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dragonflys · dragonflys

So I am not sure if I am in some sort of survival mode. I asked my AH to move out, and its been almost 2 weeks. After crazy talk for days, he has finally given up and realized that I am no longer going to fight with him so he has stopped texting. Thank you HP, I thought I was going to loose it there the first few d...

georgem · georgem

Where too start.... I have been in a relationship with my GF for about 4 years and about 18 months ago she joined AA and has grown so much and became a different person. I worry almost once a week about her drinking again. I know that i have no control over that and it had driven me crazy. First it started wit...

Oksie · Oksie

I have been pretty busy with stuff and havent been around much. I have been reading though. I have spent most of my time on the ACA board when i have been here Reading here sometimes gives me a sense of peace. I love the ACA board and i really wish more people would join us to share this peace from the alanon b...

GailMichelle · GailMichelle

Breaking Free mentioned in her post today that she realizes that life will bring daily struggles. This reminded me of how much better I am handling the struggles that are inevitable. (I like to refer to them as challenges; it sounds more feasible to me.) I have taken on a major project in our home. I n...

silent · silent

ive just read a post on this and its another one of my issues today cause ive allowed others to run all over me,wow ,ive never thought about it and that pateince i also thought was part of allowing others to run all over me,ugh.so how is the 2 separate is what im asking today ,lol this is been a part of life all...

seekingserenity · seekingserenity

Have you ever wanted something so bad that you let your mind convince you that God had put before you a path and you just had to trust? Have you ever thought God had sent a person to you who could love you because they saw life through the same lens you did? Have you ever met someone who you thought could help y...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

I have a long story to tell but I'll try to give the short version. I confronted my AH about the gun comments and about him driving on a suspended license. He agreed to live by my rules, which I clarified were actually boundaries but he didn't like it. I told him I'm not trying to control him but I don't tr...

CDK · CDK

Hello. I'm in the thick of it. Just left my alcoholic boyfriend of 4.5 years...well slipped out the back door really. Have sort of hung in there the last three weeks, hoping he'd get the point. Last night I found out, for some strange reason my best friend decided to invite him to be part of an art show. He...

Country Boy · Country Boy

I confronted my wife about her actions which led me to believe she was cheating. She admitted she had no idea who she was calling/texting & people are messing with her when she calls/texts them because they know what state she is in. I could tell she was feeling very guilty & embarrassed. She sa...

silent · silent

yestrday was my birthday so i get an unknown phone call from my ex a/d he tells me happy birthday then i ask him where are you at.he says at his bosses rent house all alone that his mom and him didnt see eye to eye so he walked over to the rental house oh my my heart goes to raceing he asks if i would bring my yorkie...

Jackie11 · Jackie11

I am thankful for positive growth and change. I'm thankful for my wonderful F2F meeting. I realize that it's important to focus on the positive. I am and have hit my head against the same wall over and over again. It comes to the subject of me traveling to see friends. I have local friends, I catch flack fo...

silent · silent

so far so good as ive managed to not try and run him down,but i havent been all that good just lucky me that he didnt answer me as i belive he is out of mins on his cell i texted him and said ..hi...but no answer back good for me,and ive been feeling like a stalker as ive or was checking his f/b page out but i defrei...

KLotus · KLotus

My AH was gone for a week, and returned yesterday evening (he is still staying with his parents). I let his mother take our 2 year old daughter to the airport to pick him up, so that he could have time with her. I have no idea where he has been, and have not asked. All I know is that I felt some relief this wee...

beckylee · beckylee

Hi everyone, i am here hoping to get some wisdom and insight into this disease. I have posted my info on my Bio if anyone is interested. I am recently seperated (His decision) my AH " Doesn't want to be accountable to anyone. " He is living in a small apt a few miles away. He's been inconsistent w...

FORGE AHEAD · FORGE AHEAD

I have been married for 20 years and my husband and I have 4 kids together. For at least the past 8 years, I have been watching my husband drink pretty much every thursday, friday and Saturday night starting at around 5 and ending at 2am. He gets up around 8 or 9am on the weekends and is with our family most...

orchidlover · orchidlover

As someone who was pretty deprived as a child patience isn't something I have much of. I want everything yesterday because I'm always aware that life is scarce and everything can end tomorrow. After a lifetime of being around alcoholics of course that is true because their crises are never ending. ...

Jennifer · Jennifer

We talk a lot about detaching with love but love with detachment is what I experienced today. My exAH moved back to the state a few weeks ago and has helped me with a few things during finals and an acute attack of my disease. It has been nice to have to the help from someone who knows me well enough to not have...

Jerry F · Jerry F

It happens, I've witnessed it before and got to see it again last night. Newcomers outnumbering the oldtimers at the start of the meeting. So we did the meeting on the pamphlet "Understanding Ourselves and Alcoholism". It was a refresher course for me and brought back lots and lots of...

amills4294 · amills4294

My MIL 75th bday is this weekend. My H is throwing a last minute dinner party at an expensive restaurant for 20 people in honor of her and he's asking to invite my parents. We've always gotten together for holidays because of our daughter - both sides came to our house so we didn't have to go to each of thei...

Highlyfavored · Highlyfavored

Hi! I'm sitting here with my mouth open! I called my daughter and told her "I'm not going to be able to help you with school" she said "OK" and hung up, not even a goodbye. I'm ok with this, but a little surprised, I thought I would at least be able to complete a sentence. Gettingit...

liljeannie · liljeannie

Hello yet again, Some of you may remember me, some not. For those of you that do, you may remember my posting about the vicious assault on me by my now former abf of 9yrs, which happened last July. It took until May 17th to go to trial, and on Friday, May 18th a jury of seven found him not guilty. I am totall...

sookie · sookie

This week has put me back on the roller coaster. My separated AH, who was presumably sober for several months began drinking and hiding it, inlcuding going to work drunk and showing up here drunk on a day he watches our 2 girls so I can go to Al-Anon meetings. Once again, my boundaries were pushed to the li...

stephaniej · stephaniej

Last weekend, my daughters stayed with their dad (90% of the time, they are with me on the weekends, but every once in awhile they stay at their dad's for a family function). I have come to dread those weekends, because my AH tends to be much more likely to be emotionally abusive. I am sure that in his min...

Country Boy · Country Boy

My AW comes home tomorrow from a weeks vacation. I have searched my heart, thought it out logically & prayed for clarity on the situation. Everything is pointing to me asking for a divorce. She doesn't know I know about her infidelity. She be home for hours before me so I know she won't be in a conditi...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

For almost 2 weeks I was unable to get on here at home, which was hard this is a big outlet for me. I have slipped a little with my exAH which tells me I am right to move an hour and a half away, including a ferry ride. I am stressed with my big move in the next 2 weeks. I have rented a U-haul for June 5th and am stil...

Overcome · Overcome

I have been reading some posts tonight about some of you setting boundaries and finding your inner strength with your marriages/relationships. I am so glad to see how al-anon works if you work it! I thought maybe I would share some of my expereince strength and hope (e,s,&h) on the board regardin...

AStrongerMe · AStrongerMe

For the first time my RBF and I had some "things" to talk about. And generally I struggle with feedback as my co dependent reaction is a mix of "OMG I'm flawed, it's fatal" which can lead to bad reactions. I did something that was a good boundary. Because I'm learning that there i...

willowtree · willowtree

Has anyone had issues of being in alanon with someone who you just cannot stand being around? There is a lady who has been coming for many years and she seems to have all of the answers and is very judgmental of me when I ask her questions. I feel looked down upon. We only have few little meetings around h...

Highlyfavored · Highlyfavored

I shared on this yersterday, my daughter asked for help in getting into a GED program and she did'nt follow through. Today she called, nothing about yestrrday. I spoke to my sponsor and she asked if I hadn't helped her enough already, gave her a car, she lost it to impound, gave her a place to stay for ov...

LeahC · LeahC

Hello, I have made a few posts on here and am trying to make a habit of opening up what's going on with me so I deal with it in a healthy way and not let it sit and fester in me. I really like this website and the amazing support on here for everyone. I live with my alcoholic boyfriend and my 2 year old daughter. I h...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am so glad that my mom & I not only survived our trip on Saturday but we also didn't have to go to court yesterday(Monday) except me had to meet w/ the prosecuting attorney because she pleaded guilty to inattentive driving--she was under the influence of hydrocodone. It was a mess but now my mom is b...

Dolly Llama · Dolly Llama

It's been 3 months since I last saw my AH, 2 months since we agreed to file for divorce and had any sort of email exchange about anything except the divorce stuff. I have been doing really well, minding my own business and going after my goals. Lately I've been thinking about my AH. Not in a needy way. I f...

Jerry F · Jerry F

over the process and am powerless over the outcome. Aloha all. Been doing lots of face to face work with my higher power with alot more listening (with an open mind) and memory work on the process. The program is mine to work...that's the process...my responsiblility and choice on how I do it. I com...

Debilyn · Debilyn

I am thinking about me. Not how sad it is he is a miserable mess dying ever so slowly from his disease. How it took everything from me. It's not so much the material stuff, as that is not important to me. I only want/need the basics. Good quality ones. Was thinking how I am struggling so hard financially. Th...

LeahC · LeahC

Hello, Posted a couple times on here, recently was last night. I have something more on my mind now. To those who aren't familiar with me, I live with my alcoholic boyfriend and our 2 year old daughter. His drinking is out of control lately. Drinking every day and then getting in the car to drive which I p...

Dolly Llama · Dolly Llama

This has been on my heart and mind lately and hope it will help someone else. It helped me. When my mind starts spinning with the why's and why not's...I answer myself, "Because he's an alcoholic." Four little words that I struggle to accept or understand at times, but all the truth I need....

AStrongerMe · AStrongerMe

I guess I consider myself lucky, blessed, what have you. I met someone recovering from alcoholism but after I'd gotten pretty far into my own recovery from another bad relationship. Not alcoholic but might as well have been. I'm just no longer willing to lose me. I guess after you lose yourself for...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

I am trying VERY hard to mind my own business, keep my mouth shut, and I am avoiding confrontation with him right now. He seems very depressed after the sentencing last week and I already know he's been shopping for guns online. Not sure why yet, but he's always been the type of guy to say, "The bes...

srtiels · srtiels

OK....the back story, my AH has been a drinker for 50 years, at a rate of 2 liters every 3 days. He drinks from 9-12PM. He says it is pain management for his back. He is 70, and over the last year has lost the muscle tone in his legs and can hardly stand, will not try to walk and stays in bed 24/7. In looking a...

amills4294 · amills4294

In the past several days I've recognized some real changes in myself in how I react to others. They are baby steps but boy does it feel good. My H does things that I don't like - I used to interject myself into those things and situations and get embroiled in them. Thanks to this program I'm finding I do t...

Bargee · Bargee

This is a really long post, so I understand if you don't want to read it. As some of you may know I'm at my wits end with my AH and the way he has been treating me. At the moment I really cannot stand him. So...anyway we wake up this morning and the first thing he wants is sex!! We have hardly even spoken civill...

lunakat82 · lunakat82

Hi All - I'm not sure if I'm writing in correct place, but I am struggling with family issues now and needed some advice. My husband has been smoking weed for about 10 years now - maybe past 2-4 years it's been very heavy - every day, a couple times a day (before work, sometimes during work, after work and...

LeahC · LeahC

Hello, I have only made 1 post on here but something is bothering me tonight, pretty much every night actually and need to say somethings. I live with my boyfriend, father of my 2 year old daughter. He is an alcoholic and has been since he was a teenager. He has 2 owi's, one of which is from a near fatal car ac...

Bargee · Bargee

On my way to my first Alanon meeting (which ended up a complete fail, there was no one there!!) I thrashed this song over and over again. It's how I feel.

Highlyfavored · Highlyfavored

Yesterday my a/a daughter told me she was starting to school to get her GED, and asked me if I would take her, I told her to catch the bus, she said she didn't have any money for the bus and asked me if I would pay the fees to start, 15.00 or 25.00 dollars. I told her I would and to call me and let me know when she wa...

Country Boy · Country Boy

My father was an alcoholic. Never abused us kids, just drank, passed out & wasn't part of our lives because of this. He went into treatment & was sober for over 25 years before he passed. I had pretty much come to terms with all of this until I married an A. I have been with my AW for about 15 years, du...

Tracy · Tracy

Hi, I am doing some service for a small convention going around al anon groups promoting it and selling tickets. I did not want to go out to a meeting tonight I was tired and it was about an hours drive the meeting I wanted to visit. When I got there people welcomed me I really only see these members at conve...

hotrod · hotrod

HI MIP FAMILY I AM LEAVING FOR A 2 WEEK VACATION TO TURKEY AND WILL NOT HAVE INTERNET ACCESS DURING THAT TIME, I HAVE POSTED THA ALANON TRADITION 2 TO THE STEP WORK BOARD. PLEASE PARTICIPATE THE TRADITONS DID HELP ME TO LEARN HOW TO LIVE WITH CO WORKERS AND FAMILY IN A CONSTRUCTIVE MANNER. http://stepw...

Pushka · Pushka

Pretty much since the beginning of April life has been leading me around by the nose. This is the first weekend I have refocused myself and really made it about what kind of fun can be had in our little town. Yesterday, we spent about 2 hours in the late afternoon at the park. Had a great time, .. after th...

sweeetr · sweeetr

My AH came home after agreeing to "house rules"~I have made boundaries and stuck to them this time. I am totally able to detach at this point. As I start this remember Its been about five days now he's been home and sober. He is talking about buying a vacation place for our family he has wante...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

My home internet service is down again for over a week and they don't expect it up and running until Monday. The joys of living on a little island, for another few weeks anyway. I went to look at that place on Tuesday and I have gone down 3 times to see this place, she finally let me in to see it and told me they...

pineapple · pineapple

I was feeling a little down today because tomorrow is my birthday. For the first time ever I doubt if my A will even remember, let alone do anything for me. I thought I'd spend the day doing something I really wanted to do for myself. But I couldn't think of anyhting that I wanted to do BY myself. My closest f...

Dolly Llama · Dolly Llama

I didn't grow up in an alcoholic family, but I might as well have. All the same traits were there. My folks were abusive and my mom probably has a personality disorder. Don't really talk to them anymore, but I had to call my mother yesterday to see if she had one of my old military records that I will need...

littlehawk · littlehawk

I have been in love with my Alcoholic "E" for going on 2 years. We are at the point where we both accept that we each need to be in recovery if we are to save this relationship. She has recently decided to go into in-patient rehab. I am sad, but I am supportive. Yesterday, after I had just adjusted...

sweeetr · sweeetr

I dont have expectations anymore so my dissapointments in AH are few. But one of his friends wives (suppose to be my friend) really dissapointed me ... talking crap on me ... oh well, guess I need my tools and detachments for more than just my AH. True friends are hard to find, crap stirring ppl are many a...

Jeng · Jeng

We were supposed to celebrate our 27th anniversary last night. Instead he had a beer or two after work and came home late. Then knowing that I wouldn't be happy because he promised me he'd stop drinking, he was in a bad mood. I have threatened to leave and I know it doesn't work, especially if you don't f...

nyc018 · nyc018

I had a pretty bad reaction to something AH said yesterday. Some background - he is almost 9 months sober, working a decent AA program (from what I can tell), and has a good sponsor. We're separated but he sees me and our son on weekends. I'm trying to be supportive in an arms-length way, but I am still fa...

katfshh · katfshh

About 12 ladies from my job are going on a cruise in Sept. We are in the middle of booking it. Everyone is welcome to go, but there is one woman that is just a nasty, angry, not nice person. I've always been nice to her, but honestly have no desire to share a room with her on a vacation. She is controlling and ju...

MyBrokenHeart · MyBrokenHeart

Long story short. I was married. She was a binge drinker. We had two kids. Nomatter how bad it got, I loved her with all my heart, and it got very bad. After the third or fourth ultimatum of "if you don't stop I'm leaving you," I actually filed for divorce. I wanted to give her the benefit of the d...

leogirl · leogirl

I am new here, but I am desperate for some guidance regarding the A in my life. I met this man literally a year and a half ago and he swept me off my feet, about 6 months into it I started suspecting he was an alcoholic, initially, I just thought he liked his wine. Needless to say, we fell for each other ha...

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	Survival Mode or a Feeling of Freedom? (Preview) So I am not sure if I am in some sort of survival mode. I asked my AH to move out, and its been almost 2 weeks. After crazy talk for days, he has finally given up and realized that I am no longer going to fight with him so he has stopped texting. Thank you HP, I thought I was going to loose it there the first few d...	dragonflys	6	720	May 27, 2012 by FinallyFree
	Newcomer here... (Preview) Where too start.... I have been in a relationship with my GF for about 4 years and about 18 months ago she joined AA and has grown so much and became a different person. I worry almost once a week about her drinking again. I know that i have no control over that and it had driven me crazy. First it started wit...	georgem	5	497	May 27, 2012 by georgem
	Havent been around much (Preview) I have been pretty busy with stuff and havent been around much. I have been reading though. I have spent most of my time on the ACA board when i have been here Reading here sometimes gives me a sense of peace. I love the ACA board and i really wish more people would join us to share this peace from the alanon b...	Oksie	6	514	May 27, 2012 by orchidlover
	The Small Stuff (Preview) Breaking Free mentioned in her post today that she realizes that life will bring daily struggles. This reminded me of how much better I am handling the struggles that are inevitable. (I like to refer to them as challenges; it sounds more feasible to me.) I have taken on a major project in our home. I n...	GailMichelle	1	407	May 27, 2012 by Breakingfree
	allowing others to walk over me (Preview) ive just read a post on this and its another one of my issues today cause ive allowed others to run all over me,wow ,ive never thought about it and that pateince i also thought was part of allowing others to run all over me,ugh.so how is the 2 separate is what im asking today ,lol this is been a part of life all...	silent	7	568	May 27, 2012 by orchidlover
	I should have known better, but? (Preview) Have you ever wanted something so bad that you let your mind convince you that God had put before you a path and you just had to trust? Have you ever thought God had sent a person to you who could love you because they saw life through the same lens you did? Have you ever met someone who you thought could help y...	seekingserenity	8	546	May 26, 2012 by seekingserenity
	Why am I so bent on saving my marriage? (Preview) I have a long story to tell but I'll try to give the short version. I confronted my AH about the gun comments and about him driving on a suspended license. He agreed to live by my rules, which I clarified were actually boundaries but he didn't like it. I told him I'm not trying to control him but I don't tr...	ilovedogs	21	917	May 26, 2012 by Dolly Llama
	HI. I am new. (Preview) Hello. I'm in the thick of it. Just left my alcoholic boyfriend of 4.5 years...well slipped out the back door really. Have sort of hung in there the last three weeks, hoping he'd get the point. Last night I found out, for some strange reason my best friend decided to invite him to be part of an art show. He...	CDK	10	515	May 26, 2012 by CDK
	Some good news some ehhh?!? (Preview) I confronted my wife about her actions which led me to believe she was cheating. She admitted she had no idea who she was calling/texting & people are messing with her when she calls/texts them because they know what state she is in. I could tell she was feeling very guilty & embarrassed. She sa...	Country Boy	4	420	May 26, 2012 by Bettina
	update,update! (Preview) yestrday was my birthday so i get an unknown phone call from my ex a/d he tells me happy birthday then i ask him where are you at.he says at his bosses rent house all alone that his mom and him didnt see eye to eye so he walked over to the rental house oh my my heart goes to raceing he asks if i would bring my yorkie...	silent	8	668	May 26, 2012 by rara avis
	trying to keep my perspective (Preview) I am thankful for positive growth and change. I'm thankful for my wonderful F2F meeting. I realize that it's important to focus on the positive. I am and have hit my head against the same wall over and over again. It comes to the subject of me traveling to see friends. I have local friends, I catch flack fo...	Jackie11	13	612	May 26, 2012 by Jerry F
	another update!!!!! (Preview) so far so good as ive managed to not try and run him down,but i havent been all that good just lucky me that he didnt answer me as i belive he is out of mins on his cell i texted him and said ..hi...but no answer back good for me,and ive been feeling like a stalker as ive or was checking his f/b page out but i defrei...	silent	3	368	May 26, 2012 by Jerry F
	Monday update (Preview) My AH was gone for a week, and returned yesterday evening (he is still staying with his parents). I let his mother take our 2 year old daughter to the airport to pick him up, so that he could have time with her. I have no idea where he has been, and have not asked. All I know is that I felt some relief this wee...	KLotus	4	408	May 26, 2012 by Oksie
	Newbie Dry not sober AH (Preview) Hi everyone, i am here hoping to get some wisdom and insight into this disease. I have posted my info on my Bio if anyone is interested. I am recently seperated (His decision) my AH " Doesn't want to be accountable to anyone. " He is living in a small apt a few miles away. He's been inconsistent w...	beckylee	3	528	May 26, 2012 by Tigger
	do I tell my kids(formally) (Preview) I have been married for 20 years and my husband and I have 4 kids together. For at least the past 8 years, I have been watching my husband drink pretty much every thursday, friday and Saturday night starting at around 5 and ending at 2am. He gets up around 8 or 9am on the weekends and is with our family most...	FORGE AHEAD	11	719	May 26, 2012 by sookie
	Patience (Preview) As someone who was pretty deprived as a child patience isn't something I have much of. I want everything yesterday because I'm always aware that life is scarce and everything can end tomorrow. After a lifetime of being around alcoholics of course that is true because their crises are never ending. ...	orchidlover	4	540	May 26, 2012 by orchidlover
	Love with detachment (Preview) We talk a lot about detaching with love but love with detachment is what I experienced today. My exAH moved back to the state a few weeks ago and has helped me with a few things during finals and an acute attack of my disease. It has been nice to have to the help from someone who knows me well enough to not have...	Jennifer	6	558	May 25, 2012 by AStrongerMe
	Newbie meeting last night... (Preview) It happens, I've witnessed it before and got to see it again last night. Newcomers outnumbering the oldtimers at the start of the meeting. So we did the meeting on the pamphlet "Understanding Ourselves and Alcoholism". It was a refresher course for me and brought back lots and lots of...	Jerry F	4	454	May 25, 2012 by AStrongerMe
	trying not to control the situation :) (Preview) My MIL 75th bday is this weekend. My H is throwing a last minute dinner party at an expensive restaurant for 20 people in honor of her and he's asking to invite my parents. We've always gotten together for holidays because of our daughter - both sides came to our house so we didn't have to go to each of thei...	amills4294	6	523	May 25, 2012 by Inawhirl
	UPDATE! Results of ESH! (Preview) Hi! I'm sitting here with my mouth open! I called my daughter and told her "I'm not going to be able to help you with school" she said "OK" and hung up, not even a goodbye. I'm ok with this, but a little surprised, I thought I would at least be able to complete a sentence. Gettingit...	Highlyfavored	6	442	May 25, 2012 by Jackie11
	speechless (Preview) Hello yet again, Some of you may remember me, some not. For those of you that do, you may remember my posting about the vicious assault on me by my now former abf of 9yrs, which happened last July. It took until May 17th to go to trial, and on Friday, May 18th a jury of seven found him not guilty. I am totall...	liljeannie	6	527	May 24, 2012 by rara avis
	wishy-washy flip-flopping and struggling... (Preview) This week has put me back on the roller coaster. My separated AH, who was presumably sober for several months began drinking and hiding it, inlcuding going to work drunk and showing up here drunk on a day he watches our 2 girls so I can go to Al-Anon meetings. Once again, my boundaries were pushed to the li...	sookie	8	660	May 24, 2012 by orchidlover
	Working my program, finding small successes (Preview) Last weekend, my daughters stayed with their dad (90% of the time, they are with me on the weekends, but every once in awhile they stay at their dad's for a family function). I have come to dread those weekends, because my AH tends to be much more likely to be emotionally abusive. I am sure that in his min...	stephaniej	9	449	May 24, 2012 by Breakingfree
	Anxious about tomorrow (Preview) My AW comes home tomorrow from a weeks vacation. I have searched my heart, thought it out logically & prayed for clarity on the situation. Everything is pointing to me asking for a divorce. She doesn't know I know about her infidelity. She be home for hours before me so I know she won't be in a conditi...	Country Boy	9	614	May 24, 2012 by Breakingfree
	I am back up and running (Preview) For almost 2 weeks I was unable to get on here at home, which was hard this is a big outlet for me. I have slipped a little with my exAH which tells me I am right to move an hour and a half away, including a ferry ride. I am stressed with my big move in the next 2 weeks. I have rented a U-haul for June 5th and am stil...	Breakingfree	2	628	May 24, 2012 by Breakingfree
	Giving yourself time to recover before moving on... (Preview) I have been reading some posts tonight about some of you setting boundaries and finding your inner strength with your marriages/relationships. I am so glad to see how al-anon works if you work it! I thought maybe I would share some of my expereince strength and hope (e,s,&h) on the board regardin...	Overcome	7	476	May 23, 2012 by orchidlover
	I didn't break! (Preview) For the first time my RBF and I had some "things" to talk about. And generally I struggle with feedback as my co dependent reaction is a mix of "OMG I'm flawed, it's fatal" which can lead to bad reactions. I did something that was a good boundary. Because I'm learning that there i...	AStrongerMe	2	439	May 23, 2012 by Breakingfree
	people in the program (Preview) Has anyone had issues of being in alanon with someone who you just cannot stand being around? There is a lady who has been coming for many years and she seems to have all of the answers and is very judgmental of me when I ask her questions. I feel looked down upon. We only have few little meetings around h...	willowtree	8	513	May 23, 2012 by Dolly Llama
	Need ESH re: helping daughter! (Preview) I shared on this yersterday, my daughter asked for help in getting into a GED program and she did'nt follow through. Today she called, nothing about yestrrday. I spoke to my sponsor and she asked if I hadn't helped her enough already, gave her a car, she lost it to impound, gave her a place to stay for ov...	Highlyfavored	5	870	May 23, 2012 by Highlyfavored
	Trust (Preview) Hello, I have made a few posts on here and am trying to make a habit of opening up what's going on with me so I deal with it in a healthy way and not let it sit and fester in me. I really like this website and the amazing support on here for everyone. I live with my alcoholic boyfriend and my 2 year old daughter. I h...	LeahC	7	568	May 23, 2012 by Breakingfree
	my mom & I survived! (Preview) I am so glad that my mom & I not only survived our trip on Saturday but we also didn't have to go to court yesterday(Monday) except me had to meet w/ the prosecuting attorney because she pleaded guilty to inattentive driving--she was under the influence of hydrocodone. It was a mess but now my mom is b...	Hoot Nanny	2	285	May 23, 2012 by Jerry F
	Thoughts of contacting estranged AH (Preview) It's been 3 months since I last saw my AH, 2 months since we agreed to file for divorce and had any sort of email exchange about anything except the divorce stuff. I have been doing really well, minding my own business and going after my goals. Lately I've been thinking about my AH. Not in a needy way. I f...	Dolly Llama	17	700	May 23, 2012 by Breakingfree
	Not powerless (Preview) over the process and am powerless over the outcome. Aloha all. Been doing lots of face to face work with my higher power with alot more listening (with an open mind) and memory work on the process. The program is mine to work...that's the process...my responsiblility and choice on how I do it. I com...	Jerry F	9	707	May 23, 2012 by Breakingfree
	I guess today... (Preview) I am thinking about me. Not how sad it is he is a miserable mess dying ever so slowly from his disease. How it took everything from me. It's not so much the material stuff, as that is not important to me. I only want/need the basics. Good quality ones. Was thinking how I am struggling so hard financially. Th...	Debilyn	11	928	May 23, 2012 by Debilyn
	My daughter (Preview) Hello, Posted a couple times on here, recently was last night. I have something more on my mind now. To those who aren't familiar with me, I live with my alcoholic boyfriend and our 2 year old daughter. His drinking is out of control lately. Drinking every day and then getting in the car to drive which I p...	LeahC	4	637	May 22, 2012 by LeahC
	Why? Because s/he's an alcoholic. (Preview) This has been on my heart and mind lately and hope it will help someone else. It helped me. When my mind starts spinning with the why's and why not's...I answer myself, "Because he's an alcoholic." Four little words that I struggle to accept or understand at times, but all the truth I need....	Dolly Llama	5	462	May 22, 2012 by sookie
	Another Vote for taking care of yourself (Preview) I guess I consider myself lucky, blessed, what have you. I met someone recovering from alcoholism but after I'd gotten pretty far into my own recovery from another bad relationship. Not alcoholic but might as well have been. I'm just no longer willing to lose me. I guess after you lose yourself for...	AStrongerMe	6	542	May 22, 2012 by AStrongerMe
	Off topic: Need to vent about AH (Preview) I am trying VERY hard to mind my own business, keep my mouth shut, and I am avoiding confrontation with him right now. He seems very depressed after the sentencing last week and I already know he's been shopping for guns online. Not sure why yet, but he's always been the type of guy to say, "The bes...	ilovedogs	8	589	May 22, 2012 by Dolly Llama
	Need suggestions (Preview) OK....the back story, my AH has been a drinker for 50 years, at a rate of 2 liters every 3 days. He drinks from 9-12PM. He says it is pain management for his back. He is 70, and over the last year has lost the muscle tone in his legs and can hardly stand, will not try to walk and stays in bed 24/7. In looking a...	srtiels	12	2464	May 22, 2012 by orchidlover
	baby steps and recognizing my part in it all (Preview) In the past several days I've recognized some real changes in myself in how I react to others. They are baby steps but boy does it feel good. My H does things that I don't like - I used to interject myself into those things and situations and get embroiled in them. Thanks to this program I'm finding I do t...	amills4294	3	395	May 22, 2012 by Jackie11
	Feeling really angry (Preview) This is a really long post, so I understand if you don't want to read it. As some of you may know I'm at my wits end with my AH and the way he has been treating me. At the moment I really cannot stand him. So...anyway we wake up this morning and the first thing he wants is sex!! We have hardly even spoken civill...	Bargee	11	784	May 22, 2012 by Pushka
	My husband refuses to quite smoking weed... (Preview) Hi All - I'm not sure if I'm writing in correct place, but I am struggling with family issues now and needed some advice. My husband has been smoking weed for about 10 years now - maybe past 2-4 years it's been very heavy - every day, a couple times a day (before work, sometimes during work, after work and...	lunakat82	5	1272	May 22, 2012 by BRAlanon
	Scared (Preview) Hello, I have only made 1 post on here but something is bothering me tonight, pretty much every night actually and need to say somethings. I live with my boyfriend, father of my 2 year old daughter. He is an alcoholic and has been since he was a teenager. He has 2 owi's, one of which is from a near fatal car ac...	LeahC	5	529	May 22, 2012 by Bargee
	Pink - Walk Away (Preview) On my way to my first Alanon meeting (which ended up a complete fail, there was no one there!!) I thrashed this song over and over again. It's how I feel.	Bargee	8	2945	May 22, 2012 by Bargee
	Making progress! I think! (Preview) Yesterday my a/a daughter told me she was starting to school to get her GED, and asked me if I would take her, I told her to catch the bus, she said she didn't have any money for the bus and asked me if I would pay the fees to start, 15.00 or 25.00 dollars. I told her I would and to call me and let me know when she wa...	Highlyfavored	4	418	May 22, 2012 by Jerry F
	My story (Preview) My father was an alcoholic. Never abused us kids, just drank, passed out & wasn't part of our lives because of this. He went into treatment & was sober for over 25 years before he passed. I had pretty much come to terms with all of this until I married an A. I have been with my AW for about 15 years, du...	Country Boy	8	631	May 22, 2012 by david62
	rewards (Preview) Hi, I am doing some service for a small convention going around al anon groups promoting it and selling tickets. I did not want to go out to a meeting tonight I was tired and it was about an hours drive the meeting I wanted to visit. When I got there people welcomed me I really only see these members at conve...	Tracy	2	405	May 22, 2012 by Tigger
	TRADITION 2 (Preview) HI MIP FAMILY I AM LEAVING FOR A 2 WEEK VACATION TO TURKEY AND WILL NOT HAVE INTERNET ACCESS DURING THAT TIME, I HAVE POSTED THA ALANON TRADITION 2 TO THE STEP WORK BOARD. PLEASE PARTICIPATE THE TRADITONS DID HELP ME TO LEARN HOW TO LIVE WITH CO WORKERS AND FAMILY IN A CONSTRUCTIVE MANNER. http://stepw...	hotrod	0	316	May 21, 2012 by hotrod
	Life On Life's Terms :) (Preview) Pretty much since the beginning of April life has been leading me around by the nose. This is the first weekend I have refocused myself and really made it about what kind of fun can be had in our little town. Yesterday, we spent about 2 hours in the late afternoon at the park. Had a great time, .. after th...	Pushka	11	725	May 21, 2012 by Breakingfree
	i sit back and think, my life is quit "interesting" at times (Preview) My AH came home after agreeing to "house rules"~I have made boundaries and stuck to them this time. I am totally able to detach at this point. As I start this remember Its been about five days now he's been home and sober. He is talking about buying a vacation place for our family he has wante...	sweeetr	2	318	May 21, 2012 by sweeetr
	Sorry I have been absent for a week ~Update~ (Preview) My home internet service is down again for over a week and they don't expect it up and running until Monday. The joys of living on a little island, for another few weeks anyway. I went to look at that place on Tuesday and I have gone down 3 times to see this place, she finally let me in to see it and told me they...	Breakingfree	5	592	May 21, 2012 by surfgirl123
	HP came through again (Preview) I was feeling a little down today because tomorrow is my birthday. For the first time ever I doubt if my A will even remember, let alone do anything for me. I thought I'd spend the day doing something I really wanted to do for myself. But I couldn't think of anyhting that I wanted to do BY myself. My closest f...	pineapple	9	565	May 21, 2012 by Oksie
	Lack of Direct Communication (Preview) I didn't grow up in an alcoholic family, but I might as well have. All the same traits were there. My folks were abusive and my mom probably has a personality disorder. Don't really talk to them anymore, but I had to call my mother yesterday to see if she had one of my old military records that I will need...	Dolly Llama	6	407	May 20, 2012 by Dolly Llama
	Struggling with fears / abandonment issues (Preview) I have been in love with my Alcoholic "E" for going on 2 years. We are at the point where we both accept that we each need to be in recovery if we are to save this relationship. She has recently decided to go into in-patient rehab. I am sad, but I am supportive. Yesterday, after I had just adjusted...	littlehawk	6	927	May 20, 2012 by littlehawk
	use to dissapointment but... (Preview) I dont have expectations anymore so my dissapointments in AH are few. But one of his friends wives (suppose to be my friend) really dissapointed me ... talking crap on me ... oh well, guess I need my tools and detachments for more than just my AH. True friends are hard to find, crap stirring ppl are many a...	sweeetr	2	379	May 20, 2012 by hotrod
	Help for a newcomer (Preview) We were supposed to celebrate our 27th anniversary last night. Instead he had a beer or two after work and came home late. Then knowing that I wouldn't be happy because he promised me he'd stop drinking, he was in a bad mood. I have threatened to leave and I know it doesn't work, especially if you don't f...	Jeng	6	644	May 20, 2012 by Jerry F
	I need to vent (Preview) I had a pretty bad reaction to something AH said yesterday. Some background - he is almost 9 months sober, working a decent AA program (from what I can tell), and has a good sponsor. We're separated but he sees me and our son on weekends. I'm trying to be supportive in an arms-length way, but I am still fa...	nyc018	4	510	May 20, 2012 by pineapple
	Not nice people and how to deal with them? (Preview) About 12 ladies from my job are going on a cruise in Sept. We are in the middle of booking it. Everyone is welcome to go, but there is one woman that is just a nasty, angry, not nice person. I've always been nice to her, but honestly have no desire to share a room with her on a vacation. She is controlling and ju...	katfshh	8	562	May 20, 2012 by katfshh
	I'm pretty sure that my 10 year relationship with the woman I love is over. (Preview) Long story short. I was married. She was a binge drinker. We had two kids. Nomatter how bad it got, I loved her with all my heart, and it got very bad. After the third or fourth ultimatum of "if you don't stop I'm leaving you," I actually filed for divorce. I wanted to give her the benefit of the d...	MyBrokenHeart	12	578	May 20, 2012 by Debilyn
	Have I lost my mind???? (Preview) I am new here, but I am desperate for some guidance regarding the A in my life. I met this man literally a year and a half ago and he swept me off my feet, about 6 months into it I started suspecting he was an alcoholic, initially, I just thought he liked his wine. Needless to say, we fell for each other ha...	leogirl	5	576	May 20, 2012 by Debilyn
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