Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

wallsal55 · wallsal55

The side effects of alcoholism on us results in Perfectionism, Procrastination and Paralysis. [oooo Ouch for me! Especially the last two!) The three P's came up (that I never heard of before!) at a meeting where we read the topic: Progress, not perfection-...

Mad4stevie · Mad4stevie

I saw the link above to music to listen to while on this site, and it made me wonder, if you listen to music, what types of music or artists do you find to be inspirational in your recovery? About seven years ago, I saw Stevie Nicks with Fleetwood Mac and have been inspired by her heart-felt lyrics...

AlbertaCowboy · AlbertaCowboy

well another day, another change of heart. I am on such an emotional roller coaster. One minute I want her to come home so we can start rebuilding our relationship, the next I want her to stay away for ever and let me move on with my life. She has been away for the past 10 days, barely calls, and wh...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi, It is not starting out to be a good day. We have the awaited counseling tonight. My husband told me about it last night. The appointment is for 8PM and he picked one forty minutes away. I am a nervouse wreck. Then I woke with a headache and ended up having a minor accident with the bus this morning. T...

sonador_hermosa · sonador_hermosa

do any of you believe that a person really can recover? from what i read, almost everyone on here believes that all alcoholics are the same and that none of them can ever recover or become healthy again. i think it is a very subjective thing. i think that it totally depends on the pe...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Sitting at your table, desk, wherever... When stressed, grab the upper top of your nose with your thumb and forefinger, right smack dab between the middle of your eyes. (A little pressure with the fingers if you want) Close your eyes, lower your head, perhaps elb...

sonador_hermosa · sonador_hermosa

hi everyone :) i've been lurking around this board for about a week now, and i'm ready to post. it seems like every time i try, my computer crashes, but i'm in a computer lab right now, so hopefully that won't happen...*knock on wood*...hehehe my name's amy, and my fiance' is a recoverin...

AlaMom · AlaMom

to keep my head in the moment. Recently been preapproved to buy a home. Something I have always looked forward to. While I am happy and excited at the prospect - I am finding myself getting far ahead of myself. I'm finding that I am going beyond just doing the legwor...

missyg · missyg

When my husband "decided" he needed rehab one month ago, and he went and admitted himself to a veteran's hospital, I really convinced myself and let him convince me that this would be the end to all of our problems. He spent 20 days there, detoxed his system and got himself clean and sober. ...

search41 · search41

i can't belive this! i just typed this whole share, and when i went to preview it, it disappeard! what i want to share is that my a finally went back to normal driving hours today, after being off work for 4 weeks because of a dui. he went back to work last week from 430 am to 9 am, helping l...

jj · jj

Why is it that I get to a point of feeling great about me and my recovery and then I so easily get sucked into the feeling out of control. My home is my life as I am blessed to stay home and raise my beautiful kids. So I feel invaded I guess you could say why my AH brings this disease home. What I mean by that is he br...

Weez · Weez

Hello! I've just started with Alanon, and it has done wonders for me. However, my family is totally against my "A" they are rude to him, and when I talk about him in front of my family, all I get are negative comments, and things like "You can do so much better" "Why do you put yourself through...

megan · megan

Hello, Does anyone know of a board like MIP where the wife of a sex addict (my sister) can go to for experience, strength, hope? Her husband is "in recovery" but continues to cheat with everyone and anyone including prostitutes. I spoke to her this morning and she has the same sort of c...

khadejah · khadejah

i have been going to f2f meetings for about 3 months now, i read al-anon literature all the time due to limited babysitting etc. I am not always able to go to f2f meetings although i try to make at least one a week. That being said i need a sponsor don't know how to ask who to ask etc. Any suggestions I am in New y...

cdb · cdb

Hello friends, I do not want to post this because I really think that dad will be fine. But then, I cannot get myself to think the other way. He is such a positive person and everyone is surprised he is still alive and kicking. Well, I found out yesterday that he is in congestive heart failure. He i...

debilyn · debilyn

How does a post disappear? I am curious? I responded and wondered if they responded back and it is gone. I am guessing there may be more to this than I know? I don't need to know what it is, but may I know the criteria if something is missing? love,debilyn

odaat · odaat

I have visited this board, and watched for a long time. I am back and really hope to help myself this time. I am feeling sorry for myself and feel as if I am on a roller coaster to hell with no return ticket. Living with my "A" gets harder by the day. I try to understand the disease,...

odaat · odaat

Today my "A" and I discussed his problem with drinking. I feel he has a major problem with alcohol and he feels that I imagine it all. I expressed my need to call an end to our marriage because he has a right to what he considers happiness and I too have rights. I feel extremely lonely an...

Meth User · Gary

Hello...I am new to Al-Anon so please forgive my ignorance. My problem is my 31 year old divorced daughter who is addicted to Meth. I was told that Al-Anon is for families of any addictions, not just alcoholics, is this true? My wife and I are really searching for some support to dea...

mastiff · mastiff

Hi all, Someone sent me this quote and I thought I'd share it. "The future is not some place we are going to, but the one we are creating. The paths are not to be found, but made, and the activity of making them, changes both the maker and the destination." That has really helped me to re...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Well it has been a week and still no counseling. My husband is being a sarcastic jerk telling me he is looking for just the right counselor. Meanwhile my In-Laws are getting edgy. My MIL says she feels like she has lost her son, that he is so bitter and angry over what I am doing to him. She says she underst...

De Anna · De Anna

I need a little help on boundaries. Could someone further explain this? Or tell me if the following would apply. I am not sure of this. I don't have too many things to set boundaries for because he brings home the $; stays home; helps out; is respectful; isn't abusive.&nbs...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

"Babe Ruth hit more home runs than anyone, but he also struck out more often than anyone." Anonymous

melanieL · melanieL

Horray!!! I finally set a boundary. Sunday i invited my ex-A to dinner, he said he could only come if i looked after his dog for the afternoon while he attended a AA meeting . I knew he was manipulating me , but hey i let it ride. He said he would be back at about 6.30pm so i cooked dinner for then, at about 6.40p...

debilyn · debilyn

NOT you are weird. lol NOW the post is there! I tried to find the post you spoke of but could not find it. There was no private post. Can you email me now? I have been to a few meetings lately. I really love them. We are so fortunate to have this medium. John, bless his pea picken heart, sen...

khadejah · khadejah

hi all feeling extremely overwhelmed since my first post my hubby has been in treatment coming home soon continues to speak to this other woman he has been having an affair with for the last two months . I have so much confusion ny hubby has been struggling with his recovery for awhile now and i have rem...

Busbe · Busbe

Can anyone relate to this my husband and I were having lunch today at this real mexican resturant real mexican people running it it was nothing fancy just good food when all of a sudden this fear emotion came over me and I could not figure out why I was having that emotion and it has came over m...

lin0606 · lin0606

I'm interested in hearing from any of you with some time in the program about dealing with the alcoholic in the life of someone you know. I was recently contacted by the A husband of a friend of mine who is not in the program, but who has been doing some program reading, and thinking seriously about her mar...

abbyal · abbyal

I am just posting this today maybe it will make it real for me. I am focused on the line from our literature that says "What would I be doing right now , if this weren't happening. It has gotten me thru many bad days in the past. Last nite I lost a dear friend, we had just gone to a play in a comunity a f...

Amelda13 · Amelda13

Hi, I'am from the North East and was wondering if anyone had information on Rehabs that will keep someone for more than a day or two. We have a son with Bi-Polar and who is an drug addict but we cannot seem to find anywhere he can go for more than a couple of days. Any information would be greatly appre...

Gault · Gault

Where I live in UK most Alanon members are female. Finding a male sponsor for myself, also male, is proving difficult. Someone told me to try the message board and here I am. I shall welcome all views. I've been in fellowship 5/6 years. Thanks

mastiff · mastiff

Hi all, I am writing to tell all of you that there is a conference here in Yosemite, CA in November. I don't have very much info yet, but am working on getting all the info for those of you that might be intersted in attending!!! What better place to meet f2f then at a conference right?&...

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AlaMom · AlaMom

Hiya everyone, Just wanted to share my good news today. I mentioned yesteday in the room that I have been working very hard on paying off some big bills and getting out of debt. Well it payed off for me today. As a result of some very hard work, imposing on my mother's hospitality, a...

cdb · cdb

Hello friends, This is not about the alcoholic in my life. This is about me. I had a phone call today from the aunt I am not very happy with. That aunt/uncle are the ones that sold the business out from underneath my son recently and my dad too. She first asked if I was still talking to her and the adult that...

cdb · cdb

Hello whitie, Your reply to suntansuzie's post brought tears to my eyes. I felt so bad for that man and his darned insurance. grrrrr I also want to thank you for working in the area you do. I am sure you are a great asset to those poeple. I can tell from your post. :) My dad currently is suffer...

kerry5 · kerry5

Hi,I posted this on a reply on this site and on the family teens site and i thought i would post it for all to read. Theres alot more that has happened to me but this is it in a nutshell lol. I am 32 years old and both my parents were violent alcoholics. I started to realize thier drinking at 8...

gardengal · gardengal

Tomrrow is my pre trial, once again my life has been turned upside down, and my guts inside out. 31 years married and my husband becoming an A and walking out to what I call his "drinking career". This is alcoholism at its finest. I would have never thought in a million years that my life would be as i...

cdb · cdb

Hello debilyn, My email would not send you anything last night so I sent it through the messages here at this message board. You can check it by looking up above where it says Logged in,,debilyn. Then you click after new messages. If you cannot see that you can click on your name and it should show your m...

search41 · search41

abby, thank you for your reply. when you said 'understanding him still isn't the answer', and, 'just know it is the disease' and 'you are never going to understand him', you know what popped into my head? a comment i will never forget that was one of my biggest revelations of 'fai...

jfoy · jfoy

Hello I am new here. My husband has been going to AA since Oct 8. He had been sober since then. Last night March 29 he bought a 24 ounce beer and said he wanted to prove to himself he could stop at one. He did. He said if he could he was not an alcoholic. My concern is he is and he put me thru h*ll before Oct 8th. He wo...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

"Worry and fear can alter our perceptions until we lose all sense of reality, twisting neutral situations into nightmares. Because most worry focuses on the future, if we can learn to stay in the present, ....we take postive steps toward warding off the effects of fear. ....

worriedmom · worriedmom

hello, i know others have written about detaching and really dont even know what i need to do at this point, so here goes, my daughter has been clean from meth for 6 1/2 mths now- she has been doing fantastic etc. she was living in sober/ recovery for 6 mths and i never worried about her know she has to...

ann · ann

It's to late for my family. It might not be for your's. It's been almost a month now. We still can't believe it happened. We didn't expect it. Although It was a shock, it didn't suprise us how it happened, it suprised us that it did happen. He's gone! We will never see him again on earth. Why? W...

jj · jj

I have been missing Mark.S too!! I enjoy his replys. Come back soon!! Keep smiling

melanieL · melanieL

My ex-husband who I am still very much involved has been going to AA for the past year. I he has been dry a few times has relapses and now been dry for about a week. At the moment he talks utterly crazy things, things that are unbelievable and done really make much sense. Has anyone else experience this or it...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

"Do not dare to live without some clear intention toward which your living shall be bent. Mean to be something with all your might." -- Phillip Brooks [ I really like this one, but I have to remember Easy.....Does It ! ]

suntansuzie · suntansuzie

READ THIS. LET IT REALLY SINK IN. THEN CHOOSE. John is the kind of guy you love to hate. He is always in a good mood and always has something positive to say. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, "If I were any better, I would be twins!" He was a natural motivator. If an e...

jj · jj

So most of you know that I have been working on my step 4. Well I got over being mad and delt with all that angered me and began again on the step. I never thought that I could actually see so much great things in myself. I have never had a problem seeing the couragous and strong people around me and have alwa...

cdb · cdb

Hello friends, For me letting go and letting god is a process. I would like to set the record straight on some things that have been typed out in the room to me while others are there that have been hurtful and inaccurate. This is for my recovery. You need not reply or even read this. What I a...

AlbertaCowboy · AlbertaCowboy

Thanks for all the kind wishes and support everyone has extended to me. As for my situation, things are still pretty unclear. My wife got home from rehab on Friday. She did not inform me when she would be back, she just appeared. This was a bit stressful as I had my children for the w...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi, I was helping my daughter study and we got to talking. She takes advanced Psycology in school and she had questioned me. I don't know the answer. I told her it was something to either question her teacher about or ask her councilor about. She was reading about Passive aggressive personality di...

Pebbles · Pebbles

Hi everyone. I'm new to this so I have a question. I have been to 5 f2f meetings and I just heard at the last one that we are supposed to work the 12 steps. To show you how new to this I am, I didn't know you "worked" the steps, I just thought you read them daily, or as the need arose. Ho...

melanieL · melanieL

my husband left me three years ago for another women who he has recently broken up with. He is an alcoholic and made my life hell for 12 years after which he left. Despite this I do and have always loved him deeply. He is now attending AA and is trying his best to be sober, but it is so so so hard for him. I st...

richard · richard

My ex-wife had this philosophy: Although she should not have to suffer the indignity of working for a living and thus not have much money, she still should be able to drive a Cadillac car. Scheming was her way of making that come true… always, 24 – 7 scheming. So, my son goes to an accountant and files for b...

bob6502 · bob6502

"We aren't perfect....After a while, you'll discover that though you may not like all of us, you'll love us in a very special way - the same way we already love you. Talk to each other, reason things out with someone else, but let there be no gossip or criticism of one another. Instead, let the understand...

search41 · search41

abby, in a very recent post you said, "A lot of a's dont feel they deserve to be loved so push away the people they love the most". i know this is true, but, could you elaborate on that thought? i am too close to the situation, and am the one being pushed away. i am sure i know the answer somew...

richard · richard

I am sorry that I have not been posting much lately. I have been going out to my favorite and beautiful State park and riding my trail bike and walking for exercise. With my physical medical condition, I do not have much time to spare for much activity. If I do one thing then I have to give up doing other thin...

Lanchas · Lanchas

Last night I decided I should control certain aspects of my life thinking it would make my life easier. For example, how my room looks, which is usually messy, and now I have decided to try and control how clean it is. The next thing I was going to control was my school life, meaning how well I did in s...

jj · jj

To let go doesn’t mean to stop caring; it means I can’t do it for someone else. To let go is not to cut myself off; it is the realization that I can’t control another. To let go is not to enable, but to allow learning from natural consequences. To let go is to admit powerles...

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	The Three P's ! (Preview) The side effects of alcoholism on us results in Perfectionism, Procrastination and Paralysis. [oooo Ouch for me! Especially the last two!) The three P's came up (that I never heard of before!) at a meeting where we read the topic: Progress, not perfection-...	wallsal55	1	2335	Apr 15, 2005 by megan
	Inspirational Music (Preview) I saw the link above to music to listen to while on this site, and it made me wonder, if you listen to music, what types of music or artists do you find to be inspirational in your recovery? About seven years ago, I saw Stevie Nicks with Fleetwood Mac and have been inspired by her heart-felt lyrics...	Mad4stevie	5	988	Apr 15, 2005 by AlbertaCowboy
	completely frustrated (Preview) well another day, another change of heart. I am on such an emotional roller coaster. One minute I want her to come home so we can start rebuilding our relationship, the next I want her to stay away for ever and let me move on with my life. She has been away for the past 10 days, barely calls, and wh...	AlbertaCowboy	9	1029	Apr 15, 2005 by AlbertaCowboy
	Bad day. (Preview) Hi, It is not starting out to be a good day. We have the awaited counseling tonight. My husband told me about it last night. The appointment is for 8PM and he picked one forty minutes away. I am a nervouse wreck. Then I woke with a headache and ended up having a minor accident with the bus this morning. T...	Jeannie	12	665	Apr 14, 2005 by jj
	just wonderin' (Preview) do any of you believe that a person really can recover? from what i read, almost everyone on here believes that all alcoholics are the same and that none of them can ever recover or become healthy again. i think it is a very subjective thing. i think that it totally depends on the pe...	sonador_hermosa	7	882	Apr 14, 2005 by lin0606
	Relaxation Technique - This Works! (Preview) Sitting at your table, desk, wherever... When stressed, grab the upper top of your nose with your thumb and forefinger, right smack dab between the middle of your eyes. (A little pressure with the fingers if you want) Close your eyes, lower your head, perhaps elb...	wallsal55	1	873	Apr 14, 2005 by Lanchas
	newbie here (Preview) hi everyone :) i've been lurking around this board for about a week now, and i'm ready to post. it seems like every time i try, my computer crashes, but i'm in a computer lab right now, so hopefully that won't happen...knock on wood...hehehe my name's amy, and my fiance' is a recoverin...	sonador_hermosa	8	964	Apr 13, 2005 by sonador_hermosa
	Working Hard... (Preview) to keep my head in the moment. Recently been preapproved to buy a home. Something I have always looked forward to. While I am happy and excited at the prospect - I am finding myself getting far ahead of myself. I'm finding that I am going beyond just doing the legwor...	AlaMom	1	608	Apr 13, 2005 by debilyn
	shocked back into reality (Preview) When my husband "decided" he needed rehab one month ago, and he went and admitted himself to a veteran's hospital, I really convinced myself and let him convince me that this would be the end to all of our problems. He spent 20 days there, detoxed his system and got himself clean and sober. ...	missyg	7	1073	Apr 13, 2005 by jo4
	freed from prison! (Preview) i can't belive this! i just typed this whole share, and when i went to preview it, it disappeard! what i want to share is that my a finally went back to normal driving hours today, after being off work for 4 weeks because of a dui. he went back to work last week from 430 am to 9 am, helping l...	search41	4	768	Apr 13, 2005 by Jeannie
	Am I a Door Matt (Preview) Why is it that I get to a point of feeling great about me and my recovery and then I so easily get sucked into the feeling out of control. My home is my life as I am blessed to stay home and raise my beautiful kids. So I feel invaded I guess you could say why my AH brings this disease home. What I mean by that is he br...	jj	12	1138	Apr 13, 2005 by jj
	How can I get my family to accept my "A"? (Preview) Hello! I've just started with Alanon, and it has done wonders for me. However, my family is totally against my "A" they are rude to him, and when I talk about him in front of my family, all I get are negative comments, and things like "You can do so much better" "Why do you put yourself through...	Weez	9	1067	Apr 13, 2005 by De Anna
	Sex addict recovery board (Preview) Hello, Does anyone know of a board like MIP where the wife of a sex addict (my sister) can go to for experience, strength, hope? Her husband is "in recovery" but continues to cheat with everyone and anyone including prostitutes. I spoke to her this morning and she has the same sort of c...	megan	8	1175	Apr 13, 2005 by DanaAngel
	desperate need for a sponsor (Preview) i have been going to f2f meetings for about 3 months now, i read al-anon literature all the time due to limited babysitting etc. I am not always able to go to f2f meetings although i try to make at least one a week. That being said i need a sponsor don't know how to ask who to ask etc. Any suggestions I am in New y...	khadejah	2	704	Apr 13, 2005 by luv123
	Prayer request for my dad.... (Preview) Hello friends, I do not want to post this because I really think that dad will be fine. But then, I cannot get myself to think the other way. He is such a positive person and everyone is surprised he is still alive and kicking. Well, I found out yesterday that he is in congestive heart failure. He i...	cdb	12	957	Apr 13, 2005 by jj
	What happened to Odaat's post? (Preview) How does a post disappear? I am curious? I responded and wondered if they responded back and it is gone. I am guessing there may be more to this than I know? I don't need to know what it is, but may I know the criteria if something is missing? love,debilyn	debilyn	2	780	Apr 12, 2005 by odaat
	Need to Heal (Preview) I have visited this board, and watched for a long time. I am back and really hope to help myself this time. I am feeling sorry for myself and feel as if I am on a roller coaster to hell with no return ticket. Living with my "A" gets harder by the day. I try to understand the disease,...	odaat	11	1040	Apr 12, 2005 by odaat
	Things are UGLY! (Preview) Today my "A" and I discussed his problem with drinking. I feel he has a major problem with alcohol and he feels that I imagine it all. I expressed my need to call an end to our marriage because he has a right to what he considers happiness and I too have rights. I feel extremely lonely an...	odaat	9	1175	Apr 12, 2005 by odaat
	Meth User (Preview) Hello...I am new to Al-Anon so please forgive my ignorance. My problem is my 31 year old divorced daughter who is addicted to Meth. I was told that Al-Anon is for families of any addictions, not just alcoholics, is this true? My wife and I are really searching for some support to dea...	Gary	9	3375	Apr 12, 2005 by cloud
	a quote (Preview) Hi all, Someone sent me this quote and I thought I'd share it. "The future is not some place we are going to, but the one we are creating. The paths are not to be found, but made, and the activity of making them, changes both the maker and the destination." That has really helped me to re...	mastiff	5	830	Apr 12, 2005 by Smeep61
	Update (Preview) Well it has been a week and still no counseling. My husband is being a sarcastic jerk telling me he is looking for just the right counselor. Meanwhile my In-Laws are getting edgy. My MIL says she feels like she has lost her son, that he is so bitter and angry over what I am doing to him. She says she underst...	Jeannie	7	875	Apr 12, 2005 by bcanuck
	please clarify boundaries.... (Preview) I need a little help on boundaries. Could someone further explain this? Or tell me if the following would apply. I am not sure of this. I don't have too many things to set boundaries for because he brings home the $; stays home; helps out; is respectful; isn't abusive.&nbs...	De Anna	7	915	Apr 12, 2005 by wallsal55
	Quote for Today (Preview) "Babe Ruth hit more home runs than anyone, but he also struck out more often than anyone." Anonymous	wallsal55	3	537	Apr 11, 2005 by De Anna
	i'V STARTED SETTING BOUNDARIES (Preview) Horray!!! I finally set a boundary. Sunday i invited my ex-A to dinner, he said he could only come if i looked after his dog for the afternoon while he attended a AA meeting . I knew he was manipulating me , but hey i let it ride. He said he would be back at about 6.30pm so i cooked dinner for then, at about 6.40p...	melanieL	4	901	Apr 11, 2005 by jj
	cdb/ weird (Preview) NOT you are weird. lol NOW the post is there! I tried to find the post you spoke of but could not find it. There was no private post. Can you email me now? I have been to a few meetings lately. I really love them. We are so fortunate to have this medium. John, bless his pea picken heart, sen...	debilyn	1	748	Apr 11, 2005 by cdb
	feeling overwhelmed (Preview) hi all feeling extremely overwhelmed since my first post my hubby has been in treatment coming home soon continues to speak to this other woman he has been having an affair with for the last two months . I have so much confusion ny hubby has been struggling with his recovery for awhile now and i have rem...	khadejah	5	988	Apr 11, 2005 by bob6502
	Fears (Preview) Can anyone relate to this my husband and I were having lunch today at this real mexican resturant real mexican people running it it was nothing fancy just good food when all of a sudden this fear emotion came over me and I could not figure out why I was having that emotion and it has came over m...	Busbe	5	800	Apr 11, 2005 by Busbe
	Someone Else's A (Preview) I'm interested in hearing from any of you with some time in the program about dealing with the alcoholic in the life of someone you know. I was recently contacted by the A husband of a friend of mine who is not in the program, but who has been doing some program reading, and thinking seriously about her mar...	lin0606	6	1055	Apr 11, 2005 by lin0606
	Gods gift to us is life (Preview) I am just posting this today maybe it will make it real for me. I am focused on the line from our literature that says "What would I be doing right now , if this weren't happening. It has gotten me thru many bad days in the past. Last nite I lost a dear friend, we had just gone to a play in a comunity a f...	abbyal	13	1084	Apr 10, 2005 by De Anna
	Rehab (Preview) Hi, I'am from the North East and was wondering if anyone had information on Rehabs that will keep someone for more than a day or two. We have a son with Bi-Polar and who is an drug addict but we cannot seem to find anywhere he can go for more than a couple of days. Any information would be greatly appre...	Amelda13	8	935	Apr 10, 2005 by Jeannie
	Sponsor by web (Preview) Where I live in UK most Alanon members are female. Finding a male sponsor for myself, also male, is proving difficult. Someone told me to try the message board and here I am. I shall welcome all views. I've been in fellowship 5/6 years. Thanks	Gault	4	762	Apr 10, 2005 by lildee
	Yosemite Conference (Preview) Hi all, I am writing to tell all of you that there is a conference here in Yosemite, CA in November. I don't have very much info yet, but am working on getting all the info for those of you that might be intersted in attending!!! What better place to meet f2f then at a conference right?&...	mastiff	1	844	Apr 10, 2005 by david62
	Need help (Preview)  I	pepodwyer	4	826	Apr 10, 2005 by pepodwyer
	HP Working Overdrive (Preview) Hiya everyone, Just wanted to share my good news today. I mentioned yesteday in the room that I have been working very hard on paying off some big bills and getting out of debt. Well it payed off for me today. As a result of some very hard work, imposing on my mother's hospitality, a...	AlaMom	7	933	Apr 10, 2005 by Diva
	Making a difficult phone call... (Preview) Hello friends, This is not about the alcoholic in my life. This is about me. I had a phone call today from the aunt I am not very happy with. That aunt/uncle are the ones that sold the business out from underneath my son recently and my dad too. She first asked if I was still talking to her and the adult that...	cdb	7	981	Apr 10, 2005 by DanaAngel
	Hey whitie,,, (Preview) Hello whitie, Your reply to suntansuzie's post brought tears to my eyes. I felt so bad for that man and his darned insurance. grrrrr I also want to thank you for working in the area you do. I am sure you are a great asset to those poeple. I can tell from your post. :) My dad currently is suffer...	cdb	1	720	Apr 9, 2005 by whitie
	My Story (Preview) Hi,I posted this on a reply on this site and on the family teens site and i thought i would post it for all to read. Theres alot more that has happened to me but this is it in a nutshell lol. I am 32 years old and both my parents were violent alcoholics. I started to realize thier drinking at 8...	kerry5	3	653	Apr 9, 2005 by cloud
	Encouragement/prayers needed (Preview) Tomrrow is my pre trial, once again my life has been turned upside down, and my guts inside out. 31 years married and my husband becoming an A and walking out to what I call his "drinking career". This is alcoholism at its finest. I would have never thought in a million years that my life would be as i...	gardengal	19	1109	Apr 9, 2005 by cloud
	Debilyn (Preview) Hello debilyn, My email would not send you anything last night so I sent it through the messages here at this message board. You can check it by looking up above where it says Logged in,,debilyn. Then you click after new messages. If you cannot see that you can click on your name and it should show your m...	cdb	0	754	Apr 9, 2005 by cdb
	thanks abby! (Preview) abby, thank you for your reply. when you said 'understanding him still isn't the answer', and, 'just know it is the disease' and 'you are never going to understand him', you know what popped into my head? a comment i will never forget that was one of my biggest revelations of 'fai...	search41	2	776	Apr 9, 2005 by cdb
	Recovering Alcoholic (Preview) Hello I am new here. My husband has been going to AA since Oct 8. He had been sober since then. Last night March 29 he bought a 24 ounce beer and said he wanted to prove to himself he could stop at one. He did. He said if he could he was not an alcoholic. My concern is he is and he put me thru h*ll before Oct 8th. He wo...	jfoy	11	1223	Apr 8, 2005 by Jeannie
	Fear (Preview) "Worry and fear can alter our perceptions until we lose all sense of reality, twisting neutral situations into nightmares. Because most worry focuses on the future, if we can learn to stay in the present, ....we take postive steps toward warding off the effects of fear. ....	wallsal55	2	683	Apr 8, 2005 by Jeannie
	detaching with love? (Preview) hello, i know others have written about detaching and really dont even know what i need to do at this point, so here goes, my daughter has been clean from meth for 6 1/2 mths now- she has been doing fantastic etc. she was living in sober/ recovery for 6 mths and i never worried about her know she has to...	worriedmom	6	952	Apr 8, 2005 by Jeannie
	Its to late (Preview) It's to late for my family. It might not be for your's. It's been almost a month now. We still can't believe it happened. We didn't expect it. Although It was a shock, it didn't suprise us how it happened, it suprised us that it did happen. He's gone! We will never see him again on earth. Why? W...	ann	8	1166	Apr 8, 2005 by Mark S
	Mark. S (Preview) I have been missing Mark.S too!! I enjoy his replys. Come back soon!! Keep smiling	jj	2	760	Apr 8, 2005 by jj
	THE CRAZINESS IN EARLY SOBRIETY (Preview) My ex-husband who I am still very much involved has been going to AA for the past year. I he has been dry a few times has relapses and now been dry for about a week. At the moment he talks utterly crazy things, things that are unbelievable and done really make much sense. Has anyone else experience this or it...	melanieL	8	1284	Apr 8, 2005 by wallsal55
	Quote for Today (Preview) "Do not dare to live without some clear intention toward which your living shall be bent. Mean to be something with all your might." -- Phillip Brooks [ I really like this one, but I have to remember Easy.....Does It ! ]	wallsal55	0	667	Apr 8, 2005 by wallsal55
	Choices (Preview) READ THIS. LET IT REALLY SINK IN. THEN CHOOSE. John is the kind of guy you love to hate. He is always in a good mood and always has something positive to say. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, "If I were any better, I would be twins!" He was a natural motivator. If an e...	suntansuzie	7	958	Apr 8, 2005 by mastiff
	Found out more than I thought I could (Preview) So most of you know that I have been working on my step 4. Well I got over being mad and delt with all that angered me and began again on the step. I never thought that I could actually see so much great things in myself. I have never had a problem seeing the couragous and strong people around me and have alwa...	jj	3	794	Apr 8, 2005 by jj
	Gossip: Setting the record straight (Preview) Hello friends, For me letting go and letting god is a process. I would like to set the record straight on some things that have been typed out in the room to me while others are there that have been hurtful and inaccurate. This is for my recovery. You need not reply or even read this. What I a...	cdb	9	1040	Apr 8, 2005 by jj
	an update (Preview) Thanks for all the kind wishes and support everyone has extended to me. As for my situation, things are still pretty unclear. My wife got home from rehab on Friday. She did not inform me when she would be back, she just appeared. This was a bit stressful as I had my children for the w...	AlbertaCowboy	8	736	Apr 7, 2005 by AlbertaCowboy
	PAPD? (Preview) Hi, I was helping my daughter study and we got to talking. She takes advanced Psycology in school and she had questioned me. I don't know the answer. I told her it was something to either question her teacher about or ask her councilor about. She was reading about Passive aggressive personality di...	Jeannie	10	1126	Apr 7, 2005 by Jeannie
	12 Steps (Preview) Hi everyone. I'm new to this so I have a question. I have been to 5 f2f meetings and I just heard at the last one that we are supposed to work the 12 steps. To show you how new to this I am, I didn't know you "worked" the steps, I just thought you read them daily, or as the need arose. Ho...	Pebbles	8	1120	Apr 7, 2005 by Pebbles
	Help with my ex (Preview) my husband left me three years ago for another women who he has recently broken up with. He is an alcoholic and made my life hell for 12 years after which he left. Despite this I do and have always loved him deeply. He is now attending AA and is trying his best to be sober, but it is so so so hard for him. I st...	melanieL	6	976	Apr 7, 2005 by cdb
	Traits of son's mom in son... (Preview) My ex-wife had this philosophy: Although she should not have to suffer the indignity of working for a living and thus not have much money, she still should be able to drive a Cadillac car. Scheming was her way of making that come true… always, 24 – 7 scheming. So, my son goes to an accountant and files for b...	richard	1	641	Apr 7, 2005 by cdb
	Gossip (Preview) "We aren't perfect....After a while, you'll discover that though you may not like all of us, you'll love us in a very special way - the same way we already love you. Talk to each other, reason things out with someone else, but let there be no gossip or criticism of one another. Instead, let the understand...	bob6502	4	793	Apr 7, 2005 by buzzfree
	abbyal-a question... (Preview) abby, in a very recent post you said, "A lot of a's dont feel they deserve to be loved so push away the people they love the most". i know this is true, but, could you elaborate on that thought? i am too close to the situation, and am the one being pushed away. i am sure i know the answer somew...	search41	10	1712	Apr 6, 2005 by search41
	My son... (Preview) I am sorry that I have not been posting much lately. I have been going out to my favorite and beautiful State park and riding my trail bike and walking for exercise. With my physical medical condition, I do not have much time to spare for much activity. If I do one thing then I have to give up doing other thin...	richard	5	655	Apr 6, 2005 by richard
	Acting Controlling (Preview) Last night I decided I should control certain aspects of my life thinking it would make my life easier. For example, how my room looks, which is usually messy, and now I have decided to try and control how clean it is. The next thing I was going to control was my school life, meaning how well I did in s...	Lanchas	9	1103	Apr 6, 2005 by Maria123
	Letting go, good but long (Preview) To let go doesn’t mean to stop caring; it means I can’t do it for someone else. To let go is not to cut myself off; it is the realization that I can’t control another. To let go is not to enable, but to allow learning from natural consequences. To let go is to admit powerles...	jj	3	1340	Apr 6, 2005 by Pebbles
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