What A's do I Keep What A's do I dump - Al-Anon Family Group

neshema2 · ~*Service Worker*~

What A's do I Keep What A's do I dump

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

That is totally everyones choice. One persons reason may be different than another. They are still a human being, but they have a horrible disease. Lying, and using are just two of the symptoms of being an addict. They are born this way.

Again its up to us to accept them as is, or let them go. It's not fair for us to judge them, be critical of them and call them names. That only makes us look bad.

Debilyn

tiredtonite · Member

Steps 4 and 5 if worked with rigorous honestly should bring an answer to your question, perhaps a spiritual awakening. I found a 4th step workshop to be very helpful too as well as attending open AA meetings to understand the alcoholics in my life and the disease itself.

When I think of my choice of higher power today, it's a god that loves unconditionally not selectively. Luckily, that higher power accepts everyone as works in progress.

We know alcoholism to be a cunning, baffling and incurable disease which can only be arrested but not cured. It shows itself differently in different people in much part due to other factors - physical, psychological and spiritual. But... "There for the grace of God, go I."

I found it became easier over time to form good boundaries with the alcoholics in my life. You're right.. some are more steeped in their disease than others and our sanity and serenity is worth protecting.

The more I work on my own shortcomings with the help of my hp, the better prepared I am to meet life's challenges and challenging people.

Thanks for sharing. TT

-- Edited by tiredtonite on Friday 28th of June 2013 07:22:32 AM

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