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Loneliness and HP's meeting the need
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Being retired with no responsibilities has been a new experience for me. It has been a delightfully new experience with many reasons for gratitude every day for me. During the winter season, it has also brought some real challenges. One of them being loneliness as I have been snowed in or iced in or...
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grateful2be
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Newbie needs advice
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Hello all my boyfriend finally came clean to me last Monday and told me he was an alcoholic..he basically disappeared the weekend prior and went on a drinking bing, I felt lost... I cried and couldn't understand what I did wrong... Well when he finally told me, it all seemed to make sense....I wish I co...
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Abg321
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Summertime, and the livin is easy...
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What a day. I had so much fun! And also I was aware of the fact that I was having fun and the huge contrast to myself even 12 months ago and I was oh so grateful for it. So I suppose i was kinda introspective while I was outwardly enjoying my day for all it was worth. Daughter's friends and their mother did not sh...
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missmeliss
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ESH and Guidance Needed; Feeling Stuck In Recovery
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I haven't visited the board for a couple months. I'm feeling like I have no direction. Reading on the forum tonight I came across a couple of posts that I'd like to quote here and comment on because they touch on what I'm dealing with at this point. Betty wrote, in reference to working Step One: "...
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Spur
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ODAT and C2C 1-23
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ODAT for today emphasizes that learning how to use the Al-Anon program, in every part of our life is not a simple matter. The reading point out that walking the walk, in every part of our life, requires more than going to a meeting now and then. . It compares learning the alanon program to deciding t...
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hotrod
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No changes or really half measures
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Hey everyone! TGIF.....so as you know I had my 50th b-day on Monday. My AH who has been sober 9 months and who has never given me a card, present, bday anything for the last 7 years decided he would take me to dinner. Good! Nope bad, he came in late from work because he decided to stay around with the guys and d...
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Flower49
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A pitbull as a service dog??!! I cry BS!! Sort of off topic? I need feedback
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My lease is up next month on my apartment. The complex has been pretty good...one noisy neighbor who didn't last too long...but now they've allowed a family with a Pitbull to move in! I am so upset. I know people here who might have pitbulls will defend them...but facts don't lie. I don't trust them. I as...
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Newlife girl
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Up, down, round and round...
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Things are all over the place. I'm so happy to be moving in to a new place, stressed about the move. Pleased my daughter is getting everything she needs to start high school, stressed that so much has been paid for by my mother. I discussed this with her today, as she as insisting everything had to be paid u...
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missmeliss
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everyone has a story & this is mine as of today
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The last couple of days my Ah have been arguing more than usual. I dealt w/ his abuse by yelling because at the time I thought that was the only way he would really hear me.So, I did the next right thing & called program friends, texted & called my sponsor. One example of something he said was that h...
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Hoot Nanny
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Change scares me...a new job???
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I've been working in the NICU for almost 25 years. My husband got fired from the same unit last March. I still try to cope with my feelings over the issue of him being fired. I still see the manager who "helped" in his firing. I have mixed feelings about it. I was reading online about nurse burno...
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Newlife girl
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Feeling Love
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My AH and I have discussed this over the years. There are days we can look at each other and think "what was I thinking?" and then there are days we can look and think "wow, he/she really looks good". When I was angry and feeling like there was 'nothing' there, I would stop and remind...
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kismetstrand
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lies i have believed
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I didn't think I could do much of anything, but I am coming to realize a lot of things about myself and that is I really don't know too much about my true self,if that makes any sense.I am in school and making straight A's in all classes,Don't get me wrong,I am not bragging,I am completely and utterly amaze...
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mjferg
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Estranged Family
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I am expecting a visit from my brother who I have seen only three times in the last 27 years. We were raised in an alcoholic home. In all these years we have lived in the same state. His wife died in Nov. He is coming to see me. I went to her memorial, but it was really awkward. We talked but I am trying not to frea...
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tooaware
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Sometimes I just feel like throwing in the towel
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I read Betty's "today's alanon reading" and needed to see this...saw it this morning but had to go to work and also i wanted to think and meditate on this and be honest with me..with my HP I just can't accept me wholly yet....I did something real stupid last night and i went "off on me&...
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neshema2
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ODAT Reading 1- 20
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ODAT Reading for today Jan 20 is an extremely powerful page. I had to read and reread it several times before I could accept the principles that were offered. The entire meditation is about patience, and not reacting. It points out the thought that I cannot hurt others without hurting myself. If I s...
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hotrod
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I will survive
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Can't go into it but I survived a bad time w/ my sober Ah.
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Hoot Nanny
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New Member - first post
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It would take me years to get everything I want to say out, Im sure you all have been through very similar things but long story short, My mother has been an alcoholic for 20 years. Ever since I have been in my teens. I am an only child. Fast forward twenty years, my dad left her, I am married with two kids a...
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pilot225
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Newbie
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Hi, I am new to this forum but not new to the program. I really thought I had left this part of my life behind. Not the principles but I hadn't had an active addict or alcoholic in my life a long time. I was a single mom for 16 years and I have been married almost 4 years. My new husband is wonderful but we did...
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Goldm00n
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Hand me down dog
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Hi, I have not checked in for months, although I read posts daily. I just cannot get the consistency thing in life. I do this (AlAnon, workout, eat better etc), feel better, then I stop. I know it's on me to change this pattern. We inherited the sweetest dog. She is ten. I hope she stays with us a while but...
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mm830
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Thought for today...
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"Our hearts do not need logic, they can love and forgive and accept that which our minds cannot comprehend. Hearts understand in ways minds cannot." Lois W. My heart was broken, and my heart was gone. My heart felt like it was stomped on. So how could I read this, and write it down? I once suf...
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DavidG
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where to find free/online help working the steps?
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Can anyone suggest online tools/ebooks/workbook on ways to work each step? So far all I can find are workbooks for the alcoholic.
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Hopefull15
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healing from the inside out
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I came into the Al-Anon program about 8 months ago. God led me to Al-Anon, and I am so thankful. I began working my program immediately. Through the Twelve Steps and Traditions, the slogans, the daily readings, the meetings, the shares and the service work, I have felt myself healing. I quickly worked...
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cloudyskies
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Getting ah out of my head
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I am trying to get my ah out of my head and heart. I am still grieving after him being gone for 6 months. i can not seem to think straight,focus or trust myself with big decisions.i need to get my tax returns prepared for my accountant and have them mailed first week in feb i can not even start them and it will...
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Mirandac
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Too Many Emotions
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I am the wife of an alcoholic. He is 62 days sober today and I am so very proud of his progress and commitment to sobriety. He is taking an active role in our family again, helping out around our household and best of all just present in the day, which is something we haven't experienced in about the last 3...
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CDOD
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Spiritual Awakenings
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I was raised in a household that went to church 3 times a week. This wasn't just a 'go to church and listen to the sermon" type religion. This was a church that taught its members how to understand and then teach others what the bible message was. We had study aids, books and magazines with questions...
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kismetstrand
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Jan 22 readings
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C2C reading for today speaks about the power of detachment. It points out that living with active alcoholism is confusing and unsettling so that we often develop negative coping tools in order to have some semblance of order in our lives. Some of these tools are destructive and we need to change t...
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hotrod
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Questions about the Alateen board...
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Does Alanon have oversight of the Alateen board...? The board has not had any active members for a while. I see that there is a call for funding from members for $50 or $60... ...all groups should be self supporting, including Alateen. But with no members, why should any incoming members have to pay ar...
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DavidG
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the welcome pack
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The alanon welcome pack is the best thing ive ever read. The leaflet on detachment was the best tool ive ever learned and used. It gave me a lot. When i learned to detach with love i got freedom. I learned, i didnt need to suffer because of the actions or reactions of other people. Not to allow myself to be u...
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el-cee
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fear and doubt
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This is something I've struggled with for years though I like to think I've gotten better at. I'm starting my new course next week. It will license me for self employment. I think I could potentially be great at it as I like public speaking though it terrifies me and I do love the freedom of self employmen...
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aquamom23
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Thoughts from ODAT 1-21
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ODAT reading for today offers a great topic to consider and meditate on . The reading is urging us to keep the focus on ourselves , appreciate what we have in our lives and not compare ourselves to others. As I read this meditation I was reminded of the Al-Anon slogan which suggests that we:"...
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hotrod
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im back im stronger
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i am doing okay . im carfull what i say here only because i have ppl who like to ruin my achievement of getting better . im tending a meeting to night i miss everyone. im grateful for what i have ,im grateful im alive today and have my children and new healthy friends. im happy today
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Wisdom67
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trying not to blame the Ah
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This morning in the wee hours I am up again. I am so frustrated & angry w him because he wakes me up every morning to go to the bathroom & to take a BP pill. My dilemma is that I am an insomniac & have been sleeping bad since around Christmas time. So really it is not his fault that he chooses to stay...
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Hoot Nanny
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Fifty
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Well as of yesterday it's official I hit the half century mark. I had mixed feelings on it....reviewed my life, wondered what I had accomplished in all that time, decided it wasn't to much I guess not anymore than any others have done, decided it's only a number, decided I am permanently 48 and then real...
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Flower49
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How is alcoholism a disease?
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Things are all over the place right now and I am really struggling. One thing that I can't seem to get past is the idea that alcohlism is a disease. I feel like if I could grasp that concept I would be better able to see my AH with compassion and acceptance. And I think that would play a big role in detachin...
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searching4peace
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Struggling alot today
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Things appear to be, getting worse with my AD. Losing one job after the other, continued lies, etc. I don't know why I keep expecting everything to just suddenly turn around when she is doing nothing to have that happen. I keep trying to work step one over and over again but honestly feel very overwh...
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serenity47
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Brand New
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Hello all. So brand new to this and going to try to find an Al-anon meeting around my house. We have been in financial chaos and so focused on my AH's recovery that I've barely had time to take care of myself. Be warned I'm in the beginning steps here. AH is about 40 days clean and I'm still holding onto a...
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jwall729
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Needing some advice.
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My boyfriend a recovering opiate addict has been in rehab for 2 weeks now. He called me every morning and every night. Well Saturday we talked and everything was fine and he told me he loved me and he would call me in the morning. Well I never heard from him and I still haven't. It's been 2 days and it's very u...
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Nailsxtacks
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This just isn't going to go the way I want.
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And maybe that's OK. It has been years since I spent any length of time with my mother, you might recall I spent 3 days at her holiday house a year ago and almost lost my mind. The thing is a year later and with what I think are more refined and defined boundaries, I have no tolerance for it, and am finding any k...
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missmeliss
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Submission to WSO Al-Anon for our 4th Reader and/or the Forum
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Today, I submitted the first of what I wanted to write on according to the Al-Anon guides for our new reader and/or the Forum magazine. I learned about this opportunity and shared with all of you last week. It took me about a week to actually sit down and write what will be the first of several submissio...
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grateful2be
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Pink Chip
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Welcome Back Mark You have been missed.
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hotrod
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Hitting walls and confused
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I can't find anyone, except for one house, where someone will rent to me without me having a monthly job sourced income. They all want my AH on the lease and that's the last thing I want. I went to see the one property who said she would work with me and I liked it a lot. So, at least this is a positive. My lawy...
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andromeda
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Higher Power is faithful in small and large things
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I often can't sleep, I've long left my alcoholic relationship but my own issues remain.. I was letting a situation regarding my mother wanting me to attend/ work at an event I have turned down a million times and her "talking to" my bf and asking him to "talk to me" to get me to p...
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glad
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Dealing with passive-aggressive co-workers. i have had enough
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Today at work I had an interaction with a co worker that left me wondering if I was crazy. Why do I always end up pointing the finger at myself? Since I started Al anon, I have been more direct with co workers. Basically, the coworker asked me if I needed help. I am a nurse. at first I said no...but then she me...
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Newlife girl
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bad things keep happening and I have no traction
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Today I received a call from the people I sublease my office from. They're expanding and already brought someone on board, are financially backing the new person's rent. The new person is already certified in what I am in the process of achieving for certification. I'll be certified by next year t...
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bud
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Hope for Today... 18th Jan.
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Living at peace with ourselves and others... ...that seems revolutionary and radical to me... after all aren't we supposed to work hard for others... ? wouldn't being at peace with myself be selfish, self gratifying? The old rip-cord idea... don't try to save others until you have pulled your own r...
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DavidG
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Board Moderators Needed and Donations for site funding
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This time of year is when everything comes due on the web sites annual expenses, so if you have the ability please consider making a 5-10 dollar donation to help offset the cost of this site. It is important that the site remains self supporting through its member contributions, and the burden of expe...
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John
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Detachment with AH when kids are involved...HOW??
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Ive been separated from my husband for 4 mos and am having a hard time detaching because we have 2 kids who love and want to spend regular time with their dad. I'll be honest, I am still in love with him and miss him terribly and am having a hard time with the idea that our marriage may be beyond reconcilliati...
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Hopefull15
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Not program related, need advice
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Most of you know that my son plays tennis at tournaments that take weekends to finish. I spend my days sitting around watching tennis matches and all of the other parents have been my friends for many years now. One of my son's best friends has a dad who is a dentist and who is, quite frankly, a very stran...
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andromeda
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Need Serenity/dopey ah
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i have little serenity just sad frustration today. my AH has a sleeping problem but just like his drinking problem,he ejects all help,advice from me and also from people outside. So every weekend he drinks and takes pills,the monday comes and he tells work he didnt get any sleep..well if being in a dea...
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YARNCRAZY
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Today's alanon reading
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C2C January 19 speaks about acceptance of ourselves. It points out that we are all imperfect humans and that we are all still children of God who are committed to growing spiritually and changing. Since we are committed to seeing our limitations and flaws, this page urges us to discard our nega...
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hotrod
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Childhood guilt, depression, the brain and science
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There is an interesting study that might be of help to parents feeling guilty because their children/adult children are/were often depressed - with or without alcohol. Scientists have discovered a link between brain function and excessive guilt in children that can develop into depression in l...
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grateful2be
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Seeing it in myself.
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Tonight my sister called me and asked me if I had a particular movie she wants to watch (I keep an extensive library of movies as well as books, it's a "thing" of mine) and could I set up a computer with the television so she can watch it when she gets here. (The technology in this house is kind of....
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missmeliss
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Lashed out at my ABF over the phone, beating myself up for getting angry at him.
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So here I am working on Step one, and I get angry at my ABF on the phone and lash out, again, I am such an idiot. I haven't seen him since Christmas Day when I walked out after finding him drunk again. Then he started AA, and he keeps telling me how much fun he has there, and hasn't drank a drop since. The onl...
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Katrina324
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Tree houses and muddy dogs.
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I spoke on the phone to my mother today. She is still away and due to return tomorrow. She asked what I am planning for daughter's birthday next Sunday. I remind her that I have said several times it would be nice if we could join her at her beach house for the birthday weekend, as daughter loves it there or o...
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missmeliss
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avoided some quick sand and did it ala Al-anon
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the bio sister appeared on my text again...no worries, i am keeping my distance and i knew she would re-contact me which , again, no worries b/c i am keeping my distance, being nice...not putting myself out there re: hot topics for her to push any buttons...not going anywhere with her but our mutual lo...
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neshema2
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Weird!!!
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My wife and I contacted a virus suspecting that we got it from a member in our home group. Anyhow I don't often get sick and this time I've never been so sick. My wife got some OTC meds from the drug store which I dutifully took yesterday afternoon and night and then wasn't able to sleep and ended up hal...
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Jerry F
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So hard! So frustrated!
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Hi Dear MIP family! I'm working so hard for my baby photos! The drama, the chaos, the insanity- all of which I am choosing to walk through just to have my childhood memories returned to me. For those that didn't see earlier posts, my sister took the entire contents of my parent's estate last year witho...
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bud
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I'm tired...
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I have been really tired lately. I have missed three weeks of my f2f meetings and I feel like I'm floundering for my life preserver. Confusion seems to be clouding my judgment. I've been still so that I could hear God speaking to me. He has given me direction, but then I feel doubt and confusion creeping b...
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cloudyskies
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Working on some things ..
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Darn it I had something typed out and it got erased as I'm having connection issues. I wanted to share some experience that I had over the past weekend, that really tells me how far I've come in the last 3 years and I'm hoping I'm not repeating myself. Sometimes I have a lot to say and sometimes not so much...
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SerenityRUS
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Summary of Today's C2C and ODAT Reading
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The ODA T January 17 speaks about the destructive tools that we, who live with the disease develop over the course of time while living in the insanity. Here is an example of the weapons that most of us use: indignation irresponsible accusations, nagging, tears, hysteria and self-righteousne...
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hotrod
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