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gladysg · gladysg

I have realized via Step 4-6 that I am very fearful and controlling. It is due to a desire for family. I have picked someone very irresponsible. How can I accept that and move on? My expectations were too high. I have been trying to control the outcome of his lack of responsibility. To think that I did this...

username · username

I know someone who is currently living with his elderly parents but they can no longer handle him when he has been drinking. They feel like they're enabling him by providing him with a home regardless of his actions, but they cannot in good concience turn him out with nowhere to go. He cannot afford to li...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

Things had been good around here. He was going to counseling with me, told me that I probably saved his life by getting the alcohol out of our lives, etc. Yet, I always knew in the back of my mind that it was too good to be true. I finally snooped(I know, bad idea) and found an open bottle. It just brings b...

Gailey · Gailey

As you know, in addition to my A son that I am always talking about on here, my younger son has a problem too. He is the one that is in the Navy and is in Guam right now while his daughter and wife are with me until the crisis in Japan is over. He has just recently went to a doctor in Guam about his uncontrollable d...

wildthang86 · wildthang86

It's been awhile since I have posted anything on here and find that I have missed sharing. I have come to a realization, I am a work in progress. Not that this is new but to me but I have not been working my program diligently as I had. So last night I found myself "teasing" my AH about his alcohol p...

floridawife · floridawife

Well I finally hit my breaking point lastnight and told my AH to leave. I'm tired of the lies and drinking and the toll this is taking on me (and my 2 small boys-who I HOPE haven't been affected yet). Last time we had and "episode" I told him if he wanted to stay in our house that he had to go to the Su...

glad lee · glad lee

There is no happiness; there are only moments of happiness. -- Spanish proverb How happy we are right now may hinge on dinnertime - whether it is just before or just after. It may also depend on whether we are examining ourselves to see if we are happy or not. There's nothing like a little introspection t...

kathyc · kathyc

I'm finally going to get out, it's been 20 years. I'm sad,anxious, scared and sick but I know it's the right thing to do for myself and my kids. My AH has depressed and disconnected with us for a long, long time now. It makes me feel like I am a bad person. I feel that my close friends and family all know whats g...

Samsgram · Samsgram

http://www.bing.com/videos/watch/video/ashley-judd-reveals-sexual-abuse-as-child/6b7uh1s?q=Ashley+Judd&rel=msn&from=en-us_msnhp&form=MSNRLL&gt1=42010

searching4peace · searching4peace

My AH had his first day back at work yesterday. And I recieved the expected email asking me to get money for him to get beer and smokes after work. And I said no. We are broke at the moment. His time off work to 'quit drinking' has devastated our budget and I have already borrowed $100 from his Mom for gas a...

Aloha · Aloha

I've had a really interesting experience over the last month and thought I'd share. (It's long, sit down with a good cup of coffee or something.) A few weeks ago, I met a guy while hanging out with my boss. We didn't hit it off right away, just kept stealing glances at each other the night we met. I didn't th...

flopadopilus · flopadopilus

it was such a loooong day and started out way too early. Than my job was over and I came home and went online and read some MIP shares and started smiling and even laughed. I have found some great knowledge and hope here after many a hard or emotionally depleting day. I am so appreciative to everyone who ha...

tweety23 · tweety23

i should start off by saying at this moment in time i am unable to attend f2f meetings unfortunately. i have only been able to go to one but at the current time situation makes it impossible. anyway i have always spent a lot of time anxious/stressing over Ah drinking but lately i find myself worrying abo...

Justpretending · Justpretending

I need help. (Sorry, it's a long post) My husband is an alcoholic. A functional alcoholic, if there is such a thing. He's rarely ever drunk in the "falling down, slurring speech, etc." sense of the word, although he is rarely ever sober by 7:00 p.m. (Not making excuses, just stating facts...

Very Very Tired · Very Very Tired

I know no one can give me the answers. I am looking for ESH to help me make healthy and safe choices. My AH wants to take our DD on a business trip with him to show her what he does-- a lovely, educational and bonding experience in the world of "normies." In the alcoholic world, it is much more pr...

Evian · Evian

and nothing has really changed. Just a recap on my previous posts, my AH and I were involved in an argument which resulted in the police being called, and Children's Aid becoming involved (yet again). This is the third time in the past 5 yrs that they have been involved, all relating to his drinking, and...

danielle0516 · danielle0516

Hi everyone, thought it was about time I posted an update on my situation or my husband's situation... As some of you may remember, there was a lot of crazy 2-6 months back where AH was just insane, lost his hob, was suicidal, physch ward stays, emergency room, became addicted to narcotic pain killers...

southsider39 · southsider39

i am a 31 year old man writing this becasue i am at a loss,,i cant believe i have to deal with this in my life,,here is my storie. my mother just turned 60 and she is drinking more than ever, last week she decided to drink and drive and she smashed her car up,,her drinking consists of 3 months silbour,,2 wee...

Debilyn · Debilyn

I was so pleased with my guy! His friend too. He never got mad or upset. Even as they had to put all that fencing in the van and in the uhaul. AND I dug up my 20 foot high bundle of bamboo, they got it in too. I did way too much. I cannot stop when others are working. I did a dumb thing and got stuck on my bum. son help...

John · John

Hello Everyone, As the founder and webmaster of Miracles In Progress I want to extent a personal "Thank You" to each of you for valuing and utilizing the CoDA portion of our site. As we grow in our recoveries from alcoholism, addiction, or being a family member of a loved one who suffers from this di...

Freya · Freya

Hi, I'm new to the forums and am glad to be here. I've been going to al-anon meetings for a year and to coda meetings for a bit less. I've been reading through the posts here and learning a lot about other people's experiences. I met with my sponsor yesterday and completed my seventh step. It felt good...

Tattyhead · Tattyhead

Those of you who know me from this board will know I have been married to my AH for 39 years and he has been alcohol dependant for the last 6 or so years. Just lately he has been worse than usual. His health has been deteriorating and he has become more and more belligerent and verbally abusive. This last wee...

david62 · david62

Woke up this morning with this song in my head, and wanted to share it with you all. My favorite "recovery" song. Whats yours? David

Corgi2 · Corgi2

I've been doing really good at working the program. I've been reading tons of literature, going to meetings, making positive changes. But, Im falling back into old behavior. I start reacting again to my boyfriend when I know he's been drinking. Im losing that confidence I had just a short time ago. I f...

stopandchat · stopandchat

Hi everyone, I haven't been here in a while. However, I need an outlet for this extremely disturbing situation I'm in. Just a little history...AH and I have been married for almost two years - have known each other for three. He had been actively drinking for most of our relationship. He got sober for 9 m...

member922 · member922

I am a little nervous as I haven't been in awhile. The breakup with the ABF was completed this afternoon, so I am feeling a bit sad. I let him get angry with me and I didn't say anything negative to him. I am not playing the game anymore. Instead of sitting here and wallowing though, I am keeping the promi...

cbris · cbris

HI, I'm brand new to this type of forum but I feel that this is a step in the right direction for me. I have not been to a meeting before but i know what the group is about. You see, my boyfriend of 1 yr is an alcoholic. He's 38 and has been drinking since he was 15. I would describe him as a functioning alcoholic....

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I can't believe myself sometimes--i am afraid to ask my mom & I never have been like this before! I am waiting to hear from her about going to see my family. It just dawned on me this morning that I really need to see my DAD if nothing else. I had a death dream last night that my dad died but not before I got t...

Tracy · Tracy

Hi everyone, feeling very scared yet excited. My ABF is sober and has been for 7 months and the light is really gtting shinned on me. HP has brought me to a place were i can not hide anymore. My A is strong and has realised how sick we are together. I am not so strong and was clinging in there. You see he ha...

maire rua · maire rua

Unfortunately my son has started to cause me grief through alcohol, it has become very worrying. I have made the mistake of humouring with items, I purchased a boxing bag, had to go to a lot of bother to get it put up etc, now he want something else. It is all so wearing and I am very stressed with the whole st...

parfait624 · parfait624

I seen my exABF this weekend for the first time in almost two months. It was at a party for a friend so there was not much oppertunity for him to catch me alone. When he did there he was the charming side....but this time I knew to look for that underlined sick person. Then it came out of him....a complime...

granny07 · granny07

I have been married for 25 yrs, and he has drank all thru these yrs with maybe a pause here and there, when he would get a DWI/DUI it would always be "I'm done, I quite drinking", or another good one is the cops were picking on him. This last one was just about a year ago, he hadn't had any tickets...

sszamo · sszamo

Hi everyone, This is my first time posting on this message board. I have been in al anon for over a year and it has helped me so much. I am in a state of panic and anxiety and grief right now, because my boyfriend of three years (anniversary is tomorrow) seems to be relapsing. He has been sober for a little ove...

member922 · member922

Hi Group! Well I finally decided to get back to the basics. I got out my Courage to Change book last night and started hi-liting the things that are the most helpful to me. I was having a difficult time sleeping, hashing over the troubling events that occurred over the past week. One of the quotes at the...

New Member -- Same Old Story · CarrieO

Hi Everyone, I'm new to the addiction lifestyle and forum groups in general. I am currently in a relationship with an alcoholic; he has been in and out of rehabs on almost ten different occassions, is no longer working the steps, and is relapsing. We have been together for only a short time, and when I...

fabmonkey · fabmonkey

I am just tonight realizing I need to be here, so I will first off apologize for knowing so little. Normally I lurk and learn, but this has been a rough day and I think I need to get it out there. AH has been half-heartedly attempting AA for the last year. The drinking has been better in frequency... from dai...

Samsgram · Samsgram

Right now I`am feeling very angry at my daughter for her behavior. Many of you know that I take on a lot of the responsibilty for my grandaughter. My daughter does not seem truly equipted to give the child what she needs. The child who is 7 is more responsible than the mom is in many ways. Drinking or not dri...

purpleraven · purpleraven

my ex-A broke it off with me in email and "entirely" cut me and my daughter off from contact with him, he was really clear about it. except for an upcoming custody case where he needs to testify, he said no contact. but then ... he's emailed me twice more! and he even called my daughter's therap...

Ruby · Ruby

hello!

Debilyn · Debilyn

Give it to God. But somehow I don't think he can help me to get all my fence down to take to the cabin. He has given me a little energy to do it. Though every joint in my body feels like it is out!Have my sons van, I need an escalator to get in and out! lol I am hopeless, and short, and have only one knee. The uhaul is...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Well, it can no way be compared to the biblical story of the Prodigal Son, but it wasn't Rambo either Regardless, I got my boy back. I phoned the school counselor on Thurs, and asked him to facilitate a meeting. He offered Mon or Tues morning. I said "too late", he said "today at 2&qu...

purpleraven · purpleraven

two nights ago i decided to start doing my 4th step again, even though my face-to-face sponsor is unavailable at this time. because i'm going through a big crisis and my regular journaling was too unfocused and my thoughts would spin out of control, i knew i needed a workbook with blanks to fill. luckil...

Tracy · Tracy

Hi everyone need to reach out. I have shared how since my sober ABF got sober I have been on and off my own programme. He has been sober for 7 months and seems to be o.k. I on the other hand turned into persecuter. He told me that I was jepordising his recovery. He was right my behaviour was unacceptable....

delhommefan · delhommefan

In some ways that would be good. She's a loving, attentive person (so am I). But she's probably a little too much so...overbearing that is. Anyway, my daughter is 4. She's a very funny, intelligent little girl. She's testy though! (as all 4 year olds are I'm sure...I have nothing to compare it too since...

Ruby · Ruby

On my last post, my name showed

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

It is April Fool's Day & I can't think of a joke; oh well...the truth is I am not perfect! New's flash: I am not even close. I want to spend this day as light-hearted as possible. By the way, on a note, I have been recovered from surgery almost 6 mos. Where did the time go? I am so grateful for all of you who...

TheJeanGenie · TheJeanGenie

Hi guys, I had a little 'debate' with my partner, and now I am trying to work out if I did the right thing. It's all rather silly... He has been away for weeks and it's his first day back. Somehow things are always strained when this happens. He gets stressed because I have been reluctant to take responsibi...

Ness · Ness

No one has seen him for a week which is unusual as hes a very visible drunk, hes a wanderer.He picked up the drink again recently after 9 months in recovery and quickly deteriorated to the way he was before (and worse) so has been a frequent visitor to hospital and police stations. Hes had his phone stolen...

flopadopilus · flopadopilus

the last 2 weeks 3 different people have come to me out of concern for my husband. We live in a very small town and for the most part know what's going on with each other around here. So my divorce won't be final until July, but I moved out and try as I might to stay dettached with love to my A. We share our kids ha...

member922 · member922

Hi again. It's been a long time since I posted. I thought I was dealing pretty well with my ABF, but now I have learned that I am not. He brings out the worst in me, making me feel bad about myself. I am still enabling, though I thought I was not. We are not good for each other, and I realize that. I think we a...

Katy · Katy

I have been really struggling lately and practicing all the behaviours that got me here, the difference is now i know I know, where as before I didn't, this all started long before I met my a, and I have been asking god a lot lately to please help me to see whats wrong, and I you know what? I think he has. I thi...

delhommefan · delhommefan

This morning I was meditating which I've just recently started doing. I've worked my way up to 10 minutes, but it is still hard for me to completely erase my mind for that long and breathe the correct way. Today I kept forgetting to focus on my breathing, and it was almost like I was holding my breath. The...

TaylorAnn · TaylorAnn

Hi everyone, My husband has been sober for a little over 40 days, but we're still pretty new to all of this. His sobriety has been fairly easy so far--he can't drive, we haven't been in any situation where he'd be expected to drink, etc. What I'm struggling with right now is that I'm going out of town this w...

Suzannah · Suzannah

Hi Family, Many of you will know that I have travelled a long journey over the last forty years, twenty of them with a very violent alcoholic, who ripped our family to shreds and has left a trail of damaged people behind him who are still struggling today to come to terms with all the abuse and violence and...

Chelle3 · Chelle3

I understand that I can't control the people in my life, but I'm trying to understand when it is OK to state your opinion. AH has bad allergies for the past few days that were absent when he travelled 5 hrs away for a couple days. Therefore, he's decided it must be something in our house. I've been through t...

flopadopilus · flopadopilus

I workout than eat, eat than workout, hmmm how come I lose only 1-3 lbs a month. I feel my mind not at peace and wrestling around with what? I am my own worst enemy. I feel insecure and inadequate around people, but it doesn't stop me from doing or saying things I later question. I am the first person to gree...

purpleraven · purpleraven

i'm really grateful for all the support i find here. in fact this morning i was very, very close to self-injuring because i felt absolutely hopeless, i couldn't even connect with my HP at the time. i just knew i had to get here and look for any guidance i could find, to beg my HP to show me anything that could...

gladysg · gladysg

Tough week. Husband took out a money market fund account, although not knowing what one is. He wants me to go to the bank to get it changed back. He said the banker did everything and he had nothing to do with it. He doesn't want to accept his part in anything and wants me to fix everything. I'm tired of fixin...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Wow! The love and support I feel from all of you with your posts and pms is overwhelming. Thank you! I do not have time to to write much as it is a new day again! Let me just say that with daylight and friends and professionals supporting me comes some clarity. I came up with a 'new" plan yesterday m...

Bettina · Bettina

I havent vented in such a long time, because there was nothing to vent about. Until the last few days. I am bewildered and bothered, but not bewitched. A couple of years ago I became friends with this lady on f/B, she seemed nice enough and she had lost a son thru a drug overdose and she created a group for...

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	Need help with acceptance (Preview) I have realized via Step 4-6 that I am very fearful and controlling. It is due to a desire for family. I have picked someone very irresponsible. How can I accept that and move on? My expectations were too high. I have been trying to control the outcome of his lack of responsibility. To think that I did this...	gladysg	8	909	Apr 8, 2011 by pinkchip
	shelter for someone who doesn't want to quit (Preview) I know someone who is currently living with his elderly parents but they can no longer handle him when he has been drinking. They feel like they're enabling him by providing him with a home regardless of his actions, but they cannot in good concience turn him out with nowhere to go. He cannot afford to li...	username	7	869	Apr 8, 2011 by pinkchip
	Could use some prayer as I think things through (Preview) Things had been good around here. He was going to counseling with me, told me that I probably saved his life by getting the alcohol out of our lives, etc. Yet, I always knew in the back of my mind that it was too good to be true. I finally snooped(I know, bad idea) and found an open bottle. It just brings b...	ilovedogs	7	945	Apr 8, 2011 by pinkchip
	Help (Preview) As you know, in addition to my A son that I am always talking about on here, my younger son has a problem too. He is the one that is in the Navy and is in Guam right now while his daughter and wife are with me until the crisis in Japan is over. He has just recently went to a doctor in Guam about his uncontrollable d...	Gailey	5	581	Apr 8, 2011 by Gailey
	Realizations of last night... WHY? (Preview) It's been awhile since I have posted anything on here and find that I have missed sharing. I have come to a realization, I am a work in progress. Not that this is new but to me but I have not been working my program diligently as I had. So last night I found myself "teasing" my AH about his alcohol p...	wildthang86	13	888	Apr 8, 2011 by ythannah
	I made him leave (Preview) Well I finally hit my breaking point lastnight and told my AH to leave. I'm tired of the lies and drinking and the toll this is taking on me (and my 2 small boys-who I HOPE haven't been affected yet). Last time we had and "episode" I told him if he wanted to stay in our house that he had to go to the Su...	floridawife	5	794	Apr 7, 2011 by pinkchip
	Today's thought - Happiness (Preview) There is no happiness; there are only moments of happiness. -- Spanish proverb How happy we are right now may hinge on dinnertime - whether it is just before or just after. It may also depend on whether we are examining ourselves to see if we are happy or not. There's nothing like a little introspection t...	glad lee	2	947	Apr 7, 2011 by member922
	Should have left a lon time ago (Preview) I'm finally going to get out, it's been 20 years. I'm sad,anxious, scared and sick but I know it's the right thing to do for myself and my kids. My AH has depressed and disconnected with us for a long, long time now. It makes me feel like I am a bad person. I feel that my close friends and family all know whats g...	kathyc	6	823	Apr 7, 2011 by drummerchick423
	Ashley Judd (Mentions Recovery as part of her healing) (Preview) http://www.bing.com/videos/watch/video/ashley-judd-reveals-sexual-abuse-as-child/6b7uh1s?q=Ashley+Judd&rel=msn&from=en-us_msnhp&form=MSNRLL&gt1=42010	Samsgram	4	2232	Apr 7, 2011 by tealexis
	Why is this so hard? (Preview) My AH had his first day back at work yesterday. And I recieved the expected email asking me to get money for him to get beer and smokes after work. And I said no. We are broke at the moment. His time off work to 'quit drinking' has devastated our budget and I have already borrowed $100 from his Mom for gas a...	searching4peace	7	740	Apr 7, 2011 by searching4peace
	God does for me what I cannot do for myself (Preview) I've had a really interesting experience over the last month and thought I'd share. (It's long, sit down with a good cup of coffee or something.) A few weeks ago, I met a guy while hanging out with my boss. We didn't hit it off right away, just kept stealing glances at each other the night we met. I didn't th...	Aloha	6	1615	Apr 7, 2011 by Rora
	Long hard day...... (Preview) it was such a loooong day and started out way too early. Than my job was over and I came home and went online and read some MIP shares and started smiling and even laughed. I have found some great knowledge and hope here after many a hard or emotionally depleting day. I am so appreciative to everyone who ha...	flopadopilus	1	531	Apr 7, 2011 by Bettina
	am i getting worse? (Preview) i should start off by saying at this moment in time i am unable to attend f2f meetings unfortunately. i have only been able to go to one but at the current time situation makes it impossible. anyway i have always spent a lot of time anxious/stressing over Ah drinking but lately i find myself worrying abo...	tweety23	8	627	Apr 7, 2011 by drummerchick423
	Am I doing the right things??.... (Preview) I need help. (Sorry, it's a long post) My husband is an alcoholic. A functional alcoholic, if there is such a thing. He's rarely ever drunk in the "falling down, slurring speech, etc." sense of the word, although he is rarely ever sober by 7:00 p.m. (Not making excuses, just stating facts...	Justpretending	7	916	Apr 6, 2011 by roonpugs
	Looking for some ESH regarding AH and travel with children (Preview) I know no one can give me the answers. I am looking for ESH to help me make healthy and safe choices. My AH wants to take our DD on a business trip with him to show her what he does-- a lovely, educational and bonding experience in the world of "normies." In the alcoholic world, it is much more pr...	Very Very Tired	4	673	Apr 6, 2011 by Very Very Tired
	It's been a month.. (Preview) and nothing has really changed. Just a recap on my previous posts, my AH and I were involved in an argument which resulted in the police being called, and Children's Aid becoming involved (yet again). This is the third time in the past 5 yrs that they have been involved, all relating to his drinking, and...	Evian	5	744	Apr 6, 2011 by Evian
	getting sober = new person (Preview) Hi everyone, thought it was about time I posted an update on my situation or my husband's situation... As some of you may remember, there was a lot of crazy 2-6 months back where AH was just insane, lost his hob, was suicidal, physch ward stays, emergency room, became addicted to narcotic pain killers...	danielle0516	2	682	Apr 6, 2011 by pinkchip
	my mom (Preview) i am a 31 year old man writing this becasue i am at a loss,,i cant believe i have to deal with this in my life,,here is my storie. my mother just turned 60 and she is drinking more than ever, last week she decided to drink and drive and she smashed her car up,,her drinking consists of 3 months silbour,,2 wee...	southsider39	6	918	Apr 6, 2011 by ythannah
	So proud of my son! (Preview) I was so pleased with my guy! His friend too. He never got mad or upset. Even as they had to put all that fencing in the van and in the uhaul. AND I dug up my 20 foot high bundle of bamboo, they got it in too. I did way too much. I cannot stop when others are working. I did a dumb thing and got stuck on my bum. son help...	Debilyn	2	711	Apr 6, 2011 by Loupiness
	A simple "CoDA" Thank you (Preview) Hello Everyone, As the founder and webmaster of Miracles In Progress I want to extent a personal "Thank You" to each of you for valuing and utilizing the CoDA portion of our site. As we grow in our recoveries from alcoholism, addiction, or being a family member of a loved one who suffers from this di...	John	2	822	Apr 6, 2011 by DreamXL
	Telling a bit of my story (Preview) Hi, I'm new to the forums and am glad to be here. I've been going to al-anon meetings for a year and to coda meetings for a bit less. I've been reading through the posts here and learning a lot about other people's experiences. I met with my sponsor yesterday and completed my seventh step. It felt good...	Freya	3	934	Apr 6, 2011 by Freya
	Sick AH and Guilty me (Preview) Those of you who know me from this board will know I have been married to my AH for 39 years and he has been alcohol dependant for the last 6 or so years. Just lately he has been worse than usual. His health has been deteriorating and he has become more and more belligerent and verbally abusive. This last wee...	Tattyhead	11	1008	Apr 6, 2011 by Ness
	One Day at a Time (Preview) Woke up this morning with this song in my head, and wanted to share it with you all. My favorite "recovery" song. Whats yours? David	david62	8	945	Apr 5, 2011 by roonpugs
	Slipping (Preview) I've been doing really good at working the program. I've been reading tons of literature, going to meetings, making positive changes. But, Im falling back into old behavior. I start reacting again to my boyfriend when I know he's been drinking. Im losing that confidence I had just a short time ago. I f...	Corgi2	5	721	Apr 5, 2011 by flopadopilus
	Pregnant....now AH wants a divorce (Preview) Hi everyone, I haven't been here in a while. However, I need an outlet for this extremely disturbing situation I'm in. Just a little history...AH and I have been married for almost two years - have known each other for three. He had been actively drinking for most of our relationship. He got sober for 9 m...	stopandchat	12	1235	Apr 5, 2011 by Hoot Nanny
	Going to a meeting shortly... (Preview) I am a little nervous as I haven't been in awhile. The breakup with the ABF was completed this afternoon, so I am feeling a bit sad. I let him get angry with me and I didn't say anything negative to him. I am not playing the game anymore. Instead of sitting here and wallowing though, I am keeping the promi...	member922	6	744	Apr 5, 2011 by member922
	confused (Preview) HI, I'm brand new to this type of forum but I feel that this is a step in the right direction for me. I have not been to a meeting before but i know what the group is about. You see, my boyfriend of 1 yr is an alcoholic. He's 38 and has been drinking since he was 15. I would describe him as a functioning alcoholic....	cbris	3	410	Apr 5, 2011 by Debilyn
	still in limbo! (Preview) I can't believe myself sometimes--i am afraid to ask my mom & I never have been like this before! I am waiting to hear from her about going to see my family. It just dawned on me this morning that I really need to see my DAD if nothing else. I had a death dream last night that my dad died but not before I got t...	Hoot Nanny	0	427	Apr 5, 2011 by Hoot Nanny
	ups and downs (Preview) Hi everyone, feeling very scared yet excited. My ABF is sober and has been for 7 months and the light is really gtting shinned on me. HP has brought me to a place were i can not hide anymore. My A is strong and has realised how sick we are together. I am not so strong and was clinging in there. You see he ha...	Tracy	4	649	Apr 5, 2011 by Jerry F
	son causing me grief (Preview) Unfortunately my son has started to cause me grief through alcohol, it has become very worrying. I have made the mistake of humouring with items, I purchased a boxing bag, had to go to a lot of bother to get it put up etc, now he want something else. It is all so wearing and I am very stressed with the whole st...	maire rua	3	651	Apr 5, 2011 by redtara
	I'm not honest now? (Preview) I seen my exABF this weekend for the first time in almost two months. It was at a party for a friend so there was not much oppertunity for him to catch me alone. When he did there he was the charming side....but this time I knew to look for that underlined sick person. Then it came out of him....a complime...	parfait624	9	1047	Apr 5, 2011 by pinkchip
	So afraid he will relapse AGAIN (Preview) I have been married for 25 yrs, and he has drank all thru these yrs with maybe a pause here and there, when he would get a DWI/DUI it would always be "I'm done, I quite drinking", or another good one is the cops were picking on him. This last one was just about a year ago, he hadn't had any tickets...	granny07	8	1466	Apr 5, 2011 by Bettina
	relapsing (Preview) Hi everyone, This is my first time posting on this message board. I have been in al anon for over a year and it has helped me so much. I am in a state of panic and anxiety and grief right now, because my boyfriend of three years (anniversary is tomorrow) seems to be relapsing. He has been sober for a little ove...	sszamo	9	907	Apr 4, 2011 by sszamo
	Courage to Change - A Share (Preview) Hi Group! Well I finally decided to get back to the basics. I got out my Courage to Change book last night and started hi-liting the things that are the most helpful to me. I was having a difficult time sleeping, hashing over the troubling events that occurred over the past week. One of the quotes at the...	member922	2	569	Apr 4, 2011 by Tracy
	New Member -- Same Old Story (Preview) Hi Everyone, I'm new to the addiction lifestyle and forum groups in general. I am currently in a relationship with an alcoholic; he has been in and out of rehabs on almost ten different occassions, is no longer working the steps, and is relapsing. We have been together for only a short time, and when I...	CarrieO	5	995	Apr 4, 2011 by ythannah
	New... Consequences vs. controlling? (long) (Preview) I am just tonight realizing I need to be here, so I will first off apologize for knowing so little. Normally I lurk and learn, but this has been a rough day and I think I need to get it out there. AH has been half-heartedly attempting AA for the last year. The drinking has been better in frequency... from dai...	fabmonkey	4	922	Apr 4, 2011 by alexmaui
	I Just Don`t Know ... Is it Me? Maybe I`am just a pushover... (Preview) Right now I`am feeling very angry at my daughter for her behavior. Many of you know that I take on a lot of the responsibilty for my grandaughter. My daughter does not seem truly equipted to give the child what she needs. The child who is 7 is more responsible than the mom is in many ways. Drinking or not dri...	Samsgram	4	940	Apr 4, 2011 by Christy
	the A's confusing dance (Preview) my ex-A broke it off with me in email and "entirely" cut me and my daughter off from contact with him, he was really clear about it. except for an upcoming custody case where he needs to testify, he said no contact. but then ... he's emailed me twice more! and he even called my daughter's therap...	purpleraven	7	1059	Apr 3, 2011 by pinkchip
	checking out my signature (Preview) hello!	Ruby	1	581	Apr 3, 2011 by flopadopilus
	Do what you can and leave the rest? (Preview) Give it to God. But somehow I don't think he can help me to get all my fence down to take to the cabin. He has given me a little energy to do it. Though every joint in my body feels like it is out!Have my sons van, I need an escalator to get in and out! lol I am hopeless, and short, and have only one knee. The uhaul is...	Debilyn	4	1045	Apr 3, 2011 by member922
	'Operation Save My Kid" - a success! (Preview) Well, it can no way be compared to the biblical story of the Prodigal Son, but it wasn't Rambo either Regardless, I got my boy back. I phoned the school counselor on Thurs, and asked him to facilitate a meeting. He offered Mon or Tues morning. I said "too late", he said "today at 2&qu...	Loupiness	7	1025	Apr 3, 2011 by Peggy7
	working the 4th step again, "by the book" (Preview) two nights ago i decided to start doing my 4th step again, even though my face-to-face sponsor is unavailable at this time. because i'm going through a big crisis and my regular journaling was too unfocused and my thoughts would spin out of control, i knew i needed a workbook with blanks to fill. luckil...	purpleraven	2	1449	Apr 3, 2011 by purpleraven
	hi from insanity (Preview) Hi everyone need to reach out. I have shared how since my sober ABF got sober I have been on and off my own programme. He has been sober for 7 months and seems to be o.k. I on the other hand turned into persecuter. He told me that I was jepordising his recovery. He was right my behaviour was unacceptable....	Tracy	4	842	Apr 3, 2011 by Jerry F
	I'm SO Afraid of Becoming my Mother! (Preview) In some ways that would be good. She's a loving, attentive person (so am I). But she's probably a little too much so...overbearing that is. Anyway, my daughter is 4. She's a very funny, intelligent little girl. She's testy though! (as all 4 year olds are I'm sure...I have nothing to compare it too since...	delhommefan	3	1033	Apr 2, 2011 by likemyheart
	Just checking out my signature (Preview) On my last post, my name showed	Ruby	0	457	Apr 2, 2011 by Ruby
	Ok so I am not perfect! (Preview) It is April Fool's Day & I can't think of a joke; oh well...the truth is I am not perfect! New's flash: I am not even close. I want to spend this day as light-hearted as possible. By the way, on a note, I have been recovered from surgery almost 6 mos. Where did the time go? I am so grateful for all of you who...	Hoot Nanny	2	890	Apr 1, 2011 by Debilyn
	Not sure if I am doing the right thing (Preview) Hi guys, I had a little 'debate' with my partner, and now I am trying to work out if I did the right thing. It's all rather silly... He has been away for weeks and it's his first day back. Somehow things are always strained when this happens. He gets stressed because I have been reluctant to take responsibi...	TheJeanGenie	4	1146	Apr 1, 2011 by likemyheart
	Son is ‘’off the radar’’ (Preview) No one has seen him for a week which is unusual as hes a very visible drunk, hes a wanderer.He picked up the drink again recently after 9 months in recovery and quickly deteriorated to the way he was before (and worse) so has been a frequent visitor to hospital and police stations. Hes had his phone stolen...	Ness	6	1096	Apr 1, 2011 by Ness
	I heard a story...... (Preview) the last 2 weeks 3 different people have come to me out of concern for my husband. We live in a very small town and for the most part know what's going on with each other around here. So my divorce won't be final until July, but I moved out and try as I might to stay dettached with love to my A. We share our kids ha...	flopadopilus	9	862	Apr 1, 2011 by pinkchip
	Thought everything was ok (Preview) Hi again. It's been a long time since I posted. I thought I was dealing pretty well with my ABF, but now I have learned that I am not. He brings out the worst in me, making me feel bad about myself. I am still enabling, though I thought I was not. We are not good for each other, and I realize that. I think we a...	member922	10	1085	Apr 1, 2011 by pinkchip
	love! (Preview) I have been really struggling lately and practicing all the behaviours that got me here, the difference is now i know I know, where as before I didn't, this all started long before I met my a, and I have been asking god a lot lately to please help me to see whats wrong, and I you know what? I think he has. I thi...	Katy	1	608	Apr 1, 2011 by Chelle3
	Just a Thought For Today (a revelation I suppose) (Preview) This morning I was meditating which I've just recently started doing. I've worked my way up to 10 minutes, but it is still hard for me to completely erase my mind for that long and breathe the correct way. Today I kept forgetting to focus on my breathing, and it was almost like I was holding my breath. The...	delhommefan	2	874	Mar 31, 2011 by Jerry F
	Help! Going out of town this weekend... (Preview) Hi everyone, My husband has been sober for a little over 40 days, but we're still pretty new to all of this. His sobriety has been fairly easy so far--he can't drive, we haven't been in any situation where he'd be expected to drink, etc. What I'm struggling with right now is that I'm going out of town this w...	TaylorAnn	10	1241	Mar 31, 2011 by Jerry F
	"Hope for Today": and my encouragement - They [the A's] have the disease, I live with the dis-ease it causes. (Preview) Hi Family, Many of you will know that I have travelled a long journey over the last forty years, twenty of them with a very violent alcoholic, who ripped our family to shreds and has left a trail of damaged people behind him who are still struggling today to come to terms with all the abuse and violence and...	Suzannah	3	1142	Mar 31, 2011 by danz1886
	Would this be controlling?... (Preview) I understand that I can't control the people in my life, but I'm trying to understand when it is OK to state your opinion. AH has bad allergies for the past few days that were absent when he travelled 5 hrs away for a couple days. Therefore, he's decided it must be something in our house. I've been through t...	Chelle3	13	1324	Mar 30, 2011 by Chelle3
	Self sabotage (Preview) I workout than eat, eat than workout, hmmm how come I lose only 1-3 lbs a month. I feel my mind not at peace and wrestling around with what? I am my own worst enemy. I feel insecure and inadequate around people, but it doesn't stop me from doing or saying things I later question. I am the first person to gree...	flopadopilus	7	1223	Mar 30, 2011 by GailMichelle
	cleaning up the A's mess (Preview) i'm really grateful for all the support i find here. in fact this morning i was very, very close to self-injuring because i felt absolutely hopeless, i couldn't even connect with my HP at the time. i just knew i had to get here and look for any guidance i could find, to beg my HP to show me anything that could...	purpleraven	4	849	Mar 30, 2011 by Mattie
	Trying to focus (Preview) Tough week. Husband took out a money market fund account, although not knowing what one is. He wants me to go to the bank to get it changed back. He said the banker did everything and he had nothing to do with it. He doesn't want to accept his part in anything and wants me to fix everything. I'm tired of fixin...	gladysg	3	706	Mar 30, 2011 by gladysg
	"Operation Save My Kid" coming together (Preview) Wow! The love and support I feel from all of you with your posts and pms is overwhelming. Thank you! I do not have time to to write much as it is a new day again! Let me just say that with daylight and friends and professionals supporting me comes some clarity. I came up with a 'new" plan yesterday m...	Loupiness	5	1071	Mar 30, 2011 by canadianguy
	bewildered (Preview) I havent vented in such a long time, because there was nothing to vent about. Until the last few days. I am bewildered and bothered, but not bewitched. A couple of years ago I became friends with this lady on f/B, she seemed nice enough and she had lost a son thru a drug overdose and she created a group for...	Bettina	13	1158	Mar 30, 2011 by Bettina
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