The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Hi all, just wanting to know what kinds of things you say to your sponsees or friends or what your sponsorshave said to you if you felt higher power did not exist. My hus. Going to AA meetings now but refusing to believe in god. It just comes so naturally for me to believe in a higher power... i know we are not supposed to get religious here but I am begging for a spiritual experience for him- and I am thinking he just refuses to see it/ them when they occur.
A higher power does not have to be God. It can be anything. I heard some people in AA use the people/meetings as their HP until things start coming together.
My son uses Astronaut Story Musgrave, Dr. Michio Kaku and a Basketball player ( can't remember his name ) because he thinks they were great people in his life and he wants so bad to be like them.
Let go Let God....
__________________
Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
Refusing to believe in God doesn't mean that God doesn't exist. It usually means that I am not doing my part in the relationship. Open mindedness and listening to the ESH of the Fellowship both Al-Anon and AA helped me to restore my part of the relationship. Without my acknowledgement God always does God's part and today I know that for certain. "If you keep and open mind you will find help" ((((hugs))))
Tan, why are you begging for a spiritual experience for him? Why is this so important for you? When I felt like this with my ex it was about my fears and wanting it all to turn out my way. He has a higher power even if he never acknowledges it and his spiritual experience is between them. Alanon is not about religion, im not religious and I have a hp, my belief came gradually and noone else was involved.
-- Edited by el-cee on Saturday 8th of March 2014 03:14:49 AM
You said it- I was thinking this myself- I and pray for him- but it's between THEM- thanks for helping me get centered -as I type he's I the spare room still sleeping- usually a sure sign that it wasn't a meeting he went to last might- this is not me battle to fight! Serenity!!!!
Good awareness, Tan. This is not your fight. His HP is there whether or not he acknowledges it.
I totally got out of the way with my hubby and his HP too. He would want to go to church and hold hands ands "be close" and I felt like he was 1. bothering me and 2. not concentrating on what he needed to have with his own HP. At Christmas when I went with him to a service he was playing on his telephone.
So I quit going to church with him. I don't know what he does now. I like to think he doesn't play on his phone, but I don't know and that makes me feel better about it. It is truly between him and his own HP, even if he doesn't believe in one.
