Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Goodgran · Goodgran

You know that part of the Do's and Don'ts that encourages us to keep a healthy emotional atmosphere in our home? Well, I struggle to keep myself at least pleasant and cordial at all times. I am not a nag. Life is mostly pleasant around here. My AH has more than 20 years sober. I suspect he is clinically...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am getting back to the normal I am learning to be. For me it is not normal for others but it is normal for me. I am also starting to have less trouble with sleep. For that I am so grateful. I am basically turning over some things that before I would really dwell on. I am starting to "get" it! I a...

bgcolter · bgcolter

hi my name is brad my wife is 3 weeks out of rehab and she went to the bar and drank last nite after church. i am looking for a meeting in my area but havent had any luck yet. im in iniana east of indianapolis anyone know a good one?

Maria123 · Maria123

(((((My dear friends)))))), For those of you who took the time to let me know how much you care, I very much appreciate you. Surgery was Friday and for all intents and purposes, it went well. I had to stay in the hospital a little longer than anticipated but I am on the road to recovery now. It's very slow an...

Christy · Christy

I just wanted to share with those of you that went through our drama with us (and those that didn't too) that hubby is 3 yrs sober today. He continues to amaze me. He has his own personal program (does not attend AA, never did). I have never seen any dry drunk behavior nor has he faltered and had a slip. H...

db55 · db55

Happy Valentine's Day to All Roses are red Violets are blue Sugar is sweet And so are YOU! Be my Valentine! Lovingly, db55

Loupiness · Loupiness

I've really been struggling with getting into an exercise routine. Working full-time and having the kids mostly with me, have made it difficult to carve out that time on a regualr basis. The gym is out due to the expense, time and social factor. So, I got to thinking... I did a google search on using t...

barisax · barisax

Spinning this from the "obstacles" thread... I think it's pretty rare in Alanon to find a person who never talks about their A. Certainly when new in the program, you want to vent and try to communicate your situation, but after a while you begin to realize that we've all been through it in o...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I read somewhere awhile back that there is a fine line between love and hate. I never understood it then, but can now. When you first meet someone and begin dating, if it is the right person it leads to liking them and then to love.....a natural course of things. I still love my ex very much, but at...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I've noticed since being in the program that the woman who had no time to do ANYTHING, now finds herself lacking something to do and even bored and lonely at times. I stay active with my reading, and my postings and my meetings. I have emailed MIP and volunteered also-but haven't heard back from...

Ness · Ness

It's Valentines day..... To all of my MIP family....... 'The morning sun in all it's glory is filled with hope and comfort too, you fill my heart with gladness, take away my sadness, ease my troubles, that's what you do. Courtesy of 'van the man' morrison. Love to you all Ness

daylight48 · daylight48

Hello, When I tried to enter the chat room Service Unavailable appeared on my computer. I got on to here no problem. This has never happened before. I would really appreciate some feedback on this. Regards, daylight

Ickle Lynnie · Ickle Lynnie

I have been with my AH for 8 years and in that time gone through cycles of hope and disappointment over and over again and each time given more of myself to 'support him'. Predictably (to everyone but me) things are back where they were again with him drinking and me depressed but this time my daughter is o...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I came here yesterday and posted. I was feeling very down about myself and my recovery, feeling very alone in it all. Feeling like I was a huge disappointment to myself and others here and that I was talking the talk but not walking the walk. I have been going through a bit of depression since EABF...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I realized today after some meditation/prayer time, that I haven't been making my program or my HP my number one priority, and I haven't been trusting my HP or having faith in Him, it's almost like I took a step then forgot it. I've been letting myself get so caught up in my EXABF and the &q...

java · java

A couple of days ago I was feeling low and depressed and majorly unfocused. I got to spend some ample time on the chat line and go to some meetings so now I am feeling better. This program works if you work it! Tonight I have a f2f al-anon meeting I plan to go to, so that should help too. Thanks so much for being...

nmike · nmike

Hi Alanoners, Haven't posted or responded much lately. I have alot going on at work as always. I do go to my f2f meetings about every two weeks. I go to AA almost every week (I offer to hold a separate meeting for Alanon). I read my literature daily and talk to my sponsor once a week. I feel like I make progres...

wonderingwhy · wonderingwhy

Hi I just want to give an overview of my situation. My husband is an alcoholic (who of course, doesn't have a drinking problem) and is also a victim of cancer. Last February, he had a kidney removed because of cancer. We are just now finding out one year later that the cancer may be back again. He drinks all...

brightmommy · brightmommy

I am searching fore an online sponser as my f2f meetings I have been unable to connect with anyone. Would someone be willing to help me journey throughthe steps and find myself? I'm looking for someone that has experience with alcoholic spouse and/or child of an alcoholic parent. Thanks!!

Jozie · Jozie

To everyone in my MIP Family I just want you all to know that I went back to being a "NEWBIE" because I was known as "Missing Out" and Thanks to all you wonderful people, I am "Missing Out" NO MORE!!! I am now Jozie... I want to thank Ms. Suz for helping me talk myself into it...

ddub · ddub

The 'search' feature has so many wonderful posts about fear and I realize this is another common thread of our lives. The fear that is the most difficult for me right now is the fear of what might happen based on my imagination or based on past experiences that could also contain fear of 'what if'. It ma...

maryam · maryam

last post was when my b/f went to detox afetr drinking for 15 days. ok in detox out of detox drank one hour later>???? then we are going to detox ourselves again. drink something different or not as much and maybe stop for a day or two when i say i can no longer do this. we talk he begs me AGAIN has been goin...

Suzannah · Suzannah

Just sometimes, not often, Heartbroken puts in an appearance and I feel myself feeling a bit panicky. Tonight is one of those nights. Perhaps it is due to the fact that I have been ill during the winter months now for so long, infact I have not been feeling too great since August of last year. Perhaps it...

HalfAngel · HalfAngel

I'm new to this site, having just done a google search for an online Al Anon support group. I find myself here because I could really use some support for what I've been dealing with and have no one IRL that I can talk to about it. My husband is an alcoholic/addict. His general pattern is to use, go to AA,...

juicemommie · juicemommie

I'm between a rock and hard place. My husband admits his sister is an alcoholic but continues to let her seep into our lives. She has been abusing drugs, drinks or anything for that matter for over 20 years. I'm done but he makes excuses like "we don't know for sure she is drinking, she didn't sound...

DreamsOver · DreamsOver

I am feeling low tonight, I can't seem to get control of my emotions. I slipped the other day, trying to talk with my AS about his drug use, it got personal as I tried to reason with him and told him that his drug use was hurting me and the rest of the family as much as it was hurting him. The response I got was t...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Through all of the struggles I have been facing in the past 3 months, I have found a WONDERFUL sponsor, continued to work the program, had many slips and walked many steps.... Just finished up my 9th step.......and WHEWWWW.........what a sense of release and forgiveness can be found in these s...

Jozie · Jozie

To everyone in my MIP Family I just want you all to know that I went back to being a "NEWBIE" because I was known as "Missing Out" and Thanks to all you wonderful people, I am "Missing Out" NO MORE!!! I am now Jozie... I want to thank Ms. Suz for helping me talk myself into it...

Jozie · Jozie

I just wanted to know how to add a pic to my name... I see some cool pics and I have don't have one :( Can anyone help me with this...Thanks a bunch... Jozie...

Ness · Ness

I made it to my 1st f2f last night....and look forward to next Monday. Thank you for your support and encouragement. Love and gratitude...Ness

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I am having serious issues with trust... I'm totally madly in love with this guy and I know he feels the same way about me but....I don't know why I can't just trust, why that evil little tinge of jealousy keeps popping up. It's so good and I don't want to ruin it. So he's out of town right now visiting famil...

saltire · saltire

Man this woman just flies off the handle at me and anyone else within earshot, I've only just started attending Al-anon and have my second meeting in 2 days - can't wait for it - just to feel the sincerity of those around me who know how I feel and listen to my words. The peace that gives me is so welcome. But 1...

Codependent · Codependent

Went to my therapist yesterday who reminds me a little of Laura Schlessinger- sarcastic but straight shooting. Anyway, she mocked me a little but also told me straight that the A was a narcissitic addict that did not love his son and that if I told my child that he did love him I was lying. My child is 4 an...

Loupiness · Loupiness

I've spent a lot of time crying and in fear the past couple of weeks. I've been sick and really have gotten away from my program. Then, on Sunday night I went to bed at 8:30, and I got a pretty good sleep last night too. Suddenly, I feel a need to express some gratitude. Amazing how that works... My son ma...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Those of you who have been following my story know that I have been on a roller coaster ride of emotions lately. It got even crazier the past week when EXABF wrote me an email and mentioned "finding me, no matter what&quotwhen he got to the point where he was capable of giving us a fai...

Fifi · Fifi

These days I feel shakey in my recovery.I am easily triggered....in the affairs of the heart mostly.Tho I am not exploding as I did last week, I do something else that feels old and familiar and unhealthy to me.I explain feelings till I am blue in the face....I'm not always sure I am even being understoo...

missing out · missing out

I have been wanting to change my name from "Missing Out" to something a little more to were I am NOW in my life, which is by far NOT Missing Out... A dear MIP friend of mine told me that I could, but the only way she found to do it was to start a new one, which means i loose all my posts and what not! So my...

JS · JS

Hello There: It has been a long time since I posted here, but I do visit the message board because it is so insightful and other peoples stories and the feedback helps me to process my own situation. A bit of history here... my husband has been sober since end of June 2006. We have been married coming up on 1...

Gailey · Gailey

my marriage is falling apart. I feel safe to vent here. My husband is not an A but is in complete denial that he is having major emotional problems. He tries to put it on me but I will no longer accept that I may be his problem. He is 59 years old and on many medications for high blood pressure,high cholestero...

missing out · missing out

Well, Tonight my son had a indoor soccer game, we won.... YEAH!!!! How ever the shock was that my Abrother, and his children came with my mom to watch my son play... I know this doesn't sound like much, but to me it is something... He had his children, and he managed to spend more family time with us all......

mum2leahnjosh · mum2leahnjosh

I GOT A CONDITIONAL OFFER TO SALFORD UNIVERSITY Oh my god who would have thought ME going to UNIVERSITY. Ha my week has just got soooooooooo good. Im so bloody happy.

java · java

My non-drinking alcoholic husband has been driving me crazy lately watching my every move and not wanting me on al-anon sites or going to my f2f meetings. I've been giving in to it mostly with the f2f, it's too hard to fight him and listen to the rants and raves. It's bad enough when I go on-line at home whe...

reef999 · reef999

Left my ABF a few weeks ago......I guess me leaving made him wake up a bit. He's been going to meetings every day and has a new sponsor. He's doing so well...he's almost a different person. He's been begging me to give him one more chance and to wait for him to get better. He wants me to still be his girl...

Marshmallow · Marshmallow

AH and have been seperated for 7 months, filed and put divorce on hold several times since. He's not ready for recovery right now and we can not live together. I've been struggling with the decision and guilt of leaving him. I'm so often consumed with thoughts of what was, wasn't and what may never...

aislinn · aislinn

This is my first time on the site. Stumbled on it while doing a search for "Detach with Love". I am an ACOA and in a relationship with someone who drinks regularly, not to excess but enough to cause me to wince. Actually it seems that any alcohol use seems to make me wince. In other aspects t...

Mariner · Mariner

Hi (((All))) I havent posted for a while but have been here reading your es&h leaning on you all. I've been ill and ended up in hospital, am ok and recovering at home now. I think I got ill partly due to being worn out with all the stress of my Abf. He really put me through it over December whilst he was in...

trapt · trapt

Hello, this is my first post. My name pretty much sums up my feelings right now. I have a 17 year old daughter and a 12 year old son. My son has emotional problems, possibly a bipolar dx. My AH has drank as long as I've known him. He works, comes home, drinks beer, eats, goes to bed. (by himself, he is a ho...

matisa · matisa

what happend to my post??????????

JS · JS

Hello There: It has been a long time since I posted here, but I do visit the message board because it is so insightful and other peoples stories and the feedback helps me to process my own situation. A bit of history here... my husband has been sober since end of June 2006. We have been married coming up on 1...

tishrijo · tishrijo

Sometimes I wonder if I am being to hard nosed...are my expectations realistic? Am I setting unrealistic boundaries? I know these are questions that only I can answer for myself with the help of my Higher Power. In the meantime I would like some words of wisdom from my fellow Al Anon members. The s...

sheilanicole · sheilanicole

I just recently got re-involved with an alcoholic. He is my first love from high school, and really means the world to me. He is a wonderful man, when he is sober. I told him from the very beginning that I did not see a future with him if he was going to be drinking. When we moved in together I told him one e...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

As the time passes since I decided to really just let it go, it seems that I can see things more clearly than before, I am guessing it is because I have stepped back from the situation and am allowing myself to feel it and see it for what it is. Ya know you really can see better without the rose colored gla...

kbrixham · kbrixham

Hello, I really have created a dilemma which reminds me again of making poor partner choices. I formed a partnership approximately one year ago, actually sold my business with a 6year payout with my manager and his son. I needed help as my business was growing and I was still at home taking care of m...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Before you read this, go to Yahoo! and look up "Former Klansman apologizes" I think that's the title, at least. Did you watch it? Man, that's powerful. I hear so many newcomers say how they feel the alcholic owes them amends. What struck me about the video is that, well, how many people d...

Lilly Burn · Lilly Burn

Ive just come home and experienced a terrible low tonight, one week since my AH told me he wasnt coming back. I tried the chat room and came out feeling rather stupid. I thought it was for like minded people who are there to support but yes, I felt stupid for sharing what was happening to me, it didnt get a go...

Christy · Christy

http://www.livestrong.com/article/14712-developing-detachment/#develop

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

My new boyfriend is 24, I'm 38 - with 3 kids.... I find it amazing that someone so young could step up and be more of a man than any "man" my age that I have ever met. So I'm sharing this picture of my new boyfriend and my son that touches my heart so deeply I can't even express it in words. It almos...

Ness · Ness

I blew it today with my A son..... After the scare with his health last week, his key worker said it may help him to come home for a bit, to 'normality', and I said the same to him as I said to my son that we would love to see him but that he had to go through a hospital detox and come home 'dry' and clean ( his se...

Jerry F · Jerry F

how far you've come or how much time in how many meetings. It isn't about how far you have to go and what you have to achieve in the future. That's all important and it's not the end of it all. It's about right now. Where am I right now and what am I doing in the now and am I here with my HP and what I've been giv...

New Balance · New Balance

This my first post, although this is the first place I come every morning. I have been married for almost 12 yrs with a 9 and 11 year old. I have been seperated for 2 yrs. My husband is currently in rehab and has been for 4 mths. He basically took the kids to school one morning and never came home. It took me abo...

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	My Ahusband sober - neglects, declines, refuses, forgets, other passive behavior (Preview) You know that part of the Do's and Don'ts that encourages us to keep a healthy emotional atmosphere in our home? Well, I struggle to keep myself at least pleasant and cordial at all times. I am not a nag. Life is mostly pleasant around here. My AH has more than 20 years sober. I suspect he is clinically...	Goodgran	9	753	Feb 14, 2009 by Goodgran
	Getting back to my "Normal" (Preview) I am getting back to the normal I am learning to be. For me it is not normal for others but it is normal for me. I am also starting to have less trouble with sleep. For that I am so grateful. I am basically turning over some things that before I would really dwell on. I am starting to "get" it! I a...	Hoot Nanny	1	506	Feb 14, 2009 by Jozie
	help! (Preview) hi my name is brad my wife is 3 weeks out of rehab and she went to the bar and drank last nite after church. i am looking for a meeting in my area but havent had any luck yet. im in iniana east of indianapolis anyone know a good one?	bgcolter	3	2653	Feb 14, 2009 by abbyal
	surgery update (Preview) (((((My dear friends)))))), For those of you who took the time to let me know how much you care, I very much appreciate you. Surgery was Friday and for all intents and purposes, it went well. I had to stay in the hospital a little longer than anticipated but I am on the road to recovery now. It's very slow an...	Maria123	14	723	Feb 14, 2009 by bob6502
	AHsober teaching me :) (Preview) I just wanted to share with those of you that went through our drama with us (and those that didn't too) that hubby is 3 yrs sober today. He continues to amaze me. He has his own personal program (does not attend AA, never did). I have never seen any dry drunk behavior nor has he faltered and had a slip. H...	Christy	10	1213	Feb 14, 2009 by bob6502
	Valentine's Day (Preview) Happy Valentine's Day to All Roses are red Violets are blue Sugar is sweet And so are YOU! Be my Valentine! Lovingly, db55	db55	2	352	Feb 14, 2009 by BrianS
	Happy Valentines Day to me... (Preview) I've really been struggling with getting into an exercise routine. Working full-time and having the kids mostly with me, have made it difficult to carve out that time on a regualr basis. The gym is out due to the expense, time and social factor. So, I got to thinking... I did a google search on using t...	Loupiness	2	489	Feb 14, 2009 by Karilynn
	Talking About the A (Preview) Spinning this from the "obstacles" thread... I think it's pretty rare in Alanon to find a person who never talks about their A. Certainly when new in the program, you want to vent and try to communicate your situation, but after a while you begin to realize that we've all been through it in o...	barisax	8	691	Feb 14, 2009 by Goodgran
	Loving someone that we don't really like~ (Preview) I read somewhere awhile back that there is a fine line between love and hate. I never understood it then, but can now. When you first meet someone and begin dating, if it is the right person it leads to liking them and then to love.....a natural course of things. I still love my ex very much, but at...	shellyj123	5	561	Feb 14, 2009 by java
	Lonely~ volunteer or other ideas wanted (Preview) I've noticed since being in the program that the woman who had no time to do ANYTHING, now finds herself lacking something to do and even bored and lonely at times. I stay active with my reading, and my postings and my meetings. I have emailed MIP and volunteered also-but haven't heard back from...	shellyj123	5	635	Feb 14, 2009 by Jerry F
	Ease my troubles....that's what you do. (Preview) It's Valentines day..... To all of my MIP family....... 'The morning sun in all it's glory is filled with hope and comfort too, you fill my heart with gladness, take away my sadness, ease my troubles, that's what you do. Courtesy of 'van the man' morrison. Love to you all Ness	Ness	2	921	Feb 13, 2009 by Toto814
	chat room (Preview) Hello, When I tried to enter the chat room Service Unavailable appeared on my computer. I got on to here no problem. This has never happened before. I would really appreciate some feedback on this. Regards, daylight	daylight48	5	477	Feb 13, 2009 by daylight48
	4 weeks, 12 steps, the rest of my life (Preview) I have been with my AH for 8 years and in that time gone through cycles of hope and disappointment over and over again and each time given more of myself to 'support him'. Predictably (to everyone but me) things are back where they were again with him drinking and me depressed but this time my daughter is o...	Ickle Lynnie	16	577	Feb 13, 2009 by Ickle Lynnie
	A bit of gratitude to my MIP family~ (Preview) I came here yesterday and posted. I was feeling very down about myself and my recovery, feeling very alone in it all. Feeling like I was a huge disappointment to myself and others here and that I was talking the talk but not walking the walk. I have been going through a bit of depression since EABF...	shellyj123	3	427	Feb 13, 2009 by maresie
	I have to find my faith and my focus~ (Preview) I realized today after some meditation/prayer time, that I haven't been making my program or my HP my number one priority, and I haven't been trusting my HP or having faith in Him, it's almost like I took a step then forgot it. I've been letting myself get so caught up in my EXABF and the &q...	shellyj123	7	526	Feb 13, 2009 by Mobirdie
	Back on track (Preview) A couple of days ago I was feeling low and depressed and majorly unfocused. I got to spend some ample time on the chat line and go to some meetings so now I am feeling better. This program works if you work it! Tonight I have a f2f al-anon meeting I plan to go to, so that should help too. Thanks so much for being...	java	3	533	Feb 13, 2009 by Jozie
	No skills for this (Preview) Hi Alanoners, Haven't posted or responded much lately. I have alot going on at work as always. I do go to my f2f meetings about every two weeks. I go to AA almost every week (I offer to hold a separate meeting for Alanon). I read my literature daily and talk to my sponsor once a week. I feel like I make progres...	nmike	7	577	Feb 13, 2009 by Karilynn
	I don't know where to turn. Please help me. (Preview) Hi I just want to give an overview of my situation. My husband is an alcoholic (who of course, doesn't have a drinking problem) and is also a victim of cancer. Last February, he had a kidney removed because of cancer. We are just now finding out one year later that the cancer may be back again. He drinks all...	wonderingwhy	13	698	Feb 13, 2009 by wonderingwhy
	Online Sponser (Preview) I am searching fore an online sponser as my f2f meetings I have been unable to connect with anyone. Would someone be willing to help me journey throughthe steps and find myself? I'm looking for someone that has experience with alcoholic spouse and/or child of an alcoholic parent. Thanks!!	brightmommy	2	506	Feb 12, 2009 by LG
	"Missing Out" has LEFT THE BUILDING!!! (Preview) To everyone in my MIP Family I just want you all to know that I went back to being a "NEWBIE" because I was known as "Missing Out" and Thanks to all you wonderful people, I am "Missing Out" NO MORE!!! I am now Jozie... I want to thank Ms. Suz for helping me talk myself into it...	Jozie	7	634	Feb 12, 2009 by Ness
	looking at fear (Preview) The 'search' feature has so many wonderful posts about fear and I realize this is another common thread of our lives. The fear that is the most difficult for me right now is the fear of what might happen based on my imagination or based on past experiences that could also contain fear of 'what if'. It ma...	ddub	3	548	Feb 12, 2009 by maresie
	update on b/f and drinking ..can't take it losing my mind! long sorry (Preview) last post was when my b/f went to detox afetr drinking for 15 days. ok in detox out of detox drank one hour later>???? then we are going to detox ourselves again. drink something different or not as much and maybe stop for a day or two when i say i can no longer do this. we talk he begs me AGAIN has been goin...	maryam	5	635	Feb 12, 2009 by Christy
	Remember Heartbroken, well she reappears from time to time tho not for long...so help me through this one family, please (Preview) Just sometimes, not often, Heartbroken puts in an appearance and I feel myself feeling a bit panicky. Tonight is one of those nights. Perhaps it is due to the fact that I have been ill during the winter months now for so long, infact I have not been feeling too great since August of last year. Perhaps it...	Suzannah	6	725	Feb 12, 2009 by maresie
	New - I Need To Talk About It (Preview) I'm new to this site, having just done a google search for an online Al Anon support group. I find myself here because I could really use some support for what I've been dealing with and have no one IRL that I can talk to about it. My husband is an alcoholic/addict. His general pattern is to use, go to AA,...	HalfAngel	4	608	Feb 12, 2009 by maresie
	Husband enables Asister, what do i do? (Preview) I'm between a rock and hard place. My husband admits his sister is an alcoholic but continues to let her seep into our lives. She has been abusing drugs, drinks or anything for that matter for over 20 years. I'm done but he makes excuses like "we don't know for sure she is drinking, she didn't sound...	juicemommie	3	573	Feb 12, 2009 by juicemommie
	Feeling Low........... (Preview) I am feeling low tonight, I can't seem to get control of my emotions. I slipped the other day, trying to talk with my AS about his drug use, it got personal as I tried to reason with him and told him that his drug use was hurting me and the rest of the family as much as it was hurting him. The response I got was t...	DreamsOver	4	541	Feb 12, 2009 by Jozie
	Making Amends and loving this program~ (Preview) Through all of the struggles I have been facing in the past 3 months, I have found a WONDERFUL sponsor, continued to work the program, had many slips and walked many steps.... Just finished up my 9th step.......and WHEWWWW.........what a sense of release and forgiveness can be found in these s...	shellyj123	2	485	Feb 12, 2009 by Tiger2006
	"Missing Out" has LEFT THE BUILDING!!! (Preview) To everyone in my MIP Family I just want you all to know that I went back to being a "NEWBIE" because I was known as "Missing Out" and Thanks to all you wonderful people, I am "Missing Out" NO MORE!!! I am now Jozie... I want to thank Ms. Suz for helping me talk myself into it...	Jozie	2	494	Feb 12, 2009 by shellyj123
	Need help again :) (Preview) I just wanted to know how to add a pic to my name... I see some cool pics and I have don't have one :( Can anyone help me with this...Thanks a bunch... Jozie...	Jozie	2	424	Feb 12, 2009 by Jozie
	1st f2f... (Preview) I made it to my 1st f2f last night....and look forward to next Monday. Thank you for your support and encouragement. Love and gratitude...Ness	Ness	8	689	Feb 12, 2009 by Ness
	Trust (Preview) I am having serious issues with trust... I'm totally madly in love with this guy and I know he feels the same way about me but....I don't know why I can't just trust, why that evil little tinge of jealousy keeps popping up. It's so good and I don't want to ruin it. So he's out of town right now visiting famil...	carolinagirl	7	746	Feb 11, 2009 by serendipity
	ANGER (Preview) Man this woman just flies off the handle at me and anyone else within earshot, I've only just started attending Al-anon and have my second meeting in 2 days - can't wait for it - just to feel the sincerity of those around me who know how I feel and listen to my words. The peace that gives me is so welcome. But 1...	saltire	6	769	Feb 11, 2009 by Sincerely
	Did I mess up? (Preview) Went to my therapist yesterday who reminds me a little of Laura Schlessinger- sarcastic but straight shooting. Anyway, she mocked me a little but also told me straight that the A was a narcissitic addict that did not love his son and that if I told my child that he did love him I was lying. My child is 4 an...	Codependent	11	798	Feb 11, 2009 by carolinagirl
	time for some gratitiude (Preview) I've spent a lot of time crying and in fear the past couple of weeks. I've been sick and really have gotten away from my program. Then, on Sunday night I went to bed at 8:30, and I got a pretty good sleep last night too. Suddenly, I feel a need to express some gratitude. Amazing how that works... My son ma...	Loupiness	5	674	Feb 11, 2009 by shellyj123
	Right where I need to be~all screwed up (Preview) Those of you who have been following my story know that I have been on a roller coaster ride of emotions lately. It got even crazier the past week when EXABF wrote me an email and mentioned "finding me, no matter what&quotwhen he got to the point where he was capable of giving us a fai...	shellyj123	1	392	Feb 11, 2009 by missing out
	Less destructive, but still..... (Preview) These days I feel shakey in my recovery.I am easily triggered....in the affairs of the heart mostly.Tho I am not exploding as I did last week, I do something else that feels old and familiar and unhealthy to me.I explain feelings till I am blue in the face....I'm not always sure I am even being understoo...	Fifi	3	718	Feb 11, 2009 by Fifi
	Have a Question??? (Preview) I have been wanting to change my name from "Missing Out" to something a little more to were I am NOW in my life, which is by far NOT Missing Out... A dear MIP friend of mine told me that I could, but the only way she found to do it was to start a new one, which means i loose all my posts and what not! So my...	missing out	3	570	Feb 11, 2009 by Suzannah
	Is this Dry Drunk Recovering Alcoholic Behavior, Mid-life Crisis or both??? (Preview) Hello There: It has been a long time since I posted here, but I do visit the message board because it is so insightful and other peoples stories and the feedback helps me to process my own situation. A bit of history here... my husband has been sober since end of June 2006. We have been married coming up on 1...	JS	19	11023	Feb 11, 2009 by JS
	trying to practice acceptance for my non A husband (Preview) my marriage is falling apart. I feel safe to vent here. My husband is not an A but is in complete denial that he is having major emotional problems. He tries to put it on me but I will no longer accept that I may be his problem. He is 59 years old and on many medications for high blood pressure,high cholestero...	Gailey	6	593	Feb 10, 2009 by nmike
	Fighting my feeling to Take Over.... (Preview) Well, Tonight my son had a indoor soccer game, we won.... YEAH!!!! How ever the shock was that my Abrother, and his children came with my mom to watch my son play... I know this doesn't sound like much, but to me it is something... He had his children, and he managed to spend more family time with us all......	missing out	5	522	Feb 10, 2009 by missing out
	Some good new (Preview) I GOT A CONDITIONAL OFFER TO SALFORD UNIVERSITY Oh my god who would have thought ME going to UNIVERSITY. Ha my week has just got soooooooooo good. Im so bloody happy.	mum2leahnjosh	4	611	Feb 10, 2009 by abbyal
	Need to vent (Preview) My non-drinking alcoholic husband has been driving me crazy lately watching my every move and not wanting me on al-anon sites or going to my f2f meetings. I've been giving in to it mostly with the f2f, it's too hard to fight him and listen to the rants and raves. It's bad enough when I go on-line at home whe...	java	7	562	Feb 10, 2009 by db55
	How do you know...? (Preview) Left my ABF a few weeks ago......I guess me leaving made him wake up a bit. He's been going to meetings every day and has a new sponsor. He's doing so well...he's almost a different person. He's been begging me to give him one more chance and to wait for him to get better. He wants me to still be his girl...	reef999	6	619	Feb 10, 2009 by saltire
	Decision making time.. (Preview) AH and have been seperated for 7 months, filed and put divorce on hold several times since. He's not ready for recovery right now and we can not live together. I've been struggling with the decision and guilt of leaving him. I'm so often consumed with thoughts of what was, wasn't and what may never...	Marshmallow	4	741	Feb 10, 2009 by saltire
	Detach with Love (Preview) This is my first time on the site. Stumbled on it while doing a search for "Detach with Love". I am an ACOA and in a relationship with someone who drinks regularly, not to excess but enough to cause me to wince. Actually it seems that any alcohol use seems to make me wince. In other aspects t...	aislinn	9	1103	Feb 10, 2009 by Ness
	Trying to detach still (Preview) Hi (((All))) I havent posted for a while but have been here reading your es&h leaning on you all. I've been ill and ended up in hospital, am ok and recovering at home now. I think I got ill partly due to being worn out with all the stress of my Abf. He really put me through it over December whilst he was in...	Mariner	3	562	Feb 10, 2009 by missing out
	Hello~My Introduction (Preview) Hello, this is my first post. My name pretty much sums up my feelings right now. I have a 17 year old daughter and a 12 year old son. My son has emotional problems, possibly a bipolar dx. My AH has drank as long as I've known him. He works, comes home, drinks beer, eats, goes to bed. (by himself, he is a ho...	trapt	8	653	Feb 10, 2009 by missing out
	what happend? (closed) (Preview) what happend to my post??????????	matisa	1	612	Feb 10, 2009 by canadianguy
	Is this Dry Drunk Recovering Alcoholic Behavior, Mid-life Crisis or both??? (Preview) Hello There: It has been a long time since I posted here, but I do visit the message board because it is so insightful and other peoples stories and the feedback helps me to process my own situation. A bit of history here... my husband has been sober since end of June 2006. We have been married coming up on 1...	JS	5	4405	Feb 9, 2009 by JS
	Questioning my own judgement....please share experience, strength and hope. (Preview) Sometimes I wonder if I am being to hard nosed...are my expectations realistic? Am I setting unrealistic boundaries? I know these are questions that only I can answer for myself with the help of my Higher Power. In the meantime I would like some words of wisdom from my fellow Al Anon members. The s...	tishrijo	5	654	Feb 9, 2009 by tishrijo
	I am new at this and need support (Preview) I just recently got re-involved with an alcoholic. He is my first love from high school, and really means the world to me. He is a wonderful man, when he is sober. I told him from the very beginning that I did not see a future with him if he was going to be drinking. When we moved in together I told him one e...	sheilanicole	7	652	Feb 9, 2009 by mia883
	SOBERMAN-Invincible Alcoholic to the rescue~~~ (Preview) As the time passes since I decided to really just let it go, it seems that I can see things more clearly than before, I am guessing it is because I have stepped back from the situation and am allowing myself to feel it and see it for what it is. Ya know you really can see better without the rose colored gla...	shellyj123	3	685	Feb 9, 2009 by maresie
	Let go and Let God?! (Preview) Hello, I really have created a dilemma which reminds me again of making poor partner choices. I formed a partnership approximately one year ago, actually sold my business with a 6year payout with my manager and his son. I needed help as my business was growing and I was still at home taking care of m...	kbrixham	4	677	Feb 9, 2009 by maresie
	Amends 101 (Preview) Before you read this, go to Yahoo! and look up "Former Klansman apologizes" I think that's the title, at least. Did you watch it? Man, that's powerful. I hear so many newcomers say how they feel the alcholic owes them amends. What struck me about the video is that, well, how many people d...	Tiger2006	3	638	Feb 9, 2009 by Jerry F
	Sarcasm in the chat room (Preview) Ive just come home and experienced a terrible low tonight, one week since my AH told me he wasnt coming back. I tried the chat room and came out feeling rather stupid. I thought it was for like minded people who are there to support but yes, I felt stupid for sharing what was happening to me, it didnt get a go...	Lilly Burn	8	729	Feb 9, 2009 by barisax
	"Letting Go" (Preview) http://www.livestrong.com/article/14712-developing-detachment/#develop	Christy	5	7943	Feb 9, 2009 by Jerry F
	My favorite picture... (Preview) My new boyfriend is 24, I'm 38 - with 3 kids.... I find it amazing that someone so young could step up and be more of a man than any "man" my age that I have ever met. So I'm sharing this picture of my new boyfriend and my son that touches my heart so deeply I can't even express it in words. It almos...	carolinagirl	3	558	Feb 9, 2009 by carolinagirl
	Detachment.....blew it today, appreciate some ESH (Preview) I blew it today with my A son..... After the scare with his health last week, his key worker said it may help him to come home for a bit, to 'normality', and I said the same to him as I said to my son that we would love to see him but that he had to go through a hospital detox and come home 'dry' and clean ( his se...	Ness	8	736	Feb 9, 2009 by maresie
	It's never about... (Preview) how far you've come or how much time in how many meetings. It isn't about how far you have to go and what you have to achieve in the future. That's all important and it's not the end of it all. It's about right now. Where am I right now and what am I doing in the now and am I here with my HP and what I've been giv...	Jerry F	9	730	Feb 8, 2009 by Christy
	Making it one day at a time (Preview) This my first post, although this is the first place I come every morning. I have been married for almost 12 yrs with a 9 and 11 year old. I have been seperated for 2 yrs. My husband is currently in rehab and has been for 4 mths. He basically took the kids to school one morning and never came home. It took me abo...	New Balance	3	603	Feb 8, 2009 by missing out
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