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newgirl17 · newgirl17

I have been at home contemplating all that has been going on. And I finally reached out to an alanon friend from the meeting. I felt like I was going crazy. He came home for lunch and acted like nothing had happened and so did I. Then I thought to myself why did I engage in his crazy fight? I'm learning that hi...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

I came across this article today at work. It is written for a business audience, but it struck me how much of this is right in line with all that I've learned (and keep learning) here and in my Al-anon meetings. A link to the article is at the end. Enjoy! 1. You can do anything, but you can't do everything. Li...

debhud · debhud

my daughter is home from college. she called me last night hysterical. her alcoholic brother came to her house (drunk of course) and physically assaulted her. apparently the neighbors heard the assault and called the police. daughter did not press charges. she is a mess. upset because she alw...

giraffe13 · giraffe13

I remember reading in a book about alcoholism that whether you do everything the alcoholic wants, or you don't, it is not going to make them treat you any better so you might as well take care of you. Of course in the beginning of my recovery I did not believe that, as my alcoholic had me riddled with anxiet...

el-cee · el-cee

My son is still homeless, he has made no effort to get accomodation because he has a court case pending. He is so miserable looking. He came in tonight, asked for money and became angry when I said no. He says I have pushed him away and i will regret it. He says the people he is staying with thinks I am a bad mot...

luv123 · luv123

http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/electronic-meetingsUsingI am ok considering the stress of being up close around the disease for a while. Actuall...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

I am very seriously thinking that I am getting depressed, not something that normally happens to me. I feel like life just keeps throwing me challenge after challenge and I am sooo not ready for them. I've had setbacks with my son's educational needs, thinking of holding him back to repeat 8th grade...

newgirl17 · newgirl17

My husband came home tonight and told me that his mom said it was ok to throw me out of the house. The house we live in is my mother in laws old house that she usually rents out. That it was time for me to leave. That he was giving me the gift of freedom from him. That he loved me but he wasn't in love with me amymore...

Venera · Venera

Hello! This is my first post, i hope somebody can respond. Have been married for 9 years, have two girls, and expecting a boy. AH has been drinking since the beginning, which i didn't notice but with the time it started to get worse and worse. He used to just drink on the weekends, but always go to work. It e...

samc · samc

Hello everyone! I've been in the program for almost a year now, and have not had a lot of luck with finding a sponsor. I've built a nice group of people I can call in program to chat with - which is great!- but everyone I've asked to actually be my sponsor has been too busy, or had too many sponsees, or not be...

Path to Serenity · Path to Serenity

My daughter went to court today on the TRO request against the insane (Ex) BF. He got a lawyer and decided to fight it - why I don't know. Anyway, my son went as a witness and the Judge interviewed everyone in private and decided in favor of a TRO for a full year. The BF started complaining that he still...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I generally don't communicate with the exAH much at all since I have the kids the majority of the time and trade when they get a week off here and there, for Summer I try to share them 2 weeks on and off. So I emailed him and tried to get an idea of what dates could work for him. I did not wait too long, but never ha...

scaredandconfused · scaredandconfused

I had completely given up on my marriage to my AH. I decided I wasn't going to put my life on hold any longer hoping that the man I used to love would return. I filed for divorce 2 months ago and thought that there was no way I would allow him back into my life. The past 3 weeks it seemed like he was finally getti...

Bettina · Bettina

"Reality is harsh, It can be cruel and ugly. Yet, no matter how much we grieve, it won't change our circumstances. What is important is to not be defeated, forge ahead bravely. If we do this, a path will open up before us." Ikeda

Overcome · Overcome

Ok, I'm going to warn everyone right off the bat that this is going to be a "venting" post. I was raised in the church, attended faithfully for years. I've been a Sunday School teacher, sat on committees, even chaired some. I've been involved with the politics of the church, sitting in as &qu...

Bettina · Bettina

"One of the greatest obstacles to the joy of loving is our desire for control. To master the art of loving is to overcome this selfish desire." Shin Yatomi

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am discovering that days are going well--I am still happy about my new eyes, & I can still walk even though I have arthritis. I have a darn good roof over my head! I am at peace most of the time. My HP is so good to me that I can truly see where my gratitude comes from. He is the way of peace & serenity. I...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Long time no post :D. I have been lurking around the board and popped into the chat room a couple times. So I figured maybe it was time to say hello and also introduce myself to the new people and wave hello to my old friends. For those of you who don't know me I got my first taste of alanon here at MIP. My first m...

Rinn · Rinn

I am really struggling with the loss of my husband. In a way it feels like he died. He has been using meth for almost 7 months. We are separated. He hasn't been living here for a long time. He says now he has a few days sober but I don't think so. HE has changed so much, he drinks all the time. He is leaner, h...

sirchef · sirchef

Its been quite some time since I've been here. I have been working at a new job and it takes most of my energy and time. I miss coming here for meetings and a sense of belonging to a family. My life is the usual train wreck we all seem to share in one way or another. I had learned so much from all of you here but as I...

Pushka · Pushka

There is a lot of not good stuff happening, however there is a LOT of positive things going on as well. I am grateful for this group and sooo many other things that have happened. Back to working thank goodness .. was starting to get a little worried about some things. I have exactly what I need at the m...

Gaby · Gaby

Even though I had a great visit with my son and church service on Sunday was great.. and recalling what my son said "mom go be happy" I still have fear. I am trying real hard to work my program and pray to my HP.. Why am I having set backs ???!!! Just so confused and emotional..

abbyal · abbyal

Hi everyone abbyal here . I am hoping some of you from this site are attending our convention in a few weeks . I would love to meet you f2f if possible . I only know one thing for sure I will be volunteering in the Hospitality Room on Thurs the 4th from 1pm to 4 pm . My name tag will be Louise G. hope we can meet...

John · John

Hi everyone! Yes, I am here, and yes I have been reading so many of your post and replies. I pull a few pieces from this board every day and try to use them as a point of focus for myself as I go about my day. However, I must admit that I start feeling very overwhelmed by it all sometimes and so helpless to rea...

chamoisdog · chamoisdog

This is my first post to your message board and I will try to make this short! I have been with/married to my AH since 2006. We are truly blessed with 5 amazing children-my 3 and his 2, who I love and adore like they are my own. Being my 3rd marriage and his 2nd I was in it to win it w/ divorce not being an option. I...

crazycatlady · crazycatlady

Hi all- I love this board and I lurk a lot, but I don't seem to post unless I'm in crisis. And I'm in crisis now. But because of my active f2f Al-anon work, I am more peaceful and rational this time. I'd still like your input, however. My AH drank again last night after 6 months of hard working sobriety. We ha...

flinn66 · flinn66

I had a rough day yesterday, my fault really because I answered the phone to my ex A, just not really thinking! Anyway wont bother to relate the detail, but the usual whinging self pity and how if we could just get back together everything would be so great, how everybody abandons him etc, etc, ah and of c...

newgirl17 · newgirl17

Lately I have been able to detach in peace but tonight my husband came home with a hickey on his chest. I was so hurt snd disgusted at the same time. I went to restroom to cry and talk things out with HP. I came out and ignored him.I budgeted to see if it was possible for me to move but everytime I did the numbers...

Lyne · Lyne

Tomorrow night I am going to my first F2F meeting. I am as excited as if I was going to my favorite music or play or anything magical and wonderful. I've been coming on and off to this board for many months, but now I am more serious. Help from one of you folks made me realize I need the live, human being he...

ToocaringNY · ToocaringNY

I am new to this forum and I love it! As a non-dinker and never-drinker, I would love to know what it actually feels like when a 50 year old woman wakes up after a quiet night but one with the consumption of three glasses of wine. I do not want to ask her but would love to know.

phoenixmagicgirl · phoenixmagicgirl

My AM came home tonight and started drinking. Her and my dad got into it although I only heard the last of what he said to her which was that she is a zombie (in how she looks, acts etc) and he told me he has a wife who's an A and I have a mother of who's an A. She went to bed without a word. I tried to calm down my dad te...

Jerry F · Jerry F

My wife's first leg flight back to her family showed up 2 hours late so after I dropped her at the airport with fond wishes for a safe flight and happiness that she would be at the 1st birthday party for our youngest grand child, a girl, Olivia...I get a call that she called she had missed her flight. She...

ToocaringNY · ToocaringNY

I am in the non-drinker category. Never have been a drinker and I am a 46 year old female. My question is this: Why does it seem drinkers are so much happier than me? Is it true that they are or is just an illusion? There is more to this and I will share as a responses come in. Thank you.

Gaby · Gaby

We got there right at 1 pm. I seen my son pulling up behind us in a white truck with a huge smile. I smiled back, his little sister ran up and hugged him and then he can up and hugged me and his step dad. He introduced us to others and their families. He said let's go to our church which is in the same area as where h...

RoseODAT · RoseODAT

So, currently I'm living with my parents, helping them with errands (they cannot drive and people drive a lot where I live), left my job to focus on my children's mental and physical health, my niece ....moved in with us (she is almost 8 months pregnant and husband works in the oil fields.....her firs...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Just got off the email tool sending the airlines a request for repayment of $60.00 which are additional cost for rescheduling her trip. My wife is somewhat over the deep blue's of missing Olivia's first birthday celebration and is back at work until next Friday when we try this over again. She has d...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

These flowers bloom for just one day and when the evening comes, they close and drop. But for that one day I can enjoy the beauty.

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Hi everyone! Attitude of gratitude today! I am so blessed! How bout you? Kathleen

DebLisa55 · DebLisa55

I wanted to vent so here I am again. I had been keeping a journal online but decided to delete it. Every time I re-read it, I got upset. My husband was let go from his job a month ago and is having a hard time finding another one. So what do you think happens - yep Heineken and Corona have moved back in. Some...

newgirl17 · newgirl17

I made it to my morning meeting :) my husband didn't come home last night. He got here at 6 in the morning. I didn't bother to greet him or ask him questions (he is going to lie about it anyway) I just turned over and fell asleep. At 7 I woke up and went for a morning walk then came home and made breakfast ate and w...

peacewillcome · peacewillcome

My AH returned from a 30 day in treatment program 3 weeks ago. Since then he has not been drinking but continues to go to bars on an almost nightly basis and drink NA beers. Tonight he is at a bar with some of our friends and I decided not to go because I thought it is enabling and unsupportive of his sobriet...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

I feel like this week has been a turning point for me. Maybe I am really learning how to "let go and let God". I feel like I have some clarity about my role in this dysfunctional marriage, and I can see how much my actions and reactions have served to perpetuate this d**m merry go round of the dise...

likemyheart · likemyheart

My daughter is good at analogies. We were garage sale-ing the other day and as usual talking about anything and everything, usually at least some conversation turns towards the recent past with the ex-A. She said, its like having an open bottle of poison in a lake, you remove the bottle of poison (the A...

Age of Al-Anon members · slogan_jim

Hi Everyone, My name is Slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. This weekend I attended my local regional conference. Unfortunately due to finances, our area will not be having a conference next year :(. That's ok though. One day at a time. After speaking with a friend on the committee, this y...

Ms co-dependent · Ms co-dependent

So back in my pissy pot . Just need to rant ,I'm frustrasted . My 30 day trial seperation from ah husband went sour to me he only gave me 2 full days of peace other wise he was here everyday to drop off Tupperware or check the mail and asked to sleep over so he will( baby sit) our children for me to get to a meeting...

Clou · Clou

My AH of 32 years, who I am separated from for the last 6 months, is heaping loads of guilt on me for his situation. He lives in what he describes as a "crappy" apartment and feels an "outcast" because I filed for divorce and got a court order for him to move out. Our 19 year old daugh...

hope4ever · hope4ever

My husband Jim has an office and we got a new secretary about 2 months ago. Yesterday was the first time I have worked with her. I just answer phones and do very light work since I am more of the receptionist. So yesterday my husband was gone and she first commented on how beautiful and sweet I was, then she w...

Gaby · Gaby

So tomorrow myself my husband and my daughter will be visiting my son in rehab for the first time since he has been in may 9.13.. Please advise on what to say or not to say.. But let me tell you I still carry the hurt and anger and pain that was caused when he was home and its something that I'm working on to try t...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I have a miracle to share--I am sorry for those of you who don't believe in miracles. Anyhow, I am sitting here today w/ a pair of new eyes & I believe that is a miracle! I had the RLE surgery June 4th & June 17th. I have nothing but good feelings about it. Yes, it was scary & yes, I did have some res...

pinkchip · pinkchip

I have an offer to work part time and run sessions at an IOP (intensive out patient). I am leaning towards doing it because it will be a good career experience and I've been talking about wanting to break away from kids and more into adult substance abuse treatment for a long time. Been musing though cuz...

Bettina · Bettina

Even After All This Time The Sun Never Says To The Earth " You Owe Me". Look What Happens With a Love Like That...It Lights Up the Whole Sky.!!! 14 century Sufi Hafiz

newgirl17 · newgirl17

It has been a rough few days. My husband just ignores me. I try to talk to him but he just ignores me He acts as if I'm not even in the room. He is the one who cheated for 2 yrs and I get the silent treatment. I feel so sad and alone. I kept busy by cleaning and washing all day but I feel so alone. I texted a few friends...

Pushka · Pushka

Tonight I'm very fed up with this whole disease of alcoholism and how it affects the whole family. Anyway, it's all overwhelming and I just needed to say that right now, this is where I'm at. Hugs P :)

newgirl17 · newgirl17

The past few days my husband has ignored me. I have carried on with my own business. I have not texted him or called looking for him. Tonight at bedtime he said he needed to talk. He said that he felt we needed a break. That he was ignoring me so I could get used to being alone. He said that he loved me but that he...

Bettina · Bettina

" If your HP shuts a door, stop banging on it. Trust that whatever is behind it , is not meant for you."

newgirl17 · newgirl17

I was supposed to go to a meeting tonight but my ride fell through but I am going to go to one in the morning. My husband has been loving yesterday and today but this afternoon he got his check and it was a very low check (he works on commission). My check wasn't that much either (i only worked 6hrs). He was ver...

Clou · Clou

Today is my 32nd wedding anniversary. My AH and I are separated since January and I have filed for divorce. The last 10 years have been a series of rehabs, periods of sobriety, and relapses. I finally woke up one day and realized that if I did not take the step to leave my husband, I could end up in ano...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi Everyone, my name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. In my spare time I play rec co-ed Ball Hockey and tonight we saw a prime example of a bully doing his thing. I wear glasses and can't wear contact lenses because I have a scar in my eye that doesn't allow it. During the game tonight...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Hi all At the beginning of the week I talked about the movie " Life of Pi " and how I couldn't stop crying and really didn't know why. Now I have learned more about me. I'm still lost and crying once in a while but I think I know what is causing it. For 3 long years I have been caught up in my son's a...

Gaby · Gaby

Today I met some one that opened up to me in just minutes and told me he is an active A and he left his program because he feels he can do this on his own.. I looked at him and said if you know you can then why so many relapses. He cried.. My heart went out to him. I couldn't say anything because at that moment I thou...

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	texting alanon friend helped... (Preview) I have been at home contemplating all that has been going on. And I finally reached out to an alanon friend from the meeting. I felt like I was going crazy. He came home for lunch and acted like nothing had happened and so did I. Then I thought to myself why did I engage in his crazy fight? I'm learning that hi...	newgirl17	6	410	Jun 27, 2013 by yanksfan51
	10 Things I learned at Work Today (Preview) I came across this article today at work. It is written for a business audience, but it struck me how much of this is right in line with all that I've learned (and keep learning) here and in my Al-anon meetings. A link to the article is at the end. Enjoy! 1. You can do anything, but you can't do everything. Li...	ParisMemories	3	596	Jun 27, 2013 by neshema2
	my AS physically assaulted my daughter (Preview) my daughter is home from college. she called me last night hysterical. her alcoholic brother came to her house (drunk of course) and physically assaulted her. apparently the neighbors heard the assault and called the police. daughter did not press charges. she is a mess. upset because she alw...	debhud	6	534	Jun 26, 2013 by bud
	detachment causing the alcoholic to get angry (Preview) I remember reading in a book about alcoholism that whether you do everything the alcoholic wants, or you don't, it is not going to make them treat you any better so you might as well take care of you. Of course in the beginning of my recovery I did not believe that, as my alcoholic had me riddled with anxiet...	giraffe13	4	688	Jun 26, 2013 by bud
	This feels wrong. (Preview) My son is still homeless, he has made no effort to get accomodation because he has a court case pending. He is so miserable looking. He came in tonight, asked for money and became angry when I said no. He says I have pushed him away and i will regret it. He says the people he is staying with thinks I am a bad mot...	el-cee	15	663	Jun 26, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	Keeping perspective & trusting God (Preview) http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/electronic-meetingsUsingI am ok considering the stress of being up close around the disease for a while. Actuall...	luv123	1	513	Jun 26, 2013 by Jill
	What do you do when you're discouraged? (Preview) I am very seriously thinking that I am getting depressed, not something that normally happens to me. I feel like life just keeps throwing me challenge after challenge and I am sooo not ready for them. I've had setbacks with my son's educational needs, thinking of holding him back to repeat 8th grade...	ilovedogs	13	546	Jun 26, 2013 by ilovedogs
	frustrated and very sad (Preview) My husband came home tonight and told me that his mom said it was ok to throw me out of the house. The house we live in is my mother in laws old house that she usually rents out. That it was time for me to leave. That he was giving me the gift of freedom from him. That he loved me but he wasn't in love with me amymore...	newgirl17	7	405	Jun 26, 2013 by hotrod
	Have two kids, pregnant with the 3rd, argued with AH and he left the house (Preview) Hello! This is my first post, i hope somebody can respond. Have been married for 9 years, have two girls, and expecting a boy. AH has been drinking since the beginning, which i didn't notice but with the time it started to get worse and worse. He used to just drink on the weekends, but always go to work. It e...	Venera	8	300	Jun 26, 2013 by hotrod
	Looking for an e-mail/chat sponsor (Preview) Hello everyone! I've been in the program for almost a year now, and have not had a lot of luck with finding a sponsor. I've built a nice group of people I can call in program to chat with - which is great!- but everyone I've asked to actually be my sponsor has been too busy, or had too many sponsees, or not be...	samc	1	414	Jun 26, 2013 by luv123
	TRO granted (Preview) My daughter went to court today on the TRO request against the insane (Ex) BF. He got a lawyer and decided to fight it - why I don't know. Anyway, my son went as a witness and the Judge interviewed everyone in private and decided in favor of a TRO for a full year. The BF started complaining that he still...	Path to Serenity	10	445	Jun 26, 2013 by pinkchip
	So frustrated tonight with the exAH (Preview) I generally don't communicate with the exAH much at all since I have the kids the majority of the time and trade when they get a week off here and there, for Summer I try to share them 2 weeks on and off. So I emailed him and tried to get an idea of what dates could work for him. I did not wait too long, but never ha...	Breakingfree	4	322	Jun 26, 2013 by Breakingfree
	Feeling like such a fool right now (Preview) I had completely given up on my marriage to my AH. I decided I wasn't going to put my life on hold any longer hoping that the man I used to love would return. I filed for divorce 2 months ago and thought that there was no way I would allow him back into my life. The past 3 weeks it seemed like he was finally getti...	scaredandconfused	10	558	Jun 26, 2013 by Bettina
	Reality is Harsh!!!! (Preview) "Reality is harsh, It can be cruel and ugly. Yet, no matter how much we grieve, it won't change our circumstances. What is important is to not be defeated, forge ahead bravely. If we do this, a path will open up before us." Ikeda	Bettina	2	377	Jun 26, 2013 by Jerry F
	God/Church Issues (Preview) Ok, I'm going to warn everyone right off the bat that this is going to be a "venting" post. I was raised in the church, attended faithfully for years. I've been a Sunday School teacher, sat on committees, even chaired some. I've been involved with the politics of the church, sitting in as &qu...	Overcome	6	336	Jun 26, 2013 by grateful2be
	Thoughts!! (Preview) "One of the greatest obstacles to the joy of loving is our desire for control. To master the art of loving is to overcome this selfish desire." Shin Yatomi	Bettina	2	223	Jun 26, 2013 by Bettina
	anothe day, more gratitude! (Preview) I am discovering that days are going well--I am still happy about my new eyes, & I can still walk even though I have arthritis. I have a darn good roof over my head! I am at peace most of the time. My HP is so good to me that I can truly see where my gratitude comes from. He is the way of peace & serenity. I...	Hoot Nanny	0	235	Jun 25, 2013 by Hoot Nanny
	Saying hello (Preview) Long time no post :D. I have been lurking around the board and popped into the chat room a couple times. So I figured maybe it was time to say hello and also introduce myself to the new people and wave hello to my old friends. For those of you who don't know me I got my first taste of alanon here at MIP. My first m...	Mandy123	3	469	Jun 26, 2013 by hotrod
	stuggling with sense of loss (Preview) I am really struggling with the loss of my husband. In a way it feels like he died. He has been using meth for almost 7 months. We are separated. He hasn't been living here for a long time. He says now he has a few days sober but I don't think so. HE has changed so much, he drinks all the time. He is leaner, h...	Rinn	6	295	Jun 26, 2013 by Debilyn
	Hello family (Preview) Its been quite some time since I've been here. I have been working at a new job and it takes most of my energy and time. I miss coming here for meetings and a sense of belonging to a family. My life is the usual train wreck we all seem to share in one way or another. I had learned so much from all of you here but as I...	sirchef	4	314	Jun 26, 2013 by wp
	More prayers please :) (Preview) There is a lot of not good stuff happening, however there is a LOT of positive things going on as well. I am grateful for this group and sooo many other things that have happened. Back to working thank goodness .. was starting to get a little worried about some things. I have exactly what I need at the m...	Pushka	7	376	Jun 26, 2013 by Pushka
	Really feeling emotional!!!! (Preview) Even though I had a great visit with my son and church service on Sunday was great.. and recalling what my son said "mom go be happy" I still have fear. I am trying real hard to work my program and pray to my HP.. Why am I having set backs ???!!! Just so confused and emotional..	Gaby	7	295	Jun 25, 2013 by Hoot Nanny
	AL-ANON INTERNATIONAL CONVENTION JULY 5-7 th (Preview) Hi everyone abbyal here . I am hoping some of you from this site are attending our convention in a few weeks . I would love to meet you f2f if possible . I only know one thing for sure I will be volunteering in the Hospitality Room on Thurs the 4th from 1pm to 4 pm . My name tag will be Louise G. hope we can meet...	abbyal	5	255	Jun 25, 2013 by Tracy
	Just Overwhelmed... (Preview) Hi everyone! Yes, I am here, and yes I have been reading so many of your post and replies. I pull a few pieces from this board every day and try to use them as a point of focus for myself as I go about my day. However, I must admit that I start feeling very overwhelmed by it all sometimes and so helpless to rea...	John	8	512	Jun 25, 2013 by Breakingfree
	Not in Denial ANYMORE...what next? (Preview) This is my first post to your message board and I will try to make this short! I have been with/married to my AH since 2006. We are truly blessed with 5 amazing children-my 3 and his 2, who I love and adore like they are my own. Being my 3rd marriage and his 2nd I was in it to win it w/ divorce not being an option. I...	chamoisdog	6	414	Jun 25, 2013 by maryjane
	The role of Money in Serenity (Preview) Hi all- I love this board and I lurk a lot, but I don't seem to post unless I'm in crisis. And I'm in crisis now. But because of my active f2f Al-anon work, I am more peaceful and rational this time. I'd still like your input, however. My AH drank again last night after 6 months of hard working sobriety. We ha...	crazycatlady	12	624	Jun 25, 2013 by grateful2be
	How Important is it? (Preview) I had a rough day yesterday, my fault really because I answered the phone to my ex A, just not really thinking! Anyway wont bother to relate the detail, but the usual whinging self pity and how if we could just get back together everything would be so great, how everybody abandons him etc, etc, ah and of c...	flinn66	10	775	Jun 25, 2013 by grateful2be
	detached on the outside...fuming on the inside (Preview) Lately I have been able to detach in peace but tonight my husband came home with a hickey on his chest. I was so hurt snd disgusted at the same time. I went to restroom to cry and talk things out with HP. I came out and ignored him.I budgeted to see if it was possible for me to move but everytime I did the numbers...	newgirl17	4	485	Jun 25, 2013 by grateful2be
	Tomorrow night first F2F (Preview) Tomorrow night I am going to my first F2F meeting. I am as excited as if I was going to my favorite music or play or anything magical and wonderful. I've been coming on and off to this board for many months, but now I am more serious. Help from one of you folks made me realize I need the live, human being he...	Lyne	5	222	Jun 25, 2013 by yanksfan51
	What are the actual physical affects of having three glasses of wine a night for a 50 year old woman? (Preview) I am new to this forum and I love it! As a non-dinker and never-drinker, I would love to know what it actually feels like when a 50 year old woman wakes up after a quiet night but one with the consumption of three glasses of wine. I do not want to ask her but would love to know.	ToocaringNY	7	365	Jun 25, 2013 by Debilyn
	Have had a rough night tonight (Preview) My AM came home tonight and started drinking. Her and my dad got into it although I only heard the last of what he said to her which was that she is a zombie (in how she looks, acts etc) and he told me he has a wife who's an A and I have a mother of who's an A. She went to bed without a word. I tried to calm down my dad te...	phoenixmagicgirl	7	545	Jun 25, 2013 by canadianguy
	Daaang!! (Preview) My wife's first leg flight back to her family showed up 2 hours late so after I dropped her at the airport with fond wishes for a safe flight and happiness that she would be at the 1st birthday party for our youngest grand child, a girl, Olivia...I get a call that she called she had missed her flight. She...	Jerry F	8	333	Jun 25, 2013 by Mandy123
	Happiness within the drinkers group of friends vs. non drinkers. Who is truly happier? (Preview) I am in the non-drinker category. Never have been a drinker and I am a 46 year old female. My question is this: Why does it seem drinkers are so much happier than me? Is it true that they are or is just an illusion? There is more to this and I will share as a responses come in. Thank you.	ToocaringNY	15	822	Jun 24, 2013 by grateful2be
	Update in the visit with my son in rehab.. (Preview) We got there right at 1 pm. I seen my son pulling up behind us in a white truck with a huge smile. I smiled back, his little sister ran up and hugged him and then he can up and hugged me and his step dad. He introduced us to others and their families. He said let's go to our church which is in the same area as where h...	Gaby	13	344	Jun 24, 2013 by Gaby
	Needing space to breathe (Preview) So, currently I'm living with my parents, helping them with errands (they cannot drive and people drive a lot where I live), left my job to focus on my children's mental and physical health, my niece ....moved in with us (she is almost 8 months pregnant and husband works in the oil fields.....her firs...	RoseODAT	6	324	Jun 24, 2013 by RoseODAT
	Daaang the second... (Preview) Just got off the email tool sending the airlines a request for repayment of $60.00 which are additional cost for rescheduling her trip. My wife is somewhat over the deep blue's of missing Olivia's first birthday celebration and is back at work until next Friday when we try this over again. She has d...	Jerry F	9	409	Jun 24, 2013 by Jozie
	Flowers (Preview) These flowers bloom for just one day and when the evening comes, they close and drop. But for that one day I can enjoy the beauty.	Cathyinaz	13	617	Jun 24, 2013 by Path to Serenity
	not much to post--just gratitude! (Preview) Hi everyone! Attitude of gratitude today! I am so blessed! How bout you? Kathleen	Hoot Nanny	5	296	Jun 24, 2013 by 1911A1
	Overwhelmed (Preview) I wanted to vent so here I am again. I had been keeping a journal online but decided to delete it. Every time I re-read it, I got upset. My husband was let go from his job a month ago and is having a hard time finding another one. So what do you think happens - yep Heineken and Corona have moved back in. Some...	DebLisa55	8	321	Jun 24, 2013 by el-cee
	made it to a meeting :) (Preview) I made it to my morning meeting :) my husband didn't come home last night. He got here at 6 in the morning. I didn't bother to greet him or ask him questions (he is going to lie about it anyway) I just turned over and fell asleep. At 7 I woke up and went for a morning walk then came home and made breakfast ate and w...	newgirl17	8	358	Jun 24, 2013 by el-cee
	Enabling (Preview) My AH returned from a 30 day in treatment program 3 weeks ago. Since then he has not been drinking but continues to go to bars on an almost nightly basis and drink NA beers. Tonight he is at a bar with some of our friends and I decided not to go because I thought it is enabling and unsupportive of his sobriet...	peacewillcome	10	576	Jun 24, 2013 by Pushka
	A Good Week (Preview) I feel like this week has been a turning point for me. Maybe I am really learning how to "let go and let God". I feel like I have some clarity about my role in this dysfunctional marriage, and I can see how much my actions and reactions have served to perpetuate this d**m merry go round of the dise...	ParisMemories	7	421	Jun 24, 2013 by tiredtonite
	The Lake is Still Poisoned (Preview) My daughter is good at analogies. We were garage sale-ing the other day and as usual talking about anything and everything, usually at least some conversation turns towards the recent past with the ex-A. She said, its like having an open bottle of poison in a lake, you remove the bottle of poison (the A...	likemyheart	3	391	Jun 23, 2013 by el-cee
	Age of Al-Anon members (Preview) Hi Everyone, My name is Slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. This weekend I attended my local regional conference. Unfortunately due to finances, our area will not be having a conference next year :(. That's ok though. One day at a time. After speaking with a friend on the committee, this y...	slogan_jim	2	570	Jun 23, 2013 by hotrod
	Lack of meetings set back (Preview) So back in my pissy pot . Just need to rant ,I'm frustrasted . My 30 day trial seperation from ah husband went sour to me he only gave me 2 full days of peace other wise he was here everyday to drop off Tupperware or check the mail and asked to sleep over so he will( baby sit) our children for me to get to a meeting...	Ms co-dependent	2	237	Jun 23, 2013 by Breakingfree
	Positive steps (Preview) My AH of 32 years, who I am separated from for the last 6 months, is heaping loads of guilt on me for his situation. He lives in what he describes as a "crappy" apartment and feels an "outcast" because I filed for divorce and got a court order for him to move out. Our 19 year old daugh...	Clou	4	351	Jun 23, 2013 by canadianguy
	How to use the program in this situation? ES & H? (Preview) My husband Jim has an office and we got a new secretary about 2 months ago. Yesterday was the first time I have worked with her. I just answer phones and do very light work since I am more of the receptionist. So yesterday my husband was gone and she first commented on how beautiful and sweet I was, then she w...	hope4ever	11	589	Jun 23, 2013 by Breakingfree
	Visiting my son in rehab for the first time. (Preview) So tomorrow myself my husband and my daughter will be visiting my son in rehab for the first time since he has been in may 9.13.. Please advise on what to say or not to say.. But let me tell you I still carry the hurt and anger and pain that was caused when he was home and its something that I'm working on to try t...	Gaby	9	1161	Jun 23, 2013 by Breakingfree
	let the miracles keep coming! (Preview) I have a miracle to share--I am sorry for those of you who don't believe in miracles. Anyhow, I am sitting here today w/ a pair of new eyes & I believe that is a miracle! I had the RLE surgery June 4th & June 17th. I have nothing but good feelings about it. Yes, it was scary & yes, I did have some res...	Hoot Nanny	5	284	Jun 23, 2013 by Peggy7
	IOP - new opportunity (Preview) I have an offer to work part time and run sessions at an IOP (intensive out patient). I am leaning towards doing it because it will be a good career experience and I've been talking about wanting to break away from kids and more into adult substance abuse treatment for a long time. Been musing though cuz...	pinkchip	10	485	Jun 23, 2013 by Breakingfree
	Expansion of Love... (Preview) Even After All This Time The Sun Never Says To The Earth " You Owe Me". Look What Happens With a Love Like That...It Lights Up the Whole Sky.!!! 14 century Sufi Hafiz	Bettina	6	341	Jun 22, 2013 by Hoot Nanny
	feeling sad (Preview) It has been a rough few days. My husband just ignores me. I try to talk to him but he just ignores me He acts as if I'm not even in the room. He is the one who cheated for 2 yrs and I get the silent treatment. I feel so sad and alone. I kept busy by cleaning and washing all day but I feel so alone. I texted a few friends...	newgirl17	9	518	Jun 22, 2013 by little T
	Angry .. (Preview) Tonight I'm very fed up with this whole disease of alcoholism and how it affects the whole family. Anyway, it's all overwhelming and I just needed to say that right now, this is where I'm at. Hugs P :)	Pushka	10	525	Jun 22, 2013 by flinn66
	l don't know what to do... (Preview) The past few days my husband has ignored me. I have carried on with my own business. I have not texted him or called looking for him. Tonight at bedtime he said he needed to talk. He said that he felt we needed a break. That he was ignoring me so I could get used to being alone. He said that he loved me but that he...	newgirl17	11	615	Jun 22, 2013 by flinn66
	TRUST (Preview) " If your HP shuts a door, stop banging on it. Trust that whatever is behind it , is not meant for you."	Bettina	10	850	Jun 22, 2013 by flinn66
	glass half full? (Preview) I was supposed to go to a meeting tonight but my ride fell through but I am going to go to one in the morning. My husband has been loving yesterday and today but this afternoon he got his check and it was a very low check (he works on commission). My check wasn't that much either (i only worked 6hrs). He was ver...	newgirl17	3	373	Jun 22, 2013 by flinn66
	Feeling sad today (Preview) Today is my 32nd wedding anniversary. My AH and I are separated since January and I have filed for divorce. The last 10 years have been a series of rehabs, periods of sobriety, and relapses. I finally woke up one day and realized that if I did not take the step to leave my husband, I could end up in ano...	Clou	10	600	Jun 22, 2013 by Jerry F
	Using my program. Serenity prayer was needed (Preview) Hi Everyone, my name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. In my spare time I play rec co-ed Ball Hockey and tonight we saw a prime example of a bully doing his thing. I wear glasses and can't wear contact lenses because I have a scar in my eye that doesn't allow it. During the game tonight...	slogan_jim	8	474	Jun 22, 2013 by Jerry F
	Lost and don't know what to do with my co-dependency (Preview) Hi all At the beginning of the week I talked about the movie " Life of Pi " and how I couldn't stop crying and really didn't know why. Now I have learned more about me. I'm still lost and crying once in a while but I think I know what is causing it. For 3 long years I have been caught up in my son's a...	Cathyinaz	21	904	Jun 22, 2013 by DavidG
	Fear ;( (Preview) Today I met some one that opened up to me in just minutes and told me he is an active A and he left his program because he feels he can do this on his own.. I looked at him and said if you know you can then why so many relapses. He cried.. My heart went out to him. I couldn't say anything because at that moment I thou...	Gaby	4	421	Jun 21, 2013 by Bettina
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