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Knowing what you know now...Would you ever???
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Get involved, knowingly, in an relationship with another A? I've asked myself this alot lately...wondering.... Being single and in the dating world I have discovered that this is an area I struggle with. I know social drinkers, I myself will have an occassional "social drink" once or t...
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(Firt post) I feel like a monster :/ It's a long one, but your input will be extremely appreciated.
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Hello Everyone, Nic here, from Canada. This might be a lengthy post, but I will try to make it quick and easy to read. Also, it is about my sister, who is not an alcoholic herself (our father was). I really hope I can still get advice... About myself I am 25. I'm not an alcoholic. I do drink, but not to that ex...
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Fed Up in Canada
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New Here w/ Question about my actions lately....Hubby recovered for 6 yrs
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Hello, I am new here & have a question. My Hubby is recovered for the past 6 yrs. We have been together for 18 1/2, married 13 & have 2 daughters.F For the past 1 1/2 I have been feeling very selfish. I have begun to drink 1-2 times wk. I have about 2 glasses of wine each time. Being on antidepressants...
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nunu89
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How to respond to AH when financial disaster is upon us??
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Hello I am new here and struggling with a kind, generous big teddy bear AH. He's not abusive or mean but his habits are driving us quickly to financial ruin...he won't even discuss the problem. Seems he needs his booze and cigarettes before the bills get paid..what shoud I do?? I do not want to have to mov...
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Country Lover
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Annual Holiday Card Request
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Hello Everyone, Each year at this time, I send out a simple request to all MIP members to consider sending holiday cards to the residents of Miracles In Progress Aftercare Recovery Homes. As many of us already know from our own experience, the holidays during early recovery can be very hard on newco...
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John
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Any tips?
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Hi,
Just wondering if anyone has any good tips for me. For the last few days, I have exhausted... I'm having a hard time getting out of bed, I'm on the couch most of the day, too tired to do anything, and like that until about 7 pm.. Then I seem to wake up a bit and can't get to sleep until 2 am.. Oh, yeah.. Gott...
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Evian
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Detachment.....How do you Detach?
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Detachment questions come up many times in my f2f meetings and also on this board. I remember when I first entered the rooms of Al-Anon I knew the definition of detachment, but I didn't have a clue how to detach from the alcoholic in my life. Over time and with much practice detachment has become a ve...
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RLC
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How much (if anything) to say...
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Last Saturday night the family was at a holiday party and W got pretty drunk. Sunday she was paying for it. I made no mention of it and went about my day. We had another party on Sunday night. W didn't want to go so I took the boys. While there my 16 year-old son was sitting with a group of his friends chatting a...
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SteppingUp
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I don't have to obsess about anything anymore
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When I began alanon and working on my codependency issues, I thought I would never be able to even for one minute stop obsessing over others/things. I realize now that this is my symptom of my sickness. Just as alcoholics or drug addicts use a substance to stop feeling, I use other people to stop feeli...
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sunflowergirl
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Detachment
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Hello Everyone, I was sitting in a meeting of my "other program" Sunday morning listening to the "speaker" talking about the subject of appropriate love, when the message turned a moment towards detachment. The thing he said that most stuck out to me was when he related a praye...
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david62
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Holidays with an A but also with little ones.
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Every year around the holidays I start having anxiety issues. I have little children and it is almost impossible for me to get to al-anon meetings. most of the year i can cope ok but as we get closer to christmas and new years I get panicky. Probably the sight of many bottles of wine and cases of beer enteri...
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boy it is sure is nice...
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It sure is nice to get sleep & relax on a daily basis. If you were me, you would totally get what I am saying here. I am so grateful to God that He is taking care of me so I can relax & let him do it! Just have to turn it over on a daily basis & continue to accept the miracles & good experiences as t...
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Hoot Nanny
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For people that have gotten out of the realtionship
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So I have been with alcholic Fiance for six years. I think I am really nearing the end of the line with him. For one, I have three kids that still live at home, 17,20,& 23. We get home from being at the cabin all weekend, to a driveway mostly dug out, but still some left. Also the snowplow has a towel jamme...
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JustJill
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Trying not to get my hopes up
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Ah told me this morning that he realized that he may in fact have an alcohol problem. He said that he realized he is drinking more and more and is starting to lose control. This came after drinking a lot this weekend which I posted about in another thread. He got really sick after drinking on Saturday and f...
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kimmy1975
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Sunday Chair ~ Melted Down today
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Hello, every body. If you were in the meeting this morning, I think I am having a melt down. I aplogize. It seems obvious to me that I cannot chair the meetings anymore bc I do not want to be a police man of what people talk about in the chat room. I am here to work my recovery for me and I have to keep that as m...
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kitty
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Choices
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I was struck today about how the realization that I have CHOICES has been instrumental in my recovery. When I got here, I didn't know I had many choices. Seemed to me like I had either choice A that was bad, or choice B that was even worse. Everything was just so black and white, and I didn't realize that...
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White Rabbit
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How do I not get anxious about a fight?
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This comes up a lot. I don't like to fight with my wife (it never gets physical btw but she can get verbally abusive at times). But, there are times I do things that I know is right or something I have to do and I also know she is going to be mad and possibly start a fight over it. Case in point. Wife hired a lan...
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Literature
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Was wondering what literature is a 'must have' to read and comprehend and learn from. I have been looking through the site as well as Amazon, and it seems like there is so much I could purchase, but with the holidays I want to start gradually. Thank you. Dawn
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youghlake
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What to expect at a meeting....also 'novel' attached
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Hey Everyone, I'm fairly new here, I've only posted twice. Let me give you a quick summary of my background. Started dating my A 3 years ago, had NO IDEA he was an A. He seemed to drink 'normally'. After 4 or 5 months in to the relationship he told me that he as an A. ( and had started drinking a month before we...
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freewilltoday
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Is it just me?
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Is it just me, or does any one else have this problem? I can't seem to get close to my AH. I mean, anything to do with intimacy or any thing remotely close, makes me sick to my stomach. Is this normal?
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Evian
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New here, and need some help/advice
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Hi! Not sure where to begin, how to start healing, and not get dragged down by this disease. I'm married to an alcoholic, and we have 3 kids. He said he wants to seek treatment, but seems to be putting things off. The fights, the arguments are getting worse and I feel like I'm going crazy. He says he drinks b...
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Evian
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Hacked ??????????????
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When I try to pull up the MIP web site the whole screen has the words "You Have Been Hacked" with a black backgournd. The only way I was able to get on to post this message is by clicking on a PM I received yesterday that I still had in my email and that took me to the site. Is anyone else having thi...
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RLC
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Acoholic Ex-Father-in-Law with sexual addiction verbally attacks grand-daughter
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Would like some input on a situation and how you 'ol-timer's (and new timer's )might have handled a particular situation. background info: Ex-father-in-law sexually molested my ex-husband from the time he was 3-11. Physically, mentally and emotionally abused him the rest of his childhood. Men...
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Overcome
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Dogs gone bad at Eden
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Gads I was out fixing the bird feeders, did not latch the door, all of a sudden 8 dogs go storming past me. I got the big ones in but the 5 little idiots, ran a mile down my road to the busy road! AND of course two people are just then taking their daily walk. I warn them my little monster dogs got out, the guy says...
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lyndebi
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Confused at my behavior and the AH's
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Hi everyone... Im confused and would love some ESH So, my AH was sober for 4.5 days on day 5, last night, he drank. Last night I was alone in our room reading while AH had a friend over to watch football, after his AA meeting. So, Im reading away and I hear our dog barking so I open our window to tell him quite,...
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Difficulty Feeling Connection to Partner
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Hello, I am new to you, I have been following the board for a few weeks. I have a AH who is on his fourth month of sobriety. This is our third round of being sober. We have been together for 14 years. He was sober for a 7 year stretch, began drinking again three years ago, was sober from May to the end of August th...
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lilac21
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12.05.10 MIP Chatroom Group Business Meeting Minutes
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Chair opened the meeting with the Serenity Prayer. November minutes were approved as written. First item: Meeting schedule. AM MON Shimo TUES xeno WED Iona THURS OPEN FRI Blendergirl SAT OPEN SUN (Spiritual) Kittyoflight PM MON grammie TUES casa WEDS ednaxray THURS (Step/tradition...
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casa
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New Here.....not sure, but I need to get control of my life.
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HI. I'm sure I should go to meetings, with everything I have read tonite. But I can't just yet, maybe I can get the nerve at some point, but right now I pretty much feel like a failure in my life and my marriage. My husband is an alcoholic, in denial. He is of the opinion that he only drinks with me, and only d...
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youghlake
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need help in hawaii
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Hello All, I will be in Hawaii (on the big island, east side) for a week for my sister's wedding and will be staying with my entire family. I know I will need alanon to stay sane and will be without a car. Can anyone connect me with folks there? Does anyone here know alanon people in hawaii?? Thanks in adv...
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shifra
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There could be an imposter among us
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I feel there is someone on here under false pretenses. I no longer feel safe to post on here, and how sad is that? This has been my home for years to post my feelings about addiction and what's going on in my life and I no longer feel safe anywhere now. My sense of security has been completely stripped, no...
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sdisnie
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Struggling with compassion
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Last night, AH and I went to his friend's house to have dinner and hang out. AH brought a bottle of wine with him. It was a really big bottle of wine. If I had to guess the size of it, I would say it was at least a half gallon bottle of wine, if not more. AH ended up drinking the entire thing by himself, plus se...
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kimmy1975
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Thank you and update
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Hi all As most of you on here will know I had my son removed from my family home a ten days ago, as he was to move into an apartment with my husband and I was to move back to my marital/family home. My son was furious with me understandably and it was a very difficult time, and I settled down here expecting to be p...
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failte
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Alcoholism question just out of curiosity
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Hi everyone, I'm wondering at what age your A's became alcoholic? I haven't yet learnt or read much about this. Is there a certain age this disease usually strikes? I have read that there are a variety of factors that contribute to a person being more susceptible to alcoholism (sex, mental health, en...
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danielle0516
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Hitting rock bottom.
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Looking for words of wisdom, hope and encouragement for someone who might have finaly hit rock bottom.
She is very depressed right now.
My favorite quote so far is "Rock bottom is good solid ground, and a dead end street is just a place to turn around:
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Screaming Barbie
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Painful
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Today started ok. I spent the night at my sister's house bacause I was babysitting my five month old nephew. I love him so much! But the day got harder and harder. I started to feel really nauseated and had a headache. Then I came home to find that the TV I had borrowed from my sister was out of my room. It wasn...
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Brookiebabe222
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Church Tonight
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My church has this gigantic support group. I love going to it. It's so big, they have to split it into a whole bunch of small groups. AH was going too during his recovery period and really opened up during that time. It's based around the Al-anon meetings and/or AA and NA, with the 12 steps and the s...
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sdisnie
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Still Practicing
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I havent posted in a while but I do read the posts daily and do appreciate everyones sharing. I have learned so much and I think grown to, these past few months by attending f2f meetings regulary, and reading here and also reading program meditations/writings daily. I still have not found a sponsor bu...
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Ginger90
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Feeling crazy and acting that way!
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Warning... this might not make sense. Got into some crazy behavior last night. I am writing to release it from me. It 3 in the morning, and I feel overwhlemed with anxiety, frustration and anger. Amazing how easy it is to lose my program. And I was doing pretty good too... I will not be getting divo...
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Loupiness
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Holiday protection plan
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I went to a wonderful meeting last night, the topic was about the upcoming holidays and how we were planning to stay spiritually fit to handle all the ways we could possibly lose our serenity and our connection to our Higher Power. The holidays have been much better for me since I found al-anon, now I...
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glad lee
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Struggling With Self Care
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I've been sick off and on for a month, and finally went to the doctor on Monday. She diagnosed me with walking pneumonia, and I got the standard "take better care of yourself" lecture from her. I think I am doing a MUCH better job of taking care of myself emotionally, but it is a struggle to do s...
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stephaniej
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Can you help me understand this????
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Hi everyone! Nice to see ya all as I have been away awhile. Life is good. I did want to get some feed back from you all though. I was abused by my a mom, when she was drunk and now understand also high on valium. This is an issue I thought I had dealt with, but a week ago I went to a party at my sisters hous...
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fishinmama
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scared, in crisis - esh, prayers appreciated
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I can't go into details right now but I am terribly worried about my ah. We stayed at a hotel in town last night, he got very drunk. This morning he went out for coffee, came back drunk an hour later. I decided to come home, told him I was going and I'd be there when he decided to come. I talked to him on the phone...
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pineapple
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Protection Order: DENIED
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Just love the law....it's a waste of time and completely pointless. Wasted half my day trying to buy some time to protect my kids mental well being from the sick A......judge tells me to file something to modify/limit parenting time......That's not the point!!!! His parenting time is already limi...
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sdisnie
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having trouble making a decision
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I am having trouble making a decision about my vehicle. The insurance totaled it and gave me a sum of money to keep it and a sum of money to give it to them for salvage. The price difference is $600. It looks as though there is not much internal damage, but you never know about that. I need to take the higher am...
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kath
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Need Help Before I React
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To make a long story short (if I can), back in September, I was out of town for work. My AH, who is also diabetic, decided to drink one day and not eat, while he was in charge of our 7 year old son. While my son was in school all day, he had to come home to his father being totally drunk and having a diabetic low....
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hi,xeno
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thanx for the comment,i really needed that i always wondered about others in my faith i always felt like or use to felt like i was the only deseased one there,cause they all knew of my problems,so ty,and no i wasnt offened the least bit,i figured alot of them kept it well hid,and it angrys me when they star...
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pattyann1963
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Been asked to be a sponsor
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I was asked the other day to consider being a person's sponsor. I was actually pretty surprised. My sponsor had pointed this person over to me maybe a month or so ago. I told this person that I'd not sponsored anyone before, and that I'm still only officially working my 4th step, but if she's willing to gi...
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Aloha
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friend ignoring me
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I can scarcely believe what I'm about to report. I'm 32 and I have a friend in my program in grad school who is a couple years younger. he's married; I'm engaged, there has never been any "tension" we've always just been good friends (that's just to clarify it in case you wondered!). Since abo...
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Imogen421
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having trouble getting past the sadness
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Ah was sober for awhile, then started drinking on occasion, lately has been spiraling downward rapidly. I've learned so much here that I'm much better able to handle it. I don't obsess over it. I don't even get angry anymore. I focus on myself and do what <i can to take care of myself. I've given the wh...
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pineapple
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Anxiety
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I'm not sure, but I think my entire mind and body is feeling complete overwhelming anxiety. I helped my daughter with her homework when she got home, I've been picking up around the house, ran to get milk and dog food, talked with the kids, going to a meeting tonight, but my head is feeling dizzy, my eyes...
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sdisnie
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Prayer request
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I just wanted to request some prayers for my family. My AW and I have been trying to both deal with her addiction to alchohol through AA and Alanon. I had been suspicious about her drinking for the last month or so and it finally came to a head last night when she was hiding vodka and drinking it everytime I l...
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ntxalanon
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Hello
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Hi, this is Kath. Have been gone for a while due to computer malfunction. Just wanted to ask you guys to keep family and I in your prayers. We were involved in a hit and run accident this weekend. No one was severly injured, in which I am thankful. After the accident I did have feelings of guilt and thinkin...
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kath
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Im sorta scarred and dont know what to do?
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I dont know if I should do ( or say ) anything at all. I dont live with an alcoholic. I live in the same town as my Momand she is addicted to prescription pain killers and she has been for a very long time. Currently she is angry with me cuz I set a boundary. A little over 5 yrs ago I confronted my Mom ( via email...
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ljc
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Wow...what a stressful day....had to call police :(
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Well....I was working at home today, one of my good friends gets a text from the A....he tells her he's happy and should not have come back to his family, now he just wants to see his kids, but has made no attempt other than harrassing me and my friends about it. .......she said she did tell him he needs to g...
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sdisnie
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Update
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This is how insane it is. I just got an email from my mortgage advocate. His job is to do all the paperwork and communicate with the Mortgage company. He is doing it for me as he is a friend of my adoptive dads. The mortgage co. put the date up again. Was told more than once we would have a contract or answer if...
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lyndebi
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My First Meeting
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Well I attended my first meeting and was amazed...My sister in-law called me earlier this evening and asked me if I needed her to go with me...I promptly said NO She did not attend and I am greatful...Things have worked out in the end...I will be attending again next week and so on...I felt right away tha...
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butterfliesnroses60
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Still? Really?
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Hey guys. So it's been a while. I am a little stresses because this week is finals week for school and since I missed so much I have to finish a ton of work. In the meantime, The ex A is plauging my thoughts. Every time my mind wanders from schoolwork to him, my stomach twists in knots and I get super anxious. T...
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Brookiebabe222
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trying hard
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hi, my a/addict in my life is my now (thank gosh) distant b/f,i got really lonely today and felt like i was actually gonna crack up this morn.so i finnally broke down and called my a b/f,WHAT WAS I THINKING,im trying so hard to just disolve this bad sick and could be dangerous relationship ,i even asked hi...
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pattyann1963
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It works if you work it....
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Last night was interesting to me. Yesterday about half way through the day I could tell my Abf had been drinking and possibly whatever else. Regardless, I of course got a little obsessed. I went into the crazy thinking that us codependents do, which is my way of avoiding what hurts. I get so involve...
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sunflowergirl
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Where do I go from here?
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I had been very proud of how well I was working my program but I failed miserably the past few days! It was opening hunting season plus Ah took a week of vacation so I knew it would be alot of drinking and prepared to do my own thing. But instead of being happy that I had made plans (with my 11 year old grandaugh...
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sarebaer
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