Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Venera · Venera

Hello! This is my first post, i hope somebody can respond. Have been married for 9 years, have two girls, and expecting a boy. AH has been drinking since the beginning, which i didn't notice but with the time it started to get worse and worse. He used to just drink on the weekends, but always go to work. It e...

samc · samc

Hello everyone! I've been in the program for almost a year now, and have not had a lot of luck with finding a sponsor. I've built a nice group of people I can call in program to chat with - which is great!- but everyone I've asked to actually be my sponsor has been too busy, or had too many sponsees, or not be...

Path to Serenity · Path to Serenity

My daughter went to court today on the TRO request against the insane (Ex) BF. He got a lawyer and decided to fight it - why I don't know. Anyway, my son went as a witness and the Judge interviewed everyone in private and decided in favor of a TRO for a full year. The BF started complaining that he still...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I generally don't communicate with the exAH much at all since I have the kids the majority of the time and trade when they get a week off here and there, for Summer I try to share them 2 weeks on and off. So I emailed him and tried to get an idea of what dates could work for him. I did not wait too long, but never ha...

scaredandconfused · scaredandconfused

I had completely given up on my marriage to my AH. I decided I wasn't going to put my life on hold any longer hoping that the man I used to love would return. I filed for divorce 2 months ago and thought that there was no way I would allow him back into my life. The past 3 weeks it seemed like he was finally getti...

Bettina · Bettina

"Reality is harsh, It can be cruel and ugly. Yet, no matter how much we grieve, it won't change our circumstances. What is important is to not be defeated, forge ahead bravely. If we do this, a path will open up before us." Ikeda

Overcome · Overcome

Ok, I'm going to warn everyone right off the bat that this is going to be a "venting" post. I was raised in the church, attended faithfully for years. I've been a Sunday School teacher, sat on committees, even chaired some. I've been involved with the politics of the church, sitting in as &qu...

Bettina · Bettina

"One of the greatest obstacles to the joy of loving is our desire for control. To master the art of loving is to overcome this selfish desire." Shin Yatomi

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am discovering that days are going well--I am still happy about my new eyes, & I can still walk even though I have arthritis. I have a darn good roof over my head! I am at peace most of the time. My HP is so good to me that I can truly see where my gratitude comes from. He is the way of peace & serenity. I...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Long time no post :D. I have been lurking around the board and popped into the chat room a couple times. So I figured maybe it was time to say hello and also introduce myself to the new people and wave hello to my old friends. For those of you who don't know me I got my first taste of alanon here at MIP. My first m...

Rinn · Rinn

I am really struggling with the loss of my husband. In a way it feels like he died. He has been using meth for almost 7 months. We are separated. He hasn't been living here for a long time. He says now he has a few days sober but I don't think so. HE has changed so much, he drinks all the time. He is leaner, h...

sirchef · sirchef

Its been quite some time since I've been here. I have been working at a new job and it takes most of my energy and time. I miss coming here for meetings and a sense of belonging to a family. My life is the usual train wreck we all seem to share in one way or another. I had learned so much from all of you here but as I...

Pushka · Pushka

There is a lot of not good stuff happening, however there is a LOT of positive things going on as well. I am grateful for this group and sooo many other things that have happened. Back to working thank goodness .. was starting to get a little worried about some things. I have exactly what I need at the m...

Gaby · Gaby

Even though I had a great visit with my son and church service on Sunday was great.. and recalling what my son said "mom go be happy" I still have fear. I am trying real hard to work my program and pray to my HP.. Why am I having set backs ???!!! Just so confused and emotional..

abbyal · abbyal

Hi everyone abbyal here . I am hoping some of you from this site are attending our convention in a few weeks . I would love to meet you f2f if possible . I only know one thing for sure I will be volunteering in the Hospitality Room on Thurs the 4th from 1pm to 4 pm . My name tag will be Louise G. hope we can meet...

John · John

Hi everyone! Yes, I am here, and yes I have been reading so many of your post and replies. I pull a few pieces from this board every day and try to use them as a point of focus for myself as I go about my day. However, I must admit that I start feeling very overwhelmed by it all sometimes and so helpless to rea...

chamoisdog · chamoisdog

This is my first post to your message board and I will try to make this short! I have been with/married to my AH since 2006. We are truly blessed with 5 amazing children-my 3 and his 2, who I love and adore like they are my own. Being my 3rd marriage and his 2nd I was in it to win it w/ divorce not being an option. I...

crazycatlady · crazycatlady

Hi all- I love this board and I lurk a lot, but I don't seem to post unless I'm in crisis. And I'm in crisis now. But because of my active f2f Al-anon work, I am more peaceful and rational this time. I'd still like your input, however. My AH drank again last night after 6 months of hard working sobriety. We ha...

flinn66 · flinn66

I had a rough day yesterday, my fault really because I answered the phone to my ex A, just not really thinking! Anyway wont bother to relate the detail, but the usual whinging self pity and how if we could just get back together everything would be so great, how everybody abandons him etc, etc, ah and of c...

newgirl17 · newgirl17

Lately I have been able to detach in peace but tonight my husband came home with a hickey on his chest. I was so hurt snd disgusted at the same time. I went to restroom to cry and talk things out with HP. I came out and ignored him.I budgeted to see if it was possible for me to move but everytime I did the numbers...

Lyne · Lyne

Tomorrow night I am going to my first F2F meeting. I am as excited as if I was going to my favorite music or play or anything magical and wonderful. I've been coming on and off to this board for many months, but now I am more serious. Help from one of you folks made me realize I need the live, human being he...

ToocaringNY · ToocaringNY

I am new to this forum and I love it! As a non-dinker and never-drinker, I would love to know what it actually feels like when a 50 year old woman wakes up after a quiet night but one with the consumption of three glasses of wine. I do not want to ask her but would love to know.

phoenixmagicgirl · phoenixmagicgirl

My AM came home tonight and started drinking. Her and my dad got into it although I only heard the last of what he said to her which was that she is a zombie (in how she looks, acts etc) and he told me he has a wife who's an A and I have a mother of who's an A. She went to bed without a word. I tried to calm down my dad te...

Jerry F · Jerry F

My wife's first leg flight back to her family showed up 2 hours late so after I dropped her at the airport with fond wishes for a safe flight and happiness that she would be at the 1st birthday party for our youngest grand child, a girl, Olivia...I get a call that she called she had missed her flight. She...

ToocaringNY · ToocaringNY

I am in the non-drinker category. Never have been a drinker and I am a 46 year old female. My question is this: Why does it seem drinkers are so much happier than me? Is it true that they are or is just an illusion? There is more to this and I will share as a responses come in. Thank you.

Gaby · Gaby

We got there right at 1 pm. I seen my son pulling up behind us in a white truck with a huge smile. I smiled back, his little sister ran up and hugged him and then he can up and hugged me and his step dad. He introduced us to others and their families. He said let's go to our church which is in the same area as where h...

RoseODAT · RoseODAT

So, currently I'm living with my parents, helping them with errands (they cannot drive and people drive a lot where I live), left my job to focus on my children's mental and physical health, my niece ....moved in with us (she is almost 8 months pregnant and husband works in the oil fields.....her firs...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Just got off the email tool sending the airlines a request for repayment of $60.00 which are additional cost for rescheduling her trip. My wife is somewhat over the deep blue's of missing Olivia's first birthday celebration and is back at work until next Friday when we try this over again. She has d...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

These flowers bloom for just one day and when the evening comes, they close and drop. But for that one day I can enjoy the beauty.

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Hi everyone! Attitude of gratitude today! I am so blessed! How bout you? Kathleen

DebLisa55 · DebLisa55

I wanted to vent so here I am again. I had been keeping a journal online but decided to delete it. Every time I re-read it, I got upset. My husband was let go from his job a month ago and is having a hard time finding another one. So what do you think happens - yep Heineken and Corona have moved back in. Some...

newgirl17 · newgirl17

I made it to my morning meeting :) my husband didn't come home last night. He got here at 6 in the morning. I didn't bother to greet him or ask him questions (he is going to lie about it anyway) I just turned over and fell asleep. At 7 I woke up and went for a morning walk then came home and made breakfast ate and w...

peacewillcome · peacewillcome

My AH returned from a 30 day in treatment program 3 weeks ago. Since then he has not been drinking but continues to go to bars on an almost nightly basis and drink NA beers. Tonight he is at a bar with some of our friends and I decided not to go because I thought it is enabling and unsupportive of his sobriet...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

I feel like this week has been a turning point for me. Maybe I am really learning how to "let go and let God". I feel like I have some clarity about my role in this dysfunctional marriage, and I can see how much my actions and reactions have served to perpetuate this d**m merry go round of the dise...

likemyheart · likemyheart

My daughter is good at analogies. We were garage sale-ing the other day and as usual talking about anything and everything, usually at least some conversation turns towards the recent past with the ex-A. She said, its like having an open bottle of poison in a lake, you remove the bottle of poison (the A...

Age of Al-Anon members · slogan_jim

Hi Everyone, My name is Slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. This weekend I attended my local regional conference. Unfortunately due to finances, our area will not be having a conference next year :(. That's ok though. One day at a time. After speaking with a friend on the committee, this y...

Ms co-dependent · Ms co-dependent

So back in my pissy pot . Just need to rant ,I'm frustrasted . My 30 day trial seperation from ah husband went sour to me he only gave me 2 full days of peace other wise he was here everyday to drop off Tupperware or check the mail and asked to sleep over so he will( baby sit) our children for me to get to a meeting...

Clou · Clou

My AH of 32 years, who I am separated from for the last 6 months, is heaping loads of guilt on me for his situation. He lives in what he describes as a "crappy" apartment and feels an "outcast" because I filed for divorce and got a court order for him to move out. Our 19 year old daugh...

hope4ever · hope4ever

My husband Jim has an office and we got a new secretary about 2 months ago. Yesterday was the first time I have worked with her. I just answer phones and do very light work since I am more of the receptionist. So yesterday my husband was gone and she first commented on how beautiful and sweet I was, then she w...

Gaby · Gaby

So tomorrow myself my husband and my daughter will be visiting my son in rehab for the first time since he has been in may 9.13.. Please advise on what to say or not to say.. But let me tell you I still carry the hurt and anger and pain that was caused when he was home and its something that I'm working on to try t...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I have a miracle to share--I am sorry for those of you who don't believe in miracles. Anyhow, I am sitting here today w/ a pair of new eyes & I believe that is a miracle! I had the RLE surgery June 4th & June 17th. I have nothing but good feelings about it. Yes, it was scary & yes, I did have some res...

pinkchip · pinkchip

I have an offer to work part time and run sessions at an IOP (intensive out patient). I am leaning towards doing it because it will be a good career experience and I've been talking about wanting to break away from kids and more into adult substance abuse treatment for a long time. Been musing though cuz...

Bettina · Bettina

Even After All This Time The Sun Never Says To The Earth " You Owe Me". Look What Happens With a Love Like That...It Lights Up the Whole Sky.!!! 14 century Sufi Hafiz

newgirl17 · newgirl17

It has been a rough few days. My husband just ignores me. I try to talk to him but he just ignores me He acts as if I'm not even in the room. He is the one who cheated for 2 yrs and I get the silent treatment. I feel so sad and alone. I kept busy by cleaning and washing all day but I feel so alone. I texted a few friends...

Pushka · Pushka

Tonight I'm very fed up with this whole disease of alcoholism and how it affects the whole family. Anyway, it's all overwhelming and I just needed to say that right now, this is where I'm at. Hugs P :)

newgirl17 · newgirl17

The past few days my husband has ignored me. I have carried on with my own business. I have not texted him or called looking for him. Tonight at bedtime he said he needed to talk. He said that he felt we needed a break. That he was ignoring me so I could get used to being alone. He said that he loved me but that he...

Bettina · Bettina

" If your HP shuts a door, stop banging on it. Trust that whatever is behind it , is not meant for you."

newgirl17 · newgirl17

I was supposed to go to a meeting tonight but my ride fell through but I am going to go to one in the morning. My husband has been loving yesterday and today but this afternoon he got his check and it was a very low check (he works on commission). My check wasn't that much either (i only worked 6hrs). He was ver...

Clou · Clou

Today is my 32nd wedding anniversary. My AH and I are separated since January and I have filed for divorce. The last 10 years have been a series of rehabs, periods of sobriety, and relapses. I finally woke up one day and realized that if I did not take the step to leave my husband, I could end up in ano...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi Everyone, my name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. In my spare time I play rec co-ed Ball Hockey and tonight we saw a prime example of a bully doing his thing. I wear glasses and can't wear contact lenses because I have a scar in my eye that doesn't allow it. During the game tonight...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Hi all At the beginning of the week I talked about the movie " Life of Pi " and how I couldn't stop crying and really didn't know why. Now I have learned more about me. I'm still lost and crying once in a while but I think I know what is causing it. For 3 long years I have been caught up in my son's a...

Gaby · Gaby

Today I met some one that opened up to me in just minutes and told me he is an active A and he left his program because he feels he can do this on his own.. I looked at him and said if you know you can then why so many relapses. He cried.. My heart went out to him. I couldn't say anything because at that moment I thou...

PattyS · PattyS

I am so mad right now and I am finding myself berating via text message my 21 year old son in recovery so I decided I needed to go to another place to vent my anger and get some feedback on the situation. My 21 year old is almost 16 months in recovery. We are so proud of the accomplishments he has made. Howev...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Hi Everyone: It's been a few weeks since my AH has been staying in his apt; this past weekend our kids spent the night there so they could be there on Father's Day morning, and that seemed to go pretty well. The kids were excited to stay somewhere new (I think it felt sort of like a hotel adventure to them),...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

I posted recently about going away for work, and being worried if AH would drink during my absence. So, the trip went well for me, but not surprisingly, he did what As do, and is back drinking. So today I tried to communicate my boundaries to him. I told him I needed to know if he was taking this recovery ser...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

Gods grace when we seek it always brings Truth. when I'm judging another person's defects, there are ALWAYS 2 things I don't understand. first, there is always one more fact about that person's life that if I knew it I would have nothing but compassion for them. This goes for my own sick father. God has c...

RoseODAT · RoseODAT

I try my best to only bear "good news" to people. I like to keep a positive upbeat attitude despite it all. Recently I had wrote about one of my best friends from high school which I lost touch with. We are both creative people and upon or reuniting we decided we wanted to create an independent f...

sadsusie · sadsusie

So, I had a busy day. I went to my first church service (a healing service) and had my first communion in over a decade. I went to my very first counseling session. I packed my suitcase and "left" my husband. And then headed to my first alanon meeting. I have been living in crazytown for so lon...

Path to Serenity · Path to Serenity

There was a ''domestic situation'' at daughter's house a couple days ago - new drunken BF went balistic, loaded a shotgun while ranting & raving. Daughter calls me, I tell her to lock herself in bathroom and call 911 -- she's drunk too!! She didn't want to call 911 so I did - was on two phones at onc...

linnylou · linnylou

Hi, I am having a hard time having a relationship with my older sister. I've managed for the past few years by living thousands of miles away, but currently we're both living in our hometown and helping my father at his office. She has been sober for a few months and I find myself becoming increasingly r...

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	Have two kids, pregnant with the 3rd, argued with AH and he left the house (Preview) Hello! This is my first post, i hope somebody can respond. Have been married for 9 years, have two girls, and expecting a boy. AH has been drinking since the beginning, which i didn't notice but with the time it started to get worse and worse. He used to just drink on the weekends, but always go to work. It e...	Venera	8	290	Jun 26, 2013 by hotrod
	Looking for an e-mail/chat sponsor (Preview) Hello everyone! I've been in the program for almost a year now, and have not had a lot of luck with finding a sponsor. I've built a nice group of people I can call in program to chat with - which is great!- but everyone I've asked to actually be my sponsor has been too busy, or had too many sponsees, or not be...	samc	1	406	Jun 26, 2013 by luv123
	TRO granted (Preview) My daughter went to court today on the TRO request against the insane (Ex) BF. He got a lawyer and decided to fight it - why I don't know. Anyway, my son went as a witness and the Judge interviewed everyone in private and decided in favor of a TRO for a full year. The BF started complaining that he still...	Path to Serenity	10	436	Jun 26, 2013 by pinkchip
	So frustrated tonight with the exAH (Preview) I generally don't communicate with the exAH much at all since I have the kids the majority of the time and trade when they get a week off here and there, for Summer I try to share them 2 weeks on and off. So I emailed him and tried to get an idea of what dates could work for him. I did not wait too long, but never ha...	Breakingfree	4	312	Jun 26, 2013 by Breakingfree
	Feeling like such a fool right now (Preview) I had completely given up on my marriage to my AH. I decided I wasn't going to put my life on hold any longer hoping that the man I used to love would return. I filed for divorce 2 months ago and thought that there was no way I would allow him back into my life. The past 3 weeks it seemed like he was finally getti...	scaredandconfused	10	549	Jun 26, 2013 by Bettina
	Reality is Harsh!!!! (Preview) "Reality is harsh, It can be cruel and ugly. Yet, no matter how much we grieve, it won't change our circumstances. What is important is to not be defeated, forge ahead bravely. If we do this, a path will open up before us." Ikeda	Bettina	2	368	Jun 26, 2013 by Jerry F
	God/Church Issues (Preview) Ok, I'm going to warn everyone right off the bat that this is going to be a "venting" post. I was raised in the church, attended faithfully for years. I've been a Sunday School teacher, sat on committees, even chaired some. I've been involved with the politics of the church, sitting in as &qu...	Overcome	6	329	Jun 26, 2013 by grateful2be
	Thoughts!! (Preview) "One of the greatest obstacles to the joy of loving is our desire for control. To master the art of loving is to overcome this selfish desire." Shin Yatomi	Bettina	2	216	Jun 26, 2013 by Bettina
	anothe day, more gratitude! (Preview) I am discovering that days are going well--I am still happy about my new eyes, & I can still walk even though I have arthritis. I have a darn good roof over my head! I am at peace most of the time. My HP is so good to me that I can truly see where my gratitude comes from. He is the way of peace & serenity. I...	Hoot Nanny	0	228	Jun 25, 2013 by Hoot Nanny
	Saying hello (Preview) Long time no post :D. I have been lurking around the board and popped into the chat room a couple times. So I figured maybe it was time to say hello and also introduce myself to the new people and wave hello to my old friends. For those of you who don't know me I got my first taste of alanon here at MIP. My first m...	Mandy123	3	458	Jun 26, 2013 by hotrod
	stuggling with sense of loss (Preview) I am really struggling with the loss of my husband. In a way it feels like he died. He has been using meth for almost 7 months. We are separated. He hasn't been living here for a long time. He says now he has a few days sober but I don't think so. HE has changed so much, he drinks all the time. He is leaner, h...	Rinn	6	286	Jun 26, 2013 by Debilyn
	Hello family (Preview) Its been quite some time since I've been here. I have been working at a new job and it takes most of my energy and time. I miss coming here for meetings and a sense of belonging to a family. My life is the usual train wreck we all seem to share in one way or another. I had learned so much from all of you here but as I...	sirchef	4	306	Jun 26, 2013 by wp
	More prayers please :) (Preview) There is a lot of not good stuff happening, however there is a LOT of positive things going on as well. I am grateful for this group and sooo many other things that have happened. Back to working thank goodness .. was starting to get a little worried about some things. I have exactly what I need at the m...	Pushka	7	368	Jun 26, 2013 by Pushka
	Really feeling emotional!!!! (Preview) Even though I had a great visit with my son and church service on Sunday was great.. and recalling what my son said "mom go be happy" I still have fear. I am trying real hard to work my program and pray to my HP.. Why am I having set backs ???!!! Just so confused and emotional..	Gaby	7	288	Jun 25, 2013 by Hoot Nanny
	AL-ANON INTERNATIONAL CONVENTION JULY 5-7 th (Preview) Hi everyone abbyal here . I am hoping some of you from this site are attending our convention in a few weeks . I would love to meet you f2f if possible . I only know one thing for sure I will be volunteering in the Hospitality Room on Thurs the 4th from 1pm to 4 pm . My name tag will be Louise G. hope we can meet...	abbyal	5	246	Jun 25, 2013 by Tracy
	Just Overwhelmed... (Preview) Hi everyone! Yes, I am here, and yes I have been reading so many of your post and replies. I pull a few pieces from this board every day and try to use them as a point of focus for myself as I go about my day. However, I must admit that I start feeling very overwhelmed by it all sometimes and so helpless to rea...	John	8	504	Jun 25, 2013 by Breakingfree
	Not in Denial ANYMORE...what next? (Preview) This is my first post to your message board and I will try to make this short! I have been with/married to my AH since 2006. We are truly blessed with 5 amazing children-my 3 and his 2, who I love and adore like they are my own. Being my 3rd marriage and his 2nd I was in it to win it w/ divorce not being an option. I...	chamoisdog	6	404	Jun 25, 2013 by maryjane
	The role of Money in Serenity (Preview) Hi all- I love this board and I lurk a lot, but I don't seem to post unless I'm in crisis. And I'm in crisis now. But because of my active f2f Al-anon work, I am more peaceful and rational this time. I'd still like your input, however. My AH drank again last night after 6 months of hard working sobriety. We ha...	crazycatlady	12	616	Jun 25, 2013 by grateful2be
	How Important is it? (Preview) I had a rough day yesterday, my fault really because I answered the phone to my ex A, just not really thinking! Anyway wont bother to relate the detail, but the usual whinging self pity and how if we could just get back together everything would be so great, how everybody abandons him etc, etc, ah and of c...	flinn66	10	767	Jun 25, 2013 by grateful2be
	detached on the outside...fuming on the inside (Preview) Lately I have been able to detach in peace but tonight my husband came home with a hickey on his chest. I was so hurt snd disgusted at the same time. I went to restroom to cry and talk things out with HP. I came out and ignored him.I budgeted to see if it was possible for me to move but everytime I did the numbers...	newgirl17	4	478	Jun 25, 2013 by grateful2be
	Tomorrow night first F2F (Preview) Tomorrow night I am going to my first F2F meeting. I am as excited as if I was going to my favorite music or play or anything magical and wonderful. I've been coming on and off to this board for many months, but now I am more serious. Help from one of you folks made me realize I need the live, human being he...	Lyne	5	211	Jun 25, 2013 by yanksfan51
	What are the actual physical affects of having three glasses of wine a night for a 50 year old woman? (Preview) I am new to this forum and I love it! As a non-dinker and never-drinker, I would love to know what it actually feels like when a 50 year old woman wakes up after a quiet night but one with the consumption of three glasses of wine. I do not want to ask her but would love to know.	ToocaringNY	7	358	Jun 25, 2013 by Debilyn
	Have had a rough night tonight (Preview) My AM came home tonight and started drinking. Her and my dad got into it although I only heard the last of what he said to her which was that she is a zombie (in how she looks, acts etc) and he told me he has a wife who's an A and I have a mother of who's an A. She went to bed without a word. I tried to calm down my dad te...	phoenixmagicgirl	7	538	Jun 25, 2013 by canadianguy
	Daaang!! (Preview) My wife's first leg flight back to her family showed up 2 hours late so after I dropped her at the airport with fond wishes for a safe flight and happiness that she would be at the 1st birthday party for our youngest grand child, a girl, Olivia...I get a call that she called she had missed her flight. She...	Jerry F	8	325	Jun 25, 2013 by Mandy123
	Happiness within the drinkers group of friends vs. non drinkers. Who is truly happier? (Preview) I am in the non-drinker category. Never have been a drinker and I am a 46 year old female. My question is this: Why does it seem drinkers are so much happier than me? Is it true that they are or is just an illusion? There is more to this and I will share as a responses come in. Thank you.	ToocaringNY	15	813	Jun 24, 2013 by grateful2be
	Update in the visit with my son in rehab.. (Preview) We got there right at 1 pm. I seen my son pulling up behind us in a white truck with a huge smile. I smiled back, his little sister ran up and hugged him and then he can up and hugged me and his step dad. He introduced us to others and their families. He said let's go to our church which is in the same area as where h...	Gaby	13	335	Jun 24, 2013 by Gaby
	Needing space to breathe (Preview) So, currently I'm living with my parents, helping them with errands (they cannot drive and people drive a lot where I live), left my job to focus on my children's mental and physical health, my niece ....moved in with us (she is almost 8 months pregnant and husband works in the oil fields.....her firs...	RoseODAT	6	316	Jun 24, 2013 by RoseODAT
	Daaang the second... (Preview) Just got off the email tool sending the airlines a request for repayment of $60.00 which are additional cost for rescheduling her trip. My wife is somewhat over the deep blue's of missing Olivia's first birthday celebration and is back at work until next Friday when we try this over again. She has d...	Jerry F	9	402	Jun 24, 2013 by Jozie
	Flowers (Preview) These flowers bloom for just one day and when the evening comes, they close and drop. But for that one day I can enjoy the beauty.	Cathyinaz	13	608	Jun 24, 2013 by Path to Serenity
	not much to post--just gratitude! (Preview) Hi everyone! Attitude of gratitude today! I am so blessed! How bout you? Kathleen	Hoot Nanny	5	288	Jun 24, 2013 by 1911A1
	Overwhelmed (Preview) I wanted to vent so here I am again. I had been keeping a journal online but decided to delete it. Every time I re-read it, I got upset. My husband was let go from his job a month ago and is having a hard time finding another one. So what do you think happens - yep Heineken and Corona have moved back in. Some...	DebLisa55	8	312	Jun 24, 2013 by el-cee
	made it to a meeting :) (Preview) I made it to my morning meeting :) my husband didn't come home last night. He got here at 6 in the morning. I didn't bother to greet him or ask him questions (he is going to lie about it anyway) I just turned over and fell asleep. At 7 I woke up and went for a morning walk then came home and made breakfast ate and w...	newgirl17	8	349	Jun 24, 2013 by el-cee
	Enabling (Preview) My AH returned from a 30 day in treatment program 3 weeks ago. Since then he has not been drinking but continues to go to bars on an almost nightly basis and drink NA beers. Tonight he is at a bar with some of our friends and I decided not to go because I thought it is enabling and unsupportive of his sobriet...	peacewillcome	10	565	Jun 24, 2013 by Pushka
	A Good Week (Preview) I feel like this week has been a turning point for me. Maybe I am really learning how to "let go and let God". I feel like I have some clarity about my role in this dysfunctional marriage, and I can see how much my actions and reactions have served to perpetuate this d**m merry go round of the dise...	ParisMemories	7	411	Jun 24, 2013 by tiredtonite
	The Lake is Still Poisoned (Preview) My daughter is good at analogies. We were garage sale-ing the other day and as usual talking about anything and everything, usually at least some conversation turns towards the recent past with the ex-A. She said, its like having an open bottle of poison in a lake, you remove the bottle of poison (the A...	likemyheart	3	382	Jun 23, 2013 by el-cee
	Age of Al-Anon members (Preview) Hi Everyone, My name is Slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. This weekend I attended my local regional conference. Unfortunately due to finances, our area will not be having a conference next year :(. That's ok though. One day at a time. After speaking with a friend on the committee, this y...	slogan_jim	2	562	Jun 23, 2013 by hotrod
	Lack of meetings set back (Preview) So back in my pissy pot . Just need to rant ,I'm frustrasted . My 30 day trial seperation from ah husband went sour to me he only gave me 2 full days of peace other wise he was here everyday to drop off Tupperware or check the mail and asked to sleep over so he will( baby sit) our children for me to get to a meeting...	Ms co-dependent	2	228	Jun 23, 2013 by Breakingfree
	Positive steps (Preview) My AH of 32 years, who I am separated from for the last 6 months, is heaping loads of guilt on me for his situation. He lives in what he describes as a "crappy" apartment and feels an "outcast" because I filed for divorce and got a court order for him to move out. Our 19 year old daugh...	Clou	4	342	Jun 23, 2013 by canadianguy
	How to use the program in this situation? ES & H? (Preview) My husband Jim has an office and we got a new secretary about 2 months ago. Yesterday was the first time I have worked with her. I just answer phones and do very light work since I am more of the receptionist. So yesterday my husband was gone and she first commented on how beautiful and sweet I was, then she w...	hope4ever	11	580	Jun 23, 2013 by Breakingfree
	Visiting my son in rehab for the first time. (Preview) So tomorrow myself my husband and my daughter will be visiting my son in rehab for the first time since he has been in may 9.13.. Please advise on what to say or not to say.. But let me tell you I still carry the hurt and anger and pain that was caused when he was home and its something that I'm working on to try t...	Gaby	9	1152	Jun 23, 2013 by Breakingfree
	let the miracles keep coming! (Preview) I have a miracle to share--I am sorry for those of you who don't believe in miracles. Anyhow, I am sitting here today w/ a pair of new eyes & I believe that is a miracle! I had the RLE surgery June 4th & June 17th. I have nothing but good feelings about it. Yes, it was scary & yes, I did have some res...	Hoot Nanny	5	277	Jun 23, 2013 by Peggy7
	IOP - new opportunity (Preview) I have an offer to work part time and run sessions at an IOP (intensive out patient). I am leaning towards doing it because it will be a good career experience and I've been talking about wanting to break away from kids and more into adult substance abuse treatment for a long time. Been musing though cuz...	pinkchip	10	465	Jun 23, 2013 by Breakingfree
	Expansion of Love... (Preview) Even After All This Time The Sun Never Says To The Earth " You Owe Me". Look What Happens With a Love Like That...It Lights Up the Whole Sky.!!! 14 century Sufi Hafiz	Bettina	6	332	Jun 22, 2013 by Hoot Nanny
	feeling sad (Preview) It has been a rough few days. My husband just ignores me. I try to talk to him but he just ignores me He acts as if I'm not even in the room. He is the one who cheated for 2 yrs and I get the silent treatment. I feel so sad and alone. I kept busy by cleaning and washing all day but I feel so alone. I texted a few friends...	newgirl17	9	490	Jun 22, 2013 by little T
	Angry .. (Preview) Tonight I'm very fed up with this whole disease of alcoholism and how it affects the whole family. Anyway, it's all overwhelming and I just needed to say that right now, this is where I'm at. Hugs P :)	Pushka	10	500	Jun 22, 2013 by flinn66
	l don't know what to do... (Preview) The past few days my husband has ignored me. I have carried on with my own business. I have not texted him or called looking for him. Tonight at bedtime he said he needed to talk. He said that he felt we needed a break. That he was ignoring me so I could get used to being alone. He said that he loved me but that he...	newgirl17	11	608	Jun 22, 2013 by flinn66
	TRUST (Preview) " If your HP shuts a door, stop banging on it. Trust that whatever is behind it , is not meant for you."	Bettina	10	842	Jun 22, 2013 by flinn66
	glass half full? (Preview) I was supposed to go to a meeting tonight but my ride fell through but I am going to go to one in the morning. My husband has been loving yesterday and today but this afternoon he got his check and it was a very low check (he works on commission). My check wasn't that much either (i only worked 6hrs). He was ver...	newgirl17	3	364	Jun 22, 2013 by flinn66
	Feeling sad today (Preview) Today is my 32nd wedding anniversary. My AH and I are separated since January and I have filed for divorce. The last 10 years have been a series of rehabs, periods of sobriety, and relapses. I finally woke up one day and realized that if I did not take the step to leave my husband, I could end up in ano...	Clou	10	592	Jun 22, 2013 by Jerry F
	Using my program. Serenity prayer was needed (Preview) Hi Everyone, my name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. In my spare time I play rec co-ed Ball Hockey and tonight we saw a prime example of a bully doing his thing. I wear glasses and can't wear contact lenses because I have a scar in my eye that doesn't allow it. During the game tonight...	slogan_jim	8	467	Jun 22, 2013 by Jerry F
	Lost and don't know what to do with my co-dependency (Preview) Hi all At the beginning of the week I talked about the movie " Life of Pi " and how I couldn't stop crying and really didn't know why. Now I have learned more about me. I'm still lost and crying once in a while but I think I know what is causing it. For 3 long years I have been caught up in my son's a...	Cathyinaz	21	893	Jun 22, 2013 by DavidG
	Fear ;( (Preview) Today I met some one that opened up to me in just minutes and told me he is an active A and he left his program because he feels he can do this on his own.. I looked at him and said if you know you can then why so many relapses. He cried.. My heart went out to him. I couldn't say anything because at that moment I thou...	Gaby	4	395	Jun 21, 2013 by Bettina
	Need an opinion- very angry at 21 year old in recovery (Preview) I am so mad right now and I am finding myself berating via text message my 21 year old son in recovery so I decided I needed to go to another place to vent my anger and get some feedback on the situation. My 21 year old is almost 16 months in recovery. We are so proud of the accomplishments he has made. Howev...	PattyS	12	376	Jun 21, 2013 by grateful2be
	child support hearing (Preview) Hi Everyone: It's been a few weeks since my AH has been staying in his apt; this past weekend our kids spent the night there so they could be there on Father's Day morning, and that seemed to go pretty well. The kids were excited to stay somewhere new (I think it felt sort of like a hotel adventure to them),...	yanksfan51	6	277	Jun 21, 2013 by grateful2be
	Dealing with Reality (Preview) I posted recently about going away for work, and being worried if AH would drink during my absence. So, the trip went well for me, but not surprisingly, he did what As do, and is back drinking. So today I tried to communicate my boundaries to him. I told him I needed to know if he was taking this recovery ser...	ParisMemories	13	900	Jun 21, 2013 by Pushka
	Seeing wrong with others (Preview) Gods grace when we seek it always brings Truth. when I'm judging another person's defects, there are ALWAYS 2 things I don't understand. first, there is always one more fact about that person's life that if I knew it I would have nothing but compassion for them. This goes for my own sick father. God has c...	WorkingThroughIt	6	415	Jun 21, 2013 by Breakingfree
	Changing what I can.... (Preview) I try my best to only bear "good news" to people. I like to keep a positive upbeat attitude despite it all. Recently I had wrote about one of my best friends from high school which I lost touch with. We are both creative people and upon or reuniting we decided we wanted to create an independent f...	RoseODAT	2	346	Jun 21, 2013 by RoseODAT
	Attended my first f2f meeting. my first counseling sessions and left my husband for the night (at least) (Preview) So, I had a busy day. I went to my first church service (a healing service) and had my first communion in over a decade. I went to my very first counseling session. I packed my suitcase and "left" my husband. And then headed to my first alanon meeting. I have been living in crazytown for so lon...	sadsusie	9	476	Jun 21, 2013 by PP
	Made myself laugh (Preview) There was a ''domestic situation'' at daughter's house a couple days ago - new drunken BF went balistic, loaded a shotgun while ranting & raving. Daughter calls me, I tell her to lock herself in bathroom and call 911 -- she's drunk too!! She didn't want to call 911 so I did - was on two phones at onc...	Path to Serenity	11	471	Jun 21, 2013 by Debilyn
	Dealing with Sister (Preview) Hi, I am having a hard time having a relationship with my older sister. I've managed for the past few years by living thousands of miles away, but currently we're both living in our hometown and helping my father at his office. She has been sober for a few months and I find myself becoming increasingly r...	linnylou	3	631	Jun 20, 2013 by pinkchip
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