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Jerry F · Jerry F

My wife's first leg flight back to her family showed up 2 hours late so after I dropped her at the airport with fond wishes for a safe flight and happiness that she would be at the 1st birthday party for our youngest grand child, a girl, Olivia...I get a call that she called she had missed her flight. She...

ToocaringNY · ToocaringNY

I am in the non-drinker category. Never have been a drinker and I am a 46 year old female. My question is this: Why does it seem drinkers are so much happier than me? Is it true that they are or is just an illusion? There is more to this and I will share as a responses come in. Thank you.

Gaby · Gaby

We got there right at 1 pm. I seen my son pulling up behind us in a white truck with a huge smile. I smiled back, his little sister ran up and hugged him and then he can up and hugged me and his step dad. He introduced us to others and their families. He said let's go to our church which is in the same area as where h...

RoseODAT · RoseODAT

So, currently I'm living with my parents, helping them with errands (they cannot drive and people drive a lot where I live), left my job to focus on my children's mental and physical health, my niece ....moved in with us (she is almost 8 months pregnant and husband works in the oil fields.....her firs...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Just got off the email tool sending the airlines a request for repayment of $60.00 which are additional cost for rescheduling her trip. My wife is somewhat over the deep blue's of missing Olivia's first birthday celebration and is back at work until next Friday when we try this over again. She has d...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

These flowers bloom for just one day and when the evening comes, they close and drop. But for that one day I can enjoy the beauty.

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Hi everyone! Attitude of gratitude today! I am so blessed! How bout you? Kathleen

DebLisa55 · DebLisa55

I wanted to vent so here I am again. I had been keeping a journal online but decided to delete it. Every time I re-read it, I got upset. My husband was let go from his job a month ago and is having a hard time finding another one. So what do you think happens - yep Heineken and Corona have moved back in. Some...

newgirl17 · newgirl17

I made it to my morning meeting :) my husband didn't come home last night. He got here at 6 in the morning. I didn't bother to greet him or ask him questions (he is going to lie about it anyway) I just turned over and fell asleep. At 7 I woke up and went for a morning walk then came home and made breakfast ate and w...

peacewillcome · peacewillcome

My AH returned from a 30 day in treatment program 3 weeks ago. Since then he has not been drinking but continues to go to bars on an almost nightly basis and drink NA beers. Tonight he is at a bar with some of our friends and I decided not to go because I thought it is enabling and unsupportive of his sobriet...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

I feel like this week has been a turning point for me. Maybe I am really learning how to "let go and let God". I feel like I have some clarity about my role in this dysfunctional marriage, and I can see how much my actions and reactions have served to perpetuate this d**m merry go round of the dise...

likemyheart · likemyheart

My daughter is good at analogies. We were garage sale-ing the other day and as usual talking about anything and everything, usually at least some conversation turns towards the recent past with the ex-A. She said, its like having an open bottle of poison in a lake, you remove the bottle of poison (the A...

Age of Al-Anon members · slogan_jim

Hi Everyone, My name is Slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. This weekend I attended my local regional conference. Unfortunately due to finances, our area will not be having a conference next year :(. That's ok though. One day at a time. After speaking with a friend on the committee, this y...

Ms co-dependent · Ms co-dependent

So back in my pissy pot . Just need to rant ,I'm frustrasted . My 30 day trial seperation from ah husband went sour to me he only gave me 2 full days of peace other wise he was here everyday to drop off Tupperware or check the mail and asked to sleep over so he will( baby sit) our children for me to get to a meeting...

Clou · Clou

My AH of 32 years, who I am separated from for the last 6 months, is heaping loads of guilt on me for his situation. He lives in what he describes as a "crappy" apartment and feels an "outcast" because I filed for divorce and got a court order for him to move out. Our 19 year old daugh...

hope4ever · hope4ever

My husband Jim has an office and we got a new secretary about 2 months ago. Yesterday was the first time I have worked with her. I just answer phones and do very light work since I am more of the receptionist. So yesterday my husband was gone and she first commented on how beautiful and sweet I was, then she w...

Gaby · Gaby

So tomorrow myself my husband and my daughter will be visiting my son in rehab for the first time since he has been in may 9.13.. Please advise on what to say or not to say.. But let me tell you I still carry the hurt and anger and pain that was caused when he was home and its something that I'm working on to try t...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I have a miracle to share--I am sorry for those of you who don't believe in miracles. Anyhow, I am sitting here today w/ a pair of new eyes & I believe that is a miracle! I had the RLE surgery June 4th & June 17th. I have nothing but good feelings about it. Yes, it was scary & yes, I did have some res...

pinkchip · pinkchip

I have an offer to work part time and run sessions at an IOP (intensive out patient). I am leaning towards doing it because it will be a good career experience and I've been talking about wanting to break away from kids and more into adult substance abuse treatment for a long time. Been musing though cuz...

Bettina · Bettina

Even After All This Time The Sun Never Says To The Earth " You Owe Me". Look What Happens With a Love Like That...It Lights Up the Whole Sky.!!! 14 century Sufi Hafiz

newgirl17 · newgirl17

It has been a rough few days. My husband just ignores me. I try to talk to him but he just ignores me He acts as if I'm not even in the room. He is the one who cheated for 2 yrs and I get the silent treatment. I feel so sad and alone. I kept busy by cleaning and washing all day but I feel so alone. I texted a few friends...

Pushka · Pushka

Tonight I'm very fed up with this whole disease of alcoholism and how it affects the whole family. Anyway, it's all overwhelming and I just needed to say that right now, this is where I'm at. Hugs P :)

newgirl17 · newgirl17

The past few days my husband has ignored me. I have carried on with my own business. I have not texted him or called looking for him. Tonight at bedtime he said he needed to talk. He said that he felt we needed a break. That he was ignoring me so I could get used to being alone. He said that he loved me but that he...

Bettina · Bettina

" If your HP shuts a door, stop banging on it. Trust that whatever is behind it , is not meant for you."

newgirl17 · newgirl17

I was supposed to go to a meeting tonight but my ride fell through but I am going to go to one in the morning. My husband has been loving yesterday and today but this afternoon he got his check and it was a very low check (he works on commission). My check wasn't that much either (i only worked 6hrs). He was ver...

Clou · Clou

Today is my 32nd wedding anniversary. My AH and I are separated since January and I have filed for divorce. The last 10 years have been a series of rehabs, periods of sobriety, and relapses. I finally woke up one day and realized that if I did not take the step to leave my husband, I could end up in ano...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi Everyone, my name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. In my spare time I play rec co-ed Ball Hockey and tonight we saw a prime example of a bully doing his thing. I wear glasses and can't wear contact lenses because I have a scar in my eye that doesn't allow it. During the game tonight...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Hi all At the beginning of the week I talked about the movie " Life of Pi " and how I couldn't stop crying and really didn't know why. Now I have learned more about me. I'm still lost and crying once in a while but I think I know what is causing it. For 3 long years I have been caught up in my son's a...

Gaby · Gaby

Today I met some one that opened up to me in just minutes and told me he is an active A and he left his program because he feels he can do this on his own.. I looked at him and said if you know you can then why so many relapses. He cried.. My heart went out to him. I couldn't say anything because at that moment I thou...

PattyS · PattyS

I am so mad right now and I am finding myself berating via text message my 21 year old son in recovery so I decided I needed to go to another place to vent my anger and get some feedback on the situation. My 21 year old is almost 16 months in recovery. We are so proud of the accomplishments he has made. Howev...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Hi Everyone: It's been a few weeks since my AH has been staying in his apt; this past weekend our kids spent the night there so they could be there on Father's Day morning, and that seemed to go pretty well. The kids were excited to stay somewhere new (I think it felt sort of like a hotel adventure to them),...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

I posted recently about going away for work, and being worried if AH would drink during my absence. So, the trip went well for me, but not surprisingly, he did what As do, and is back drinking. So today I tried to communicate my boundaries to him. I told him I needed to know if he was taking this recovery ser...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

Gods grace when we seek it always brings Truth. when I'm judging another person's defects, there are ALWAYS 2 things I don't understand. first, there is always one more fact about that person's life that if I knew it I would have nothing but compassion for them. This goes for my own sick father. God has c...

RoseODAT · RoseODAT

I try my best to only bear "good news" to people. I like to keep a positive upbeat attitude despite it all. Recently I had wrote about one of my best friends from high school which I lost touch with. We are both creative people and upon or reuniting we decided we wanted to create an independent f...

sadsusie · sadsusie

So, I had a busy day. I went to my first church service (a healing service) and had my first communion in over a decade. I went to my very first counseling session. I packed my suitcase and "left" my husband. And then headed to my first alanon meeting. I have been living in crazytown for so lon...

Path to Serenity · Path to Serenity

There was a ''domestic situation'' at daughter's house a couple days ago - new drunken BF went balistic, loaded a shotgun while ranting & raving. Daughter calls me, I tell her to lock herself in bathroom and call 911 -- she's drunk too!! She didn't want to call 911 so I did - was on two phones at onc...

linnylou · linnylou

Hi, I am having a hard time having a relationship with my older sister. I've managed for the past few years by living thousands of miles away, but currently we're both living in our hometown and helping my father at his office. She has been sober for a few months and I find myself becoming increasingly r...

nelson619 · nelson619

I'm fairly new to this but long story short, my girlfriend is an alchoholic. She goes on crazy benders (a lot more infrequently than she used to thank god) but nonetheless it happens. My question is what is the best way to deal with the hangover? When she finally comes out of it and is feeling like microwa...

lgnutah · lgnutah

I am so impressed with all the great slogans that I hear people use here on the board and in chat. Is there a link to a place where they are all listed (hopefully with explanations of what each means and how I can use it). I cannot tell everyone how much just repeating the 3 Cs (I didn't cause it, I can't cure i...

Minaret · Minaret

Hi, I haven't been on here in a while. Last time I posted, I was going through the slow agony of grieving the loss of my marriage...at the time, we were still living under the same roof. AH was still drinking. He had been having an affair and I knew it, I was just in denial, sorting through my fee...

Jerry F · Jerry F

God will do for me what I cannot and often time will not do for myself. Dinner last evening was an expectation. Not a biggie...promises were made along with plans and though I wasn't looking forward to something I would have no control over unless it was me alone it turned out to be another exclamati...

Jerry F · Jerry F

And my eldest son will be in attendance along with my program and without unnecessary mention our Higher Power. His house is out of order...a shambles...looking like an old cabin long forgotten in the deep woods; abandoned. He has lived the metaphor of a life forgotten, undone, trashed and I wil...

sadsusie · sadsusie

My life (our life) has continued to be stressful. MY AH is continuing his path of personal destruction, and unfortunately I allowed myself to be consumed by the rubble. I have destroyed my laptop, my bedroom door, and my morale. I suppose all these years of feeling and being controlled makes me all the...

John · John

I said the Serenity Prayer a few times today and I'm okay. I was informed that I did not qualify for sliding scale medical assistance from a community clinic, to simply get a physical and some basic blood work done. I'm down to 121 lbs, from 142 just over a year ago. Do not have a clue as to why I'm losing t...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

So today I continued keeping the focus on me. When I woke up this morning, no kidding, but there was a tune vrunning through my head

laurab · laurab

I've been off the boards for 3 months since we came home from Thailand with my son. He had a 3 week beer binge, in Phuket. No food. He wound up in the ICU He was a mess. I went there and brought him home. We went right to the local ER where they scanned and MRIed his head and found he was ok. He looked and spoke like...

Ms co-dependent · Ms co-dependent

Back in my Unsure mode. Ah sober 7 which I will stop referring to . ah . Has been out of my home for 30 days but not completely he would find a way to come back home for something . I had a long talk with him the other day positive ! I opened up and told him my inventory hmmmm was that a smart move on my half at the time...

nelson619 · nelson619

My girlfriend owns a bar and I am the head bartender at it too. Great job for an alchoholic I know! Sometimes she falls out with her business partner, goes on a bender and nearly closes the doors for good. We work predominantly all our shifts together and when a bender is finished and she is pissed off with...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

I was asked to watch the movie " Life of Pi " and how I can relate to the Tiger. I watched it this morning and I'm having a hard time with it. Don't know why but I can't seem to quit crying....Why? Is it because I need to live with life on Life's terms, that I can't control and that I have to let go? I...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

It was hard, but today I kept the focus on me. He is doing what he does, but I am determined to find good in this day.

Harriet Zilber · Harriet Zilber

I have gone to several beginners meetings and found be wonderful wonderful, but regular meetings are troubling to me. Hearing the individual experiences and the pain that accompanies feels like a extension of my work day. Although I get a great deal from the teachings, it is not enough to overcome th...

Gaby · Gaby

I got a phone call from my son that is currently in rehab on Saturday and I was scared to talk to him because I felt I was going to have a complete break down after not been able to talk to him in 35 days. But he sounds great and after so long he also shared that he quit smoking. I believe in my heart he wants sobrie...

Bettina · Bettina

Suggestions when your not feeling your best: Open your life by finding ways to help others Expand the activities in your life. Be a positive influence wherever you go. Don't be a whiner. Don't dwell in the past. Look for solutions. Pray to expand your life force. Be convinced that everything is for...

el-cee · el-cee

I would like to share with you where I am right now. My son is still homeless, he has not sorted anything out in terms of housing because he has court, that has been ongoing since January, so he thinks it would be useless to get accomodation if there is a chance he will go to prison. I have not heard from him fo...

Jen61 · Jen61

I can see the affects almost immediately, I can smell it and taste it, but no I am not drinking. You must be mistaken. It is only water. Wow.

grateful2be · grateful2be

I went to work today. I went through the front door of the large historic building that I work in and parked my car on the side of the building close to the front steps. I do that because we have a circular drive in an inner-city neighborhood and it helps to cut down on folks using my drive to sell drugs. So...

giraffe13 · giraffe13

Going through the detachment process and really experiencing what it means is more complicated than I had anticipated. 1. My moods are just not the same for an elongated period of days or weeks. It is changing every day in terms of if I am happy and want to be around people, or sad. 2. And the types of actua...

Lyne · Lyne

My A went to pick up dinner 10 min from our house and was gone an hour and 15. And of course it's a place that has a bar and she has sat alone there drinking. The bad news is that I asked her if she was drinking and of course she denied it. The good news is that I stayed calm, there was no drama, and I don't believ...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

Something that Pinkchip shared with me recently has recently stuck with me: the statement in the subject: crazy is as crazy does. I don't know how many of you do this but I find myself still analyzing all of my AH's actions. It's infuriating that I waste my mental energy trying to figure out the actions...

Pushka · Pushka

It has been a peaceful day today the first one since last Friday evening and I am VERY grateful at this point. It's pretty sad when I realized that OMGosh .. today is the first day I haven't seen a deputy, been to the court house, gotten any texts OR had to deal with my atty. That's pretty huge. Instead of...

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	Daaang!! (Preview) My wife's first leg flight back to her family showed up 2 hours late so after I dropped her at the airport with fond wishes for a safe flight and happiness that she would be at the 1st birthday party for our youngest grand child, a girl, Olivia...I get a call that she called she had missed her flight. She...	Jerry F	8	274	Jun 25, 2013 by Mandy123
	Happiness within the drinkers group of friends vs. non drinkers. Who is truly happier? (Preview) I am in the non-drinker category. Never have been a drinker and I am a 46 year old female. My question is this: Why does it seem drinkers are so much happier than me? Is it true that they are or is just an illusion? There is more to this and I will share as a responses come in. Thank you.	ToocaringNY	15	760	Jun 24, 2013 by grateful2be
	Update in the visit with my son in rehab.. (Preview) We got there right at 1 pm. I seen my son pulling up behind us in a white truck with a huge smile. I smiled back, his little sister ran up and hugged him and then he can up and hugged me and his step dad. He introduced us to others and their families. He said let's go to our church which is in the same area as where h...	Gaby	13	283	Jun 24, 2013 by Gaby
	Needing space to breathe (Preview) So, currently I'm living with my parents, helping them with errands (they cannot drive and people drive a lot where I live), left my job to focus on my children's mental and physical health, my niece ....moved in with us (she is almost 8 months pregnant and husband works in the oil fields.....her firs...	RoseODAT	6	268	Jun 24, 2013 by RoseODAT
	Daaang the second... (Preview) Just got off the email tool sending the airlines a request for repayment of $60.00 which are additional cost for rescheduling her trip. My wife is somewhat over the deep blue's of missing Olivia's first birthday celebration and is back at work until next Friday when we try this over again. She has d...	Jerry F	9	355	Jun 24, 2013 by Jozie
	Flowers (Preview) These flowers bloom for just one day and when the evening comes, they close and drop. But for that one day I can enjoy the beauty.	Cathyinaz	13	559	Jun 24, 2013 by Path to Serenity
	not much to post--just gratitude! (Preview) Hi everyone! Attitude of gratitude today! I am so blessed! How bout you? Kathleen	Hoot Nanny	5	242	Jun 24, 2013 by 1911A1
	Overwhelmed (Preview) I wanted to vent so here I am again. I had been keeping a journal online but decided to delete it. Every time I re-read it, I got upset. My husband was let go from his job a month ago and is having a hard time finding another one. So what do you think happens - yep Heineken and Corona have moved back in. Some...	DebLisa55	8	268	Jun 24, 2013 by el-cee
	made it to a meeting :) (Preview) I made it to my morning meeting :) my husband didn't come home last night. He got here at 6 in the morning. I didn't bother to greet him or ask him questions (he is going to lie about it anyway) I just turned over and fell asleep. At 7 I woke up and went for a morning walk then came home and made breakfast ate and w...	newgirl17	8	300	Jun 24, 2013 by el-cee
	Enabling (Preview) My AH returned from a 30 day in treatment program 3 weeks ago. Since then he has not been drinking but continues to go to bars on an almost nightly basis and drink NA beers. Tonight he is at a bar with some of our friends and I decided not to go because I thought it is enabling and unsupportive of his sobriet...	peacewillcome	10	518	Jun 24, 2013 by Pushka
	A Good Week (Preview) I feel like this week has been a turning point for me. Maybe I am really learning how to "let go and let God". I feel like I have some clarity about my role in this dysfunctional marriage, and I can see how much my actions and reactions have served to perpetuate this d**m merry go round of the dise...	ParisMemories	7	362	Jun 24, 2013 by tiredtonite
	The Lake is Still Poisoned (Preview) My daughter is good at analogies. We were garage sale-ing the other day and as usual talking about anything and everything, usually at least some conversation turns towards the recent past with the ex-A. She said, its like having an open bottle of poison in a lake, you remove the bottle of poison (the A...	likemyheart	3	329	Jun 23, 2013 by el-cee
	Age of Al-Anon members (Preview) Hi Everyone, My name is Slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. This weekend I attended my local regional conference. Unfortunately due to finances, our area will not be having a conference next year :(. That's ok though. One day at a time. After speaking with a friend on the committee, this y...	slogan_jim	2	511	Jun 23, 2013 by hotrod
	Lack of meetings set back (Preview) So back in my pissy pot . Just need to rant ,I'm frustrasted . My 30 day trial seperation from ah husband went sour to me he only gave me 2 full days of peace other wise he was here everyday to drop off Tupperware or check the mail and asked to sleep over so he will( baby sit) our children for me to get to a meeting...	Ms co-dependent	2	184	Jun 23, 2013 by Breakingfree
	Positive steps (Preview) My AH of 32 years, who I am separated from for the last 6 months, is heaping loads of guilt on me for his situation. He lives in what he describes as a "crappy" apartment and feels an "outcast" because I filed for divorce and got a court order for him to move out. Our 19 year old daugh...	Clou	4	290	Jun 23, 2013 by canadianguy
	How to use the program in this situation? ES & H? (Preview) My husband Jim has an office and we got a new secretary about 2 months ago. Yesterday was the first time I have worked with her. I just answer phones and do very light work since I am more of the receptionist. So yesterday my husband was gone and she first commented on how beautiful and sweet I was, then she w...	hope4ever	11	530	Jun 23, 2013 by Breakingfree
	Visiting my son in rehab for the first time. (Preview) So tomorrow myself my husband and my daughter will be visiting my son in rehab for the first time since he has been in may 9.13.. Please advise on what to say or not to say.. But let me tell you I still carry the hurt and anger and pain that was caused when he was home and its something that I'm working on to try t...	Gaby	9	1095	Jun 23, 2013 by Breakingfree
	let the miracles keep coming! (Preview) I have a miracle to share--I am sorry for those of you who don't believe in miracles. Anyhow, I am sitting here today w/ a pair of new eyes & I believe that is a miracle! I had the RLE surgery June 4th & June 17th. I have nothing but good feelings about it. Yes, it was scary & yes, I did have some res...	Hoot Nanny	5	230	Jun 23, 2013 by Peggy7
	IOP - new opportunity (Preview) I have an offer to work part time and run sessions at an IOP (intensive out patient). I am leaning towards doing it because it will be a good career experience and I've been talking about wanting to break away from kids and more into adult substance abuse treatment for a long time. Been musing though cuz...	pinkchip	10	416	Jun 23, 2013 by Breakingfree
	Expansion of Love... (Preview) Even After All This Time The Sun Never Says To The Earth " You Owe Me". Look What Happens With a Love Like That...It Lights Up the Whole Sky.!!! 14 century Sufi Hafiz	Bettina	6	286	Jun 22, 2013 by Hoot Nanny
	feeling sad (Preview) It has been a rough few days. My husband just ignores me. I try to talk to him but he just ignores me He acts as if I'm not even in the room. He is the one who cheated for 2 yrs and I get the silent treatment. I feel so sad and alone. I kept busy by cleaning and washing all day but I feel so alone. I texted a few friends...	newgirl17	9	441	Jun 22, 2013 by little T
	Angry .. (Preview) Tonight I'm very fed up with this whole disease of alcoholism and how it affects the whole family. Anyway, it's all overwhelming and I just needed to say that right now, this is where I'm at. Hugs P :)	Pushka	10	448	Jun 22, 2013 by flinn66
	l don't know what to do... (Preview) The past few days my husband has ignored me. I have carried on with my own business. I have not texted him or called looking for him. Tonight at bedtime he said he needed to talk. He said that he felt we needed a break. That he was ignoring me so I could get used to being alone. He said that he loved me but that he...	newgirl17	11	553	Jun 22, 2013 by flinn66
	TRUST (Preview) " If your HP shuts a door, stop banging on it. Trust that whatever is behind it , is not meant for you."	Bettina	10	787	Jun 22, 2013 by flinn66
	glass half full? (Preview) I was supposed to go to a meeting tonight but my ride fell through but I am going to go to one in the morning. My husband has been loving yesterday and today but this afternoon he got his check and it was a very low check (he works on commission). My check wasn't that much either (i only worked 6hrs). He was ver...	newgirl17	3	318	Jun 22, 2013 by flinn66
	Feeling sad today (Preview) Today is my 32nd wedding anniversary. My AH and I are separated since January and I have filed for divorce. The last 10 years have been a series of rehabs, periods of sobriety, and relapses. I finally woke up one day and realized that if I did not take the step to leave my husband, I could end up in ano...	Clou	10	541	Jun 22, 2013 by Jerry F
	Using my program. Serenity prayer was needed (Preview) Hi Everyone, my name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. In my spare time I play rec co-ed Ball Hockey and tonight we saw a prime example of a bully doing his thing. I wear glasses and can't wear contact lenses because I have a scar in my eye that doesn't allow it. During the game tonight...	slogan_jim	8	419	Jun 22, 2013 by Jerry F
	Lost and don't know what to do with my co-dependency (Preview) Hi all At the beginning of the week I talked about the movie " Life of Pi " and how I couldn't stop crying and really didn't know why. Now I have learned more about me. I'm still lost and crying once in a while but I think I know what is causing it. For 3 long years I have been caught up in my son's a...	Cathyinaz	21	844	Jun 22, 2013 by DavidG
	Fear ;( (Preview) Today I met some one that opened up to me in just minutes and told me he is an active A and he left his program because he feels he can do this on his own.. I looked at him and said if you know you can then why so many relapses. He cried.. My heart went out to him. I couldn't say anything because at that moment I thou...	Gaby	4	330	Jun 21, 2013 by Bettina
	Need an opinion- very angry at 21 year old in recovery (Preview) I am so mad right now and I am finding myself berating via text message my 21 year old son in recovery so I decided I needed to go to another place to vent my anger and get some feedback on the situation. My 21 year old is almost 16 months in recovery. We are so proud of the accomplishments he has made. Howev...	PattyS	12	329	Jun 21, 2013 by grateful2be
	child support hearing (Preview) Hi Everyone: It's been a few weeks since my AH has been staying in his apt; this past weekend our kids spent the night there so they could be there on Father's Day morning, and that seemed to go pretty well. The kids were excited to stay somewhere new (I think it felt sort of like a hotel adventure to them),...	yanksfan51	6	227	Jun 21, 2013 by grateful2be
	Dealing with Reality (Preview) I posted recently about going away for work, and being worried if AH would drink during my absence. So, the trip went well for me, but not surprisingly, he did what As do, and is back drinking. So today I tried to communicate my boundaries to him. I told him I needed to know if he was taking this recovery ser...	ParisMemories	13	854	Jun 21, 2013 by Pushka
	Seeing wrong with others (Preview) Gods grace when we seek it always brings Truth. when I'm judging another person's defects, there are ALWAYS 2 things I don't understand. first, there is always one more fact about that person's life that if I knew it I would have nothing but compassion for them. This goes for my own sick father. God has c...	WorkingThroughIt	6	369	Jun 21, 2013 by Breakingfree
	Changing what I can.... (Preview) I try my best to only bear "good news" to people. I like to keep a positive upbeat attitude despite it all. Recently I had wrote about one of my best friends from high school which I lost touch with. We are both creative people and upon or reuniting we decided we wanted to create an independent f...	RoseODAT	2	297	Jun 21, 2013 by RoseODAT
	Attended my first f2f meeting. my first counseling sessions and left my husband for the night (at least) (Preview) So, I had a busy day. I went to my first church service (a healing service) and had my first communion in over a decade. I went to my very first counseling session. I packed my suitcase and "left" my husband. And then headed to my first alanon meeting. I have been living in crazytown for so lon...	sadsusie	9	430	Jun 21, 2013 by PP
	Made myself laugh (Preview) There was a ''domestic situation'' at daughter's house a couple days ago - new drunken BF went balistic, loaded a shotgun while ranting & raving. Daughter calls me, I tell her to lock herself in bathroom and call 911 -- she's drunk too!! She didn't want to call 911 so I did - was on two phones at onc...	Path to Serenity	11	424	Jun 21, 2013 by Debilyn
	Dealing with Sister (Preview) Hi, I am having a hard time having a relationship with my older sister. I've managed for the past few years by living thousands of miles away, but currently we're both living in our hometown and helping my father at his office. She has been sober for a few months and I find myself becoming increasingly r...	linnylou	3	582	Jun 20, 2013 by pinkchip
	The right way to act after a bender - remorse. Hangover remorse enabling girlfriend help (Preview) I'm fairly new to this but long story short, my girlfriend is an alchoholic. She goes on crazy benders (a lot more infrequently than she used to thank god) but nonetheless it happens. My question is what is the best way to deal with the hangover? When she finally comes out of it and is feeling like microwa...	nelson619	10	8020	Jun 20, 2013 by Pushka
	Is there a link to the "slogans"? (Preview) I am so impressed with all the great slogans that I hear people use here on the board and in chat. Is there a link to a place where they are all listed (hopefully with explanations of what each means and how I can use it). I cannot tell everyone how much just repeating the 3 Cs (I didn't cause it, I can't cure i...	lgnutah	5	613	Jun 20, 2013 by lgnutah
	Abusive Personalities vs Alcoholism (Preview) Hi, I haven't been on here in a while. Last time I posted, I was going through the slow agony of grieving the loss of my marriage...at the time, we were still living under the same roof. AH was still drinking. He had been having an affair and I knew it, I was just in denial, sorting through my fee...	Minaret	3	541	Jun 20, 2013 by hotrod
	Unmet expectations... (Preview) God will do for me what I cannot and often time will not do for myself. Dinner last evening was an expectation. Not a biggie...promises were made along with plans and though I wasn't looking forward to something I would have no control over unless it was me alone it turned out to be another exclamati...	Jerry F	6	340	Jun 20, 2013 by bud
	Dinner tonight... (Preview) And my eldest son will be in attendance along with my program and without unnecessary mention our Higher Power. His house is out of order...a shambles...looking like an old cabin long forgotten in the deep woods; abandoned. He has lived the metaphor of a life forgotten, undone, trashed and I wil...	Jerry F	9	516	Jun 19, 2013 by ilovedogs
	When there is nothing left to give. (Preview) My life (our life) has continued to be stressful. MY AH is continuing his path of personal destruction, and unfortunately I allowed myself to be consumed by the rubble. I have destroyed my laptop, my bedroom door, and my morale. I suppose all these years of feeling and being controlled makes me all the...	sadsusie	10	731	Jun 19, 2013 by grateful2be
	Disappointed about medical funding situation... but okay. (Preview) I said the Serenity Prayer a few times today and I'm okay. I was informed that I did not qualify for sliding scale medical assistance from a community clinic, to simply get a physical and some basic blood work done. I'm down to 121 lbs, from 142 just over a year ago. Do not have a clue as to why I'm losing t...	John	7	434	Jun 19, 2013 by pinkchip
	Good Day - Day 2 (Preview) So today I continued keeping the focus on me. When I woke up this morning, no kidding, but there was a tune vrunning through my head	ParisMemories	5	213	Jun 19, 2013 by el-cee
	Ups and downs and down some more (Preview) I've been off the boards for 3 months since we came home from Thailand with my son. He had a 3 week beer binge, in Phuket. No food. He wound up in the ICU He was a mess. I went there and brought him home. We went right to the local ER where they scanned and MRIed his head and found he was ok. He looked and spoke like...	laurab	3	506	Jun 19, 2013 by el-cee
	My feeling change like the wind (Preview) Back in my Unsure mode. Ah sober 7 which I will stop referring to . ah . Has been out of my home for 30 days but not completely he would find a way to come back home for something . I had a long talk with him the other day positive ! I opened up and told him my inventory hmmmm was that a smart move on my half at the time...	Ms co-dependent	10	693	Jun 18, 2013 by Ms co-dependent
	Am I enabling? enabling work conflict arguments stress (Preview) My girlfriend owns a bar and I am the head bartender at it too. Great job for an alchoholic I know! Sometimes she falls out with her business partner, goes on a bender and nearly closes the doors for good. We work predominantly all our shifts together and when a bender is finished and she is pissed off with...	nelson619	9	7710	Jun 18, 2013 by Mattie
	Life of PI (Preview) I was asked to watch the movie " Life of Pi " and how I can relate to the Tiger. I watched it this morning and I'm having a hard time with it. Don't know why but I can't seem to quit crying....Why? Is it because I need to live with life on Life's terms, that I can't control and that I have to let go? I...	Cathyinaz	12	558	Jun 18, 2013 by Temple
	Good day (Preview) It was hard, but today I kept the focus on me. He is doing what he does, but I am determined to find good in this day.	ParisMemories	6	385	Jun 18, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	Psychologist needing Al Anon (Preview) I have gone to several beginners meetings and found be wonderful wonderful, but regular meetings are troubling to me. Hearing the individual experiences and the pain that accompanies feels like a extension of my work day. Although I get a great deal from the teachings, it is not enough to overcome th...	Harriet Zilber	18	803	Jun 18, 2013 by tiredtonite
	A phone call... (Preview) I got a phone call from my son that is currently in rehab on Saturday and I was scared to talk to him because I felt I was going to have a complete break down after not been able to talk to him in 35 days. But he sounds great and after so long he also shared that he quit smoking. I believe in my heart he wants sobrie...	Gaby	13	514	Jun 18, 2013 by tiredtonite
	Create Value with everything you do.! (Preview) Suggestions when your not feeling your best: Open your life by finding ways to help others Expand the activities in your life. Be a positive influence wherever you go. Don't be a whiner. Don't dwell in the past. Look for solutions. Pray to expand your life force. Be convinced that everything is for...	Bettina	5	273	Jun 18, 2013 by Jerry F
	Mixed feelings (Preview) I would like to share with you where I am right now. My son is still homeless, he has not sorted anything out in terms of housing because he has court, that has been ongoing since January, so he thinks it would be useless to get accomodation if there is a chance he will go to prison. I have not heard from him fo...	el-cee	8	398	Jun 18, 2013 by Gaby
	I must have stupid on my forehead (Preview) I can see the affects almost immediately, I can smell it and taste it, but no I am not drinking. You must be mistaken. It is only water. Wow.	Jen61	14	597	Jun 18, 2013 by Jen61
	A stranger on my back porch (Preview) I went to work today. I went through the front door of the large historic building that I work in and parked my car on the side of the building close to the front steps. I do that because we have a circular drive in an inner-city neighborhood and it helps to cut down on folks using my drive to sell drugs. So...	grateful2be	7	528	Jun 18, 2013 by el-cee
	Detachment is complex (Preview) Going through the detachment process and really experiencing what it means is more complicated than I had anticipated. 1. My moods are just not the same for an elongated period of days or weeks. It is changing every day in terms of if I am happy and want to be around people, or sad. 2. And the types of actua...	giraffe13	14	477	Jun 17, 2013 by grateful2be
	slight set back tonight (Preview) My A went to pick up dinner 10 min from our house and was gone an hour and 15. And of course it's a place that has a bar and she has sat alone there drinking. The bad news is that I asked her if she was drinking and of course she denied it. The good news is that I stayed calm, there was no drama, and I don't believ...	Lyne	5	290	Jun 17, 2013 by Bettina
	Crazy is as crazy does (Preview) Something that Pinkchip shared with me recently has recently stuck with me: the statement in the subject: crazy is as crazy does. I don't know how many of you do this but I find myself still analyzing all of my AH's actions. It's infuriating that I waste my mental energy trying to figure out the actions...	ilovedogs	6	446	Jun 17, 2013 by abbyalana
	Peace and quiet ... (Preview) It has been a peaceful day today the first one since last Friday evening and I am VERY grateful at this point. It's pretty sad when I realized that OMGosh .. today is the first day I haven't seen a deputy, been to the court house, gotten any texts OR had to deal with my atty. That's pretty huge. Instead of...	Pushka	5	449	Jun 17, 2013 by grateful2be
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