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Pushka


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Well .. LOL .. I wish that things could have been resolved .. I swear I'm in and out of court so much someone is going to think I'm an atty.  You know it's bad when you are stopped and asked where something is .. I really look way to comfortable in the hallways. 

So bad news first .. I couldn't believe that my STBAX's atty happened to be at court AND I think it was an accident it happened that way .. SOOOO .. he had representation and I did not.  Of course his atty is the king of delays it's ridiculous .. this actually worked in my favor.  His atty keeps showing up to the party thinking he has a whole box of pizza, .. opens the lid and finds out there is only a 1/4 slice of pizza. 

This is only bad because I may be going into the OP hearing without an atty.  I just can't afford mine.  I have facts and that's what my case will stand upon. 

Good news .. the most wonderful news in the WHOLE world .. my EOP (emergency order of protection, think TRO) has been extended .. I am EXTREMELY grateful.  This means that I will have peace until 8/8.  I get to go back to court.  I will be at court way way before that date .. LOL!!

I have a few court dates at this point .. they are all fascinating and interesting and so on.  I learn something new EVERY day.  I actually enjoy the process.  The deputies whom I'm getting to know better than I want to .. LOL .. are really great.  Truthfully, I'd prefer a cup of coffee and listen to them talk shop than having them come out the way they are .. God love them .. they are very very patient with me. 

So delay .. delay .. and more delay .. does anything ever get resolved in a court system?  I'm just kind of whatever at this point .. it's going to be what it's going to be and God is going to open a door.  Honestly the longer he has with a EOP the longer he has to hang himself .. I figure that is just a matter of time ESPECIALLY considering what is coming down the pipe in terms of reality based issues. 

So it was really MUCH more good than bad .. I have been informed of my rights and this will mean me having to research, know some additional laws and so on .. I am hoping to talk to legal aide and now will have more time to do so.  So this is very good for me in terms of my own case and learning what I can and can't do.  I will have to spend some time in the rooms to see what happens and so on. 

We'll just see how it all goes at this point. 

Anyway, BIG giant RELIEF!!  SOOOO grateful with all of the wonderful things that have happened so far .. just amazing things!!  Even if I can't get the 2 year at least my summer and the kids summer will be much more peaceful in terms of NOT having to deal with him driving by and going into a spin over all this stuff. 

I do think that he was under the hallucination that I didn't have counsel so I would be willing to just not say anything and pack things in .. and NOW there is MORE court and his atty did not want to hear that I'm now working .. yea .. go me!!  AND I would be working full-time until August in the middle of July (just for 2 weeks).  It's better for me by far AND I am doing whatever is necessary to keep things floating along.  The look on his face and his atty's face when I said well your honor he has already violated the EOP.  OMGosh .. STBAX bolted out of the court NOT a happy camper.  His atty looked like a deer in headlights in terms of looking at me and how prepared I was for today. 

Soooo .. just keep on doing the next right thing it's all I can do at this point. evileye

Hugs all, P :) 

 

 

 



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Glad things are working in your favor, Pushka. Ever thought of becoming a paralegal? Or a court stenographer? As much time as you spend with attorneys and at court now, maybe your HP is preparing you for something? Anyway - love your sense of humor. Thanks for the update.

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Pushka


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ACTUALLY the whole paralegal thing has been discussed at great deal here and real-time and I keep trying to take classes it's just not working out at the moment. That's ok .. it's either going to be something that happens now or something that happens down the road.

The more I am involved in just my case I think I might have a hard time being reasonable to someone I deemed an asshat in terms of NOT paying their spouse with children and so on. I just don't play well with others when they don't follow ALL of my rules .. LOL.

Anyway, .. I don't know if I have the stomach for some of this stuff .. I would like to be able to help people that is important to me. I am really starting to understand a lot of the system.

Hugs P :)

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Must have missed the discussion about you being a paralegal.  I have to say I didn't have to do all that.  My x didn't contest, didn't hire a lawyer (he wanted mine to represent him, too.  no  As codependent as I still was back then, I probably would have looked for a way for my attorney to do that.  Fortunately, my gentle attorney handled that request well) and agreed to the judge's ruling with no problem.  We didn't really own anything back then other than a bunch of bills, so he probably was glad that I got the house and car we had pretty much just bought before I filed.  Going back and forth through the hallowed halls of justice would not sit well with me.  I'm glad I didn't have to do it.  I'm pretty pointed when I don't like something and have had enough.  I probably wouldn't have made friends with anybody in the court house.  It sounds like you are handling things with much grace.

 

 

 



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Good for you! I am so proud of you for using your noodle! You sound very good too. I like how you are keeping your sense of humor.

Now go celebrate with some cheesecake and sparkling grape juice, no strawberry would be better! hugs, debilyn



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