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Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

I felt bad. I went to help. He lost keys phone can't get into his apt. Nobody to open the door. He has no where to go except with me. He has a open wound the size of a golf ball I'm crying right in front of him. I'm having a breakdown Please some esh. Using phone can't type on it. O god help me

Gaby · Gaby

I don't know why my post are double posting or does not allow me to finish.. So as I was saying I called him on his bullshit.. I had to go to a meeting and they allowed me to let it all out.. The last I told my son was I can not do this no more. I can't help him no more. I was done an I left. I love my son, but I am truly jus...

Katytexasmom · Katytexasmom

My sweet boy....I know that 'better' is temporary until you get some recovery, but when you tell me YOUR plans I just want to SMACK YOU!!!!!!! i have to laugh to keep from SCREAMING! My son informs me he is getting an apartment with his cousin, WORST person to be around! Neither of them have a car, a JOB,...

rehprof · rehprof

I can feel the big ol' weight of depression creeping up on me...I'm feeling overwhelmed by end of semester demands, endless minor details and paperwork, housework and oh, yah Christmas. I know I SHOULD be excited about Xmas...and decorating...but it always seems like a lot of mess and nonsense for...

abbyalana · abbyalana

Now that the exAH is out of my life...I finally get to see through the fog and begin working on ME! I'm not suggesting that prior to the divorce I didn't have my own issues, it's just very difficult to see them and work on them when the world is revolving around the alcoholic and you are very isolated from a...

HisMrsWright · HisMrsWright

Today is the day. The day I was "supposed" to file a divorce. I failed once again. I can't do it. I keep telling myself it's because I can't get him served but I know it's a lie. I have set at least one boundary I won't go back on. I won't let him come home until he goes to a real rehab. He hasn't asked t...

Gaby · Gaby

So fustrated at myself.. I love my son.. I truly feel like I may have abandoned him but truly I had to change things up. I needed to stick with my rental agreement.. There are consequences in life and I feel that he needs to pay them. I love him but I've done all I can do.. Now it's all up to him. And i will pray!!...

Not Alone · Not Alone

Well here I am again - I shouldn't have left really as I always found comfort in these boards. So much has happened since my last posts. Seems the last time I was on I had asked him to leave and he did. Not long after he left I found out I was pregnant. Yowza! He was out of the house for a while returning eventual...

Gaby · Gaby

I helped my son move into an SLE.. I give him to god.. I've done absolutely all I can do. I love him and care for him, but I had to stand my ground on having him out of my home. I can only pray. He is not far from home, or anything else and SLE.. It is not a recovery program. But if he truly wants it he would go to any ex...

Gaby · Gaby

So fustrated at myself.. I love my son.. I truly feel like I may have abandoned him but truly I had to change things up. I needed to stick with my rental agreement.. There are consequences in life and I feel that he needs to pay them. I love him but I've done all I can do.. Now it's all up to him. And i will pray!!...

DavidG · DavidG

I wanted to post this up... ... a song of love, it bought ears to my eyes... um... tears to my eyes... its sunday am here already... a neighbour lost his dog and came round to seek help... grandkids, 5 out of six will be filling the house and backyard in one hour... having some adult time... Sundays as a k...

SpiderArcana · SpiderArcana

I understand and accept that I have no control over my husband's drinking, but I think it's starting to seriously affect his health. The past several nights he's thrown up within a few minutes of eating. He thinks it's a stomach bug, but bugs don't last that long. I'd like him to go see the doc, but he d...

ALotToLearn · ALotToLearn

After 20+ years of having a sober father, I am now watching him slip into his old ways. Along with watching him slip I am watching my mom in turn to her old ways of enabling him. This time around, they are ultimately shutting me and my older siblings out. Most of our phone calls are not answered, excuses are...

Wisdom67 · Wisdom67

Good afternoon every one , we have another crisis here at home . And I'm one of those uncertainly what this is caused bye . Me and my husband sorted out our Boundarys we stay away from the topics that would bring us to the ring . I have my skills up to date he good on his end , but now the children are back at it aga...

marmoset · marmoset

As all of us do, I have a long story. My life has taken me to a place where I am not entirely sure what to do. To sum up, I am deeply involved with an alcoholic who is beginning recovery, but I am not his wife. He already has one. I am a 41YO woman. For almost 3 years I have been in a relationship with a man, an old fr...

Minibee · Minibee

I took the plunge and told my mum how I was feeling ( nervous on edge waiting for the criticism ... & after the usual initial response of well I just won't come and I'll keep my mouth shut like I normally do...) she told me the real reason. She feels it's all about me, I never contact her, do anything for h...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

to everyone that expressed concern and well-wishes over my no-refrigerator situation. Just a few days ago, my grandmother conveniently decided to upgrade to a new fridge, leaving her (perfectly good and relatively new) fridge free to a good home. She offered to buy me a new fridge several times and...

HisMrsWright · HisMrsWright

I'm laying in bed struggling with my thoughts. Why does this have to be so difficult? I am debating texting or calling a friend. Even my mom but my history is such a broken record. I don't want to be judged anymore. I do fairly decent during the day but when it's time for bed and I'm all alone, I fall apart. Wh...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Hi Everyone: As ODAT suggested today I have been looking at the year in review, more accurately I have been re-reading posts that I have started and all of your responses as I have been making the journey, best I can, from sickness to healthy life. I needed reminders of how I got to where I am right now. M...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

I was thinking about how very fearful I am about...well, almost everything that normal people take for granted. I know WHY, a combination of PTSD and also being told repeatedly as a child that I mustn't do anything or touch anything because it wasn't SAFE for me to do anything or touch anything; I'd bur...

grateful2be · grateful2be

Happiness is not pleasure. Happiness is victory. Zig Ziglar Big or small, our victories are our happiness. Each one shows us we can do what we set out to do. Each helps build confidence in our abilities and is a boon to our self-esteem. With each victory, we can be assured there will be another. An...

John · John

I mean no harm and do not wish to offend anyone who is non christian, but felt compiled to share this video to help get those who are christian move into the spirit of the forthcoming holidays.

HisMrsWright · HisMrsWright

I've had this forum saved on my phone for months. I've never known what to write and still don't honestly. First things first, my name is Michelle and my husband is an alcoholic. My story could go on for days and days just like any of you I'm sure. I'm 28 and he is 31. We've been married 2 1/2 years. We have a d...

gwyndalf · gwyndalf

My A has been in AA for 10 months and we are all very proud of him. We do try to give him support without babying or stepping on egg shells. This "me syndrome" is driving us all batty. The AA is still using "recovery" as an excuse as to why they are neglectful of household/personal...

SpiderArcana · SpiderArcana

All I did was ask if he was ok. Apparently, that is a go for him going off about something and how I always put him in a spot, and how he's always wrong, blah blah blah. And he apologized, and he said he was going through some stuff, and then he went to go lie down in his room. Alrighty. Whatever babe. I'm g...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

so ive come on the board tonight feeling blah. its the fourth night this week my ah has been out. yeah, he calls but. . im alone again. my daughter asks where is daddy. . i tell her what i know. . hes with his buddies. its the first thing she asks whn we pull in the driveway and one of the last things she asks at be...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

G2B said:"Happiness is not pleasure. Happiness is victory. Zig ZiglarBig or small, our victories are our happiness. Each one shows us we can do what we set out to do. Each helps build confidence in our abilities and is a boon to our self-esteem. With each victory, we can be assured there wil...

1lostmom · 1lostmom

My mother is one of the most difficult people in the world that I have to deal with. I will deal with my alcoholic husband all day long over dealing with her, and she is one of the reasons why I continue to stay with him even in the most unhappiest of times- because I have nowhere to go except to her house and i...

Naydel · Naydel

My alcoholic husband is 2 weeks into detox/rehab and I'm doing everything I can to hold the hope that this will work. the concept that's this disease is not just his, but mine as well is new to me. I'm slow in learning to let go. I Can't control any of it. I scour the internet for any resources I can find. A ans...

Lyne · Lyne

Happy Turkey Day! I think I understand something about myself and detaching with love. I have wanted to do this with my A for the last few years. I was able to detach but without the love part. Now that I have a number of months in program, I am feeling better about myself. I think for the last couple we...

Gaby · Gaby

I received a text from my son yesterday saying he will moving into a sober living house. He went out and found one in our area. Maybe structure and discipline is what he needs. I poured my heart out to friends that care about me. I have to be reminded that I can not control the decisions he makes. And I am very...

jillybean1 · jillybean1

My AH is always on a slippery slope. He says that the slips are expected...(well, not by me). I have only been in Al-Anon for 6 weeks but I felt I was starting to find a nice calm path to navigate our tiny corner of crazy. I no longer yell and argue with him.......was not working at all. I stopped looking...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi Everyone, My name is Slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. Lately, looking around me and seeing so many people struggling with things, I am feeling very blessed. I was recently offered overtime at work, while others are looking for work. I have found a path to recovery from living around...

hotrod · hotrod

Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery togethe http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t55756002/alanon-s...

PP · PP

I am out of town for the weekend...before the day got too busy I wanted to express my thanks for all of you.

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Happy Thanksgiving Everyone I kept getting a call starting every early this morning. I finally answered. It was my son. He is in the hospital and they are going to be operating on his leg tomorrow. He has been in for about a week now with a very bad infection. He said he is bored. He doesn't have his p...

grateful2be · grateful2be

I had the day off work today. Weather was good. Traveling was good. Nothing to do but what I wanted to do for me. I got my hair cut. Shopped a little. Then attended a noon F2F meeting at a local church that I usually can't make. I arrived to see old friends from my old home group - all there because they...

mm830 · mm830

Hp grant me the ability to accept and be grateful for this Thanksgiving, and to see with a warm accepting heart all of the imperfect beauty of my family and my life. Help me to understand I can only change me which for today is my attitude and help me to be humble. Help me not want to control everything and fo...

MeTwo2 · MeTwo2

When I think of the holidays, I think back to the second we would hear we were getting together for holidays, the alcohol would break out .. to celebrate ? or to cope .. This year was a quiet but beautiful thanksgiving .. I even included the fact I am Grateful for every ounce of pain, criticism, blame, sarc...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Hi all: In the spirit of giving thanks I wanted to post as it has been a while. I am so thankful for the people here, the ESH and support from everyone on these boards. I have come here when I was feeling low, when I was feeling strong and confident and everything in between, and I appreciate how I was comfo...

Gaby · Gaby

As hard as it was.. With a grace of god and many prayers.. I got through Thanksgiving. I hurt so bad for my son. I love him dearly and I know the only thing I can do is pray for him. Today he is to be out if my house. I don't know if that is going to happen. I have heard he is looking into some SLE homes. But he has to do...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

Happy Thanksgiving MIP family!!! I hope you all are having a blessed day! I am preparing a quick meal for the family and then my son and I are driving a few hours to a tennis tournament, where he has to play early in the AM tomorrow. We'll be gone all weekend. AH is now acting like Mr Perfect Dad. Hanging...

Gaby · Gaby

I'm still laying in bed watching a good life time movie at my sister in laws.. At this time I feel at peace.. I was laying here thinking last year at this same time and also 3 years ago at this same time.. My son has ruined my holidays due to his actions.. The only difference is I need to let him go and find his wa...

DavidG · DavidG

Its 29th Nov, already, here in NZ... Our reading is about the classic drunk dad and coping mum type of family. This was my family largely. My mum took the line- if you caint beat em join em... and so she was at the pub too- at least some of the time. I can only quote briefly from 'Hope For Today'. This is out of...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

To all my MIP friends, I want to thank you all for supporting me and encouraging me this past year. I truly would not have made it without your kindness and wisdom. This thanksgiving I am so very grateful for each and every one of you all. Hugs.

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

As Thanksgiving and Christmas roll around I am so happy I live a distance away from all or most of my family of origin. Not to mention I have a hard time celebrating the genocide of the American Indian. I appreciate my friends and children on a regular basis and am thankful for them all the time. I remembe...

Wisdom67 · Wisdom67

Haha got u all bet you were thinking bad news.. Well I can say we all survived thanksgiving no screaming or fighting no guest nothing extra to bring to our table but good manors . We both been good with keeping to our side of the street the children are right in the middle now so they both our attention . Not s...

John · John

grateful2be · grateful2be

Things aren't going well when I focus on what I don't have. The problem isn't outside of me. The problem - the way I am looking at things - can be changed. When the way I am looking at life changes, life seems to change, too. Today, I am grateful to receive another day that is mine to do with it as I choose....

rehprof · rehprof

Today I pray for the families who still have active addiction in their lives...Holidays are so hard. The littlest things trigger arguments, and in some cases violent words and violent actions. Though I am safe, I feel deeply connected to those people who aren't. Sending you all peace and grace. -- E...

Gaby · Gaby

Just knowing tomorrow is a holiday and knowing I have no control of my son is just depressing to not know what he would be like tomorrow. It's unhealthy for us to be around each other and I feel sad for him. But I can't do nothing and I know that. He has made poor choices and I can't imagine what he will do to num...

neshema2 · neshema2

to my Goodliest Alanoners....Thanksgiving is upon us...Some of us will have family to share with...Some of us won't....But even still, as I will be alone this T/Giving, I will enjoy being with me and my fur babies....there will be play, treats and gratitude that I am healthy, my pets are healthy, my d...

phoenixmagicgirl · phoenixmagicgirl

Last night was horrible...at dinner my AM got really drunk and angry moreso than usual and started cursing out my dad and his family, especially his mom. My dad got very very angry as well. He mentioned he didn't know how much more of this he could take...my heart breaks for him..I know he's hurting SO mu...

bluejay99 · bluejay99

Hello everyone. I am new to this site. I have been acquainted with my neighbor for nine months and we have both expressed an interest in each other (flirting and a couple of phone conversations over a two month period). At our last phone conversation, he told me he was a recovering alcoholic. My fir...

melly2 · melly2

For some reason, when I log in as normal (Melly1248) it appears to have worked but as soon as I click on a post or on my messages or anything it logs me straight out and says I must log in to continue! It was working earlier! It's working fine with this different username so it can't be a pc issue. Clues, anyon...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

Tomorrow my family comes for thanksgiving dinner. Every year I use my moms silver on the table. My mom passed 12 years ago and this is one of the few things of hers that I have now. She bought this silverware when she was a young woman in the late 1950s. She was proud to be earning her own money and saving thes...

likemyheart · likemyheart

I am thankful for enough income to meet my outgo. I am thankful for the great number of people in my every day life who are pleasant and make me laugh. I am thankful for jobs that fulfill me. I am thankful for friends that smile when I come through the door. *ya know, this might be the best one, eh? I am thankfu...

oldergal · oldergal

Why is it most everyone thinks the worst and not the best, I mean some of us can run ramped with the worse imaginations, is there a psychology to this? When did we become so negative? Is it because we want to b ready for the worst? Its a terrible habit i would love to drop immediately .... og

Living508 · Living508

I have been in al-anon for about 6 months & have a sponsor. I have been unable to attend meetings & meet with her past couple weeks b/c of reall bad morning sickness from my pregnancy. My father went to intensive outpatient rehab about 6 months ago? He completed the program but still had some den...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

Decided to jump headfirst into the housework today. It was a shambles around here, and I was finally sick of it enough to roll up my sleeves. ABF wandered out while I was cleaning and asked "do you want me to help?" I responded- "I don't like the term "help" but you are welcome...

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	I went to the crisis (Preview) I felt bad. I went to help. He lost keys phone can't get into his apt. Nobody to open the door. He has no where to go except with me. He has a open wound the size of a golf ball I'm crying right in front of him. I'm having a breakdown Please some esh. Using phone can't type on it. O god help me	Cathyinaz	34	789	Dec 4, 2013 by Katytexasmom
	Continued.. (Preview) I don't know why my post are double posting or does not allow me to finish.. So as I was saying I called him on his bullshit.. I had to go to a meeting and they allowed me to let it all out.. The last I told my son was I can not do this no more. I can't help him no more. I was done an I left. I love my son, but I am truly jus...	Gaby	5	218	Dec 4, 2013 by Katytexasmom
	You are going to do WHAT? (Preview) My sweet boy....I know that 'better' is temporary until you get some recovery, but when you tell me YOUR plans I just want to SMACK YOU!!!!!!! i have to laugh to keep from SCREAMING! My son informs me he is getting an apartment with his cousin, WORST person to be around! Neither of them have a car, a JOB,...	Katytexasmom	8	529	Dec 4, 2013 by Katytexasmom
	Fighting the funk... (Preview) I can feel the big ol' weight of depression creeping up on me...I'm feeling overwhelmed by end of semester demands, endless minor details and paperwork, housework and oh, yah Christmas. I know I SHOULD be excited about Xmas...and decorating...but it always seems like a lot of mess and nonsense for...	rehprof	7	340	Dec 3, 2013 by Debilyn
	Working on me (Preview) Now that the exAH is out of my life...I finally get to see through the fog and begin working on ME! I'm not suggesting that prior to the divorce I didn't have my own issues, it's just very difficult to see them and work on them when the world is revolving around the alcoholic and you are very isolated from a...	abbyalana	7	322	Dec 3, 2013 by grateful2be
	I failed. Once again. (Preview) Today is the day. The day I was "supposed" to file a divorce. I failed once again. I can't do it. I keep telling myself it's because I can't get him served but I know it's a lie. I have set at least one boundary I won't go back on. I won't let him come home until he goes to a real rehab. He hasn't asked t...	HisMrsWright	15	466	Dec 3, 2013 by abbyal
	Uggggg!!! (Preview) So fustrated at myself.. I love my son.. I truly feel like I may have abandoned him but truly I had to change things up. I needed to stick with my rental agreement.. There are consequences in life and I feel that he needs to pay them. I love him but I've done all I can do.. Now it's all up to him. And i will pray!!...	Gaby	3	603	Dec 3, 2013 by Katytexasmom
	Baaaack (Preview) Well here I am again - I shouldn't have left really as I always found comfort in these boards. So much has happened since my last posts. Seems the last time I was on I had asked him to leave and he did. Not long after he left I found out I was pregnant. Yowza! He was out of the house for a while returning eventual...	Not Alone	4	347	Dec 3, 2013 by Tracy
	Well son moved in to an SLE.. (Preview) I helped my son move into an SLE.. I give him to god.. I've done absolutely all I can do. I love him and care for him, but I had to stand my ground on having him out of my home. I can only pray. He is not far from home, or anything else and SLE.. It is not a recovery program. But if he truly wants it he would go to any ex...	Gaby	4	262	Dec 2, 2013 by Rose50
	Uggggg!!! (Preview) So fustrated at myself.. I love my son.. I truly feel like I may have abandoned him but truly I had to change things up. I needed to stick with my rental agreement.. There are consequences in life and I feel that he needs to pay them. I love him but I've done all I can do.. Now it's all up to him. And i will pray!!...	Gaby	1	206	Dec 2, 2013 by deacon
	A song for Sunday... (Preview) I wanted to post this up... ... a song of love, it bought ears to my eyes... um... tears to my eyes... its sunday am here already... a neighbour lost his dog and came round to seek help... grandkids, 5 out of six will be filling the house and backyard in one hour... having some adult time... Sundays as a k...	DavidG	3	335	Dec 2, 2013 by DavidG
	Health concerns (Preview) I understand and accept that I have no control over my husband's drinking, but I think it's starting to seriously affect his health. The past several nights he's thrown up within a few minutes of eating. He thinks it's a stomach bug, but bugs don't last that long. I'd like him to go see the doc, but he d...	SpiderArcana	6	288	Dec 2, 2013 by SpiderArcana
	Feelings of abandonment...again (Preview) After 20+ years of having a sober father, I am now watching him slip into his old ways. Along with watching him slip I am watching my mom in turn to her old ways of enabling him. This time around, they are ultimately shutting me and my older siblings out. Most of our phone calls are not answered, excuses are...	ALotToLearn	5	177	Dec 2, 2013 by PP
	He say she say / with children (Preview) Good afternoon every one , we have another crisis here at home . And I'm one of those uncertainly what this is caused bye . Me and my husband sorted out our Boundarys we stay away from the topics that would bring us to the ring . I have my skills up to date he good on his end , but now the children are back at it aga...	Wisdom67	4	286	Dec 1, 2013 by Jerry F
	conundrum (Preview) As all of us do, I have a long story. My life has taken me to a place where I am not entirely sure what to do. To sum up, I am deeply involved with an alcoholic who is beginning recovery, but I am not his wife. He already has one. I am a 41YO woman. For almost 3 years I have been in a relationship with a man, an old fr...	marmoset	4	284	Dec 1, 2013 by Jerry F
	Follow up to my mums turning into the alcoholic in my life (Preview) I took the plunge and told my mum how I was feeling ( nervous on edge waiting for the criticism ... & after the usual initial response of well I just won't come and I'll keep my mouth shut like I normally do...) she told me the real reason. She feels it's all about me, I never contact her, do anything for h...	Minibee	2	274	Dec 1, 2013 by hotrod
	Oh and also.. (Preview) to everyone that expressed concern and well-wishes over my no-refrigerator situation. Just a few days ago, my grandmother conveniently decided to upgrade to a new fridge, leaving her (perfectly good and relatively new) fridge free to a good home. She offered to buy me a new fridge several times and...	Melly1248	7	388	Dec 1, 2013 by neshema2
	Having a hard night (Preview) I'm laying in bed struggling with my thoughts. Why does this have to be so difficult? I am debating texting or calling a friend. Even my mom but my history is such a broken record. I don't want to be judged anymore. I do fairly decent during the day but when it's time for bed and I'm all alone, I fall apart. Wh...	HisMrsWright	7	360	Dec 1, 2013 by slogan_jim
	Dec 1 (Preview) Hi Everyone: As ODAT suggested today I have been looking at the year in review, more accurately I have been re-reading posts that I have started and all of your responses as I have been making the journey, best I can, from sickness to healthy life. I needed reminders of how I got to where I am right now. M...	yanksfan51	3	269	Dec 1, 2013 by ilovedogs
	Things I couldn't do yesterday. (Preview) I was thinking about how very fearful I am about...well, almost everything that normal people take for granted. I know WHY, a combination of PTSD and also being told repeatedly as a child that I mustn't do anything or touch anything because it wasn't SAFE for me to do anything or touch anything; I'd bur...	Melly1248	6	430	Dec 1, 2013 by grateful2be
	Thoughts on Happiness (Preview) Happiness is not pleasure. Happiness is victory. Zig Ziglar Big or small, our victories are our happiness. Each one shows us we can do what we set out to do. Each helps build confidence in our abilities and is a boon to our self-esteem. With each victory, we can be assured there will be another. An...	grateful2be	6	308	Dec 1, 2013 by grateful2be
	No offense intended... (Preview) I mean no harm and do not wish to offend anyone who is non christian, but felt compiled to share this video to help get those who are christian move into the spirit of the forthcoming holidays.	John	13	639	Dec 1, 2013 by PP
	I decided it's time (Preview) I've had this forum saved on my phone for months. I've never known what to write and still don't honestly. First things first, my name is Michelle and my husband is an alcoholic. My story could go on for days and days just like any of you I'm sure. I'm 28 and he is 31. We've been married 2 1/2 years. We have a d...	HisMrsWright	13	490	Dec 1, 2013 by Mimi3
	Me Syndrom (Preview) My A has been in AA for 10 months and we are all very proud of him. We do try to give him support without babying or stepping on egg shells. This "me syndrome" is driving us all batty. The AA is still using "recovery" as an excuse as to why they are neglectful of household/personal...	gwyndalf	2	231	Dec 1, 2013 by SpiderArcana
	All I can do is laugh (Preview) All I did was ask if he was ok. Apparently, that is a go for him going off about something and how I always put him in a spot, and how he's always wrong, blah blah blah. And he apologized, and he said he was going through some stuff, and then he went to go lie down in his room. Alrighty. Whatever babe. I'm g...	SpiderArcana	4	257	Dec 1, 2013 by Melly1248
	Not sure what to say,kinda sad (Preview) so ive come on the board tonight feeling blah. its the fourth night this week my ah has been out. yeah, he calls but. . im alone again. my daughter asks where is daddy. . i tell her what i know. . hes with his buddies. its the first thing she asks whn we pull in the driveway and one of the last things she asks at be...	Theoceancalls	10	402	Dec 1, 2013 by yanksfan51
	On G2B's thoughts on Happiness :-D (Preview) G2B said:"Happiness is not pleasure. Happiness is victory. Zig ZiglarBig or small, our victories are our happiness. Each one shows us we can do what we set out to do. Each helps build confidence in our abilities and is a boon to our self-esteem. With each victory, we can be assured there wil...	Melly1248	13	526	Dec 1, 2013 by Raven Juniper
	The Holidays With My Mother (Preview) My mother is one of the most difficult people in the world that I have to deal with. I will deal with my alcoholic husband all day long over dealing with her, and she is one of the reasons why I continue to stay with him even in the most unhappiest of times- because I have nowhere to go except to her house and i...	1lostmom	2	415	Nov 30, 2013 by Jerry F
	A rough start (Preview) My alcoholic husband is 2 weeks into detox/rehab and I'm doing everything I can to hold the hope that this will work. the concept that's this disease is not just his, but mine as well is new to me. I'm slow in learning to let go. I Can't control any of it. I scour the internet for any resources I can find. A ans...	Naydel	4	362	Nov 30, 2013 by HisMrsWright
	detaching (Preview) Happy Turkey Day! I think I understand something about myself and detaching with love. I have wanted to do this with my A for the last few years. I was able to detach but without the love part. Now that I have a number of months in program, I am feeling better about myself. I think for the last couple we...	Lyne	7	469	Nov 30, 2013 by Ifnotforgrace
	Son moving to SLE.. (Preview) I received a text from my son yesterday saying he will moving into a sober living house. He went out and found one in our area. Maybe structure and discipline is what he needs. I poured my heart out to friends that care about me. I have to be reminded that I can not control the decisions he makes. And I am very...	Gaby	3	214	Nov 30, 2013 by grateful2be
	Okay this time I slipped........ (Preview) My AH is always on a slippery slope. He says that the slips are expected...(well, not by me). I have only been in Al-Anon for 6 weeks but I felt I was starting to find a nice calm path to navigate our tiny corner of crazy. I no longer yell and argue with him.......was not working at all. I stopped looking...	jillybean1	7	403	Nov 30, 2013 by PP
	I am very blessed (Preview) Hi Everyone, My name is Slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. Lately, looking around me and seeing so many people struggling with things, I am feeling very blessed. I was recently offered overtime at work, while others are looking for work. I have found a path to recovery from living around...	slogan_jim	6	263	Nov 30, 2013 by DavidG
	Step 6 (Preview) Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery togethe http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t55756002/alanon-s...	hotrod	0	184	Nov 30, 2013 by hotrod
	Thanksgiving (Preview) I am out of town for the weekend...before the day got too busy I wanted to express my thanks for all of you.	PP	9	192	Nov 30, 2013 by neshema2
	Things have changed here but I pray for strength (Preview) Happy Thanksgiving Everyone I kept getting a call starting every early this morning. I finally answered. It was my son. He is in the hospital and they are going to be operating on his leg tomorrow. He has been in for about a week now with a very bad infection. He said he is bored. He doesn't have his p...	Cathyinaz	15	436	Nov 30, 2013 by neshema2
	Old home group meet ups (Preview) I had the day off work today. Weather was good. Traveling was good. Nothing to do but what I wanted to do for me. I got my hair cut. Shopped a little. Then attended a noon F2F meeting at a local church that I usually can't make. I arrived to see old friends from my old home group - all there because they...	grateful2be	2	242	Nov 30, 2013 by neshema2
	Shaky ground and a different perspective on the serenity prayer for today (Preview) Hp grant me the ability to accept and be grateful for this Thanksgiving, and to see with a warm accepting heart all of the imperfect beauty of my family and my life. Help me to understand I can only change me which for today is my attitude and help me to be humble. Help me not want to control everything and fo...	mm830	5	299	Nov 30, 2013 by Breakingfree
	Holidays & Alcoholism (Preview) When I think of the holidays, I think back to the second we would hear we were getting together for holidays, the alcohol would break out .. to celebrate ? or to cope .. This year was a quiet but beautiful thanksgiving .. I even included the fact I am Grateful for every ounce of pain, criticism, blame, sarc...	MeTwo2	3	372	Nov 30, 2013 by MeTwo2
	Hi Everyone, it's been a while (Preview) Hi all: In the spirit of giving thanks I wanted to post as it has been a while. I am so thankful for the people here, the ESH and support from everyone on these boards. I have come here when I was feeling low, when I was feeling strong and confident and everything in between, and I appreciate how I was comfo...	yanksfan51	6	227	Nov 29, 2013 by hotrod
	I got through the holiday.. (Preview) As hard as it was.. With a grace of god and many prayers.. I got through Thanksgiving. I hurt so bad for my son. I love him dearly and I know the only thing I can do is pray for him. Today he is to be out if my house. I don't know if that is going to happen. I have heard he is looking into some SLE homes. But he has to do...	Gaby	3	198	Nov 29, 2013 by grateful2be
	Need to Vent! (Preview) Happy Thanksgiving MIP family!!! I hope you all are having a blessed day! I am preparing a quick meal for the family and then my son and I are driving a few hours to a tennis tournament, where he has to play early in the AM tomorrow. We'll be gone all weekend. AH is now acting like Mr Perfect Dad. Hanging...	ilovedogs	7	412	Nov 29, 2013 by rehprof
	Happy Thanksgiving.. (Preview) I'm still laying in bed watching a good life time movie at my sister in laws.. At this time I feel at peace.. I was laying here thinking last year at this same time and also 3 years ago at this same time.. My son has ruined my holidays due to his actions.. The only difference is I need to let him go and find his wa...	Gaby	4	172	Nov 29, 2013 by Peggy7
	A reading from 'Hope For Today'... (Preview) Its 29th Nov, already, here in NZ... Our reading is about the classic drunk dad and coping mum type of family. This was my family largely. My mum took the line- if you caint beat em join em... and so she was at the pub too- at least some of the time. I can only quote briefly from 'Hope For Today'. This is out of...	DavidG	5	3222	Nov 29, 2013 by Peggy7
	Thank you (Preview) To all my MIP friends, I want to thank you all for supporting me and encouraging me this past year. I truly would not have made it without your kindness and wisdom. This thanksgiving I am so very grateful for each and every one of you all. Hugs.	ParisMemories	7	205	Nov 29, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	Breakingfree update and Thanksgiving musings (Preview) As Thanksgiving and Christmas roll around I am so happy I live a distance away from all or most of my family of origin. Not to mention I have a hard time celebrating the genocide of the American Indian. I appreciate my friends and children on a regular basis and am thankful for them all the time. I remembe...	Breakingfree	4	273	Nov 29, 2013 by PP
	I am shocked !!!! (Preview) Haha got u all bet you were thinking bad news.. Well I can say we all survived thanksgiving no screaming or fighting no guest nothing extra to bring to our table but good manors . We both been good with keeping to our side of the street the children are right in the middle now so they both our attention . Not s...	Wisdom67	3	298	Nov 29, 2013 by PP
	Sneakin' bites of good food without letting the dogs know.... (Preview)	John	4	220	Nov 28, 2013 by PP
	Things are not going well (Preview) Things aren't going well when I focus on what I don't have. The problem isn't outside of me. The problem - the way I am looking at things - can be changed. When the way I am looking at life changes, life seems to change, too. Today, I am grateful to receive another day that is mine to do with it as I choose....	grateful2be	14	459	Nov 28, 2013 by grateful2be
	Today.... (Preview) Today I pray for the families who still have active addiction in their lives...Holidays are so hard. The littlest things trigger arguments, and in some cases violent words and violent actions. Though I am safe, I feel deeply connected to those people who aren't. Sending you all peace and grace. -- E...	rehprof	3	146	Nov 28, 2013 by likemyheart
	Ugggg depression!!!! (Preview) Just knowing tomorrow is a holiday and knowing I have no control of my son is just depressing to not know what he would be like tomorrow. It's unhealthy for us to be around each other and I feel sad for him. But I can't do nothing and I know that. He has made poor choices and I can't imagine what he will do to num...	Gaby	5	309	Nov 28, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	my heart to your hearts (Preview) to my Goodliest Alanoners....Thanksgiving is upon us...Some of us will have family to share with...Some of us won't....But even still, as I will be alone this T/Giving, I will enjoy being with me and my fur babies....there will be play, treats and gratitude that I am healthy, my pets are healthy, my d...	neshema2	5	257	Nov 28, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	Horrible night last night...now onto Thanksgiving.. (Preview) Last night was horrible...at dinner my AM got really drunk and angry moreso than usual and started cursing out my dad and his family, especially his mom. My dad got very very angry as well. He mentioned he didn't know how much more of this he could take...my heart breaks for him..I know he's hurting SO mu...	phoenixmagicgirl	4	295	Nov 28, 2013 by neshema2
	New to Alanon - Dating a recovering alcoholic (Preview) Hello everyone. I am new to this site. I have been acquainted with my neighbor for nine months and we have both expressed an interest in each other (flirting and a couple of phone conversations over a two month period). At our last phone conversation, he told me he was a recovering alcoholic. My fir...	bluejay99	4	371	Nov 28, 2013 by bluejay99
	Cant log in as myself? (Preview) For some reason, when I log in as normal (Melly1248) it appears to have worked but as soon as I click on a post or on my messages or anything it logs me straight out and says I must log in to continue! It was working earlier! It's working fine with this different username so it can't be a pc issue. Clues, anyon...	melly2	15	413	Nov 28, 2013 by grateful2be
	Trying to be grateful (Preview) Tomorrow my family comes for thanksgiving dinner. Every year I use my moms silver on the table. My mom passed 12 years ago and this is one of the few things of hers that I have now. She bought this silverware when she was a young woman in the late 1950s. She was proud to be earning her own money and saving thes...	ParisMemories	3	188	Nov 28, 2013 by SerenityRUS
	Thanks Giving (Preview) I am thankful for enough income to meet my outgo. I am thankful for the great number of people in my every day life who are pleasant and make me laugh. I am thankful for jobs that fulfill me. I am thankful for friends that smile when I come through the door. *ya know, this might be the best one, eh? I am thankfu...	likemyheart	5	211	Nov 28, 2013 by SerenityRUS
	THINKING THE WORSE? (Preview) Why is it most everyone thinks the worst and not the best, I mean some of us can run ramped with the worse imaginations, is there a psychology to this? When did we become so negative? Is it because we want to b ready for the worst? Its a terrible habit i would love to drop immediately .... og	oldergal	3	427	Nov 28, 2013 by flinn66
	Scared of Thanksgiving (Preview) I have been in al-anon for about 6 months & have a sponsor. I have been unable to attend meetings & meet with her past couple weeks b/c of reall bad morning sickness from my pregnancy. My father went to intensive outpatient rehab about 6 months ago? He completed the program but still had some den...	Living508	2	264	Nov 28, 2013 by flinn66
	And, thank God I know better now. (Preview) Decided to jump headfirst into the housework today. It was a shambles around here, and I was finally sick of it enough to roll up my sleeves. ABF wandered out while I was cleaning and asked "do you want me to help?" I responded- "I don't like the term "help" but you are welcome...	Melly1248	17	607	Nov 27, 2013 by likemyheart
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