Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Kim · Kim

Well, here I am 2 in the morning. Just back from the hospital. A got his appendix out.....a long night and what a fool I was!!! Taking his belongings from the hospital his phone was there and a call to "kerri" was made Sat. night. I immediately felt as if someone had kicked me in the appendix....

zoomie · zoomie

As I sit here my 15 year old is in her room alseep. She should be in school. I have tried everything to get her to go to school,but she refuses to go. The next thing is the school putting a PINS on her. She did not use this weekend thank God,but her behavior is the same. I'm sooooooooo tired of this mess. ...

kissers · kissers

Hi everyone! I have purchased almost all of the Alanon books and I was thinking I could start a discussion by typing in excerpts from one of the books. Would anyone be interested? If so, let me know and I will set aside time every evening on a weekly basis. I know not everyone has the books, and this may he...

kitty · kitty

Today I prayed: Lord, give me a sign... I cannot go on this way. If I am not to get my beloved Hikari back, give me peace, a sign, let me know. Not an hour later a simultaneous phone call & ring of the doorbell... a neighbor 3 houses down had my fat boy. She siad he insisted...

Barbara · Barbara

ahhhh I HATE it! excuses excuses Last night we talked about going to look for a prelit Christmas tree after work tonight. Called husband at work and he now says hes not sure what time he'll even be home! Doesnt think we should try the place we discussed, doesnt think tree will fit in car, we dont have eno...

Barbara · Barbara

gotten so use to husband calling in sick that when he doesnt feel good on a Sat I wonder if he'll call in sick on Mon - has a doctor apt Tues afternoon so I wonder if instead of just leaving work early he'll blow off work completely that day I need to stop living negatively in the future and just deal with the...

Maria123 · Maria123

Just wanted to let y'all know that Cloud sends her love to y'all. She's w/out a computer these days and she's staying strong but misses everyone and asked me to say hello. ~Maria

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Hello Group, Thank you everyone who responded to my last post about my "a" not quitting marijuana. We went ahead with our weekend at the beach. My boundary was if he was going to smoke it it had to be done when the children were in bed sleeping and away from them and other people. He r...

nycbt · nycbt

After work on Sunday he went out to go to the store to get some stuff. Well after a while I called and he said he was at the store. Then an hour I called and he said he was at the bar getting hammer to come get him. I said no I am not going to get u at the bar. He called again and wanted me to come get him. The old me would...

megan · megan

Hello from Yosemite The conference is over. What a wonderful time of fellowship, learning sharing and healing. A very special thanks to our local hosts for the invitation and the fellowship. I encourage alanoners, if you can, attend a conference. I went to my loca...

sg · sg

We just got back from a weekend at a hotel w/an indoor water park as a family. This had been planned for a long time and a few weeks ago when I told my A. that either he is leaving or I am he asked if he could still come along. I didn't see a reason why he shouldn't. He hasn't drank for two weeks since that last...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi all, I got this at work and wanted to share it with you. The Train of Life Some folks ride the train of life Looking out the rear, Watching miles of life roll by, And marking every year. They sit in sad remembrance, Of waste...

Picowitch · Picowitch

Hi All This morning I have realised that my nickname appears to offend some people and while it would be easy to change it - the name I chose is part of my identity and part of who I am - not merely religious but my lifestyle and as I am currently doing a lot of work on regaining who I am and focusing on who I am a...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

thank you all so much for your wonderful replies. the love i know i deserve i get here. my a phoned this morning saying he didnt go to work, he didnt even call his boss. therefore is probably fired. not too happy here. he was crying and saying he needs help and he's going to get it. whatever. so he went too aa o...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

im at the end of my rope. i've had it. four binges this week. i just can't deal with this anymore. im pretty sure i want my a to leave and get out of my life for good. i don't see how i could ever be happy living in this situation. i just don't feel loved anymore. i feel used, disrespected, and unappreciated. th...

Kim · Kim

My A came back this evening to pick up his laundry. We started to talk about things a bit and we are both feeling a little depressed about the holidays. My A stated that it is a goal of his that we may be able to spend Christmas together. I said that we needed to take it a step at a time, but that a part of my...

nycbt · nycbt

On Saturday the morning was ok. Then toward the evening my husband wanted to take the car and I said no I would drive him to his friends house. On our way to his friends he was presuring me to co-sign a car I said no. He was mad but he got out of the car and went to his friends. So when he was done at his friend house...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Letting Our Defects Go "If [character defects] contributed to our health and happiness, we would not have come to such a state of desperation."Basic Text pg. 34Getting started on the Sixth and Seventh Steps isn't always easy. We may feel as though we have so much wrong with us that we are totally d...

hadit · hadit

The other night the ex calls me, we have been separated for almost three months now. Obviously has a few drinks in him, not drunk though. We had a long talk, he says he is hating the way his life is now. That he is sick and tired of being sick and tired. That he wants his life back, he wants to come home. That h...

kitty · kitty

In Japanese Hikari means the quality of brilliant light sparkiling; or 'enlightenment' - I called him Kumo at first, it means a black & white cloud. Hikari Kumo: http://star_of_asia.tripod.com/ In case anyone didn't see...

chrissy · chrissy

chuck is home for good !!. it was a great night and a wonderful day we had two parties one with his boss parents 50th anniversary and we had a great time chuck didnt even have one drink for the champagne toast i gave him my coke & he danced like crazy . before he would only dance when he was&n...

marmare · marmare

First I have to post that I am being good to myself! I am still doing my readings each day, praying, and reading the posts here. Work has been crazy and it seems everyone is needing an evaluation for their DUI's....must have been a lot of judges and attorneys on vacation during the summer mo...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

http://www.cse.unsw.edu.au/~geoffo/humour/flattery.html

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi all, For those who read my post "If I had One Wish" I shared in that post about concern over a co-worker who smelled of alcohol after returning from lunch. Well I was making myself just plain sick over it, so I thought about how I could talk to my supervisor about my concerns, but not get this co-work...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi all, I went to a great meeting last night on choices, oh wow great shares and great ESH. We all have choices in our lives and it is up to us to make them. Sometimes we make bad ones, and hopefully learn from them, and sometimes we make good ones and we learn from them as well. The best choice I ever mad...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Roomies, (Hope I don't gross anyone out) LOL, I had to share this. My oldest is 6 and my youngest is 2. I also have a 3 year old. And today for the first time ever my 2 year old son sat on the potty and went pee!

I can see the light at the end of the 6 year diaper tunnel. LOL. This sad to in a wa...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Roomies, I have been to some awesome meetings this week. Tuesday was "choices" ( I posted on that one earlier), Thursday was gratitude, and Friday was also gratitude. The ESH has been truly amazing! And then after these awesome meetings I come here, and get some more ESH. I am so gr...

mastiff · mastiff

hi all, i will be out of state and unable to get to a computer for next sunday's am meeting. Can sombody fill in for me please? thanks in advance for you who steps up, lots of love, trina

kitty · kitty

I keep hearing wtvr we lack w/in ourselves, is what we attract in another, as an opportunity for growth. What I have learned from attracting addicts/alcoholics is that I need to learn to put myself first & love myself.

jaja · jaja

I told you he "moved" out last night and I assumed he was drinking again. But - surprise, surprise - he didn't. He is however still in a denial but I can see the fear and a sort of "I'll show YOU' behavior. He called this morning while I was out and left a message that he was calling...

mollyann · mollyann

I am hosting Thanksgiving for my family this year, and I did my shopping today. I was having a pity party for myself most of the day because everywhere I look, everyone seems to be married and there are cute little kids all around. I have a new boyfriend, but he lives out of town, and we don't s...

kitty · kitty

Hello All, This has been a learning experience. God is unceasing in fulfilling the Will Of the The Divine Plan. It doesn't surprise me anymore when I see "the program" overlapping in other areas of our life in recovery. Continually learning the "same lessons over again" I suppose -...

Kim · Kim

Hello all and good morning: I wound up not going to NYC last night but it was nice that it was my own voice of reason and not worrying about my A that kept me home. After taking care of some bills and looking ahead to Christmas, i realized this was not the time to be spending money on a night on the town...

sg · sg

This morning my A. says "I have a question for you. How come you don't have an orgasm anymore." He just doesn't understand. I keep telling him how emotional intimacy, trust, security and safety for my well being is important to me to even get to a point where I can even delve into a fulfilling physica...

Angie · Angie

Its been a month, and grieving process is starting. Just - this is hard. My expectations were in the way , naturally. I have to come to terms with making long term plans. This seems like an unsurmountable task. God has made me strong, sometimes I resent that. I feel like curling up in a ball... ...

jaja · jaja

Last night I was getting to run errands with a borrowed car when my A husband pulled up to let me know the status on my own car which was being fixed by a friend of ours. He was his usual "I took care of it" mode, trying to act just like his normal self. He asked where I was going, said...

Barbara · Barbara

Told him Im going to AlAnon and when/if he's ready he can go to AlAteen (but I wasnt going to force him). We spoke about Dad being grumpy especially after he's had a night drinking.

nycbt · nycbt

Yesterday I took care of my money needs. Because of my husband asking me for money I put the money in a CD for 6 months so it can't be touch. While it is sitting there it might as well collect more interst then it does in the saving account. Well when I got home I placed the envoople of the cd on the bed he picked i...

jaja · jaja

I never knew this place existed and am very happy at having found it! Many years ago I went to Al-Anon for about 2 years as both my Mom and husband were active alcoholics. I found the rooms to be a sort of haven for me and I felt good that I was finally doing something to try and understand...

megan · megan

Hello from the Yosemite,Ca AA/Alanon Summit Conference There is a program of Alanon meetings, AA meetings, Alanon speakers and AA Speakers. This is all set among great natural splendor. Here are some pictures: Maria, David, Megan by Bridalveilfalls, Ha...

Barbara · Barbara

on a Sat morn so not going out at night is a big plus after working fulltime during the weekdays larger meeting actually broke down to 3 separate meetings - 1) topic was Thankfulness 2) begineers and 3) step 8 well I knew I was nowhere near step 8! Ive heard that begineers should attend 6 begineer me...

nmike · nmike

So he said I'll come so we can talk and I can help you out since this separation is hard on you. I said go see your mother and then come by. I told him Saturday I was going to town to get Thanksgiving groceries, go an Alanon meeting, and see my mother. So he stayed in my/our house and I drove 2 hours to my meeting....

Rebecca · Rebecca

how come life is sooooo complicated. its never like that in fairy tales. when i was growing up, i had this rose tinted view of thw world. you grow up, find a guy, fall in love and live happily ever after... how wrong i was. im going to see my "A" 2moro in rehab... 4th sunday running. we spoke on the phone last n...

chrissy · chrissy

after work my husband came over and amanda was at a sleep over so we had a sleep over too lol. we decided that we are going to put our marriage first. and he even gave me money for the bills and rent my brother and the best part it was friday !! i will write more later i know i have a long road a...

Evilynn · Evilynn

I asked him last night if he wanted to break up with me based on him never returning my calls, sleeping on the couch and lack of ANY intimacy. He said to me ''Are we dating?" Then heproceeded to try to make me feel guilty for hanging out with my friends who don't like him. He was sleeping, he is always sleepin...

browneyes · browneyes

Hello everyone First of all, thanks for your support on my last posting. It helps so much! So my husband went to the PO and he sent him to an outpatient program for 10-20 days. He goes M-F 8:00 am-2:30 pm. He came home crying about how am I going to work to support my family? You sh...

Barbara · Barbara

I think after 6wks Ive finally designed a "program" for myself that I believe I can work. Physically - I joined Curves, Mentally - I found a Sat morn AlAnon group and Spiritually - Ive joined a new Church

lmt123 · lmt123

Hi all... This is an update on Danielle, the friend of my daughter who was seriously injured in an auto accident a few weeks back. She is still unconscious, has had plastic surgery on her face to fix broken bones, and is responding to being pinched, or having her nose wiped, etc. But the d...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi, What a weird day. When I got the mail this afternoon, there was something from unemployment for my husband. In case it was important I opened it. it seems after a claims investigator spoke with my husbands boss, they decided to reinstate his unemployment. The check is to follow and will be retroa...

Kim · Kim

OK. Phone call this morning at 7:00 am....pre-coffee experience. Not a good time for me to focus appropriately and detach. I am not the most pleasant person in the morning. It is my stepdaughter's mother on the phone. My A was supposed to see my stepdaughter today and she spoke wit...

browneyes · browneyes

Hello everyone Hope you are well... Just a quck question- This week I have been dealing with a lot of waiting to find out if my husband is going back to jail or not. And a lot of it has been due to him avoiding the Parole Officer and him telling me all about how he is going to fake the test and blah b...

bobump · bobump

Well today my a badgered my 13 yo daughter for money 6 times. The offers included I'll pay you back double, I'll let you hold my engagement ring so you know you can trust me, what can I buy you to get you to give me the money. When she held strong, in between the times the 13 oo refused, she asked me f...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Experience is a good teacher, but she sends in terrific bills. --Minna Antrim It is not by chance but by design that the sorrows we experience throughout our lives are countered by equal servings of joy. One offsets the other. And we are strengthened by their combination.Our longing for only lif...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Accepting Our Feelings Why do we struggle so with our feelings? Why do we work so hard to deny our emotions, especially concerning other people? They are only feelings!In the course of a day, we may deny we feel frustrated in reaction to someone who is selling us a service.We may deny that we feel fr...

cdb · cdb

Hello Friends, I was able to meet my recoverying alcoholic/drug addicted daughter today for dinner and it was a real blessing. The more I have stayed out of her issues, the closer we have gotten. She even shared with me about her meth usage which wasn't much (Thank God). She is able to talk so op...

chilley · chilley

Hi, I am new here. I really don't know where to begin. I believe my husband has a drinking problem but he refuses to acknowledge it. Back when we were just friends he used to drink excessively and pass out everytime we went out. It was a running joke to draw on him, etc. I d...

Kim · Kim

Last night my A called about 10 pm. He was wondering "what was going on with us" as he hadn't heard from me in a few days. I thought he was to call me last and I told him that, as well as that I assumed that he was doing things for him as was I. The conversation went well, for me...... he sounded terr...

flumpy · flumpy

Hi Mikeanon, If you are reading this I hope that you have chosen to post on here, it is a great place full of the most wonderfull people, some of whom don't use the chat room, so if you have I hope you find the strenth and encouragement that you need at this time in your life...We are all her to help eachothe...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi everyone, My husband had his evaluation today. I spoke to him this morning, he told me how worried he was. He said what about the bills? What if I get one of the jobs I applied for etc? Then he said we have another problem, the rehab is $200 a day co-pay and even if I go outpatient there is a co-p...

kitty · kitty

Ok, so my twenties were exciting & still seemed to drag at times. My thirties have flown by, I don't know what is happening to my life. I am so far behind... I loathe dealing with the mail, I must have a pile on my desk 2 yrs old w/ stuff that needs to be shredded. My ex def mad...

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	A good kick in the a$$ (Preview) Well, here I am 2 in the morning. Just back from the hospital. A got his appendix out.....a long night and what a fool I was!!! Taking his belongings from the hospital his phone was there and a call to "kerri" was made Sat. night. I immediately felt as if someone had kicked me in the appendix....	Kim	3	561	Nov 22, 2005 by marmare
	Daughter not doing good (Preview) As I sit here my 15 year old is in her room alseep. She should be in school. I have tried everything to get her to go to school,but she refuses to go. The next thing is the school putting a PINS on her. She did not use this weekend thank God,but her behavior is the same. I'm sooooooooo tired of this mess. ...	zoomie	9	559	Nov 22, 2005 by zoomie
	Input Needed for An Idea (Preview) Hi everyone! I have purchased almost all of the Alanon books and I was thinking I could start a discussion by typing in excerpts from one of the books. Would anyone be interested? If so, let me know and I will set aside time every evening on a weekly basis. I know not everyone has the books, and this may he...	kissers	6	467	Nov 22, 2005 by chris52
	losing hope - Prayers (Preview) Today I prayed: Lord, give me a sign... I cannot go on this way. If I am not to get my beloved Hikari back, give me peace, a sign, let me know. Not an hour later a simultaneous phone call & ring of the doorbell... a neighbor 3 houses down had my fat boy. She siad he insisted...	kitty	6	429	Nov 22, 2005 by leo
	promises/discussions not followed through with - excuses excuses (Preview) ahhhh I HATE it! excuses excuses Last night we talked about going to look for a prelit Christmas tree after work tonight. Called husband at work and he now says hes not sure what time he'll even be home! Doesnt think we should try the place we discussed, doesnt think tree will fit in car, we dont have eno...	Barbara	7	593	Nov 21, 2005 by kitty
	I project myself negatively into the future (Preview) gotten so use to husband calling in sick that when he doesnt feel good on a Sat I wonder if he'll call in sick on Mon - has a doctor apt Tues afternoon so I wonder if instead of just leaving work early he'll blow off work completely that day I need to stop living negatively in the future and just deal with the...	Barbara	5	422	Nov 21, 2005 by marmare
	Cloud (Preview) Just wanted to let y'all know that Cloud sends her love to y'all. She's w/out a computer these days and she's staying strong but misses everyone and asked me to say hello. ~Maria	Maria123	3	402	Nov 21, 2005 by nikkilou
	I feel I'm making progress (Preview) Hello Group, Thank you everyone who responded to my last post about my "a" not quitting marijuana. We went ahead with our weekend at the beach. My boundary was if he was going to smoke it it had to be done when the children were in bed sleeping and away from them and other people. He r...	twinmom2	3	550	Nov 21, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Sunday got stronger (Preview) After work on Sunday he went out to go to the store to get some stuff. Well after a while I called and he said he was at the store. Then an hour I called and he said he was at the bar getting hammer to come get him. I said no I am not going to get u at the bar. He called again and wanted me to come get him. The old me would...	nycbt	6	365	Nov 21, 2005 by lin0606
	Serenity in Yosemite II (Preview) Hello from Yosemite The conference is over. What a wonderful time of fellowship, learning sharing and healing. A very special thanks to our local hosts for the invitation and the fellowship. I encourage alanoners, if you can, attend a conference. I went to my loca...	megan	5	499	Nov 21, 2005 by Karilynn
	No doubts, no second thoughts (Preview) We just got back from a weekend at a hotel w/an indoor water park as a family. This had been planned for a long time and a few weeks ago when I told my A. that either he is leaving or I am he asked if he could still come along. I didn't see a reason why he shouldn't. He hasn't drank for two weeks since that last...	sg	4	420	Nov 21, 2005 by sunny1
	The Train of Life (Preview) Hi all, I got this at work and wanted to share it with you. The Train of Life Some folks ride the train of life Looking out the rear, Watching miles of life roll by, And marking every year. They sit in sad remembrance, Of waste...	Dolphin123	1	397	Nov 21, 2005 by canadianguy
	Goodbye and Thank YOu (Preview) Hi All This morning I have realised that my nickname appears to offend some people and while it would be easy to change it - the name I chose is part of my identity and part of who I am - not merely religious but my lifestyle and as I am currently doing a lot of work on regaining who I am and focusing on who I am a...	Picowitch	23	4382	Nov 21, 2005 by kismetstrand
	thank you (Preview) thank you all so much for your wonderful replies. the love i know i deserve i get here. my a phoned this morning saying he didnt go to work, he didnt even call his boss. therefore is probably fired. not too happy here. he was crying and saying he needs help and he's going to get it. whatever. so he went too aa o...	notsonew1111	1	369	Nov 21, 2005 by Dolphin123
	send some comfort please (Preview) im at the end of my rope. i've had it. four binges this week. i just can't deal with this anymore. im pretty sure i want my a to leave and get out of my life for good. i don't see how i could ever be happy living in this situation. i just don't feel loved anymore. i feel used, disrespected, and unappreciated. th...	notsonew1111	8	432	Nov 21, 2005 by TLC2
	holidays and family (Preview) My A came back this evening to pick up his laundry. We started to talk about things a bit and we are both feeling a little depressed about the holidays. My A stated that it is a goal of his that we may be able to spend Christmas together. I said that we needed to take it a step at a time, but that a part of my...	Kim	3	407	Nov 21, 2005 by Tiger2006
	I slipped (Preview) On Saturday the morning was ok. Then toward the evening my husband wanted to take the car and I said no I would drive him to his friends house. On our way to his friends he was presuring me to co-sign a car I said no. He was mad but he got out of the car and went to his friends. So when he was done at his friend house...	nycbt	4	387	Nov 21, 2005 by Tiger2006
	letting go of defects HURTS???? (Preview) Letting Our Defects Go "If [character defects] contributed to our health and happiness, we would not have come to such a state of desperation."Basic Text pg. 34Getting started on the Sixth and Seventh Steps isn't always easy. We may feel as though we have so much wrong with us that we are totally d...	rosie light shines	1	527	Nov 21, 2005 by Tiger2006
	He says I need to get a grip!! (Preview) The other night the ex calls me, we have been separated for almost three months now. Obviously has a few drinks in him, not drunk though. We had a long talk, he says he is hating the way his life is now. That he is sick and tired of being sick and tired. That he wants his life back, he wants to come home. That h...	hadit	2	382	Nov 21, 2005 by gknee
	Hikari the Enlightened One (Preview) In Japanese Hikari means the quality of brilliant light sparkiling; or 'enlightenment' - I called him Kumo at first, it means a black & white cloud. Hikari Kumo: http://star_of_asia.tripod.com/ In case anyone didn't see...	kitty	2	399	Nov 21, 2005 by rosie light shines
	it was a great day (Preview) chuck is home for good !!. it was a great night and a wonderful day we had two parties one with his boss parents 50th anniversary and we had a great time chuck didnt even have one drink for the champagne toast i gave him my coke & he danced like crazy . before he would only dance when he was&n...	chrissy	8	494	Nov 21, 2005 by chrissy
	Update (Preview) First I have to post that I am being good to myself! I am still doing my readings each day, praying, and reading the posts here. Work has been crazy and it seems everyone is needing an evaluation for their DUI's....must have been a lot of judges and attorneys on vacation during the summer mo...	marmare	5	382	Nov 21, 2005 by Angie
	What Your Computer Should Do For You! (Preview) http://www.cse.unsw.edu.au/~geoffo/humour/flattery.html	Dolphin123	6	857	Nov 20, 2005 by Dolphin123
	One of the Hadest things I have ever done! (Preview) Hi all, For those who read my post "If I had One Wish" I shared in that post about concern over a co-worker who smelled of alcohol after returning from lunch. Well I was making myself just plain sick over it, so I thought about how I could talk to my supervisor about my concerns, but not get this co-work...	Dolphin123	3	617	Nov 20, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Choices (Preview) Hi all, I went to a great meeting last night on choices, oh wow great shares and great ESH. We all have choices in our lives and it is up to us to make them. Sometimes we make bad ones, and hopefully learn from them, and sometimes we make good ones and we learn from them as well. The best choice I ever mad...	Dolphin123	5	426	Nov 20, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Almost There! (Preview) Roomies, (Hope I don't gross anyone out) LOL, I had to share this. My oldest is 6 and my youngest is 2. I also have a 3 year old. And today for the first time ever my 2 year old son sat on the potty and went pee! I can see the light at the end of the 6 year diaper tunnel. LOL. This sad to in a wa...	Dolphin123	11	525	Nov 20, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Grateful (Preview) Roomies, I have been to some awesome meetings this week. Tuesday was "choices" ( I posted on that one earlier), Thursday was gratitude, and Friday was also gratitude. The ESH has been truly amazing! And then after these awesome meetings I come here, and get some more ESH. I am so gr...	Dolphin123	3	316	Nov 20, 2005 by Dolphin123
	need chair for 11/25 sunday am meeting please (Preview) hi all, i will be out of state and unable to get to a computer for next sunday's am meeting. Can sombody fill in for me please? thanks in advance for you who steps up, lots of love, trina	mastiff	0	291	Nov 20, 2005 by mastiff
	opportunity for growth (Preview) I keep hearing wtvr we lack w/in ourselves, is what we attract in another, as an opportunity for growth. What I have learned from attracting addicts/alcoholics is that I need to learn to put myself first & love myself.	kitty	4	357	Nov 20, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Is he scared or what? (Preview) I told you he "moved" out last night and I assumed he was drinking again. But - surprise, surprise - he didn't. He is however still in a denial but I can see the fear and a sort of "I'll show YOU' behavior. He called this morning while I was out and left a message that he was calling...	jaja	2	360	Nov 20, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Are You Grateful? (Preview) I am hosting Thanksgiving for my family this year, and I did my shopping today. I was having a pity party for myself most of the day because everywhere I look, everyone seems to be married and there are cute little kids all around. I have a new boyfriend, but he lives out of town, and we don't s...	mollyann	3	457	Nov 20, 2005 by Dolphin123
	program is reflected everywhere (Preview) Hello All, This has been a learning experience. God is unceasing in fulfilling the Will Of the The Divine Plan. It doesn't surprise me anymore when I see "the program" overlapping in other areas of our life in recovery. Continually learning the "same lessons over again" I suppose -...	kitty	4	447	Nov 20, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Didn't go but my A was not the reason (Preview) Hello all and good morning: I wound up not going to NYC last night but it was nice that it was my own voice of reason and not worrying about my A that kept me home. After taking care of some bills and looking ahead to Christmas, i realized this was not the time to be spending money on a night on the town...	Kim	6	395	Nov 20, 2005 by Dolphin123
	"How come you don't.."(caution-adult nature) (Preview) This morning my A. says "I have a question for you. How come you don't have an orgasm anymore." He just doesn't understand. I keep telling him how emotional intimacy, trust, security and safety for my well being is important to me to even get to a point where I can even delve into a fulfilling physica...	sg	12	958	Nov 20, 2005 by meowzmusic
	starting over (Preview) Its been a month, and grieving process is starting. Just - this is hard. My expectations were in the way , naturally. I have to come to terms with making long term plans. This seems like an unsurmountable task. God has made me strong, sometimes I resent that. I feel like curling up in a ball... ...	Angie	5	433	Nov 20, 2005 by Dolphin123
	he thinks he's gone... (Preview) Last night I was getting to run errands with a borrowed car when my A husband pulled up to let me know the status on my own car which was being fixed by a friend of ours. He was his usual "I took care of it" mode, trying to act just like his normal self. He asked where I was going, said...	jaja	5	454	Nov 20, 2005 by kitty
	spoke w/my 13yr son today (Preview) Told him Im going to AlAnon and when/if he's ready he can go to AlAteen (but I wasnt going to force him). We spoke about Dad being grumpy especially after he's had a night drinking.	Barbara	4	434	Nov 20, 2005 by lin0606
	It shows (Preview) Yesterday I took care of my money needs. Because of my husband asking me for money I put the money in a CD for 6 months so it can't be touch. While it is sitting there it might as well collect more interst then it does in the saving account. Well when I got home I placed the envoople of the cd on the bed he picked i...	nycbt	9	651	Nov 20, 2005 by TLC2
	I'm new, too (Preview) I never knew this place existed and am very happy at having found it! Many years ago I went to Al-Anon for about 2 years as both my Mom and husband were active alcoholics. I found the rooms to be a sort of haven for me and I felt good that I was finally doing something to try and understand...	jaja	7	717	Nov 20, 2005 by lin0606
	Serenity In Yosemite (Preview) Hello from the Yosemite,Ca AA/Alanon Summit Conference There is a program of Alanon meetings, AA meetings, Alanon speakers and AA Speakers. This is all set among great natural splendor. Here are some pictures: Maria, David, Megan by Bridalveilfalls, Ha...	megan	11	1304	Nov 20, 2005 by Faith73
	went to a new meeting this morn and I feel this is MY meeting now (Preview) on a Sat morn so not going out at night is a big plus after working fulltime during the weekdays larger meeting actually broke down to 3 separate meetings - 1) topic was Thankfulness 2) begineers and 3) step 8 well I knew I was nowhere near step 8! Ive heard that begineers should attend 6 begineer me...	Barbara	2	319	Nov 20, 2005 by lin0606
	Saturday night with my A (Preview) So he said I'll come so we can talk and I can help you out since this separation is hard on you. I said go see your mother and then come by. I told him Saturday I was going to town to get Thanksgiving groceries, go an Alanon meeting, and see my mother. So he stayed in my/our house and I drove 2 hours to my meeting....	nmike	2	497	Nov 20, 2005 by Dolphin123
	why is life so complicated..... (Preview) how come life is sooooo complicated. its never like that in fairy tales. when i was growing up, i had this rose tinted view of thw world. you grow up, find a guy, fall in love and live happily ever after... how wrong i was. im going to see my "A" 2moro in rehab... 4th sunday running. we spoke on the phone last n...	Rebecca	3	521	Nov 20, 2005 by Karilynn
	hey guys my husband came home :) (Preview) after work my husband came over and amanda was at a sleep over so we had a sleep over too lol. we decided that we are going to put our marriage first. and he even gave me money for the bills and rent my brother and the best part it was friday !! i will write more later i know i have a long road a...	chrissy	6	406	Nov 19, 2005 by chrissy
	We aren't dating, he's my roomate!! (Preview) I asked him last night if he wanted to break up with me based on him never returning my calls, sleeping on the couch and lack of ANY intimacy. He said to me ''Are we dating?" Then heproceeded to try to make me feel guilty for hanging out with my friends who don't like him. He was sleeping, he is always sleepin...	Evilynn	4	435	Nov 19, 2005 by BlueCloud
	The Saga Continues (Preview) Hello everyone First of all, thanks for your support on my last posting. It helps so much! So my husband went to the PO and he sent him to an outpatient program for 10-20 days. He goes M-F 8:00 am-2:30 pm. He came home crying about how am I going to work to support my family? You sh...	browneyes	4	369	Nov 19, 2005 by leo
	taking care of me physically, emotionally and spiritually (Preview) I think after 6wks Ive finally designed a "program" for myself that I believe I can work. Physically - I joined Curves, Mentally - I found a Sat morn AlAnon group and Spiritually - Ive joined a new Church	Barbara	3	671	Nov 19, 2005 by Barbara
	update on danielle (Preview) Hi all... This is an update on Danielle, the friend of my daughter who was seriously injured in an auto accident a few weeks back. She is still unconscious, has had plastic surgery on her face to fix broken bones, and is responding to being pinched, or having her nose wiped, etc. But the d...	lmt123	5	385	Nov 19, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Good things are falling into place (Preview) Hi, What a weird day. When I got the mail this afternoon, there was something from unemployment for my husband. In case it was important I opened it. it seems after a claims investigator spoke with my husbands boss, they decided to reinstate his unemployment. The check is to follow and will be retroa...	Jeannie	9	598	Nov 19, 2005 by Dolphin123
	the program only works if I have coffee (Preview) OK. Phone call this morning at 7:00 am....pre-coffee experience. Not a good time for me to focus appropriately and detach. I am not the most pleasant person in the morning. It is my stepdaughter's mother on the phone. My A was supposed to see my stepdaughter today and she spoke wit...	Kim	6	683	Nov 19, 2005 by Barbara
	Am I crazy??? (Preview) Hello everyone Hope you are well... Just a quck question- This week I have been dealing with a lot of waiting to find out if my husband is going back to jail or not. And a lot of it has been due to him avoiding the Parole Officer and him telling me all about how he is going to fake the test and blah b...	browneyes	7	456	Nov 19, 2005 by Rebecca
	Where there's a will, there's an A LOL (Preview) Well today my a badgered my 13 yo daughter for money 6 times. The offers included I'll pay you back double, I'll let you hold my engagement ring so you know you can trust me, what can I buy you to get you to give me the money. When she held strong, in between the times the 13 oo refused, she asked me f...	bobump	5	731	Nov 19, 2005 by tiredtonite
	the invoice from experience can be a b** (Preview) Experience is a good teacher, but she sends in terrific bills. --Minna Antrim** It is not by chance but by design that the sorrows we experience throughout our lives are countered by equal servings of joy. One offsets the other. And we are strengthened by their combination.Our longing for only lif...	rosie light shines	0	399	Nov 19, 2005 by rosie light shines
	yaaay!! i CAN now accept my feelings (Preview) Accepting Our Feelings Why do we struggle so with our feelings? Why do we work so hard to deny our emotions, especially concerning other people? They are only feelings!In the course of a day, we may deny we feel frustrated in reaction to someone who is selling us a service.We may deny that we feel fr...	rosie light shines	0	324	Nov 19, 2005 by rosie light shines
	"A" daughter doing very well :) (Preview) Hello Friends, I was able to meet my recoverying alcoholic/drug addicted daughter today for dinner and it was a real blessing. The more I have stayed out of her issues, the closer we have gotten. She even shared with me about her meth usage which wasn't much (Thank God). She is able to talk so op...	cdb	13	1689	Nov 19, 2005 by Karilynn
	Helpless newbie (Preview) Hi, I am new here. I really don't know where to begin. I believe my husband has a drinking problem but he refuses to acknowledge it. Back when we were just friends he used to drink excessively and pass out everytime we went out. It was a running joke to draw on him, etc. I d...	chilley	7	675	Nov 19, 2005 by Karilynn
	heard from my A last night, irony or HP? (Preview) Last night my A called about 10 pm. He was wondering "what was going on with us" as he hadn't heard from me in a few days. I thought he was to call me last and I told him that, as well as that I assumed that he was doing things for him as was I. The conversation went well, for me...... he sounded terr...	Kim	5	642	Nov 19, 2005 by Karilynn
	For Mikeanon (Preview) Hi Mikeanon, If you are reading this I hope that you have chosen to post on here, it is a great place full of the most wonderfull people, some of whom don't use the chat room, so if you have I hope you find the strenth and encouragement that you need at this time in your life...We are all her to help eachothe...	flumpy	0	490	Nov 19, 2005 by flumpy
	He really went! (Preview) Hi everyone, My husband had his evaluation today. I spoke to him this morning, he told me how worried he was. He said what about the bills? What if I get one of the jobs I applied for etc? Then he said we have another problem, the rehab is $200 a day co-pay and even if I go outpatient there is a co-p...	Jeannie	15	619	Nov 18, 2005 by Jill
	my life is slipping away (Preview) Ok, so my twenties were exciting & still seemed to drag at times. My thirties have flown by, I don't know what is happening to my life. I am so far behind... I loathe dealing with the mail, I must have a pile on my desk 2 yrs old w/ stuff that needs to be shredded. My ex def mad...	kitty	6	813	Nov 18, 2005 by Jeannie
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