Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Wisdom67 · Wisdom67

Ok I'm in a state of confusion and this is real. I'm starting to question how far I should stay on my side of the street . I been very good up stair minding my own self I started to read step 1 again because some of me are not getting it right. I forgot my serenity pray . I do have great gaps of memory loss . I see my t...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I was thinking about the lessons of the last week .. there have been many. I'm just trying to keep doing the next right thing. It's not always easy and I'm trying to do things on my own which is good just hard at times. I'm still in toddler mode running before I can walk kind of deal. I really want to run an...

Saleschic721 · Saleschic721

I am new to this board and grateful that it is here. My alcoholic boyfriend and I broke up in early January after a year and a half together...most of which we lived together. He is a daily drinker of moderately expensive red wine. He starts drinking pinot noir upon waking in the morning and doesn't s...

kat42 · kat42

I am having such a hard time with this... this past Sept my AH driving blasted at 6 pm and me crying on the phone as I was trying to figure out where he was pushed is to a different point in things. I started going to al anon immediately when I avoided it like the plague for the years before. He started to go to A...

oldergal · oldergal

In ancient times, a King had a boulder placed on a roadway. Then he hid himself and watched to see if anyone would remove the huge rock. Some of the King's' wealthiest merchants and courtiers came by and simply walked around it.. Many loudly blamed the King for not keeping the roads clear, but none did an...

Jen61 · Jen61

I think I finally get it with detachment. It has taken me a long time but hopefully I am close. I like to go on YouTube.com and type in alcoholism, denial of alcoholism, stories of alcoholics, treatments, etc. I find a lot of valuable information doing this. I was on YouTube for a couple of hours yest...

Jerry F · Jerry F

or the compulsion to cry over it. I've mentioned that my eldest son has relapsed and its been a while since. Denial and the tricks which come with it have kept it under the rug until the problem became too large and the rug too small. The entire family...including my wife and I are invloved. My wife...

hopes314 · hopes314

I have been going to alnon since March. I have been growing everyday from the experience. I am having a hard time with trust. I do not trust my aa at all. He stopped drinking in Nov, but really I don't know since he moved out of state to his new job. How can have a relationship without trust. I am trying to re...

el-cee · el-cee

I have been thinking about how Alanon works. Is it possible to recover without face to face meetings? Are these on line facilities enough? Are they add ons, or supplementary?

Raven Juniper · Raven Juniper

I'm curious as to how many of the fine people on here experience feelings of rejection (real or imagined) and how you've dealt or deal with it. I seem to be better at dealing with anger than my negative self-talk and perceptions. Sometimes I even start feeling rejected here...and then I wonder where th...

frustratedteengirl · frustratedteengirl

Hi there, I have an alcoholic mother and after recently visiting home I have been struggling with the deteriorating situation and was wondering if anyone on here went to the Inverness al-anon group at new craigs on saturday? Do I need to call up in advance or just turn up? Kind Regards ...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am so sorry to have to post this. My mom is not telling me things I think I would like to know before she does them. Is it too much to ask? She started w/ not telling me that she was sending her car down to CA where my relatives are for my niece. I knew that she was going to do it but I had to find out on FB the day it wa...

frustratedteengirl · frustratedteengirl

Well, this forum is very new to me and I'm not sure what I'm doing, so please bear with me xx I am a 17 yr old girl and my mother is an alcoholic. Now, this may seem horrendous since she has medical issues, and I am supposed to be caring, but.... I hold so much resentment against her, I couldn't care less if she d...

Pipi · Pipi

Hello everyone, I'm new to this forum, not to the subject. My bf is with the AA for the 8th month. We've got ups and downs. He's got his moods - before drinking, during drinking, now... emotions.. they affect our relationship the most. It may be rooted in his childhood, the insecurity, low or no self-est...

grateful2be · grateful2be

Hi all. As you know, I went to be with my Dad and got stranded in a motel room for more than a week. Yesterday, I was struggling with anxiety because the weather report for today and beyond it was more snow and blowing and drifting snow. Today, I awakened, did what I normally do for my program work, watch...

Debilyn · Debilyn

Want to keep this simple. The man I consider a friend became more as you know. Then things changed in his life so he could not continue our plans to meet and hopefully be a couple. I shared my pain here. You guys were real and told me the raw hurting truths. I know now I should have said ok sounds great, but go a...

breamanic665 · breamanic665

So after so many manipulations, I caved and answered the phone when my ex ABF called. (Via text) First it was poor me, and my absent father called me today. Then when that didnt work it was anger! Im coming for my bed! Then when that didnt work it was overly concerned for my safety time... and finally I answ...

Miamamamia · Miamamamia

I watch the clock and wonder what will it be tonight? Dinner is ready, the house is clean, things are put away, Ohhh shoot it's 4:30 and the back deck and driveway have not been shoveled, I throw his coat on, boots and mittens, I know I don't have time to do it all but if I get a good part of the deck done at least...

hotrod · hotrod

http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t56556147/alanon-step-11/

tsuthe1 · tsuthe1

Thanks everyone for responding during this time. Whats hard about all this is the trust is gone. How do you ever build that again? Now he's going to AA meetings, said he was sorry. Even is recognizing he needs treatment. But what really pisses me off, is this is all about HIM. And what he needs. Never mi...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Yesterday I had an urge to go to the open AA meeting I do attend and really enjoy. It's at 7am, so being there is a choice especially when the weather is the way it has been in the recent weeks there is nothing like 32 degrees feeling like a heat wave!! LOL .. it won't last and that's ok .. still .. it was somet...

hopes314 · hopes314

I feel so tiny against this disease. i don't know how to be me anymore. It seems like I am to change so i don't step on the alcoholic toes. I feel so lost. I know this is what I feel in the moment. i do have a sponsor that has helped me so long. It took months to get pass denial. I go to meetings and I want to...

Wisdom67 · Wisdom67

Hello I'm just checking in I'm hoping to attend a meeting tonight I need some positive energy . My depresstion has lighten up a bit. I took time off of reading Alaon books and just searching for me. I was hoping after 4 months of no insurance and no medication things woukd get better it seams things take a t...

tsuthe1 · tsuthe1

I am new to this. Just found my husbands stash hes been hiding for over 2 years. Tons of vodka, beer and even a porn video. I;m devastated. We have been married for almost 26 years coming May. I am beyond angry, and deeply saddened. Feel as if 1/2 my life has been a phasod. I;m numb.Cant feel my hands. I moved...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Very excited today I apply for the job I'm currently working, everyone is glad I am back. The hours would be really great it will open some other opportunities for me in terms of trying school again now that it's not so crazy. So wish me luck .. interview is today! I have court Thursday .. oh the joys of m...

grateful2be · grateful2be

Hello, all. My Dad was transferred from the hospital to a skilled nursing facility on Wednesday - not far from the pile up on the interstate on Thursday. Due to continued snowdrifts, visibility, ice and snow covered roads and the urging of law enforcement to stay off the roads - plus the long distan...

Akavanagh · Akavanagh

And I'm still needing some answers, help, anything. I'm planning on going to more meetings because i feel they can really help me, but for now, i would like to hear from some veterans on some advice to get me through the week. Some background info is, I was with my boyfriend for 2 years, we broke up for a ye...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

AH got some bad news today and I worry that it will be the trigger or excuse for him to drink again. He is so sad, and it breaks my heart to see him this way. Unlike past situations though, I am keeping the focus on me, being supportive but not controlling, taking care of my needs first. Please keep us both in y...

imom · imom

So after years of living with his addiction, it was a year ago that I filed for divorce. It turned out that was his rock bottom because he finally got clean and sober so he wouldn't lose his family. We separated for about 6 or seven months and he was homeless when he wasn't in rehab. Anyway, I ended up taki...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Good Morning Everyone Yesterday was a down day for me. So down I was at a point I was thinking I just didn't want to live. I am tired of my life. I'm OK today at least. Why am I thinking like this I do not know. I'm not suicidal but I sometimes just feel like I'm so tired I just want it to go away. I know I nee...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am going to make this quick really I am! My cousin was in a hospital for a week. You all might figure out what kind of hospital. She finally after the week was past she told me where she was & that she wasn't in just any hospital. I am feeling better. I figure it must have been the molasses. It was in my sys...

Miamamamia · Miamamamia

So confused !! So here I am almost a week with you guys and a bit more with my f2f meetings, I find this site very uplifting, and have met and had some great conversations in the chat room, however I am still so lost as to finding out if I am in the right place, I'm not happy, I have not been happy for years, live i...

abbyalana · abbyalana

I don't know about you but I've been feeling very disheartened lately. My efforts in finding a second job over the past four months feel in vain - not one call back. The financial fallout from the divorce is forcing me to file bankruptcy this year - very disappointing. My efforts in finding a roommat...

mercedes1959 · mercedes1959

Thank you John for coming in and chairing. Robin ks

Beatrice · Beatrice

Respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that no longer serves you, grows you, or makes you happy. If you aren't being treated with Love and Respect, check your price tag. Maybe you marked yourself down. Get off the clearance rack and get behind the glass where they keep the valuables !...

bethinks · bethinks

Hi! My 71 year old Mom has been married to her 70 year old husband for 11 years. During this 11 years she has kicked him out 4 different times, each time telling my sister and I that she is done with his drinking. Two times she has kicked him out were after 2 very serious health issues, when he would never b...

Kerrymom · Kerrymom

Does anyone have experience with custody issues when the alcoholic hasn't had any public consequences (DUI, etc). we have two young children, one just a few months old, I can't trust him now with the kids and am scared joint custody will be enforced. With no "proof" it would be just my word...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I don't mean to be this way but I feel so sick I feel like I am going to puke! I ate some molasses straight up & ended up getting sick. I take it for arthritis. It seems to help but is it possible that I got a bad bottle? I am trying everything to get rid of the feeling that I have acid reflux or something! I may...

Sooverit · Sooverit

I am looking for any shred of hope that my husband can stop. I have gotten the wheels in motion to kick him out but i wonder if there's any chance in hell he will really stop this time. Tomorrow is my birthday, he asked what I wanted. I want him to stop drinking and get help. He said he wouldn't ask me for someth...

Debilyn · Debilyn

"To believe you will never make a mistake is arrogant." Star Trek NG Oh I learn the neatest things on my "therapy" shows! I thought about this one, how so many on here are always disappointed when they they made a mistake. I don't care one bit. I mean, I am not perfect, does not say an...

mrspengiun74 · mrspengiun74

My husband has been sober for 8mths, but I am scared I will ruin it with my doubts and fear. Every time I realised I am truly happy I fear the worse and accuse him of drinking. I just don't believe I deserve to happy.. I know this is my issue but not sure how to overcome it...Any one else experienced this, ho...

Tracy · Tracy

Hi all went to open Aa meeting tonight with my Sober ABf, this meeting is open at the end of every month, I like this meeting because lots of al anon memebers attend and it is like we share OUR ESH from both sides of the fence. they have an al anon share and then AA. When it goes to the floor for sharing everyo...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

Thus far, mother (who isn't feeling great) has been in a pretty awful mood, and it's my turn to be scapegoat. I had forgotten what it's like; it hasn't been my turn to be scapegoat for ages. No matter what i say or do, she sighs and huffs and acts as though my presence is the most trying experience of her life...

bijela · bijela

Just when I think I am rid of this stupid stoner alcoholic exboyfriend, he texts me again. The problem is that I can't go get a restraining order because he hasn't threatened me. He told me that he still loves me and he has a new job now. Of course I didn't respond to it. I just put this new number of his in the...

anm722 · anm722

I have been to a total of 3 meetings on here and I really enjoy them. I want to apply some of the things I have picked up from the advice I have recieved but right now I am still a little angry. The things I am mainly angry about are that my husband doesnt really listen when I try to tell him what I am feeling. I to...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

It's bigger on the bottom! lol. Well, it's a bit sad but it gave us a lot of laughs. Gluten-free-edible-tardis-like-blob.

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I had asked earlier about seeing this movie and ALL I can say is it's a MUST see for ANYONE who loves the books or the movie Mary Poppins. I will never ever watch that movie the same way. Actually after the movie the kids and I watched Mary Poppins, I guess the movie as a child had always left me feeling...

tortuga · tortuga

After all I've walked through, and with all that I'm learning, and with all that i still need to learn, I am not sure today that I will ever be able and feel secure if I would choose to live with an A. Sure we are all lovely people and need to be loved, A's, co-dep's we are all fighting an addiction. So I wonder t...

Lyne · Lyne

I've had a medical decision to face this week~take one medicine to help a serious problem, but the side effects may cause some other horrible things. I had to asks myself, have I, or can I, really turn my will over to HP? I thought, this is a test and it really counts. I don't know what the F--- to do, both...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

This is one of the shortest posts I will ever do. I am falling behind in some things in my life. Money is there for sure to do the things I need to do. I just need to take the time. I am doing things that I should be doing. I am giving up things that I should be giving up these days. I want to donate more stuff to char...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

Happy Birthday to you! I am glad you are here! Sending you love and support on your special day!

phoenixmagicgirl · phoenixmagicgirl

My former AB celebrated being 5 years sober on Monday..tonight my dad and I went to his celebration meeting..the place was packed!! :) :) :) Words can't describe how proud of him I am!! I'm crying as I write this..it's remarkable to see how far he's come!! On the other hand, my AM didn't come because...

phoenixmagicgirl · phoenixmagicgirl

Hello, I finally started reading Paths to Recovery...How do I do this? do I read it alone? with a sponsor? how do I get s sponser? there's one Al-Anon group I've been to and like for the most part... I want to do *something* about my recovery..reading One Day at a Time and this book I'm sure will be and a...

mm830 · mm830

I have had such a good week, thank you so much HP. It's been really full, doing errands for my grandmother post surgery and my teenage kiddo has been a grump. But what's so wonderful is I am applying some advice I read here, Debilyn posted something about asking herself what the loving thing to do is to hel...

Akavanagh · Akavanagh

Or is it just getting numb to it? If you read my first post, I'm completely new and just have so many unanswered questions. When you walk in the room, and your alcoholic has been drinking, do you ignore them? Do you talk to them? Do you act like nothing is wrong and everything is just dandy in order to maint...

vivalove · vivalove

Hi, my name is Jean and I am new to Al-Anon. I grew up in an alcoholic home (my father got sober when I was 12). For almost a year, and sometimes today, I failed to accept that this is my truth, because I am fearful that I am labeling it (my father) as good or bad (as a person) - when intellectually I know that it...

el-cee · el-cee

I am back to step 1, my life has became unmanageable. My son who has been great lately and has been staying with me, looking for somewhere but taking his time about it, was drinking in my house the other night. I got home from work and he had a shady looking pal in and they denied it but they were drinking. I to...

Green Eyes · Green Eyes

My heartfelt thanks goes out to Elizabeth Vargas of ABC's Good Morning America for going pubic today about her alcoholism and sharing that AA has played a great part in her recovery. Hopefully, her story will inspire others. You can Google her name to view her interview that is available online. GE

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Things are going better than I could have imagined considering what is going on. First off, I didn't have to go to court .. that is huge. STBAX was sentenced .. I'm relieved that part is over .. I got dealt an unexpected surprise that there is not a no contact order in the final order and I'm disturbed abo...

grateful2be · grateful2be

Thanks for all your prayers. I got half way to my destination and had to turn back. White out conditions on major highways with foolish drivers still going 60 when they couldn't see anything and didn't know when the next snow drift was coming. I had talked with my Dad after learning where he'd be toda...

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	Feeling not sure (Preview) Ok I'm in a state of confusion and this is real. I'm starting to question how far I should stay on my side of the street . I been very good up stair minding my own self I started to read step 1 again because some of me are not getting it right. I forgot my serenity pray . I do have great gaps of memory loss . I see my t...	Wisdom67	5	368	Feb 2, 2014 by yanksfan51
	Weekly update :) (Preview) I was thinking about the lessons of the last week .. there have been many. I'm just trying to keep doing the next right thing. It's not always easy and I'm trying to do things on my own which is good just hard at times. I'm still in toddler mode running before I can walk kind of deal. I really want to run an...	SerenityRUS	2	287	Feb 2, 2014 by hotrod
	Letting go (Preview) I am new to this board and grateful that it is here. My alcoholic boyfriend and I broke up in early January after a year and a half together...most of which we lived together. He is a daily drinker of moderately expensive red wine. He starts drinking pinot noir upon waking in the morning and doesn't s...	Saleschic721	9	462	Feb 2, 2014 by neshema2
	Detaching with love... (Preview) I am having such a hard time with this... this past Sept my AH driving blasted at 6 pm and me crying on the phone as I was trying to figure out where he was pushed is to a different point in things. I started going to al anon immediately when I avoided it like the plague for the years before. He started to go to A...	kat42	7	600	Feb 2, 2014 by neshema2
	2 Storys (Preview) In ancient times, a King had a boulder placed on a roadway. Then he hid himself and watched to see if anyone would remove the huge rock. Some of the King's' wealthiest merchants and courtiers came by and simply walked around it.. Many loudly blamed the King for not keeping the roads clear, but none did an...	oldergal	3	285	Feb 2, 2014 by el-cee
	Detachment (Preview) I think I finally get it with detachment. It has taken me a long time but hopefully I am close. I like to go on YouTube.com and type in alcoholism, denial of alcoholism, stories of alcoholics, treatments, etc. I find a lot of valuable information doing this. I was on YouTube for a couple of hours yest...	Jen61	9	520	Feb 2, 2014 by neshema2
	There's no denying the sadness (Preview) or the compulsion to cry over it. I've mentioned that my eldest son has relapsed and its been a while since. Denial and the tricks which come with it have kept it under the rug until the problem became too large and the rug too small. The entire family...including my wife and I are invloved. My wife...	Jerry F	17	852	Feb 1, 2014 by Rose50
	i keep getting sucked back in (Preview) I have been going to alnon since March. I have been growing everyday from the experience. I am having a hard time with trust. I do not trust my aa at all. He stopped drinking in Nov, but really I don't know since he moved out of state to his new job. How can have a relationship without trust. I am trying to re...	hopes314	9	506	Feb 1, 2014 by Breakingfree
	Can you work this recovery program without face to face meetings? (Preview) I have been thinking about how Alanon works. Is it possible to recover without face to face meetings? Are these on line facilities enough? Are they add ons, or supplementary?	el-cee	22	583	Feb 1, 2014 by Tricia911
	Dealing with rejection...ESH? (Preview) I'm curious as to how many of the fine people on here experience feelings of rejection (real or imagined) and how you've dealt or deal with it. I seem to be better at dealing with anger than my negative self-talk and perceptions. Sometimes I even start feeling rejected here...and then I wonder where th...	Raven Juniper	14	3796	Feb 1, 2014 by Breakingfree
	Group in Inverness? (Preview) Hi there, I have an alcoholic mother and after recently visiting home I have been struggling with the deteriorating situation and was wondering if anyone on here went to the Inverness al-anon group at new craigs on saturday? Do I need to call up in advance or just turn up? Kind Regards ...	frustratedteengirl	13	917	Feb 1, 2014 by Breakingfree
	why is she not telling me? (Preview) I am so sorry to have to post this. My mom is not telling me things I think I would like to know before she does them. Is it too much to ask? She started w/ not telling me that she was sending her car down to CA where my relatives are for my niece. I knew that she was going to do it but I had to find out on FB the day it wa...	Hoot Nanny	4	422	Feb 1, 2014 by el-cee
	My mother. (Preview) Well, this forum is very new to me and I'm not sure what I'm doing, so please bear with me xx I am a 17 yr old girl and my mother is an alcoholic. Now, this may seem horrendous since she has medical issues, and I am supposed to be caring, but.... I hold so much resentment against her, I couldn't care less if she d...	frustratedteengirl	12	532	Feb 1, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	Way out of a circle? (Preview) Hello everyone, I'm new to this forum, not to the subject. My bf is with the AA for the 8th month. We've got ups and downs. He's got his moods - before drinking, during drinking, now... emotions.. they affect our relationship the most. It may be rooted in his childhood, the insecurity, low or no self-est...	Pipi	8	424	Feb 1, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	My HP and Home (Preview) Hi all. As you know, I went to be with my Dad and got stranded in a motel room for more than a week. Yesterday, I was struggling with anxiety because the weather report for today and beyond it was more snow and blowing and drifting snow. Today, I awakened, did what I normally do for my program work, watch...	grateful2be	14	337	Feb 1, 2014 by grateful2be
	somethings changed and sorta hurts. (Preview) Want to keep this simple. The man I consider a friend became more as you know. Then things changed in his life so he could not continue our plans to meet and hopefully be a couple. I shared my pain here. You guys were real and told me the raw hurting truths. I know now I should have said ok sounds great, but go a...	Debilyn	25	772	Jan 31, 2014 by Ness
	Story Time! A car battery (Preview) So after so many manipulations, I caved and answered the phone when my ex ABF called. (Via text) First it was poor me, and my absent father called me today. Then when that didnt work it was anger! Im coming for my bed! Then when that didnt work it was overly concerned for my safety time... and finally I answ...	breamanic665	6	349	Jan 31, 2014 by breamanic665
	5pm comes to quick !!! (Preview) I watch the clock and wonder what will it be tonight? Dinner is ready, the house is clean, things are put away, Ohhh shoot it's 4:30 and the back deck and driveway have not been shoveled, I throw his coat on, boots and mittens, I know I don't have time to do it all but if I get a good part of the deck done at least...	Miamamamia	7	510	Jan 30, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	Step 11 (Preview) http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t56556147/alanon-step-11/	hotrod	0	314	Jan 30, 2014 by hotrod
	re: Al-a non meetings (Preview) Thanks everyone for responding during this time. Whats hard about all this is the trust is gone. How do you ever build that again? Now he's going to AA meetings, said he was sorry. Even is recognizing he needs treatment. But what really pisses me off, is this is all about HIM. And what he needs. Never mi...	tsuthe1	9	523	Jan 30, 2014 by abbyal
	Being where I am suppose to be .. (Preview) Yesterday I had an urge to go to the open AA meeting I do attend and really enjoy. It's at 7am, so being there is a choice especially when the weather is the way it has been in the recent weeks there is nothing like 32 degrees feeling like a heat wave!! LOL .. it won't last and that's ok .. still .. it was somet...	SerenityRUS	9	439	Jan 30, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	Please share some wisdom (Preview) I feel so tiny against this disease. i don't know how to be me anymore. It seems like I am to change so i don't step on the alcoholic toes. I feel so lost. I know this is what I feel in the moment. i do have a sponsor that has helped me so long. It took months to get pass denial. I go to meetings and I want to...	hopes314	5	413	Jan 29, 2014 by tiredtonite
	Check in (Preview) Hello I'm just checking in I'm hoping to attend a meeting tonight I need some positive energy . My depresstion has lighten up a bit. I took time off of reading Alaon books and just searching for me. I was hoping after 4 months of no insurance and no medication things woukd get better it seams things take a t...	Wisdom67	5	225	Jan 29, 2014 by Jerry F
	RE: IS HE AN AGENT- LIKE 007? (Preview) I am new to this. Just found my husbands stash hes been hiding for over 2 years. Tons of vodka, beer and even a porn video. I;m devastated. We have been married for almost 26 years coming May. I am beyond angry, and deeply saddened. Feel as if 1/2 my life has been a phasod. I;m numb.Cant feel my hands. I moved...	tsuthe1	9	637	Jan 29, 2014 by barbaralewis
	Hurry up and wait! (Preview) Very excited today I apply for the job I'm currently working, everyone is glad I am back. The hours would be really great it will open some other opportunities for me in terms of trying school again now that it's not so crazy. So wish me luck .. interview is today! I have court Thursday .. oh the joys of m...	SerenityRUS	15	383	Jan 29, 2014 by Jerry F
	Being Hemmed in - A Hockey Team - Liquor abounds (Preview) Hello, all. My Dad was transferred from the hospital to a skilled nursing facility on Wednesday - not far from the pile up on the interstate on Thursday. Due to continued snowdrifts, visibility, ice and snow covered roads and the urging of law enforcement to stay off the roads - plus the long distan...	grateful2be	17	3116	Jan 29, 2014 by grateful2be
	Went to my first meeting tonight and am a newcomer here... (Preview) And I'm still needing some answers, help, anything. I'm planning on going to more meetings because i feel they can really help me, but for now, i would like to hear from some veterans on some advice to get me through the week. Some background info is, I was with my boyfriend for 2 years, we broke up for a ye...	Akavanagh	8	311	Jan 29, 2014 by mercedes1959
	Bad news today (Preview) AH got some bad news today and I worry that it will be the trigger or excuse for him to drink again. He is so sad, and it breaks my heart to see him this way. Unlike past situations though, I am keeping the focus on me, being supportive but not controlling, taking care of my needs first. Please keep us both in y...	ParisMemories	13	501	Jan 29, 2014 by Cathyinaz
	GUILT!!! (Preview) So after years of living with his addiction, it was a year ago that I filed for divorce. It turned out that was his rock bottom because he finally got clean and sober so he wouldn't lose his family. We separated for about 6 or seven months and he was homeless when he wasn't in rehab. Anyway, I ended up taki...	imom	7	492	Jan 29, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	Tired (Preview) Good Morning Everyone Yesterday was a down day for me. So down I was at a point I was thinking I just didn't want to live. I am tired of my life. I'm OK today at least. Why am I thinking like this I do not know. I'm not suicidal but I sometimes just feel like I'm so tired I just want it to go away. I know I nee...	Cathyinaz	19	586	Jan 29, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	update (Preview) I am going to make this quick really I am! My cousin was in a hospital for a week. You all might figure out what kind of hospital. She finally after the week was past she told me where she was & that she wasn't in just any hospital. I am feeling better. I figure it must have been the molasses. It was in my sys...	Hoot Nanny	2	257	Jan 29, 2014 by Miamamamia
	still so confuse (Preview) So confused !! So here I am almost a week with you guys and a bit more with my f2f meetings, I find this site very uplifting, and have met and had some great conversations in the chat room, however I am still so lost as to finding out if I am in the right place, I'm not happy, I have not been happy for years, live i...	Miamamamia	13	522	Jan 28, 2014 by Jerry F
	Maybe it's the winter doldrums (Preview) I don't know about you but I've been feeling very disheartened lately. My efforts in finding a second job over the past four months feel in vain - not one call back. The financial fallout from the divorce is forcing me to file bankruptcy this year - very disappointing. My efforts in finding a roommat...	abbyalana	6	546	Jan 28, 2014 by Jen61
	So sorry about the meeting last night, my computer went down right before I was to start chairing (Preview) Thank you John for coming in and chairing. Robin ks	mercedes1959	2	200	Jan 28, 2014 by mercedes1959
	Whats your price tag worth! (Preview) Respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that no longer serves you, grows you, or makes you happy. If you aren't being treated with Love and Respect, check your price tag. Maybe you marked yourself down. Get off the clearance rack and get behind the glass where they keep the valuables !...	Beatrice	12	813	Jan 28, 2014 by karma13
	How to handle my Mom when she takes her drunk husband back for the fourth time. (Preview) Hi! My 71 year old Mom has been married to her 70 year old husband for 11 years. During this 11 years she has kicked him out 4 different times, each time telling my sister and I that she is done with his drinking. Two times she has kicked him out were after 2 very serious health issues, when he would never b...	bethinks	8	540	Jan 28, 2014 by kerthinks
	Sharing custody with AH.... (Preview) Does anyone have experience with custody issues when the alcoholic hasn't had any public consequences (DUI, etc). we have two young children, one just a few months old, I can't trust him now with the kids and am scared joint custody will be enforced. With no "proof" it would be just my word...	Kerrymom	6	474	Jan 28, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	bad molasses; sick to my stomach; will it last? (Preview) I don't mean to be this way but I feel so sick I feel like I am going to puke! I ate some molasses straight up & ended up getting sick. I take it for arthritis. It seems to help but is it possible that I got a bad bottle? I am trying everything to get rid of the feeling that I have acid reflux or something! I may...	Hoot Nanny	4	1806	Jan 27, 2014 by Miamamamia
	Does anyone ever get better? (Preview) I am looking for any shred of hope that my husband can stop. I have gotten the wheels in motion to kick him out but i wonder if there's any chance in hell he will really stop this time. Tomorrow is my birthday, he asked what I wanted. I want him to stop drinking and get help. He said he wouldn't ask me for someth...	Sooverit	15	747	Jan 27, 2014 by imom
	Are you afraid to make a mistake? (Preview) "To believe you will never make a mistake is arrogant." Star Trek NG Oh I learn the neatest things on my "therapy" shows! I thought about this one, how so many on here are always disappointed when they they made a mistake. I don't care one bit. I mean, I am not perfect, does not say an...	Debilyn	10	774	Jan 27, 2014 by Sweet Stanley
	Happy days being ruined by fear husband may drink again.. HELP (Preview) My husband has been sober for 8mths, but I am scared I will ruin it with my doubts and fear. Every time I realised I am truly happy I fear the worse and accuse him of drinking. I just don't believe I deserve to happy.. I know this is my issue but not sure how to overcome it...Any one else experienced this, ho...	mrspengiun74	11	457	Jan 27, 2014 by el-cee
	both sides of the fence. (Preview) Hi all went to open Aa meeting tonight with my Sober ABf, this meeting is open at the end of every month, I like this meeting because lots of al anon memebers attend and it is like we share OUR ESH from both sides of the fence. they have an al anon share and then AA. When it goes to the floor for sharing everyo...	Tracy	3	265	Jan 27, 2014 by DavidG
	Really? (Preview) Thus far, mother (who isn't feeling great) has been in a pretty awful mood, and it's my turn to be scapegoat. I had forgotten what it's like; it hasn't been my turn to be scapegoat for ages. No matter what i say or do, she sighs and huffs and acts as though my presence is the most trying experience of her life...	Melly1248	15	546	Jan 26, 2014 by Breakingfree
	He is still contacting me even after two months of breaking it off with him and being told not to contact me. (Preview) Just when I think I am rid of this stupid stoner alcoholic exboyfriend, he texts me again. The problem is that I can't go get a restraining order because he hasn't threatened me. He told me that he still loves me and he has a new job now. Of course I didn't respond to it. I just put this new number of his in the...	bijela	8	499	Jan 26, 2014 by Debilyn
	Please help!!!! (Preview) I have been to a total of 3 meetings on here and I really enjoy them. I want to apply some of the things I have picked up from the advice I have recieved but right now I am still a little angry. The things I am mainly angry about are that my husband doesnt really listen when I try to tell him what I am feeling. I to...	anm722	7	475	Jan 26, 2014 by Clear4
	lol, as promised :-) (Preview) It's bigger on the bottom! lol. Well, it's a bit sad but it gave us a lot of laughs. Gluten-free-edible-tardis-like-blob.	Melly1248	33	710	Jan 26, 2014 by Debilyn
	Saving Mr Banks (Update) :) (Preview) I had asked earlier about seeing this movie and ALL I can say is it's a MUST see for ANYONE who loves the books or the movie Mary Poppins. I will never ever watch that movie the same way. Actually after the movie the kids and I watched Mary Poppins, I guess the movie as a child had always left me feeling...	SerenityRUS	14	902	Jan 26, 2014 by hotrod
	how do you know which way to walk if you don't know where you want to end up? (Preview) After all I've walked through, and with all that I'm learning, and with all that i still need to learn, I am not sure today that I will ever be able and feel secure if I would choose to live with an A. Sure we are all lovely people and need to be loved, A's, co-dep's we are all fighting an addiction. So I wonder t...	tortuga	5	441	Jan 26, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	Back to Step 3 (Preview) I've had a medical decision to face this week~take one medicine to help a serious problem, but the side effects may cause some other horrible things. I had to asks myself, have I, or can I, really turn my will over to HP? I thought, this is a test and it really counts. I don't know what the F--- to do, both...	Lyne	4	299	Jan 26, 2014 by Jerry F
	I am falling behind...can I move forward? (Preview) This is one of the shortest posts I will ever do. I am falling behind in some things in my life. Money is there for sure to do the things I need to do. I just need to take the time. I am doing things that I should be doing. I am giving up things that I should be giving up these days. I want to donate more stuff to char...	Hoot Nanny	1	260	Jan 26, 2014 by DavidG
	Happy Birthday to DavidG (Preview) Happy Birthday to you! I am glad you are here! Sending you love and support on your special day!	Breakingfree	10	339	Jan 26, 2014 by Melly1248
	A celebration!! (Preview) My former AB celebrated being 5 years sober on Monday..tonight my dad and I went to his celebration meeting..the place was packed!! :) :) :) Words can't describe how proud of him I am!! I'm crying as I write this..it's remarkable to see how far he's come!! On the other hand, my AM didn't come because...	phoenixmagicgirl	9	415	Jan 26, 2014 by maryanne
	A question about getting a sponsor (Preview) Hello, I finally started reading Paths to Recovery...How do I do this? do I read it alone? with a sponsor? how do I get s sponser? there's one Al-Anon group I've been to and like for the most part... I want to do something about my recovery..reading One Day at a Time and this book I'm sure will be and a...	phoenixmagicgirl	3	355	Jan 26, 2014 by cwya
	Being more loving is terrific (Preview) I have had such a good week, thank you so much HP. It's been really full, doing errands for my grandmother post surgery and my teenage kiddo has been a grump. But what's so wonderful is I am applying some advice I read here, Debilyn posted something about asking herself what the loving thing to do is to hel...	mm830	2	368	Jan 25, 2014 by hotrod
	Do you ever truly get to the point where it doesnt bother you? (Preview) Or is it just getting numb to it? If you read my first post, I'm completely new and just have so many unanswered questions. When you walk in the room, and your alcoholic has been drinking, do you ignore them? Do you talk to them? Do you act like nothing is wrong and everything is just dandy in order to maint...	Akavanagh	13	655	Jan 25, 2014 by Debilyn
	So far, this seems to be exactly where I belong... (Preview) Hi, my name is Jean and I am new to Al-Anon. I grew up in an alcoholic home (my father got sober when I was 12). For almost a year, and sometimes today, I failed to accept that this is my truth, because I am fearful that I am labeling it (my father) as good or bad (as a person) - when intellectually I know that it...	vivalove	4	357	Jan 25, 2014 by Debilyn
	My life is unmanageable (Preview) I am back to step 1, my life has became unmanageable. My son who has been great lately and has been staying with me, looking for somewhere but taking his time about it, was drinking in my house the other night. I got home from work and he had a shady looking pal in and they denied it but they were drinking. I to...	el-cee	7	553	Jan 25, 2014 by grateful2be
	Thank You, Elizabeth Vargas (Preview) My heartfelt thanks goes out to Elizabeth Vargas of ABC's Good Morning America for going pubic today about her alcoholism and sharing that AA has played a great part in her recovery. Hopefully, her story will inspire others. You can Google her name to view her interview that is available online. GE	Green Eyes	2	381	Jan 25, 2014 by Debilyn
	Well .. lol .. (Preview) Things are going better than I could have imagined considering what is going on. First off, I didn't have to go to court .. that is huge. STBAX was sentenced .. I'm relieved that part is over .. I got dealt an unexpected surprise that there is not a no contact order in the final order and I'm disturbed abo...	SerenityRUS	6	474	Jan 25, 2014 by Debilyn
	Update on Dad and Road Travel (Preview) Thanks for all your prayers. I got half way to my destination and had to turn back. White out conditions on major highways with foolish drivers still going 60 when they couldn't see anything and didn't know when the next snow drift was coming. I had talked with my Dad after learning where he'd be toda...	grateful2be	38	642	Jan 25, 2014 by mercedes1959
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