The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I am starting to get it. And to think, I already thought I had it. Alanon is such a wonderful program. Newbies, stick it out here, work it, fake it until you make it! You will get it. And old timers, THANK YOU FOR ALL YOUR SUPPORT!
Since July of 08 I have been coming here. I have learned many things. I have tried to use them as much as possible. But I must admit..there were many things that were a little confusing for me. Such as: detachment for one and acceptance the other. My thoughts were........why should I detach from my Alcholic Husband, i love him and i want to be there for him, that is what a marriage is about, right? and Acceptance...why should I accept these things? OH MY.....
I'm getting it! It's about my HP having control! It's about ME being okay. It's about focusing on the here and now. Being greatful, compationate and the whole nine yards.
Alcholism is a progressive disease. Alanon is a progressive program. If you work it you will progress! AND WHO DOESN'T WANT TO GO FORWARD!!!!!!!! I get that! I am so glad that I am accepting all of this...I am able to detach with love. IT FEELS GOOD!
(Sincerely) Great post. You have taken the time to let the program soak it. Many expect the Al-Anon program to be a crash course. It is the opposite, it is a life time program. You never graduate, you don't get a diploma, But, you do get something money can't buy, serenity, peace, and happiness if you apply the program in you everyday life.
You had some good advise for the newbies about hanging in until they get it. You also had some advice for yourself. MAYBE I AM READY FOR MY FIRST FACE TO FACE.
Coming here is great, wonderful members, wisdom from others ESH, and many others to numerous to mention. But, coming here and not getting to f2f meeting I compare to walking on a bed of sharp rocks with only one shoe. The other shoe can be found inside the rooms of Al-Anon.
Thanks for the words of wisdom : ) ... I am new and still try'n to put it all together... I pick a lot on day and nothing the next but am hoping to be were you are, but doing one day at a time!
I am one that has to include happiness in to ever day, so when i got on here and opened yours 1st. Well it was one more happy note to get me thru... SO Good for you...
Friends in Recovery Missing
PS.. I have been to the F2F, they are Great...It took me a couple times to get comfortable but once you open up your mind and let go and let God...Your Good :+)
-- Edited by missing out at 14:10, 2009-02-04
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Forgiveness- Isn't about forgettingwhat happened,its about Giving Up,All Hope,of a Better Past!
Aloha Sincerely...Great share...thanks for posting your gratitude!! It does work!! It does!! Don't forget to follow the suggestions to get to the meetings. Don't miss, missing out's share. That works too!!
(((Sincerly))) wonderful positive note! Thankyou for sharing the feelings of growth you are experiencing~ such a blessing to know that we can move forward we can change our life and our families lives to ones with love and care for each other and respect for one another... no matter if the A (alcoholic) in our life is drinking or not.
stay with the program and keep coming back here ~ keep moving forward . AND... yesyesyes to the face to face meetings! my thoughts and prayers are with yas ... see you in chat!
- thank you for sharing this revelation with us.
such a blessing to know that we can 
move forward we can change our life and our families lives to ones with love and care for each other and respect for one another... no matter if the A (alcoholic) in our life is drinking or not.
. AND... yesyesyes
to the face to face meetings! my thoughts and prayers 
are with yas ... see you in chat! 
