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sunny1 · sunny1

Good Evening all, It was 2 weeks ago now and I was off to what I thought would be a retreat weekend, Well was I surprised to find out that it was a self awarness course. The course has 4 Steps. That was step 1. Now this weekend is step 2. I think I was able to receive the me...

sallyb · sallyb

Last night we were at home. My a got up and prepared to leave the house at 11:00 p.m. He said he was going to get a beer, did I want anything? Hmm. Um.... no. I didn't want anything. I thanked him for telling me the truth about why he was leaving and to...

whitie · whitie

I'm truly counting my blessings this Thanksgiving. Number 1 on my list is Ala-non and all the supportive people I've come across in the program. Number 2 is the relationship I've built with my HP (thanks to Ala-non). Number 3 are two very close friends that have seen me at my worst over the last couple...

sunny1 · sunny1

Have a great Thanksgiving my fellow friends.... I live in Canada but in honor of all of you, I will remeber to be thankful today aswell. Every single person deserves peace and harmoney. Enjoy your dinners... Love Sunny1

Kim · Kim

Just came back from a crying jag with my therapist. I have reached the inner circle of hell in the past two days...not sleeping, not eating just meandering through a thousand thoughts of "WHY". There is an answer. He is an addict. There is another answer. Because I am co-dependent...

Jeannie · Jeannie

(((((((((((Roomies))))))))))))) Of all the things in my life I am grateful for, at the top of the list is all of you. I wish you all a wonderful thanksgiving. Hopefully a day of peace, goodtimes, family and friends. No matter what tomorrow brings any of us, Friday is another day. ...

Kim · Kim

Hello Roomies: Just wanted to say that today I am thankful that I found this board. I am grateful to all of you for your support. Happy Thanksgiving to all.....may you all have peace and happiness today. Hugs Kim

AlaMom · AlaMom

((((((Everyone)))))) I want to wish each and everyone of you a Happy Thanksgiving. It is so hard for many of us to remember that we have in spite of this disease much to be thankful for. Here are a few things that I thought of this morning and wanted to share. Feel free to add to this l...

Maria123 · Maria123

Hey gang, I can't get into chatroom or even www.12stepforums.net ~ anyone else? or should I just get a Q-tip? lol Maria

ODAT · ODAT

I am so pissed. I was doing the big shop for Thanksgiving this afternoon and my credit card comes up "reported stolen". When I got home I call A at the hospital where he is detoxing and has pneumonia and he says "oops, I cancelled the credit cards when I was drunk last week." Yeah, right... oops. The...

kissers · kissers

I have picked excerpts in the book that seem most important. It would be too much to type everything, so here it goes. Book: How Al-Anon Works for Families & Friends of Alcoholics Becoming Aware We come to Al-Anon seeking change. We want to end our pain, and we tur...

Picowitch · Picowitch

This is actually a joke so please dont get offended - read it all the way down I will seek & find you . . . I shall take you to bed & have my way with you . I will make you ache, shake & sweat until you moan & groan. I will make you beg for mercy, beg for me to stop. I will exh...

Jeannie · Jeannie

I was worried over how to approach my husband about a whole lot of things. Well I din't have to he approached me. We talked for a few hours. More than I think we have talked in a few years. I don't really know how it went. It is amazing, he can still turn things around, but he was being a llot more reasonable t...

sg · sg

First off, my apologizes for my language. So A. comes home happy as a lark talking about starting treatment next wednesday. He will be in out patient treatment for a month. I was downstairs w/him in his office having a smoke and coffee after dinner when he was telling me about how his day went. I listened...

Barbara · Barbara

seems not only will my A husband be here with his A friend but there's a tv marathon on that my son wants to see. There goes my going to the movies to break up the day idea. And no I havent gone to the movies alone yet - Im not going to start on a family holiday! Soooo have a good Thanksgiving everyone - see ya Fr...

Evilynn · Evilynn

And I haven't for the last few days.I spent time with my family and I will be happy to tell you all that my mother is going to 90 meetings in 90 days, well, she is attempting to and has been to meetings twice a day since Friday. I would say I am proud but I don't want to sound like I had something to do with it. She i...

jaja · jaja

Well, my A is still in his motel room but he comes to house every day. Not to stay long but it's funny. He still has not taken any of his possessions or mail with him and when he does come over, he is ever so polite, takes the garbage out. He and our son finish work about 2 hours before I do and he'll stay in...

david62 · david62

Howdy Y'all! Well after a journey which took me through 4 states in 11 days and 4000 miles of driving, I am back home. As some of you know, I too attended the Serenity in Yosemite conference along with other members of this site. Needless to say, I saw so much. What a big beautif...

Barbara · Barbara

The holidays (Thanksgiving, Christmas, Easter) finds just husband, son and I hanging out for the day. We may get together to eat but then we all go off and do our own thing. How do you guys handle the holidays?

kitty · kitty

Whatever an addict admits to, when they are "backed into a corner" (& that means, being confronted, not just feely & openly confessing) they are only telling you a third or a 1/4 of the truth. They lie to themselves, they lie to get what they want, the lie to "keep you off their back". You can...

BlueCloud · BlueCloud

Roomies, Over the past 24 hours I've been slipping. My focus has shifted from where it needs to be--on an important test I'll take shortly after Thanksgiving--to my A, our relationship, and how we can solve our problems. I've been spacing out, not planning my days, and thinking about the relations...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

hi you all wait till you here THIS...... i rescued this ancient 13 yr. old doggie, do a good deed, rescue the poor little thing from being euthanized and i take her home last eve....they said she was outside dog, so i was going to just let her be outside when the weather is good and slowly intro her to be...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

I will not be available to chair Thursday night. Hoping another chair is available. Thanks! Kis

gknee · gknee

Hi all and happy Thanksgiving eve- Ok, My A has not been using for a few weeks now. Sees an addictions councellor and another councellor. No meetings etc. He is not convinced that 12 step is the way. Whatever--its his gig. Some days are good, some not so great--he's a little grouchy and bored and and...

kitty · kitty

Since the ""A" hates me, for the last 6 years I have been back home, w/ my "folks". When I first got home I had nightmares, I kept visualizing my ex husband & addict, standing over me while I would be 'waking up from sleep' or in the middle of the night. Like he must have really been wishing he co...

kitty · kitty

My cats stay indoors. Lastnight I left the door open, where I sleep with my 3 ever loving cats. At 4 am, my mom opened the door for the dogs like she always does. The one lil skinny cat, the grey ghost - Jade is an escape artist... why Hikari bolted, I dunno. The cool air dre...

sallyb · sallyb

I uploaded this avatar tonight - it is my kitty, Cliff, who was my baby for ten years until last week. He was really sick and we decided that it was time to end his suffering before he started to feel too much pain. This was such an incredibly difficult decision, I hated t...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Hello Group, Yesterday evening was such a yucky time for me. My two toddlers have been undergoing treatment for TB for the last five months. One child appeared with swollen lymph nodes November 2004, we have been dealing with this for a year this month. His twin brother developed swol...

nycbt · nycbt

HI ROOMIES HAVE A HAPPY AND SAFE THANKSGIVING. TREAT UR SELF SPECIAL FOR THIS DAY. WE ARE WORTH IT.

hadit · hadit

As the title of this post states, this is just an idea that I had. I have not said anything to anyone about it especially my ex the a. He has stated to me that he does want to stop drinking, and he does want to work on getting back together, but is opposed to going to AA. What I was wondering was would it be a real s...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Wow! Ya know I thought I had a pretty decent handle on how to work my program. If you had asked me how I do that with an active A, I could tell you all kinds of stuff. Now I have been told that when they get into recovery, we just continue to do the same as we would if they were active. O...

ESH · ESH

I sure have been getting a LOT out of the online Al-Anon meetings lately. I am so grateful that I found this place. I get a lot of ideas from all of you on how to take care of myself. One thing that I wanted to share with you is that someone had either mentioned this, or I read it in a post, or...

Cyn · Cyn

I am struggling with this question - I really am. I am a logical person and my therapist says I am trying to rationalize something that is totally irrational. Why do addicts cheat? Why when they have good things in their life do they cheat on them? Why do they make the people wh...

captcodee · captcodee

You hear people often post here about their frustrations with the alcoholics in their lives. I am great with dealing with the alcoholic. Some times I think I have that down pat! When a struggle comes up that requires my attention and focus, I thrive...I have come to a...

Barbara · Barbara

A's friend has been without a car since at least the summer. A has been driving roundtrip about 30miles few times a day each wknd day to bring his A friend back to our house. (His friend has no car). I told A that his car wasnt going to last if he kept doing this but of course he didnt listen. Told A I was NOT goin...

Karilynn · Karilynn

Hi roomies, I know this is a day early and very early (6:30am), but with tomorrow and my work schedule this weekend, I may not get the chance to post. I want to wish each and every one of you, your family and friends a VERY HAPPY THANKSGIVING. While for the majority of us it's about the feast, the fo...

hellion · hellion

Hello everyone. I've just joined the group. I need some help. My husband is just over 30 days into recovery, the first real effort he's ever made to stop drinking and fix parts of his life that need fixing. He is doing everything from supported outpatient care, AA and other groups, to reading and le...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi, Well I picked my husband up from the IOP after detox yesterday. I brought him back to his parents house. He came over this morning to help get the little ones off to school and left for the IOP from here. He is talking about Christmas decorations and presents. I told him about the job, but he says he...

browneyes · browneyes

I don't want my husband to be with us on Thanksgiving if he is high. I told him this and he said "You can't tell me not to go to my own mom's house". And I told him then I did not want to go with him. I am close with his mom and uncle who lives there too. They would be devastated if I did no...

sunny1 · sunny1

Nov 23, 05 Morning all, I have been saying the serenity prayer every morning in hopes that it will guide me during the day. I have been in a really good place lately. I have found that once I let go and let god I am able to let go of the control and realize that I have no control over anyone else but me and I am ab...

nikkilou · nikkilou

HI all, On my way to drive my daughter to school I was thinking what am I thankfull for. Well guess what. I am thankfull for all my friends here. This board saved me and my family. To often I think it and don't say it. SO here I am. THANK YOU ALL I LOVE YOU enjoy the holiday....

captcodee · captcodee

I have had a rough couple of weeks in my own head. I have been really harsh on myself, mostly with expectations. I had a friend on the board remind me that all that internal chatter can remove the direction of God (Thy will, not mine, be done). So last night I decided to phone my sponsor.&nb...

Kim · Kim

so in checking last night (again I shouldn't have) and found another girl..........."Bunny". She was nice enough to enlighten me to their relationship, and was more than graphic. She continued to call me back all night and harrass me with dirty details left on the message machi...

kissers · kissers

my last job I had a new manager come in. He seemed to be nice. He told me about his daughter dying from cancer at the age of 11. My heart went out to him. We went on a few appts and he kept telling potential clients about his daughter dying. It became obvious he was trying to get their sympathy so they would do bu...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

I am so dettached that I don't see what the point is... I don't care to be with him anymore, but I don't want to leave either. He is sick, just as I have health problems. He isn't leaving me because of it, but what is the point in living seperate lives in the same home? josey

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi roomies, I was in the chat room the other day and there was some talk of red-heads, and their hot tempers. LOL. (I resemble that remark) It was all said in fun so I just had to share this joke I got today with you all. I hope I don't offend any blondes out there. If I do please let me know and I will refrain...

sg · sg

A. called me a bit ago. He went thru his assessment and starts out patient treatment a week from tomorrow. I told him I was happy for him. Inside I am irritated, frustrated and want to just sit and cry. I'm so angry at times, so disappointed and very detached.

txmom · txmom

Good morning all of my wonderful MIP family :) As most everyone knows, I lost my husband a little over 3 weeks ago. After a period of shock and numbness I have spent about a week in the most unbelievable sadness I have ever felt. Until now, I didn't think that it was possible for a human bein...

sg · sg

My A. has seemed on top of the world since he quit cold turkey a few weeks ago. He seems anxious to get his assessment done today and start out patient rehab. I'm happy for him. Sunday I was feeling a bit down on myself trying to figure out why I can't feel the same way about him anymore..about us. Th...

nycbt · nycbt

i can't get into the chatroom and i am getting upset i have tried since 9 the morning and now it is 3:17 pm. i need help -- Edited by nycbt at 15:24, 2005-11-22 -- Edited by nycbt at 15:26, 2005-11-22

kissers · kissers

Hi All! I saw this movie Saturday night. It was a fabulous movie. I paid attention to the character of June Carter. She was such a great woman. She was Johnny Cash's(Johnny=alcoholic, drug abuser) true friend. She loved him but kept her boundaries with him. She accepted him for who he was. Dur...

nycbt · nycbt

I read over the last month of post because I like to paste them and bring them to my doctor so he can see my growth. Just in case I forgot anything it is already written in the post. I wirte everything down. I was amazing myself on the progress I made with in the month. Wow my writing shows me. The things that I h...

tea2 · tea2

All I am able to say at this point is by reading the board lately I feel like it is the story of my life. My ex the A his drinking and marijuana use at age 12, his not willing to be a dad, his enabling parents -his whole family (place a happy face on the family attitude) and the child (our son) who is left goin...

browneyes · browneyes

Hi guys I feel like my h has no clue about anything sometimes!! he just irked me to no end this am He came home yesterday from his "program" and fell asleep. Didn't wake up for dinner or to say hello to anyone. but as we are going to sleep he decides to wake up and rile the kids up and...

hopefortoday · hopefortoday

One of the things my sponsor always tells me is, "nothing is forever." Not the bad, and not the good, either. Not the situation I am in. Not me. Not my happiness. Not my anger. It helps me to remember this when I'm having a bad day - as in, "this too shall pass." It helps me to remember this when I'm ha...

nycbt · nycbt

I HAVE BEEN TRYING ALL DAY TO GET INTO THE CHATROOM SINCE 9:00 AM AND IT KEEPS SAYING IT IS CLOSED. WHAT TO DO.

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

The Magic of Gratitude and Acceptance Gratitude and acceptance are two magic tricks available to us in recovery. No matter who we are, where we are, or what we have, gratitude and acceptance work.We may eventually become so happy that we realize our present circumstances are good. Or we master o...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Foundation First "As we begin to function in society, our creative freedom helps us sort our priorities and do the basic things first."Basic Text pg. 83No sooner do we get clean than some of us begin putting other priorities ahead of our recovery. Careers, families, relationships - all these are p...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Depression All of us go through times of depression. When we were overeating, we may have felt depressed almost continually. We find that abstinence and the OA program lift us out of depression. The outward circumstances of life may not change radically, but by means of our program we experienc...

bobump · bobump

Replying to someone else got me thinking about something I am having a problem with. My A started her new job yesterday. Seemed to enjoy it. Good for her if she is enjoying it. She is getting up at 6:30 for an 8:00 am job. She gets herself ready and nothing gets in her...

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	step 2 (Preview) Good Evening all, It was 2 weeks ago now and I was off to what I thought would be a retreat weekend, Well was I surprised to find out that it was a self awarness course. The course has 4 Steps. That was step 1. Now this weekend is step 2. I think I was able to receive the me...	sunny1	1	666	Nov 24, 2005 by captcodee
	Getting Easier! (Preview) Last night we were at home. My a got up and prepared to leave the house at 11:00 p.m. He said he was going to get a beer, did I want anything? Hmm. Um.... no. I didn't want anything. I thanked him for telling me the truth about why he was leaving and to...	sallyb	2	739	Nov 24, 2005 by captcodee
	oh so Thankful (Preview) I'm truly counting my blessings this Thanksgiving. Number 1 on my list is Ala-non and all the supportive people I've come across in the program. Number 2 is the relationship I've built with my HP (thanks to Ala-non). Number 3 are two very close friends that have seen me at my worst over the last couple...	whitie	1	811	Nov 24, 2005 by kismetstrand
	US Thanksgiving.... (Preview) Have a great Thanksgiving my fellow friends.... I live in Canada but in honor of all of you, I will remeber to be thankful today aswell. Every single person deserves peace and harmoney. Enjoy your dinners... Love Sunny1	sunny1	2	545	Nov 24, 2005 by browneyes
	Hello all (Preview) Just came back from a crying jag with my therapist. I have reached the inner circle of hell in the past two days...not sleeping, not eating just meandering through a thousand thoughts of "WHY". There is an answer. He is an addict. There is another answer. Because I am co-dependent...	Kim	4	694	Nov 24, 2005 by browneyes
	I wish each and every one of you.... (Preview) (((((((((((Roomies))))))))))))) Of all the things in my life I am grateful for, at the top of the list is all of you. I wish you all a wonderful thanksgiving. Hopefully a day of peace, goodtimes, family and friends. No matter what tomorrow brings any of us, Friday is another day. ...	Jeannie	5	578	Nov 24, 2005 by browneyes
	Happy Thanksgiving (Preview) Hello Roomies: Just wanted to say that today I am thankful that I found this board. I am grateful to all of you for your support. Happy Thanksgiving to all.....may you all have peace and happiness today. Hugs Kim	Kim	1	661	Nov 24, 2005 by browneyes
	It can be a Happy Thanksgiving (Preview) ((((((Everyone)))))) I want to wish each and everyone of you a Happy Thanksgiving. It is so hard for many of us to remember that we have in spite of this disease much to be thankful for. Here are a few things that I thought of this morning and wanted to share. Feel free to add to this l...	AlaMom	5	640	Nov 24, 2005 by browneyes
	chatroom (Preview) Hey gang, I can't get into chatroom or even www.12stepforums.net ~ anyone else? or should I just get a Q-tip? lol Maria	Maria123	5	936	Nov 24, 2005 by John
	My A cancelled the credit cards (Preview) I am so pissed. I was doing the big shop for Thanksgiving this afternoon and my credit card comes up "reported stolen". When I got home I call A at the hospital where he is detoxing and has pneumonia and he says "oops, I cancelled the credit cards when I was drunk last week." Yeah, right... oops. The...	ODAT	5	897	Nov 24, 2005 by WakingUp
	Al-Anon Book Excerpt #2 (Preview) I have picked excerpts in the book that seem most important. It would be too much to type everything, so here it goes. Book: How Al-Anon Works for Families & Friends of Alcoholics Becoming Aware We come to Al-Anon seeking change. We want to end our pain, and we tur...	kissers	3	962	Nov 24, 2005 by leo
	the ultimate seduction! (Preview) This is actually a joke so please dont get offended - read it all the way down I will seek & find you . . . I shall take you to bed & have my way with you . I will make you ache, shake & sweat until you moan & groan. I will make you beg for mercy, beg for me to stop. I will exh...	Picowitch	8	987	Nov 24, 2005 by leo
	Long talk (Preview) I was worried over how to approach my husband about a whole lot of things. Well I din't have to he approached me. We talked for a few hours. More than I think we have talked in a few years. I don't really know how it went. It is amazing, he can still turn things around, but he was being a llot more reasonable t...	Jeannie	3	553	Nov 24, 2005 by leo
	holy xxxx did it hit the fan! (Preview) First off, my apologizes for my language. So A. comes home happy as a lark talking about starting treatment next wednesday. He will be in out patient treatment for a month. I was downstairs w/him in his office having a smoke and coffee after dinner when he was telling me about how his day went. I listened...	sg	6	1098	Nov 24, 2005 by leo
	is it Fri morn yet? Im not getting out of bed Thurs (Preview) seems not only will my A husband be here with his A friend but there's a tv marathon on that my son wants to see. There goes my going to the movies to break up the day idea. And no I havent gone to the movies alone yet - Im not going to start on a family holiday! Soooo have a good Thanksgiving everyone - see ya Fr...	Barbara	4	837	Nov 24, 2005 by kitty
	I am not going to complain about him today... (Preview) And I haven't for the last few days.I spent time with my family and I will be happy to tell you all that my mother is going to 90 meetings in 90 days, well, she is attempting to and has been to meetings twice a day since Friday. I would say I am proud but I don't want to sound like I had something to do with it. She i...	Evilynn	2	840	Nov 24, 2005 by kitty
	He's coming to dinner.. (Preview) Well, my A is still in his motel room but he comes to house every day. Not to stay long but it's funny. He still has not taken any of his possessions or mail with him and when he does come over, he is ever so polite, takes the garbage out. He and our son finish work about 2 hours before I do and he'll stay in...	jaja	1	879	Nov 24, 2005 by twopoodles
	I'm Baaaaccckk! (Preview) Howdy Y'all! Well after a journey which took me through 4 states in 11 days and 4000 miles of driving, I am back home. As some of you know, I too attended the Serenity in Yosemite conference along with other members of this site. Needless to say, I saw so much. What a big beautif...	david62	9	1046	Nov 23, 2005 by david62
	dreading the holidays - anyone else? (Preview) The holidays (Thanksgiving, Christmas, Easter) finds just husband, son and I hanging out for the day. We may get together to eat but then we all go off and do our own thing. How do you guys handle the holidays?	Barbara	11	1007	Nov 23, 2005 by jonibaloni21
	an Addict told me this 20 yrs ago (Preview) Whatever an addict admits to, when they are "backed into a corner" (& that means, being confronted, not just feely & openly confessing) they are only telling you a third or a 1/4 of the truth. They lie to themselves, they lie to get what they want, the lie to "keep you off their back". You can...	kitty	4	1015	Nov 23, 2005 by Jeannie
	Slipping/Getting Back On Track (Preview) Roomies, Over the past 24 hours I've been slipping. My focus has shifted from where it needs to be--on an important test I'll take shortly after Thanksgiving--to my A, our relationship, and how we can solve our problems. I've been spacing out, not planning my days, and thinking about the relations...	BlueCloud	3	653	Nov 23, 2005 by nmike
	i lost my doggie (Preview) hi you all wait till you here THIS...... i rescued this ancient 13 yr. old doggie, do a good deed, rescue the poor little thing from being euthanized and i take her home last eve....they said she was outside dog, so i was going to just let her be outside when the weather is good and slowly intro her to be...	rosie light shines	4	663	Nov 23, 2005 by nmike
	Thursday Nite Chair Needed (Preview) I will not be available to chair Thursday night. Hoping another chair is available. Thanks! Kis	kismetstrand	0	510	Nov 23, 2005 by kismetstrand
	what does supportive mean? (Preview) Hi all and happy Thanksgiving eve- Ok, My A has not been using for a few weeks now. Sees an addictions councellor and another councellor. No meetings etc. He is not convinced that 12 step is the way. Whatever--its his gig. Some days are good, some not so great--he's a little grouchy and bored and and...	gknee	5	931	Nov 23, 2005 by KathyS
	accounting for my work - A h8s me (Preview) Since the ""A" hates me, for the last 6 years I have been back home, w/ my "folks". When I first got home I had nightmares, I kept visualizing my ex husband & addict, standing over me while I would be 'waking up from sleep' or in the middle of the night. Like he must have really been wishing he co...	kitty	2	674	Nov 23, 2005 by kitty
	my cat is out - testing faith (Preview) My cats stay indoors. Lastnight I left the door open, where I sleep with my 3 ever loving cats. At 4 am, my mom opened the door for the dogs like she always does. The one lil skinny cat, the grey ghost - Jade is an escape artist... why Hikari bolted, I dunno. The cool air dre...	kitty	13	1001	Nov 23, 2005 by sallyb
	In loving memory of my kitty cat (Preview) I uploaded this avatar tonight - it is my kitty, Cliff, who was my baby for ten years until last week. He was really sick and we decided that it was time to end his suffering before he started to feel too much pain. This was such an incredibly difficult decision, I hated t...	sallyb	10	880	Nov 23, 2005 by sallyb
	One Day At A Time Is Tough... (Preview) Hello Group, Yesterday evening was such a yucky time for me. My two toddlers have been undergoing treatment for TB for the last five months. One child appeared with swollen lymph nodes November 2004, we have been dealing with this for a year this month. His twin brother developed swol...	twinmom2	7	660	Nov 23, 2005 by Feather
	HAPPY THANKSGIVING (Preview) HI ROOMIES HAVE A HAPPY AND SAFE THANKSGIVING. TREAT UR SELF SPECIAL FOR THIS DAY. WE ARE WORTH IT.	nycbt	2	712	Nov 23, 2005 by Maria123
	Just an idea... (Preview) As the title of this post states, this is just an idea that I had. I have not said anything to anyone about it especially my ex the a. He has stated to me that he does want to stop drinking, and he does want to work on getting back together, but is opposed to going to AA. What I was wondering was would it be a real s...	hadit	5	839	Nov 23, 2005 by jaja
	Sharing only what you know (Preview) Wow! Ya know I thought I had a pretty decent handle on how to work my program. If you had asked me how I do that with an active A, I could tell you all kinds of stuff. Now I have been told that when they get into recovery, we just continue to do the same as we would if they were active. O...	kismetstrand	7	817	Nov 23, 2005 by bob6502
	Online Meetings (Preview) I sure have been getting a LOT out of the online Al-Anon meetings lately. I am so grateful that I found this place. I get a lot of ideas from all of you on how to take care of myself. One thing that I wanted to share with you is that someone had either mentioned this, or I read it in a post, or...	ESH	3	648	Nov 23, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Addicts and cheating (Preview) I am struggling with this question - I really am. I am a logical person and my therapist says I am trying to rationalize something that is totally irrational. Why do addicts cheat? Why when they have good things in their life do they cheat on them? Why do they make the people wh...	Cyn	9	899	Nov 23, 2005 by Dolphin123
	I am SO frustrated!! (Preview) You hear people often post here about their frustrations with the alcoholics in their lives. I am great with dealing with the alcoholic. Some times I think I have that down pat! When a struggle comes up that requires my attention and focus, I thrive...I have come to a...	captcodee	7	648	Nov 23, 2005 by Dolphin123
	ready to scream! someone please help me rationalize this! (Preview) A's friend has been without a car since at least the summer. A has been driving roundtrip about 30miles few times a day each wknd day to bring his A friend back to our house. (His friend has no car). I told A that his car wasnt going to last if he kept doing this but of course he didnt listen. Told A I was NOT goin...	Barbara	3	682	Nov 23, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Happy Thanksgiving! (Preview) Hi roomies, I know this is a day early and very early (6:30am), but with tomorrow and my work schedule this weekend, I may not get the chance to post. I want to wish each and every one of you, your family and friends a VERY HAPPY THANKSGIVING. While for the majority of us it's about the feast, the fo...	Karilynn	2	683	Nov 23, 2005 by chris52
	i need some help with in-recovery irritability, please. (Preview) Hello everyone. I've just joined the group. I need some help. My husband is just over 30 days into recovery, the first real effort he's ever made to stop drinking and fix parts of his life that need fixing. He is doing everything from supported outpatient care, AA and other groups, to reading and le...	hellion	9	1016	Nov 23, 2005 by hellion
	Help! Am I an uncaring shrew? (Preview) Hi, Well I picked my husband up from the IOP after detox yesterday. I brought him back to his parents house. He came over this morning to help get the little ones off to school and left for the IOP from here. He is talking about Christmas decorations and presents. I told him about the job, but he says he...	Jeannie	6	861	Nov 23, 2005 by hellion
	Important Boundry Question (Preview) I don't want my husband to be with us on Thanksgiving if he is high. I told him this and he said "You can't tell me not to go to my own mom's house". And I told him then I did not want to go with him. I am close with his mom and uncle who lives there too. They would be devastated if I did no...	browneyes	7	943	Nov 23, 2005 by Jeannie
	Serenity Prayer (Preview) Nov 23, 05 Morning all, I have been saying the serenity prayer every morning in hopes that it will guide me during the day. I have been in a really good place lately. I have found that once I let go and let god I am able to let go of the control and realize that I have no control over anyone else but me and I am ab...	sunny1	1	764	Nov 23, 2005 by Barbara
	thanksgiven (Preview) HI all, On my way to drive my daughter to school I was thinking what am I thankfull for. Well guess what. I am thankfull for all my friends here. This board saved me and my family. To often I think it and don't say it. SO here I am. THANK YOU ALL I LOVE YOU enjoy the holiday....	nikkilou	3	694	Nov 23, 2005 by nmike
	My Sponsor (Preview) I have had a rough couple of weeks in my own head. I have been really harsh on myself, mostly with expectations. I had a friend on the board remind me that all that internal chatter can remove the direction of God (Thy will, not mine, be done). So last night I decided to phone my sponsor.&nb...	captcodee	1	646	Nov 23, 2005 by nycbt
	it only got worse (Preview) so in checking last night (again I shouldn't have) and found another girl..........."Bunny". She was nice enough to enlighten me to their relationship, and was more than graphic. She continued to call me back all night and harrass me with dirty details left on the message machi...	Kim	6	985	Nov 23, 2005 by lildee
	Harassment (Preview) my last job I had a new manager come in. He seemed to be nice. He told me about his daughter dying from cancer at the age of 11. My heart went out to him. We went on a few appts and he kept telling potential clients about his daughter dying. It became obvious he was trying to get their sympathy so they would do bu...	kissers	2	988	Nov 23, 2005 by lin0606
	Living apart in same home (Preview) I am so dettached that I don't see what the point is... I don't care to be with him anymore, but I don't want to leave either. He is sick, just as I have health problems. He isn't leaving me because of it, but what is the point in living seperate lives in the same home? josey	jrtjosey	6	786	Nov 23, 2005 by sg
	Joke (Preview) Hi roomies, I was in the chat room the other day and there was some talk of red-heads, and their hot tempers. LOL. (I resemble that remark) It was all said in fun so I just had to share this joke I got today with you all. I hope I don't offend any blondes out there. If I do please let me know and I will refrain...	Dolphin123	4	1999	Nov 23, 2005 by notsonew1111
	good news...so why do I want to bawl? (Preview) A. called me a bit ago. He went thru his assessment and starts out patient treatment a week from tomorrow. I told him I was happy for him. Inside I am irritated, frustrated and want to just sit and cry. I'm so angry at times, so disappointed and very detached.	sg	5	812	Nov 22, 2005 by Jeannie
	Gratitude and Thanksgiving (Preview) Good morning all of my wonderful MIP family :) As most everyone knows, I lost my husband a little over 3 weeks ago. After a period of shock and numbness I have spent about a week in the most unbelievable sadness I have ever felt. Until now, I didn't think that it was possible for a human bein...	txmom	11	874	Nov 22, 2005 by david62
	Communication? What's that? (Preview) My A. has seemed on top of the world since he quit cold turkey a few weeks ago. He seems anxious to get his assessment done today and start out patient rehab. I'm happy for him. Sunday I was feeling a bit down on myself trying to figure out why I can't feel the same way about him anymore..about us. Th...	sg	4	809	Nov 22, 2005 by sg
	HELP (Preview) i can't get into the chatroom and i am getting upset i have tried since 9 the morning and now it is 3:17 pm. i need help -- Edited by nycbt at 15:24, 2005-11-22 -- Edited by nycbt at 15:26, 2005-11-22	nycbt	3	626	Nov 22, 2005 by chris52
	Walk The Line movie (Preview) Hi All! I saw this movie Saturday night. It was a fabulous movie. I paid attention to the character of June Carter. She was such a great woman. She was Johnny Cash's(Johnny=alcoholic, drug abuser) true friend. She loved him but kept her boundaries with him. She accepted him for who he was. Dur...	kissers	9	775	Nov 22, 2005 by kitty
	reading over (Preview) I read over the last month of post because I like to paste them and bring them to my doctor so he can see my growth. Just in case I forgot anything it is already written in the post. I wirte everything down. I was amazing myself on the progress I made with in the month. Wow my writing shows me. The things that I h...	nycbt	3	567	Nov 22, 2005 by Dolphin123
	similar story (Preview) All I am able to say at this point is by reading the board lately I feel like it is the story of my life. My ex the A his drinking and marijuana use at age 12, his not willing to be a dad, his enabling parents -his whole family (place a happy face on the family attitude) and the child (our son) who is left goin...	tea2	4	653	Nov 22, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Annoyed (Preview) Hi guys I feel like my h has no clue about anything sometimes!! he just irked me to no end this am He came home yesterday from his "program" and fell asleep. Didn't wake up for dinner or to say hello to anyone. but as we are going to sleep he decides to wake up and rile the kids up and...	browneyes	3	638	Nov 22, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Nothing is forever (Preview) One of the things my sponsor always tells me is, "nothing is forever." Not the bad, and not the good, either. Not the situation I am in. Not me. Not my happiness. Not my anger. It helps me to remember this when I'm having a bad day - as in, "this too shall pass." It helps me to remember this when I'm ha...	hopefortoday	4	637	Nov 22, 2005 by Dolphin123
	trying (Preview) I HAVE BEEN TRYING ALL DAY TO GET INTO THE CHATROOM SINCE 9:00 AM AND IT KEEPS SAYING IT IS CLOSED. WHAT TO DO.	nycbt	1	571	Nov 22, 2005 by Dolphin123
	acceptance and gratitude (Preview) The Magic of Gratitude and Acceptance Gratitude and acceptance are two magic tricks available to us in recovery. No matter who we are, where we are, or what we have, gratitude and acceptance work.We may eventually become so happy that we realize our present circumstances are good. Or we master o...	rosie light shines	0	603	Nov 22, 2005 by rosie light shines
	laying the foundation (Preview) Foundation First "As we begin to function in society, our creative freedom helps us sort our priorities and do the basic things first."Basic Text pg. 83No sooner do we get clean than some of us begin putting other priorities ahead of our recovery. Careers, families, relationships - all these are p...	rosie light shines	0	747	Nov 22, 2005 by rosie light shines
	depression or just plain grief (Preview) Depression All of us go through times of depression. When we were overeating, we may have felt depressed almost continually. We find that abstinence and the OA program lift us out of depression. The outward circumstances of life may not change radically, but by means of our program we experienc...	rosie light shines	0	546	Nov 22, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Hard Time Handling..... (Preview) Replying to someone else got me thinking about something I am having a problem with. My A started her new job yesterday. Seemed to enjoy it. Good for her if she is enjoying it. She is getting up at 6:30 for an 8:00 am job. She gets herself ready and nothing gets in her...	bobump	8	804	Nov 22, 2005 by Dolphin123
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