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Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

As time drags on from deciding in done with this marriage, im finding ut harder and harder to go home, pkay nice and dake it. I feel my ah is manipulating me every step.of the way. HE had muktiple drunken sex encounters and was caught and yet serms entitled to still bully me and call the shots. He still refu...

el-cee · el-cee

Todays reading is about how we often have a faulty sense of self due to this disease we are all affected by. Our belief systems are often out of date, not based on facts, have little evidence and we seem to cling on to these beliefs as if its all we have got. Letting go of the negative self talk and belief syst...

Debb · Debb

No one really needs to suffer unhappiness and discontent or be deprived of the good things of life. We can find the way out by daily study of The Twelve Steps. This wholesome spiritual philosophy will help us find our way into the light of a good life. "I pray for the willingness to accept the diffi...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

I am a double winner. I have been sober for a long time in AA and just now realizing I have adult child issues. I am going to Alanon and ACA. When I am in an AA meeting and share my experience, after I share I often get cross-talked at in a subtle (but not so subtle) manipulative way that is meant to tear down or d...

runningwife · runningwife

Hello all, I filed for divorce from my AH. This was after many incidents of public intoxication, arrest, OWI, and many more, including losing his job. However, I am still so afraid. I have moved out of the house with the children (which I have sole custody of for now). I am so afraid he will take the childr...

Hope2000 · Hope2000

So I'm struggling again. My next F2F meeting is Wednesday and my AH is actively drinking again. He just finished up probation on his 2nd DUI in 3 years and tonight was the worst he's been in awhile. I have my daughter here this evening so I was doing all I could do to keep him happy and not getting angry with m...

Michelle814 · Michelle814

Adrienne Cassidy Born 10/30/15 at 11:43AM 9 pounds 1 ounce 21 inches long She is a pretty content baby and sleeps alot. Much different from her brother at her age. Hahaha. I am thrilled to have her in my life. Post partum time is hard and I can't get to as many alanon meetings as I'd like but I know that ch...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for November 5 speaks about examining our motives at all times. It points out, if we choose to speak up when something bothers us our motives for speaking will influence what we say and how we say. if I speak because I feel it is the right action for me to take and because I have a need to exp...

Debb · Debb

There is some good in even the darkest troubles that happen to me. I can acquire that knack of searching out the good, and concentrating on it. Much depends on meeting my problems head on, calmly estimating their real character, refusing to exaggerate them and then drowning them out with an inspiring...

Green Eyes · Green Eyes

It's been awhile since I've last posted, but I do try to read your posts a couple of times each week. There continues to be so much amazing support going on this online community- and such great examples of working our programs and keeping the focus on ourselves. Kudos to all of you! As for me, I'm doing pr...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... most of the time I am in the rooms, across the corridor from here; but y'all are never far from my thoughts. My old sponsor left Alanon completely; but I chose to be a lifetime member. My sponsor became a widow and joined the church i go to- her late hubby, as much as she herself, was...

Mirandac · Mirandac

i want to thank everyone for all the love and support during my time of need. I am healing and getting more centered daily. When the crazytrain is in your life, your emotions, feelings and thoughts spiral out of control. I am still grieving and still very hurt, i loved him deeply. One baby step to a t...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

It has been a whirl wind of events and they just keep coming. I'm so not happy because I haven't had a chance to get out and play pool I probably won't for a couple more weeks. I can't find a good groove to get in between the kids and I. Life has been pretty good. A little scary and I just keep trying to do the...

Char724 · Char724

I am new to this. I have alcoholics in my family my whole life. My ex husband had an alcoholic tendancy, and personality. That lasted 10 years. I was also with a guy who didn't drink, but after 18 years of raising my kids and him not committing, I ended that too.I was alone for 6 years until my neighbors live...

PaulaM · PaulaM

Hi, I am new to this forum. I attend al-anon meetings at least once-a-week for the past three weeks and am working the steps, but find myself needing some help/support in-between meetings. My husband and I have a son who is an alcoholic. I now recognize myself as his enabler and codependent that has...

Michelle814 · Michelle814

Tomorrow is my 31st birthday. I am 39 weeks and 3 days pregnant. My daughter and I might share a birthday. I am scheduled to be induced on Friday at 6AM if she does not come before then. The doctor told me today at my appointment that she cannot believe I have not had the baby yet because of medical progr...

Debb · Debb

It is far easier to be honest with other people than with myself. All of us are hampered to some degree by our need to justify our actions and words. Admitting my faults, to myself, to God and another human being, as suggested by the Fifth of the Twelve Steps, will give me a glimpse of the wonderful person I...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for November 4 speaks about acceptance of life on life's terms. The reading points out that the only way to find serenity is to become willing to accept the things we cannot change-- If we do this we will find that acceptance gives us choices. The reading goes on to suggest that having a p...

pinkchip · pinkchip

Nothing to serious, but hospitals and surgery are scary regardless. Appendicitis apparently. Was scary for a bit last night. In the old days, I would have been too messed up to take care of him and all our pets and get up and get back to the hospital after just leaving there 4 hours ago...yawn...

lucymae · lucymae

Not sure if I spelled that right. I live in Wasington. I am now here in Rochester MN at the Mayo clinic with my husband. He has a heart condition, we think. When he started feeling sick about 10 months ago he stopped drinking out of here. I forgot he was still an alcoholic. My life has been crazy. Reacting al...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

So my ah and i are still at a standoff regarding the divorce mediator. . He has started celebrate recovery and went to his first therapy session. Im finding myself feeling conflicted. The loyal kind hearted soul in me wants to rejoice and think he has hit bottom, our marriage will survive. The realist i...

el-cee · el-cee

Thinkjng of the alcoholic in our lives as the big bad one, the one causing all our problems makes a victim out of ourselves and puts them on a high pedestal where they dont really belong. The victim label i gave myself left me feeling hopeless and frustrated, i didnt think i had choices. I felt weak and ash...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

anyone care to.share some thoughts on theze two lovely traits. Im quite sure im dealing with Both. .

pixie · pixie

My ah took the day off yesterday which is not a problem. But while we were out shopping someone from his work text him looking for a couple of phone numbers he has in his phone. Since ah was driving he had me text this person the numbers from my phone while I read them off his phone. I've talked to this person s...

hotrod · hotrod

C2C reading for 11-2 speaks about Step 2 . It points out that the journey toward God is a process. and suggests that,looking objectively at the words, the step states "came to believe" that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. The words are interesting. We c...

Debb · Debb

Listing the good and bad elements in my situation will give me new insight. I will begin correcting my problems by changing myself. I will never try to compel someone else to change, for that would help neither of us. "Knowing that only complete honesty will bring me to self-understanding, I pr...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good Morning everyone! Today's reading is about serenity. Like the writer, I also used to consider serenity as an 'outward' and elusive destination. I always thought it sounded great but I don't think I believed I could ever feel it--- then I started doing the inward work that I needed to do. The qu...

missmeliss · missmeliss

It's hard to believe, but it's been a year this week since I ceased living with abf and struck out on my own. A lot of this post will be about him, I don't say much about him any more so I hope that's OK; he's on my mind tonight as we've just spent a few days together. I am mostly OK and sometimes not; I'm ploughin...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Just FYI everyone - ignore the spammer....I've reported them already!

hotrod · hotrod

Step 8 has been posted Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together!Here is the linkhttp://stepwork.activeboard.com/t61113927/step-8-alanon-11-2015/ Plea...

Iamhere · Iamhere

I am a Royals fan and wondered if anybody else is watching or getting ready to watch the World Series? Game 1 starts in about 5 minutes - may the best team win!!! -- Edited by Iamhere on Tuesday 27th of October 2015 07:04:55 PM

missmeliss · missmeliss

I keep chewing over and over a "problem". It's not really a huge deal but I can't reach a decision and so I'm just spinning my wheels over it constantly and turning a molehill into Mount Everest. So, knowing that my MIP friends are a tremendous group of problem solvers, I'll throw it out to you...

Debb · Debb

I will pause and think before I say anything, lest my anger turns back upon me and makes my difficulties even greater. I will know that well-timed silence can give me command of the situation as angry reproaches never can. "Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and evil speaking be pu...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

I have tov write to handle my panuc. It seems since making this monumental decion mornig pani is my new standard and it scres me. Ive always been a status quo type. . Home is my sactuary. . But in the mirning i wake up sick to my stomach, shaking and forcing myself to breathe. . I know its going to get worse bef...

wonderwoman · wonderwoman

Hi everyone I am new here and think I may enjoy this

Jeanniejox · Jeanniejox

Hi again.....I just needed to put into words, the emotions I have experienced over the past 6 days since splitting with my partner. I think I've experienced every emotion possible. Sadness, lost, lonely, guilty, concern for his well-being. Moments when I feel like running back hoping that everyth...

Scared54 · Scared54

Lately my husband of 28 years is scaring me! We are both drinkers but his consumption and behavior has been worrisome. One night he fell asleep outside beside the fire pit and accidentally Set the flowerbed straw on fire. I woke up to the smell of smoke and found him asleep surrounded by fire. He put...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

So why iS it that now that I have finally decided to leave do the tears just continue to flow. I was always afraid tHat leaving would be as difficult as it's proving to be and I was afraid I would cave. The pain I'm feeling is deeper Than ThaT of anyThing I've ever felT before my husband still hold out hope and...

hotrod · hotrod

C2C reading for today focuses on the "racing irrational thoughts" that swirl about within our mind over and over without stop. These racing, obsessive thoughts are evidence that we can not see clearly what is truly going on and that we must first quiet our minds before taking any ac...

mjferg · mjferg

My youngest daughter is 18 and she has been through a lot,her father passed away several years ago and like a lot of young girls she latched on to a boyfriend when she was vulnerable,they have been together for 5 years and I have seen the unhappiness that this relationship brings,but I have kept quiet un...

KT2015 · KT2015

I've been working really hard lately on detachment with my AH. I have felt very emotionally jerked around over the past week. He's hot and cold. He pulls me in or pushes me away and I can't deal with it. It has been very difficult because there has been a lot going on with someone in my family dying and I...

Debb · Debb

To "Let go and let God" is the way we find peace of mind. Our stubborn self-will can only hinder the working out of our problems. If I really want to be free to build a satisfying life for my self, I must first release the alcoholic from my efforts to direct and control. "May I always keep i...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

For so many years I have been dishonest. I can't seem to shake it. I am going to open up finally about the reality of it all. I haven't been able to share this on here because one of my friends is on here occasionally. So here I go. I have lived w this for many years & I finally want to get it out in the open. I h...

OceanTide · OceanTide

Well I caved and replied to XABF email. I was disappointed in myself, but then I read a few others posts today. I've decided I will be grateful that I removed a lot of the you, you, you and made it I feel, and other I statements. It was definitely not perfect, but every time I can remove one you, followed my s...

Broken513 · Broken513

I bet you all were thinking "Now why don't she write" I have been back from Indiana now for 2 weeks. It was the best decision I could have made for myself to go there as it was much needed. While I was there I would not answer the phone after 8pm when AH called because it was just complaints and...

likemyheart · likemyheart

It's the most wonderful time of the year - for me anyway. I love trick or treaters, bought over 60 bucks worth of candy to give away, no I don't get hundreds of kids, but I can't just give each kid one treat, right? I love the older kids - giving up on being cool for the night to dress up and go knocking; I love kn...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for October 31 speaks about our inner reactions to the ever present "fear "we feel within . The reading explains that as the results of living with this disease, that anytime something" new" or unexpected happens, or the world does not go as we had thought...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

First a huge thank.you to those who.kerp.supporting me. I need your stories and wisdom. Im obsezsung, fretting and starting to get ticked off. . If my ah says one mire time im sorry. . But are you sure you dont want to reconsider. . I may kill him. Slap him at least. And there is offering to hug me? If i shrug...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for October 30 speaks about gratitude as expressed by members of Al-Anon. It points out that one of the most powerful experiences of a new member who enters the rooms and hears people express their gratitude, they (like myself) are often amazed . I could've written this p...

Debb · Debb

Quiet poise can be acquired; and it does have a decided effect on the drinker, who, even in an alcoholic fog, senses a change in us. But even more important relaxing saves wear and tear on our emotions and preserves our own dignity. "Let me turn my thoughts away from the torments of the troublesom...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am finding myself more & more willing to face the day. No matter rain or shine I have the chance to make it better & be there for others. Some of my Alanon friends are struggling & I am doing better being there for them sometimes if I just listen. Prayers are needed for a special friend who can...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

Last nite i slept fitfully but woke up in panic. It seems to ne my new regular response. Ive spoken to.H about me moving in with a friend while we get financials in order. . Hes working with the bank. I said i would want him to agree to.a custody arrangement he said of course it just breaks my heart that you sn...

Iamhere · Iamhere

MIP Family - I put together a document that includes a ton of slogans and more regarding our program of recovery. You can print this out (2 pages) and use it as you wish/choose. I thank each and everyone here who has posted slogans and more so that I could put them in one place. This is a PDF file to protect t...

Debb · Debb

I want to recognize and appreciate the good and lovable qualities of the alcoholic, and not hate him, but the sickness from which he suffers. His gradual awareness of my appreciation of him as a person can rebuild his confidence and self-esteem and create a desire for sobriety. "By love I do not...

Broken513 · Broken513

Well we had some sad news today, my nephews wife passed away suddenly. I still do not have all the details of what happened. When mom called this morning to tell me about it, the death of my sister Kathy this past July came flooding back. I know how much he is hurting and wish I could just be there with him, bu...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

Last nite i slept fitfully but woke up in panic. It seems to ne my new regular response. Ive spoken to.H about me moving in with a friend while we get financials in order. . Hes working with the bank. I said i would want him to agree to.a custody arrangement he said of course it just breaks my heart that you sn...

texasgal · texasgal

I met a man a while back and we have been dating pretty seriously. I met his son and he has been very attentive and loving. Yesterday I was out late from work. My work is close to his home. And we were going to eat dinner together at my home but since I was running late I decided to drop by his home. Their was a car...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for October 29 speaks about" taking offense" when somebody says something unkind about us even if it is true. The reading points out that many of us use that same justification to criticize others, and ease our conscious and justify our unkindness by stating " t...

CoopsMom · CoopsMom

AH and I are hosting a group of 13 for Thanksgiving this year and I am very excited, I love Thanksgiving and I am happy to have a lot of family travel from far to be at our house for the holiday. People are starting to ask what they can bring to help out and the alcohol I know people will bring makes me very nervo...

OceanTide · OceanTide

Today is day 1...today I will try to remain calm inside my head. Today I will not reach out (good or bad) or reply to XAB emails. Today is about me. To the XAB, congrats on a two month chip. I know it has been very hard to achieve with all the guilt and shame you carry. I'm sorry I can't say something in person, b...

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	less patient (Preview) As time drags on from deciding in done with this marriage, im finding ut harder and harder to go home, pkay nice and dake it. I feel my ah is manipulating me every step.of the way. HE had muktiple drunken sex encounters and was caught and yet serms entitled to still bully me and call the shots. He still refu...	Theoceancalls	4	653	Nov 6, 2015 by milkwood
	Faulty sense of self (Preview) Todays reading is about how we often have a faulty sense of self due to this disease we are all affected by. Our belief systems are often out of date, not based on facts, have little evidence and we seem to cling on to these beliefs as if its all we have got. Letting go of the negative self talk and belief syst...	el-cee	4	594	Nov 6, 2015 by andromeda
	Thought for Today ~ Suffering ~ 11/06/15 (Preview) No one really needs to suffer unhappiness and discontent or be deprived of the good things of life. We can find the way out by daily study of The Twelve Steps. This wholesome spiritual philosophy will help us find our way into the light of a good life. "I pray for the willingness to accept the diffi...	Debb	3	496	Nov 6, 2015 by hotrod
	Discouraging Cross Talk (Preview) I am a double winner. I have been sober for a long time in AA and just now realizing I have adult child issues. I am going to Alanon and ACA. When I am in an AA meeting and share my experience, after I share I often get cross-talked at in a subtle (but not so subtle) manipulative way that is meant to tear down or d...	WorkingThroughIt	25	3886	Nov 5, 2015 by tiredtonite
	Filed for divorce (Preview) Hello all, I filed for divorce from my AH. This was after many incidents of public intoxication, arrest, OWI, and many more, including losing his job. However, I am still so afraid. I have moved out of the house with the children (which I have sole custody of for now). I am so afraid he will take the childr...	runningwife	8	787	Nov 5, 2015 by SerenityRUS
	Goodnight! (Preview) So I'm struggling again. My next F2F meeting is Wednesday and my AH is actively drinking again. He just finished up probation on his 2nd DUI in 3 years and tonight was the worst he's been in awhile. I have my daughter here this evening so I was doing all I could do to keep him happy and not getting angry with m...	Hope2000	6	721	Nov 5, 2015 by SerenityRUS
	Sweet baby girl (Preview) Adrienne Cassidy Born 10/30/15 at 11:43AM 9 pounds 1 ounce 21 inches long She is a pretty content baby and sleeps alot. Much different from her brother at her age. Hahaha. I am thrilled to have her in my life. Post partum time is hard and I can't get to as many alanon meetings as I'd like but I know that ch...	Michelle814	8	628	Nov 5, 2015 by Mirandac
	Courage to Change reading 11-5 (Preview) The C2C reading for November 5 speaks about examining our motives at all times. It points out, if we choose to speak up when something bothers us our motives for speaking will influence what we say and how we say. if I speak because I feel it is the right action for me to take and because I have a need to exp...	hotrod	2	607	Nov 5, 2015 by Iamhere
	Thought for Today ~ Searching Out The Good ~ 11/05/15 (Preview) There is some good in even the darkest troubles that happen to me. I can acquire that knack of searching out the good, and concentrating on it. Much depends on meeting my problems head on, calmly estimating their real character, refusing to exaggerate them and then drowning them out with an inspiring...	Debb	2	414	Nov 5, 2015 by Iamhere
	Update and Hello (Preview) It's been awhile since I've last posted, but I do try to read your posts a couple of times each week. There continues to be so much amazing support going on this online community- and such great examples of working our programs and keeping the focus on ourselves. Kudos to all of you! As for me, I'm doing pr...	Green Eyes	2	552	Nov 4, 2015 by Iamhere
	A brief hi, and hello... (Preview) Hi y'all... most of the time I am in the rooms, across the corridor from here; but y'all are never far from my thoughts. My old sponsor left Alanon completely; but I chose to be a lifetime member. My sponsor became a widow and joined the church i go to- her late hubby, as much as she herself, was...	DavidG	3	447	Nov 4, 2015 by Iamhere
	Thank you (Preview) i want to thank everyone for all the love and support during my time of need. I am healing and getting more centered daily. When the crazytrain is in your life, your emotions, feelings and thoughts spiral out of control. I am still grieving and still very hurt, i loved him deeply. One baby step to a t...	Mirandac	8	559	Nov 4, 2015 by Broken513
	Whew .. Glad the week is over! (Preview) It has been a whirl wind of events and they just keep coming. I'm so not happy because I haven't had a chance to get out and play pool I probably won't for a couple more weeks. I can't find a good groove to get in between the kids and I. Life has been pretty good. A little scary and I just keep trying to do the...	SerenityRUS	5	574	Nov 4, 2015 by Green Eyes
	My heart is breaking (Preview) I am new to this. I have alcoholics in my family my whole life. My ex husband had an alcoholic tendancy, and personality. That lasted 10 years. I was also with a guy who didn't drink, but after 18 years of raising my kids and him not committing, I ended that too.I was alone for 6 years until my neighbors live...	Char724	4	699	Nov 4, 2015 by a4l
	New here (Preview) Hi, I am new to this forum. I attend al-anon meetings at least once-a-week for the past three weeks and am working the steps, but find myself needing some help/support in-between meetings. My husband and I have a son who is an alcoholic. I now recognize myself as his enabler and codependent that has...	PaulaM	9	662	Nov 4, 2015 by Dave2554
	Birthday Tomorrow, Baby Coming Soon, AH Doing Well (Preview) Tomorrow is my 31st birthday. I am 39 weeks and 3 days pregnant. My daughter and I might share a birthday. I am scheduled to be induced on Friday at 6AM if she does not come before then. The doctor told me today at my appointment that she cannot believe I have not had the baby yet because of medical progr...	Michelle814	15	650	Nov 4, 2015 by hotrod
	Thought for Today ~ Peace With Myself ~ 11/04/15 (Preview) It is far easier to be honest with other people than with myself. All of us are hampered to some degree by our need to justify our actions and words. Admitting my faults, to myself, to God and another human being, as suggested by the Fifth of the Twelve Steps, will give me a glimpse of the wonderful person I...	Debb	2	426	Nov 4, 2015 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change reading 11-4 (Preview) The C2C reading for November 4 speaks about acceptance of life on life's terms. The reading points out that the only way to find serenity is to become willing to accept the things we cannot change-- If we do this we will find that acceptance gives us choices. The reading goes on to suggest that having a p...	hotrod	1	580	Nov 4, 2015 by Iamhere
	Spouse in the hospital (Preview) Nothing to serious, but hospitals and surgery are scary regardless. Appendicitis apparently. Was scary for a bit last night. In the old days, I would have been too messed up to take care of him and all our pets and get up and get back to the hospital after just leaving there 4 hours ago...yawn...	pinkchip	20	814	Nov 4, 2015 by KennyFenderjazz
	I AM A MARTYR (Preview) Not sure if I spelled that right. I live in Wasington. I am now here in Rochester MN at the Mayo clinic with my husband. He has a heart condition, we think. When he started feeling sick about 10 months ago he stopped drinking out of here. I forgot he was still an alcoholic. My life has been crazy. Reacting al...	lucymae	11	2645	Nov 4, 2015 by hotrod
	so many feelings (Preview) So my ah and i are still at a standoff regarding the divorce mediator. . He has started celebrate recovery and went to his first therapy session. Im finding myself feeling conflicted. The loyal kind hearted soul in me wants to rejoice and think he has hit bottom, our marriage will survive. The realist i...	Theoceancalls	4	638	Nov 4, 2015 by tiredtonite
	them and us stops recovery (Preview) Thinkjng of the alcoholic in our lives as the big bad one, the one causing all our problems makes a victim out of ourselves and puts them on a high pedestal where they dont really belong. The victim label i gave myself left me feeling hopeless and frustrated, i didnt think i had choices. I felt weak and ash...	el-cee	8	701	Nov 3, 2015 by Bethany66
	alcholism and narricism (Preview) anyone care to.share some thoughts on theze two lovely traits. Im quite sure im dealing with Both. .	Theoceancalls	11	944	Nov 3, 2015 by el-cee
	Don't know what to tell them (Preview) My ah took the day off yesterday which is not a problem. But while we were out shopping someone from his work text him looking for a couple of phone numbers he has in his phone. Since ah was driving he had me text this person the numbers from my phone while I read them off his phone. I've talked to this person s...	pixie	9	644	Nov 3, 2015 by Jazzie18
	Courage to Change reading 11-2 (Preview) C2C reading for 11-2 speaks about Step 2 . It points out that the journey toward God is a process. and suggests that,looking objectively at the words, the step states "came to believe" that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. The words are interesting. We c...	hotrod	3	606	Nov 3, 2015 by Iamhere
	Thought for Today ~ Changing ~ 11/03/15 (Preview) Listing the good and bad elements in my situation will give me new insight. I will begin correcting my problems by changing myself. I will never try to compel someone else to change, for that would help neither of us. "Knowing that only complete honesty will bring me to self-understanding, I pr...	Debb	2	350	Nov 3, 2015 by Iamhere
	Nov 3 Hope for Today (Preview) Good Morning everyone! Today's reading is about serenity. Like the writer, I also used to consider serenity as an 'outward' and elusive destination. I always thought it sounded great but I don't think I believed I could ever feel it--- then I started doing the inward work that I needed to do. The qu...	yanksfan51	3	557	Nov 3, 2015 by Iamhere
	My solo-versary. (Preview) It's hard to believe, but it's been a year this week since I ceased living with abf and struck out on my own. A lot of this post will be about him, I don't say much about him any more so I hope that's OK; he's on my mind tonight as we've just spent a few days together. I am mostly OK and sometimes not; I'm ploughin...	missmeliss	18	731	Nov 3, 2015 by tiredtonite
	*IGNORE THE SPAMMERS* - THEY HAVE been REPORTED (Preview) Just FYI everyone - ignore the spammer....I've reported them already!	Iamhere	15	667	Nov 3, 2015 by Iamhere
	Step 8 posted (Preview) Step 8 has been posted Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together!Here is the linkhttp://stepwork.activeboard.com/t61113927/step-8-alanon-11-2015/ Plea...	hotrod	1	373	Nov 3, 2015 by Iamhere
	Off-Topic - Anybody But Me Watching the World Series? ( 1 2 ) (Preview) I am a Royals fan and wondered if anybody else is watching or getting ready to watch the World Series? Game 1 starts in about 5 minutes - may the best team win!!! -- Edited by Iamhere on Tuesday 27th of October 2015 07:04:55 PM	Iamhere	40	1024	Nov 2, 2015 by Iamhere
	Silly problem I need help with :-) (Preview) I keep chewing over and over a "problem". It's not really a huge deal but I can't reach a decision and so I'm just spinning my wheels over it constantly and turning a molehill into Mount Everest. So, knowing that my MIP friends are a tremendous group of problem solvers, I'll throw it out to you...	missmeliss	9	667	Nov 2, 2015 by abbyal
	Thought for Today ~ Pause ~ 11/02/15 (Preview) I will pause and think before I say anything, lest my anger turns back upon me and makes my difficulties even greater. I will know that well-timed silence can give me command of the situation as angry reproaches never can. "Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and evil speaking be pu...	Debb	2	355	Nov 2, 2015 by Iamhere
	panic (Preview) I have tov write to handle my panuc. It seems since making this monumental decion mornig pani is my new standard and it scres me. Ive always been a status quo type. . Home is my sactuary. . But in the mirning i wake up sick to my stomach, shaking and forcing myself to breathe. . I know its going to get worse bef...	Theoceancalls	5	668	Nov 2, 2015 by sandollars
	Just have joined (Preview) Hi everyone I am new here and think I may enjoy this	wonderwoman	4	584	Nov 2, 2015 by Debb
	Day 6 and still hanging in there..... (Preview) Hi again.....I just needed to put into words, the emotions I have experienced over the past 6 days since splitting with my partner. I think I've experienced every emotion possible. Sadness, lost, lonely, guilty, concern for his well-being. Moments when I feel like running back hoping that everyth...	Jeanniejox	11	696	Nov 2, 2015 by Jerry F
	What do I do? (Preview) Lately my husband of 28 years is scaring me! We are both drinkers but his consumption and behavior has been worrisome. One night he fell asleep outside beside the fire pit and accidentally Set the flowerbed straw on fire. I woke up to the smell of smoke and found him asleep surrounded by fire. He put...	Scared54	8	745	Nov 2, 2015 by Jerry F
	oh the hurt. . (Preview) So why iS it that now that I have finally decided to leave do the tears just continue to flow. I was always afraid tHat leaving would be as difficult as it's proving to be and I was afraid I would cave. The pain I'm feeling is deeper Than ThaT of anyThing I've ever felT before my husband still hold out hope and...	Theoceancalls	9	721	Nov 1, 2015 by missmeliss
	Courage to Change Thoughts for 11-1 (Preview) C2C reading for today focuses on the "racing irrational thoughts" that swirl about within our mind over and over without stop. These racing, obsessive thoughts are evidence that we can not see clearly what is truly going on and that we must first quiet our minds before taking any ac...	hotrod	2	534	Nov 1, 2015 by Debb
	My youngest daughter (Preview) My youngest daughter is 18 and she has been through a lot,her father passed away several years ago and like a lot of young girls she latched on to a boyfriend when she was vulnerable,they have been together for 5 years and I have seen the unhappiness that this relationship brings,but I have kept quiet un...	mjferg	8	658	Nov 1, 2015 by mjferg
	Working on detachment (Preview) I've been working really hard lately on detachment with my AH. I have felt very emotionally jerked around over the past week. He's hot and cold. He pulls me in or pushes me away and I can't deal with it. It has been very difficult because there has been a lot going on with someone in my family dying and I...	KT2015	2	510	Nov 1, 2015 by hotrod
	Thought for Today ~ Let Go ~ 11/01/15 (Preview) To "Let go and let God" is the way we find peace of mind. Our stubborn self-will can only hinder the working out of our problems. If I really want to be free to build a satisfying life for my self, I must first release the alcoholic from my efforts to direct and control. "May I always keep i...	Debb	2	538	Nov 1, 2015 by Iamhere
	I am a liar & a cheater (Preview) For so many years I have been dishonest. I can't seem to shake it. I am going to open up finally about the reality of it all. I haven't been able to share this on here because one of my friends is on here occasionally. So here I go. I have lived w this for many years & I finally want to get it out in the open. I h...	Hoot Nanny	19	911	Oct 31, 2015 by Jerry F
	Baby steps (Preview) Well I caved and replied to XABF email. I was disappointed in myself, but then I read a few others posts today. I've decided I will be grateful that I removed a lot of the you, you, you and made it I feel, and other I statements. It was definitely not perfect, but every time I can remove one you, followed my s...	OceanTide	5	593	Oct 31, 2015 by Jerry F
	Finally a chance to write (Preview) I bet you all were thinking "Now why don't she write" I have been back from Indiana now for 2 weeks. It was the best decision I could have made for myself to go there as it was much needed. While I was there I would not answer the phone after 8pm when AH called because it was just complaints and...	Broken513	16	749	Oct 31, 2015 by tiredtonite
	Happy Halloween! (Preview) It's the most wonderful time of the year - for me anyway. I love trick or treaters, bought over 60 bucks worth of candy to give away, no I don't get hundreds of kids, but I can't just give each kid one treat, right? I love the older kids - giving up on being cool for the night to dress up and go knocking; I love kn...	likemyheart	3	508	Oct 31, 2015 by tiredtonite
	Courage to Change Reading 10-31 (Preview) The C2C reading for October 31 speaks about our inner reactions to the ever present "fear "we feel within . The reading explains that as the results of living with this disease, that anytime something" new" or unexpected happens, or the world does not go as we had thought...	hotrod	3	983	Oct 31, 2015 by Iamhere
	to those wives who have div their AHs (Preview) First a huge thank.you to those who.kerp.supporting me. I need your stories and wisdom. Im obsezsung, fretting and starting to get ticked off. . If my ah says one mire time im sorry. . But are you sure you dont want to reconsider. . I may kill him. Slap him at least. And there is offering to hug me? If i shrug...	Theoceancalls	7	658	Oct 31, 2015 by SerenityRUS
	C2C 10-30 (Preview) The C2C reading for October 30 speaks about gratitude as expressed by members of Al-Anon. It points out that one of the most powerful experiences of a new member who enters the rooms and hears people express their gratitude, they (like myself) are often amazed . I could've written this p...	hotrod	3	532	Oct 31, 2015 by hotrod
	Thought for Today ~ Poise ~ 10/31/15 (Preview) Quiet poise can be acquired; and it does have a decided effect on the drinker, who, even in an alcoholic fog, senses a change in us. But even more important relaxing saves wear and tear on our emotions and preserves our own dignity. "Let me turn my thoughts away from the torments of the troublesom...	Debb	2	478	Oct 31, 2015 by Iamhere
	it is getting better (Preview) I am finding myself more & more willing to face the day. No matter rain or shine I have the chance to make it better & be there for others. Some of my Alanon friends are struggling & I am doing better being there for them sometimes if I just listen. Prayers are needed for a special friend who can...	Hoot Nanny	2	311	Oct 30, 2015 by hotrod
	morning panic again (Preview) Last nite i slept fitfully but woke up in panic. It seems to ne my new regular response. Ive spoken to.H about me moving in with a friend while we get financials in order. . Hes working with the bank. I said i would want him to agree to.a custody arrangement he said of course it just breaks my heart that you sn...	Theoceancalls	12	624	Oct 30, 2015 by el-cee
	Al-Anon Slogans & More - Print Out (Preview) MIP Family - I put together a document that includes a ton of slogans and more regarding our program of recovery. You can print this out (2 pages) and use it as you wish/choose. I thank each and everyone here who has posted slogans and more so that I could put them in one place. This is a PDF file to protect t...	Iamhere	10	3062	Oct 30, 2015 by Iamhere
	Thought for Today ~ Appreciation ~ 10/30/15 (Preview) I want to recognize and appreciate the good and lovable qualities of the alcoholic, and not hate him, but the sickness from which he suffers. His gradual awareness of my appreciation of him as a person can rebuild his confidence and self-esteem and create a desire for sobriety. "By love I do not...	Debb	2	515	Oct 30, 2015 by Iamhere
	2 forward 1 back still ahead (Preview) Well we had some sad news today, my nephews wife passed away suddenly. I still do not have all the details of what happened. When mom called this morning to tell me about it, the death of my sister Kathy this past July came flooding back. I know how much he is hurting and wish I could just be there with him, bu...	Broken513	5	562	Oct 30, 2015 by hope(fullone)
	morning panic again (Preview) Last nite i slept fitfully but woke up in panic. It seems to ne my new regular response. Ive spoken to.H about me moving in with a friend while we get financials in order. . Hes working with the bank. I said i would want him to agree to.a custody arrangement he said of course it just breaks my heart that you sn...	Theoceancalls	1	306	Oct 30, 2015 by hotrod
	I did it again :( (Preview) I met a man a while back and we have been dating pretty seriously. I met his son and he has been very attentive and loving. Yesterday I was out late from work. My work is close to his home. And we were going to eat dinner together at my home but since I was running late I decided to drop by his home. Their was a car...	texasgal	8	669	Oct 30, 2015 by Debb
	Courage to Change reading 10-29 (Preview) The C2C reading for October 29 speaks about" taking offense" when somebody says something unkind about us even if it is true. The reading points out that many of us use that same justification to criticize others, and ease our conscious and justify our unkindness by stating " t...	hotrod	5	613	Oct 29, 2015 by Debb
	Thanksgiving and the drinks. (Preview) AH and I are hosting a group of 13 for Thanksgiving this year and I am very excited, I love Thanksgiving and I am happy to have a lot of family travel from far to be at our house for the holiday. People are starting to ask what they can bring to help out and the alcohol I know people will bring makes me very nervo...	CoopsMom	11	888	Oct 29, 2015 by Iamhere
	Today is day 1 (Preview) Today is day 1...today I will try to remain calm inside my head. Today I will not reach out (good or bad) or reply to XAB emails. Today is about me. To the XAB, congrats on a two month chip. I know it has been very hard to achieve with all the guilt and shame you carry. I'm sorry I can't say something in person, b...	OceanTide	5	505	Oct 29, 2015 by OceanTide
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