesome grades. I could not be prouder. Ok, enough parental bragging.	cinders	10	250	Jan 24, 2013 by el-cee
	Back to square one!!!! (Preview) My son, 19, has been behaving himself relatively well lately because I have asked him to leave and get his own place. Well, he has blown that tonight. He has been drinking since friday night and he storms in here drunk with a menacing look on his face. He starts ranting about a fight with someone and hes go...	el-cee	12	501	Jan 24, 2013 by el-cee
	Anger setting in. (Preview) I have realised that immediately after a crisis, any crisis, I am relieved that all is ok and I am actually quite happy and I can go on as if nothing has happened but then comes the reality and I begin to get angry. I then want to let my anger out by shouting and being dramatic but Im trying hard to work my progr...	el-cee	4	233	Jan 24, 2013 by el-cee
	Need to vent (Preview) Hi, Lost it a bit this morning. Was not in a great mood my A is still trying drinks most days, not fall down drunk but under the influence. I'm not mentioning it at all, going to my meetings trying to do the readings but I am fed up. I can't stand it when I see her under the influence with our two beautiful youn...	littlehob	7	224	Jan 24, 2013 by el-cee
	How to reply to Alcoholic's email (Preview) just feeling frstration, because I have my boundaries & have not spoken to the A since i decided to separate myself from his issues & the blame that he placed on me. now, I just received an email, semi-blaming me, and also crying out admitting he has problems & a disorder. I do not want to r...	MACTX	6	285	Jan 23, 2013 by Afraidparent
	Why do I continue to let this bother me (Preview) My husband and I have been having serious problems since he started drinking very heavily in October. He also started an affair with some trashy woman at this time. In October he first told me that he wants a divorce because "we are trapped in a loveless marriage." Throughout November and...	scaredandconfused	8	270	Jan 23, 2013 by scaredandconfused
	More positive job news... (Preview) When I applied for that totally fantastic job with the county, I gave two former mentors as references, along with the director of the daycare center my son attendes (and where I have been volunteering a lot since I was laid off). The daycare center director called me Friday night to tell me the count...	stephaniej	8	259	Jan 23, 2013 by Jackie11
	I did it (Preview) I signed the papers today and the divorce will be filed tomorrow. I told my AH and also told him that I am requesting he be removed from the house for the emotional safetynof myself and my kids. Of course he said he would need to be forcefully removed and that I was breaking up our family. He said everything...	imom	12	370	Jan 23, 2013 by WornOutMrsFixIt
	Praying for Serenity (Preview) Last night I had a bad night of worry and stress. Tomorrow night, my AH goes to the DUI Hotel for three nights. I'm anxious to see how the weekend helps him with his recovery. Today he has been sober for 37 days, and I am hopeful that he is taking the right steps. In the meantime, as hopeful as I am about al...	Annie1234	4	247	Jan 23, 2013 by Annie1234
	after a messy break-up...my feelings! (Preview) It is now 4 weeks since we had that violent clash. where I seperated myself physically and geographically during the first 2 weeks, I felt a sort of peace and calm, that i haven't felt at all lately in this relationship. I almost felt selfish and guilty, but due to th eviolence of the events, I also felt st...	tortuga	5	298	Jan 23, 2013 by Jill
	Don't know whether to confront the A tonight about drinking (Preview) I've been on here before, and as is my way, I tend only to post when in the throes of the disease. My AH who is in recovery, but hasn't been as "in" recovery lately as in the past, is drinking tonight, I think. I came home and he's taking on online class upstairs in the den and when I passed by, it sme...	Findinghope	7	260	Jan 23, 2013 by Annie1234
	What is the problem (Preview) I have been doing very good lately, Now today I get my phone and look at my emails and BOOM...there is one from my son. I go into panic mode. I open it and he is asking me about my new car and why I didn't send him any pics yet....I told him I would. I replied with I forgot and will as soon as I get it washed...l...	Cathyinaz	4	235	Jan 23, 2013 by Annie1234
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