Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

el-cee · el-cee

Medi · Medi

So, three weeks ago I asked my alcoholic partner of 8 years to move out of our family home. I am trying to get on with life as best as I can looking after our two little girls and working. The last few weeks have been a emotional roller coaster and for the last few days I am starting to doubt my decision?? Maybe...

neshema2 · neshema2

I just wanted to stop by and say hello to all of you who have loved me, validated me, been patient w/me with the "daughter thing" and those of you who , even tho my posts were not really alanon, you all welcomed me anyway and would give me some love and support during the hard times....which are u...

el-cee · el-cee

That simple wee card that has those daily little guidelines are so simple and when I read it, think about it and make the effort to live it, my day goes so much more smoothly. I think it costs about 75p here, not sure in US currency but its buttons basically and it can be ordered from the official website.x

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

I am sick today. Physically. Something has been going around. I hate this feeling. Stuck in bed. Cant do anything. Cant eat, Cant exercise. Its a beautiful day out to.My dad went to rehab for the 2nd time on Thursday. I was out, so he left a voicemail saying bye. He was clearly slurring. Great to see hes ta...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

I get a call that I missed.....no message left. I looked up the number and it was from my son. I'm OK but I now start to think its all falling apart. I have no trust only fear. I don't know if it will ever get any better no matter what I do to take care of me. This fear he will not make it will destroy my life if...

Ms co-dependent · Ms co-dependent

Trust nope tell my side of really what's going on here and found out I should not talk anymore . Did not know Alaon played on the other side of the street to at the same time . So my shame my feelings were read by A person who is using my post to gain and take only sourse of help I'm getting thank you for helping me...

qwerty49 · qwerty49

From one extreme to the other. I've said my alcoholic mum can come & stay with me in Cornwall for a 'week'. I only moved here 2 weeks ago, but the plan was always for her to come for a little holiday & she's on her way on the not so express coach (sherry in bag). I actually feel excited about seeing her...

Ms co-dependent · Ms co-dependent

I hope this works not use to posting a link but this was given to me from my sister

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

I hate it when worry and fear creep up and make me feel sick, in more than just the physical way. My AH is traveling for work and has been out drinking, I was able to tell he had been drinking when I spoke to him at 4:30. A few hours later I texted him and we went back and forth and his texts were one word answers...

Ms co-dependent · Ms co-dependent

Today's fight did it . I said this is not how I want to live my life under a dictator . Curfews when I can go to Alaon when I can self help myself . Well today my A said you have a poor attitude I applyed for a job and he said you are not working that shift. I said and why is this ? Because I said no . So I said it's finall...

bud · bud

Every inch an SOB. While I'm still on exAH's "payroll" mandated by court, I thought it would be a good idea to apply for a home equity line in case if needed. I've been applying for steady work and am hopeful that the right thing will come along. I'm maxing out on money because of health care...

Grumble · Grumble

I am beside myself...panic, anxiety and I really don't understand what's going on or what to do. My BF has asked for a break to work stuff out on his own and is talking to his Sponsor, and trying to see a counselor (of his own volition) and is ready to do the work. We had what I thought was a healthy relation...

Mari1978 · Mari1978

I find peace when I am able to put things into perspective. The path I have travelled and where it is I stand right now. Married at 18 and divorced by 21. I was impatient (I have recently acknowledged my impatience in a lot of things)and wanted a family. After I found out I was not able to get pregnant. I wan...

Iwantthingsback · Iwantthingsback

I am going to the book store tomorrow (they were always kind of my get away place for some reason and I don't even like to read that much). Anyway, do they sell Al-Anon material at book stores. This one would be Barns and Noble. I figured while I am there I can start getting some if they don't cost to much. A...

Furkidsmom · Furkidsmom

Hi, I just found this site last night and joined. I hope this site can help me. Here's my story...I had a very happy childhood, youngest of 3 older brothers. No one in my family ever yelled at each other or called us names. I was shocked and devastated when he first did that. What was going on? My Mother d...

Gaby · Gaby

Well yesterday I got a lot of good words from a lot of you and today I said its about me.. My son called me at work today and said" mom I'm parked at this parking lot after I applied for a job and realized today is Friday and this is the first Friday home in months and I truly don't have good friends" &...

John · John

Some of you might remember the video i posted about an ex girlfriend drinking for 6 days and going into a alcoholic comatose state after a length of sobriety. Well, anyways that was about a year ago, and she was in the hospital for 11 days, and in coma for 9 of them. Upon her discharge on day 11, she was phy...

mongowal · mongowal

My AH moved out a couple weeks ago saying he is severly depressed and has had very little contact with me. Following the program and attending f2f meetings. I feel like I'm doing pretty good for the most part. I've been going to my daughters soccer games where the AH shows up and stands right next to me and...

grateful2be · grateful2be

Yesterday, I was in a dentist's chair for about 2.5 hours undergoing a very difficult and to some degree very painful procedure. The problem was due to going to a dentist who told me my teeth and gums were in great shape and that I'd have my teeth the rest of my life. Three months after my last scheduled...

Bettina · Bettina

" Happiness is produced by wanting what you have. Stress is caused by wanting what you don't have. " popsych

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

After the angry emails I sent to my brother, his GF and my parents last weekend I received no response until last night. They make me wait, you know...which only makes each email I send get meaner and meaner... my father said my brother's GF went to the police *rolls eyes* she lives in another state. Her m...

CowtownGal · CowtownGal

I am in a relatively new relationship with an alcoholic and I find myself at a loss for what to do. He's admitted to having a problem, was sober for two years and in the last six months has started drinking again. He regularly attends meetings throughout the week, seems positive about everything and in...

John · John

I am considering making a move to Monroe, outside of Athens... just curious... no decision made yet, but it is a possibility. John

Highlyfavored · Highlyfavored

Most of my frineds and family's children, with a few exceptions, are healthy and successful. Both of my children were cursed with this disease, my daughter is currently very active, my son toned down some with age. I'm invited to go to vagus with 3 girlfriends, well 1 girlfriend and 2 of her girlfrie...

Somerset25 · Somerset25

Hello, I'm a very new Al Anon member (just a couple of meetings) and my wife is in recovery and has been sober for 6 months. Our relationship has deteriorated over the years and recently we had a discussion where she told me she's no longer emotionally or physically "attracted" to me anymore...

Ms co-dependent · Ms co-dependent

Ok this is the deal I will make a promise to my family one because if I don't follow thru then I'm a failure . My simple goal is a routine a list of things I need to do when I wake up . List them 1 ) wake up smell the positive feelings 2 yes I realize I'm different and I like it I'm one of a kind sorry 3 ) I will not rep...

Lyne · Lyne

So this is what I think-that my A is possibly going to meetings, perhaps not staying through the meeting, and/or not paying attention at all. Back in Aug. I saw a bit of positive change in her, but then her job was lost in re-designing her work place. It's been downhill since then with her. She does NOT w...

DavidG · DavidG

About Wilmington, John, and stuff about finding a place of sanctuary and healing. This film clip shows the place where I was given help and hope, in the 1970's. learned a lot of stuff there, mostly about myself- and about aroha, which means agape and Greek. I also learned to cook food in a hole in the gro...

Medi · Medi

I am new to this website but have read a lot about Al-Anon in the past few weeks plus read up about the terrible disease of alcoholism and the effects it has on families and children. I have been with my alcoholic partner for the past 8 years and we have two beautiful little girls (1 and 4 years). I've been th...

DavidG · DavidG

The genie said, "OK. You released me from the lamp, blah, blah blah. This is the fourth time this month and I'm getting a little sick of these wishes. So you can forget about getting three wishes. You only get one wish. The man sat down on the beach and thought about it for awhile. Then he said, "...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

As I sit here I realize that no matter what happens, life as I know it will go on as long as I am on this earth. I am not immune to any kind of difficulties. All I really can do sometimes is have hope. I don't have a whole lot to say today except that I am grateful. I can wait for anything. I don't have to feel the anx...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

After my post from last night, I have to prepare for AH to come home today from his work trip. These are always awkward to begin with so I want to act according to my place in program, if that makes sense. I don't want to lay into him even though I'm angry and I don't want to hear any of his lies but I also don't...

Iwantthingsback · Iwantthingsback

A few things... oh, first... hello :) I am trying to get someone to email me back to see if they have live online chat (voice) on here I cannot tell from reading. I want to attend a beginners. I cannot go to the face to face because they are ALL at 11AM during the week :( I see they do have regular chat, whic...

Gaby · Gaby

I posted I went to go see my son and he ended up coming home with me.. Well it's been since Sunday and he has worked with his Sponser every day also he is now a secretary for one of our local aa places and his Sponser had him helping another young kid detox and once the young kid detoxed my son dropped him off at t...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Thanks for the support & insight & comments you gave me in my current situation. I am looking forward to it being nothing--especially nothing to worry about. I got that surgery 3 years ago & don't want to have to be cut into again. I like the way I look today. Maybe it is a vanity issue as well....

sweeetr · sweeetr

I will exercise all my steps and tools as I do feel and see him brewing up a storm in his world... I will NOT let it rain on my world !! Prayers appreciatted for my calmness and tools to work !!

MickeyLeigh · MickeyLeigh

Hi, I am new to this site but have been learning and gaining knowledge about alcoholism for about 2 and a half years now. My ABF and I have been together 3 years. He lived with me in the beginning for about 6 months. I had to ask him to leave his drunken behavior was making my daughters HATE him. He left...

Arwen · Arwen

New here and just really don't know where to begin but I do feel better already just joining. I'm so frustrated and feel so alone and hopeless!

Milehi-tlc · Milehi-tlc

trying so hard to work the program but fighting my disease every step of the way. Tomorrow morning my AH will be closing on his new home after he filed for divorce in July. He will come the next day and empty half of the furniture from our marital home leaving me and most of the junk behind. He says I have...

bijela · bijela

I hate booze and drugs. They ruin so many lives. My father is an alcoholic and he is such a mean drunk. My brother is a freaking human chemistry lab. I hate him so much. He has been so mean to me throughout my life. I hate that I live with my family because of my stupid epilepsy and health crap. My brother wo...

KathieG · KathieG

I had the opportunity to be a greeter at our Fall Assembly. I was and still am so blessed! I felt so much love from the people in the program. Met new people I can can call friends. just thought I'd post some good.

Mari1978 · Mari1978

I just wanted to sleep last night. I'm exhausted. I was almost asleep when he came and sat on the bed and wanted to talk. I truly am done. I wish to no longer be manipulated and it just makes him more determined to isolate me from everyone. I need to completely let go of what others will be told or what they wi...

Iwantthingsback · Iwantthingsback

I am confused on this. Are they my BOUNDARIES of what I will accept and not accept? I found this on one of the posts. Does it matter what my BOUNDARIES with this? And how do you communicate this to a dry drunk without making it sound like an ultimatum? I am having a hard time finding the right reading mate...

Raven Juniper · Raven Juniper

Some days, I don't know if I'm coming or going. I realize that I am in recovery as much as I wish my ABF would be, and this week I've had a relapse in co-dependent behavior. I can't seem to get rid of the hurt and anger that consumes me, and this weekend turned out to be the "kicker" for me. I can't se...

John · John

Hi MIP folks! Nothing big to write about today. Life is getting rather simple and I like it like that. No drama, just me, my dogs, a bit of work, going to meetings, and trying to stay on top of things financially as we head into the winter season, which is always a rough time for me. Pressure Washing home...

Katytexasmom · Katytexasmom

Ug. Fighting with my hubby...on of my A sons just got fired again. Most likely for the same reason. He's an alcoholic (30yrs old) and is coming back around our business for another 'job' with us. That means we pay him, and his bills but he does next to nothing if he decides to show up. I reminded my husband (...

Rose50 · Rose50

I am angry and disappointed - in that order. I spoke with my son this morning as we were supposed to get together today. He said he had errands to run and would not be available until late afternoon. Well, you guessed it. He never called me back as promised. He had mentioned that the back pay he received fr...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

It's hard when you get an email like this and stay in the real world. Need to see actions not words......and keep telling yourself that CATHY! Let go let God....... Yes, you have to take responsibility recover yourself, but is virtually impossible to do it alone. To each their own - we need to ask seek...

Green Eyes · Green Eyes

Today is the 9 month anniversary of my AH's passing. That in itself weighs very heavy on my heart. The other issue is my AD. Her twin sis is getting married this weekend, and she still is estranged from all of us except for her big sis. Her twin sis tried to reach out to her last week, but my AD has so much anger...

Bettina · Bettina

I have been on another planet for the last week, getting ready for my 50th HS reunion and actually going to the reunion and having a wonderful time. I'm so glad my HS friends on f/b talked me into going. I was having stinkin thinkin toward the whole idea. You know , the committee was made up of the Homeco...

Jen61 · Jen61

It was like a light switch on Monday. From sweet guy to someone I did not like. My husband has been sober for 3 months, with 1 slip. I can usually smell it on it, but on Monday I did not. I looked in his usual hiding places but could not find anything. I know I am not the alcohol police... It was just his beh...

Ms co-dependent · Ms co-dependent

Today I'm grateful for waking up and the suns out and my kids tell me they love me. My kids are my best supporters right now . My oldest came to see me she been staying away because she hates to see me falling apart. I never made it to a meeting like I wanted to . A stated he needed to speak to me very important . So...

Peggy7 · Peggy7

BEHAVIORS FREQUENTLY SEEN IN DOMESTIC VIOLENCE EXPOSED CHILDREN AND TEENS:Easily startled - exaggerated startle responseReluctance to try new things - low self-esteem and lack of confidenceExcessive tiredness - sleep difficulties or nightmares Frequent physical complaints - headaches, s...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I hope I am not being too descriptive in this post. I found a lump in my left breast yesterday--3 years ago yesterday I had breast surgery & I haven't gotten a mammogram since then. I know I am due anyway. So, I go on & wait until I can see my doctor. I am a bit nervous & there is pain there. It seems...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

Because he is an alcoholic, simple as that. I used to toss and turn and try to make sense of it all. Today, I just accept the truth and keep moving forward.

Lyne · Lyne

Now that I am fully out of my denial, I see a side of my spouse I really don't like. This occurred yesterday after a family visit. We went to get flu shots and the first place was closing. It's no big deal, really. I saw a rush of anger taking over this person who had just been calm for several hours. This...

CDK · CDK

Hello all. Good to see you. ExABF and I broke up June of last year. Have had absolutely no contact. Dont know anything about his life at all. Im slowly working my way thru the Steps. I attend CODA mtgs 3 timeds a week with some ACA mtgs thriwn in there. I follow the Fellow Travelor Way instead of sponsor b/...

Iwantthingsback · Iwantthingsback

I had my alone therapy last night, I had a mini break down because after finally being on here yesterday it mixed my emotions up like a smoothly!!! But I feel a little better today. So my consoler and I talked about if I have decided how long I want to deal with this and if I had a time line. I mean how long am I...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

AB wasn't happy about me going away to visit family. (Yes, this will begin with a quick whinge and wtf? about He Who Must Not Be Named but don't worry, it's coming around to me and what I'm doing to feel better and take charge of my own happiness

) Anyway not long after I returned home he barricaded hims...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	A small example of the tools - slogans, prayer and literature.x (Preview)	el-cee	3	2169	Oct 14, 2013 by el-cee
	Trying to get on with life (Preview) So, three weeks ago I asked my alcoholic partner of 8 years to move out of our family home. I am trying to get on with life as best as I can looking after our two little girls and working. The last few weeks have been a emotional roller coaster and for the last few days I am starting to doubt my decision?? Maybe...	Medi	9	546	Oct 14, 2013 by Medi
	Just stopping by to say hello and update (Preview) I just wanted to stop by and say hello to all of you who have loved me, validated me, been patient w/me with the "daughter thing" and those of you who , even tho my posts were not really alanon, you all welcomed me anyway and would give me some love and support during the hard times....which are u...	neshema2	5	462	Oct 14, 2013 by pinkchip
	Just for Today (Preview) That simple wee card that has those daily little guidelines are so simple and when I read it, think about it and make the effort to live it, my day goes so much more smoothly. I think it costs about 75p here, not sure in US currency but its buttons basically and it can be ordered from the official website.x	el-cee	5	410	Oct 14, 2013 by PP
	What is the payoff? (Preview) I am sick today. Physically. Something has been going around. I hate this feeling. Stuck in bed. Cant do anything. Cant eat, Cant exercise. Its a beautiful day out to.My dad went to rehab for the 2nd time on Thursday. I was out, so he left a voicemail saying bye. He was clearly slurring. Great to see hes ta...	slogan_jim	17	561	Oct 14, 2013 by pinkchip
	Called (Preview) I get a call that I missed.....no message left. I looked up the number and it was from my son. I'm OK but I now start to think its all falling apart. I have no trust only fear. I don't know if it will ever get any better no matter what I do to take care of me. This fear he will not make it will destroy my life if...	Cathyinaz	16	544	Oct 14, 2013 by neshema2
	Ouch (Preview) Trust nope tell my side of really what's going on here and found out I should not talk anymore . Did not know Alaon played on the other side of the street to at the same time . So my shame my feelings were read by A person who is using my post to gain and take only sourse of help I'm getting thank you for helping me...	Ms co-dependent	13	695	Oct 14, 2013 by Jerry F
	After horrible arguing i am now ordering her sherry...?!! (Preview) From one extreme to the other. I've said my alcoholic mum can come & stay with me in Cornwall for a 'week'. I only moved here 2 weeks ago, but the plan was always for her to come for a little holiday & she's on her way on the not so express coach (sherry in bag). I actually feel excited about seeing her...	qwerty49	21	568	Oct 14, 2013 by qwerty49
	Good place for this to be (Preview) I hope this works not use to posting a link but this was given to me from my sister	Ms co-dependent	5	278	Oct 13, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	Hate nights like these (Preview) I hate it when worry and fear creep up and make me feel sick, in more than just the physical way. My AH is traveling for work and has been out drinking, I was able to tell he had been drinking when I spoke to him at 4:30. A few hours later I texted him and we went back and forth and his texts were one word answers...	ilovedogs	9	486	Oct 13, 2013 by grateful2be
	Well I did promise a update hot rod (Preview) Today's fight did it . I said this is not how I want to live my life under a dictator . Curfews when I can go to Alaon when I can self help myself . Well today my A said you have a poor attitude I applyed for a job and he said you are not working that shift. I said and why is this ? Because I said no . So I said it's finall...	Ms co-dependent	4	399	Oct 13, 2013 by Bettina
	venting (Preview) Every inch an SOB. While I'm still on exAH's "payroll" mandated by court, I thought it would be a good idea to apply for a home equity line in case if needed. I've been applying for steady work and am hopeful that the right thing will come along. I'm maxing out on money because of health care...	bud	7	310	Oct 13, 2013 by tiredtonite
	Isolation/Space - how do I cope? space isolation acoa ptsd transference (Preview) I am beside myself...panic, anxiety and I really don't understand what's going on or what to do. My BF has asked for a break to work stuff out on his own and is talking to his Sponsor, and trying to see a counselor (of his own volition) and is ready to do the work. We had what I thought was a healthy relation...	Grumble	14	9899	Oct 13, 2013 by grateful2be
	Accepting HP's will (Preview) I find peace when I am able to put things into perspective. The path I have travelled and where it is I stand right now. Married at 18 and divorced by 21. I was impatient (I have recently acknowledged my impatience in a lot of things)and wanted a family. After I found out I was not able to get pregnant. I wan...	Mari1978	5	437	Oct 13, 2013 by el-cee
	Books????????????????? (Preview) I am going to the book store tomorrow (they were always kind of my get away place for some reason and I don't even like to read that much). Anyway, do they sell Al-Anon material at book stores. This one would be Barns and Noble. I figured while I am there I can start getting some if they don't cost to much. A...	Iwantthingsback	12	669	Oct 13, 2013 by el-cee
	New here, Am I in the right place? Need to talk (Preview) Hi, I just found this site last night and joined. I hope this site can help me. Here's my story...I had a very happy childhood, youngest of 3 older brothers. No one in my family ever yelled at each other or called us names. I was shocked and devastated when he first did that. What was going on? My Mother d...	Furkidsmom	16	402	Oct 13, 2013 by islandtime
	My son reached out and I just listened.. (Preview) Well yesterday I got a lot of good words from a lot of you and today I said its about me.. My son called me at work today and said" mom I'm parked at this parking lot after I applied for a job and realized today is Friday and this is the first Friday home in months and I truly don't have good friends" &...	Gaby	11	505	Oct 13, 2013 by el-cee
	Just when I thought life was getting simple and drama free!! (Preview) Some of you might remember the video i posted about an ex girlfriend drinking for 6 days and going into a alcoholic comatose state after a length of sobriety. Well, anyways that was about a year ago, and she was in the hospital for 11 days, and in coma for 9 of them. Upon her discharge on day 11, she was phy...	John	18	757	Oct 13, 2013 by Ness
	Just when I'm doing good... (Preview) My AH moved out a couple weeks ago saying he is severly depressed and has had very little contact with me. Following the program and attending f2f meetings. I feel like I'm doing pretty good for the most part. I've been going to my daughters soccer games where the AH shows up and stands right next to me and...	mongowal	5	449	Oct 13, 2013 by Breakingfree
	The dentist and taking an inventory (Preview) Yesterday, I was in a dentist's chair for about 2.5 hours undergoing a very difficult and to some degree very painful procedure. The problem was due to going to a dentist who told me my teeth and gums were in great shape and that I'd have my teeth the rest of my life. Three months after my last scheduled...	grateful2be	14	592	Oct 13, 2013 by grateful2be
	perspective (Preview) " Happiness is produced by wanting what you have. Stress is caused by wanting what you don't have. " popsych	Bettina	2	338	Oct 12, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	Threats. What can they do? (Preview) After the angry emails I sent to my brother, his GF and my parents last weekend I received no response until last night. They make me wait, you know...which only makes each email I send get meaner and meaner... my father said my brother's GF went to the police rolls eyes she lives in another state. Her m...	WorkingThroughIt	13	614	Oct 12, 2013 by WorkingThroughIt
	New to this and needing some guidance (Preview) I am in a relatively new relationship with an alcoholic and I find myself at a loss for what to do. He's admitted to having a problem, was sober for two years and in the last six months has started drinking again. He regularly attends meetings throughout the week, seems positive about everything and in...	CowtownGal	14	717	Oct 12, 2013 by CowtownGal
	Any one live in Georgia?? (Preview) I am considering making a move to Monroe, outside of Athens... just curious... no decision made yet, but it is a possibility. John	John	2	335	Oct 12, 2013 by AngelicH57
	Need major help in not comparing my children to my friends. (Preview) Most of my frineds and family's children, with a few exceptions, are healthy and successful. Both of my children were cursed with this disease, my daughter is currently very active, my son toned down some with age. I'm invited to go to vagus with 3 girlfriends, well 1 girlfriend and 2 of her girlfrie...	Highlyfavored	9	425	Oct 12, 2013 by pinkchip
	Emotional and Physical Connection (Preview) Hello, I'm a very new Al Anon member (just a couple of meetings) and my wife is in recovery and has been sober for 6 months. Our relationship has deteriorated over the years and recently we had a discussion where she told me she's no longer emotionally or physically "attracted" to me anymore...	Somerset25	7	527	Oct 12, 2013 by hotrod
	Somebody please take my A !!! (Preview) Ok this is the deal I will make a promise to my family one because if I don't follow thru then I'm a failure . My simple goal is a routine a list of things I need to do when I wake up . List them 1 ) wake up smell the positive feelings 2 yes I realize I'm different and I like it I'm one of a kind sorry 3 ) I will not rep...	Ms co-dependent	4	441	Oct 12, 2013 by bud
	A going through the motions (Preview) So this is what I think-that my A is possibly going to meetings, perhaps not staying through the meeting, and/or not paying attention at all. Back in Aug. I saw a bit of positive change in her, but then her job was lost in re-designing her work place. It's been downhill since then with her. She does NOT w...	Lyne	5	406	Oct 12, 2013 by grateful2be
	A place to be myself... (Preview) About Wilmington, John, and stuff about finding a place of sanctuary and healing. This film clip shows the place where I was given help and hope, in the 1970's. learned a lot of stuff there, mostly about myself- and about aroha, which means agape and Greek. I also learned to cook food in a hole in the gro...	DavidG	7	376	Oct 12, 2013 by milkwood
	Have separated from my alcoholic partner, feeling miserable (Preview) I am new to this website but have read a lot about Al-Anon in the past few weeks plus read up about the terrible disease of alcoholism and the effects it has on families and children. I have been with my alcoholic partner for the past 8 years and we have two beautiful little girls (1 and 4 years). I've been th...	Medi	13	808	Oct 12, 2013 by Medi
	A weekend joke... (Preview) The genie said, "OK. You released me from the lamp, blah, blah blah. This is the fourth time this month and I'm getting a little sick of these wishes. So you can forget about getting three wishes. You only get one wish. The man sat down on the beach and thought about it for awhile. Then he said, "...	DavidG	3	263	Oct 12, 2013 by Jerry F
	life goes on... (Preview) As I sit here I realize that no matter what happens, life as I know it will go on as long as I am on this earth. I am not immune to any kind of difficulties. All I really can do sometimes is have hope. I don't have a whole lot to say today except that I am grateful. I can wait for anything. I don't have to feel the anx...	Hoot Nanny	2	298	Oct 12, 2013 by hotrod
	So now what? (Preview) After my post from last night, I have to prepare for AH to come home today from his work trip. These are always awkward to begin with so I want to act according to my place in program, if that makes sense. I don't want to lay into him even though I'm angry and I don't want to hear any of his lies but I also don't...	ilovedogs	11	603	Oct 11, 2013 by milkwood
	Any suggestions??? (Preview) A few things... oh, first... hello :) I am trying to get someone to email me back to see if they have live online chat (voice) on here I cannot tell from reading. I want to attend a beginners. I cannot go to the face to face because they are ALL at 11AM during the week :( I see they do have regular chat, whic...	Iwantthingsback	8	515	Oct 11, 2013 by Iwantthingsback
	My son being home... (Preview) I posted I went to go see my son and he ended up coming home with me.. Well it's been since Sunday and he has worked with his Sponser every day also he is now a secretary for one of our local aa places and his Sponser had him helping another young kid detox and once the young kid detoxed my son dropped him off at t...	Gaby	7	479	Oct 11, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	thanks for the support (Preview) Thanks for the support & insight & comments you gave me in my current situation. I am looking forward to it being nothing--especially nothing to worry about. I got that surgery 3 years ago & don't want to have to be cut into again. I like the way I look today. Maybe it is a vanity issue as well....	Hoot Nanny	3	258	Oct 11, 2013 by PP
	feel him brewing up (Preview) I will exercise all my steps and tools as I do feel and see him brewing up a storm in his world... I will NOT let it rain on my world !! Prayers appreciatted for my calmness and tools to work !!	sweeetr	4	326	Oct 11, 2013 by hotrod
	New here (Preview) Hi, I am new to this site but have been learning and gaining knowledge about alcoholism for about 2 and a half years now. My ABF and I have been together 3 years. He lived with me in the beginning for about 6 months. I had to ask him to leave his drunken behavior was making my daughters HATE him. He left...	MickeyLeigh	2	283	Oct 11, 2013 by Jerry F
	New and lonley (Preview) New here and just really don't know where to begin but I do feel better already just joining. I'm so frustrated and feel so alone and hopeless!	Arwen	9	429	Oct 11, 2013 by Rose50
	Saying goodbye (Preview) trying so hard to work the program but fighting my disease every step of the way. Tomorrow morning my AH will be closing on his new home after he filed for divorce in July. He will come the next day and empty half of the furniture from our marital home leaving me and most of the junk behind. He says I have...	Milehi-tlc	16	677	Oct 11, 2013 by bud
	I hate booze and drugs! (Preview) I hate booze and drugs. They ruin so many lives. My father is an alcoholic and he is such a mean drunk. My brother is a freaking human chemistry lab. I hate him so much. He has been so mean to me throughout my life. I hate that I live with my family because of my stupid epilepsy and health crap. My brother wo...	bijela	3	344	Oct 10, 2013 by Jen
	Service work (Preview) I had the opportunity to be a greeter at our Fall Assembly. I was and still am so blessed! I felt so much love from the people in the program. Met new people I can can call friends. just thought I'd post some good.	KathieG	4	715	Oct 10, 2013 by Jen
	Progress not perfection (Preview) I just wanted to sleep last night. I'm exhausted. I was almost asleep when he came and sat on the bed and wanted to talk. I truly am done. I wish to no longer be manipulated and it just makes him more determined to isolate me from everyone. I need to completely let go of what others will be told or what they wi...	Mari1978	5	420	Oct 10, 2013 by Jen
	BOUNDARIES (Preview) I am confused on this. Are they my BOUNDARIES of what I will accept and not accept? I found this on one of the posts. Does it matter what my BOUNDARIES with this? And how do you communicate this to a dry drunk without making it sound like an ultimatum? I am having a hard time finding the right reading mate...	Iwantthingsback	18	676	Oct 10, 2013 by Iwantthingsback
	Feel like I'm failing miserably (Preview) Some days, I don't know if I'm coming or going. I realize that I am in recovery as much as I wish my ABF would be, and this week I've had a relapse in co-dependent behavior. I can't seem to get rid of the hurt and anger that consumes me, and this weekend turned out to be the "kicker" for me. I can't se...	Raven Juniper	7	549	Oct 10, 2013 by Iwantthingsback
	Just a simple "Hello" to everyone! (Preview) Hi MIP folks! Nothing big to write about today. Life is getting rather simple and I like it like that. No drama, just me, my dogs, a bit of work, going to meetings, and trying to stay on top of things financially as we head into the winter season, which is always a rough time for me. Pressure Washing home...	John	8	548	Oct 10, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	Fighting to hold boundaries! (Preview) Ug. Fighting with my hubby...on of my A sons just got fired again. Most likely for the same reason. He's an alcoholic (30yrs old) and is coming back around our business for another 'job' with us. That means we pay him, and his bills but he does next to nothing if he decides to show up. I reminded my husband (...	Katytexasmom	5	448	Oct 10, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	I'm done (Preview) I am angry and disappointed - in that order. I spoke with my son this morning as we were supposed to get together today. He said he had errands to run and would not be available until late afternoon. Well, you guessed it. He never called me back as promised. He had mentioned that the back pay he received fr...	Rose50	12	644	Oct 10, 2013 by Katytexasmom
	I know I know they are just words (Preview) It's hard when you get an email like this and stay in the real world. Need to see actions not words......and keep telling yourself that CATHY! Let go let God....... Yes, you have to take responsibility recover yourself, but is virtually impossible to do it alone. To each their own - we need to ask seek...	Cathyinaz	22	613	Oct 10, 2013 by Katytexasmom
	Feeling Blue Today (Preview) Today is the 9 month anniversary of my AH's passing. That in itself weighs very heavy on my heart. The other issue is my AD. Her twin sis is getting married this weekend, and she still is estranged from all of us except for her big sis. Her twin sis tried to reach out to her last week, but my AD has so much anger...	Green Eyes	6	456	Oct 10, 2013 by Green Eyes
	50 year reunion (Preview) I have been on another planet for the last week, getting ready for my 50th HS reunion and actually going to the reunion and having a wonderful time. I'm so glad my HS friends on f/b talked me into going. I was having stinkin thinkin toward the whole idea. You know , the committee was made up of the Homeco...	Bettina	6	352	Oct 10, 2013 by Bettina
	Dry Drunk Behavior or.... (Preview) It was like a light switch on Monday. From sweet guy to someone I did not like. My husband has been sober for 3 months, with 1 slip. I can usually smell it on it, but on Monday I did not. I looked in his usual hiding places but could not find anything. I know I am not the alcohol police... It was just his beh...	Jen61	5	586	Oct 10, 2013 by Ms S
	Short update (Preview) Today I'm grateful for waking up and the suns out and my kids tell me they love me. My kids are my best supporters right now . My oldest came to see me she been staying away because she hates to see me falling apart. I never made it to a meeting like I wanted to . A stated he needed to speak to me very important . So...	Ms co-dependent	1	251	Oct 9, 2013 by hotrod
	BEHAVIORS FREQUENTLY SEEN IN DOMESTIC VIOLENCE EXPOSED CHILDREN AND TEENS (Preview) BEHAVIORS FREQUENTLY SEEN IN DOMESTIC VIOLENCE EXPOSED CHILDREN AND TEENS:Easily startled - exaggerated startle responseReluctance to try new things - low self-esteem and lack of confidenceExcessive tiredness - sleep difficulties or nightmares Frequent physical complaints - headaches, s...	Peggy7	7	615	Oct 9, 2013 by Melly1248
	found a lump (Preview) I hope I am not being too descriptive in this post. I found a lump in my left breast yesterday--3 years ago yesterday I had breast surgery & I haven't gotten a mammogram since then. I know I am due anyway. So, I go on & wait until I can see my doctor. I am a bit nervous & there is pain there. It seems...	Hoot Nanny	13	502	Oct 9, 2013 by el-cee
	Why Does He Lie To Me? (Preview) Because he is an alcoholic, simple as that. I used to toss and turn and try to make sense of it all. Today, I just accept the truth and keep moving forward.	ParisMemories	3	443	Oct 9, 2013 by Jerry F
	"seeing " the dry drunk behavior (Preview) Now that I am fully out of my denial, I see a side of my spouse I really don't like. This occurred yesterday after a family visit. We went to get flu shots and the first place was closing. It's no big deal, really. I saw a rush of anger taking over this person who had just been calm for several hours. This...	Lyne	8	597	Oct 9, 2013 by grateful2be
	How on earth do I still misd him? (Preview) Hello all. Good to see you. ExABF and I broke up June of last year. Have had absolutely no contact. Dont know anything about his life at all. Im slowly working my way thru the Steps. I attend CODA mtgs 3 timeds a week with some ACA mtgs thriwn in there. I follow the Fellow Travelor Way instead of sponsor b/...	CDK	6	576	Oct 9, 2013 by grateful2be
	What a weird day for me yesterday :) (Preview) I had my alone therapy last night, I had a mini break down because after finally being on here yesterday it mixed my emotions up like a smoothly!!! But I feel a little better today. So my consoler and I talked about if I have decided how long I want to deal with this and if I had a time line. I mean how long am I...	Iwantthingsback	5	414	Oct 9, 2013 by Iwantthingsback
	Finding light in dark places? (Preview) AB wasn't happy about me going away to visit family. (Yes, this will begin with a quick whinge and wtf? about He Who Must Not Be Named but don't worry, it's coming around to me and what I'm doing to feel better and take charge of my own happiness ) Anyway not long after I returned home he barricaded hims...	Melly1248	35	853	Oct 9, 2013 by grateful2be
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