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shellyj123 · shellyj123

This week has been a test in so many ways, and in so many ways~ I failed miserably. After the insanity with the EXABF on Tuesday, it only got worse, before it just ended. I dont believe for five seconds that what he did was NOT intentional, and I told him that. This man can remember ENTIRE conversations...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

As I mentioned, my husband came home from a 30-day in-patient treatment facility on Monday. Since then, he has been sleeping a lot during the day. He'll wake up at the same time as me in the morning, and then need to take a nap in the afternoon (usually for 3 hours) and then he'll go to bed early (around 7:...

dori711 · dori711

I think I told you all in my last post that my husband and I were talking again. The guy is so miserable and so agitated over little things that I was thinking back on how much I enjoyed the silent treatment. I feel like I'm growing cold hearted and again wondering if I should leave but guilt feelings are...

Gailey · Gailey

to all of my family in MIP that are no longer living with active aism but still come to this place and offer their esh to all that are still living with it. I understand that it is not really about the A but I am not sure I would be here if I no longer had to deal with it every day. I sure do hope that I would, though...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

((((((((((((Friends))))))))))))), I have been on the pitty pot lately, don't get me wrong I have had some awful things go wrong in my life lately, Today I have sat and realized just how lucky I am....my daughter survived that horrible car accident, granted she may need some surgery and she is not in th...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha Family...This is a prepping post so that I can see my honest feelings in print and let you all take them apart and offer your experience, strength and hope and own personal honesty about it. I am 45 minutes away from a local Liquor Commission Hearing in my community and am feeling a slight more app...

Overcome · Overcome

Captured thoughts of a person (me) caught in the cycle of domestic (psychological) abuse: Breath One, two, three, breath. One, two, three, breath. It's time for him to leave. It's time for him to leave. He's cutting off my air. I stand here in the square. Where do I go? I hate to leave you, but it's time to...

wildthang86 · wildthang86

I feel all foggy. In the past 2 weeks there have been 2 deaths of people I was close to. I am a cancer survivor and still fight the battle to this day. Right now I am in a "wait and see" holding pattern, sometimes called remission. But that aside, I am foggy because my friend just passed from lymph...

Starla · Starla

I live in a rural community, the secretary here advised an online sponsor, I'd like to try it. I really have never worked the steps, but have come along way sonce finding alanon.

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi all, I was talking with my mom last night and I was sharing my struggle with talking to the kids about what is going on, wanting to talk to them about their feelings and not pushing too much. Then I said to her that I am grateful that it is required that I attend a parenting class for the divorce because I ca...

cece · cece

My Alcoholic husband, after 7 months clean, had a relapse. I saw it coming; I kept telling him that infrequent meetings and then no meetings would result in a relapse. Sure enough, he relapsed. Since the initial relapse, he agreed to go back to AA. However, I can tell that he is not fully committed t...

Jozie · Jozie

Well This weekend will be that of another Al-anon/ACOA "Newness" for me :o) I am Goin to a Convention... :) My 1st... And who knows.. Maybe some of you will be there as well :0) I'm accually gettin butterfly's in my belly over this..lol.. i know sounds silly, but I have my son off at a sitter for...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Another act from the devil in my daughters recovery. Yesterday went to pittsburgh sent us to the wrong dr. I was so angry but I maintained....go it straighten out told us to go to lunch will call as soon as the right dr is out of surgery. Anyway we were just sitting down to lunch 'xxxx' boyfriend says I c...

BatonRougian · BatonRougian

My alcoholic wife has apparently started drinking again after a month sober. Maybe she was never a month sober. We separated over 2 months ago and I have no plans to reconcile but still it has me crushed. I think I have this notion in the back of my head that she will get sober for a few years and then we will s...

Overcome · Overcome

I have a very difficult time right now with "detaching with love". I had to file an Order of Protection against my ex-A husband on Oct. 28. He was served Nov. 1. My court date is Nov. 9. Between those 5 days he called incessantly trying to get me to "reconsider counseling" and cryin...

impam · impam

Hi Everyone. I am new here but not new to alcoholism. Just new to dating one. I have my own set of problems that I continue dating someone who has lied and betrayed me so many times within 10 months of dating. I never wanted to date someone who is drinking heavily but ended up with someone who said he was in AA...

Wanton · Wanton

It happened, my ABF ended the relationship today. Granted we had only been together since August, I had become quite attached. We spent every weekend together when he got a pass to leave the sober living house he's been staying at. I had no problems driving to see him, ect....the relationship was ver...

ollie · ollie

hi to all my alanon family. its been a while since i wrote here,but have read and been with you everyday. for those that remember me,my a was arrested for stealing vodca from a supermarket . well its now 8 months later. he has been attending a alcoholic centre for 6 wks,not drank for 6 wks,after 8 yrs of utt...

angelbreeze127 · angelbreeze127

Hi All, I have been reading off and on all day since I joined recently and cannot beleive how much we all live the same lives. I ahve yet to see anythign on a topic that is currently registering a 10 on my resentment board. Sex and lack thereof. I will keep it brief... 11 years of marriage.. hubby has been an...

david62 · david62

Good morning ((((Family)))) For those of you who do so, could you please say a prayer for my mom? This morning she is having a hysterectomy performed. Thank you. Yours in Recovery, David

Sincerely · Sincerely

Hello Everyone! Guess what? I went on a date. He suggested take out and a movie at his place. I suggested Starbucks! Starbucks it was. He was a gentleman. Opened my door, ordered my coffee and the whole nine yards. Good family and cute and sweet. This was our frist meeting. Sounds good so far? ...

angelbreeze127 · angelbreeze127

OMG, the lies, the long drawn out stories , the fake phone calls, the stories he tells, the excuses. I could go on and on. I find it very hard to be comfortable with what crap he is telling others when he uses me as an excuse for something he is doing. How do you all deal with this... when he tells a story that y...

RunnerChick · RunnerChick

I'm finding this SO difficult lately. For me, keeping an open mind means not putting labels or judgments on experiences, people, places, things in my life. Lately, I'm back to a place of what feels like perpetual petulance. I'm so restless at work and despite that I'm getting paid to solve people's pr...

RunnerChick · RunnerChick

Sorry to double dip today family but, I'm really needing some E,S&H. One of my co-workers is so incredibly sick from her husband's illness. When asked how she is, she answers with her husband who is now reeling in the aftermath of a lifetime of alcoholism and suffering severely from chirrosis. No...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

My husband came home from his 30-day treatment facility yesterday. After getting home, he went out to run some errands (pick up prescriptions and get a haircut) - he was gone for over 2 hours. Shortly after returning home, he went down into the basement to have some alone time and write in his journal...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Well the EXABF decided to pick today, the 2 year anniversary of the day we met online, to email me and tell me that he would be updating his page and adding picts of the new girl he has been dating to his page. And that things didnt go well the last time we spoke(which was when I told him it was over and walked o...

Starla · Starla

I never could let him go because I wasn't strong enough to say ENOUGH!! When I've had all I can take and show him the door I become ungrateful, heartless and cruel. I've had enough, I'm protecting my boundries. That doesn't make me a bad person. Our lives could be so much better.

supermom · supermom

Hi! I am new to message boards. I've never started my own topic until this one. Just wondered if anyone else ever feels overwhelmed? I do feel hopeful at the Al-Anon face to face meetings that have been to (5 meetings, I think). I am finding it challenging to feel hopeful at home. The alcoholic is i...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am ready to wake up & smell something. Maybe they are roses--maybe not but I know that I am ready for another growth period in my life. Every time I lose sleep, I feel ready to grow in some way. Right now as I sit here, I am focusing on what I am writing but at the same time so distant & disconnected....

alanonicScotland · alanonicScotland

I thought I'd share a real, life-happens, story - a program friend in New York Mary (first names only - anon) built a business in New York from about 20 years ago. As a fellow young professional in the same business, I was first her client, then began to work with her. You see, Mary was a massive workaholi...

Gailey · Gailey

Can anyone share on their path that really got them to acceptance of the A in their life or for anything that was unacceptable to them. I seem to be stuck in sadness constantly. I really want to accept and move on with my life....I mean REALLY accept that this is the way it may be for the rest of my life.

akristab · akristab

I have had a lot of difficulty getting beyond Step 2. For the first time in a couple of years, I went to a f2f meeting and it happened to be a Step meeting - something I have always avoided because I have never been successful in working the steps of my program. Today's meeting was on Step 11 - a very intimidat...

Survivor · Survivor

Greetings to you all :) Tonight, I hope to go to my second Ala non meeting (just depending on whether or not I can get a babysitter). I went to my first a few months ago as I was losing my mind dealing with my partner. After just that one meeting I had something FINALLY sink in. It was that I was NEVER going to be...

alanonicScotland · alanonicScotland

I haven't been depressed in years and feel like I am falling into it and don't know what to do. Part of this is because I'm not going to meeting regularly - primarily because the ones in my area are not tradition based, and are run like prayer circles which does not work for me. Some program friends and I are...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

So I have been chatting on yahoo with this army guy in Iraq who is half my age and trying to seduce me... (that's another story within itself) and last night we were chatting away. It was the first time we had used the video chat and I was feeling a little under the weather and not looking great (in my mind)....

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((Family))), Christy's Mom is having brain surgery on Monday. I am asking for prayers for her and her family. Now Christy won't ask for prayers for herself, so I am going to do it. She's travelling today to her Mom's house. If we could keep both Christy's Mom and her in all of our prayers today and t...

mermaid1961 · mermaid1961

Hi I hope I don't offend anyone, but I just don't get it. My adult daughter has struggled with an eating disorder for years and apparently now is also an alcoholic. She is married with a two year old. She got out of rehab 3 weeks ago and has already been drunk 3 different times. Each tme she swears she lea...

GailMichelle · GailMichelle

Well, I come to the board with a heavy heart once again. Back in 2004, my AH had gotten his first DUI. By 2007 I left our home and he headed for a 30-day rehab. In 2008, I move back home and he fell off the wagon every now and then. Last night, while driving home from a wedding with his mother in the vehicle, h...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

This weekend was a different kind of weekend for me in many ways. I learned that I still have expectations of other people, and I have no idea how NOT to have expectations. I am trying hard to live and let live, and let people be themselves, but I also find that I do have expectations when it comes to others...

Lisa K · Lisa K

Hi, My name is Lisa and My husband is an alcoholic. I am 44 and we have been married over 20 years- he has been an alcaho;oc fpr the last 3. I will spare you the details because you all have similar stories. I have been attending al anon for about 9 months and I thank God every day for it. This weekend was a bad...

Starla · Starla

Some may remember me as RainyJamie. Or not. My anonymity was compromised so I had to delete my account. I don't care, I'm moving on. I filed for divorce and just told AH that he will be served. If he doesn't leave by Nov 31st I will leave with the kids. It is a huge deal as I am trying to take the house. It is more...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Well just one more thing in my life.....son got a phone call from his best friend at 2:30 this am....he was in a wreck...totaled his car and all he wanted was Zach....unfortunately we were all sleeping and didn't hear the phone..... Bobby's brother just passed away a few months ago in a quad accident I...

Mobirdie · Mobirdie

My sister had been addicted to many things in her life and I tried to do everything possible to help her for nearly 50 years. She had gone to rehab, had shock treatments, numberous stints in the psyche ward at the local hospital. She would get sober and then overdose once again. The family tried and tr...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Today I am feeling rushed and pressured by my mom again. I occasionally go through this but today I want to spend some more time on the computer especially on MIP. I guess I could just say no to her need to push me out the door--I really want to please her sometimes because she wants to spend time with me. All...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Happy Halloween ya'll... It's me and the chocolate...just me and the chocolate...my kiddie dreams come true!! But that is not the gift from my HP that I am going to share with you. As with many many others we have been affected by the economic turn down or turn over or over turn for the past several month...

Grace11 · Grace11

I haven't posted anything on this site for ages. I discovered this site when my husband went into rehab in June and found the nicest people. He came out of rehab in July and he was "cured" . Although he has not touched a drop since I think he is way more agressive than he ever was. He is not physica...

DreamsOver · DreamsOver

I have a AS (he is an adult) I had been letting him use my car to run errands because he lost his when he borrowed money from a title loan place and he didn't pay his payment. He began to abuse this privilege of using the car, staying out longer and longer, would not respect my request to have the car back at a ce...

maresie · maresie

The Christmas holidays have been some of the hardest times for me. When I was with the ex A there was tremendous conflict. I had been looking forward to working on them with my current therapist. Last week she announced she is leaving so I won't have any continuity over the holidays. For a couple of da...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I've been thinking some things through the past day and I realized that one of my BIGGEST FEARS is CHANGE! I am MORTIFIED of things changing..... When in a relationship I freeze....I'm afraid to move forward-afraid that things won't be the same and all the "good stuff" will be lost in day t...

Fifi · Fifi

Three to four years ago I was here...this site and all of you saved my life and my sanity as I encountered, loved, lived with and left my first alchoholic/addict. I have learned and grown miraculously thanks to the wisdom of alanon. I live a life that is full and rich and thankful every day. I am so much mo...

Sincerely · Sincerely

Hello Everyone! Last night I had cabin fever. Decided to go to Walmart ended up at Dress Barn. I have a wedding to go to next friday and a company christmas party soon afterwards. Anyways, I am looking forward to the wedding. All of my family and cousins will be there and my mom's gonna come with me too!...

dawna81 · dawna81

in the last NA meeting my husband and i attended they explained a higher power is just that, a higher power, how ever we see it. but my husband is growing more and more weary of even mentioning it on these boards, he asked "if you dont believe in god, is it still possible to recover in these programs?&...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((Family))), Good morning to you all. Here in the United States it's Halloween. Pipers and I wish you and your families a very HAPPY HALLOWEEN! Enjoy the day & night with the children. I will be out walking around the neighborhood enjoying the sights and sounds of it all. Please be safe. P...

ElizabethLost · ElizabethLost

I'm new here, though I used to read here when my husband first started going to AA. To try to give a brief history...we've been together 6 years and when I met him he drank...I thought just socially, but as time went by I realized it was so much more than that. He drank often, was doing drugs when he drank, wo...

Diva · Diva

Got a collect call. He is in Atlanta and will arrive here in San Antonio about 1 in the morning. Sounds tired and weak. I guess that's what a week of binge drinking does to a person. He is sober, and I can tell the depth of the apology is going to be world-class. Does the madness continue where it left o...

KC7411 · KC7411

Not sure where to begin but my father is turns 80 soon and as long as I recall he has been a heavy drinker. He has been the life of the party and is very well liked. With age his behavior when he drinks has become more of a problem. He is not an abusive drinker and has been a functional A and a good provider and...

RunnerChick · RunnerChick

After my A's last relapse, I realized how desperately I needed to work my program. The more I focus on me, the more I question whether or not I will able to fully heal me, while still in a relationship. I have asked him for space. The truth is I don't know what space looks like except I said I needed the room to...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha All...glad to be here and have you all a part of my recovery. I was having you all as a part of my recovery this morning, checking in before I started my chores. Making a mental list of what I would be working on just for today and my spouse decided to mention that one thing I might work on was getting off...

debhud · debhud

hi all, if you remember me, my dh is an active alcoholic. i do my program and take care of myself. for the most part, i am happy in my relationship with dh. yesterday i was visiting daughter-in-law. she was in tears. my 33yr. old son is also alcoholic. he is a mean drunk. they have a 10 yr. old da...

Gailey · Gailey

Last night at my meeting I was wondering why I could not find it in me to share. It was the same as the meeting the night before. I have noticed that if the topic is not focused on talking about the A in our life, I don't know what to talk about. I find it here too. I don't know how to share what is actually going on...

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	need your thoughts, prayers and ESH MIP family.... (Preview) This week has been a test in so many ways, and in so many ways~ I failed miserably. After the insanity with the EXABF on Tuesday, it only got worse, before it just ended. I dont believe for five seconds that what he did was NOT intentional, and I told him that. This man can remember ENTIRE conversations...	shellyj123	7	692	Nov 7, 2009 by Andrea12
	Does he really need this much rest (Preview) As I mentioned, my husband came home from a 30-day in-patient treatment facility on Monday. Since then, he has been sleeping a lot during the day. He'll wake up at the same time as me in the morning, and then need to take a nap in the afternoon (usually for 3 hours) and then he'll go to bed early (around 7:...	N8SMOM	3	715	Nov 7, 2009 by Mattie
	Living with Mr. Grumpy. (Preview) I think I told you all in my last post that my husband and I were talking again. The guy is so miserable and so agitated over little things that I was thinking back on how much I enjoyed the silent treatment. I feel like I'm growing cold hearted and again wondering if I should leave but guilt feelings are...	dori711	7	758	Nov 6, 2009 by dori711
	I would like to say thanks (Preview) to all of my family in MIP that are no longer living with active aism but still come to this place and offer their esh to all that are still living with it. I understand that it is not really about the A but I am not sure I would be here if I no longer had to deal with it every day. I sure do hope that I would, though...	Gailey	6	574	Nov 6, 2009 by abbyal
	remembering what i have to be thankful for (Preview) ((((((((((((Friends))))))))))))), I have been on the pitty pot lately, don't get me wrong I have had some awful things go wrong in my life lately, Today I have sat and realized just how lucky I am....my daughter survived that horrible car accident, granted she may need some surgery and she is not in th...	Andrea12	5	708	Nov 6, 2009 by Rocky38
	Prepping post (Preview) Aloha Family...This is a prepping post so that I can see my honest feelings in print and let you all take them apart and offer your experience, strength and hope and own personal honesty about it. I am 45 minutes away from a local Liquor Commission Hearing in my community and am feeling a slight more app...	Jerry F	8	623	Nov 6, 2009 by Jerry F
	Breath (Preview) Captured thoughts of a person (me) caught in the cycle of domestic (psychological) abuse: Breath One, two, three, breath. One, two, three, breath. It's time for him to leave. It's time for him to leave. He's cutting off my air. I stand here in the square. Where do I go? I hate to leave you, but it's time to...	Overcome	3	758	Nov 6, 2009 by maresie
	AH just got an OVI, ugh!!!!! (Preview) I feel all foggy. In the past 2 weeks there have been 2 deaths of people I was close to. I am a cancer survivor and still fight the battle to this day. Right now I am in a "wait and see" holding pattern, sometimes called remission. But that aside, I am foggy because my friend just passed from lymph...	wildthang86	7	691	Nov 6, 2009 by Mandy123
	Need an online sponsor (Preview) I live in a rural community, the secretary here advised an online sponsor, I'd like to try it. I really have never worked the steps, but have come along way sonce finding alanon.	Starla	3	1351	Nov 6, 2009 by Mandy123
	Needing some ESH.....on talking to kids about disease and divorce. (Preview) Hi all, I was talking with my mom last night and I was sharing my struggle with talking to the kids about what is going on, wanting to talk to them about their feelings and not pushing too much. Then I said to her that I am grateful that it is required that I attend a parenting class for the divorce because I ca...	Mandy123	8	730	Nov 6, 2009 by Jen
	Overcome with feelings of sadness and loneliness (Preview) My Alcoholic husband, after 7 months clean, had a relapse. I saw it coming; I kept telling him that infrequent meetings and then no meetings would result in a relapse. Sure enough, he relapsed. Since the initial relapse, he agreed to go back to AA. However, I can tell that he is not fully committed t...	cece	5	4869	Nov 5, 2009 by abbyal
	Getting Excited :o) (Preview) Well This weekend will be that of another Al-anon/ACOA "Newness" for me :o) I am Goin to a Convention... :) My 1st... And who knows.. Maybe some of you will be there as well :0) I'm accually gettin butterfly's in my belly over this..lol.. i know sounds silly, but I have my son off at a sitter for...	Jozie	3	610	Nov 5, 2009 by canadianguy
	I need God more than Ever (Preview) Another act from the devil in my daughters recovery. Yesterday went to pittsburgh sent us to the wrong dr. I was so angry but I maintained....go it straighten out told us to go to lunch will call as soon as the right dr is out of surgery. Anyway we were just sitting down to lunch 'xxxx' boyfriend says I c...	Andrea12	7	624	Nov 5, 2009 by wp
	Cant imagine life with or without her (Preview) My alcoholic wife has apparently started drinking again after a month sober. Maybe she was never a month sober. We separated over 2 months ago and I have no plans to reconcile but still it has me crushed. I think I have this notion in the back of my head that she will get sober for a few years and then we will s...	BatonRougian	5	649	Nov 5, 2009 by maresie
	Detachment (Preview) I have a very difficult time right now with "detaching with love". I had to file an Order of Protection against my ex-A husband on Oct. 28. He was served Nov. 1. My court date is Nov. 9. Between those 5 days he called incessantly trying to get me to "reconsider counseling" and cryin...	Overcome	5	717	Nov 5, 2009 by maresie
	alcohol breathalyzer from Walgreens (Preview) Hi Everyone. I am new here but not new to alcoholism. Just new to dating one. I have my own set of problems that I continue dating someone who has lied and betrayed me so many times within 10 months of dating. I never wanted to date someone who is drinking heavily but ended up with someone who said he was in AA...	impam	10	8271	Nov 5, 2009 by canadianguy
	My turn on the chopping block. (Preview) It happened, my ABF ended the relationship today. Granted we had only been together since August, I had become quite attached. We spent every weekend together when he got a pass to leave the sober living house he's been staying at. I had no problems driving to see him, ect....the relationship was ver...	Wanton	9	672	Nov 5, 2009 by Tenderheartsks
	update....ollie (Preview) hi to all my alanon family. its been a while since i wrote here,but have read and been with you everyday. for those that remember me,my a was arrested for stealing vodca from a supermarket . well its now 8 months later. he has been attending a alcoholic centre for 6 wks,not drank for 6 wks,after 8 yrs of utt...	ollie	2	519	Nov 5, 2009 by Mandy123
	Delicate topic (Preview) Hi All, I have been reading off and on all day since I joined recently and cannot beleive how much we all live the same lives. I ahve yet to see anythign on a topic that is currently registering a 10 on my resentment board. Sex and lack thereof. I will keep it brief... 11 years of marriage.. hubby has been an...	angelbreeze127	10	933	Nov 5, 2009 by Diva
	Prayers Please (Preview) Good morning ((((Family)))) For those of you who do so, could you please say a prayer for my mom? This morning she is having a hysterectomy performed. Thank you. Yours in Recovery, David	david62	21	812	Nov 4, 2009 by Maria123
	Dating - how hillarious (Preview) Hello Everyone! Guess what? I went on a date. He suggested take out and a movie at his place. I suggested Starbucks! Starbucks it was. He was a gentleman. Opened my door, ordered my coffee and the whole nine yards. Good family and cute and sweet. This was our frist meeting. Sounds good so far? ...	Sincerely	7	711	Nov 4, 2009 by Sincerely
	the Lies... (Preview) OMG, the lies, the long drawn out stories , the fake phone calls, the stories he tells, the excuses. I could go on and on. I find it very hard to be comfortable with what crap he is telling others when he uses me as an excuse for something he is doing. How do you all deal with this... when he tells a story that y...	angelbreeze127	3	727	Nov 4, 2009 by Andrea12
	Keep an Open Mind (Preview) I'm finding this SO difficult lately. For me, keeping an open mind means not putting labels or judgments on experiences, people, places, things in my life. Lately, I'm back to a place of what feels like perpetual petulance. I'm so restless at work and despite that I'm getting paid to solve people's pr...	RunnerChick	4	1703	Nov 4, 2009 by Jerry F
	Dealing with a sick co-worker - feeling compassion (Preview) Sorry to double dip today family but, I'm really needing some E,S&H. One of my co-workers is so incredibly sick from her husband's illness. When asked how she is, she answers with her husband who is now reeling in the aftermath of a lifetime of alcoholism and suffering severely from chirrosis. No...	RunnerChick	3	1643	Nov 4, 2009 by Jen
	He's Home, Now What? (Preview) My husband came home from his 30-day treatment facility yesterday. After getting home, he went out to run some errands (pick up prescriptions and get a haircut) - he was gone for over 2 hours. Shortly after returning home, he went down into the basement to have some alone time and write in his journal...	N8SMOM	5	836	Nov 4, 2009 by Jen
	EXABF picks today of all days to reappear.........I wish he'd just die-i know that's terrible... (Preview) Well the EXABF decided to pick today, the 2 year anniversary of the day we met online, to email me and tell me that he would be updating his page and adding picts of the new girl he has been dating to his page. And that things didnt go well the last time we spoke(which was when I told him it was over and walked o...	shellyj123	7	827	Nov 4, 2009 by Tenderheartsks
	Always feeling guilty (Preview) I never could let him go because I wasn't strong enough to say ENOUGH!! When I've had all I can take and show him the door I become ungrateful, heartless and cruel. I've had enough, I'm protecting my boundries. That doesn't make me a bad person. Our lives could be so much better.	Starla	2	670	Nov 4, 2009 by hotrod
	overwhelmed (Preview) Hi! I am new to message boards. I've never started my own topic until this one. Just wondered if anyone else ever feels overwhelmed? I do feel hopeful at the Al-Anon face to face meetings that have been to (5 meetings, I think). I am finding it challenging to feel hopeful at home. The alcoholic is i...	supermom	3	776	Nov 3, 2009 by supermom
	WAKE UP! (Preview) I am ready to wake up & smell something. Maybe they are roses--maybe not but I know that I am ready for another growth period in my life. Every time I lose sleep, I feel ready to grow in some way. Right now as I sit here, I am focusing on what I am writing but at the same time so distant & disconnected....	Hoot Nanny	1	615	Nov 3, 2009 by hotrod
	living in the moment - a real one (Preview) I thought I'd share a real, life-happens, story - a program friend in New York Mary (first names only - anon) built a business in New York from about 20 years ago. As a fellow young professional in the same business, I was first her client, then began to work with her. You see, Mary was a massive workaholi...	alanonicScotland	3	711	Nov 3, 2009 by carolinagirl
	Your path to Acceptance (Preview) Can anyone share on their path that really got them to acceptance of the A in their life or for anything that was unacceptable to them. I seem to be stuck in sadness constantly. I really want to accept and move on with my life....I mean REALLY accept that this is the way it may be for the rest of my life.	Gailey	6	901	Nov 3, 2009 by carolinagirl
	Two brief ephiphanies - two HUGE realities (Preview) I have had a lot of difficulty getting beyond Step 2. For the first time in a couple of years, I went to a f2f meeting and it happened to be a Step meeting - something I have always avoided because I have never been successful in working the steps of my program. Today's meeting was on Step 11 - a very intimidat...	akristab	3	677	Nov 3, 2009 by Hoot Nanny
	:) (Preview) Greetings to you all :) Tonight, I hope to go to my second Ala non meeting (just depending on whether or not I can get a babysitter). I went to my first a few months ago as I was losing my mind dealing with my partner. After just that one meeting I had something FINALLY sink in. It was that I was NEVER going to be...	Survivor	4	761	Nov 3, 2009 by Survivor
	feel like I am falling...I need to figure something out (Preview) I haven't been depressed in years and feel like I am falling into it and don't know what to do. Part of this is because I'm not going to meeting regularly - primarily because the ones in my area are not tradition based, and are run like prayer circles which does not work for me. Some program friends and I are...	alanonicScotland	3	612	Nov 3, 2009 by alanonicScotland
	Assuming the worst...pessamism (Preview) So I have been chatting on yahoo with this army guy in Iraq who is half my age and trying to seduce me... (that's another story within itself) and last night we were chatting away. It was the first time we had used the video chat and I was feeling a little under the weather and not looking great (in my mind)....	carolinagirl	7	723	Nov 3, 2009 by carolinagirl
	Prayers for Christy's Mom please! (Preview) ((((Family))), Christy's Mom is having brain surgery on Monday. I am asking for prayers for her and her family. Now Christy won't ask for prayers for herself, so I am going to do it. She's travelling today to her Mom's house. If we could keep both Christy's Mom and her in all of our prayers today and t...	Karilynn	13	797	Nov 3, 2009 by kerry5
	new mom (Preview) Hi I hope I don't offend anyone, but I just don't get it. My adult daughter has struggled with an eating disorder for years and apparently now is also an alcoholic. She is married with a two year old. She got out of rehab 3 weeks ago and has already been drunk 3 different times. Each tme she swears she lea...	mermaid1961	2	713	Nov 3, 2009 by Jerry F
	Once Again xxx (Preview) Well, I come to the board with a heavy heart once again. Back in 2004, my AH had gotten his first DUI. By 2007 I left our home and he headed for a 30-day rehab. In 2008, I move back home and he fell off the wagon every now and then. Last night, while driving home from a wedding with his mother in the vehicle, h...	GailMichelle	2	712	Nov 3, 2009 by Jerry F
	Expectations........How do you NOT have them? Any ESH appreciated. (Preview) This weekend was a different kind of weekend for me in many ways. I learned that I still have expectations of other people, and I have no idea how NOT to have expectations. I am trying hard to live and let live, and let people be themselves, but I also find that I do have expectations when it comes to others...	shellyj123	5	627	Nov 2, 2009 by Jen
	Sigh--- (Preview) Hi, My name is Lisa and My husband is an alcoholic. I am 44 and we have been married over 20 years- he has been an alcaho;oc fpr the last 3. I will spare you the details because you all have similar stories. I have been attending al anon for about 9 months and I thank God every day for it. This weekend was a bad...	Lisa K	7	653	Nov 2, 2009 by Lisa K
	staring over (Preview) Some may remember me as RainyJamie. Or not. My anonymity was compromised so I had to delete my account. I don't care, I'm moving on. I filed for divorce and just told AH that he will be served. If he doesn't leave by Nov 31st I will leave with the kids. It is a huge deal as I am trying to take the house. It is more...	Starla	5	663	Nov 2, 2009 by Fifi
	Enough Already God,another accident and surgery for my daughter (Preview) Well just one more thing in my life.....son got a phone call from his best friend at 2:30 this am....he was in a wreck...totaled his car and all he wanted was Zach....unfortunately we were all sleeping and didn't hear the phone..... Bobby's brother just passed away a few months ago in a quad accident I...	Andrea12	10	545	Nov 2, 2009 by wp
	The disease takes another one (Preview) My sister had been addicted to many things in her life and I tried to do everything possible to help her for nearly 50 years. She had gone to rehab, had shock treatments, numberous stints in the psyche ward at the local hospital. She would get sober and then overdose once again. The family tried and tr...	Mobirdie	18	711	Nov 2, 2009 by Mobirdie
	Feeling rushed & pressured! (Preview) Today I am feeling rushed and pressured by my mom again. I occasionally go through this but today I want to spend some more time on the computer especially on MIP. I guess I could just say no to her need to push me out the door--I really want to please her sometimes because she wants to spend time with me. All...	Hoot Nanny	3	792	Nov 2, 2009 by Jozie
	A Gift (Preview) Happy Halloween ya'll... It's me and the chocolate...just me and the chocolate...my kiddie dreams come true!! But that is not the gift from my HP that I am going to share with you. As with many many others we have been affected by the economic turn down or turn over or over turn for the past several month...	Jerry F	5	727	Nov 2, 2009 by Jozie
	I really need a kind word. (Preview) I haven't posted anything on this site for ages. I discovered this site when my husband went into rehab in June and found the nicest people. He came out of rehab in July and he was "cured" . Although he has not touched a drop since I think he is way more agressive than he ever was. He is not physica...	Grace11	10	696	Nov 2, 2009 by maresie
	I Drew A Line Today............ (Preview) I have a AS (he is an adult) I had been letting him use my car to run errands because he lost his when he borrowed money from a title loan place and he didn't pay his payment. He began to abuse this privilege of using the car, staying out longer and longer, would not respect my request to have the car back at a ce...	DreamsOver	7	723	Nov 2, 2009 by alanonicScotland
	the holidays (Preview) The Christmas holidays have been some of the hardest times for me. When I was with the ex A there was tremendous conflict. I had been looking forward to working on them with my current therapist. Last week she announced she is leaving so I won't have any continuity over the holidays. For a couple of da...	maresie	4	683	Nov 2, 2009 by Gailey
	Is anyone else here MORTIFIED of CHANGE like I am???? (Preview) I've been thinking some things through the past day and I realized that one of my BIGGEST FEARS is CHANGE! I am MORTIFIED of things changing..... When in a relationship I freeze....I'm afraid to move forward-afraid that things won't be the same and all the "good stuff" will be lost in day t...	shellyj123	7	664	Nov 2, 2009 by thinkstoomuch
	baffling to be back (Preview) Three to four years ago I was here...this site and all of you saved my life and my sanity as I encountered, loved, lived with and left my first alchoholic/addict. I have learned and grown miraculously thanks to the wisdom of alanon. I live a life that is full and rich and thankful every day. I am so much mo...	Fifi	2	642	Nov 2, 2009 by Karilynn
	Say yes to the dress! (Preview) Hello Everyone! Last night I had cabin fever. Decided to go to Walmart ended up at Dress Barn. I have a wedding to go to next friday and a company christmas party soon afterwards. Anyways, I am looking forward to the wedding. All of my family and cousins will be there and my mom's gonna come with me too!...	Sincerely	5	761	Nov 1, 2009 by RLC
	people who judge our higher power make it difficult for us to recover. (Preview) in the last NA meeting my husband and i attended they explained a higher power is just that, a higher power, how ever we see it. but my husband is growing more and more weary of even mentioning it on these boards, he asked "if you dont believe in god, is it still possible to recover in these programs?&...	dawna81	10	633	Nov 1, 2009 by dawna81
	HAPPY HALLOWEEN! (Preview) ((((Family))), Good morning to you all. Here in the United States it's Halloween. Pipers and I wish you and your families a very HAPPY HALLOWEEN! Enjoy the day & night with the children. I will be out walking around the neighborhood enjoying the sights and sounds of it all. Please be safe. P...	Karilynn	4	634	Nov 1, 2009 by Andrea12
	No Idea What To Do (Preview) I'm new here, though I used to read here when my husband first started going to AA. To try to give a brief history...we've been together 6 years and when I met him he drank...I thought just socially, but as time went by I realized it was so much more than that. He drank often, was doing drugs when he drank, wo...	ElizabethLost	4	772	Nov 1, 2009 by ElizabethLost
	He's in Atlanta........last leg of the week-long adventure coming up. (Preview) Got a collect call. He is in Atlanta and will arrive here in San Antonio about 1 in the morning. Sounds tired and weak. I guess that's what a week of binge drinking does to a person. He is sober, and I can tell the depth of the apology is going to be world-class. Does the madness continue where it left o...	Diva	12	698	Oct 31, 2009 by Rocky38
	New here...Adult Child of an A (Preview) Not sure where to begin but my father is turns 80 soon and as long as I recall he has been a heavy drinker. He has been the life of the party and is very well liked. With age his behavior when he drinks has become more of a problem. He is not an abusive drinker and has been a functional A and a good provider and...	KC7411	3	670	Oct 31, 2009 by maresie
	I just don't know... (Preview) After my A's last relapse, I realized how desperately I needed to work my program. The more I focus on me, the more I question whether or not I will able to fully heal me, while still in a relationship. I have asked him for space. The truth is I don't know what space looks like except I said I needed the room to...	RunnerChick	5	730	Oct 31, 2009 by blender_girl
	Almost Buzzard Bait... (Preview) Aloha All...glad to be here and have you all a part of my recovery. I was having you all as a part of my recovery this morning, checking in before I started my chores. Making a mental list of what I would be working on just for today and my spouse decided to mention that one thing I might work on was getting off...	Jerry F	13	693	Oct 31, 2009 by Maria123
	son is alcoholic,daught-in-law is hurting. (Preview) hi all, if you remember me, my dh is an active alcoholic. i do my program and take care of myself. for the most part, i am happy in my relationship with dh. yesterday i was visiting daughter-in-law. she was in tears. my 33yr. old son is also alcoholic. he is a mean drunk. they have a 10 yr. old da...	debhud	2	619	Oct 31, 2009 by Sincerely
	sharing at f2f meetings (Preview) Last night at my meeting I was wondering why I could not find it in me to share. It was the same as the meeting the night before. I have noticed that if the topic is not focused on talking about the A in our life, I don't know what to talk about. I find it here too. I don't know how to share what is actually going on...	Gailey	4	702	Oct 30, 2009 by abbyal
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