The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I confronted my wife about her actions which led me to believe she was cheating. She admitted she had no idea who she was calling/texting & people are messing with her when she calls/texts them because they know what state she is in. I could tell she was feeling very guilty & embarrassed. She said she is going to cut her drinking in half because she doesn't want to live like that anymore.
I am very proud of her for realizing there is a problem & wanting to do something about it but........ I'm not very optimistic for her ability to moderate. If she can, fantastic! But I hope if/when she doesn't, this is a step for her finding sobriety. There was a part of me that wishes she would have been cheating & drank like she always does so I could get out. I guess I owe it to our marriage to go down this road because she is trying. I did learn that I can choose to go down a different road tomorrow if I wish. So for today I will be happy with the progress she has made.
I would really really recommend if you haven't already two books, .. Getting Them Sober, Toby Drew Rice and Marriage on the Rocks .. I don't know who writes that one however it's come up in some ACA books as well.
Hugs p :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
Like you, I sure hope this is a turning point for her.
In the meantime, I highly suggest that you education yourself about the disease of alcoholism. Attending Al-Anon meetings could help you and also provide you the much-needed support.
Reading helps too. Pushka recommended 2 of many good books available on alcoholism.
The book Marriage on the Rocks was written by an author now deceased. Her name is Janet Geringer Woititiz, Ed.D. I recall reading that book when I separated from my husbande a few years back. It helped me a lot.
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You have to go through the darkness to truly know the light. Lama Surya Das
Resentment is like taking poison & waiting for the other person to die. Malachy McCourt
