Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

likemyheart · likemyheart

8 am Christmas morning, second try, watch those fingers Ann, dont want to hit the exit button accidentally again! I shoveled my snow already but its already re-covered my porch, but it is fun shoveling because the dopey dog tries to catch every shovelful of snow jumping in the air at each attempt. Watc...

Jen · Jen

I had the most wonderful Christmas eve evening with my kids and community tonight. A little nativity skit that the kids got to do, lots of singing, my sober 5 yrs husband taking pictures while I narrated the skit for the kids. It was wonderful and all made possible by Al-Anon and my MIP family. Without Al...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

I can only pray I'm doing the right thing but my son is calling and I will not answer. He needs to know I'm not going to rescue him anymore if he's sick or if not he has not bothered to let me know he was OK and wanted to plan to come for Christmas. It's his deal now and I have to be strong. It's the only thing I ca...

hotrod · hotrod

Dear MIP Family I woul like to wish each and every one of my MIIP Family a Blessed, Peaceful Holiday Season and a wonderful New Year

RR67 · RR67

My husband been sober 45 days and that's wonderful this is what I alway wanted for him. I never thought it would change me. My depression is worst . I seem to carry his pain on top of mine with no break and a happy day. When he comes home pissed off and SLAMING things and gets kids up set then mad at me because I'...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

No matter how you celebrate the holiday, may you find peace & joy! It may just be the holiday season to some, but remember to touch your fellow man in some way. It is not just the time of giving but forgiving, loving & sharing special moments. I am feeling a little alone this year. My dad is gone, my...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

So here I am doing my own thing and trying to find a place to live that isn't on my parent's dime. I have to leave here in a few days and I have b arely enough money to get a room somewhere. Yet I know God will provide for me if my motives are right. I guess my father thinks I am going to go into yet another living sit...

Overcome · Overcome

There will be ongoing activity in the alanon chat room for today. Room operators will be present (or lurking) so come on in if you feel the need to chat. The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other ways to join the room also. Using mIRC...

Zimmy · Zimmy

had the most horrible day yesterday, still feeling a bit sick about it all (posted prev all the gory details). Woke up at silly o'clock read alot of CAL as the anxiety from the day was still with me, alot on step 1-3. prayed and tried to sleep...woke up from the most loving dream. My home group that i hav...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

I sit here and worry about my son when there nothing I can do. It's been one of the hardest things to overcome. I read, journal and pray to God to help me let go because it won't help only make my day miserable. I come here and write in hopes it will help me a little. At my age you would think that Bdays are o...

chinup · chinup

my dear mom passed away on the 22 of nov. 1 day before thanksgiving,its been really hard this year to make through the rest of these holidays without her she was my world now its like my world has collapsed with out her,im trying to do my best in staying as busy as i can to keep myself focused on myself now and...

abbyalana · abbyalana

The therapist wants no visitation w/exAH for my 12 yo. We've been working on modified as I'm torn. My 12yo wants to see her dad but doesn't like the addict nonsense. My therapist & hers have serious safety concerns (as do I.) So, therapist wants me driving for dinner visits. She wants no overnights...

sheristeele · sheristeele

I have stuck by my son who is an addict from day one (he is 20 years old). He also has bipolar disorder (but will not take his medications regularly). I Put him through drug rehab twice and he has had constant counselling in some respect for 5 years. I Visited him in Jail where he was for 4 months last yea...

RoseODAT · RoseODAT

"Insanity" is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. So my AH and I got back together this late August. I wasn't too happy but I was in a financially vulnerable spot, and yes He is the father of my children, will always have feelings for him though I'm not i...

abbyalana · abbyalana

So, it's been crazy dealing with visitation issues with our child and exah. Today I dropped her at his family party and low and behold he brought the crack addict GF with him. I breathed. I recited the serenity prayer. I kissed her and wished her well. I reminded myself that the bulk of the others there ar...

AngieP · AngieP

As I lay in bed just hours before Christmas eve begins I know my Abf/fiancé's willingness to go inpatient 3days ago was a blessing from my HP. He is not only occupied & distracted working his program but he is secluded preventing him from his typical incessant calling/texting & I am unable to &...

tortuga · tortuga

Things went miserable these days with ABF...and I almost forgot to stick with myself and my program. So instead of focusing on madness, I want to come back to the path of gratitude... because it's Christmas, and even if I'm by myself, I feel I am gifted: i have a wonderful crazy dog, that makes me stay hum...

Lyne · Lyne

My son and I are very close. He is grown and lives apart with his own family. But my A is doing destructive talking to my dtr in law, which is making both of them want me to leave. It's in a nice way but it is still pressure. I'm not ready to leave, and some of y you in the program stay with your A's. I can't make a...

GreenerGrass · GreenerGrass

Hi everyone, I've been through a lot in the past year and I'm feeling grateful that I survived. I am going through a divorce. The soon to be ex is in jail, facing many years in prison. But I feel that's been a gift from HP. Keeping me and my children safe, and giving us some justice. He did us so wrong. So I have...

maryjane · maryjane

Okay, so what happened is that the hubby came into the bedroom this AM as I was waking up with the 1st cup of coffee and he says, "I don't know how to say this so I'll just say it, You have been verbally abusive to me in front of other people and I want it to stop." And I just looked at him and said, &q...

SuzanneSC · SuzanneSC

My husband has been in AA for over 2 months now, but I feel like our relationship is worse than ever. He says he is doing everything he is supposed to be doing for himself, his sobriety and the family, I see someone who can barely get dressed or shower each day. He has taken on huge projects all over the hous...

Michelle814 · Michelle814

I dont know what had me sign into this site tonight. I think its this very snowy weather. It takes me back to last year when I was learning how to live, for the first time, really. I feel very aware of my surroundings, like often I am watching a movie. I don't have to react to anything at all. I was at a par...

lulu0603 · lulu0603

has anybody had this problem...... i have been upset with my hubby for awhile and at the beginning it was because of his attitude cause by drinking whiskey (i pray that is all) but now he has been looking for things to be mad at me!!! everything i do has been criticized even some silly stuff. i know he feeel...

Zimmy · Zimmy

what an eventful day, and my hp did for me what i could not do for myself... Things haven't been good with the ex abf for a little while, since august when he assulted me in a blackout he moved out, we have been trying to have some sort of relationship, he didnt live here and i set boundries. What he couldn't...

hdftby100 · hdftby100

Ok so over the last week or so I have had a rough time. The wife would stay up late, go into our spare bedroom and almost felt like she was avoiding me. I of course imagine the worst. I didn't go in there searching but I was just sure she had alcohol in there and was just staying away so she could drink. Now I real...

el-cee · el-cee

Today I spoke to my Aex for the first time in a fortnight. He is drinking again and has been for weeks. He is supposed to have our children for xmas dinner this year. This is the first time we have had xmas apart. I will be going to my sisters. Our youngest child is 15. I have been finding it very difficult to be...

Gail4 · Gail4

I am in a position where I am possibly the only trusted adult of a teen girl. She lives with neither of her parents but has access visits with both at seperate times. Her parents are not together and are not on speaking terms. Both parents have issues with drugs in varying degrees. She has recently co...

tortuga · tortuga

I wonder...what else must come.I feel pushed, i feel not respected, i feellet down, i feel invisible. on top of that my ABF calls me selfish, cold, angry, unforgiving...he accuses me of leaving him, which i haven't , i have just gone immobile, trying to detach, not answering phonecalls, not to take mo...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Man that was nice!! If you haven't done that lately or at all...I recommend it. Haven't been there for a while and I'm grateful I peeked in tonight. Yay!! ((((hugs))))

sheristeele · sheristeele

About 5 weeks ago, I kicked out my addicted son. We have not heard from him in weeks, but he texted and said he would like to "stop by" for Christmas. I really would like to see him, but I also do not want him to think he is allowed to stay here after that. How do I handle making sure he is clear tha...

Sam813 · Sam813

Hi everyone It's been awhile since I've posted, however you have always been with me. It's been so busy I'm in my last year of graduate school, I've been doing my best to focus on me and my well being. This is a hard time of year for all if us I'm sure, the holidays are so painful. My younger brother is an addi...

RR67 · RR67

This is the first year with no tree no gifts the first xmass my husband will be sober . I understand this but the kids don't. Lack of money due to no overtime to many dr appt for my ah and A W ( Al-anon wife ) I'm depressed for the kids , I'm depressed for my AH and myself. How do you tell kids?

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

I feeling a bit down but OK. My son is now drinking 24/7 so I'm sure he's is in pretty bad shape. It's so sad. I wanted to see him for Christmas but it's not going to happen. I don't think he even knows it's Christmas. He talks about nothing....only bits and pieces of the past. He really doesn't know...

AKAZBRA · AKAZBRA

So I'm new to all of this.... My son went into treatment a little over a week ago. His drug of choice is Meth and Alcohol. Last night we had a family meeting. The first part of the meeting was a lecture and then the second was a family group meeting with other families. In between the meetings there is a...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

OK so I feel much better today. I got through a stressful day yesterday as I really actually knew I would. I am OK w/ not spending too much time thinking about my dad. I had some moments of memories & then I let it go. I am so glad that I don't have to be depressed. Mostly yesterday I was just anxious. I am tr...

crazycatlady · crazycatlady

I am in full blown codependency relapse. I'm going to a f2f meeting tomorrow at 11:00. The quick version: My AH relapsed after 2 1/2 years of sobriety about 6 weeks ago...got back into program...then 2 weeks ago came home drunk, denied it, got angry and left for overnight, came back the next morning rag...

Highlyfavored · Highlyfavored

Last night after spending a few mins. with my a/a daughter, I had a fantasy of packing up and moving far, far away. I can't tolerate being around her even for a few mins. Her denial and delusions are deeply ingrained. She wanted to show me a picture of a "spirit/ghost" she had taken on her c...

Desirae · Desirae

Hello Al-a-Family, I am the Tuesday Morining Chair for MIP Al-Anon Meetings in Al-Anon Chat. I try very hard to be there, especially around the holidays, but I regret to inform you that I will not have computer access from Christmas Eve through the day after Christmas. If there is anyone willing and a...

RR67 · RR67

Well wed night was hell. I went to a meeting and I was so scared and nervous that I would arrive there on time. Since the past 30 days ah became sober . Build this controlling issue that needed to no who and where I was with . He was annualized every thing I did . So after meeting which was running late. I was so f...

WornOutMrsFixIt · WornOutMrsFixIt

Tonight my husband called to rake me over the coals because I, according to him, had told a friend of his not to hire him. He was fired from his financial consulting job in October because he was drinking on the job. He had the bright idea to get in touch with a friend of his who owns his own financial consu...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

When I came into recovery I said I was gonna change. After I went through the 12 steps and 3 more years of practicing the latter steps, it became claer to me that I needed to stop being an adult child wrapped into the insanity, chaos and control of my parents who hav enever been willing to seek recovery or he...

AlAnonDave · AlAnonDave

Im back on the daughter/granddaughter thing today. Backstory is my alcoholic/addict daughter chose to give up custody of her daughter to us and leave and go back to Michigan and had to come right back. So she came ack, under the understood condition that she live somewhere else so she can grow up and be...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

So Wednsday night my 14 year old daughter went to a nearby church at 7 pm for youth group and I called her at 9:30 to see if her and her friend were going to be coming home soon. She said something really bad happened and I needed to pick them up. So I did and she didn't want to talk about it until i dropped off her...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

I come here to ask for some prayers that I will have the strengh and courage to sit and listen and have a loving and kind meeting with my son and his sponsors. We will be attending a AA speaker meeting before and visit afterwards. Please pray that my son will come...not sure at this time if he will show up. I...

cinders · cinders

I decided I was ready to send out the divorce papers today. I made a mistake though, I decided to take them by his house and drop them off because he was pretty adament about getting them right away and I wanted an oppurtunity to say good bye. He has been denying me that this whole time and it has been hard...

Umutlu · Umutlu

I am feeling a mixture of anger and frustration, with a little "just go to hell" thrown in. I'm trying not to give a damn, but its hard. This evening just my husband and I are home. It could have been nice. It should have been nice. But he started drinking this afternoon and I could tell it would...

RR67 · RR67

Is there a page on here to find where the meetings are

StargazerLily · StargazerLily

When I hear the sound of the ice jingling around in the glass, I just want to scream. Her speech begins to slur and she starts to get beligerant. I have alot of issues with anger and having her here like that is almost unbearable. I can feel myself about to break. I know when it happens it ain't gonna be prett...

Lyne · Lyne

so i've had a good week or two with my A. I didn' t think everything was fine, but I felt better, calmer, like life might be OK. Last night she went out, didn't let me know where she was, probably drank, and this morning was acting like everything is fine. Thin Things are not fine. I'm not fine. I told her sh...

Jozie · Jozie

Ok, I Hope No One Finds this offensive, but I read this & Had a Chuckle and thought maybe you would too... I Remember going thru this with my Mother when I was Drinking as a Young Teen... She didn't catch me Often, but when she did, this is about how it made me feel... Yet the "Insanity" I was...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am so anxious about today & whether I should post again about my dad's death this time last year. I also would like to change my Facebook profile picture to a picture of him. Maybe it is just madness to try to do something I don't know how to do! I have a friend who may be able to show me how to do these thin...

dinolux · dinolux

Hi, I'm new here, but I've been regularly going to Al-Anon meetings for a couple months now. I'm so grateful for the meetings and I love the three regular meetings I go to each week. I've been working with a sponsor and I'm slowly starting to notice a difference in me. My Tuesday night meeting is my favori...

tortuga · tortuga

maybe some of you read my post a few days earlier... I had explored a new way of detaching by hanging up on my boyfriend when he said 'I'm drunk...' and had a more or less quiet sleep..at least more quiet than what had always followed my usual arguing with him endlessly in that state of mind, because I got wo...

hdftby100 · hdftby100

Having a rough patch lately. I am depressed most of the time, except when I am at work. Last night I couldn't even enjoy spending time with our 20 month old grandson. The wife asks me what is wrong and I reply I am just sad. I start to cry. I have other issues in my life that I am trying to deal with. I thin...

mike3b · mike3b

Help....Im really struggling with this one..... My wife told me she met with someone she met in re-hab for supper.....I understand that she needs her new friends to talk to but i have a really big problem with her meeting him for dinner.....He is only 21 and my wife is 40....She told me that he likes hims...

Looking for peace · Looking for peace

In reading some of these posts, I get the idea that true change and recovery is very hard to come by. My husband is in rehab - his second attempt. The last four months of his relapse have been hell. He is not abusive, just depressed and self destructive and absent when drinking. It is so hard to know what t...

cinders · cinders

I work with a woman that does notary, so I finally was able to get the divorce papers back from her last night. I have them in hand and just could not get myself to put put them in the mailbox to him today. I know he is chomping at the bit and demanding they get sent to him asap, even saying to drop them in his ma...

sweeetr · sweeetr

How cool is that. I come home to stoned like person passed out instead of watching child cuz now has rx's and alcohol. Wth

AlAnonDave · AlAnonDave

I don't know why, perhaps airing issues with my daughter/granddaughter, or what the specific issue is, I simply feel liberated. That and working hard at just being me and loving myself just as I am and working alanon principals- I guess it's been a burden off. I don't have a thing bothering me and that'...

imom · imom

Ok...so tonight, my AH drove both of my children, and another child in a carpool and when he came home, I could smell the A on him. I did not want to fight, but I also wanted to make it very clear that I would not accept him putting any children in danger by drinking or driving. I simply said, if you're going...

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	Christmas, My Way (Preview) 8 am Christmas morning, second try, watch those fingers Ann, dont want to hit the exit button accidentally again! I shoveled my snow already but its already re-covered my porch, but it is fun shoveling because the dopey dog tries to catch every shovelful of snow jumping in the air at each attempt. Watc...	likemyheart	2	417	Dec 25, 2012 by Jen
	Christmas is tough, but.... (Preview) I had the most wonderful Christmas eve evening with my kids and community tonight. A little nativity skit that the kids got to do, lots of singing, my sober 5 yrs husband taking pictures while I narrated the skit for the kids. It was wonderful and all made possible by Al-Anon and my MIP family. Without Al...	Jen	2	325	Dec 25, 2012 by Pushka
	Son is calling (Preview) I can only pray I'm doing the right thing but my son is calling and I will not answer. He needs to know I'm not going to rescue him anymore if he's sick or if not he has not bothered to let me know he was OK and wanted to plan to come for Christmas. It's his deal now and I have to be strong. It's the only thing I ca...	Cathyinaz	12	458	Dec 25, 2012 by Jen
	Happy Holiday (Preview) Dear MIP Family I woul like to wish each and every one of my MIIP Family a Blessed, Peaceful Holiday Season and a wonderful New Year	hotrod	6	260	Dec 25, 2012 by Jerry F
	Trying to get past my anger (Preview) My husband been sober 45 days and that's wonderful this is what I alway wanted for him. I never thought it would change me. My depression is worst . I seem to carry his pain on top of mine with no break and a happy day. When he comes home pissed off and SLAMING things and gets kids up set then mad at me because I'...	RR67	3	347	Dec 25, 2012 by Jerry F
	Merry Christmas to all! (Preview) No matter how you celebrate the holiday, may you find peace & joy! It may just be the holiday season to some, but remember to touch your fellow man in some way. It is not just the time of giving but forgiving, loving & sharing special moments. I am feeling a little alone this year. My dad is gone, my...	Hoot Nanny	2	251	Dec 25, 2012 by hotrod
	What to do about Christmas? (Preview) So here I am doing my own thing and trying to find a place to live that isn't on my parent's dime. I have to leave here in a few days and I have b arely enough money to get a room somewhere. Yet I know God will provide for me if my motives are right. I guess my father thinks I am going to go into yet another living sit...	WorkingThroughIt	3	330	Dec 24, 2012 by WorkingThroughIt
	CHRISTMAS DAY CHAT SUPPORT (Preview) There will be ongoing activity in the alanon chat room for today. Room operators will be present (or lurking) so come on in if you feel the need to chat. The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other ways to join the room also. Using mIRC...	Overcome	0	767	Dec 24, 2012 by Overcome
	The most comforting dream... (Preview) had the most horrible day yesterday, still feeling a bit sick about it all (posted prev all the gory details). Woke up at silly o'clock read alot of CAL as the anxiety from the day was still with me, alot on step 1-3. prayed and tried to sleep...woke up from the most loving dream. My home group that i hav...	Zimmy	0	290	Dec 24, 2012 by Zimmy
	Worry is the hardest to overcome (Preview) I sit here and worry about my son when there nothing I can do. It's been one of the hardest things to overcome. I read, journal and pray to God to help me let go because it won't help only make my day miserable. I come here and write in hopes it will help me a little. At my age you would think that Bdays are o...	Cathyinaz	7	341	Dec 24, 2012 by Cathyinaz
	trying to do my best (Preview) my dear mom passed away on the 22 of nov. 1 day before thanksgiving,its been really hard this year to make through the rest of these holidays without her she was my world now its like my world has collapsed with out her,im trying to do my best in staying as busy as i can to keep myself focused on myself now and...	chinup	4	449	Dec 24, 2012 by hotrod
	Torn... (Preview) The therapist wants no visitation w/exAH for my 12 yo. We've been working on modified as I'm torn. My 12yo wants to see her dad but doesn't like the addict nonsense. My therapist & hers have serious safety concerns (as do I.) So, therapist wants me driving for dinner visits. She wants no overnights...	abbyalana	5	279	Dec 24, 2012 by pinkchip
	I feel so hurt (Preview) I have stuck by my son who is an addict from day one (he is 20 years old). He also has bipolar disorder (but will not take his medications regularly). I Put him through drug rehab twice and he has had constant counselling in some respect for 5 years. I Visited him in Jail where he was for 4 months last yea...	sheristeele	19	614	Dec 24, 2012 by sheristeele
	Expecting Different Results.... (Preview) "Insanity" is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. So my AH and I got back together this late August. I wasn't too happy but I was in a financially vulnerable spot, and yes He is the father of my children, will always have feelings for him though I'm not i...	RoseODAT	3	305	Dec 24, 2012 by jonuk
	Shooting for serenity (Preview) So, it's been crazy dealing with visitation issues with our child and exah. Today I dropped her at his family party and low and behold he brought the crack addict GF with him. I breathed. I recited the serenity prayer. I kissed her and wished her well. I reminded myself that the bulk of the others there ar...	abbyalana	4	418	Dec 24, 2012 by Jerry F
	Hidden blessing (Preview) As I lay in bed just hours before Christmas eve begins I know my Abf/fiancé's willingness to go inpatient 3days ago was a blessing from my HP. He is not only occupied & distracted working his program but he is secluded preventing him from his typical incessant calling/texting & I am unable to &...	AngieP	2	288	Dec 24, 2012 by Jerry F
	gratitude (Preview) Things went miserable these days with ABF...and I almost forgot to stick with myself and my program. So instead of focusing on madness, I want to come back to the path of gratitude... because it's Christmas, and even if I'm by myself, I feel I am gifted: i have a wonderful crazy dog, that makes me stay hum...	tortuga	2	257	Dec 24, 2012 by Jerry F
	presssure from grown child (Preview) My son and I are very close. He is grown and lives apart with his own family. But my A is doing destructive talking to my dtr in law, which is making both of them want me to leave. It's in a nice way but it is still pressure. I'm not ready to leave, and some of y you in the program stay with your A's. I can't make a...	Lyne	1	323	Dec 24, 2012 by Breakingfree
	First christmas of my new life (Preview) Hi everyone, I've been through a lot in the past year and I'm feeling grateful that I survived. I am going through a divorce. The soon to be ex is in jail, facing many years in prison. But I feel that's been a gift from HP. Keeping me and my children safe, and giving us some justice. He did us so wrong. So I have...	GreenerGrass	1	264	Dec 24, 2012 by hotrod
	Ugh- I need more program.... (Preview) Okay, so what happened is that the hubby came into the bedroom this AM as I was waking up with the 1st cup of coffee and he says, "I don't know how to say this so I'll just say it, You have been verbally abusive to me in front of other people and I want it to stop." And I just looked at him and said, &q...	maryjane	4	317	Dec 24, 2012 by maryjane
	So confused by recovery, please help! (Preview) My husband has been in AA for over 2 months now, but I feel like our relationship is worse than ever. He says he is doing everything he is supposed to be doing for himself, his sobriety and the family, I see someone who can barely get dressed or shower each day. He has taken on huge projects all over the hous...	SuzanneSC	9	428	Dec 24, 2012 by SuzanneSC
	Snowy Nostalgia (Preview) I dont know what had me sign into this site tonight. I think its this very snowy weather. It takes me back to last year when I was learning how to live, for the first time, really. I feel very aware of my surroundings, like often I am watching a movie. I don't have to react to anything at all. I was at a par...	Michelle814	5	323	Dec 24, 2012 by GreenerGrass
	can anybody relate???? (Preview) has anybody had this problem...... i have been upset with my hubby for awhile and at the beginning it was because of his attitude cause by drinking whiskey (i pray that is all) but now he has been looking for things to be mad at me!!! everything i do has been criticized even some silly stuff. i know he feeel...	lulu0603	3	321	Dec 24, 2012 by GreenerGrass
	My Higher power at work?? (Preview) what an eventful day, and my hp did for me what i could not do for myself... Things haven't been good with the ex abf for a little while, since august when he assulted me in a blackout he moved out, we have been trying to have some sort of relationship, he didnt live here and i set boundries. What he couldn't...	Zimmy	2	450	Dec 24, 2012 by pinkchip
	Feeling a little guilty (Preview) Ok so over the last week or so I have had a rough time. The wife would stay up late, go into our spare bedroom and almost felt like she was avoiding me. I of course imagine the worst. I didn't go in there searching but I was just sure she had alcohol in there and was just staying away so she could drink. Now I real...	hdftby100	5	320	Dec 23, 2012 by el-cee
	Compassion!!! (Preview) Today I spoke to my Aex for the first time in a fortnight. He is drinking again and has been for weeks. He is supposed to have our children for xmas dinner this year. This is the first time we have had xmas apart. I will be going to my sisters. Our youngest child is 15. I have been finding it very difficult to be...	el-cee	6	318	Dec 23, 2012 by el-cee
	teen trapped by parents' drug use (Preview) I am in a position where I am possibly the only trusted adult of a teen girl. She lives with neither of her parents but has access visits with both at seperate times. Her parents are not together and are not on speaking terms. Both parents have issues with drugs in varying degrees. She has recently co...	Gail4	4	484	Dec 23, 2012 by Gail4
	exhausted... (Preview) I wonder...what else must come.I feel pushed, i feel not respected, i feellet down, i feel invisible. on top of that my ABF calls me selfish, cold, angry, unforgiving...he accuses me of leaving him, which i haven't , i have just gone immobile, trying to detach, not answering phonecalls, not to take mo...	tortuga	7	541	Dec 23, 2012 by WorkingThroughIt
	Going on the Chat room... (Preview) Man that was nice!! If you haven't done that lately or at all...I recommend it. Haven't been there for a while and I'm grateful I peeked in tonight. Yay!! ((((hugs))))	Jerry F	1	233	Dec 23, 2012 by Pushka
	What do I do? (Preview) About 5 weeks ago, I kicked out my addicted son. We have not heard from him in weeks, but he texted and said he would like to "stop by" for Christmas. I really would like to see him, but I also do not want him to think he is allowed to stay here after that. How do I handle making sure he is clear tha...	sheristeele	6	320	Dec 23, 2012 by sheristeele
	Counting my blessings (Preview) Hi everyone It's been awhile since I've posted, however you have always been with me. It's been so busy I'm in my last year of graduate school, I've been doing my best to focus on me and my well being. This is a hard time of year for all if us I'm sure, the holidays are so painful. My younger brother is an addi...	Sam813	1	254	Dec 23, 2012 by hotrod
	Telling kids xmass is canceled (Preview) This is the first year with no tree no gifts the first xmass my husband will be sober . I understand this but the kids don't. Lack of money due to no overtime to many dr appt for my ah and A W ( Al-anon wife ) I'm depressed for the kids , I'm depressed for my AH and myself. How do you tell kids?	RR67	6	470	Dec 23, 2012 by TryingToChange
	My son (Preview) I feeling a bit down but OK. My son is now drinking 24/7 so I'm sure he's is in pretty bad shape. It's so sad. I wanted to see him for Christmas but it's not going to happen. I don't think he even knows it's Christmas. He talks about nothing....only bits and pieces of the past. He really doesn't know...	Cathyinaz	2	276	Dec 23, 2012 by TryingToChange
	I think my son is using in rehab (Preview) So I'm new to all of this.... My son went into treatment a little over a week ago. His drug of choice is Meth and Alcohol. Last night we had a family meeting. The first part of the meeting was a lecture and then the second was a family group meeting with other families. In between the meetings there is a...	AKAZBRA	3	320	Dec 23, 2012 by AlAnonDave
	feel much better. (Preview) OK so I feel much better today. I got through a stressful day yesterday as I really actually knew I would. I am OK w/ not spending too much time thinking about my dad. I had some moments of memories & then I let it go. I am so glad that I don't have to be depressed. Mostly yesterday I was just anxious. I am tr...	Hoot Nanny	0	242	Dec 22, 2012 by Hoot Nanny
	Grieving the loss of trust (Preview) I am in full blown codependency relapse. I'm going to a f2f meeting tomorrow at 11:00. The quick version: My AH relapsed after 2 1/2 years of sobriety about 6 weeks ago...got back into program...then 2 weeks ago came home drunk, denied it, got angry and left for overnight, came back the next morning rag...	crazycatlady	6	537	Dec 23, 2012 by crazycatlady
	Wanting to pack up and move away! (Preview) Last night after spending a few mins. with my a/a daughter, I had a fantasy of packing up and moving far, far away. I can't tolerate being around her even for a few mins. Her denial and delusions are deeply ingrained. She wanted to show me a picture of a "spirit/ghost" she had taken on her c...	Highlyfavored	1	344	Dec 23, 2012 by Jerry F
	CHAIR FOR CHRISTMAS MORNING? (Preview) Hello Al-a-Family, I am the Tuesday Morining Chair for MIP Al-Anon Meetings in Al-Anon Chat. I try very hard to be there, especially around the holidays, but I regret to inform you that I will not have computer access from Christmas Eve through the day after Christmas. If there is anyone willing and a...	Desirae	0	214	Dec 22, 2012 by Desirae
	Guide lines boundarys set (Preview) Well wed night was hell. I went to a meeting and I was so scared and nervous that I would arrive there on time. Since the past 30 days ah became sober . Build this controlling issue that needed to no who and where I was with . He was annualized every thing I did . So after meeting which was running late. I was so f...	RR67	2	371	Dec 23, 2012 by Jozie
	Always Someone Else's Fault (Preview) Tonight my husband called to rake me over the coals because I, according to him, had told a friend of his not to hire him. He was fired from his financial consulting job in October because he was drinking on the job. He had the bright idea to get in touch with a friend of his who owns his own financial consu...	WornOutMrsFixIt	3	326	Dec 23, 2012 by AlAnonDave
	Change in Action (Preview) When I came into recovery I said I was gonna change. After I went through the 12 steps and 3 more years of practicing the latter steps, it became claer to me that I needed to stop being an adult child wrapped into the insanity, chaos and control of my parents who hav enever been willing to seek recovery or he...	WorkingThroughIt	4	351	Dec 23, 2012 by WorkingThroughIt
	My dilemma (Preview) Im back on the daughter/granddaughter thing today. Backstory is my alcoholic/addict daughter chose to give up custody of her daughter to us and leave and go back to Michigan and had to come right back. So she came ack, under the understood condition that she live somewhere else so she can grow up and be...	AlAnonDave	3	304	Dec 22, 2012 by AlAnonDave
	The cherry on top of my already crappiest few days in a long time! (Preview) So Wednsday night my 14 year old daughter went to a nearby church at 7 pm for youth group and I called her at 9:30 to see if her and her friend were going to be coming home soon. She said something really bad happened and I needed to pick them up. So I did and she didn't want to talk about it until i dropped off her...	Breakingfree	5	462	Dec 22, 2012 by pinkchip
	I ask for a prayer tonight (Preview) I come here to ask for some prayers that I will have the strengh and courage to sit and listen and have a loving and kind meeting with my son and his sponsors. We will be attending a AA speaker meeting before and visit afterwards. Please pray that my son will come...not sure at this time if he will show up. I...	Cathyinaz	5	346	Dec 22, 2012 by hotrod
	Today was harder than I thought possible (Preview) I decided I was ready to send out the divorce papers today. I made a mistake though, I decided to take them by his house and drop them off because he was pretty adament about getting them right away and I wanted an oppurtunity to say good bye. He has been denying me that this whole time and it has been hard...	cinders	4	308	Dec 22, 2012 by cinders
	What a waste of time. (Preview) I am feeling a mixture of anger and frustration, with a little "just go to hell" thrown in. I'm trying not to give a damn, but its hard. This evening just my husband and I are home. It could have been nice. It should have been nice. But he started drinking this afternoon and I could tell it would...	Umutlu	2	682	Dec 22, 2012 by Jerry F
	Daily meetings (Preview) Is there a page on here to find where the meetings are	RR67	2	318	Dec 22, 2012 by Breakingfree
	Anger (Preview) When I hear the sound of the ice jingling around in the glass, I just want to scream. Her speech begins to slur and she starts to get beligerant. I have alot of issues with anger and having her here like that is almost unbearable. I can feel myself about to break. I know when it happens it ain't gonna be prett...	StargazerLily	6	282	Dec 22, 2012 by Breakingfree
	oops i did it again (Preview) so i've had a good week or two with my A. I didn' t think everything was fine, but I felt better, calmer, like life might be OK. Last night she went out, didn't let me know where she was, probably drank, and this morning was acting like everything is fine. Thin Things are not fine. I'm not fine. I told her sh...	Lyne	3	495	Dec 22, 2012 by Pushka
	My Chuckle for the Day... ;) (Preview) Ok, I Hope No One Finds this offensive, but I read this & Had a Chuckle and thought maybe you would too... I Remember going thru this with my Mother when I was Drinking as a Young Teen... She didn't catch me Often, but when she did, this is about how it made me feel... Yet the "Insanity" I was...	Jozie	2	279	Dec 22, 2012 by Cathyinaz
	madness pure madness (Preview) I am so anxious about today & whether I should post again about my dad's death this time last year. I also would like to change my Facebook profile picture to a picture of him. Maybe it is just madness to try to do something I don't know how to do! I have a friend who may be able to show me how to do these thin...	Hoot Nanny	1	328	Dec 22, 2012 by AngieP
	Triggering topics during meeting (Preview) Hi, I'm new here, but I've been regularly going to Al-Anon meetings for a couple months now. I'm so grateful for the meetings and I love the three regular meetings I go to each week. I've been working with a sponsor and I'm slowly starting to notice a difference in me. My Tuesday night meeting is my favori...	dinolux	8	624	Dec 22, 2012 by Smukke
	selfish??? (Preview) maybe some of you read my post a few days earlier... I had explored a new way of detaching by hanging up on my boyfriend when he said 'I'm drunk...' and had a more or less quiet sleep..at least more quiet than what had always followed my usual arguing with him endlessly in that state of mind, because I got wo...	tortuga	6	317	Dec 21, 2012 by Jill Church
	Frustrated... (Preview) Having a rough patch lately. I am depressed most of the time, except when I am at work. Last night I couldn't even enjoy spending time with our 20 month old grandson. The wife asks me what is wrong and I reply I am just sad. I start to cry. I have other issues in my life that I am trying to deal with. I thin...	hdftby100	6	311	Dec 21, 2012 by pinkchip
	My Wifes has been meeting a guy from rehab for dinner....I dont know what to do..... (Preview) Help....Im really struggling with this one..... My wife told me she met with someone she met in re-hab for supper.....I understand that she needs her new friends to talk to but i have a really big problem with her meeting him for dinner.....He is only 21 and my wife is 40....She told me that he likes hims...	mike3b	15	664	Dec 21, 2012 by Jozie
	Can they change? (Preview) In reading some of these posts, I get the idea that true change and recovery is very hard to come by. My husband is in rehab - his second attempt. The last four months of his relapse have been hell. He is not abusive, just depressed and self destructive and absent when drinking. It is so hard to know what t...	Looking for peace	11	474	Dec 21, 2012 by Jozie
	Just for today..... (Preview) I work with a woman that does notary, so I finally was able to get the divorce papers back from her last night. I have them in hand and just could not get myself to put put them in the mailbox to him today. I know he is chomping at the bit and demanding they get sent to him asap, even saying to drop them in his ma...	cinders	4	435	Dec 21, 2012 by Jozie
	Alcoholic finds doc to prescribe pills (Preview) How cool is that. I come home to stoned like person passed out instead of watching child cuz now has rx's and alcohol. Wth	sweeetr	5	464	Dec 21, 2012 by Jozie
	I feel free tonight (Preview) I don't know why, perhaps airing issues with my daughter/granddaughter, or what the specific issue is, I simply feel liberated. That and working hard at just being me and loving myself just as I am and working alanon principals- I guess it's been a burden off. I don't have a thing bothering me and that'...	AlAnonDave	2	256	Dec 21, 2012 by Jozie
	insanity running rampant (Preview) Ok...so tonight, my AH drove both of my children, and another child in a carpool and when he came home, I could smell the A on him. I did not want to fight, but I also wanted to make it very clear that I would not accept him putting any children in danger by drinking or driving. I simply said, if you're going...	imom	16	652	Dec 21, 2012 by Pushka
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