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John · John

Sounds contradictory huh? Frustrated because my son who is in prison writes to me only to tell me how much money he needs to have his personal belongings (clothes) shipped to me from the unit so they don't end up in a donation bin. Then there is the need for stamp and envelope money, and some basic hygie...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

if youve read any of my piats you know my story. similar to many. the past few days ive found myself profoundly depressed, anxious, lonely to the core and furious. its as if all of the tools have lost their ability to work, as if detachment is a foreign word, as if let go let God is another way of giving up. i j...

55Fairlane · 55Fairlane

I've been involved with Al-Anon for less than a year, I realize I still have much to learn and sometimes find it difficult speaking up or reaching out about sensitive matters such as this so I'm asking for your suggestions or shared experiences so I can hopefully gain some inspiration and insight on th...

Tasha · Tasha

Hello, and welcome to MIP - if you are new here, we are glad to see you reaching out for help for yourself. There are many resources here at Miracles In Progress. It is an amazing website. The founder and webmaster of MIP, an amazing example of working several 12 step 'programs' is remarkable. Durin...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

So I have had a guy friend for over 13 years and he has wanted to date me when we were both single. I have kept him at bay, because he is a good friend and I have never wanted to ruin what we have. I met him while I was with my exAH and we worked together, nothing romantic ever entered either of our minds back then...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

I woke up feeling sick but pushed myself to go to work then ended up leaving and have been home all day. Recovering abf came and got me, made me comfortable with blankets and then food when I woke up 3-4 hours later. It's stress that did me in. I am still inching my way out of that workplace. I've been app...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

and OMGOSH did that just tick me off .. LOL!! I'm working a 4th step on resentments (DUH!) and working with an RA friend of mine who has a lot of years. We had a discussion about it at meeting on Saturday. I just can't swallow the dang Blue Print for Progress .. it is not simple and for a simple program it's...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi Everyone, My name is slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. I am having a bit of a pity party, feeling like I am not good enough. Feeling like 'if only my parents had been different, my life would be different'..... it's all prompted by the notion that I see many younger or at the same age that a...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

good morning, so what is this roller coaster in on all of the time. . oh, it life wirh an alcohilic. last week i was ready to scream from the roof tops " im done". . for two weeks he has been out more than in, drunk more than sober. . this morning i wake up . . hes not home. .granted i was given heads up t...

ashraven · ashraven

I've noticed that when my A quits going to his AA meetings his morals seem to disappear as well. He stops going to AA and he starts cheating. It isn't that he is necessarily drunk when he cheats, he just isn't going to AA meetings. Am I the only one that this has happened to? Has a...

Nightingale · Nightingale

I'm so tired of feeling sad. I'm tired of being lonely. I tired of apologizing for my words being twisted into something other then I said. I'm tired of tiptoeing around my house and being told I make him walk on eggshells. I'm tired of begging for affection and watching my self respect disappear. I'm th...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

There is so much to tell and really can't tell to much yet .. LOL .. sorry for the tease I'm just very excited and I think that God has a way of working things out and that is ok. I got to visit with a girlfriend of mine who I have known since I was 5 and haven't seen for 30 years OMGOSH what a blast we had last night...

sunshine28 · sunshine28

My boyfriend is an alcoholic. I guess deep down, if Im being completely honest, I have known for quite a while. Finding bottles of liquor behind the garbage in the bathroom, or in a suitcase in the storage closet, isnt normal. Why didnt I ever address it with him? All the signs were there, and I never said...

montego · montego

My husband and I have an adult son who attends AA. he has gone for some time off and on. I cannot say to what degree he is honestly involved in the program. recently we agreed to let him return to our business on a part-time basis. Since that time someone has come to us and said he has been seen driving in ar...

Nankiepooh · Nankiepooh

Hi everyone I do not know if I am at the right place but I desperately need to talk to someone who will not judge or criticize me. I have search far and wide and eventually found you. I am married to a man who has been drinking non-stop for the last two to three years. He says that it is his "coping" m...

Nankiepooh · Nankiepooh

Jack says he wants to stop. I don't know if I must happy or sad, laugh histerically! He already did not drink a whole lot yesterday and got some withdrawel symptoms. I told him not stop so abrubtly and that he must lessen it up until the last drop is gone. Did I do the right thing? And how can I help to ease this...

Tan · Tan

Hi all, just wanting to know what kinds of things you say to your sponsees or friends or what your sponsorshave said to you if you felt higher power did not exist. My hus. Going to AA meetings now but refusing to believe in god. It just comes so naturally for me to believe in a higher power... i know we are n...

Mari1978 · Mari1978

Is it strange to feel puzzled that someone thinks I'm funny, intelligent and beautiful? The person I am when not in the grips of the disease. The person I have been missing without realizing she was gone. I have had glimpses of her a little more and more each day that I am able to focus on recovery. There we...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

I've had my phone off but turn it on today. Yes my son continues to call but doesn't leave a message or text or email. I don't know what is going on but I don't want to know. I'm reading posts and the despair and hurt I read makes me feel so sad for others but it reinforces my conviction to let go and let God...

Snowflake74 · Snowflake74

Hello, first of all I want to thank everyone for their support over the last three weeks. You have helped me maintain my sanity and understand what was going on. On Monday my boyfriend stopped drinking. I went to his house to see for myself and sure enough he was only drinking ginger ale to help his stomac...

Stay strong · Stay strong

I am new to al anon. In the past three years husband has relapsed 3 times. Most recent relapse feb. 11, 2014. We a two year old and another due in two months. When husband drinks he hides and disappears for weeks. This time he has come home and I have moved out because he is still drinking. My family is furiou...

Kerrymom · Kerrymom

First want to express how grateful I am for this site it has helped so much to read others experiences and see the progression and hear hope, hope for change, hope for happiness. The last two weeks at f2f meetings it's only been me and the leader, she is wonderful and I left feeling peaceful and calm each t...

wornoutmrsfixit · wornoutmrsfixit

Well, he flat out refused my request to refinance the house in his name only because "he doesn't want to". This was the boundary that I set a few weeks ago. I believe he thought he could stall me (he did for a few weeks) and I would back down and let it go but I contacted a lawyer yesterday. I'm wait...

jillybean1 · jillybean1

The rehab where my AH is at.... has suggested he go into a 1/2 way sober living house. Does anyone have experience with this system? I have told my AH that I will not allow him to live back with the family because he relapsed so quickly after his last attempt at recovery (3 days after rehab release). H...

Kerrymom · Kerrymom

How does almost everything I say get twisted around, thrown back at me, and make me feel like crap. there's a reason and justification for everything. I can tell myself it's the disease but it doesn't make me feel any better after being yelled at for over an hour. Heard for first time that it was me not gi...

Jen61 · Jen61

I love reading One Day at a Time, Courage to Change and Hope for Today. On February 27th One Day at Time had a great reminder: Today's Reminder Trying to analyze why another person persists in destructive behaviors cannot help me out of my own difficulties. I can overcome them only by turning my thoug...

SpiderArcana · SpiderArcana

el-cee · el-cee

Alanon has given me awareness of my shortcomings and the tools to remove them, im grateful for that. At least im no longer misersble, blaming it all on the alcoholic and justifying my bad behaviour. Im just feeling the badness creep in, I cant really bear people at the moment. My friends are really anno...

sadsusie · sadsusie

I am at a point now where I think I am ready to move on with my life. I left my Alcoholic husband in July (8 months ago). I was on the brink of a breakdown from the alcoholism and verbally abusive behavior. He eventually went to rehab. It did not last long, but I had come home in the meantime. I got myself into r...

Green Eyes · Green Eyes

I heard an interesting concept this weekend: Worry is essentially the opposite of prayer. It's a lack of faith in our HP. It is thinking that our own obsessions are a bigger priority for our time than our time spent with our HP. The more time we allow for worrying, the less time we are allowing for prayer a...

John · John

This MomentWe all suffer, every day: worry, procrastination, anxiety, feeling overwhelmed, irritated, angry, frustrated, wishing things were different, comparing ourselves to others, worried we’re missing out, wishing other people would be different, feeling offended, loneliness, fear...

jillybean1 · jillybean1

I forgot to post yesterday for Dr. Suess' birthday but I saw this in the newspaper and thought it was proper to post here..... You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself in any direction you choose. (Dr. Suess) Have a lovely night everyone!! Jilly

ladee · ladee

As much as I have had moments, in my head and heart, to break the No contact with my A son..... I followed my gut.... thought things thru..... and realized what I was missing I have not seen or been around in many years.... my sober son..... the disease has him masked and caped as a hurtful and hurting perso...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Our literature is really recovery treasure; a gift from HP and those who came before us. The difference between just waking up and "coming to" after reading our literature is awesome. If you haven't gotten into March 5th already...take the time, quiet slow time to read and absorb cau...

Lyne · Lyne

Hi, and yes, I got sucked back in to stinkin thinkin and didn't even realize it. It happened in such a subtle way. My A did several things that were so nice, like driving me to work in bad weather. I started feeling guilty. I'm detached and wanted to feel somethings I can't. So I tried to get my A to make...

grainne · grainne

My husband is an alcoholic. He knows it and admits it; I know it and his entire family know it too. It's the elephant in the room, nobody is willing to say it out loud. He himself admits it frequently, but that doesn't encourage him to do anything about it. It's as if by admitting the problem, he has identif...

lgnutah · lgnutah

Right now I am in the midst of mourning the loss of the relationship I wanted to have with my adult daughter. Alcohol seems to have replaced everything that used to have meaning for her....although occasionally a part of who she used to be will re surface and I will get my hopes up.....only to have Alcoho...

astallaslions · astallaslions

Alanon has given me much relief, but I do realize that my hesitations with the program, have been because of my fear with all the work I need to do. I take my own personal insecurities out on him. This has not been AT all healthy as he has been trying to get sober. It's been an on off battle, but he is fighting h...

jacob53 · jacob53

I am feeling so awful today about something I did. I am new here but not new to Alanon I have been to meetings many times and have worked a program for years but this situation for me seems to be tougher than my own was. I have a brother younger that is married to an Alcoholic and it breaks my heart. He isn't rea...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I just need some extra prayers today from my MIP family .. I think I'm definitely HHALT'ing. The hormones are in deep and it's not always easy to deal with that to say the least. This was a hard weekend and there were some high points .. just disappointed that the STBAX is being an alcoholic or at least a...

CKCS · CKCS

My ex-partner and I split up in a terrible way about 3 weeks ago. He's an alcoholic who stopped drinking in January, went to the AA and met a woman there a week later with whom he cheated on me. I packed his stuff and had him leave our apartment. After that he started to drink again. He was agressive and verba...

Snowflake74 · Snowflake74

Hi I went to my first meeting today and it was very helpful. I finally cried about this mess and it felt good. The group I met with were so warm and welcoming. We talked about realizing we are powerless over this disease. I know I can't do anything about it, it just felt good to say that to people face to face....

Jerry F · Jerry F

My early Al-Anon sponsor Don T, I was told passed away several years ago last month. I believe that because it was my first sponsor who told me that and she brokered me off to him. (I didn't do my lessons good...just like school so she fired me and brought me to him). Only one of the things he taught me wh...

Jozie · Jozie

Before I Go into My Rant... I Just want to THANK All that Prayed for My Aunt, She is Doing Well, and We wont know untill her appt in 2wks if Chemo or Radiation are necessary...So Thank you all that Said a Prayer for her Surgery yest., she is doing Great & I'm Most Grateful indeed :) NOW...lol...Do ya Eve...

dibsylou · dibsylou

My daughter is 24 and is addicted to addrell. Has been for a couple of years. Gives her the opposite effect and is very ineffective; doesn't work and can't hold a job if she doesn't have her pillls. She is very dependant on me for everything. I became sick over the last couple of weeks (like hospitali...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Good Morning All We finally have rain. Been up since 2am just listening to the rain and loving it. The power has been going off and on with the lighting outside. I'm going to try and get a little more sleep but I'm grateful for the welcoming rain. Have a peaceful Saturday ((( hugs )))

LucyLynn · LucyLynn

Hello Im new to this site and new to the whole Al Anon process. I came across this site Friday night after I caught my husband for the 100th time hiding alcohol (Its been about 2 years that he's had a problem). I was desperate and hopeless and went online to search for answers and came across this site which...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

My son has been calling me but I haven't answered. He isn't leaving any messages or texting me so I don't know whats up. I can only pray he is OK but he doesn't show up here because I can't have him. I don't like it when we tries and calls me. I don't want to hear from him at all right now. I like my peace and want...

hotrod · hotrod

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lgnutah · lgnutah

Have any other parents of adult As thought about how to prevent your estate from becoming your As party (til the money is gone)? I belong to NAMI, as my son is bi polar, and there is a speaker coming to our meeting next week who is going to talk with us about this very issue. With my daughter being an active...

Gaby · Gaby

Sometimes this weather gets me gloomy especially at work. I pray to live just for the moment.. I have to add that I see my son a bit more productive. Stepping back into his meetings slowly and all kinds of people are crossing his path. I believe god speaks through people. But it's the past that I can not see...

LucyLynn · LucyLynn

I am new to this. Don't really know where to begin... Ive come to the realization my husband IS a alcoholic and will probably NEVER change. We are both 31, been married 7 years and have two children age 3 and 18mo. A few years ago when i was pregnant with our daughter i noticed he started to drink very heavil...

Dealiing with family members · daisy31

I am working on learning how to deal with family dynamics and I have been getting a lot better. I have been having a struggle with my Brother in law. He likes to make these comments about how I am not bubbly enough and he says I am just not fun enough. He also calls me "grandma" often when he is refe...

Hollywood · Hollywood

Where to begin... my AW suggested I seek out alanon. Having grown up with an abusive drunk father I swore I would never re-live that kind of life. Fast forward 35 years later I fall in love and marry a recovering heroine addict. 6 months in were awesome however recently she relapsed and started todo...

ashcrash · ashcrash

I'm starting to feel pretty stupid. I've known my husband for 14 years, and yes I knew he drank as a teenager. But, I guess I hoped he'd grow up. He will have one or two (or 3...) beers or glasses of wine just about nightly. But I dread the weekends. From Friday night until Saturday night he drinks. It's not...

bud · bud

Oh how denial runs deep and how easy it is to slip into a seemly easier path of least resistance by pretending. Only, it's not like being a child and playing dress up or being a favorite super-hero. I often think of the children's book, "The Velveteen Rabbit", when the rabbit asks, "...

Snowflake74 · Snowflake74

This weekend marks 16 days since by boyfriend crawled into a bottle. Last night after dropping my children off with their Dad I returned to town to pick up his teenage daughter from their house. Normally I would spend the weekend there, but not when he is like this. I went inside and he was on the couch cry...

Tan · Tan

Hi all, I have been reading many many posts, over the last several weeks- so I almost feel like I know some of you.... like in real life , I have been too shy, embarrassed, unworthy- etc etc- to share, but so many of you have such meaningful, healthy, outlooks and ideas for growth that I must ask a question t...

debhud · debhud

my 38 year old A son is definitely the "favorite" of all of the 8 grandchildren. (none who are cursed with this fatal disease) my parents do EVERYTHING for him and little for the others. he is active in his addiction and not working. my parents pay ALL of his bills. they babysit for his son...

NavySealWife · NavySealWife

I have been working so much, that today was the first day after few days of not being here with my family supporter. My husband relapse four weeks straight with drinking after being sober for two and half year. The last time that I think of that he has told me was the firs day he came home and retired from th...

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	Frustrated, but okay... (Preview) Sounds contradictory huh? Frustrated because my son who is in prison writes to me only to tell me how much money he needs to have his personal belongings (clothes) shipped to me from the unit so they don't end up in a donation bin. Then there is the need for stamp and envelope money, and some basic hygie...	John	13	491	Mar 10, 2014 by Breakingfree
	im just a mess (Preview) if youve read any of my piats you know my story. similar to many. the past few days ive found myself profoundly depressed, anxious, lonely to the core and furious. its as if all of the tools have lost their ability to work, as if detachment is a foreign word, as if let go let God is another way of giving up. i j...	Theoceancalls	16	509	Mar 10, 2014 by DIAMONDGIRL
	Relationship boundaries (with his former mistress) after an affair. Alanon Al Anon Al-Anon Alcoholics Anonymous A.A. AA Narcotics Anonymous N.A. NA affair affairs unfaithful slept with cheated cheats mistress mistresses relationship relationships recovery recovering boundary boundaries heal healing hurt anger angry communicate communicating healthy moving forward respect respectfully suggestion suggestions advice resources books websites help (Preview) I've been involved with Al-Anon for less than a year, I realize I still have much to learn and sometimes find it difficult speaking up or reaching out about sensitive matters such as this so I'm asking for your suggestions or shared experiences so I can hopefully gain some inspiration and insight on th...	55Fairlane	9	7327	Mar 10, 2014 by Breakingfree
	Welcome Family (Preview) Hello, and welcome to MIP - if you are new here, we are glad to see you reaching out for help for yourself. There are many resources here at Miracles In Progress. It is an amazing website. The founder and webmaster of MIP, an amazing example of working several 12 step 'programs' is remarkable. Durin...	Tasha	2	342	Mar 9, 2014 by DavidG
	So greatful that I don't ignore my red flags anymore..... (Preview) So I have had a guy friend for over 13 years and he has wanted to date me when we were both single. I have kept him at bay, because he is a good friend and I have never wanted to ruin what we have. I met him while I was with my exAH and we worked together, nothing romantic ever entered either of our minds back then...	Breakingfree	6	575	Mar 9, 2014 by tortuga
	Feeling sick and wanted to check in (Preview) I woke up feeling sick but pushed myself to go to work then ended up leaving and have been home all day. Recovering abf came and got me, made me comfortable with blankets and then food when I woke up 3-4 hours later. It's stress that did me in. I am still inching my way out of that workplace. I've been app...	tiredtonite	7	490	Mar 9, 2014 by tiredtonite
	There are no justifiable resentments in this room .. (Preview) and OMGOSH did that just tick me off .. LOL!! I'm working a 4th step on resentments (DUH!) and working with an RA friend of mine who has a lot of years. We had a discussion about it at meeting on Saturday. I just can't swallow the dang Blue Print for Progress .. it is not simple and for a simple program it's...	SerenityRUS	4	401	Mar 9, 2014 by Jerry F
	Over-extending myself. (Preview) Hi Everyone, My name is slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. I am having a bit of a pity party, feeling like I am not good enough. Feeling like 'if only my parents had been different, my life would be different'..... it's all prompted by the notion that I see many younger or at the same age that a...	slogan_jim	11	607	Mar 9, 2014 by el-cee
	the rollercoaster (Preview) good morning, so what is this roller coaster in on all of the time. . oh, it life wirh an alcohilic. last week i was ready to scream from the roof tops " im done". . for two weeks he has been out more than in, drunk more than sober. . this morning i wake up . . hes not home. .granted i was given heads up t...	Theoceancalls	4	425	Mar 9, 2014 by Beatrice
	No AA=No morals? (Preview) I've noticed that when my A quits going to his AA meetings his morals seem to disappear as well. He stops going to AA and he starts cheating. It isn't that he is necessarily drunk when he cheats, he just isn't going to AA meetings. Am I the only one that this has happened to? Has a...	ashraven	8	578	Mar 9, 2014 by Truth
	Frozen Out (Preview) I'm so tired of feeling sad. I'm tired of being lonely. I tired of apologizing for my words being twisted into something other then I said. I'm tired of tiptoeing around my house and being told I make him walk on eggshells. I'm tired of begging for affection and watching my self respect disappear. I'm th...	Nightingale	12	571	Mar 9, 2014 by Truth
	First thing First .. (Preview) There is so much to tell and really can't tell to much yet .. LOL .. sorry for the tease I'm just very excited and I think that God has a way of working things out and that is ok. I got to visit with a girlfriend of mine who I have known since I was 5 and haven't seen for 30 years OMGOSH what a blast we had last night...	SerenityRUS	4	436	Mar 9, 2014 by Ifnotforgrace
	Struggling & Confused alcoholic boyfriend sad lost confused struggle lies advice (Preview) My boyfriend is an alcoholic. I guess deep down, if Im being completely honest, I have known for quite a while. Finding bottles of liquor behind the garbage in the bathroom, or in a suitcase in the storage closet, isnt normal. Why didnt I ever address it with him? All the signs were there, and I never said...	sunshine28	3	6534	Mar 9, 2014 by John in GA
	protecting and becoming wary (Preview) My husband and I have an adult son who attends AA. he has gone for some time off and on. I cannot say to what degree he is honestly involved in the program. recently we agreed to let him return to our business on a part-time basis. Since that time someone has come to us and said he has been seen driving in ar...	montego	9	427	Mar 9, 2014 by el-cee
	Why do I feel guilty? (Preview) Hi everyone I do not know if I am at the right place but I desperately need to talk to someone who will not judge or criticize me. I have search far and wide and eventually found you. I am married to a man who has been drinking non-stop for the last two to three years. He says that it is his "coping" m...	Nankiepooh	21	816	Mar 9, 2014 by Nankiepooh
	He says he wants this darkness toe end (Preview) Jack says he wants to stop. I don't know if I must happy or sad, laugh histerically! He already did not drink a whole lot yesterday and got some withdrawel symptoms. I told him not stop so abrubtly and that he must lessen it up until the last drop is gone. Did I do the right thing? And how can I help to ease this...	Nankiepooh	8	539	Mar 8, 2014 by Jerry F
	Higher power... (Preview) Hi all, just wanting to know what kinds of things you say to your sponsees or friends or what your sponsorshave said to you if you felt higher power did not exist. My hus. Going to AA meetings now but refusing to believe in god. It just comes so naturally for me to believe in a higher power... i know we are n...	Tan	5	304	Mar 8, 2014 by maryjane
	The person I had forgotten (Preview) Is it strange to feel puzzled that someone thinks I'm funny, intelligent and beautiful? The person I am when not in the grips of the disease. The person I have been missing without realizing she was gone. I have had glimpses of her a little more and more each day that I am able to focus on recovery. There we...	Mari1978	5	356	Mar 8, 2014 by Lyne
	Reading (Preview) I've had my phone off but turn it on today. Yes my son continues to call but doesn't leave a message or text or email. I don't know what is going on but I don't want to know. I'm reading posts and the despair and hurt I read makes me feel so sad for others but it reinforces my conviction to let go and let God...	Cathyinaz	10	507	Mar 8, 2014 by Katytexasmom
	He stopped drinking (Preview) Hello, first of all I want to thank everyone for their support over the last three weeks. You have helped me maintain my sanity and understand what was going on. On Monday my boyfriend stopped drinking. I went to his house to see for myself and sure enough he was only drinking ginger ale to help his stomac...	Snowflake74	7	439	Mar 8, 2014 by milkwood
	Baby due in two weeks husband on bender (Preview) I am new to al anon. In the past three years husband has relapsed 3 times. Most recent relapse feb. 11, 2014. We a two year old and another due in two months. When husband drinks he hides and disappears for weeks. This time he has come home and I have moved out because he is still drinking. My family is furiou...	Stay strong	5	618	Mar 8, 2014 by Stay strong
	Putting it in writing (Preview) First want to express how grateful I am for this site it has helped so much to read others experiences and see the progression and hear hope, hope for change, hope for happiness. The last two weeks at f2f meetings it's only been me and the leader, she is wonderful and I left feeling peaceful and calm each t...	Kerrymom	4	418	Mar 8, 2014 by Nankiepooh
	The Next Right Thing . . . Divorce? (Preview) Well, he flat out refused my request to refinance the house in his name only because "he doesn't want to". This was the boundary that I set a few weeks ago. I believe he thought he could stall me (he did for a few weeks) and I would back down and let it go but I contacted a lawyer yesterday. I'm wait...	wornoutmrsfixit	9	606	Mar 7, 2014 by wornoutmrsfixit
	AH graduating rehab and into 1/2 way?? (Preview) The rehab where my AH is at.... has suggested he go into a 1/2 way sober living house. Does anyone have experience with this system? I have told my AH that I will not allow him to live back with the family because he relapsed so quickly after his last attempt at recovery (3 days after rehab release). H...	jillybean1	3	596	Mar 7, 2014 by el-cee
	What just happened? (Preview) How does almost everything I say get twisted around, thrown back at me, and make me feel like crap. there's a reason and justification for everything. I can tell myself it's the disease but it doesn't make me feel any better after being yelled at for over an hour. Heard for first time that it was me not gi...	Kerrymom	13	523	Mar 7, 2014 by Kerrymom
	One Day at a Time in Al-Anon (Preview) I love reading One Day at a Time, Courage to Change and Hope for Today. On February 27th One Day at Time had a great reminder: Today's Reminder Trying to analyze why another person persists in destructive behaviors cannot help me out of my own difficulties. I can overcome them only by turning my thoug...	Jen61	6	432	Mar 6, 2014 by Breakingfree
	Couldn't have said it better myself. (Preview)	SpiderArcana	5	303	Mar 6, 2014 by Breakingfree
	shortcomings (Preview) Alanon has given me awareness of my shortcomings and the tools to remove them, im grateful for that. At least im no longer misersble, blaming it all on the alcoholic and justifying my bad behaviour. Im just feeling the badness creep in, I cant really bear people at the moment. My friends are really anno...	el-cee	11	818	Mar 6, 2014 by Breakingfree
	Ready to move on with my life... (Preview) I am at a point now where I think I am ready to move on with my life. I left my Alcoholic husband in July (8 months ago). I was on the brink of a breakdown from the alcoholism and verbally abusive behavior. He eventually went to rehab. It did not last long, but I had come home in the meantime. I got myself into r...	sadsusie	7	598	Mar 6, 2014 by Breakingfree
	Worry vs. Prayer worry letting go and letting God (Preview) I heard an interesting concept this weekend: Worry is essentially the opposite of prayer. It's a lack of faith in our HP. It is thinking that our own obsessions are a bigger priority for our time than our time spent with our HP. The more time we allow for worrying, the less time we are allowing for prayer a...	Green Eyes	10	4625	Mar 6, 2014 by Breakingfree
	This Moment (Preview) This MomentWe all suffer, every day: worry, procrastination, anxiety, feeling overwhelmed, irritated, angry, frustrated, wishing things were different, comparing ourselves to others, worried we’re missing out, wishing other people would be different, feeling offended, loneliness, fear...	John	7	286	Mar 6, 2014 by Breakingfree
	my favorite Dr. Suess (Preview) I forgot to post yesterday for Dr. Suess' birthday but I saw this in the newspaper and thought it was proper to post here..... You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself in any direction you choose. (Dr. Suess) Have a lovely night everyone!! Jilly	jillybean1	7	324	Mar 6, 2014 by Breakingfree
	Following my gut... (Preview) As much as I have had moments, in my head and heart, to break the No contact with my A son..... I followed my gut.... thought things thru..... and realized what I was missing I have not seen or been around in many years.... my sober son..... the disease has him masked and caped as a hurtful and hurting perso...	ladee	4	354	Mar 6, 2014 by Breakingfree
	Conference Approved Literature (Preview) Our literature is really recovery treasure; a gift from HP and those who came before us. The difference between just waking up and "coming to" after reading our literature is awesome. If you haven't gotten into March 5th already...take the time, quiet slow time to read and absorb cau...	Jerry F	6	555	Mar 6, 2014 by Breakingfree
	sucked back in (Preview) Hi, and yes, I got sucked back in to stinkin thinkin and didn't even realize it. It happened in such a subtle way. My A did several things that were so nice, like driving me to work in bad weather. I started feeling guilty. I'm detached and wanted to feel somethings I can't. So I tried to get my A to make...	Lyne	8	428	Mar 6, 2014 by Breakingfree
	husband's drinking affecting family life (Preview) My husband is an alcoholic. He knows it and admits it; I know it and his entire family know it too. It's the elephant in the room, nobody is willing to say it out loud. He himself admits it frequently, but that doesn't encourage him to do anything about it. It's as if by admitting the problem, he has identif...	grainne	6	608	Mar 5, 2014 by Theoceancalls
	Mourning the loss (Preview) Right now I am in the midst of mourning the loss of the relationship I wanted to have with my adult daughter. Alcohol seems to have replaced everything that used to have meaning for her....although occasionally a part of who she used to be will re surface and I will get my hopes up.....only to have Alcoho...	lgnutah	7	575	Mar 5, 2014 by bud
	Owning Up (Preview) Alanon has given me much relief, but I do realize that my hesitations with the program, have been because of my fear with all the work I need to do. I take my own personal insecurities out on him. This has not been AT all healthy as he has been trying to get sober. It's been an on off battle, but he is fighting h...	astallaslions	13	552	Mar 5, 2014 by bud
	New Here but not new to Alanon (Preview) I am feeling so awful today about something I did. I am new here but not new to Alanon I have been to meetings many times and have worked a program for years but this situation for me seems to be tougher than my own was. I have a brother younger that is married to an Alcoholic and it breaks my heart. He isn't rea...	jacob53	7	274	Mar 5, 2014 by bud
	Struggling today .. (Preview) I just need some extra prayers today from my MIP family .. I think I'm definitely HHALT'ing. The hormones are in deep and it's not always easy to deal with that to say the least. This was a hard weekend and there were some high points .. just disappointed that the STBAX is being an alcoholic or at least a...	SerenityRUS	13	508	Mar 5, 2014 by wornoutmrsfixit
	Confused feelings (Preview) My ex-partner and I split up in a terrible way about 3 weeks ago. He's an alcoholic who stopped drinking in January, went to the AA and met a woman there a week later with whom he cheated on me. I packed his stuff and had him leave our apartment. After that he started to drink again. He was agressive and verba...	CKCS	12	555	Mar 5, 2014 by CKCS
	Went to my first meeting today (Preview) Hi I went to my first meeting today and it was very helpful. I finally cried about this mess and it felt good. The group I met with were so warm and welcoming. We talked about realizing we are powerless over this disease. I know I can't do anything about it, it just felt good to say that to people face to face....	Snowflake74	8	415	Mar 4, 2014 by Tulip
	He died but he didn't (Preview) My early Al-Anon sponsor Don T, I was told passed away several years ago last month. I believe that because it was my first sponsor who told me that and she brokered me off to him. (I didn't do my lessons good...just like school so she fired me and brought me to him). Only one of the things he taught me wh...	Jerry F	11	438	Mar 4, 2014 by Jozie
	Removing the "In" & Gaining My "Sanity"... (Preview) Before I Go into My Rant... I Just want to THANK All that Prayed for My Aunt, She is Doing Well, and We wont know untill her appt in 2wks if Chemo or Radiation are necessary...So Thank you all that Said a Prayer for her Surgery yest., she is doing Great & I'm Most Grateful indeed :) NOW...lol...Do ya Eve...	Jozie	5	465	Mar 4, 2014 by Jozie
	what do you suggest when adult child takes her whole script addrell dependancy (Preview) My daughter is 24 and is addicted to addrell. Has been for a couple of years. Gives her the opposite effect and is very ineffective; doesn't work and can't hold a job if she doesn't have her pillls. She is very dependant on me for everything. I became sick over the last couple of weeks (like hospitali...	dibsylou	13	534	Mar 4, 2014 by grateful2be
	Rain (Preview) Good Morning All We finally have rain. Been up since 2am just listening to the rain and loving it. The power has been going off and on with the lighting outside. I'm going to try and get a little more sleep but I'm grateful for the welcoming rain. Have a peaceful Saturday ((( hugs )))	Cathyinaz	5	239	Mar 4, 2014 by lgnutah
	New to Al-Anon...To drink or Not? (Preview) Hello Im new to this site and new to the whole Al Anon process. I came across this site Friday night after I caught my husband for the 100th time hiding alcohol (Its been about 2 years that he's had a problem). I was desperate and hopeless and went online to search for answers and came across this site which...	LucyLynn	11	848	Mar 4, 2014 by astallaslions
	Please don't come (Preview) My son has been calling me but I haven't answered. He isn't leaving any messages or texting me so I don't know whats up. I can only pray he is OK but he doesn't show up here because I can't have him. I don't like it when we tries and calls me. I don't want to hear from him at all right now. I like my peace and want...	Cathyinaz	13	500	Mar 3, 2014 by jillybean1
	Step One (Preview) http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t56896923/alanon-step-one/	hotrod	2	279	Mar 3, 2014 by lgnutah
	Parents of As (Preview) Have any other parents of adult As thought about how to prevent your estate from becoming your As party (til the money is gone)? I belong to NAMI, as my son is bi polar, and there is a speaker coming to our meeting next week who is going to talk with us about this very issue. With my daughter being an active...	lgnutah	13	600	Mar 3, 2014 by lgnutah
	Weather!!! (Preview) Sometimes this weather gets me gloomy especially at work. I pray to live just for the moment.. I have to add that I see my son a bit more productive. Stepping back into his meetings slowly and all kinds of people are crossing his path. I believe god speaks through people. But it's the past that I can not see...	Gaby	3	310	Mar 3, 2014 by Jerry F
	New...Please HELP! help alcohol husband hiding alcohol (Preview) I am new to this. Don't really know where to begin... Ive come to the realization my husband IS a alcoholic and will probably NEVER change. We are both 31, been married 7 years and have two children age 3 and 18mo. A few years ago when i was pregnant with our daughter i noticed he started to drink very heavil...	LucyLynn	11	8328	Mar 3, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	Dealiing with family members (Preview) I am working on learning how to deal with family dynamics and I have been getting a lot better. I have been having a struggle with my Brother in law. He likes to make these comments about how I am not bubbly enough and he says I am just not fun enough. He also calls me "grandma" often when he is refe...	daisy31	10	532	Mar 3, 2014 by maryjane
	Male perspective dealing with AW (Preview) Where to begin... my AW suggested I seek out alanon. Having grown up with an abusive drunk father I swore I would never re-live that kind of life. Fast forward 35 years later I fall in love and marry a recovering heroine addict. 6 months in were awesome however recently she relapsed and started todo...	Hollywood	13	512	Mar 3, 2014 by milkwood
	I think my husband has a problem, but he says I'm just nagging (Preview) I'm starting to feel pretty stupid. I've known my husband for 14 years, and yes I knew he drank as a teenager. But, I guess I hoped he'd grow up. He will have one or two (or 3...) beers or glasses of wine just about nightly. But I dread the weekends. From Friday night until Saturday night he drinks. It's not...	ashcrash	5	758	Mar 2, 2014 by tortuga
	consequences of pretending (Preview) Oh how denial runs deep and how easy it is to slip into a seemly easier path of least resistance by pretending. Only, it's not like being a child and playing dress up or being a favorite super-hero. I often think of the children's book, "The Velveteen Rabbit", when the rabbit asks, "...	bud	18	634	Mar 2, 2014 by bud
	I said no (Preview) This weekend marks 16 days since by boyfriend crawled into a bottle. Last night after dropping my children off with their Dad I returned to town to pick up his teenage daughter from their house. Normally I would spend the weekend there, but not when he is like this. I went inside and he was on the couch cry...	Snowflake74	11	551	Mar 2, 2014 by MorningGlory
	10 year old asking .'s (Preview) Hi all, I have been reading many many posts, over the last several weeks- so I almost feel like I know some of you.... like in real life , I have been too shy, embarrassed, unworthy- etc etc- to share, but so many of you have such meaningful, healthy, outlooks and ideas for growth that I must ask a question t...	Tan	11	2479	Mar 2, 2014 by Breakingfree
	my parents "favor" alcoholic son.... (Preview) my 38 year old A son is definitely the "favorite" of all of the 8 grandchildren. (none who are cursed with this fatal disease) my parents do EVERYTHING for him and little for the others. he is active in his addiction and not working. my parents pay ALL of his bills. they babysit for his son...	debhud	5	378	Mar 2, 2014 by Breakingfree
	Back to the same old thing again..... (Preview) I have been working so much, that today was the first day after few days of not being here with my family supporter. My husband relapse four weeks straight with drinking after being sober for two and half year. The last time that I think of that he has told me was the firs day he came home and retired from th...	NavySealWife	3	403	Mar 2, 2014 by Breakingfree
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