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AH got some bad news today and I worry that it will be the trigger or excuse for him to drink again. He is so sad, and it breaks my heart to see him this way. Unlike past situations though, I am keeping the focus on me, being supportive but not controlling, taking care of my needs first. Please keep us both in your prayers tonight. Thanks my dear friends.
Paris
Prayers are with you and your husband, Paris. Sharing our fears cuts them into little bitty pieces sometimes. Right now, you are focused on you. He's not drinking even though he feels sad and you aren't trying to control anything! You're doing good, Paris. No reason to believe he can't do well either! Keep us posted!
Thank you all. Knowing you are out there for me really helps. Last night went well. Not sure what today will bring. I've been working all day. He's gone quiet. Must remember that this too shall pass.
It is freeing to detach (with love) and just let him figure out how he will respond to this bad news. I came home tonight and he is busy with other things, keeping himself distracted. No drinking from what I can see., but it really is up to him. I wish he would just give in and admit that AA fellowship would help him. He went to a meeting every day for 30 days or so, then announced that meetings make him feel bad. He's been white knuckling it for awhile now. I know how important my alanon program is for me. I just wish he would embrace the same for himself.
It's good that you have continued to detach and let him alone during this time. I will be praying with you that your husband will embrace AA more so he can continue to heal. He is so much worth it.
((( hugs )))
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Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
