Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Melly1248 · Melly1248

Well, hello everyone. I've received a number of messages asking if I am OK (I am), or if I am angry, offended or upset by responses to a post I wrote a few days ago. (I'm not). Basically after a couple of days of no food or sleep and miserable feelings, I wrote a post and immediately after, re-read it, decide...

Iwantthingsback · Iwantthingsback

Is the books name "How Al-Anon Works"? And what is the web address to review and buy Al-Anon reading and material? I don't know why I can't find anything on the site........ LOL

DreamsOver · DreamsOver

I just came to work this morning and having a hard time, trying not to cry. I am exhausted. My AS is getting sicker physically, I can see a marked difference in his appearance and right now I am afraid for what will happen to him. I try to stay in the moment but right now I have a real fear in me. My other s...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

One of my friends had been battling cancer for 7 years. She and her husband were faithful Christians, always willing to help others and pray and offer support. She was always a shoulder to me to lean on. We were the same age and our boys (only children) were the same age, as well. While reflecting on h...

bijela · bijela

I have been seeing my therapist on a more regular basis since I've been struggling with the crap with my boyfriend that moved me back to Ohio. It's starting to threaten my own sobriety/recovery. I was this close to calling my neurologist and say "Sure! Go ahead and prescribe me vicodin for the pai...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

My AH announced a week ago that he didn't want to go to his AA meeting because meetings make him feel bad. In the past I would have scolded and threatened, saying he had to go if he wanted to stay married. This time, I smiled and nodded, and said, well, you know what's best for you. And then I went to MY alanon m...

Bobbi · Bobbi

I have typed this first sentence 4 times now..nothing seems to make sense when I put what I am thinking into words. My thoughts are a mess, my concentration is shot. My patience is nearly gone. I came here mostly for a safe place to let it out and hope to rescue my sanity. I'm not sure where to begin. My husba...

Iwantthingsback · Iwantthingsback

Hello all I need to vent and I have issues LOL. The ones who have seen my posts know I am living with a dry drunk. Believe it or not this part is not about him His Bday was Friday and when I got home he was in such a good mood (finally-it has been weeks). He was playful , hugging me, kissing me just acting like t...

Iwantthingsback · Iwantthingsback

Going on day 5 of things have been great, Mr Dry drunk 'xxxx' is sleeping I am not sure what the heck is going on the last 5-days, and I have seen him go a couple months like this so it shouldn't surprise me. Must be things are going well for him at work (he has a very stressful job). We did just get a better nic...

Iwantthingsback · Iwantthingsback

Has several getting them sober books.............. they all look different/ Which one do --- should I get?

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Just realized I have 30 days sober today. Last drink was 9/13/2013 very early am. I don't count days or anything, just looked at the calendar and, epiphany LOL I had to look the word up........here's what I took from it lol Epiphanies are relatively rare occurrences and generally follow a proces...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Good Morning all Sitting here in the hospital waiting to find out if my SO is going to be admitted or go home. A couple of weeks ago my SO hit his nose and it didn't look good. I thought he broke it but he said its just bruised. As I see now he was wrong because last night his face started swelling again and I...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

OK so I am typing & trying to get through the pain! My leg is killing me & I am very tired of the pain. My back has been injured so many times that I guess it is permanent. I turn my back the wrong way & I feel the shooting pain all the way down my leg. Now I am going to have to take it easy this weekend ev...

Tracey C · Tracey C

Yesterday while watching a video clip, the fellow really hit home for me. I thought I'ld share some of what he said here. How can my Higher Power remove my pain when I'm not removing myself from the situation? How can my Higher Power heal my wounds when I'm not removing the person who's causing them?...

Bettina · Bettina

"Alcohol ruins one physically, morally, intellectually, and economically. Alcohol makes a man forget himself; and while its effects last, be becomes utterly incapable of doing anything useful. Those who take to drinking, ruin themselves and ruin their people. They lose all sense of dece...

Ms co-dependent · Ms co-dependent

I got a good night sleep after along days worth of tears and trying to understand this kaos and found out my A has forms of manic in his family and he can see all his behavior pattern now how he been to me but still never said he was sorry for drive ms crazy . That's not important to me that he didn't say sorry a...

Johnny Alias · Johnny Alias

Okay. So firstly I am going to start attending some Al-Anon meetings. My mind is a mess right now and I need help. I've already reached out and scheduled an appt with my old therapist as well... And that's a good place to start... you see... about a year ago I met with my therapist and said I wanted my ex-...

hope4ever · hope4ever

I live a couple hours from my parents and siblings. There is a lot of dysfunction and alcoholism and so I really try and keep my distance from them because it really stresses me out. I am in alanon so it does help me. But yesterday I drove there and got to see my new baby niece and spend time with her. Then I...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

Life just keeps coming hard and fast, but I am doing the best I can to grow through it. I do not like when I feel so over stressed the natural ugliness of my thoughts and sometimes words. I have been short tempered and angry with the stress of kids, school and work, homework studying, life there just aren'...

gofred123 · gofred123

Since my last two posts I have continued to do what I said I would do, and that is support my wife's decision to leave and find her identity However I never knew how difficult it would be, just after a couple weeks. Emotionally it is a rollercoaster and personally I am a punching bag for her. Everyday I...

el-cee · el-cee

Medi · Medi

So, three weeks ago I asked my alcoholic partner of 8 years to move out of our family home. I am trying to get on with life as best as I can looking after our two little girls and working. The last few weeks have been a emotional roller coaster and for the last few days I am starting to doubt my decision?? Maybe...

neshema2 · neshema2

I just wanted to stop by and say hello to all of you who have loved me, validated me, been patient w/me with the "daughter thing" and those of you who , even tho my posts were not really alanon, you all welcomed me anyway and would give me some love and support during the hard times....which are u...

el-cee · el-cee

That simple wee card that has those daily little guidelines are so simple and when I read it, think about it and make the effort to live it, my day goes so much more smoothly. I think it costs about 75p here, not sure in US currency but its buttons basically and it can be ordered from the official website.x

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

I am sick today. Physically. Something has been going around. I hate this feeling. Stuck in bed. Cant do anything. Cant eat, Cant exercise. Its a beautiful day out to.My dad went to rehab for the 2nd time on Thursday. I was out, so he left a voicemail saying bye. He was clearly slurring. Great to see hes ta...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

I get a call that I missed.....no message left. I looked up the number and it was from my son. I'm OK but I now start to think its all falling apart. I have no trust only fear. I don't know if it will ever get any better no matter what I do to take care of me. This fear he will not make it will destroy my life if...

Ms co-dependent · Ms co-dependent

Trust nope tell my side of really what's going on here and found out I should not talk anymore . Did not know Alaon played on the other side of the street to at the same time . So my shame my feelings were read by A person who is using my post to gain and take only sourse of help I'm getting thank you for helping me...

qwerty49 · qwerty49

From one extreme to the other. I've said my alcoholic mum can come & stay with me in Cornwall for a 'week'. I only moved here 2 weeks ago, but the plan was always for her to come for a little holiday & she's on her way on the not so express coach (sherry in bag). I actually feel excited about seeing her...

Ms co-dependent · Ms co-dependent

I hope this works not use to posting a link but this was given to me from my sister

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

I hate it when worry and fear creep up and make me feel sick, in more than just the physical way. My AH is traveling for work and has been out drinking, I was able to tell he had been drinking when I spoke to him at 4:30. A few hours later I texted him and we went back and forth and his texts were one word answers...

Ms co-dependent · Ms co-dependent

Today's fight did it . I said this is not how I want to live my life under a dictator . Curfews when I can go to Alaon when I can self help myself . Well today my A said you have a poor attitude I applyed for a job and he said you are not working that shift. I said and why is this ? Because I said no . So I said it's finall...

bud · bud

Every inch an SOB. While I'm still on exAH's "payroll" mandated by court, I thought it would be a good idea to apply for a home equity line in case if needed. I've been applying for steady work and am hopeful that the right thing will come along. I'm maxing out on money because of health care...

Grumble · Grumble

I am beside myself...panic, anxiety and I really don't understand what's going on or what to do. My BF has asked for a break to work stuff out on his own and is talking to his Sponsor, and trying to see a counselor (of his own volition) and is ready to do the work. We had what I thought was a healthy relation...

Mari1978 · Mari1978

I find peace when I am able to put things into perspective. The path I have travelled and where it is I stand right now. Married at 18 and divorced by 21. I was impatient (I have recently acknowledged my impatience in a lot of things)and wanted a family. After I found out I was not able to get pregnant. I wan...

Iwantthingsback · Iwantthingsback

I am going to the book store tomorrow (they were always kind of my get away place for some reason and I don't even like to read that much). Anyway, do they sell Al-Anon material at book stores. This one would be Barns and Noble. I figured while I am there I can start getting some if they don't cost to much. A...

Furkidsmom · Furkidsmom

Hi, I just found this site last night and joined. I hope this site can help me. Here's my story...I had a very happy childhood, youngest of 3 older brothers. No one in my family ever yelled at each other or called us names. I was shocked and devastated when he first did that. What was going on? My Mother d...

Gaby · Gaby

Well yesterday I got a lot of good words from a lot of you and today I said its about me.. My son called me at work today and said" mom I'm parked at this parking lot after I applied for a job and realized today is Friday and this is the first Friday home in months and I truly don't have good friends" &...

John · John

Some of you might remember the video i posted about an ex girlfriend drinking for 6 days and going into a alcoholic comatose state after a length of sobriety. Well, anyways that was about a year ago, and she was in the hospital for 11 days, and in coma for 9 of them. Upon her discharge on day 11, she was phy...

mongowal · mongowal

My AH moved out a couple weeks ago saying he is severly depressed and has had very little contact with me. Following the program and attending f2f meetings. I feel like I'm doing pretty good for the most part. I've been going to my daughters soccer games where the AH shows up and stands right next to me and...

grateful2be · grateful2be

Yesterday, I was in a dentist's chair for about 2.5 hours undergoing a very difficult and to some degree very painful procedure. The problem was due to going to a dentist who told me my teeth and gums were in great shape and that I'd have my teeth the rest of my life. Three months after my last scheduled...

Bettina · Bettina

" Happiness is produced by wanting what you have. Stress is caused by wanting what you don't have. " popsych

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

After the angry emails I sent to my brother, his GF and my parents last weekend I received no response until last night. They make me wait, you know...which only makes each email I send get meaner and meaner... my father said my brother's GF went to the police *rolls eyes* she lives in another state. Her m...

CowtownGal · CowtownGal

I am in a relatively new relationship with an alcoholic and I find myself at a loss for what to do. He's admitted to having a problem, was sober for two years and in the last six months has started drinking again. He regularly attends meetings throughout the week, seems positive about everything and in...

John · John

I am considering making a move to Monroe, outside of Athens... just curious... no decision made yet, but it is a possibility. John

Highlyfavored · Highlyfavored

Most of my frineds and family's children, with a few exceptions, are healthy and successful. Both of my children were cursed with this disease, my daughter is currently very active, my son toned down some with age. I'm invited to go to vagus with 3 girlfriends, well 1 girlfriend and 2 of her girlfrie...

Somerset25 · Somerset25

Hello, I'm a very new Al Anon member (just a couple of meetings) and my wife is in recovery and has been sober for 6 months. Our relationship has deteriorated over the years and recently we had a discussion where she told me she's no longer emotionally or physically "attracted" to me anymore...

Ms co-dependent · Ms co-dependent

Ok this is the deal I will make a promise to my family one because if I don't follow thru then I'm a failure . My simple goal is a routine a list of things I need to do when I wake up . List them 1 ) wake up smell the positive feelings 2 yes I realize I'm different and I like it I'm one of a kind sorry 3 ) I will not rep...

Lyne · Lyne

So this is what I think-that my A is possibly going to meetings, perhaps not staying through the meeting, and/or not paying attention at all. Back in Aug. I saw a bit of positive change in her, but then her job was lost in re-designing her work place. It's been downhill since then with her. She does NOT w...

DavidG · DavidG

About Wilmington, John, and stuff about finding a place of sanctuary and healing. This film clip shows the place where I was given help and hope, in the 1970's. learned a lot of stuff there, mostly about myself- and about aroha, which means agape and Greek. I also learned to cook food in a hole in the gro...

Medi · Medi

I am new to this website but have read a lot about Al-Anon in the past few weeks plus read up about the terrible disease of alcoholism and the effects it has on families and children. I have been with my alcoholic partner for the past 8 years and we have two beautiful little girls (1 and 4 years). I've been th...

DavidG · DavidG

The genie said, "OK. You released me from the lamp, blah, blah blah. This is the fourth time this month and I'm getting a little sick of these wishes. So you can forget about getting three wishes. You only get one wish. The man sat down on the beach and thought about it for awhile. Then he said, "...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

As I sit here I realize that no matter what happens, life as I know it will go on as long as I am on this earth. I am not immune to any kind of difficulties. All I really can do sometimes is have hope. I don't have a whole lot to say today except that I am grateful. I can wait for anything. I don't have to feel the anx...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

After my post from last night, I have to prepare for AH to come home today from his work trip. These are always awkward to begin with so I want to act according to my place in program, if that makes sense. I don't want to lay into him even though I'm angry and I don't want to hear any of his lies but I also don't...

Iwantthingsback · Iwantthingsback

A few things... oh, first... hello :) I am trying to get someone to email me back to see if they have live online chat (voice) on here I cannot tell from reading. I want to attend a beginners. I cannot go to the face to face because they are ALL at 11AM during the week :( I see they do have regular chat, whic...

Gaby · Gaby

I posted I went to go see my son and he ended up coming home with me.. Well it's been since Sunday and he has worked with his Sponser every day also he is now a secretary for one of our local aa places and his Sponser had him helping another young kid detox and once the young kid detoxed my son dropped him off at t...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Thanks for the support & insight & comments you gave me in my current situation. I am looking forward to it being nothing--especially nothing to worry about. I got that surgery 3 years ago & don't want to have to be cut into again. I like the way I look today. Maybe it is a vanity issue as well....

sweeetr · sweeetr

I will exercise all my steps and tools as I do feel and see him brewing up a storm in his world... I will NOT let it rain on my world !! Prayers appreciatted for my calmness and tools to work !!

MickeyLeigh · MickeyLeigh

Hi, I am new to this site but have been learning and gaining knowledge about alcoholism for about 2 and a half years now. My ABF and I have been together 3 years. He lived with me in the beginning for about 6 months. I had to ask him to leave his drunken behavior was making my daughters HATE him. He left...

Arwen · Arwen

New here and just really don't know where to begin but I do feel better already just joining. I'm so frustrated and feel so alone and hopeless!

Milehi-tlc · Milehi-tlc

trying so hard to work the program but fighting my disease every step of the way. Tomorrow morning my AH will be closing on his new home after he filed for divorce in July. He will come the next day and empty half of the furniture from our marital home leaving me and most of the junk behind. He says I have...

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	Hi all. (Preview) Well, hello everyone. I've received a number of messages asking if I am OK (I am), or if I am angry, offended or upset by responses to a post I wrote a few days ago. (I'm not). Basically after a couple of days of no food or sleep and miserable feelings, I wrote a post and immediately after, re-read it, decide...	Melly1248	22	776	Oct 16, 2013 by hotrod
	How Al-Anon Works???????? (Preview) Is the books name "How Al-Anon Works"? And what is the web address to review and buy Al-Anon reading and material? I don't know why I can't find anything on the site........ LOL	Iwantthingsback	2	441	Oct 16, 2013 by Iwantthingsback
	Exhausted.... (Preview) I just came to work this morning and having a hard time, trying not to cry. I am exhausted. My AS is getting sicker physically, I can see a marked difference in his appearance and right now I am afraid for what will happen to him. I try to stay in the moment but right now I have a real fear in me. My other s...	DreamsOver	8	640	Oct 16, 2013 by islandtime
	A dear friend of mine passed away (Preview) One of my friends had been battling cancer for 7 years. She and her husband were faithful Christians, always willing to help others and pray and offer support. She was always a shoulder to me to lean on. We were the same age and our boys (only children) were the same age, as well. While reflecting on h...	ilovedogs	21	688	Oct 16, 2013 by Mattie
	Dealing with guilt and that annoying "Wait and see" thing. Ugh. (Preview) I have been seeing my therapist on a more regular basis since I've been struggling with the crap with my boyfriend that moved me back to Ohio. It's starting to threaten my own sobriety/recovery. I was this close to calling my neurologist and say "Sure! Go ahead and prescribe me vicodin for the pai...	bijela	3	619	Oct 16, 2013 by Jerry F
	Grateful (Preview) My AH announced a week ago that he didn't want to go to his AA meeting because meetings make him feel bad. In the past I would have scolded and threatened, saying he had to go if he wanted to stay married. This time, I smiled and nodded, and said, well, you know what's best for you. And then I went to MY alanon m...	ParisMemories	6	309	Oct 16, 2013 by Jerry F
	New to the boards and needing to talk, or vent, probably both. (Preview) I have typed this first sentence 4 times now..nothing seems to make sense when I put what I am thinking into words. My thoughts are a mess, my concentration is shot. My patience is nearly gone. I came here mostly for a safe place to let it out and hope to rescue my sanity. I'm not sure where to begin. My husba...	Bobbi	10	543	Oct 16, 2013 by grateful2be
	So completly mixed up................ feeling really mad at myself today! (Preview) Hello all I need to vent and I have issues LOL. The ones who have seen my posts know I am living with a dry drunk. Believe it or not this part is not about him His Bday was Friday and when I got home he was in such a good mood (finally-it has been weeks). He was playful , hugging me, kissing me just acting like t...	Iwantthingsback	10	568	Oct 16, 2013 by grateful2be
	5-day STENT (Preview) Going on day 5 of things have been great, Mr Dry drunk 'xxxx' is sleeping I am not sure what the heck is going on the last 5-days, and I have seen him go a couple months like this so it shouldn't surprise me. Must be things are going well for him at work (he has a very stressful job). We did just get a better nic...	Iwantthingsback	5	452	Oct 15, 2013 by Iwantthingsback
	Toby Rice Drews (Preview) Has several getting them sober books.............. they all look different/ Which one do --- should I get?	Iwantthingsback	6	462	Oct 15, 2013 by Iwantthingsback
	email from my son (Preview) Just realized I have 30 days sober today. Last drink was 9/13/2013 very early am. I don't count days or anything, just looked at the calendar and, epiphany LOL I had to look the word up........here's what I took from it lol Epiphanies are relatively rare occurrences and generally follow a proces...	Cathyinaz	14	612	Oct 15, 2013 by el-cee
	SO in Hospital (Preview) Good Morning all Sitting here in the hospital waiting to find out if my SO is going to be admitted or go home. A couple of weeks ago my SO hit his nose and it didn't look good. I thought he broke it but he said its just bruised. As I see now he was wrong because last night his face started swelling again and I...	Cathyinaz	14	623	Oct 15, 2013 by neshema2
	pain & agony (Preview) OK so I am typing & trying to get through the pain! My leg is killing me & I am very tired of the pain. My back has been injured so many times that I guess it is permanent. I turn my back the wrong way & I feel the shooting pain all the way down my leg. Now I am going to have to take it easy this weekend ev...	Hoot Nanny	4	365	Oct 15, 2013 by Lyne
	Food for Thought (Preview) Yesterday while watching a video clip, the fellow really hit home for me. I thought I'ld share some of what he said here. How can my Higher Power remove my pain when I'm not removing myself from the situation? How can my Higher Power heal my wounds when I'm not removing the person who's causing them?...	Tracey C	6	358	Oct 15, 2013 by Tracey C
	Makes a man forget himself! (Preview) "Alcohol ruins one physically, morally, intellectually, and economically. Alcohol makes a man forget himself; and while its effects last, be becomes utterly incapable of doing anything useful. Those who take to drinking, ruin themselves and ruin their people. They lose all sense of dece...	Bettina	12	644	Oct 15, 2013 by grateful2be
	Denial no more (Preview) I got a good night sleep after along days worth of tears and trying to understand this kaos and found out my A has forms of manic in his family and he can see all his behavior pattern now how he been to me but still never said he was sorry for drive ms crazy . That's not important to me that he didn't say sorry a...	Ms co-dependent	4	341	Oct 14, 2013 by el-cee
	Need to vent badly... (Preview) Okay. So firstly I am going to start attending some Al-Anon meetings. My mind is a mess right now and I need help. I've already reached out and scheduled an appt with my old therapist as well... And that's a good place to start... you see... about a year ago I met with my therapist and said I wanted my ex-...	Johnny Alias	9	504	Oct 14, 2013 by Johnny Alias
	how to let go of the guilt (Preview) I live a couple hours from my parents and siblings. There is a lot of dysfunction and alcoholism and so I really try and keep my distance from them because it really stresses me out. I am in alanon so it does help me. But yesterday I drove there and got to see my new baby niece and spend time with her. Then I...	hope4ever	3	483	Oct 14, 2013 by hotrod
	blah, blah, blahhhty blah! (Preview) Life just keeps coming hard and fast, but I am doing the best I can to grow through it. I do not like when I feel so over stressed the natural ugliness of my thoughts and sometimes words. I have been short tempered and angry with the stress of kids, school and work, homework studying, life there just aren'...	Breakingfree	3	403	Oct 14, 2013 by PP
	Letting go is hard to do (Preview) Since my last two posts I have continued to do what I said I would do, and that is support my wife's decision to leave and find her identity However I never knew how difficult it would be, just after a couple weeks. Emotionally it is a rollercoaster and personally I am a punching bag for her. Everyday I...	gofred123	5	558	Oct 14, 2013 by milkwood
	A small example of the tools - slogans, prayer and literature.x (Preview)	el-cee	3	2320	Oct 14, 2013 by el-cee
	Trying to get on with life (Preview) So, three weeks ago I asked my alcoholic partner of 8 years to move out of our family home. I am trying to get on with life as best as I can looking after our two little girls and working. The last few weeks have been a emotional roller coaster and for the last few days I am starting to doubt my decision?? Maybe...	Medi	9	591	Oct 14, 2013 by Medi
	Just stopping by to say hello and update (Preview) I just wanted to stop by and say hello to all of you who have loved me, validated me, been patient w/me with the "daughter thing" and those of you who , even tho my posts were not really alanon, you all welcomed me anyway and would give me some love and support during the hard times....which are u...	neshema2	5	499	Oct 14, 2013 by pinkchip
	Just for Today (Preview) That simple wee card that has those daily little guidelines are so simple and when I read it, think about it and make the effort to live it, my day goes so much more smoothly. I think it costs about 75p here, not sure in US currency but its buttons basically and it can be ordered from the official website.x	el-cee	5	457	Oct 14, 2013 by PP
	What is the payoff? (Preview) I am sick today. Physically. Something has been going around. I hate this feeling. Stuck in bed. Cant do anything. Cant eat, Cant exercise. Its a beautiful day out to.My dad went to rehab for the 2nd time on Thursday. I was out, so he left a voicemail saying bye. He was clearly slurring. Great to see hes ta...	slogan_jim	17	607	Oct 14, 2013 by pinkchip
	Called (Preview) I get a call that I missed.....no message left. I looked up the number and it was from my son. I'm OK but I now start to think its all falling apart. I have no trust only fear. I don't know if it will ever get any better no matter what I do to take care of me. This fear he will not make it will destroy my life if...	Cathyinaz	16	582	Oct 14, 2013 by neshema2
	Ouch (Preview) Trust nope tell my side of really what's going on here and found out I should not talk anymore . Did not know Alaon played on the other side of the street to at the same time . So my shame my feelings were read by A person who is using my post to gain and take only sourse of help I'm getting thank you for helping me...	Ms co-dependent	13	736	Oct 14, 2013 by Jerry F
	After horrible arguing i am now ordering her sherry...?!! (Preview) From one extreme to the other. I've said my alcoholic mum can come & stay with me in Cornwall for a 'week'. I only moved here 2 weeks ago, but the plan was always for her to come for a little holiday & she's on her way on the not so express coach (sherry in bag). I actually feel excited about seeing her...	qwerty49	21	617	Oct 14, 2013 by qwerty49
	Good place for this to be (Preview) I hope this works not use to posting a link but this was given to me from my sister	Ms co-dependent	5	323	Oct 13, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	Hate nights like these (Preview) I hate it when worry and fear creep up and make me feel sick, in more than just the physical way. My AH is traveling for work and has been out drinking, I was able to tell he had been drinking when I spoke to him at 4:30. A few hours later I texted him and we went back and forth and his texts were one word answers...	ilovedogs	9	532	Oct 13, 2013 by grateful2be
	Well I did promise a update hot rod (Preview) Today's fight did it . I said this is not how I want to live my life under a dictator . Curfews when I can go to Alaon when I can self help myself . Well today my A said you have a poor attitude I applyed for a job and he said you are not working that shift. I said and why is this ? Because I said no . So I said it's finall...	Ms co-dependent	4	446	Oct 13, 2013 by Bettina
	venting (Preview) Every inch an SOB. While I'm still on exAH's "payroll" mandated by court, I thought it would be a good idea to apply for a home equity line in case if needed. I've been applying for steady work and am hopeful that the right thing will come along. I'm maxing out on money because of health care...	bud	7	355	Oct 13, 2013 by tiredtonite
	Isolation/Space - how do I cope? space isolation acoa ptsd transference (Preview) I am beside myself...panic, anxiety and I really don't understand what's going on or what to do. My BF has asked for a break to work stuff out on his own and is talking to his Sponsor, and trying to see a counselor (of his own volition) and is ready to do the work. We had what I thought was a healthy relation...	Grumble	14	10949	Oct 13, 2013 by grateful2be
	Accepting HP's will (Preview) I find peace when I am able to put things into perspective. The path I have travelled and where it is I stand right now. Married at 18 and divorced by 21. I was impatient (I have recently acknowledged my impatience in a lot of things)and wanted a family. After I found out I was not able to get pregnant. I wan...	Mari1978	5	478	Oct 13, 2013 by el-cee
	Books????????????????? (Preview) I am going to the book store tomorrow (they were always kind of my get away place for some reason and I don't even like to read that much). Anyway, do they sell Al-Anon material at book stores. This one would be Barns and Noble. I figured while I am there I can start getting some if they don't cost to much. A...	Iwantthingsback	12	710	Oct 13, 2013 by el-cee
	New here, Am I in the right place? Need to talk (Preview) Hi, I just found this site last night and joined. I hope this site can help me. Here's my story...I had a very happy childhood, youngest of 3 older brothers. No one in my family ever yelled at each other or called us names. I was shocked and devastated when he first did that. What was going on? My Mother d...	Furkidsmom	16	445	Oct 13, 2013 by islandtime
	My son reached out and I just listened.. (Preview) Well yesterday I got a lot of good words from a lot of you and today I said its about me.. My son called me at work today and said" mom I'm parked at this parking lot after I applied for a job and realized today is Friday and this is the first Friday home in months and I truly don't have good friends" &...	Gaby	11	547	Oct 13, 2013 by el-cee
	Just when I thought life was getting simple and drama free!! (Preview) Some of you might remember the video i posted about an ex girlfriend drinking for 6 days and going into a alcoholic comatose state after a length of sobriety. Well, anyways that was about a year ago, and she was in the hospital for 11 days, and in coma for 9 of them. Upon her discharge on day 11, she was phy...	John	18	797	Oct 13, 2013 by Ness
	Just when I'm doing good... (Preview) My AH moved out a couple weeks ago saying he is severly depressed and has had very little contact with me. Following the program and attending f2f meetings. I feel like I'm doing pretty good for the most part. I've been going to my daughters soccer games where the AH shows up and stands right next to me and...	mongowal	5	492	Oct 13, 2013 by Breakingfree
	The dentist and taking an inventory (Preview) Yesterday, I was in a dentist's chair for about 2.5 hours undergoing a very difficult and to some degree very painful procedure. The problem was due to going to a dentist who told me my teeth and gums were in great shape and that I'd have my teeth the rest of my life. Three months after my last scheduled...	grateful2be	14	637	Oct 13, 2013 by grateful2be
	perspective (Preview) " Happiness is produced by wanting what you have. Stress is caused by wanting what you don't have. " popsych	Bettina	2	378	Oct 12, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	Threats. What can they do? (Preview) After the angry emails I sent to my brother, his GF and my parents last weekend I received no response until last night. They make me wait, you know...which only makes each email I send get meaner and meaner... my father said my brother's GF went to the police rolls eyes she lives in another state. Her m...	WorkingThroughIt	13	665	Oct 12, 2013 by WorkingThroughIt
	New to this and needing some guidance (Preview) I am in a relatively new relationship with an alcoholic and I find myself at a loss for what to do. He's admitted to having a problem, was sober for two years and in the last six months has started drinking again. He regularly attends meetings throughout the week, seems positive about everything and in...	CowtownGal	14	754	Oct 12, 2013 by CowtownGal
	Any one live in Georgia?? (Preview) I am considering making a move to Monroe, outside of Athens... just curious... no decision made yet, but it is a possibility. John	John	2	382	Oct 12, 2013 by AngelicH57
	Need major help in not comparing my children to my friends. (Preview) Most of my frineds and family's children, with a few exceptions, are healthy and successful. Both of my children were cursed with this disease, my daughter is currently very active, my son toned down some with age. I'm invited to go to vagus with 3 girlfriends, well 1 girlfriend and 2 of her girlfrie...	Highlyfavored	9	477	Oct 12, 2013 by pinkchip
	Emotional and Physical Connection (Preview) Hello, I'm a very new Al Anon member (just a couple of meetings) and my wife is in recovery and has been sober for 6 months. Our relationship has deteriorated over the years and recently we had a discussion where she told me she's no longer emotionally or physically "attracted" to me anymore...	Somerset25	7	573	Oct 12, 2013 by hotrod
	Somebody please take my A !!! (Preview) Ok this is the deal I will make a promise to my family one because if I don't follow thru then I'm a failure . My simple goal is a routine a list of things I need to do when I wake up . List them 1 ) wake up smell the positive feelings 2 yes I realize I'm different and I like it I'm one of a kind sorry 3 ) I will not rep...	Ms co-dependent	4	484	Oct 12, 2013 by bud
	A going through the motions (Preview) So this is what I think-that my A is possibly going to meetings, perhaps not staying through the meeting, and/or not paying attention at all. Back in Aug. I saw a bit of positive change in her, but then her job was lost in re-designing her work place. It's been downhill since then with her. She does NOT w...	Lyne	5	452	Oct 12, 2013 by grateful2be
	A place to be myself... (Preview) About Wilmington, John, and stuff about finding a place of sanctuary and healing. This film clip shows the place where I was given help and hope, in the 1970's. learned a lot of stuff there, mostly about myself- and about aroha, which means agape and Greek. I also learned to cook food in a hole in the gro...	DavidG	7	418	Oct 12, 2013 by milkwood
	Have separated from my alcoholic partner, feeling miserable (Preview) I am new to this website but have read a lot about Al-Anon in the past few weeks plus read up about the terrible disease of alcoholism and the effects it has on families and children. I have been with my alcoholic partner for the past 8 years and we have two beautiful little girls (1 and 4 years). I've been th...	Medi	13	851	Oct 12, 2013 by Medi
	A weekend joke... (Preview) The genie said, "OK. You released me from the lamp, blah, blah blah. This is the fourth time this month and I'm getting a little sick of these wishes. So you can forget about getting three wishes. You only get one wish. The man sat down on the beach and thought about it for awhile. Then he said, "...	DavidG	3	309	Oct 12, 2013 by Jerry F
	life goes on... (Preview) As I sit here I realize that no matter what happens, life as I know it will go on as long as I am on this earth. I am not immune to any kind of difficulties. All I really can do sometimes is have hope. I don't have a whole lot to say today except that I am grateful. I can wait for anything. I don't have to feel the anx...	Hoot Nanny	2	339	Oct 12, 2013 by hotrod
	So now what? (Preview) After my post from last night, I have to prepare for AH to come home today from his work trip. These are always awkward to begin with so I want to act according to my place in program, if that makes sense. I don't want to lay into him even though I'm angry and I don't want to hear any of his lies but I also don't...	ilovedogs	11	649	Oct 11, 2013 by milkwood
	Any suggestions??? (Preview) A few things... oh, first... hello :) I am trying to get someone to email me back to see if they have live online chat (voice) on here I cannot tell from reading. I want to attend a beginners. I cannot go to the face to face because they are ALL at 11AM during the week :( I see they do have regular chat, whic...	Iwantthingsback	8	558	Oct 11, 2013 by Iwantthingsback
	My son being home... (Preview) I posted I went to go see my son and he ended up coming home with me.. Well it's been since Sunday and he has worked with his Sponser every day also he is now a secretary for one of our local aa places and his Sponser had him helping another young kid detox and once the young kid detoxed my son dropped him off at t...	Gaby	7	522	Oct 11, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	thanks for the support (Preview) Thanks for the support & insight & comments you gave me in my current situation. I am looking forward to it being nothing--especially nothing to worry about. I got that surgery 3 years ago & don't want to have to be cut into again. I like the way I look today. Maybe it is a vanity issue as well....	Hoot Nanny	3	297	Oct 11, 2013 by PP
	feel him brewing up (Preview) I will exercise all my steps and tools as I do feel and see him brewing up a storm in his world... I will NOT let it rain on my world !! Prayers appreciatted for my calmness and tools to work !!	sweeetr	4	371	Oct 11, 2013 by hotrod
	New here (Preview) Hi, I am new to this site but have been learning and gaining knowledge about alcoholism for about 2 and a half years now. My ABF and I have been together 3 years. He lived with me in the beginning for about 6 months. I had to ask him to leave his drunken behavior was making my daughters HATE him. He left...	MickeyLeigh	2	328	Oct 11, 2013 by Jerry F
	New and lonley (Preview) New here and just really don't know where to begin but I do feel better already just joining. I'm so frustrated and feel so alone and hopeless!	Arwen	9	475	Oct 11, 2013 by Rose50
	Saying goodbye (Preview) trying so hard to work the program but fighting my disease every step of the way. Tomorrow morning my AH will be closing on his new home after he filed for divorce in July. He will come the next day and empty half of the furniture from our marital home leaving me and most of the junk behind. He says I have...	Milehi-tlc	16	718	Oct 11, 2013 by bud
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