Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's writer reminds that alcoholism is but one of the possible challenges of maintaining a marriage. The presence of alcoholism, therefore, should not be used as an excuse to give up on our efforts to control and improve on our own faults and shortcomings in the relationship. "...in sickness an...

Lyne · Lyne

When we are troubled about what lies ahead, we can look back to see where we've been. When we grow frustrated about the changes we want, we can see that we are dealing with things because we have gained awareness. Time offers evidence that alanon works--we can see the growth in our life. This gives us...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Today's reading reminds us of the feelings of disappointment that can accompany living with alcoholism. The person in the reading expresses that their excitement and hopes were often dashed by their expectations of their alcoholic. Eventually, their feelings were numbed, feelings of hopeless...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page focuses our responsibility to help others by narrowing it to spiritual advice and guidance, not suggesting specific action. In plain terms: it is not our right. Regardless of our intention, inserting our thoughts on what another should do may unleash unintended repercussions or pe...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading focuses on feeling inadequate when doing the 4th Step. The writer felt inadequate about their entire life, that they were doing it wrong, and that their best was never good enough. However Step 4 can put self-doubt in perspective, and give us a chance to find some balance. It's OK to qu...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Today's reading refers to Tradition 7 as it applies to being of service in Al-anon groups. Al-anon is self supporting and contributing financial support to Al-anon is important but in order for Al-anon and Al-anon groups to continue to thrive, members must commit to participate in service to thei...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's writer asked their Higher POwer to remove unwanted feelings during work on the 7th Step 'Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings,'. That didn't happen, as feelings aren't shortcomings! Alanon principles helped them learn to acknowledge, accept and let them go when needed. "I have ver...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading says many of us have gotten used to obsession, worry, crisis, and focusing on everyone else. It's taken an adjustment period to let go of the frequent mental chatter and find stillness and serenity instead. Sometimes we might latch onto old fears because we didn't know how to feel saf...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Hope everyone is having a great weekend and beautiful Sunday. I noticed it's been awhile since we've done a gratitude list here at MIP. I know that some of you make daily gratitude lists. It's not something I do regularly but I always feel more hopeful after considering things for which I'm grateful an...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Great page that reminds us the source of many frustration and discontentment: expectations that we are not prepared to accept with serenity if the results fall short. Reminder: I can learn to find appreciation with less than I think should be possible. Contentment comes from appreciation of the...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for today speaks of some of the benefits from working with a sponsor. It allows you to practice trusting someone again. It can teach you that you are worth saving. It can lift your spirits and help you have a positive outlook. You can be gently guided through the Steps which is an amazing...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Today's Courage to Change reading is about the topic of Anger. It uses a story of someone who describes themself as a gentle and easy going person but flies into a rage at their innocent pet dog who gets tangled in a cord in the home. The person's temper flares and they yell angry words at their pet. The dog...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page asks us to consider handling hatred or resentment as we would a thorn or splinter: quickly, without hesitation. We wouldn't intentionally let a thorn fester into infection, nor should we let resentment. The key with both is to take immediate action, don't wait. Reminder If I don't wan...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about how steps one, two and three are the beginning of meaningful change. The writer describes how the effects of being raised in an alcoholic family were completely embedded in him/her. The two traits that were especially difficult were turning to those w...

Lyne · Lyne

Today's reading focuses on unexpected benefits from alanon: living according to my needs, loving myself as a new found friend, learning about detachment, and understanding that many of my problems come from minding everyone else's business. Learning to take responsibility for my own life, an...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

If you are new to Al-Anon, welcome! We look forward to getting to know you. To those who have been around awhile, your experience, strength and hope is appreciated. There is recovery benefit from mutual sharing - reading varying perspectives on an Al-Anon topics. Grateful for MIP, our online recove...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Tradition 12 - Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all of our Traditions, ever reminding us to place principles above personalities. Today's reading focuses on a newcomer's concerns about attending Al-Anon. Wishing to stay anonymous, they worry that others in the meeting may tell those in t...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Coming from the fog of constant perceived crisis, today's page helps us apply proportion to events that depart from our expectation. Inconvenience, or major crisis?Alanon suggests the question 'how important is it' is helpful to decide if I am exaggerating or anticipating future fears, rather t...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: First I want to express gratitude for this space. When I came to this site a little over 10 years ago, I was lost. I mean LOST. What I found here was patience, grace, understanding, compassion and help. Its been a privilege to be part of the service through writings over these seve...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading reflects upon when the alcoholic finally reaches a bottom, and begins the long climb upward with AA. This begins growth for the alcoholic both in personal and spiritual maturity. The writer comments that naturally both partners in an alcoholic marriage, need a growth program. As n...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Today's reading uses the idea of housekeeping to inventory Al-Anon recovery. The reading mentions that one member through an Al-Anon personal inventory was able to tie their penchant for keeping a very tidy home to the illusion of being in control of an otherwise unmanageable life. Another Al-An...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Great guidance in today's page reminding Alanoners of the type of advice we should give: spiritual advice pointing back to program concepts and slogans. Great care should be shown not to suggest others take 'drastic' action in areas of relationships or other serious life matters, even saying "we d...

Lyne · Lyne

This author speaks about how damaging growing up with alcoholism was, and how alanon has turned things around. They learned many important things about the rights they are entitled to: -the right to speak at a meeting without interruption or advice -that anonymity would be respected -that "no" is...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a look at why we sometimes resist certain situations, avoiding for a specific reason. The writer describes being asked to sponsor for an alateen meeting. The writer resisted, feeling like he/she did not even particularly like teenagers! Once the meetin...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Topic: Changing what I can The writer finds that their preoccupation with what others do, where and why create turmoil inside them. Such thoughts lead them to consider "a new, honest self-appraisal." The reading goes on to state that the writer's first obligation is to "work out changes in my own t...

DM2021 · DM2021

I am sorry to say that I will not be doing Friday readings anymore. If anyone would like to step up and take that day it would be lovely. I find that I am stretched thin and really put much effort into that post and can no longer do it anymore.

DM2021 · DM2021

https://www.reddit.com/r/AlAnon/ https://www.reddit.com/r/AlanonFamilyGroups/ Please check them out if you are so inclined. I do not see any reason to actually start a new group, but PM each other our e-mails to keep in touch if you would like. What are your thoughts?

DM2021 · DM2021

Not sure how we're still running.Permalink Reply Quote One year later, the GoDaddy fee for this website again came out of my credit card. I am determined this will not happen again in 2024, but it will take some maneuvering, as it won't let me take my credit card out without putting a different one i...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's writer arrived at Alanon as did many: hoping to find out how to get the alcoholic to stop drinking, thinking that was the problem. They learned, as many others have also: they didn't cause alcoholism, can't control it or cure it.They kept coming back, however, because they discovered there w...

DM2021 · DM2021

Messages Iamhere and asked what her thoughts were on the issue of the possibility that we may find MIP is no longer accessible and if a Plan B would be prudent and she didn't think it was a bad idea. If you all think that maybe having a Facebook page to keep in contact with each other, to have for daily readi...

Lyne · Lyne

The author is saying that correct use of the mind leads to wisdom, and incorrect use of the mind leads to insanity. This program encourages right use of the mind and heart. We have a spiritual direction, and learn that our recovery is up to us. Our mind can either hurt us or help us--we have a choice. L...

NewRomantics · NewRomantics

I came to this board to initially post about my relationship with my girlfriend who has a drinking problem. We now live separately but we are still together. It hasn't been easy and it has been a very rocky road but I love her too much to just give up on her. And she has shown me she is trying to fight the addic...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a look at what it means to give up the illusion of control. The writer describes that the process started with understanding that there were many people who had been put on pedestals, taking the place of a higher power in his/her life. The writer began to see tha...

DM2021 · DM2021

Always look forward to when they bloom.

DM2021 · DM2021

This day's reading is talking about faith and hard work, i.e.: Sticking with the program and how after time (each person has a different time table)we begin to get the sense that the serenity and understanding we have been seeking is at hand. We each have a different method, ability andenvironment w...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Today's reading speaks about our relationships with the alcoholics in our life. It focuses on possible expectations that sobriety will eradicate all of our problems. The reading uses the marriage relationship and further explains that this is a fallacy. The reading states that despite alcoho...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

This page recalls Step 1 truth that the alcoholics sobriety is not our responsibility, but notes that it is possible that spouses can have a positive or negative influence on it. Step 1 is not a license to nag and berate as by doing so, we may take on some responsibility for postponing sobriety or contr...

Lyne · Lyne

This writer takes a look at "God as we understood Him." We have all come to alanon set in some of our ways. Those who have "God" as their HP, might feel superior to those who are still looking for their HP, or who may have a different HP than "God." HP may be different for many and we need the acceptance onc...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a look at resentments and the role they can play in our lives. The page opens with a quotation from Courage to Change: Resentments mark the places where I see myself as a victim. The writer describes how resentments drained so much energy and created bitternes...

DM2021 · DM2021

I sent a message to Iamhere to see about this issue of the avatars not appearing anymore.

DM2021 · DM2021

Today's reading is about how Al-Anon helps to show how accepting that there is a "natural order of life" courtesy of our "Higher Power" enablesone to realize that trying to control/interfere in any or all crises with individuals around us is better left to unfold naturally by "Letting Go andLetting...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

...this phrase might be heard in ALanon in response to a principle, slogan, or spiritual solution. Behind it is often a belief that our particular situation is different, not so simple. It couldn't possibly be eased, or certainly not solved by something so simple as a slogan or concept. Reminder - I...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer says that it is easy to become enmeshed with alcoholics and their self-destructive behavior. We can lose sight of the idea that we can be happy if they are depressed, and we can be serene when they are drinking. The writer hit a turning point when someone said we have to learn to make it wheth...

DM2021 · DM2021

The author of this days reading began to understand how the "guilt" they carried was such a "burden" and that when they made their amendshow it helped them to clear their "conscience" and put the past behind them.They ran into a temporary problem with making amends to those who no longer were living bu...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the issue of trust. The writer describes having grown up in an alcoholic family and as a result, not understanding the process of trust. He/she would confide intimate details almost immediately to people, then feel hurt or betrayed. Over time the wr...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about staying focused on recovery in al-anon. The writer describes having come to alanon through alateen, as a result of having an alcoholic father. The writer made friends there but when the transition to alanon took place, the writer felt empty after me...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's writer addresses the two words that are the basis of much worry, resentment and unnecessary interference when dealing with alcoholics: What if... Imagining negative results and outcomes can become an unhealthy habit that, more often than not, needlessly darkens our every horizon and re...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading says that exposure to alcoholism can make us lose perspective on who we are and what we can do. We have accepted ideas about ourselves that have no basis in reality. We may have carried a distorted self-image and not questioned our beliefs. In alanon we may discover some untruths. Sup...

DM2021 · DM2021

This day's reading made me truly smile because the author discusses how, with every conflict, they felt they had to some how,in an anxious and defensive state, prove their innocence. They were always trying to cover themselves from any blame when itcame to confrontation with the alcoholic in thei...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page highlights how Tradition #3 contributes to the unity of the program by requiring only that members have a relative or friend suffering from alcoholism, and there be no other affiliations within the group. In a world increasingly divided by a lengthening list of issues, Alanon is an in...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer talks about using stumbling blocks to step on--another words, not let them block our path. Alcoholism brings troubles that can be terrifying. Obstacles do not have to keep us from finding the good in our lives unless we allow it. Alanon invites us to change the view we have of ourselves...

DM2021 · DM2021

We got in the mail yesterday for the start of the new insurance year our HRA Debit Cards that needed to be validated with a phone call. The telephone prompts would not allow the cards to be activated after entering the numbers but on the reverse side of the letter insert it recommended to call an insuran...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I feel grief as most do when they have a loss but I am not lost. I feel some sense of relief most days. I just keep plugging away & somehow I thrive not just survive. I need the peace that this program gives as I move towards happiness. I can find happiness if I just let it happen. These days I even find myse...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the benefits of alanon approved literature, especially for those who have difficulty with in person meetings. The writer describes feeling reluctant to reach out to people at meetings; a friend saw that and shared the benefits of reading the literat...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Hello everyone- i have everyone intention of writing as usual on Sunday morning. I will be in Italy for the next 10 days so not sure when I will have access to wifi and with time differences- posting may happen at an odd time. just wanted to put that out there in case there are other creatures of habit like...

DM2021 · DM2021

Today's reading imparts the knowledge that when we pray from the heart God knows what we are going throughwith out spelling it all out. As long as we are praying from the "heart and not just with words" we will know weare on a personal spiritual path open to our HPs help and guidance. Todays reminder: ...

Lyne · Lyne

This is one of my favorite slogans. It reminds me that I don't have to be perfect, it's human to make mistakes, and yet I can look back upon my progress and feel good about that. Love this program!

DM2021 · DM2021

This Friday's reading discusses how in Al-Anon developing the ability to be honest with one self while working the programcan be key to caring for ourselves and creating a more closer and spiritual connection to our Higher Power. When we have that more open and trusting relationship with our Highe...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page revealed one members appreciation for helping her handle the difficult situations that arose when her children encountered the unpleasant interactions with their alcoholic father. Alanon helped her to be honest without poisoning them against him, avoid letting her own anger beco...

Lyne · Lyne

Many of us have come to alanon with bitterness and blame. There are better ways to handle things. Accepting that we too, need help, can relieve us from tolerating unacceptable behavior. Getting to these rooms help us change in miraculous ways. Forgiveness can simply be a change of a attitude. O...

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	9/19/23 ODAT - Alcoholism Doesn’t Remove All Marital Responsibilities (Preview) Today's writer reminds that alcoholism is but one of the possible challenges of maintaining a marriage. The presence of alcoholism, therefore, should not be used as an excuse to give up on our efforts to control and improve on our own faults and shortcomings in the relationship. "...in sickness an...	Enigmatic	1	841	Sep 19, 2023 by Lyne
	Monday, 9/18, C2C, our memory enables us to see progress (Preview) When we are troubled about what lies ahead, we can look back to see where we've been. When we grow frustrated about the changes we want, we can see that we are dealing with things because we have gained awareness. Time offers evidence that alanon works--we can see the growth in our life. This gives us...	Lyne	1	826	Sep 19, 2023 by Enigmatic
	September 14 Courage to Change - Disappointment (Preview) Today's reading reminds us of the feelings of disappointment that can accompany living with alcoholism. The person in the reading expresses that their excitement and hopes were often dashed by their expectations of their alcoholic. Eventually, their feelings were numbed, feelings of hopeless...	tiredtonite	1	838	Sep 15, 2023 by Lyne
	9/12/23 ODAT – Resist Advising Others to Action (Preview) Today's page focuses our responsibility to help others by narrowing it to spiritual advice and guidance, not suggesting specific action. In plain terms: it is not our right. Regardless of our intention, inserting our thoughts on what another should do may unleash unintended repercussions or pe...	Enigmatic	1	834	Sep 12, 2023 by Lyne
	Monday, 9/11, C2C, feeling inadequate (Preview) This reading focuses on feeling inadequate when doing the 4th Step. The writer felt inadequate about their entire life, that they were doing it wrong, and that their best was never good enough. However Step 4 can put self-doubt in perspective, and give us a chance to find some balance. It's OK to qu...	Lyne	1	872	Sep 12, 2023 by Enigmatic
	Courage to Change September 7 Alanon topic - Service (Preview) Today's reading refers to Tradition 7 as it applies to being of service in Al-anon groups. Al-anon is self supporting and contributing financial support to Al-anon is important but in order for Al-anon and Al-anon groups to continue to thrive, members must commit to participate in service to thei...	tiredtonite	1	877	Sep 7, 2023 by Lyne
	9/5/23 C2C - You Can't Always Get What You Want (Preview) Today's writer asked their Higher POwer to remove unwanted feelings during work on the 7th Step 'Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings,'. That didn't happen, as feelings aren't shortcomings! Alanon principles helped them learn to acknowledge, accept and let them go when needed. "I have ver...	Enigmatic	1	860	Sep 5, 2023 by Lyne
	Monday, 9/4, C2C, learning to trust the peace (Preview) This reading says many of us have gotten used to obsession, worry, crisis, and focusing on everyone else. It's taken an adjustment period to let go of the frequent mental chatter and find stillness and serenity instead. Sometimes we might latch onto old fears because we didn't know how to feel saf...	Lyne	1	819	Sep 4, 2023 by Gailsy
	Al-Anon Members What Are You Grateful For? (Preview) Hope everyone is having a great weekend and beautiful Sunday. I noticed it's been awhile since we've done a gratitude list here at MIP. I know that some of you make daily gratitude lists. It's not something I do regularly but I always feel more hopeful after considering things for which I'm grateful an...	tiredtonite	4	626	Aug 30, 2023 by Fedora
	8/29/23 ODAT - Great Expectations (Preview) Great page that reminds us the source of many frustration and discontentment: expectations that we are not prepared to accept with serenity if the results fall short. Reminder: I can learn to find appreciation with less than I think should be possible. Contentment comes from appreciation of the...	Enigmatic	1	688	Aug 29, 2023 by Lyne
	C2C, Monday, 8/28, gifts from a sponsor (Preview) The reading for today speaks of some of the benefits from working with a sponsor. It allows you to practice trusting someone again. It can teach you that you are worth saving. It can lift your spirits and help you have a positive outlook. You can be gently guided through the Steps which is an amazing...	Lyne	0	564	Aug 27, 2023 by Lyne
	Courage to Change August 24 Anger (Preview) Today's Courage to Change reading is about the topic of Anger. It uses a story of someone who describes themself as a gentle and easy going person but flies into a rage at their innocent pet dog who gets tangled in a cord in the home. The person's temper flares and they yell angry words at their pet. The dog...	tiredtonite	1	779	Aug 24, 2023 by Lyne
	8/22/23 ODAT – Get Rid of the Splinter (Preview) Today's page asks us to consider handling hatred or resentment as we would a thorn or splinter: quickly, without hesitation. We wouldn't intentionally let a thorn fester into infection, nor should we let resentment. The key with both is to take immediate action, don't wait. Reminder If I don't wan...	Enigmatic	1	739	Aug 23, 2023 by Lyne
	Hope for Today Aug 20 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about how steps one, two and three are the beginning of meaningful change. The writer describes how the effects of being raised in an alcoholic family were completely embedded in him/her. The two traits that were especially difficult were turning to those w...	yanksfan51	1	866	Aug 22, 2023 by Enigmatic
	C2C, Monday, August 21, Searching for the real me (Preview) Today's reading focuses on unexpected benefits from alanon: living according to my needs, loving myself as a new found friend, learning about detachment, and understanding that many of my problems come from minding everyone else's business. Learning to take responsibility for my own life, an...	Lyne	0	858	Aug 20, 2023 by Lyne
	Please Consider Sharing (Preview) If you are new to Al-Anon, welcome! We look forward to getting to know you. To those who have been around awhile, your experience, strength and hope is appreciated. There is recovery benefit from mutual sharing - reading varying perspectives on an Al-Anon topics. Grateful for MIP, our online recove...	tiredtonite	1	888	Aug 20, 2023 by Lyne
	One Day at a Time August 17 - Tradition 12 (Preview) Tradition 12 - Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all of our Traditions, ever reminding us to place principles above personalities. Today's reading focuses on a newcomer's concerns about attending Al-Anon. Wishing to stay anonymous, they worry that others in the meeting may tell those in t...	tiredtonite	1	839	Aug 17, 2023 by Lyne
	8/15/23 C2C How Important is It? Rerouting… (Preview) Coming from the fog of constant perceived crisis, today's page helps us apply proportion to events that depart from our expectation. Inconvenience, or major crisis?Alanon suggests the question 'how important is it' is helpful to decide if I am exaggerating or anticipating future fears, rather t...	Enigmatic	1	860	Aug 16, 2023 by Lyne
	Hope for Today Aug 13 (Preview) Good morning everyone: First I want to express gratitude for this space. When I came to this site a little over 10 years ago, I was lost. I mean LOST. What I found here was patience, grace, understanding, compassion and help. Its been a privilege to be part of the service through writings over these seve...	yanksfan51	3	889	Aug 15, 2023 by yanksfan51
	ODAT in Alanon, Monday, 8/14, who needs help? (Preview) This reading reflects upon when the alcoholic finally reaches a bottom, and begins the long climb upward with AA. This begins growth for the alcoholic both in personal and spiritual maturity. The writer comments that naturally both partners in an alcoholic marriage, need a growth program. As n...	Lyne	1	857	Aug 15, 2023 by Enigmatic
	Courage to Change August 10 Topic: Isolation (Preview) Today's reading uses the idea of housekeeping to inventory Al-Anon recovery. The reading mentions that one member through an Al-Anon personal inventory was able to tie their penchant for keeping a very tidy home to the illusion of being in control of an otherwise unmanageable life. Another Al-An...	tiredtonite	1	894	Aug 10, 2023 by Lyne
	8/8/23 ODAT - Advice we ‘Must Not’ Give (Preview) Great guidance in today's page reminding Alanoners of the type of advice we should give: spiritual advice pointing back to program concepts and slogans. Great care should be shown not to suggest others take 'drastic' action in areas of relationships or other serious life matters, even saying "we d...	Enigmatic	1	871	Aug 8, 2023 by Lyne
	Monday, 8/7, Hope for Today, my rights as a person (Preview) This author speaks about how damaging growing up with alcoholism was, and how alanon has turned things around. They learned many important things about the rights they are entitled to: -the right to speak at a meeting without interruption or advice -that anonymity would be respected -that "no" is...	Lyne	0	865	Aug 6, 2023 by Lyne
	Hope for Today Aug 6 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a look at why we sometimes resist certain situations, avoiding for a specific reason. The writer describes being asked to sponsor for an alateen meeting. The writer resisted, feeling like he/she did not even particularly like teenagers! Once the meetin...	yanksfan51	1	857	Aug 6, 2023 by Lyne
	One Day at a Time Thursday, August 3, 2023 (Preview) Topic: Changing what I can The writer finds that their preoccupation with what others do, where and why create turmoil inside them. Such thoughts lead them to consider "a new, honest self-appraisal." The reading goes on to state that the writer's first obligation is to "work out changes in my own t...	tiredtonite	1	850	Aug 4, 2023 by Lyne
	Friday's Readings (Preview) I am sorry to say that I will not be doing Friday readings anymore. If anyone would like to step up and take that day it would be lovely. I find that I am stretched thin and really put much effort into that post and can no longer do it anymore.	DM2021	2	865	Aug 2, 2023 by Lyne
	There are some lovely Al-Anon Groups on Reddit Already (Preview) https://www.reddit.com/r/AlAnon/ https://www.reddit.com/r/AlanonFamilyGroups/ Please check them out if you are so inclined. I do not see any reason to actually start a new group, but PM each other our e-mails to keep in touch if you would like. What are your thoughts?	DM2021	1	865	Aug 2, 2023 by Lyne
	Last know post from Administrator of MIP on ACOA Board (Preview) Not sure how we're still running.Permalink Reply Quote One year later, the GoDaddy fee for this website again came out of my credit card. I am determined this will not happen again in 2024, but it will take some maneuvering, as it won't let me take my credit card out without putting a different one i...	DM2021	0	935	Aug 1, 2023 by DM2021
	8/1/23 C2C They Are Not the Problem… (Preview) Today's writer arrived at Alanon as did many: hoping to find out how to get the alcoholic to stop drinking, thinking that was the problem. They learned, as many others have also: they didn't cause alcoholism, can't control it or cure it.They kept coming back, however, because they discovered there w...	Enigmatic	2	850	Aug 1, 2023 by DM2021
	Wanted to know if everyone would like a Plan B for MIP (Preview) Messages Iamhere and asked what her thoughts were on the issue of the possibility that we may find MIP is no longer accessible and if a Plan B would be prudent and she didn't think it was a bad idea. If you all think that maybe having a Facebook page to keep in contact with each other, to have for daily readi...	DM2021	10	489	Aug 1, 2023 by DM2021
	Hope for Today, Monday, 7/31, wisdom vs insanity (Preview) The author is saying that correct use of the mind leads to wisdom, and incorrect use of the mind leads to insanity. This program encourages right use of the mind and heart. We have a spiritual direction, and learn that our recovery is up to us. Our mind can either hurt us or help us--we have a choice. L...	Lyne	1	469	Jul 31, 2023 by DM2021
	I enabled her and feel terrible about it (Preview) I came to this board to initially post about my relationship with my girlfriend who has a drinking problem. We now live separately but we are still together. It hasn't been easy and it has been a very rocky road but I love her too much to just give up on her. And she has shown me she is trying to fight the addic...	NewRomantics	7	730	Jul 30, 2023 by DM2021
	July 30 Hope for Today (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a look at what it means to give up the illusion of control. The writer describes that the process started with understanding that there were many people who had been put on pedestals, taking the place of a higher power in his/her life. The writer began to see tha...	yanksfan51	1	335	Jul 30, 2023 by DM2021
	Stargazers are blooming!! (Preview) Always look forward to when they bloom.	DM2021	2	621	Jul 29, 2023 by Lyne
	C2C for Friday, July 28, 2023 – Faith and Perseverance (Preview) This day's reading is talking about faith and hard work, i.e.: Sticking with the program and how after time (each person has a different time table)we begin to get the sense that the serenity and understanding we have been seeking is at hand. We each have a different method, ability andenvironment w...	DM2021	2	601	Jul 28, 2023 by DM2021
	ODAAT 7/27 Al-Anon: As a Way of Life (Preview) Today's reading speaks about our relationships with the alcoholics in our life. It focuses on possible expectations that sobriety will eradicate all of our problems. The reading uses the marriage relationship and further explains that this is a fallacy. The reading states that despite alcoho...	tiredtonite	2	648	Jul 27, 2023 by DM2021
	7/25/23 ODAT – Powerless, but Not Without Impact (Preview) This page recalls Step 1 truth that the alcoholics sobriety is not our responsibility, but notes that it is possible that spouses can have a positive or negative influence on it. Step 1 is not a license to nag and berate as by doing so, we may take on some responsibility for postponing sobriety or contr...	Enigmatic	2	640	Jul 26, 2023 by DM2021
	Hope for Today, Monday, 7/24, sometimes less is more (Preview) This writer takes a look at "God as we understood Him." We have all come to alanon set in some of our ways. Those who have "God" as their HP, might feel superior to those who are still looking for their HP, or who may have a different HP than "God." HP may be different for many and we need the acceptance onc...	Lyne	2	805	Jul 26, 2023 by DM2021
	Hope for Today July 23 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a look at resentments and the role they can play in our lives. The page opens with a quotation from Courage to Change: Resentments mark the places where I see myself as a victim. The writer describes how resentments drained so much energy and created bitternes...	yanksfan51	1	801	Jul 23, 2023 by DM2021
	Avatars not appearing (Preview) I sent a message to Iamhere to see about this issue of the avatars not appearing anymore.	DM2021	2	817	Jul 22, 2023 by DM2021
	C2C for Friday, July 21, 2023 – The Natural Order of Life (Preview) Today's reading is about how Al-Anon helps to show how accepting that there is a "natural order of life" courtesy of our "Higher Power" enablesone to realize that trying to control/interfere in any or all crises with individuals around us is better left to unfold naturally by "Letting Go andLetting...	DM2021	3	808	Jul 22, 2023 by Lyne
	7/18/23 ODAT – ‘Yes, but… (Preview) ...this phrase might be heard in ALanon in response to a principle, slogan, or spiritual solution. Behind it is often a belief that our particular situation is different, not so simple. It couldn't possibly be eased, or certainly not solved by something so simple as a slogan or concept. Reminder - I...	Enigmatic	1	780	Jul 18, 2023 by DM2021
	C2C, Monday, 7/17, Do I have my own life and my own destiny? (Preview) The writer says that it is easy to become enmeshed with alcoholics and their self-destructive behavior. We can lose sight of the idea that we can be happy if they are depressed, and we can be serene when they are drinking. The writer hit a turning point when someone said we have to learn to make it wheth...	Lyne	2	830	Jul 18, 2023 by Lyne
	C2C for Friday, July 14, 2023 – Guilt and Amends (Preview) The author of this days reading began to understand how the "guilt" they carried was such a "burden" and that when they made their amendshow it helped them to clear their "conscience" and put the past behind them.They ran into a temporary problem with making amends to those who no longer were living bu...	DM2021	4	849	Jul 16, 2023 by DM2021
	Hope for Today July 16 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the issue of trust. The writer describes having grown up in an alcoholic family and as a result, not understanding the process of trust. He/she would confide intimate details almost immediately to people, then feel hurt or betrayed. Over time the wr...	yanksfan51	0	799	Jul 16, 2023 by yanksfan51
	Hope for Today July 9 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about staying focused on recovery in al-anon. The writer describes having come to alanon through alateen, as a result of having an alcoholic father. The writer made friends there but when the transition to alanon took place, the writer felt empty after me...	yanksfan51	2	779	Jul 16, 2023 by yanksfan51
	7/11/23 C2C What If…? (Preview) Today's writer addresses the two words that are the basis of much worry, resentment and unnecessary interference when dealing with alcoholics: What if... Imagining negative results and outcomes can become an unhealthy habit that, more often than not, needlessly darkens our every horizon and re...	Enigmatic	3	837	Jul 13, 2023 by JR71
	C2C, Monday, 7/10, obsolete ideas (Preview) This reading says that exposure to alcoholism can make us lose perspective on who we are and what we can do. We have accepted ideas about ourselves that have no basis in reality. We may have carried a distorted self-image and not questioned our beliefs. In alanon we may discover some untruths. Sup...	Lyne	1	783	Jul 9, 2023 by DM2021
	C2C for Friday, July 07, 2023 – Who is to blame any way?? (Preview) This day's reading made me truly smile because the author discusses how, with every conflict, they felt they had to some how,in an anxious and defensive state, prove their innocence. They were always trying to cover themselves from any blame when itcame to confrontation with the alcoholic in thei...	DM2021	3	389	Jul 7, 2023 by DM2021
	7/4/23 C2C No Other Affiliations, Just One Requirement (Preview) Today's page highlights how Tradition #3 contributes to the unity of the program by requiring only that members have a relative or friend suffering from alcoholism, and there be no other affiliations within the group. In a world increasingly divided by a lengthening list of issues, Alanon is an in...	Enigmatic	2	830	Jul 4, 2023 by DM2021
	ODAT in Alanon, Monday, 7/3, stumbling blocks vs stepping stones (Preview) The writer talks about using stumbling blocks to step on--another words, not let them block our path. Alcoholism brings troubles that can be terrifying. Obstacles do not have to keep us from finding the good in our lives unless we allow it. Alanon invites us to change the view we have of ourselves...	Lyne	2	811	Jul 4, 2023 by Enigmatic
	New Chaos Episode Yesterday - Just need to talk (Preview) We got in the mail yesterday for the start of the new insurance year our HRA Debit Cards that needed to be validated with a phone call. The telephone prompts would not allow the cards to be activated after entering the numbers but on the reverse side of the letter insert it recommended to call an insuran...	DM2021	2	812	Jul 2, 2023 by DM2021
	grief but not lost (Preview) I feel grief as most do when they have a loss but I am not lost. I feel some sense of relief most days. I just keep plugging away & somehow I thrive not just survive. I need the peace that this program gives as I move towards happiness. I can find happiness if I just let it happen. These days I even find myse...	Hoot Nanny	4	664	Jul 2, 2023 by Lyne
	Hope for Today July 2 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the benefits of alanon approved literature, especially for those who have difficulty with in person meetings. The writer describes feeling reluctant to reach out to people at meetings; a friend saw that and shared the benefits of reading the literat...	yanksfan51	1	410	Jul 2, 2023 by DM2021
	Hope for Today July 2 and 9 (Preview) Hello everyone- i have everyone intention of writing as usual on Sunday morning. I will be in Italy for the next 10 days so not sure when I will have access to wifi and with time differences- posting may happen at an odd time. just wanted to put that out there in case there are other creatures of habit like...	yanksfan51	2	427	Jul 1, 2023 by DM2021
	C2C for Friday, June 30, 2023 – The Meaning of Prayer (Preview) Today's reading imparts the knowledge that when we pray from the heart God knows what we are going throughwith out spelling it all out. As long as we are praying from the "heart and not just with words" we will know weare on a personal spiritual path open to our HPs help and guidance. Todays reminder: ...	DM2021	4	477	Jul 1, 2023 by DM2021
	Progress not perfection. (Preview) This is one of my favorite slogans. It reminds me that I don't have to be perfect, it's human to make mistakes, and yet I can look back upon my progress and feel good about that. Love this program!	Lyne	2	743	Jul 1, 2023 by Enigmatic
	C2C for Friday, June 23, 2023 – The Courage of Honesty (Preview) This Friday's reading discusses how in Al-Anon developing the ability to be honest with one self while working the programcan be key to caring for ourselves and creating a more closer and spiritual connection to our Higher Power. When we have that more open and trusting relationship with our Highe...	DM2021	6	421	Jun 28, 2023 by DM2021
	6/27/23 ODAT – Attitude, Respect Lead the Way (Preview) Today's page revealed one members appreciation for helping her handle the difficult situations that arose when her children encountered the unpleasant interactions with their alcoholic father. Alanon helped her to be honest without poisoning them against him, avoid letting her own anger beco...	Enigmatic	3	653	Jun 28, 2023 by SunnyFrog
	C2C, Monday, 6/26, bitterness vs. forgiveness (Preview) Many of us have come to alanon with bitterness and blame. There are better ways to handle things. Accepting that we too, need help, can relieve us from tolerating unacceptable behavior. Getting to these rooms help us change in miraculous ways. Forgiveness can simply be a change of a attitude. O...	Lyne	2	652	Jun 26, 2023 by DM2021
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