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tired of trying · tired of trying

When I first came to this board, I came because I needed to vent and was feeling hopeless (first time) about my relationship with my AH. This was after years of active but controlled drinking, followed by 15 years sober, then 4 years of a relapse roller coast. This however was the first time I had about g...

ttpurtee · ttpurtee

Can you take kids to an Al-Anon meeting?

pineapple · pineapple

I've known for awhile that things between me and my A were over. Unfortunately, due to financial and other considerations that I won't go into on a public forum, we are stuck with each other. We live on the same property, but since last summer we live in separate buildings. I've gotten very good at detac...

Tracey C · Tracey C

Hi, I know my family of origin is very dysfunctional but this beats it all. My sister's mother-in-law asked my sister to ask our mother if we would like to have Christmas with them at their house. We have spent the last few with them and we like them. My Mum rang me up to say that my sister had invited them...

MeTwo2 · MeTwo2

I've been sharing on my addict x partner slash father of my child .. Our daughter's been through So much already .. the abandonment of his going and becoming progressively sicker/more detached, etc.. his cold cut off .. he visits our daughter once a week but phonecalls in between are less n less for her...

Sponge6819 · Sponge6819

I am feeling really, really torn here today. I dropped my spouse at the airport this am for him to go to rehab with Palm Partners in FL. Now this is not close to our home and that isn't really my problem. I am jealous. I feel as though I am so screwed up (codependant and angry) and now I am jealous of ALL the atte...

LinD322 · LinD322

Here I am, step 1. I found this board because I believe my HP led me here. 6 months ago, my AH announced he was leaving after 20 years. I was devastated. The past few years were challenging in our lives, we were struggling with a depressed teen (now healthy, in recovery) we entered family therapy together...

hotrod · hotrod

HI MIP Family I would like to wish everyone a New Year filled with serenity, courage and wisdom. We are still working on the Third Step (#3) on The Step Work Board. and will continue to the 4th Step next Sunday. It is a wonderful forum in which we can share our thoughts and grow with the Steps. I found it h...

dragonflys · dragonflys

I know I have no control over what my ah does, but I don't know how to hold my boundary. I told my ah that I would not support his addiction and that I would not pay for his drugs any longer. He went to rehab over a year ago and really did stop his drug of choice. He started again over a month ago. He keeps lying to m...

John · John

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surfgirl123 · surfgirl123

My AH's addiction counselor keeps suggesting he go on Adderoll, my AH is entering a college nursing program and his counselor is concerned about his ability to concentrate/focus. He thinks my AH has ADHD. Everything I can find out about Adderrol all says if you have a history with drugs or alcohol t...

serenityseeker1 · serenityseeker1

i have just come back from going out for a meal with my abf. besides the akward silent moments, during our meal i was looking at this man whom i fell so very deeply in love with when we first met. and i was feeling sad, sad for myself as i am grieving the man i first met but also a sadness for him, who looked to be t...

Annette678 · Annette678

I feel better today. More positive and less fearful. I cannot live in worry and doubt. My husband's resolve to get clean seems strong and I choose to believe him. I told him my fears about him not getting it- that he may be an addict and not just "addicted" to pain meds. He agrees to investigate...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Yesterday I said goodbye to my DAD. I was able to listen to the graveside service by phone. It was good as well as strange & weird--never experienced anything like that before & hope I will never have to again. I guess words really can't describe how the whole thing came about. I am just so gratef...

ttpurtee · ttpurtee

Well my AH husband came over tonight and told me that he was so much happier away from me!! He also said, that his counselor said that I was probably the reason that he drank. I told him that I did not cause it, he said, "No you didn't, but you did not help either." Those comments kind of hur...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

I haven't been on in a while. In early November we moved into a new home and that actually went really well. AH was on his best behavior and, despite the stress of moving, was actually plesent and easy to deal with the whole time. As far as I knew, he hadn't been drinking since his last drunken episode ba...

droth · droth

please forgive me if this gets long-winded and/or scatteres. i've never been through this before and don't know what is right, wrong.. how to handle it!! in a nutshell, my 25 year old asked for help 3-months ago disclosing he was an alcoholic. he lives a couple hours away but by the next morning we h...

atheos · atheos

Finished my Blueprint tonight. Biggest problems turned out to be self-worth (or lack thereof), fear, anger (fear of others' anger, inability to let myself feel angry), guilt (about my sister), and shame (feeling I don't deserve to be in program/getting help because other people have "real p...

likemyheart · likemyheart

Today I went to buy some smoked salmon for myself for new year's eve, bought a friend a nice piece as well, just because I knew she'd enjoy it. Earlier this week I went to Subway for lunch for my family and bought a sandwich for another friend because I knew he would appreciate the gesture (postal worker, C...

wildthang86 · wildthang86

My middle son has recently gone through detox of opiates, once again. He attempted it about a year ago on his own and ended up back on them again. We, his Afather and I tried to get him into a detox program but that was not to be. Insurance doesn't pay for a non life threatening detox. Plus there are waiting l...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

My exAH came over to pick up our girls, he had to switch nights for some job thing. My 13 year old was in the shower so he sat on the couch and my 3 year old and I were playing with my new Kindle that his parents bought for me on Christmas morning. He asked what we were playing and I showed him we were downloading f...

Pushka · Pushka

My spouses mom is in the hospital. This isn't shocking considering what she's done to herself over the past few years. It's no secret that she needs to stop smoking and drinking. She's on oxygen and continues to abuse what is left of her lung capacity. She's not smoking packs of cigs any more howeve...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am struggling still w/ the death of my father & today is the service--hopefully a day of memories, good times & some closure for me. I can't be down there to comfort & share those moments w/ my family but hopefully somehow I can be there by phone. This might cause of little bit of a problem bu...

sookie · sookie

I am home today with two sick kids and just sitting around so I picked up an old book about parenting that is one of those 'makes you laugh and cry' books called "I was a really good Mom before I had kids" (it is SO GOOD) but I had read it three and a half years ago when pregnant with my second child--...

amills4294 · amills4294

I am so guilty of this. I keep trying to belive that somewhere in my spouse is the love, consideration, affection for me that I see him show others. Maybe that's why it is so very difficult. As an ACoA I have a real problem with this because this is exactly how my Mom treated me growing up. I am still so hu...

Annette678 · Annette678

10 days ago I caught my husband of 13 years using methadone. He breaks down and tells me he's secretly been addicted to opiates (pills, not heroin) for years and was now trying to get clean. I was completely shocked as I had no idea. He does not abuse alcohol. -I think I've seen him drunk 2-3 times in 18 year...

Rose50 · Rose50

I will be spending Christmas at my daughter's and she has invited her brother for dinner, my son who is an active A. I have been working the Al-Anon program and doing well with detaching. It will be a difficult situation for me if he shows up and has obviously been drinking. I will want to leave and distanc...

kris10 · kris10

So yesterday I got a call from my A.. Asking if he can come over to give me some money he owes me. He gave me quite a bit based on the fact that he has had money for a week now and hasnt spent it all yet.. He also gave my son a twenty (he took 12$ from him). So my son got paid back plus a little more.. So this is where I am...

serenityseeker1 · serenityseeker1

Hi all,I have recently shared and touched upon this subject. But I would like to start a topic on this with the hope of hearing others experiances and ideas. My abf has been prescribed a strong dose of anti depressants a month ago without telling me. At the moment he is still on another prescription whic...

Very Very Tired · Very Very Tired

I apologize for the smell. See, my husband is an alcoholic and he can't sit through a movie without a drink. Yes, I know he was sneaking to the bathroom to top off his soda cup with alcohol--I think it was vodka tonight--or he slipped out of the theater to the bar next door to grab something. Either way, ple...

Tracy · Tracy

hi all, i wnt to and old meeting lasr night only couple people there same old faces. It was ovely to revisit. The topic was corage and shraes were good then a new comer shared about how she had told her rinker to explain xy and z to his doctor.I was astonished as a regular member cross talked and helped her...

serenityseeker1 · serenityseeker1

O.k so it christmas eve. I have trying my hardest to deal with my abf. Well to try and get through the holidays really for the sake of our children. Yes he is using again, and its seriously breaking my heart, not to mention driving me insane as he is outright lying to me about it. I have been trying my best to t...

ttpurtee · ttpurtee

My AH claims that he loves his children dearly, but not me. Since my AH was drinking in secret, and he also tried to committ sucide, he picked my kids up from school and 3 hours later was passed out with a blood alcohol level that is 4 times the legal limit. I have filed a TRO and divorce, I don't allow him...

rehprof · rehprof

She went out on a limb, had it break off behind her, and discovered she could FLY. (helps me reframe my life a bit)

HockeyGrl · HockeyGrl

I ran across this message board today & thought I would post something. It's good to know there are other people experiencing the same things you are going through. My husband has a drinking problem & of course he thinks he doesn't. Every time I have brought it up it turns into my problem..I was...

Tracy · Tracy

I have moved house so have not had my computer back till today really missed this site. I hope you all had a lovely christms I did. I am on my way to a meeting so will post properly later hugs tracy xxxxx

Grace7 · Grace7

Please pray for me as I deal with A son and his 2 yr bride and mommy to be who are in town for the holidays. We see very little of them, our home isn't loaded with A:) Thank You.

LostMama31 · LostMama31

My husband truly wants to get better. He knows his life has become unmanageable, however, even though he wants to get counseling (and has first appt already set up), to figure out why he's so angry, he doesn't see why he needs to go back to rehab. He wants to instead do the counseling, keep meeting with ou...

Jozie · Jozie

Funny the Lessons Learned when you Least expect them... First let me Say Merry Christmas & Happy New Year to You all... Without all of You Here, I may still be Back there <---- I have Flurished thru another Christmas/Birthday with Balance & Grace I feel, the Ease Part was A Little Touch &...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Actually today is better. I got a nap finally! My headache is starting to go away! I feel like things might just get better. My negative outlook is starting to go away too. Now that it has been over a week since my DAD died, I can actually see that maybe I can & will get through this w/o any major problems...

Moon_Beam · Moon_Beam

First and foremost I think ive found a group to join for weekly meetings. But I am worried about what has transpired over the last week. I have been working insane hours at work. And I happen to work second, my husband works first. Hes also had the last week off from work. Every night when i have been gettin...

Michelle814 · Michelle814

"I hear babies cry, I watch them grow. They'll learn much more than I'll ever know." -L. Armstrong. I was posting on Very Very Tired's thread and then my post turned into a novel so I decided to just make my own topic about it because, I guess, I have alot on my mind. Lately I have been waking u...

rehprof · rehprof

I'm doing what I refer to as my "mental torture" -- going over everything that happened in the relationship (broke up 4 weeks ago) -- all the things he told me about his past, other women, why is he friends on facebook with her and not me...OMG. STOP. These tapes are killing me and keeping me st...

bud · bud

Early December, I ended a relationship. The fact that he responded by wanting to take a break for a month is of little consolation. I started the grieving process and was doing ok. I had made the decision to feel the unpleasantness and pray that it would pass. There was a shift this past week - like a sw...

Michelle814 · Michelle814

My husband cannot work right now because he broke his neck (fell from a tree, he owns a tree service, he's in a brace for at least another month) .. he cannot drive either. But every day he finds a way to a meeting and three times a week he finds a way to his outpatient appnts. He inspires my recovery at time...

pitbull lover · pitbull lover

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Pushka · Pushka

Things since I've come home have been pretty good. I'm the one doing things to rock the boat. Some of it I'm sure is so I can say see .. it wasn't THAT good really. There is a part of me though that really thinks I don't deserve to be happy. Plus after living in crisis mode even just in my own mind for so long...

youfoundme · youfoundme

I am working on this alot, since I am really enjoying life and the calm and serenity I am finding. I have learned to not let go of my serenity, to not give it away, because when I do, that old voice comes in and wants some chaos...some adrenaline. Last night something in my brain wanted some adrenaline an...

glad · glad

Smiling today as I realize only a true alanon could have written this song... To dream the impossible dreamTo fight the unbeatable foeTo bear with unbearable sorrowTo run where the brave dare not goTo right the unrightable wrong To love pure and chaste from afar To try when your arms are too weary To r...

wahsali · wahsali

I have been dating a "great guy" on and off for 5 years. He is 63 and I am 54. On when he is nice, and off when has pissed me off so much I want to kill him! He claims to love me...he can be SO sweet...but on a dime he changes! He has been sober for over 20 years, and goes to at least 2 meeting a week. Isn't t...

GreenerGrass · GreenerGrass

Im having a terrible time right now. Husband is alcoholic, addicted to pain pills. He's being a real jerk too. We are in a fight. I'm feeling closer to the possibility of divorce than ever before. I need someone to tell me I deserve to be happy. Do I really? Are things just only going to get worse? I don't ev...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Well...I don't know what to say. I just know that the grieving process is in full swing. I have managed to get through my first Christmas w/o my DAD. So far I have cried, got angry, etc. I guess I am definitely going through it. I hope time heals me. I am nervous about my mental health & chose not to go dow...

ttpurtee · ttpurtee

I have heard people mention early recovery, what is the time frame on early recovery, versus mid recovery, versus late recovery? Just curious. Thanks in advance.

pitbull lover · pitbull lover

My father was a mess on Thanksgiving. We had the meal at his house and he stayed in the kitchen nearly the entire time and drank while cooking. When my husband and I arrived my brother and his wife were already there and my father was already drunk. The day progressed without much of anything.. I broke out...

HoofnIt · HoofnIt

MY BF is on probation from the last DUI that he got back in April. He has to go see his PO every 3 months and get drug tested. If they find any alcohol or drugs in his system he goes to jail for 90 to 120 days. He has to go this thrusday. he has been drinking every night for the past 3 weeks and last night was snortin...

Lindaoakford · Lindaoakford

Hi guys I am away from home on holidays at the moment. There was a catgory 2 cyclone near my town on Xmas day but it hit aobut 150km east of us in a fairly isolated area of the Northern Territory so it was all good. The cyclone moved east... guess which direction I went on holidays.. hehehe.. EAST!!!! Its a...

Very Very Tired · Very Very Tired

How do you deal with the loneliness? I am living with my active AH who is deep within his disease. I go to F2F Al-Anon meetings. I have a sponsor. I am active in building a life for myself. Yet, there is still this loneliness. I've heard it said that living with an active alcoholic is even more lonely than be...

Sean · Sean

I grew up with a father who had a drinking problem and now that my wife and I just had our first child we are very cautious when it comes to him being around the baby. We've explained to my mother multiple time that we don't want our child around my father if he's drinking. She's said she understands and supp...

izzy · izzy

i need help on how to start the road to recovery. i have been drinking for awhile now and i am so needing help. i find myslf benging all the time and i know that if i keep on this path that i will die from this. I dont want to die from this please help me. what do i do and y is it so hard to stop?

orchidlover · orchidlover

For me letting go of being a victim has been such a long hard road. Christmas always used to remind me of all I did not have, a loving family, a rich warm homelife, companionship. This Christmas as always people asked me about my family. Those kind of questions used to send me in such turmoil. At one time I...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	A Good New Years Eve-keep hope alive (Preview) When I first came to this board, I came because I needed to vent and was feeling hopeless (first time) about my relationship with my AH. This was after years of active but controlled drinking, followed by 15 years sober, then 4 years of a relapse roller coast. This however was the first time I had about g...	tired of trying	10	427	Jan 2, 2012 by tweety23
	Al - anon meetings and kids (Preview) Can you take kids to an Al-Anon meeting?	ttpurtee	4	2511	Jan 2, 2012 by Iamgood
	Over, over, over (Preview) I've known for awhile that things between me and my A were over. Unfortunately, due to financial and other considerations that I won't go into on a public forum, we are stuck with each other. We live on the same property, but since last summer we live in separate buildings. I've gotten very good at detac...	pineapple	14	715	Jan 2, 2012 by Pushka
	Feeling Disgusted (Preview) Hi, I know my family of origin is very dysfunctional but this beats it all. My sister's mother-in-law asked my sister to ask our mother if we would like to have Christmas with them at their house. We have spent the last few with them and we like them. My Mum rang me up to say that my sister had invited them...	Tracey C	6	614	Jan 2, 2012 by Tracey C
	anyone been in the visitation situation where they felt trapped ?? (Preview) I've been sharing on my addict x partner slash father of my child .. Our daughter's been through So much already .. the abandonment of his going and becoming progressively sicker/more detached, etc.. his cold cut off .. he visits our daughter once a week but phonecalls in between are less n less for her...	MeTwo2	9	617	Jan 2, 2012 by Pushka
	Jealous of spouse in recovery!! what is wrong with me (Preview) I am feeling really, really torn here today. I dropped my spouse at the airport this am for him to go to rehab with Palm Partners in FL. Now this is not close to our home and that isn't really my problem. I am jealous. I feel as though I am so screwed up (codependant and angry) and now I am jealous of ALL the atte...	Sponge6819	10	962	Jan 2, 2012 by Pushka
	New Year - First Post - ODAT (Preview) Here I am, step 1. I found this board because I believe my HP led me here. 6 months ago, my AH announced he was leaving after 20 years. I was devastated. The past few years were challenging in our lives, we were struggling with a depressed teen (now healthy, in recovery) we entered family therapy together...	LinD322	4	608	Jan 2, 2012 by LinD322
	Step work board reminder (Preview) HI MIP Family I would like to wish everyone a New Year filled with serenity, courage and wisdom. We are still working on the Third Step (#3) on The Step Work Board. and will continue to the 4th Step next Sunday. It is a wonderful forum in which we can share our thoughts and grow with the Steps. I found it h...	hotrod	1	303	Jan 1, 2012 by pineapple
	I cant control him, but it is my money? (Preview) I know I have no control over what my ah does, but I don't know how to hold my boundary. I told my ah that I would not support his addiction and that I would not pay for his drugs any longer. He went to rehab over a year ago and really did stop his drug of choice. He started again over a month ago. He keeps lying to m...	dragonflys	12	684	Jan 1, 2012 by dragonflys
	Happy New Year (video from John to you!) (Preview) [video=]	John	3	377	Jan 1, 2012 by ythannah
	Question About Adderoll (Preview) My AH's addiction counselor keeps suggesting he go on Adderoll, my AH is entering a college nursing program and his counselor is concerned about his ability to concentrate/focus. He thinks my AH has ADHD. Everything I can find out about Adderrol all says if you have a history with drugs or alcohol t...	surfgirl123	6	603	Jan 1, 2012 by pinkchip
	wishing you all a happy and peacefull new year! (Preview) i have just come back from going out for a meal with my abf. besides the akward silent moments, during our meal i was looking at this man whom i fell so very deeply in love with when we first met. and i was feeling sad, sad for myself as i am grieving the man i first met but also a sadness for him, who looked to be t...	serenityseeker1	3	301	Jan 1, 2012 by danni
	Today is better (Preview) I feel better today. More positive and less fearful. I cannot live in worry and doubt. My husband's resolve to get clean seems strong and I choose to believe him. I told him my fears about him not getting it- that he may be an addict and not just "addicted" to pain meds. He agrees to investigate...	Annette678	2	303	Dec 31, 2011 by Michelle814
	let the healing begin...he is laid to rest (Preview) Yesterday I said goodbye to my DAD. I was able to listen to the graveside service by phone. It was good as well as strange & weird--never experienced anything like that before & hope I will never have to again. I guess words really can't describe how the whole thing came about. I am just so gratef...	Hoot Nanny	3	393	Dec 31, 2011 by Michelle814
	Causes (Preview) Well my AH husband came over tonight and told me that he was so much happier away from me!! He also said, that his counselor said that I was probably the reason that he drank. I told him that I did not cause it, he said, "No you didn't, but you did not help either." Those comments kind of hur...	ttpurtee	14	699	Dec 31, 2011 by bud
	New Year's Update (Preview) I haven't been on in a while. In early November we moved into a new home and that actually went really well. AH was on his best behavior and, despite the stress of moving, was actually plesent and easy to deal with the whole time. As far as I knew, he hadn't been drinking since his last drunken episode ba...	ilovedogs	2	304	Dec 31, 2011 by ythannah
	Son declared himself an alcaholic and I don't know how to handle (Preview) please forgive me if this gets long-winded and/or scatteres. i've never been through this before and don't know what is right, wrong.. how to handle it!! in a nutshell, my 25 year old asked for help 3-months ago disclosing he was an alcoholic. he lives a couple hours away but by the next morning we h...	droth	13	620	Dec 31, 2011 by droth
	So... that's step 4 (Preview) Finished my Blueprint tonight. Biggest problems turned out to be self-worth (or lack thereof), fear, anger (fear of others' anger, inability to let myself feel angry), guilt (about my sister), and shame (feeling I don't deserve to be in program/getting help because other people have "real p...	atheos	6	471	Dec 31, 2011 by hotrod
	Re-Finding Myself (Preview) Today I went to buy some smoked salmon for myself for new year's eve, bought a friend a nice piece as well, just because I knew she'd enjoy it. Earlier this week I went to Subway for lunch for my family and bought a sandwich for another friend because I knew he would appreciate the gesture (postal worker, C...	likemyheart	3	351	Dec 31, 2011 by danni
	Addiction rears its ugly head once again!!! (Preview) My middle son has recently gone through detox of opiates, once again. He attempted it about a year ago on his own and ended up back on them again. We, his Afather and I tried to get him into a detox program but that was not to be. Insurance doesn't pay for a non life threatening detox. Plus there are waiting l...	wildthang86	4	445	Dec 31, 2011 by wildthang86
	Sickness visited my home last night (Preview) My exAH came over to pick up our girls, he had to switch nights for some job thing. My 13 year old was in the shower so he sat on the couch and my 3 year old and I were playing with my new Kindle that his parents bought for me on Christmas morning. He asked what we were playing and I showed him we were downloading f...	Breakingfree	7	477	Dec 30, 2011 by Breakingfree
	Prayers please (Preview) My spouses mom is in the hospital. This isn't shocking considering what she's done to herself over the past few years. It's no secret that she needs to stop smoking and drinking. She's on oxygen and continues to abuse what is left of her lung capacity. She's not smoking packs of cigs any more howeve...	Pushka	12	417	Dec 30, 2011 by hawaiilover
	it is today but another day to live! (Preview) I am struggling still w/ the death of my father & today is the service--hopefully a day of memories, good times & some closure for me. I can't be down there to comfort & share those moments w/ my family but hopefully somehow I can be there by phone. This might cause of little bit of a problem bu...	Hoot Nanny	2	324	Dec 30, 2011 by hawaiilover
	Interesting way to analyze guilt (Preview) I am home today with two sick kids and just sitting around so I picked up an old book about parenting that is one of those 'makes you laugh and cry' books called "I was a really good Mom before I had kids" (it is SO GOOD) but I had read it three and a half years ago when pregnant with my second child--...	sookie	6	461	Dec 30, 2011 by Breakingfree
	"stop going to the hardware store for bread" (Preview) I am so guilty of this. I keep trying to belive that somewhere in my spouse is the love, consideration, affection for me that I see him show others. Maybe that's why it is so very difficult. As an ACoA I have a real problem with this because this is exactly how my Mom treated me growing up. I am still so hu...	amills4294	8	1978	Dec 30, 2011 by Jerry F
	I feel like I've been punched in the gut (Preview) 10 days ago I caught my husband of 13 years using methadone. He breaks down and tells me he's secretly been addicted to opiates (pills, not heroin) for years and was now trying to get clean. I was completely shocked as I had no idea. He does not abuse alcohol. -I think I've seen him drunk 2-3 times in 18 year...	Annette678	8	705	Dec 30, 2011 by Doozy
	Need advice (Preview) I will be spending Christmas at my daughter's and she has invited her brother for dinner, my son who is an active A. I have been working the Al-Anon program and doing well with detaching. It will be a difficult situation for me if he shows up and has obviously been drinking. I will want to leave and distanc...	Rose50	10	541	Dec 30, 2011 by Rose50
	Progress not perfection (Preview) So yesterday I got a call from my A.. Asking if he can come over to give me some money he owes me. He gave me quite a bit based on the fact that he has had money for a week now and hasnt spent it all yet.. He also gave my son a twenty (he took 12$ from him). So my son got paid back plus a little more.. So this is where I am...	kris10	13	1670	Dec 30, 2011 by pinkchip
	question about depression and meds (Preview) Hi all,I have recently shared and touched upon this subject. But I would like to start a topic on this with the hope of hearing others experiances and ideas. My abf has been prescribed a strong dose of anti depressants a month ago without telling me. At the moment he is still on another prescription whic...	serenityseeker1	6	432	Dec 30, 2011 by Debilyn
	To the people sitting near us at the movie theater... (Preview) I apologize for the smell. See, my husband is an alcoholic and he can't sit through a movie without a drink. Yes, I know he was sneaking to the bathroom to top off his soda cup with alcohol--I think it was vodka tonight--or he slipped out of the theater to the bar next door to grab something. Either way, ple...	Very Very Tired	10	736	Dec 30, 2011 by LostMama31
	recovery (Preview) hi all, i wnt to and old meeting lasr night only couple people there same old faces. It was ovely to revisit. The topic was corage and shraes were good then a new comer shared about how she had told her rinker to explain xy and z to his doctor.I was astonished as a regular member cross talked and helped her...	Tracy	2	358	Dec 30, 2011 by Jerry F
	really need some esh! feel like I'm gonna burst!! (Preview) O.k so it christmas eve. I have trying my hardest to deal with my abf. Well to try and get through the holidays really for the sake of our children. Yes he is using again, and its seriously breaking my heart, not to mention driving me insane as he is outright lying to me about it. I have been trying my best to t...	serenityseeker1	15	780	Dec 30, 2011 by Pushka
	AH visiting children (Preview) My AH claims that he loves his children dearly, but not me. Since my AH was drinking in secret, and he also tried to committ sucide, he picked my kids up from school and 3 hours later was passed out with a blood alcohol level that is 4 times the legal limit. I have filed a TRO and divorce, I don't allow him...	ttpurtee	5	512	Dec 30, 2011 by Breakingfree
	Inspirational Quote (Preview) She went out on a limb, had it break off behind her, and discovered she could FLY. (helps me reframe my life a bit)	rehprof	4	485	Dec 30, 2011 by hotrod
	Feeling Alone (Preview) I ran across this message board today & thought I would post something. It's good to know there are other people experiencing the same things you are going through. My husband has a drinking problem & of course he thinks he doesn't. Every time I have brought it up it turns into my problem..I was...	HockeyGrl	8	544	Dec 30, 2011 by serenityseeker1
	hi all (Preview) I have moved house so have not had my computer back till today really missed this site. I hope you all had a lovely christms I did. I am on my way to a meeting so will post properly later hugs tracy xxxxx	Tracy	4	343	Dec 29, 2011 by hotrod
	Asking for Prayer (Preview) Please pray for me as I deal with A son and his 2 yr bride and mommy to be who are in town for the holidays. We see very little of them, our home isn't loaded with A:) Thank You.	Grace7	11	643	Dec 29, 2011 by Grace7
	To rehab or not to rehab...that is the question??? (Preview) My husband truly wants to get better. He knows his life has become unmanageable, however, even though he wants to get counseling (and has first appt already set up), to figure out why he's so angry, he doesn't see why he needs to go back to rehab. He wants to instead do the counseling, keep meeting with ou...	LostMama31	11	605	Dec 29, 2011 by purejuice
	Gettin Better with Holiday Lessons :0) (Preview) Funny the Lessons Learned when you Least expect them... First let me Say Merry Christmas & Happy New Year to You all... Without all of You Here, I may still be Back there <---- I have Flurished thru another Christmas/Birthday with Balance & Grace I feel, the Ease Part was A Little Touch &...	Jozie	1	399	Dec 29, 2011 by hotrod
	it can & will get better! (Preview) Actually today is better. I got a nap finally! My headache is starting to go away! I feel like things might just get better. My negative outlook is starting to go away too. Now that it has been over a week since my DAD died, I can actually see that maybe I can & will get through this w/o any major problems...	Hoot Nanny	1	348	Dec 29, 2011 by Grace7
	complete breakdown (Preview) First and foremost I think ive found a group to join for weekly meetings. But I am worried about what has transpired over the last week. I have been working insane hours at work. And I happen to work second, my husband works first. Hes also had the last week off from work. Every night when i have been gettin...	Moon_Beam	10	667	Dec 29, 2011 by pineapple
	"They'll Learn Much More than I'll Ever Know." (Preview) "I hear babies cry, I watch them grow. They'll learn much more than I'll ever know." -L. Armstrong. I was posting on Very Very Tired's thread and then my post turned into a novel so I decided to just make my own topic about it because, I guess, I have alot on my mind. Lately I have been waking u...	Michelle814	8	700	Dec 29, 2011 by TLD
	Obsessing over what was, what could be... (Preview) I'm doing what I refer to as my "mental torture" -- going over everything that happened in the relationship (broke up 4 weeks ago) -- all the things he told me about his past, other women, why is he friends on facebook with her and not me...OMG. STOP. These tapes are killing me and keeping me st...	rehprof	12	533	Dec 29, 2011 by MeTwo2
	Grieving and obsession- not what I expected (Preview) Early December, I ended a relationship. The fact that he responded by wanting to take a break for a month is of little consolation. I started the grieving process and was doing ok. I had made the decision to feel the unpleasantness and pray that it would pass. There was a shift this past week - like a sw...	bud	10	666	Dec 29, 2011 by Pushka
	We don't have a pot to .... (Preview) My husband cannot work right now because he broke his neck (fell from a tree, he owns a tree service, he's in a brace for at least another month) .. he cannot drive either. But every day he finds a way to a meeting and three times a week he finds a way to his outpatient appnts. He inspires my recovery at time...	Michelle814	8	701	Dec 29, 2011 by Grace7
	Update: Terrible Thanksgiving, dry Christmas? (long, sorry!) dry christmas alcoholic father sober hope detachment (Preview) http://alanon.activeboard.com/t46406455/terrible-thanksgiving-plans-for-dry-christmas/?page=1#lastPostAnchor	pitbull lover	7	8559	Dec 29, 2011 by Breakingfree
	Self Sabotage (Preview) Things since I've come home have been pretty good. I'm the one doing things to rock the boat. Some of it I'm sure is so I can say see .. it wasn't THAT good really. There is a part of me though that really thinks I don't deserve to be happy. Plus after living in crisis mode even just in my own mind for so long...	Pushka	12	849	Dec 29, 2011 by Pushka
	Overcoming my own addiction to adrenaline (Preview) I am working on this alot, since I am really enjoying life and the calm and serenity I am finding. I have learned to not let go of my serenity, to not give it away, because when I do, that old voice comes in and wants some chaos...some adrenaline. Last night something in my brain wanted some adrenaline an...	youfoundme	7	535	Dec 29, 2011 by Breakingfree
	giggle giggle.... (Preview) Smiling today as I realize only a true alanon could have written this song... To dream the impossible dreamTo fight the unbeatable foeTo bear with unbearable sorrowTo run where the brave dare not goTo right the unrightable wrong To love pure and chaste from afar To try when your arms are too weary To r...	glad	5	464	Dec 29, 2011 by Breakingfree
	Help! (Preview) I have been dating a "great guy" on and off for 5 years. He is 63 and I am 54. On when he is nice, and off when has pissed me off so much I want to kill him! He claims to love me...he can be SO sweet...but on a dime he changes! He has been sober for over 20 years, and goes to at least 2 meeting a week. Isn't t...	wahsali	8	420	Dec 29, 2011 by Breakingfree
	Need suppprt/ encouragement so badly (Preview) Im having a terrible time right now. Husband is alcoholic, addicted to pain pills. He's being a real jerk too. We are in a fight. I'm feeling closer to the possibility of divorce than ever before. I need someone to tell me I deserve to be happy. Do I really? Are things just only going to get worse? I don't ev...	GreenerGrass	15	553	Dec 29, 2011 by hotrod
	it's tough but I am managing. (Preview) Well...I don't know what to say. I just know that the grieving process is in full swing. I have managed to get through my first Christmas w/o my DAD. So far I have cried, got angry, etc. I guess I am definitely going through it. I hope time heals me. I am nervous about my mental health & chose not to go dow...	Hoot Nanny	5	539	Dec 29, 2011 by hotrod
	Early Recovery (Preview) I have heard people mention early recovery, what is the time frame on early recovery, versus mid recovery, versus late recovery? Just curious. Thanks in advance.	ttpurtee	4	737	Dec 28, 2011 by maryjane
	Terrible Thanksgiving... plans for dry christmas? christmas thanksgiving holidays dry father alcoholism (Preview) My father was a mess on Thanksgiving. We had the meal at his house and he stayed in the kitchen nearly the entire time and drank while cooking. When my husband and I arrived my brother and his wife were already there and my father was already drunk. The day progressed without much of anything.. I broke out...	pitbull lover	17	10386	Dec 28, 2011 by pitbull lover
	Should I warn him? (Preview) MY BF is on probation from the last DUI that he got back in April. He has to go see his PO every 3 months and get drug tested. If they find any alcohol or drugs in his system he goes to jail for 90 to 120 days. He has to go this thrusday. he has been drinking every night for the past 3 weeks and last night was snortin...	HoofnIt	19	563	Dec 28, 2011 by HoofnIt
	on holidays (Preview) Hi guys I am away from home on holidays at the moment. There was a catgory 2 cyclone near my town on Xmas day but it hit aobut 150km east of us in a fairly isolated area of the Northern Territory so it was all good. The cyclone moved east... guess which direction I went on holidays.. hehehe.. EAST!!!! Its a...	Lindaoakford	5	387	Dec 28, 2011 by Michelle814
	Loneliness (Preview) How do you deal with the loneliness? I am living with my active AH who is deep within his disease. I go to F2F Al-Anon meetings. I have a sponsor. I am active in building a life for myself. Yet, there is still this loneliness. I've heard it said that living with an active alcoholic is even more lonely than be...	Very Very Tired	9	1035	Dec 27, 2011 by Jerry F
	Alcoholic grandfather and our new baby Alcoholic grandfather new baby (Preview) I grew up with a father who had a drinking problem and now that my wife and I just had our first child we are very cautious when it comes to him being around the baby. We've explained to my mother multiple time that we don't want our child around my father if he's drinking. She's said she understands and supp...	Sean	7	1102	Dec 27, 2011 by maryjane
	hopeless (Preview) i need help on how to start the road to recovery. i have been drinking for awhile now and i am so needing help. i find myslf benging all the time and i know that if i keep on this path that i will die from this. I dont want to die from this please help me. what do i do and y is it so hard to stop?	izzy	5	463	Dec 27, 2011 by MeTwo2
	Letting go (Preview) For me letting go of being a victim has been such a long hard road. Christmas always used to remind me of all I did not have, a loving family, a rich warm homelife, companionship. This Christmas as always people asked me about my family. Those kind of questions used to send me in such turmoil. At one time I...	orchidlover	7	521	Dec 27, 2011 by orchidlover
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