Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

UNLESS I AM IN FOR A SURPRISE: I AM SPENDING TIME W/O MY FAMILY THIS YEAR. I AM FEELING THAT I WOULD RATHER SPEND TIME W/ STRANGERS THAN W/ THEM. THEY AREN'T REALLY THERE FOR ME ALL YEAR SO WHY SHOULD I CALL THEM, SEND CARDS OR GIFTS THIS YEAR? I HAVE BETTER FISH TO FRY & FRIENDS TO SPEND TIME W/. LAST YEAR I...

oldergal · oldergal

This has been posted before and is worth posting again....Kahlil GibranOn Children And a woman who held a babe against her bosom said, "Speak to us of Children." And he said: Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself. Th...

lgnutah · lgnutah

My daughter has been contacting us more frequently, wanting to talk...and talk....jumping from topic to topic, and unable to listen when we talk. This goes on for a day or so and then we hear nothing for a few days. She can hardly process what we say and we cannot follow her train of thought. She is both...

sweeetr · sweeetr

Does anyone ever build trust back with an ah? He's in his own treatment (funny to even at that... I know that's not possible) I look back and have been in same place last 6 Christmas' God is so against divorce. My ah will not seperate (why would he?) it puts it on me to file and make him leave. But I've got p...

Jessp98559 · Jessp98559

Hi everyone! I am new to this and really contemplated whether or not I should be posting based on my current situation, but I figured it wouldnt hurt to get advice. I am looking for advice from anyone who has or had experience with recovering alcoholics. I wrote a great deal about my background and why I a...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

His father was coming down to visit and give him a gift for Christmas. Can't get a hold of him. I called his phone.....he's bombed out of his mind on something. I'M DONE and I hung up and text him so when he's sober he will read it because he won't remember the phone call I'm sure. I was not nice.... I told...

Gaby · Gaby

Well it's been 3 days now that I have no idea what is happening with my son. Today I again did not go to work. I am so depressed!!! It's really hurting.. BUT I believe he is coherent enough to know what he is doing. His baby's m calls me yesterday to ask me what is going on?? I really have no reason to talk to her b...

mm830 · mm830

Hi, I think after four conversations where A ranted and raved at me we are broken up. I think I am okay, his last words were I want to make.sure we have this crystal clear, f you. So I am going back to sleep, nothing I can do right now I hung up on him several times, but just need some warm hugs. Sorry I know that...

irukan · irukan

I quit drinking almost 2 years ago, and my husband and most of my friends drink (often heavily). I am at the point where I don't want continue to host gatherings where I know my husband and our friends will drink a lot. I also am seeing that alcohol is coming between my husband and I. For us to be intimate, I k...

el-cee · el-cee

My daughter is staying with her Dad at the moment and I asked her if she was coming to mine for Christmas dinner. Well she seemed unsure and she asked me if I would ask her Dad because he was going to be on his own and of course she would feel awkward leaving. So, due to the fact that we had spent some time togeth...

Mattie · Mattie

I came across an account of what it's like to be addicted, written by a doctor who is/was addicted to morphine. I always couldn't help but wonder, "Why does the A not think of his impact on us? Doesn't he see what's going on? Why does he lie like that? Does he even know he's lying?" This pie...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi Everyone, My name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. I need help. I am feeling very overwhelmed right now. I am lost. I have no direction. As an ACOA, I have never had any proper direction. I don't know what I am doing. I feel I am to far gone to have a prosperous, happy future. I am overext...

breamanic665 · breamanic665

Forgive me for throwing myself back into the ocean to drown myself. He has moved out all his stuff except for whats in the garage. I need the rest gone. I am losing my home because I can't afford the bills on my own. I have to be out by the 30th. After he lost this last job, he sought sobriety treatment, and de...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

I was sitting here feeling frustrated, as usual. AH and I had a nasty conversation the other day about this whole house buying thing. Finally I told him that I'd be the one to move out and I will rent because there was not way in he** I was going to sign any papers to take on a second mortgage with him. He ma...

tortuga · tortuga

So our love is gone, our dreams are gone, our pregnancy is gone. I think I have never felt that lonely and hurt before...my self-worth too is at the bottom after all the accusations and name calling. I have done so many mistakes in the past months.... when I once thought i found my way to deal with life and b...

Corgi2 · Corgi2

Thank you to everyone who sent out a prayer to me or sent me positive energy. Last night was the first night in two weeks that I slept through the night! This is such a difficult time for me and just having the power of those prayers was enough to restore my faith. xoxoxooxox

Gaby · Gaby

I need support all the support I can have.. I go to my meetings .. I go to AA meetings to understand the disease.. I get on line to share. I keep in contact with my Sponser.. I just need more support. I feel alone when I know I am not.. The last I seen my son was Friday around 2pm.. I extended myself again to get hi...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

Answered the phone. I knew it was her. When the phone rings and it is her, my whole body sort of slumps and I have to take a few moments to consider...do I really want to do this? Do I have enough to give today? Don't get me wrong. I care about A's mum. She has a loving heart and, unlike any other "mother in...

Jerry F · Jerry F

If anyone ever tries to tell me that we can't have fun when we want to I'm gonna tell them to "keep coming back". The meeting topic was Attitude which I will always show up for and then it was over and the food came out and then the "secret" by number gift exhange/swap and we got kno...

neshema2 · neshema2

I am at work...EVERYONE knows NOT to call me unless it is emergency.....My A brother (my close one) knows my days bc I tell him ea. Sunday, "these are my days....NO calls" I am on my boss's computer working on the G/L making sure accounts are "ok" and no adjustments needed and phon...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Good Morning all The son is on another cycle of drinking or drugs so will this time when he either gets hurt or comes down hard and he starts calling will I stay on my side of the street this time. Last time was my mistake of going to the hospital when I really didn't need to. This is like starting again for t...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

So, every day is not rosey. I guess today could be one of those days if I let it. I am really just beginning my day. Time is going so fast that it is almost scary & hard to bear. But, in recovery we take it a day at a time. I am not an expert at anything but there are some things I do well. I am searching for more b...

Corgi2 · Corgi2

Hi everyone....I am asking for some positive thoughts/prayers to be sent my way because I can't stop beating myself up. I am harder on myself than anyone else in my life. I am especially being hard on myself because I am very vulnerable right now as I go through a break up and an old qualifier is trying to w...

swood31 · swood31

For you that have read my past posts. My worst nightmare came true. My husband (34 years old) died suddenly in front of me on November 5th, 2013. I tried saving him & then the ambulance didn't make it in time. I had already called the ambulance earlier in the night when he started feeling really b...

Dotty2 · Dotty2

My son is coming up on 1 year clean and sober. I am suspecting an alcohol relapse. His behavior mimics old behavior. I detected a smell of what may be alcohol, and today his hands shook uncontrollably for several seconds. Ii know I am powerless, but I am filled with fear that it will escalate. He is on prob...

Gaby · Gaby

So my son left the SLE HOME yesterday morning.. I again went out to look for him why ?? Because I just can't seem to let go.. Yes I found him parked in front of a pond shop.. I pulled in asking I want the car back n he can live his life.. He said NO!! I told him your addiction is out of control he agrees then I said I'...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

The place I'm at now is strange. I feel pretty good but I don't know where God wants me. i mean, I kind of do but I kind of really don't know at all. I'm an Adult Child, Alanon AND an Alcoholic. I fit in everywhere but nowhere. It's weird. one thing I am experiencing is that I am at Step 1 in Alanon. I've been real...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

Dear crazy neighbour. Thank-you for your unbelievably rude (and lengthy) note in my mailbox yesterday, and for the time you took to collect your patronising collection of pamphlets about "responsible pet ownership". I've never met you but I'm told that you are very advanced in age and p...

Tricia911 · Tricia911

What a very long week I have had. I allowed myself to become enmeshed in yet another situation that was not mine to take on. But, somehow I ended up smack in the middle of. Tues at 9AM a neighbor called and said the Sheriff was on the way to evict her. Not a huge surprise to me, she had not paid her mortgage in tw...

Tricia911 · Tricia911

A humble strategy to survive holiday gatherings. (1) Begin by considering what you have, as not the absolute worst thing to have. At least there is something to complain about when we have family.Think of children who survived the Holocaust who have no memories of their parents, or very few left...

Gaby · Gaby

He left the SLE HOUSE.. He is out there trying to get his next fix.. God is by me.. I feel the strength. I have done all I can do. All I can do now is pray !!! But I am so worried. I need peace !!

neshema2 · neshema2

MORE HELPFUL ACA/Al-Anon SAYINGSIf you've been around 12 Step programs at all,you've heard at least one of these.Here's just a SMALL list of some of the sayingsyou'll hear around the "rooms." "When you're home by yourself you're behind enemy lines." "If you share you...

oldergal · oldergal

If you buy a nice gift they will sell it, if you give them money they will drink it....funny, but not funny, I am stumped... og A nice dinner is what seems to come to my mind....

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want!

glad · glad

Came on here and looked up old post because I am so thankful, I no longer have that turning in my gut.. the constant pain that comes with allowing an Alcoholic room in my mind or heart... that feeling I was addicted to like an emotional cutter.... About two years ago.. I literally felt like it was death...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

Dear friends Today is an important day for my A husband. He has an important meeting that could go very well or very poorly. He is so much better than he was one year ago, but the demons are still there. I am also much much healthier, but I still am worrying today about the "what ifs". What if he...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I can't seem to get the nerve or whatever motivation maybe to get some cards sent out to my friends & loved ones this year. I feel like I am always doing this & sometimes getting anxious & even frustrated w/ the whole process. I am doing things anonymously this year though. I am not going to to...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

I just got back from my annual well woman visit. The doc found a mass under my right arm, in the armpit area next to my breast. She said it felt fluid filled, which I'm hoping is a good sign that it's not cancer. She wants me to get an ultrasound and a mammogram. I am already frustrated with insurance iss...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

Things are crazy with finals next week Monday and Wednesday for my last 2 classes, I have passed and am done with the other 2 this week and passed them with A's, but the next 2 are the harder ones for sure. I need all the prayers and good thoughts my MIP family can muster. I have to score pretty good on Mondays...

BeeBee · BeeBee

I have been dealing with an alcoholic Aunt (half Aunt) since I was a child; (I am now 52) and she is 56. She has been in and out of treatment too many times to count, and was sober for almost 8 years and started drinking again about a year ago. She has not been able to hold down a job and has depended on the fam...

Raven Juniper · Raven Juniper

So yeah, it takes a lot of work for me to enjoy this season, especially the past decade plus... My parents and only sibling are gone, and I have very little contact with my older sons, and none with my daughter. Long story short, bad bad divorce and aftermath. So this year, my 2 oldest sons are without vehi...

Corgi2 · Corgi2

Any advice out there as to how people deal with their obsession and control? Can't seem to turn off my brain sometimes and just give it to my higher power. Any tools or coping mechanisms people have learned? Corgi

sotiredofit · sotiredofit

I have been married 19 years and have three children. He used to be a wonderful person. Until he became an alcoholic 4 years ago. I kicked him out a few weeks ago and have started divorce proceedings. We've been through AA and alanon and individual counseling and couples counseling and counseling for...

Gaby · Gaby

So my son moved into another SLE HOUSE. I had to ask him to leave Tuesday morning. It was just to hard to have him at home after him getting kicked out of the SLE APARTMENTS FOR A dirty test. So he found this home on his own an seems to like it. Today marks 5 days clean. My problem is detach, worry and fear. But I p...

glad · glad

He is now with someone like him (and it's weird how happy that makes me, spooky weird) , I now have someone (I am taking it very very slowly with) who is so much like me it's awesome!! really it's odd.. but good odd.. I'm glad for both of us,,, but will I ever stop wishing my ex A well and "holding him d...

neshema2 · neshema2

Hey Paula, my good friend I am hoping that your boss has done something about security at your place of work.....That "near miss" was NOT something u need to be living with...I hope boss took this REAL serious...You are waaaay to precious to be at risk like that... Let us know how you are doin...

kn1228 · kn1228

Hello everyone, I wanted to check in and let you all know I do come in and read time to time. I have been working my program to the fullest I can and today when I lay down I can sleep. It had been years since that has happened. I joined the step board, yet to post but enjoy looking around and am thankful for it to b...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

My AH is still going through with buying a house. I am NOT ok with it. Do I speak my concerns to him or let things play out? If we get divorced, this is a community property state so both houses would be considered our assets. I'm just concerned about losing our savings for now as it would get lost in this new...

pinkchip · pinkchip

At work - I wrote an email about how techs could be doing a better job at a few things. Lead tech responded trying to tell me that it is the job of the clinician to do this and that and stop pointing the finger at techs and be a team player. Um...I feel like I do their job all the time which is understandable in...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

I was looking for some Pod Casts and I came across this. Al-anon speakers..parents talking about their Children and Alcoholism....their stories. http://storiesofrecovery.org/Parents.htm

hotrod · hotrod

Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! Step 7 has been posted to the Step Work BoardHere is the link http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t55900128/step...

oldergal · oldergal

I had an unhealthy relationship with my son, I found that I was blaming myself for how he turned out, although I may have not raised him perfectly but I did my best with what I knew at the time. I latter learned to meditate and started living from the inside out. To me meditation put alot of my life in prospec...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

My Sunday was a day to relax and watch movies. My son texts me that he is out of food and will not have any for 3 more days. I have been reading a lot this morning about stopping the enabling and stopping the recuses NO MATTER what happens. I hurt and feel sad but this has to be done. I can't step in anymore...

el-cee · el-cee

At my meeting tonight the topic was giving and receiving. Sounds nice and just in time for Christmas. I thought about this in terms of my relationship with my son. I give - way too much and he receives too much. I give him too much thought, too much of my time thinking about him, too much of my happiness, wor...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Hi Everyone I have this overwhelming feeling all the time I need to take care of this, I need to do that. I need to help..no I can't do that...and on and on and on. My faith is not strong. I can't let go. I have read any and all I can find on posts about faith. I found a response from Jerry F back in 2011 that w...

John · John

Katytexasmom · Katytexasmom

My son called me tonight and said he's ready to stop! He does not know what to do or how to do this. He was told by his father that I knew of a place he could go. I've heard of a place that works on donations but I don't know anything about them. he has no vehicle or phone (used his dads to call) and wanted to go ton...

Corgi2 · Corgi2

Hi everyone, it has been a very long time since I have been on this site and I am glad to see it is still here to give people the peace and serenity it once did for me. I have been out of a relationship with an alcoholic/drug addict for almost two years and my life became beyond better than I could have ever imag...

Kent · Kent

I am a relatively new member of alanon (I've been to maybe 5 meetings in the last ten days), but I already see the many ways in which it can benefit my life and my relationships. While my mother is not an alcoholic (nor is she an ACOA), I feel like she could really benefit from this program as well. I say tha...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

As I go deeper in recovery and have more to work with, in my tenth steps I see over and over a pattern where I have accepted probably two hundred times in my life, beginning with my parents, where others will point the finger at me and blame me for their own dysfunction, fears and shame. i am carrying the sha...

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	LIFE W/O FAMILY ON THE HOLIDAY... (Preview) UNLESS I AM IN FOR A SURPRISE: I AM SPENDING TIME W/O MY FAMILY THIS YEAR. I AM FEELING THAT I WOULD RATHER SPEND TIME W/ STRANGERS THAN W/ THEM. THEY AREN'T REALLY THERE FOR ME ALL YEAR SO WHY SHOULD I CALL THEM, SEND CARDS OR GIFTS THIS YEAR? I HAVE BETTER FISH TO FRY & FRIENDS TO SPEND TIME W/. LAST YEAR I...	Hoot Nanny	2	298	Dec 17, 2013 by Tricia911
	Your Children (Preview) This has been posted before and is worth posting again....Kahlil GibranOn Children And a woman who held a babe against her bosom said, "Speak to us of Children." And he said: Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself. Th...	oldergal	7	402	Dec 17, 2013 by Tricia911
	A daughter sounded less rational (Preview) My daughter has been contacting us more frequently, wanting to talk...and talk....jumping from topic to topic, and unable to listen when we talk. This goes on for a day or so and then we hear nothing for a few days. She can hardly process what we say and we cannot follow her train of thought. She is both...	lgnutah	8	509	Dec 17, 2013 by neshema2
	Time??trust?! (Preview) Does anyone ever build trust back with an ah? He's in his own treatment (funny to even at that... I know that's not possible) I look back and have been in same place last 6 Christmas' God is so against divorce. My ah will not seperate (why would he?) it puts it on me to file and make him leave. But I've got p...	sweeetr	13	637	Dec 16, 2013 by SerenityRUS
	relationship with a recovering alcoholic (Preview) Hi everyone! I am new to this and really contemplated whether or not I should be posting based on my current situation, but I figured it wouldnt hurt to get advice. I am looking for advice from anyone who has or had experience with recovering alcoholics. I wrote a great deal about my background and why I a...	Jessp98559	7	816	Dec 16, 2013 by Tasha
	I Vented BIG TIME TO MY SON (Preview) His father was coming down to visit and give him a gift for Christmas. Can't get a hold of him. I called his phone.....he's bombed out of his mind on something. I'M DONE and I hung up and text him so when he's sober he will read it because he won't remember the phone call I'm sure. I was not nice.... I told...	Cathyinaz	10	522	Dec 16, 2013 by pinkchip
	Day 3... (Preview) Well it's been 3 days now that I have no idea what is happening with my son. Today I again did not go to work. I am so depressed!!! It's really hurting.. BUT I believe he is coherent enough to know what he is doing. His baby's m calls me yesterday to ask me what is going on?? I really have no reason to talk to her b...	Gaby	4	483	Dec 16, 2013 by grateful2be
	Need some hugs or something (Preview) Hi, I think after four conversations where A ranted and raved at me we are broken up. I think I am okay, his last words were I want to make.sure we have this crystal clear, f you. So I am going back to sleep, nothing I can do right now I hung up on him several times, but just need some warm hugs. Sorry I know that...	mm830	14	488	Dec 16, 2013 by Hoot Nanny
	Anti-alcohol. Another choice? (Preview) I quit drinking almost 2 years ago, and my husband and most of my friends drink (often heavily). I am at the point where I don't want continue to host gatherings where I know my husband and our friends will drink a lot. I also am seeing that alcohol is coming between my husband and I. For us to be intimate, I k...	irukan	9	545	Dec 16, 2013 by abbyalana
	What a lovely time of the year this is!!!! (Preview) My daughter is staying with her Dad at the moment and I asked her if she was coming to mine for Christmas dinner. Well she seemed unsure and she asked me if I would ask her Dad because he was going to be on his own and of course she would feel awkward leaving. So, due to the fact that we had spent some time togeth...	el-cee	9	467	Dec 16, 2013 by neshema2
	View of addiction from the inside (Preview) I came across an account of what it's like to be addicted, written by a doctor who is/was addicted to morphine. I always couldn't help but wonder, "Why does the A not think of his impact on us? Doesn't he see what's going on? Why does he lie like that? Does he even know he's lying?" This pie...	Mattie	8	524	Dec 16, 2013 by breamanic665
	Feeling Overwhelmed/lost (Preview) Hi Everyone, My name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. I need help. I am feeling very overwhelmed right now. I am lost. I have no direction. As an ACOA, I have never had any proper direction. I don't know what I am doing. I feel I am to far gone to have a prosperous, happy future. I am overext...	slogan_jim	12	745	Dec 16, 2013 by mercedes1959
	How I am drowning myself (Preview) Forgive me for throwing myself back into the ocean to drown myself. He has moved out all his stuff except for whats in the garage. I need the rest gone. I am losing my home because I can't afford the bills on my own. I have to be out by the 30th. After he lost this last job, he sought sobriety treatment, and de...	breamanic665	3	525	Dec 16, 2013 by breamanic665
	LOL! I feel like I need to post daily these days! (Preview) I was sitting here feeling frustrated, as usual. AH and I had a nasty conversation the other day about this whole house buying thing. Finally I told him that I'd be the one to move out and I will rent because there was not way in he** I was going to sign any papers to take on a second mortgage with him. He ma...	ilovedogs	13	449	Dec 16, 2013 by el-cee
	Awareness-Acceptance-Action...and Coping with Withdrawal from the A (Preview) So our love is gone, our dreams are gone, our pregnancy is gone. I think I have never felt that lonely and hurt before...my self-worth too is at the bottom after all the accusations and name calling. I have done so many mistakes in the past months.... when I once thought i found my way to deal with life and b...	tortuga	5	880	Dec 16, 2013 by tortuga
	I felt the support (Preview) Thank you to everyone who sent out a prayer to me or sent me positive energy. Last night was the first night in two weeks that I slept through the night! This is such a difficult time for me and just having the power of those prayers was enough to restore my faith. xoxoxooxox	Corgi2	4	270	Dec 15, 2013 by PP
	My son is MIA!!! It hurts.. (Preview) I need support all the support I can have.. I go to my meetings .. I go to AA meetings to understand the disease.. I get on line to share. I keep in contact with my Sponser.. I just need more support. I feel alone when I know I am not.. The last I seen my son was Friday around 2pm.. I extended myself again to get hi...	Gaby	14	514	Dec 15, 2013 by oldergal
	Talking to the A's mum (Preview) Answered the phone. I knew it was her. When the phone rings and it is her, my whole body sort of slumps and I have to take a few moments to consider...do I really want to do this? Do I have enough to give today? Don't get me wrong. I care about A's mum. She has a loving heart and, unlike any other "mother in...	Melly1248	18	595	Dec 15, 2013 by Raven Juniper
	Super Saturday Al-Anon Christmas Party. (Preview) If anyone ever tries to tell me that we can't have fun when we want to I'm gonna tell them to "keep coming back". The meeting topic was Attitude which I will always show up for and then it was over and the food came out and then the "secret" by number gift exhange/swap and we got kno...	Jerry F	6	507	Dec 15, 2013 by hotrod
	Oh no!!! Hes at it again (Preview) I am at work...EVERYONE knows NOT to call me unless it is emergency.....My A brother (my close one) knows my days bc I tell him ea. Sunday, "these are my days....NO calls" I am on my boss's computer working on the G/L making sure accounts are "ok" and no adjustments needed and phon...	neshema2	6	455	Dec 15, 2013 by grateful2be
	Another cycle (Preview) Good Morning all The son is on another cycle of drinking or drugs so will this time when he either gets hurt or comes down hard and he starts calling will I stay on my side of the street this time. Last time was my mistake of going to the hospital when I really didn't need to. This is like starting again for t...	Cathyinaz	5	363	Dec 15, 2013 by hotrod
	every day is not rosey (Preview) So, every day is not rosey. I guess today could be one of those days if I let it. I am really just beginning my day. Time is going so fast that it is almost scary & hard to bear. But, in recovery we take it a day at a time. I am not an expert at anything but there are some things I do well. I am searching for more b...	Hoot Nanny	4	352	Dec 15, 2013 by Melly1248
	Asking for prayers.... (Preview) Hi everyone....I am asking for some positive thoughts/prayers to be sent my way because I can't stop beating myself up. I am harder on myself than anyone else in my life. I am especially being hard on myself because I am very vulnerable right now as I go through a break up and an old qualifier is trying to w...	Corgi2	6	322	Dec 15, 2013 by mm830
	My husband died (Preview) For you that have read my past posts. My worst nightmare came true. My husband (34 years old) died suddenly in front of me on November 5th, 2013. I tried saving him & then the ambulance didn't make it in time. I had already called the ambulance earlier in the night when he started feeling really b...	swood31	33	1136	Dec 15, 2013 by tiredtonite
	Not In Control And So Sad (Preview) My son is coming up on 1 year clean and sober. I am suspecting an alcohol relapse. His behavior mimics old behavior. I detected a smell of what may be alcohol, and today his hands shook uncontrollably for several seconds. Ii know I am powerless, but I am filled with fear that it will escalate. He is on prob...	Dotty2	9	599	Dec 15, 2013 by afglin
	This is a horrible feeling... (Preview) So my son left the SLE HOME yesterday morning.. I again went out to look for him why ?? Because I just can't seem to let go.. Yes I found him parked in front of a pond shop.. I pulled in asking I want the car back n he can live his life.. He said NO!! I told him your addiction is out of control he agrees then I said I'...	Gaby	8	524	Dec 15, 2013 by el-cee
	Waiting for God to reveal more (Preview) The place I'm at now is strange. I feel pretty good but I don't know where God wants me. i mean, I kind of do but I kind of really don't know at all. I'm an Adult Child, Alanon AND an Alcoholic. I fit in everywhere but nowhere. It's weird. one thing I am experiencing is that I am at Step 1 in Alanon. I've been real...	WorkingThroughIt	6	564	Dec 14, 2013 by Jerry F
	Thanks, neighbour! (Preview) Dear crazy neighbour. Thank-you for your unbelievably rude (and lengthy) note in my mailbox yesterday, and for the time you took to collect your patronising collection of pamphlets about "responsible pet ownership". I've never met you but I'm told that you are very advanced in age and p...	Melly1248	18	548	Dec 14, 2013 by sadsusie
	A look back on my week and when I did and did not use my Al-Anon principles! (Preview) What a very long week I have had. I allowed myself to become enmeshed in yet another situation that was not mine to take on. But, somehow I ended up smack in the middle of. Tues at 9AM a neighbor called and said the Sheriff was on the way to evict her. Not a huge surprise to me, she had not paid her mortgage in tw...	Tricia911	6	463	Dec 14, 2013 by el-cee
	My strategy for surviving the holidays. (Preview) A humble strategy to survive holiday gatherings. (1) Begin by considering what you have, as not the absolute worst thing to have. At least there is something to complain about when we have family.Think of children who survived the Holocaust who have no memories of their parents, or very few left...	Tricia911	3	1079	Dec 14, 2013 by grateful2be
	Again!!! My son is out there again.. (Preview) He left the SLE HOUSE.. He is out there trying to get his next fix.. God is by me.. I feel the strength. I have done all I can do. All I can do now is pray !!! But I am so worried. I need peace !!	Gaby	12	583	Dec 14, 2013 by PP
	some Alanon/ACOA sayings....swiped from houstonacas.com... (Preview) MORE HELPFUL ACA/Al-Anon SAYINGSIf you've been around 12 Step programs at all,*you've heard at least one of these.Here's just a SMALL list of some of the sayingsyou'll hear around the "rooms."* "When you're home by yourself you're behind enemy lines." "If you share you...	neshema2	9	696	Dec 14, 2013 by Tricia911
	HMMM....what do you buy an alcoholic/addict for Christmas (Preview) If you buy a nice gift they will sell it, if you give them money they will drink it....funny, but not funny, I am stumped... og A nice dinner is what seems to come to my mind....	oldergal	15	723	Dec 14, 2013 by grateful2be
	quote (Preview) Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want!	Hoot Nanny	4	246	Dec 14, 2013 by milkwood
	Replacing bad memories with new Good memories... (Preview) Came on here and looked up old post because I am so thankful, I no longer have that turning in my gut.. the constant pain that comes with allowing an Alcoholic room in my mind or heart... that feeling I was addicted to like an emotional cutter.... About two years ago.. I literally felt like it was death...	glad	7	639	Dec 14, 2013 by kn1228
	Extra prayers please (Preview) Dear friends Today is an important day for my A husband. He has an important meeting that could go very well or very poorly. He is so much better than he was one year ago, but the demons are still there. I am also much much healthier, but I still am worrying today about the "what ifs". What if he...	ParisMemories	10	341	Dec 14, 2013 by kn1228
	trying to send some holiday cheer... (Preview) I can't seem to get the nerve or whatever motivation maybe to get some cards sent out to my friends & loved ones this year. I feel like I am always doing this & sometimes getting anxious & even frustrated w/ the whole process. I am doing things anonymously this year though. I am not going to to...	Hoot Nanny	6	358	Dec 14, 2013 by mm830
	OT: doc found a mass (Preview) I just got back from my annual well woman visit. The doc found a mass under my right arm, in the armpit area next to my breast. She said it felt fluid filled, which I'm hoping is a good sign that it's not cancer. She wants me to get an ultrasound and a mammogram. I am already frustrated with insurance iss...	ilovedogs	22	715	Dec 14, 2013 by Katytexasmom
	Update on me (Preview) Things are crazy with finals next week Monday and Wednesday for my last 2 classes, I have passed and am done with the other 2 this week and passed them with A's, but the next 2 are the harder ones for sure. I need all the prayers and good thoughts my MIP family can muster. I have to score pretty good on Mondays...	Breakingfree	6	340	Dec 13, 2013 by grateful2be
	Should I feel guilty about this? (Preview) I have been dealing with an alcoholic Aunt (half Aunt) since I was a child; (I am now 52) and she is 56. She has been in and out of treatment too many times to count, and was sober for almost 8 years and started drinking again about a year ago. She has not been able to hold down a job and has depended on the fam...	BeeBee	8	594	Dec 13, 2013 by Tricia911
	Working through the holidays-Upsetting:( (Preview) So yeah, it takes a lot of work for me to enjoy this season, especially the past decade plus... My parents and only sibling are gone, and I have very little contact with my older sons, and none with my daughter. Long story short, bad bad divorce and aftermath. So this year, my 2 oldest sons are without vehi...	Raven Juniper	4	637	Dec 13, 2013 by Tricia911
	Obsession & Control (Preview) Any advice out there as to how people deal with their obsession and control? Can't seem to turn off my brain sometimes and just give it to my higher power. Any tools or coping mechanisms people have learned? Corgi	Corgi2	11	600	Dec 13, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	Questioning everything - just don't know how to do this (Preview) I have been married 19 years and have three children. He used to be a wonderful person. Until he became an alcoholic 4 years ago. I kicked him out a few weeks ago and have started divorce proceedings. We've been through AA and alanon and individual counseling and couples counseling and counseling for...	sotiredofit	10	556	Dec 13, 2013 by sad_dog_mommy
	Need to VENT !! (Preview) So my son moved into another SLE HOUSE. I had to ask him to leave Tuesday morning. It was just to hard to have him at home after him getting kicked out of the SLE APARTMENTS FOR A dirty test. So he found this home on his own an seems to like it. Today marks 5 days clean. My problem is detach, worry and fear. But I p...	Gaby	6	327	Dec 13, 2013 by Green Eyes
	ehh,, it definatly gets better, I wonder how much better??? (Preview) He is now with someone like him (and it's weird how happy that makes me, spooky weird) , I now have someone (I am taking it very very slowly with) who is so much like me it's awesome!! really it's odd.. but good odd.. I'm glad for both of us,,, but will I ever stop wishing my ex A well and "holding him d...	glad	6	682	Dec 13, 2013 by glad
	Pinging--- Paula (Preview) Hey Paula, my good friend I am hoping that your boss has done something about security at your place of work.....That "near miss" was NOT something u need to be living with...I hope boss took this REAL serious...You are waaaay to precious to be at risk like that... Let us know how you are doin...	neshema2	3	284	Dec 12, 2013 by PP
	Checking in (Preview) Hello everyone, I wanted to check in and let you all know I do come in and read time to time. I have been working my program to the fullest I can and today when I lay down I can sleep. It had been years since that has happened. I joined the step board, yet to post but enjoy looking around and am thankful for it to b...	kn1228	4	297	Dec 12, 2013 by kn1228
	Quick; need advice (Preview) My AH is still going through with buying a house. I am NOT ok with it. Do I speak my concerns to him or let things play out? If we get divorced, this is a community property state so both houses would be considered our assets. I'm just concerned about losing our savings for now as it would get lost in this new...	ilovedogs	13	790	Dec 12, 2013 by PP
	Praying for restraint of tongue (Preview) At work - I wrote an email about how techs could be doing a better job at a few things. Lead tech responded trying to tell me that it is the job of the clinician to do this and that and stop pointing the finger at techs and be a team player. Um...I feel like I do their job all the time which is understandable in...	pinkchip	14	612	Dec 12, 2013 by Breakingfree
	Stories of Recovery (Preview) I was looking for some Pod Casts and I came across this. Al-anon speakers..parents talking about their Children and Alcoholism....their stories. http://storiesofrecovery.org/Parents.htm	Cathyinaz	4	2879	Dec 12, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	Step 7 (Preview) Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! Step 7 has been posted to the Step Work BoardHere is the link http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t55900128/step...	hotrod	0	302	Dec 12, 2013 by hotrod
	Blaming Yourself (Preview) I had an unhealthy relationship with my son, I found that I was blaming myself for how he turned out, although I may have not raised him perfectly but I did my best with what I knew at the time. I latter learned to meditate and started living from the inside out. To me meditation put alot of my life in prospec...	oldergal	12	627	Dec 12, 2013 by el-cee
	I hurt (Preview) My Sunday was a day to relax and watch movies. My son texts me that he is out of food and will not have any for 3 more days. I have been reading a lot this morning about stopping the enabling and stopping the recuses NO MATTER what happens. I hurt and feel sad but this has to be done. I can't step in anymore...	Cathyinaz	22	736	Dec 12, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	Giving and Receiving (Preview) At my meeting tonight the topic was giving and receiving. Sounds nice and just in time for Christmas. I thought about this in terms of my relationship with my son. I give - way too much and he receives too much. I give him too much thought, too much of my time thinking about him, too much of my happiness, wor...	el-cee	4	561	Dec 12, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	Looking Up Faith (Preview) Hi Everyone I have this overwhelming feeling all the time I need to take care of this, I need to do that. I need to help..no I can't do that...and on and on and on. My faith is not strong. I can't let go. I have read any and all I can find on posts about faith. I found a response from Jerry F back in 2011 that w...	Cathyinaz	18	649	Dec 12, 2013 by Sweet Stanley
	Kudo's to our Service Workers! (Preview)	John	9	561	Dec 12, 2013 by PP
	OMG. HE WANTS TO GO TO TREATMENT! Now what??? HELP (Preview) My son called me tonight and said he's ready to stop! He does not know what to do or how to do this. He was told by his father that I knew of a place he could go. I've heard of a place that works on donations but I don't know anything about them. he has no vehicle or phone (used his dads to call) and wanted to go ton...	Katytexasmom	16	696	Dec 11, 2013 by grateful2be
	Old feelings of panic (Preview) Hi everyone, it has been a very long time since I have been on this site and I am glad to see it is still here to give people the peace and serenity it once did for me. I have been out of a relationship with an alcoholic/drug addict for almost two years and my life became beyond better than I could have ever imag...	Corgi2	5	464	Dec 11, 2013 by Corgi2
	Codependence and Detachment for a Newbie (Preview) I am a relatively new member of alanon (I've been to maybe 5 meetings in the last ten days), but I already see the many ways in which it can benefit my life and my relationships. While my mother is not an alcoholic (nor is she an ACOA), I feel like she could really benefit from this program as well. I say tha...	Kent	6	653	Dec 11, 2013 by el-cee
	Blame and Finger Pointing (Preview) As I go deeper in recovery and have more to work with, in my tenth steps I see over and over a pattern where I have accepted probably two hundred times in my life, beginning with my parents, where others will point the finger at me and blame me for their own dysfunction, fears and shame. i am carrying the sha...	WorkingThroughIt	8	548	Dec 11, 2013 by grateful2be
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