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My MIL 75th bday is this weekend. My H is throwing a last minute dinner party at an expensive restaurant for 20 people in honor of her and he's asking to invite my parents. We've always gotten together for holidays because of our daughter - both sides came to our house so we didn't have to go to each of theirs. But this is about my MIL - it's her day. I have a strained relationship with her - she and my mom play nice but don't like each other - they are both A's - both highly opinionated etc - it always makes me so uncomfortable when they are both in the room together. I really don't understand why he wants to invite my parents but I'm trying very hard to let him do what he wants and realize this is just another day and in the scheme of things it really doesn't matter. I just needed to put this out there so that maybe it will help me "let it go."
I want to turn this over to my HP - I don't need to try to figure out what's going to happen or block interference etc. It will be what it will be.
Recently I have said .. I haven't given up I've given it over and life has gotten a whole lot easier. There are all kinds of good reads in C2C and ODAAT in the index about Letting Go and Letting God.
Hugs P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
Aloha Alexis...I can see the anxiety in that situation also while at the same time seeing that everyone who will be there is responsible for their choices and consequences. All you have to take care of is you...your choices, your consequences. Choose the consequences you want ahead of time and then do the things necessary to get it. Walk where there are no egg shells...((((hugs))))
Shouldn't he be the one to invite them? You're not organizing it and are just going to be a guest, right? Seems like every single one of them has to decide for him/herself who to invite, whether to go, how to behave once they are there, etc. Hope you can enjoy it.
