Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

GailMichelle · GailMichelle

Well, I come to the board with a heavy heart once again. Back in 2004, my AH had gotten his first DUI. By 2007 I left our home and he headed for a 30-day rehab. In 2008, I move back home and he fell off the wagon every now and then. Last night, while driving home from a wedding with his mother in the vehicle, h...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

This weekend was a different kind of weekend for me in many ways. I learned that I still have expectations of other people, and I have no idea how NOT to have expectations. I am trying hard to live and let live, and let people be themselves, but I also find that I do have expectations when it comes to others...

Lisa K · Lisa K

Hi, My name is Lisa and My husband is an alcoholic. I am 44 and we have been married over 20 years- he has been an alcaho;oc fpr the last 3. I will spare you the details because you all have similar stories. I have been attending al anon for about 9 months and I thank God every day for it. This weekend was a bad...

Starla · Starla

Some may remember me as RainyJamie. Or not. My anonymity was compromised so I had to delete my account. I don't care, I'm moving on. I filed for divorce and just told AH that he will be served. If he doesn't leave by Nov 31st I will leave with the kids. It is a huge deal as I am trying to take the house. It is more...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Well just one more thing in my life.....son got a phone call from his best friend at 2:30 this am....he was in a wreck...totaled his car and all he wanted was Zach....unfortunately we were all sleeping and didn't hear the phone..... Bobby's brother just passed away a few months ago in a quad accident I...

Mobirdie · Mobirdie

My sister had been addicted to many things in her life and I tried to do everything possible to help her for nearly 50 years. She had gone to rehab, had shock treatments, numberous stints in the psyche ward at the local hospital. She would get sober and then overdose once again. The family tried and tr...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Today I am feeling rushed and pressured by my mom again. I occasionally go through this but today I want to spend some more time on the computer especially on MIP. I guess I could just say no to her need to push me out the door--I really want to please her sometimes because she wants to spend time with me. All...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Happy Halloween ya'll... It's me and the chocolate...just me and the chocolate...my kiddie dreams come true!! But that is not the gift from my HP that I am going to share with you. As with many many others we have been affected by the economic turn down or turn over or over turn for the past several month...

Grace11 · Grace11

I haven't posted anything on this site for ages. I discovered this site when my husband went into rehab in June and found the nicest people. He came out of rehab in July and he was "cured" . Although he has not touched a drop since I think he is way more agressive than he ever was. He is not physica...

DreamsOver · DreamsOver

I have a AS (he is an adult) I had been letting him use my car to run errands because he lost his when he borrowed money from a title loan place and he didn't pay his payment. He began to abuse this privilege of using the car, staying out longer and longer, would not respect my request to have the car back at a ce...

maresie · maresie

The Christmas holidays have been some of the hardest times for me. When I was with the ex A there was tremendous conflict. I had been looking forward to working on them with my current therapist. Last week she announced she is leaving so I won't have any continuity over the holidays. For a couple of da...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I've been thinking some things through the past day and I realized that one of my BIGGEST FEARS is CHANGE! I am MORTIFIED of things changing..... When in a relationship I freeze....I'm afraid to move forward-afraid that things won't be the same and all the "good stuff" will be lost in day t...

Fifi · Fifi

Three to four years ago I was here...this site and all of you saved my life and my sanity as I encountered, loved, lived with and left my first alchoholic/addict. I have learned and grown miraculously thanks to the wisdom of alanon. I live a life that is full and rich and thankful every day. I am so much mo...

Sincerely · Sincerely

Hello Everyone! Last night I had cabin fever. Decided to go to Walmart ended up at Dress Barn. I have a wedding to go to next friday and a company christmas party soon afterwards. Anyways, I am looking forward to the wedding. All of my family and cousins will be there and my mom's gonna come with me too!...

dawna81 · dawna81

in the last NA meeting my husband and i attended they explained a higher power is just that, a higher power, how ever we see it. but my husband is growing more and more weary of even mentioning it on these boards, he asked "if you dont believe in god, is it still possible to recover in these programs?&...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((Family))), Good morning to you all. Here in the United States it's Halloween. Pipers and I wish you and your families a very HAPPY HALLOWEEN! Enjoy the day & night with the children. I will be out walking around the neighborhood enjoying the sights and sounds of it all. Please be safe. P...

ElizabethLost · ElizabethLost

I'm new here, though I used to read here when my husband first started going to AA. To try to give a brief history...we've been together 6 years and when I met him he drank...I thought just socially, but as time went by I realized it was so much more than that. He drank often, was doing drugs when he drank, wo...

Diva · Diva

Got a collect call. He is in Atlanta and will arrive here in San Antonio about 1 in the morning. Sounds tired and weak. I guess that's what a week of binge drinking does to a person. He is sober, and I can tell the depth of the apology is going to be world-class. Does the madness continue where it left o...

KC7411 · KC7411

Not sure where to begin but my father is turns 80 soon and as long as I recall he has been a heavy drinker. He has been the life of the party and is very well liked. With age his behavior when he drinks has become more of a problem. He is not an abusive drinker and has been a functional A and a good provider and...

RunnerChick · RunnerChick

After my A's last relapse, I realized how desperately I needed to work my program. The more I focus on me, the more I question whether or not I will able to fully heal me, while still in a relationship. I have asked him for space. The truth is I don't know what space looks like except I said I needed the room to...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha All...glad to be here and have you all a part of my recovery. I was having you all as a part of my recovery this morning, checking in before I started my chores. Making a mental list of what I would be working on just for today and my spouse decided to mention that one thing I might work on was getting off...

debhud · debhud

hi all, if you remember me, my dh is an active alcoholic. i do my program and take care of myself. for the most part, i am happy in my relationship with dh. yesterday i was visiting daughter-in-law. she was in tears. my 33yr. old son is also alcoholic. he is a mean drunk. they have a 10 yr. old da...

Gailey · Gailey

Last night at my meeting I was wondering why I could not find it in me to share. It was the same as the meeting the night before. I have noticed that if the topic is not focused on talking about the A in our life, I don't know what to talk about. I find it here too. I don't know how to share what is actually going on...

dori711 · dori711

Well, since I could not talk to my husband I wrote him a letter and in it jotted all the things down that were bothering me, and left it on the table for him to read. He responded by coming and saying "okay, lets try it again" and he also brought it up that I started it, so what really upsets me is t...

Goodgran · Goodgran

Friends, in my non-anonymous life I have been blessed with success as a freelance journalist. Most of my writing is bread-and-butter non-fiction (yawn) such as newspaper articles, etc. But once in a while I get an opportunity to write about what I love. One such article I wrote recently is about a...

cdngirl · cdngirl

Last night, my AH told me he wants to go to an AA meeting!!! This is a huge, incredible step for him, as he has been in denial for a long time. I told him I was so proud of him, that it took a lot of courage for him to say that. I ended up telling him that I've been to open AA meetings before (he knows I'm in Al-ano...

artie · artie

After a month of reading posts and attending a few f2f meetings, I'm amazed at how much I have learned on how to cope and how well it works if you do it. I haven't seen much on functioning alcoholics which is what I think my AH must be - professional job, hard worker, church involvement, responsible...

yelhsaa · yelhsaa

I have dated my boyfriend for 5 years now. Within the first two years his brother died of an overdose and his dad was diagnosed with ALS and died soon after. I think his problems were there before the deaths in his family. He does not have a job and lives in an empty house they are trying to sell that his dad us...

christinajeanne · christinajeanne

I have had a hectic couple of days. I pulled a neck muscle and am in a lot of pain from that. I spent the two days in bed because I could barely move my neck. I didn't go to work I was going to but then my mom convinced me it was not a brilliant idea. Considering I don't want to hurt myself worse. I am worried my aunt...

Overcome · Overcome

I had to file an order of protection against my ex-husband yesterday (we were divorced Aug. 25th) after he let himself into my home while my mother and I were gone, without my permission. I feel like this is somewhat my fault because I had let him back into my life somewhat lately and was considering a rel...

woopsadaisy · woopsadaisy

So, I am sitting here in the window seat of my place. there are boxes all over and I need to finish the move-in, but the sun is out and this is a nice place to sit and count my good fortune. My man is out of town for work, and he has not had any weed since he's been gone. I'ts been over a month for him. He is second gue...

Rhonda B · Rhonda B

Here I am, 46 and still going thru all of this. I have been in counseling for 20 years, done ACA, and it seems like I am making WORSE choices than before. The last two were by far the worst. A physically abusive meth user, and then just a complete control freak whom I suspect has a sex addiction. He cheat...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Id like to first thank all of you yesterday that took the time to read and/or respond to my post. Yesterday was one of the most difficult days I have had in some time. After reading the many responses and thinking on things, I do believe that it is a combination of things that triggered me yesterday....

Andrea12 · Andrea12

(((((((Hello Friends))))))))), Well she got her stiches out hope it looks worse than it's gonna be....she had a brain scan, MRI, Friday we go back to trama clinic in Pittsburgh....she has discovered some new problems today....she can't go to the bathroom is having a hard time peeing.....it has bee...

maresie · maresie

I was in the doctors office yesterday in a small waiting room with a dysfunctional family. The tension was incredible, there was a "crisis" every other second and none of them had any boundaries. They were oblivious to the fact their conduct bothered anyone they felt it was their stage to...

Diva · Diva

Alcoholic partner who fled to London last Friday afternoon is holed up in a hotel in Manchester, England. I have spoken to him twice. He has been drinking - now it is Wednesday, but has had nothing to eat, has not come out of the room, has not bathed or shaved, and feels and sounds awful. He is nearly 70....

Sincerely · Sincerely

Hello Everyone! Just wanted to share and hopefully encourage others ---------- Many times in life (especially life w/an A) there have been times when I felt like I was drowning. I have realized that GOD has never let me go under the water. Even though I thought I may have been downing, I never was. Ea...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Well those of you who have followed my story for the last year know where I am-I'm trying really hard today to trust that I am right where I am MEANT to be but I just can't seem to do it and keep my focus. I have been struggling BADLY for the past two weeks with issues with wanting to contact the EXABF. This mor...

Rita G · Rita G

So I too have joined the Facebook Craze - anyone wanting to "friend" me send me a PM and I'll get you my email address so that you can send me a friend request!!! Wishing you day that is Happy, Joyous and FREE!! HUGS, Rita

blender_girl · blender_girl

All I can say about the past couple of days is "Wow" and "Thank You". I've had no more ugly confrontations with AH - he's been quite cooperative and is essentially out of the house now. I've had a couple of friends who know about the situation reach out to me and offer me assistance...

Baffled · Baffled

October Agenda Review of October minutes Review of op meeting schedule Old Business Op duties Idle times New Business Op Liason Committee Please pm me if you have any additional items Baffled (Courage) -- Edited by Baffled on Wednesday 28th of October 2009 10:11:13 PM

Peggy7 · Peggy7

Just left the ER where my eldest son was xrayed and cat scans run after having totaled his car against a bridge. Dr. told him, you were very lucky you survived and aren't paralyzed or dead. He went on to say, if you keep this up you will be dead. You will die. Just for today, I still have my son. I pray this w...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

The Ex AH is still on the couch and he has been a help around the house. It has created some conflict with the kids to have him back around and in a position to tell them what to do. They don't like having another adult to answer to, especially considering he's there and I'm gone so much. The pretty much ha...

cdngirl · cdngirl

I am having trouble knowing whether I am doing the right thing when it comes to my reactions to my AH's drinking/lying/spending/etc. Before alanon, I used to always need to confront him on whatever he did that was wrong, so that he didn't feel like he was getting away with it, and so that he knew I didn't...

Karilynn · Karilynn

For those of you who want I have finally signed up for a Facebook account. PM me and I'll give you my name. Have a great day all! Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty

Gailey · Gailey

Dear Son, I am writing this email to get some things off my chest. It is for my benefit, not yours. Not sure I will even press the send button. I really think that I am coming to the end of being able to live with your addiction anymore. Drinking or sober, I find it very hard to be in your company. I am becomi...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((Family)))), Good morning dear family. As you can see I have finally managed to change my picture from the bunny to THE PIPERS KITTY! Yes, here she is in all her glory. The world truly revolves around her (at least she thinks it does!). I told you cats were like addicts and dog codependents! I am on...

RunnerChick · RunnerChick

I really suffer from this. I am hoping others wouldn't mind sharing how they cope with the stomach twisting, heart-pounding, mind consuming obsession and anxiety that one gets in situations that they really have no control over. I identify my fear of abandonment and rejection here, but this is a ver...

msmootsie · msmootsie

My son is 41 diagnosed obsessive compulsive and an alcoholic. He lost his job about a year ago and has been on partial unemployment and working part time. This past weekend I spent hours trying to get him help. He has no insurance so I took him to a firne who is a doctor who told him he needed pyschairis...

ajay147 · ajay147

She thinks I don't notice. I can tell as soon as i walked in. It's in her eyes. Her speech is different. Oh, and did I mention that she is now 8 months pregnant. Baby due in 5 weeks. And to think there was a time, not so long ago, that I questioned wether she had a drinking problem or not... Today has been a bad da...

angelbreeze127 · angelbreeze127

I am going to try to write.. and get all of my feelings out without stopping. Things here have become bad every day. There is not a night that my h doesn't start an argument over something. Even coming home at 3 p.m, he drinks so fast he is stewed by 5. By stewed, I don't mean falling down or very visibly drun...

hrhyne · hrhyne

Hello to everyone. I am in a fairly new relationship with an alcoholic. He told me two weeks ago that he has been in recovery for 5 years. Things between us are starting to take on a serious tune and I don't know anything about alcoholism. He says it's his issue not mine, but is that possible, to not sha...

Diva · Diva

He telephoned. From London. Anyone remember the movie, "Lost Weekend?" He has no memory (or so he says) of any of it. Found himself in a strange hotel, smelling like dog manure, having not bathed or shaved or changed clothes in three days. Did not know where he was. Found his way to the...

Jozie · Jozie

Welp :) I hit (2) F2F This Weekend, and boy did I need them both... I can tell from were I am the More the Marrier till I survive these up coming Holidays... Our Friday Nite was Bigger then I have ever seen in almost a year, so that had me excited, and my Sunday one which is usually Super Small.. (3-4) even had...

dori711 · dori711

Maybe I shouldn't even be here. Maybe it's my fault that at present we are having relationship problems. I was giving it a great deal of thought and yes, dear H does have a drinking problem, maybe worse since he seems to be choosing alcohol over me, but what I find worse than the drinking is his disrespe...

maresie · maresie

I pride myself on the fact I don't think very often about the ex A anymore. At one time he was part of every single though and I never thought that would be possible. Unconsciously I think now it is otherwise. I had wondered why I automatically cooked large quantities and now I understand I am still cooki...

Weltie · Weltie

Good day: I am Lawrie, a grateful member of the Weltevreden Park Al-Anon Family Group. Weltevreden is a residential suburb about 20-km outside of Johannesburg on the West Rand. We meet Tuesday nights from 19:30 at the local Methodist Church. Our numbers vary. This week we were down to six people but n...

blender_girl · blender_girl

Well - things didn't go how I would have liked them to, but the divorce petition has been filed, AH has been notified informally and my son and I have temporarily left the house. I'm sad to say that I had to have the police show up to have AH peacefully allow me to take my child out of the house. It didn't h...

Ragdolls · Ragdolls

Hi! This is my first post and I'm going to my first meeting tonight. I'm sure it's long overdue. I have that sick feeling in my stomach about going home tonight after work. It's a feeling I get when I know that my AFiance drank last night and I'm not sure what it's going to be like tonight. Normally, I w...

Tattyhead · Tattyhead

Today I finally had the courage to do what so many of my friends have been urging me to do - I went to the bank and re-arranged my finances. I have been married to my A for nearly 38 years. We have always had a joint bank account and A has taken care of the finances. I was happy to let him beacuse he worked in a bank...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Once Again xxx (Preview) Well, I come to the board with a heavy heart once again. Back in 2004, my AH had gotten his first DUI. By 2007 I left our home and he headed for a 30-day rehab. In 2008, I move back home and he fell off the wagon every now and then. Last night, while driving home from a wedding with his mother in the vehicle, h...	GailMichelle	2	643	Nov 3, 2009 by Jerry F
	Expectations........How do you NOT have them? Any ESH appreciated. (Preview) This weekend was a different kind of weekend for me in many ways. I learned that I still have expectations of other people, and I have no idea how NOT to have expectations. I am trying hard to live and let live, and let people be themselves, but I also find that I do have expectations when it comes to others...	shellyj123	5	545	Nov 2, 2009 by Jen
	Sigh--- (Preview) Hi, My name is Lisa and My husband is an alcoholic. I am 44 and we have been married over 20 years- he has been an alcaho;oc fpr the last 3. I will spare you the details because you all have similar stories. I have been attending al anon for about 9 months and I thank God every day for it. This weekend was a bad...	Lisa K	7	572	Nov 2, 2009 by Lisa K
	staring over (Preview) Some may remember me as RainyJamie. Or not. My anonymity was compromised so I had to delete my account. I don't care, I'm moving on. I filed for divorce and just told AH that he will be served. If he doesn't leave by Nov 31st I will leave with the kids. It is a huge deal as I am trying to take the house. It is more...	Starla	5	581	Nov 2, 2009 by Fifi
	Enough Already God,another accident and surgery for my daughter (Preview) Well just one more thing in my life.....son got a phone call from his best friend at 2:30 this am....he was in a wreck...totaled his car and all he wanted was Zach....unfortunately we were all sleeping and didn't hear the phone..... Bobby's brother just passed away a few months ago in a quad accident I...	Andrea12	10	474	Nov 2, 2009 by wp
	The disease takes another one (Preview) My sister had been addicted to many things in her life and I tried to do everything possible to help her for nearly 50 years. She had gone to rehab, had shock treatments, numberous stints in the psyche ward at the local hospital. She would get sober and then overdose once again. The family tried and tr...	Mobirdie	18	630	Nov 2, 2009 by Mobirdie
	Feeling rushed & pressured! (Preview) Today I am feeling rushed and pressured by my mom again. I occasionally go through this but today I want to spend some more time on the computer especially on MIP. I guess I could just say no to her need to push me out the door--I really want to please her sometimes because she wants to spend time with me. All...	Hoot Nanny	3	707	Nov 2, 2009 by Jozie
	A Gift (Preview) Happy Halloween ya'll... It's me and the chocolate...just me and the chocolate...my kiddie dreams come true!! But that is not the gift from my HP that I am going to share with you. As with many many others we have been affected by the economic turn down or turn over or over turn for the past several month...	Jerry F	5	635	Nov 2, 2009 by Jozie
	I really need a kind word. (Preview) I haven't posted anything on this site for ages. I discovered this site when my husband went into rehab in June and found the nicest people. He came out of rehab in July and he was "cured" . Although he has not touched a drop since I think he is way more agressive than he ever was. He is not physica...	Grace11	10	594	Nov 2, 2009 by maresie
	I Drew A Line Today............ (Preview) I have a AS (he is an adult) I had been letting him use my car to run errands because he lost his when he borrowed money from a title loan place and he didn't pay his payment. He began to abuse this privilege of using the car, staying out longer and longer, would not respect my request to have the car back at a ce...	DreamsOver	7	646	Nov 2, 2009 by alanonicScotland
	the holidays (Preview) The Christmas holidays have been some of the hardest times for me. When I was with the ex A there was tremendous conflict. I had been looking forward to working on them with my current therapist. Last week she announced she is leaving so I won't have any continuity over the holidays. For a couple of da...	maresie	4	609	Nov 2, 2009 by Gailey
	Is anyone else here MORTIFIED of CHANGE like I am???? (Preview) I've been thinking some things through the past day and I realized that one of my BIGGEST FEARS is CHANGE! I am MORTIFIED of things changing..... When in a relationship I freeze....I'm afraid to move forward-afraid that things won't be the same and all the "good stuff" will be lost in day t...	shellyj123	7	585	Nov 2, 2009 by thinkstoomuch
	baffling to be back (Preview) Three to four years ago I was here...this site and all of you saved my life and my sanity as I encountered, loved, lived with and left my first alchoholic/addict. I have learned and grown miraculously thanks to the wisdom of alanon. I live a life that is full and rich and thankful every day. I am so much mo...	Fifi	2	568	Nov 2, 2009 by Karilynn
	Say yes to the dress! (Preview) Hello Everyone! Last night I had cabin fever. Decided to go to Walmart ended up at Dress Barn. I have a wedding to go to next friday and a company christmas party soon afterwards. Anyways, I am looking forward to the wedding. All of my family and cousins will be there and my mom's gonna come with me too!...	Sincerely	5	688	Nov 1, 2009 by RLC
	people who judge our higher power make it difficult for us to recover. (Preview) in the last NA meeting my husband and i attended they explained a higher power is just that, a higher power, how ever we see it. but my husband is growing more and more weary of even mentioning it on these boards, he asked "if you dont believe in god, is it still possible to recover in these programs?&...	dawna81	10	554	Nov 1, 2009 by dawna81
	HAPPY HALLOWEEN! (Preview) ((((Family))), Good morning to you all. Here in the United States it's Halloween. Pipers and I wish you and your families a very HAPPY HALLOWEEN! Enjoy the day & night with the children. I will be out walking around the neighborhood enjoying the sights and sounds of it all. Please be safe. P...	Karilynn	4	550	Nov 1, 2009 by Andrea12
	No Idea What To Do (Preview) I'm new here, though I used to read here when my husband first started going to AA. To try to give a brief history...we've been together 6 years and when I met him he drank...I thought just socially, but as time went by I realized it was so much more than that. He drank often, was doing drugs when he drank, wo...	ElizabethLost	4	692	Nov 1, 2009 by ElizabethLost
	He's in Atlanta........last leg of the week-long adventure coming up. (Preview) Got a collect call. He is in Atlanta and will arrive here in San Antonio about 1 in the morning. Sounds tired and weak. I guess that's what a week of binge drinking does to a person. He is sober, and I can tell the depth of the apology is going to be world-class. Does the madness continue where it left o...	Diva	12	618	Oct 31, 2009 by Rocky38
	New here...Adult Child of an A (Preview) Not sure where to begin but my father is turns 80 soon and as long as I recall he has been a heavy drinker. He has been the life of the party and is very well liked. With age his behavior when he drinks has become more of a problem. He is not an abusive drinker and has been a functional A and a good provider and...	KC7411	3	593	Oct 31, 2009 by maresie
	I just don't know... (Preview) After my A's last relapse, I realized how desperately I needed to work my program. The more I focus on me, the more I question whether or not I will able to fully heal me, while still in a relationship. I have asked him for space. The truth is I don't know what space looks like except I said I needed the room to...	RunnerChick	5	645	Oct 31, 2009 by blender_girl
	Almost Buzzard Bait... (Preview) Aloha All...glad to be here and have you all a part of my recovery. I was having you all as a part of my recovery this morning, checking in before I started my chores. Making a mental list of what I would be working on just for today and my spouse decided to mention that one thing I might work on was getting off...	Jerry F	13	611	Oct 31, 2009 by Maria123
	son is alcoholic,daught-in-law is hurting. (Preview) hi all, if you remember me, my dh is an active alcoholic. i do my program and take care of myself. for the most part, i am happy in my relationship with dh. yesterday i was visiting daughter-in-law. she was in tears. my 33yr. old son is also alcoholic. he is a mean drunk. they have a 10 yr. old da...	debhud	2	547	Oct 31, 2009 by Sincerely
	sharing at f2f meetings (Preview) Last night at my meeting I was wondering why I could not find it in me to share. It was the same as the meeting the night before. I have noticed that if the topic is not focused on talking about the A in our life, I don't know what to talk about. I find it here too. I don't know how to share what is actually going on...	Gailey	4	618	Oct 30, 2009 by abbyal
	Talking again (Preview) Well, since I could not talk to my husband I wrote him a letter and in it jotted all the things down that were bothering me, and left it on the table for him to read. He responded by coming and saying "okay, lets try it again" and he also brought it up that I started it, so what really upsets me is t...	dori711	5	573	Oct 30, 2009 by Debilyn
	What to Expect at Your First Al-Anon Meeting (Preview) Friends, in my non-anonymous life I have been blessed with success as a freelance journalist. Most of my writing is bread-and-butter non-fiction (yawn) such as newspaper articles, etc. But once in a while I get an opportunity to write about what I love. One such article I wrote recently is about a...	Goodgran	14	3438	Oct 30, 2009 by sunshine231401
	Amazed!! (Preview) Last night, my AH told me he wants to go to an AA meeting!!! This is a huge, incredible step for him, as he has been in denial for a long time. I told him I was so proud of him, that it took a lot of courage for him to say that. I ended up telling him that I've been to open AA meetings before (he knows I'm in Al-ano...	cdngirl	5	583	Oct 30, 2009 by Jerry F
	functioning alcoholics (Preview) After a month of reading posts and attending a few f2f meetings, I'm amazed at how much I have learned on how to cope and how well it works if you do it. I haven't seen much on functioning alcoholics which is what I think my AH must be - professional job, hard worker, church involvement, responsible...	artie	8	692	Oct 30, 2009 by canadianguy
	Is this normal? (Preview) I have dated my boyfriend for 5 years now. Within the first two years his brother died of an overdose and his dad was diagnosed with ALS and died soon after. I think his problems were there before the deaths in his family. He does not have a job and lives in an empty house they are trying to sell that his dad us...	yelhsaa	7	673	Oct 30, 2009 by canadianguy
	Imperfection (Preview) I have had a hectic couple of days. I pulled a neck muscle and am in a lot of pain from that. I spent the two days in bed because I could barely move my neck. I didn't go to work I was going to but then my mom convinced me it was not a brilliant idea. Considering I don't want to hurt myself worse. I am worried my aunt...	christinajeanne	3	521	Oct 30, 2009 by Beth 123
	Had to file Order of Protection against ex-husband. (Preview) I had to file an order of protection against my ex-husband yesterday (we were divorced Aug. 25th) after he let himself into my home while my mother and I were gone, without my permission. I feel like this is somewhat my fault because I had let him back into my life somewhat lately and was considering a rel...	Overcome	8	760	Oct 29, 2009 by Jen
	why do you think our program works? (Preview) So, I am sitting here in the window seat of my place. there are boxes all over and I need to finish the move-in, but the sun is out and this is a nice place to sit and count my good fortune. My man is out of town for work, and he has not had any weed since he's been gone. I'ts been over a month for him. He is second gue...	woopsadaisy	3	602	Oct 29, 2009 by Jen
	How Do I Stop Being Manipulated??? Anger repeat bad choices (Preview) Here I am, 46 and still going thru all of this. I have been in counseling for 20 years, done ACA, and it seems like I am making WORSE choices than before. The last two were by far the worst. A physically abusive meth user, and then just a complete control freak whom I suspect has a sex addiction. He cheat...	Rhonda B	6	4417	Oct 29, 2009 by Missy 1
	Reflections and looking back.... (Preview) Id like to first thank all of you yesterday that took the time to read and/or respond to my post. Yesterday was one of the most difficult days I have had in some time. After reading the many responses and thinking on things, I do believe that it is a combination of things that triggered me yesterday....	shellyj123	1	505	Oct 29, 2009 by Jozie
	Update since Daughter's Accident (Preview) (((((((Hello Friends))))))))), Well she got her stiches out hope it looks worse than it's gonna be....she had a brain scan, MRI, Friday we go back to trama clinic in Pittsburgh....she has discovered some new problems today....she can't go to the bathroom is having a hard time peeing.....it has bee...	Andrea12	5	752	Oct 29, 2009 by Debilyn
	new beginnings (Preview) I was in the doctors office yesterday in a small waiting room with a dysfunctional family. The tension was incredible, there was a "crisis" every other second and none of them had any boundaries. They were oblivious to the fact their conduct bothered anyone they felt it was their stage to...	maresie	3	463	Oct 29, 2009 by emma
	I need your opinions. (Preview) Alcoholic partner who fled to London last Friday afternoon is holed up in a hotel in Manchester, England. I have spoken to him twice. He has been drinking - now it is Wednesday, but has had nothing to eat, has not come out of the room, has not bathed or shaved, and feels and sounds awful. He is nearly 70....	Diva	13	651	Oct 29, 2009 by Karilynn
	God is Good ALL THE TIME!! (Preview) Hello Everyone! Just wanted to share and hopefully encourage others ---------- Many times in life (especially life w/an A) there have been times when I felt like I was drowning. I have realized that GOD has never let me go under the water. Even though I thought I may have been downing, I never was. Ea...	Sincerely	2	467	Oct 29, 2009 by ljc
	Desperately In need of some ESH, a real struggle today. Need some help... (Preview) Well those of you who have followed my story for the last year know where I am-I'm trying really hard today to trust that I am right where I am MEANT to be but I just can't seem to do it and keep my focus. I have been struggling BADLY for the past two weeks with issues with wanting to contact the EXABF. This mor...	shellyj123	7	572	Oct 29, 2009 by maresie
	Facebook (Me too Karilynn) (Preview) So I too have joined the Facebook Craze - anyone wanting to "friend" me send me a PM and I'll get you my email address so that you can send me a friend request!!! Wishing you day that is Happy, Joyous and FREE!! HUGS, Rita	Rita G	0	303	Oct 29, 2009 by Rita G
	HP is watching over me (Preview) All I can say about the past couple of days is "Wow" and "Thank You". I've had no more ugly confrontations with AH - he's been quite cooperative and is essentially out of the house now. I've had a couple of friends who know about the situation reach out to me and offer me assistance...	blender_girl	2	474	Oct 29, 2009 by shellyj123
	November Business Meeting Agenda, November 1, 2009 9 p.m. Eastern (Preview) October Agenda Review of October minutes Review of op meeting schedule Old Business Op duties Idle times New Business Op Liason Committee Please pm me if you have any additional items Baffled (Courage) -- Edited by Baffled on Wednesday 28th of October 2009 10:11:13 PM	Baffled	0	514	Oct 28, 2009 by Baffled
	Son is alive today... (Preview) Just left the ER where my eldest son was xrayed and cat scans run after having totaled his car against a bridge. Dr. told him, you were very lucky you survived and aren't paralyzed or dead. He went on to say, if you keep this up you will be dead. You will die. Just for today, I still have my son. I pray this w...	Peggy7	17	748	Oct 28, 2009 by blender_girl
	Update (long) (Preview) The Ex AH is still on the couch and he has been a help around the house. It has created some conflict with the kids to have him back around and in a position to tell them what to do. They don't like having another adult to answer to, especially considering he's there and I'm gone so much. The pretty much ha...	carolinagirl	3	464	Oct 28, 2009 by carolinagirl
	Reactions (Preview) I am having trouble knowing whether I am doing the right thing when it comes to my reactions to my AH's drinking/lying/spending/etc. Before alanon, I used to always need to confront him on whatever he did that was wrong, so that he didn't feel like he was getting away with it, and so that he knew I didn't...	cdngirl	10	538	Oct 28, 2009 by cdngirl
	Facebook (Preview) For those of you who want I have finally signed up for a Facebook account. PM me and I'll give you my name. Have a great day all! Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty	Karilynn	0	452	Oct 28, 2009 by Karilynn
	a letter to my A (Preview) Dear Son, I am writing this email to get some things off my chest. It is for my benefit, not yours. Not sure I will even press the send button. I really think that I am coming to the end of being able to live with your addiction anymore. Drinking or sober, I find it very hard to be in your company. I am becomi...	Gailey	9	720	Oct 28, 2009 by Overcome
	The Pipers Kitty (Preview) ((((Family)))), Good morning dear family. As you can see I have finally managed to change my picture from the bunny to THE PIPERS KITTY! Yes, here she is in all her glory. The world truly revolves around her (at least she thinks it does!). I told you cats were like addicts and dog codependents! I am on...	Karilynn	9	781	Oct 28, 2009 by Beth 123
	Obsession of the Mind - using program tools to cope (Preview) I really suffer from this. I am hoping others wouldn't mind sharing how they cope with the stomach twisting, heart-pounding, mind consuming obsession and anxiety that one gets in situations that they really have no control over. I identify my fear of abandonment and rejection here, but this is a ver...	RunnerChick	5	1143	Oct 28, 2009 by Aloha
	First time posting and in desperate help (Preview) My son is 41 diagnosed obsessive compulsive and an alcoholic. He lost his job about a year ago and has been on partial unemployment and working part time. This past weekend I spent hours trying to get him help. He has no insurance so I took him to a firne who is a doctor who told him he needed pyschairis...	msmootsie	9	664	Oct 28, 2009 by msmootsie
	drinking in secret (Preview) She thinks I don't notice. I can tell as soon as i walked in. It's in her eyes. Her speech is different. Oh, and did I mention that she is now 8 months pregnant. Baby due in 5 weeks. And to think there was a time, not so long ago, that I questioned wether she had a drinking problem or not... Today has been a bad da...	ajay147	2	522	Oct 28, 2009 by Jerry F
	first time posting (Preview) I am going to try to write.. and get all of my feelings out without stopping. Things here have become bad every day. There is not a night that my h doesn't start an argument over something. Even coming home at 3 p.m, he drinks so fast he is stewed by 5. By stewed, I don't mean falling down or very visibly drun...	angelbreeze127	8	548	Oct 27, 2009 by Jen
	I don't know what I'm doing? (Preview) Hello to everyone. I am in a fairly new relationship with an alcoholic. He told me two weeks ago that he has been in recovery for 5 years. Things between us are starting to take on a serious tune and I don't know anything about alcoholism. He says it's his issue not mine, but is that possible, to not sha...	hrhyne	5	624	Oct 27, 2009 by maresie
	Ok Gang... The subject deepens... (Preview) He telephoned. From London. Anyone remember the movie, "Lost Weekend?" He has no memory (or so he says) of any of it. Found himself in a strange hotel, smelling like dog manure, having not bathed or shaved or changed clothes in three days. Did not know where he was. Found his way to the...	Diva	10	1062	Oct 27, 2009 by Jen
	Love'n My Program... (Preview) Welp :) I hit (2) F2F This Weekend, and boy did I need them both... I can tell from were I am the More the Marrier till I survive these up coming Holidays... Our Friday Nite was Bigger then I have ever seen in almost a year, so that had me excited, and my Sunday one which is usually Super Small.. (3-4) even had...	Jozie	3	461	Oct 27, 2009 by Hoot Nanny
	Maybe it's my fault. (Preview) Maybe I shouldn't even be here. Maybe it's my fault that at present we are having relationship problems. I was giving it a great deal of thought and yes, dear H does have a drinking problem, maybe worse since he seems to be choosing alcohol over me, but what I find worse than the drinking is his disrespe...	dori711	8	821	Oct 27, 2009 by dori711
	unconscious attachment. (Preview) I pride myself on the fact I don't think very often about the ex A anymore. At one time he was part of every single though and I never thought that would be possible. Unconsciously I think now it is otherwise. I had wondered why I automatically cooked large quantities and now I understand I am still cooki...	maresie	3	745	Oct 27, 2009 by maresie
	Hi - just like you to know that Al-Anon is alive and well in South Africa (Preview) Good day: I am Lawrie, a grateful member of the Weltevreden Park Al-Anon Family Group. Weltevreden is a residential suburb about 20-km outside of Johannesburg on the West Rand. We meet Tuesday nights from 19:30 at the local Methodist Church. Our numbers vary. This week we were down to six people but n...	Weltie	17	997	Oct 27, 2009 by Weltie
	We Left (Preview) Well - things didn't go how I would have liked them to, but the divorce petition has been filed, AH has been notified informally and my son and I have temporarily left the house. I'm sad to say that I had to have the police show up to have AH peacefully allow me to take my child out of the house. It didn't h...	blender_girl	10	650	Oct 27, 2009 by carolinagirl
	I've got that sick feeling in my stomach about going home after work. (Preview) Hi! This is my first post and I'm going to my first meeting tonight. I'm sure it's long overdue. I have that sick feeling in my stomach about going home tonight after work. It's a feeling I get when I know that my AFiance drank last night and I'm not sure what it's going to be like tonight. Normally, I w...	Ragdolls	6	686	Oct 27, 2009 by Karilynn
	Happy and very sad (Preview) Today I finally had the courage to do what so many of my friends have been urging me to do - I went to the bank and re-arranged my finances. I have been married to my A for nearly 38 years. We have always had a joint bank account and A has taken care of the finances. I was happy to let him beacuse he worked in a bank...	Tattyhead	3	650	Oct 27, 2009 by RunnerChick
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