The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I do beleive, that before alanon I had myself on the "marked down final sale clearance rack" for a very long time. Since alanon and the Steps I am no longe on the clearance rack, maybe he full price counter but still not behnd the "precious item" case.
I performed a cleansing. I eliminated anyone in my life that I felt wasn't playing a part in getting me to where I wanted to be. For years, I thought they were the only option. Sometimes I think I made a mistake and that all of their assertions toward me were right.
I let them all drag me down. I stuck around fighting for their approval. It seemed like everything I did was to get them to like me. I never fit in. Yet, I kept trying.
Bottom line is, I knew that if I was going to be happy, it wasn't going to include them. I took whatever I learned from them and moved on.
Whenever I get those feelings that I'm missing out, the thought of crawling back feels even worse. I just can't take that step back.
I like this quotation. I have discovered recently that I am pretty good at giving, but I really stink at accepting compliments, so I am practicing how to take a nice compliment,and this is along the same lines. Learning to respect myself and valuing my self worth. Thanks Beatrice!
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Nothing has changed but my attitude, everything has changed.
When I first found MIP, or it found me, I'd been sitting on the side of the road for years... Thanks to Al Anon I'm getting closer to the glass every day.
Thanks for sharing this gem!
Just getting started on this part of my journey... thank you so much for your words.... it is something that makes sense to me... something simple I can remember.... my price tag is getting higher each day..... I am so grateful I found this site....