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kitty · kitty

This morning my mother out of the blue, picked up a book that has been in her bathroom for nearly 8 months or more cd: Beyond the Influence, Understanding & Defeatting Alcoholism by Katherine Ketcham & Wm. F. Asbury. I have always told her about a "trick" I use with books, as I collect r...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Don't know if anyone remembers the "Potato Chip Dance" story that went around as a forward, but I found it tonight on this website. Good one to read when you are so damn frustrated/mad and do not know what to do. www.dodgenet.com/~tzingale/occaison/frame.htm

(May...

chrissy · chrissy

i had a great day!! my daughter wasn't well enough to go to the parade. it was so cold, so we watched it on tv. but we went to our friends house in the city for dinner. it was very nice. there was wine & beer there which i was shocked because my friend is a recovering a too...

Mars · Mars

bless my partner , he got up and out of bed earliy [ well for him ] to come and view a dead wale that was on the beach near our home . i am so pleased he did this . one because my son and i really really wanted to see it , and i want to build memories that are not to do with booze in any way . also ther was a chance he would b...

liliana · liliana

hi my name is Lil. I am new to the boards. I am not new to Al-anon though. I have gone to meetings since 1996. I stopped going about 3 1/2 years ago because it got alittle too gossipy for me. My husband was active in AA at the time and we split up for about 5 months and there was alot of...

Karilynn · Karilynn

Hello everyone, Happy Thanksgiving to my family here. I am greatful for all the love and support you have shown me. Right now my family is snoozing, kitty included. I just got up from a nap. This has been the most blessed, and wondrful day. My A is sober, and he was bouncing around the house this m...

Kim · Kim

I am on a rollercoaster of emotions....I had called a few times. He called back a few times. I had his phone still.....I guess it was my way of controlling him for one last moment. He called for it....I wanted to throw it in the trash as it was the symbol of the betrayal in my eyes. I nstead I drove it to him and...

BlueCloud · BlueCloud

Roomies, I grew up in an alcoholic home. We had a lot of 12-step/self-help literature around and I read a lot with an eye towards how we could solve our family problems. Quite frequently, I would come up with what I considered a *brilliant* solution to a problem and then be heartbroken when noone else...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

THANKS to all of you who were nice to write me in my time of need......here is the update...it was perfect for this AA thought for today........ A.A. Thought for the Day I no longer refuse to do anything because I cannot do it to perfection. Many of us alcoholics use the excuse of no...

captcodee · captcodee

The alcoholic/addict in my life didn't come home last night. He was too drunk to hit the train. The old me would have hopped in the car at 11:30 at night and gone across the city to get him, fuming and resentful all the way. I would have had a fight with a drunk on the phone, trying to MAKE him f...

twopoodles · twopoodles

Hi everyone, this is my first post and I wanted to post in the form of a dear john letter, I have recently broken up with my partner, who is addicted to narcotics and I am in alot of pain and confused. I hope you don't mind my post. Please bear with me. Dear John, Right now I am feeling very sad, an...

mamareich · mamareich

hi. i just wanted to share this. i have recently gone back to step one and began again after a year and a half. i thought i would start with being honest with myself. so here goes........ Alone. I am sick to God damn death of being alone. I am always alone. Here with you or in a crowded place or on a freew...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

i am finally doing the best thing that i could ever do for myself. tonight im having my last cigarette. (i hope) ive never quit before so i hope im one of the lucky ones that only has to do it once. im going on the patch and will wean off that when i am ready. this is a huge step for me. before i never cared to quit b...

sunny1 · sunny1

Good Evening all, It was 2 weeks ago now and I was off to what I thought would be a retreat weekend, Well was I surprised to find out that it was a self awarness course. The course has 4 Steps. That was step 1. Now this weekend is step 2. I think I was able to receive the me...

sallyb · sallyb

Last night we were at home. My a got up and prepared to leave the house at 11:00 p.m. He said he was going to get a beer, did I want anything? Hmm. Um.... no. I didn't want anything. I thanked him for telling me the truth about why he was leaving and to...

whitie · whitie

I'm truly counting my blessings this Thanksgiving. Number 1 on my list is Ala-non and all the supportive people I've come across in the program. Number 2 is the relationship I've built with my HP (thanks to Ala-non). Number 3 are two very close friends that have seen me at my worst over the last couple...

sunny1 · sunny1

Have a great Thanksgiving my fellow friends.... I live in Canada but in honor of all of you, I will remeber to be thankful today aswell. Every single person deserves peace and harmoney. Enjoy your dinners... Love Sunny1

Kim · Kim

Just came back from a crying jag with my therapist. I have reached the inner circle of hell in the past two days...not sleeping, not eating just meandering through a thousand thoughts of "WHY". There is an answer. He is an addict. There is another answer. Because I am co-dependent...

Jeannie · Jeannie

(((((((((((Roomies))))))))))))) Of all the things in my life I am grateful for, at the top of the list is all of you. I wish you all a wonderful thanksgiving. Hopefully a day of peace, goodtimes, family and friends. No matter what tomorrow brings any of us, Friday is another day. ...

Kim · Kim

Hello Roomies: Just wanted to say that today I am thankful that I found this board. I am grateful to all of you for your support. Happy Thanksgiving to all.....may you all have peace and happiness today. Hugs Kim

AlaMom · AlaMom

((((((Everyone)))))) I want to wish each and everyone of you a Happy Thanksgiving. It is so hard for many of us to remember that we have in spite of this disease much to be thankful for. Here are a few things that I thought of this morning and wanted to share. Feel free to add to this l...

Maria123 · Maria123

Hey gang, I can't get into chatroom or even www.12stepforums.net ~ anyone else? or should I just get a Q-tip? lol Maria

ODAT · ODAT

I am so pissed. I was doing the big shop for Thanksgiving this afternoon and my credit card comes up "reported stolen". When I got home I call A at the hospital where he is detoxing and has pneumonia and he says "oops, I cancelled the credit cards when I was drunk last week." Yeah, right... oops. The...

kissers · kissers

I have picked excerpts in the book that seem most important. It would be too much to type everything, so here it goes. Book: How Al-Anon Works for Families & Friends of Alcoholics Becoming Aware We come to Al-Anon seeking change. We want to end our pain, and we tur...

Picowitch · Picowitch

This is actually a joke so please dont get offended - read it all the way down I will seek & find you . . . I shall take you to bed & have my way with you . I will make you ache, shake & sweat until you moan & groan. I will make you beg for mercy, beg for me to stop. I will exh...

Jeannie · Jeannie

I was worried over how to approach my husband about a whole lot of things. Well I din't have to he approached me. We talked for a few hours. More than I think we have talked in a few years. I don't really know how it went. It is amazing, he can still turn things around, but he was being a llot more reasonable t...

sg · sg

First off, my apologizes for my language. So A. comes home happy as a lark talking about starting treatment next wednesday. He will be in out patient treatment for a month. I was downstairs w/him in his office having a smoke and coffee after dinner when he was telling me about how his day went. I listened...

Barbara · Barbara

seems not only will my A husband be here with his A friend but there's a tv marathon on that my son wants to see. There goes my going to the movies to break up the day idea. And no I havent gone to the movies alone yet - Im not going to start on a family holiday! Soooo have a good Thanksgiving everyone - see ya Fr...

Evilynn · Evilynn

And I haven't for the last few days.I spent time with my family and I will be happy to tell you all that my mother is going to 90 meetings in 90 days, well, she is attempting to and has been to meetings twice a day since Friday. I would say I am proud but I don't want to sound like I had something to do with it. She i...

jaja · jaja

Well, my A is still in his motel room but he comes to house every day. Not to stay long but it's funny. He still has not taken any of his possessions or mail with him and when he does come over, he is ever so polite, takes the garbage out. He and our son finish work about 2 hours before I do and he'll stay in...

david62 · david62

Howdy Y'all! Well after a journey which took me through 4 states in 11 days and 4000 miles of driving, I am back home. As some of you know, I too attended the Serenity in Yosemite conference along with other members of this site. Needless to say, I saw so much. What a big beautif...

Barbara · Barbara

The holidays (Thanksgiving, Christmas, Easter) finds just husband, son and I hanging out for the day. We may get together to eat but then we all go off and do our own thing. How do you guys handle the holidays?

kitty · kitty

Whatever an addict admits to, when they are "backed into a corner" (& that means, being confronted, not just feely & openly confessing) they are only telling you a third or a 1/4 of the truth. They lie to themselves, they lie to get what they want, the lie to "keep you off their back". You can...

BlueCloud · BlueCloud

Roomies, Over the past 24 hours I've been slipping. My focus has shifted from where it needs to be--on an important test I'll take shortly after Thanksgiving--to my A, our relationship, and how we can solve our problems. I've been spacing out, not planning my days, and thinking about the relations...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

hi you all wait till you here THIS...... i rescued this ancient 13 yr. old doggie, do a good deed, rescue the poor little thing from being euthanized and i take her home last eve....they said she was outside dog, so i was going to just let her be outside when the weather is good and slowly intro her to be...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

I will not be available to chair Thursday night. Hoping another chair is available. Thanks! Kis

gknee · gknee

Hi all and happy Thanksgiving eve- Ok, My A has not been using for a few weeks now. Sees an addictions councellor and another councellor. No meetings etc. He is not convinced that 12 step is the way. Whatever--its his gig. Some days are good, some not so great--he's a little grouchy and bored and and...

kitty · kitty

Since the ""A" hates me, for the last 6 years I have been back home, w/ my "folks". When I first got home I had nightmares, I kept visualizing my ex husband & addict, standing over me while I would be 'waking up from sleep' or in the middle of the night. Like he must have really been wishing he co...

kitty · kitty

My cats stay indoors. Lastnight I left the door open, where I sleep with my 3 ever loving cats. At 4 am, my mom opened the door for the dogs like she always does. The one lil skinny cat, the grey ghost - Jade is an escape artist... why Hikari bolted, I dunno. The cool air dre...

sallyb · sallyb

I uploaded this avatar tonight - it is my kitty, Cliff, who was my baby for ten years until last week. He was really sick and we decided that it was time to end his suffering before he started to feel too much pain. This was such an incredibly difficult decision, I hated t...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Hello Group, Yesterday evening was such a yucky time for me. My two toddlers have been undergoing treatment for TB for the last five months. One child appeared with swollen lymph nodes November 2004, we have been dealing with this for a year this month. His twin brother developed swol...

nycbt · nycbt

HI ROOMIES HAVE A HAPPY AND SAFE THANKSGIVING. TREAT UR SELF SPECIAL FOR THIS DAY. WE ARE WORTH IT.

hadit · hadit

As the title of this post states, this is just an idea that I had. I have not said anything to anyone about it especially my ex the a. He has stated to me that he does want to stop drinking, and he does want to work on getting back together, but is opposed to going to AA. What I was wondering was would it be a real s...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Wow! Ya know I thought I had a pretty decent handle on how to work my program. If you had asked me how I do that with an active A, I could tell you all kinds of stuff. Now I have been told that when they get into recovery, we just continue to do the same as we would if they were active. O...

ESH · ESH

I sure have been getting a LOT out of the online Al-Anon meetings lately. I am so grateful that I found this place. I get a lot of ideas from all of you on how to take care of myself. One thing that I wanted to share with you is that someone had either mentioned this, or I read it in a post, or...

Cyn · Cyn

I am struggling with this question - I really am. I am a logical person and my therapist says I am trying to rationalize something that is totally irrational. Why do addicts cheat? Why when they have good things in their life do they cheat on them? Why do they make the people wh...

captcodee · captcodee

You hear people often post here about their frustrations with the alcoholics in their lives. I am great with dealing with the alcoholic. Some times I think I have that down pat! When a struggle comes up that requires my attention and focus, I thrive...I have come to a...

Barbara · Barbara

A's friend has been without a car since at least the summer. A has been driving roundtrip about 30miles few times a day each wknd day to bring his A friend back to our house. (His friend has no car). I told A that his car wasnt going to last if he kept doing this but of course he didnt listen. Told A I was NOT goin...

Karilynn · Karilynn

Hi roomies, I know this is a day early and very early (6:30am), but with tomorrow and my work schedule this weekend, I may not get the chance to post. I want to wish each and every one of you, your family and friends a VERY HAPPY THANKSGIVING. While for the majority of us it's about the feast, the fo...

hellion · hellion

Hello everyone. I've just joined the group. I need some help. My husband is just over 30 days into recovery, the first real effort he's ever made to stop drinking and fix parts of his life that need fixing. He is doing everything from supported outpatient care, AA and other groups, to reading and le...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi, Well I picked my husband up from the IOP after detox yesterday. I brought him back to his parents house. He came over this morning to help get the little ones off to school and left for the IOP from here. He is talking about Christmas decorations and presents. I told him about the job, but he says he...

browneyes · browneyes

I don't want my husband to be with us on Thanksgiving if he is high. I told him this and he said "You can't tell me not to go to my own mom's house". And I told him then I did not want to go with him. I am close with his mom and uncle who lives there too. They would be devastated if I did no...

sunny1 · sunny1

Nov 23, 05 Morning all, I have been saying the serenity prayer every morning in hopes that it will guide me during the day. I have been in a really good place lately. I have found that once I let go and let god I am able to let go of the control and realize that I have no control over anyone else but me and I am ab...

nikkilou · nikkilou

HI all, On my way to drive my daughter to school I was thinking what am I thankfull for. Well guess what. I am thankfull for all my friends here. This board saved me and my family. To often I think it and don't say it. SO here I am. THANK YOU ALL I LOVE YOU enjoy the holiday....

captcodee · captcodee

I have had a rough couple of weeks in my own head. I have been really harsh on myself, mostly with expectations. I had a friend on the board remind me that all that internal chatter can remove the direction of God (Thy will, not mine, be done). So last night I decided to phone my sponsor.&nb...

Kim · Kim

so in checking last night (again I shouldn't have) and found another girl..........."Bunny". She was nice enough to enlighten me to their relationship, and was more than graphic. She continued to call me back all night and harrass me with dirty details left on the message machi...

kissers · kissers

my last job I had a new manager come in. He seemed to be nice. He told me about his daughter dying from cancer at the age of 11. My heart went out to him. We went on a few appts and he kept telling potential clients about his daughter dying. It became obvious he was trying to get their sympathy so they would do bu...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

I am so dettached that I don't see what the point is... I don't care to be with him anymore, but I don't want to leave either. He is sick, just as I have health problems. He isn't leaving me because of it, but what is the point in living seperate lives in the same home? josey

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi roomies, I was in the chat room the other day and there was some talk of red-heads, and their hot tempers. LOL. (I resemble that remark) It was all said in fun so I just had to share this joke I got today with you all. I hope I don't offend any blondes out there. If I do please let me know and I will refrain...

sg · sg

A. called me a bit ago. He went thru his assessment and starts out patient treatment a week from tomorrow. I told him I was happy for him. Inside I am irritated, frustrated and want to just sit and cry. I'm so angry at times, so disappointed and very detached.

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	love & acceptance - how to help an A (Preview) This morning my mother out of the blue, picked up a book that has been in her bathroom for nearly 8 months or more cd: Beyond the Influence, Understanding & Defeatting Alcoholism by Katherine Ketcham & Wm. F. Asbury. I have always told her about a "trick" I use with books, as I collect r...	kitty	1	834	Nov 25, 2005 by dori
	"Potato Chip Dance" Story site (Preview) Don't know if anyone remembers the "Potato Chip Dance" story that went around as a forward, but I found it tonight on this website. Good one to read when you are so damn frustrated/mad and do not know what to do. www.dodgenet.com/~tzingale/occaison/frame.htm (May...	wallsal55	3	1816	Nov 25, 2005 by chrissy
	i had a great day! (Preview) i had a great day!! my daughter wasn't well enough to go to the parade. it was so cold, so we watched it on tv. but we went to our friends house in the city for dinner. it was very nice. there was wine & beer there which i was shocked because my friend is a recovering a too...	chrissy	4	794	Nov 25, 2005 by chrissy
	As big as a whale (Preview) bless my partner , he got up and out of bed earliy [ well for him ] to come and view a dead wale that was on the beach near our home . i am so pleased he did this . one because my son and i really really wanted to see it , and i want to build memories that are not to do with booze in any way . also ther was a chance he would b...	Mars	2	771	Nov 25, 2005 by kitty
	my a is in a rage lately (Preview) hi my name is Lil. I am new to the boards. I am not new to Al-anon though. I have gone to meetings since 1996. I stopped going about 3 1/2 years ago because it got alittle too gossipy for me. My husband was active in AA at the time and we split up for about 5 months and there was alot of...	liliana	6	777	Nov 25, 2005 by notsonew1111
	A hopeful Thanksgiving (Preview) Hello everyone, Happy Thanksgiving to my family here. I am greatful for all the love and support you have shown me. Right now my family is snoozing, kitty included. I just got up from a nap. This has been the most blessed, and wondrful day. My A is sober, and he was bouncing around the house this m...	Karilynn	2	885	Nov 25, 2005 by marmare
	trying to let go (Preview) I am on a rollercoaster of emotions....I had called a few times. He called back a few times. I had his phone still.....I guess it was my way of controlling him for one last moment. He called for it....I wanted to throw it in the trash as it was the symbol of the betrayal in my eyes. I nstead I drove it to him and...	Kim	4	797	Nov 25, 2005 by jaja
	Sobriety from Fighting. ES&H Needed. (Preview) Roomies, I grew up in an alcoholic home. We had a lot of 12-step/self-help literature around and I read a lot with an eye towards how we could solve our family problems. Quite frequently, I would come up with what I considered a brilliant solution to a problem and then be heartbroken when noone else...	BlueCloud	3	1355	Nov 24, 2005 by nmike
	UPdate on lost doggie (Preview) THANKS to all of you who were nice to write me in my time of need......here is the update...it was perfect for this AA thought for today........ A.A. Thought for the Day I no longer refuse to do anything because I cannot do it to perfection. Many of us alcoholics use the excuse of no...	rosie light shines	2	828	Nov 24, 2005 by Robinks
	I find peace amid the chaos (Preview) The alcoholic/addict in my life didn't come home last night. He was too drunk to hit the train. The old me would have hopped in the car at 11:30 at night and gone across the city to get him, fuming and resentful all the way. I would have had a fight with a drunk on the phone, trying to MAKE him f...	captcodee	3	880	Nov 24, 2005 by bobump
	Dear John (Preview) Hi everyone, this is my first post and I wanted to post in the form of a dear john letter, I have recently broken up with my partner, who is addicted to narcotics and I am in alot of pain and confused. I hope you don't mind my post. Please bear with me. Dear John, Right now I am feeling very sad, an...	twopoodles	5	728	Nov 24, 2005 by twopoodles
	honesty....... (Preview) hi. i just wanted to share this. i have recently gone back to step one and began again after a year and a half. i thought i would start with being honest with myself. so here goes........ Alone. I am sick to God damn death of being alone. I am always alone. Here with you or in a crowded place or on a freew...	mamareich	2	908	Nov 24, 2005 by abbyal
	doing something for me (Preview) i am finally doing the best thing that i could ever do for myself. tonight im having my last cigarette. (i hope) ive never quit before so i hope im one of the lucky ones that only has to do it once. im going on the patch and will wean off that when i am ready. this is a huge step for me. before i never cared to quit b...	notsonew1111	4	908	Nov 24, 2005 by Vermont635a
	step 2 (Preview) Good Evening all, It was 2 weeks ago now and I was off to what I thought would be a retreat weekend, Well was I surprised to find out that it was a self awarness course. The course has 4 Steps. That was step 1. Now this weekend is step 2. I think I was able to receive the me...	sunny1	1	712	Nov 24, 2005 by captcodee
	Getting Easier! (Preview) Last night we were at home. My a got up and prepared to leave the house at 11:00 p.m. He said he was going to get a beer, did I want anything? Hmm. Um.... no. I didn't want anything. I thanked him for telling me the truth about why he was leaving and to...	sallyb	2	794	Nov 24, 2005 by captcodee
	oh so Thankful (Preview) I'm truly counting my blessings this Thanksgiving. Number 1 on my list is Ala-non and all the supportive people I've come across in the program. Number 2 is the relationship I've built with my HP (thanks to Ala-non). Number 3 are two very close friends that have seen me at my worst over the last couple...	whitie	1	851	Nov 24, 2005 by kismetstrand
	US Thanksgiving.... (Preview) Have a great Thanksgiving my fellow friends.... I live in Canada but in honor of all of you, I will remeber to be thankful today aswell. Every single person deserves peace and harmoney. Enjoy your dinners... Love Sunny1	sunny1	2	593	Nov 24, 2005 by browneyes
	Hello all (Preview) Just came back from a crying jag with my therapist. I have reached the inner circle of hell in the past two days...not sleeping, not eating just meandering through a thousand thoughts of "WHY". There is an answer. He is an addict. There is another answer. Because I am co-dependent...	Kim	4	739	Nov 24, 2005 by browneyes
	I wish each and every one of you.... (Preview) (((((((((((Roomies))))))))))))) Of all the things in my life I am grateful for, at the top of the list is all of you. I wish you all a wonderful thanksgiving. Hopefully a day of peace, goodtimes, family and friends. No matter what tomorrow brings any of us, Friday is another day. ...	Jeannie	5	622	Nov 24, 2005 by browneyes
	Happy Thanksgiving (Preview) Hello Roomies: Just wanted to say that today I am thankful that I found this board. I am grateful to all of you for your support. Happy Thanksgiving to all.....may you all have peace and happiness today. Hugs Kim	Kim	1	705	Nov 24, 2005 by browneyes
	It can be a Happy Thanksgiving (Preview) ((((((Everyone)))))) I want to wish each and everyone of you a Happy Thanksgiving. It is so hard for many of us to remember that we have in spite of this disease much to be thankful for. Here are a few things that I thought of this morning and wanted to share. Feel free to add to this l...	AlaMom	5	686	Nov 24, 2005 by browneyes
	chatroom (Preview) Hey gang, I can't get into chatroom or even www.12stepforums.net ~ anyone else? or should I just get a Q-tip? lol Maria	Maria123	5	978	Nov 24, 2005 by John
	My A cancelled the credit cards (Preview) I am so pissed. I was doing the big shop for Thanksgiving this afternoon and my credit card comes up "reported stolen". When I got home I call A at the hospital where he is detoxing and has pneumonia and he says "oops, I cancelled the credit cards when I was drunk last week." Yeah, right... oops. The...	ODAT	5	946	Nov 24, 2005 by WakingUp
	Al-Anon Book Excerpt #2 (Preview) I have picked excerpts in the book that seem most important. It would be too much to type everything, so here it goes. Book: How Al-Anon Works for Families & Friends of Alcoholics Becoming Aware We come to Al-Anon seeking change. We want to end our pain, and we tur...	kissers	3	1012	Nov 24, 2005 by leo
	the ultimate seduction! (Preview) This is actually a joke so please dont get offended - read it all the way down I will seek & find you . . . I shall take you to bed & have my way with you . I will make you ache, shake & sweat until you moan & groan. I will make you beg for mercy, beg for me to stop. I will exh...	Picowitch	8	1041	Nov 24, 2005 by leo
	Long talk (Preview) I was worried over how to approach my husband about a whole lot of things. Well I din't have to he approached me. We talked for a few hours. More than I think we have talked in a few years. I don't really know how it went. It is amazing, he can still turn things around, but he was being a llot more reasonable t...	Jeannie	3	596	Nov 24, 2005 by leo
	holy xxxx did it hit the fan! (Preview) First off, my apologizes for my language. So A. comes home happy as a lark talking about starting treatment next wednesday. He will be in out patient treatment for a month. I was downstairs w/him in his office having a smoke and coffee after dinner when he was telling me about how his day went. I listened...	sg	6	1167	Nov 24, 2005 by leo
	is it Fri morn yet? Im not getting out of bed Thurs (Preview) seems not only will my A husband be here with his A friend but there's a tv marathon on that my son wants to see. There goes my going to the movies to break up the day idea. And no I havent gone to the movies alone yet - Im not going to start on a family holiday! Soooo have a good Thanksgiving everyone - see ya Fr...	Barbara	4	891	Nov 24, 2005 by kitty
	I am not going to complain about him today... (Preview) And I haven't for the last few days.I spent time with my family and I will be happy to tell you all that my mother is going to 90 meetings in 90 days, well, she is attempting to and has been to meetings twice a day since Friday. I would say I am proud but I don't want to sound like I had something to do with it. She i...	Evilynn	2	891	Nov 24, 2005 by kitty
	He's coming to dinner.. (Preview) Well, my A is still in his motel room but he comes to house every day. Not to stay long but it's funny. He still has not taken any of his possessions or mail with him and when he does come over, he is ever so polite, takes the garbage out. He and our son finish work about 2 hours before I do and he'll stay in...	jaja	1	928	Nov 24, 2005 by twopoodles
	I'm Baaaaccckk! (Preview) Howdy Y'all! Well after a journey which took me through 4 states in 11 days and 4000 miles of driving, I am back home. As some of you know, I too attended the Serenity in Yosemite conference along with other members of this site. Needless to say, I saw so much. What a big beautif...	david62	9	1089	Nov 23, 2005 by david62
	dreading the holidays - anyone else? (Preview) The holidays (Thanksgiving, Christmas, Easter) finds just husband, son and I hanging out for the day. We may get together to eat but then we all go off and do our own thing. How do you guys handle the holidays?	Barbara	11	1059	Nov 23, 2005 by jonibaloni21
	an Addict told me this 20 yrs ago (Preview) Whatever an addict admits to, when they are "backed into a corner" (& that means, being confronted, not just feely & openly confessing) they are only telling you a third or a 1/4 of the truth. They lie to themselves, they lie to get what they want, the lie to "keep you off their back". You can...	kitty	4	1064	Nov 23, 2005 by Jeannie
	Slipping/Getting Back On Track (Preview) Roomies, Over the past 24 hours I've been slipping. My focus has shifted from where it needs to be--on an important test I'll take shortly after Thanksgiving--to my A, our relationship, and how we can solve our problems. I've been spacing out, not planning my days, and thinking about the relations...	BlueCloud	3	703	Nov 23, 2005 by nmike
	i lost my doggie (Preview) hi you all wait till you here THIS...... i rescued this ancient 13 yr. old doggie, do a good deed, rescue the poor little thing from being euthanized and i take her home last eve....they said she was outside dog, so i was going to just let her be outside when the weather is good and slowly intro her to be...	rosie light shines	4	710	Nov 23, 2005 by nmike
	Thursday Nite Chair Needed (Preview) I will not be available to chair Thursday night. Hoping another chair is available. Thanks! Kis	kismetstrand	0	561	Nov 23, 2005 by kismetstrand
	what does supportive mean? (Preview) Hi all and happy Thanksgiving eve- Ok, My A has not been using for a few weeks now. Sees an addictions councellor and another councellor. No meetings etc. He is not convinced that 12 step is the way. Whatever--its his gig. Some days are good, some not so great--he's a little grouchy and bored and and...	gknee	5	979	Nov 23, 2005 by KathyS
	accounting for my work - A h8s me (Preview) Since the ""A" hates me, for the last 6 years I have been back home, w/ my "folks". When I first got home I had nightmares, I kept visualizing my ex husband & addict, standing over me while I would be 'waking up from sleep' or in the middle of the night. Like he must have really been wishing he co...	kitty	2	720	Nov 23, 2005 by kitty
	my cat is out - testing faith (Preview) My cats stay indoors. Lastnight I left the door open, where I sleep with my 3 ever loving cats. At 4 am, my mom opened the door for the dogs like she always does. The one lil skinny cat, the grey ghost - Jade is an escape artist... why Hikari bolted, I dunno. The cool air dre...	kitty	13	1054	Nov 23, 2005 by sallyb
	In loving memory of my kitty cat (Preview) I uploaded this avatar tonight - it is my kitty, Cliff, who was my baby for ten years until last week. He was really sick and we decided that it was time to end his suffering before he started to feel too much pain. This was such an incredibly difficult decision, I hated t...	sallyb	10	932	Nov 23, 2005 by sallyb
	One Day At A Time Is Tough... (Preview) Hello Group, Yesterday evening was such a yucky time for me. My two toddlers have been undergoing treatment for TB for the last five months. One child appeared with swollen lymph nodes November 2004, we have been dealing with this for a year this month. His twin brother developed swol...	twinmom2	7	707	Nov 23, 2005 by Feather
	HAPPY THANKSGIVING (Preview) HI ROOMIES HAVE A HAPPY AND SAFE THANKSGIVING. TREAT UR SELF SPECIAL FOR THIS DAY. WE ARE WORTH IT.	nycbt	2	759	Nov 23, 2005 by Maria123
	Just an idea... (Preview) As the title of this post states, this is just an idea that I had. I have not said anything to anyone about it especially my ex the a. He has stated to me that he does want to stop drinking, and he does want to work on getting back together, but is opposed to going to AA. What I was wondering was would it be a real s...	hadit	5	897	Nov 23, 2005 by jaja
	Sharing only what you know (Preview) Wow! Ya know I thought I had a pretty decent handle on how to work my program. If you had asked me how I do that with an active A, I could tell you all kinds of stuff. Now I have been told that when they get into recovery, we just continue to do the same as we would if they were active. O...	kismetstrand	7	879	Nov 23, 2005 by bob6502
	Online Meetings (Preview) I sure have been getting a LOT out of the online Al-Anon meetings lately. I am so grateful that I found this place. I get a lot of ideas from all of you on how to take care of myself. One thing that I wanted to share with you is that someone had either mentioned this, or I read it in a post, or...	ESH	3	699	Nov 23, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Addicts and cheating (Preview) I am struggling with this question - I really am. I am a logical person and my therapist says I am trying to rationalize something that is totally irrational. Why do addicts cheat? Why when they have good things in their life do they cheat on them? Why do they make the people wh...	Cyn	9	953	Nov 23, 2005 by Dolphin123
	I am SO frustrated!! (Preview) You hear people often post here about their frustrations with the alcoholics in their lives. I am great with dealing with the alcoholic. Some times I think I have that down pat! When a struggle comes up that requires my attention and focus, I thrive...I have come to a...	captcodee	7	706	Nov 23, 2005 by Dolphin123
	ready to scream! someone please help me rationalize this! (Preview) A's friend has been without a car since at least the summer. A has been driving roundtrip about 30miles few times a day each wknd day to bring his A friend back to our house. (His friend has no car). I told A that his car wasnt going to last if he kept doing this but of course he didnt listen. Told A I was NOT goin...	Barbara	3	735	Nov 23, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Happy Thanksgiving! (Preview) Hi roomies, I know this is a day early and very early (6:30am), but with tomorrow and my work schedule this weekend, I may not get the chance to post. I want to wish each and every one of you, your family and friends a VERY HAPPY THANKSGIVING. While for the majority of us it's about the feast, the fo...	Karilynn	2	725	Nov 23, 2005 by chris52
	i need some help with in-recovery irritability, please. (Preview) Hello everyone. I've just joined the group. I need some help. My husband is just over 30 days into recovery, the first real effort he's ever made to stop drinking and fix parts of his life that need fixing. He is doing everything from supported outpatient care, AA and other groups, to reading and le...	hellion	9	1061	Nov 23, 2005 by hellion
	Help! Am I an uncaring shrew? (Preview) Hi, Well I picked my husband up from the IOP after detox yesterday. I brought him back to his parents house. He came over this morning to help get the little ones off to school and left for the IOP from here. He is talking about Christmas decorations and presents. I told him about the job, but he says he...	Jeannie	6	911	Nov 23, 2005 by hellion
	Important Boundry Question (Preview) I don't want my husband to be with us on Thanksgiving if he is high. I told him this and he said "You can't tell me not to go to my own mom's house". And I told him then I did not want to go with him. I am close with his mom and uncle who lives there too. They would be devastated if I did no...	browneyes	7	1002	Nov 23, 2005 by Jeannie
	Serenity Prayer (Preview) Nov 23, 05 Morning all, I have been saying the serenity prayer every morning in hopes that it will guide me during the day. I have been in a really good place lately. I have found that once I let go and let god I am able to let go of the control and realize that I have no control over anyone else but me and I am ab...	sunny1	1	820	Nov 23, 2005 by Barbara
	thanksgiven (Preview) HI all, On my way to drive my daughter to school I was thinking what am I thankfull for. Well guess what. I am thankfull for all my friends here. This board saved me and my family. To often I think it and don't say it. SO here I am. THANK YOU ALL I LOVE YOU enjoy the holiday....	nikkilou	3	741	Nov 23, 2005 by nmike
	My Sponsor (Preview) I have had a rough couple of weeks in my own head. I have been really harsh on myself, mostly with expectations. I had a friend on the board remind me that all that internal chatter can remove the direction of God (Thy will, not mine, be done). So last night I decided to phone my sponsor.&nb...	captcodee	1	705	Nov 23, 2005 by nycbt
	it only got worse (Preview) so in checking last night (again I shouldn't have) and found another girl..........."Bunny". She was nice enough to enlighten me to their relationship, and was more than graphic. She continued to call me back all night and harrass me with dirty details left on the message machi...	Kim	6	1041	Nov 23, 2005 by lildee
	Harassment (Preview) my last job I had a new manager come in. He seemed to be nice. He told me about his daughter dying from cancer at the age of 11. My heart went out to him. We went on a few appts and he kept telling potential clients about his daughter dying. It became obvious he was trying to get their sympathy so they would do bu...	kissers	2	1048	Nov 23, 2005 by lin0606
	Living apart in same home (Preview) I am so dettached that I don't see what the point is... I don't care to be with him anymore, but I don't want to leave either. He is sick, just as I have health problems. He isn't leaving me because of it, but what is the point in living seperate lives in the same home? josey	jrtjosey	6	837	Nov 23, 2005 by sg
	Joke (Preview) Hi roomies, I was in the chat room the other day and there was some talk of red-heads, and their hot tempers. LOL. (I resemble that remark) It was all said in fun so I just had to share this joke I got today with you all. I hope I don't offend any blondes out there. If I do please let me know and I will refrain...	Dolphin123	4	2126	Nov 23, 2005 by notsonew1111
	good news...so why do I want to bawl? (Preview) A. called me a bit ago. He went thru his assessment and starts out patient treatment a week from tomorrow. I told him I was happy for him. Inside I am irritated, frustrated and want to just sit and cry. I'm so angry at times, so disappointed and very detached.	sg	5	866	Nov 22, 2005 by Jeannie
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