Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Lyne · Lyne

Ya know, several days last week I felt SO much better, and today is not so good. I am not coping well today and nothing REALLY horrible has happened. I'm too new at feeling good and way too comfortable feeling bad. So I'm thinking ODAT, reminding myself what I'm powerless over, tomorrow is my F2F, an...

TurtleBear · TurtleBear

Good evening everyone. Im new hereI really dont know where to startso here I go. My ex-husband, Robert, is a crack addict. It was a HUGE shock to everyone who knew him, including me. We dated for 5 and a half years (Oct 2002 to March 2008), lived together for four and a half (Sept 2003 to March 2008), befor...

Pushka · Pushka

Last night the kids went with their dad for their visitation weekend .. they are home now if that gives anyone any idea how it all went. My daughter called crying that her dad was drinking and acting odd. He's in the background wanting to know if I want to talk to him and I hear her turn and say .. no dad, mom...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Had a really nice weekend with my son. We went mud riding in the Razor after the rain storm and got so muddy it took an hour to clean the razor and us off. lol Now it will be time to let him go soon.....go back to the his problems and how he's going to fix it. I'm feeling bad but have kept quite not to bring up an...

JesseBobo · JesseBobo

Hello All, I have been with my husband for a year and a half. We have a baby boy due in 2 and a half months and I have a beautiful 8 year old little girl from my previous marriage. My husband is an alcoholic. He abuses it so badly and I have begged him to please stop. He will wake up at 8am, open a beer and drink all d...

Mimi3 · Mimi3

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person.When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty; to provide you with guida...

laurab · laurab

Here we go again. After 4 sober months 36 year old DS decided he didn't need Lithium anymore, stopped, and had a 3 day binge at a friend's house, banged up his car, and drove home drunk. I knew he was beyond detoxing at home and we had to call the troopers to get him to the ER. His blood level was 0.3. about 4 tim...

neshema2 · neshema2

I am at the pool...Met another sorta cute guy and swam w/him...and met 2 young girls and had fun with them... Also one of the lifeguards and I made friends and with ALL of them I noticed something....I am not afraid or looking down when I talk to people anymore.......I actually , and this sounds weird, Bu...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi everyone, My name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of the fellowship al-anon. My dad wanted to go to an AA bbq yesterday in out area. He got home from work at 2pm, phoned and wanted to be sure I still wanted to come. I said I'd leave my house at 3pm. I got in my car, drove over, he's passed out on the cou...

Overcome · Overcome

I knew this day would come. My alcoholic (Cowboy) started drinking again. He had been sober for 3 1/2 years, but no program. Said he could do it on his own, only the weak needed AA. I never argued with him, or tried to convince him otherwise, because I knew it would do no good. I knew that without a program he...

InspiredPhotography · InspiredPhotography

I can't help but thinking about love. If it really does exists the way I think it does? To what extent is love shared between both man and woman? The nurturing, caring, sacrificing one selfish to make sure the needs are met. To feel completely secure without no question and knowing your place. The honor...

Ms co-dependent · Ms co-dependent

Trying to get over bad feeling I have over my mom in law who is actively drinking and has my children

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Now that I have a chance to change my focus, I will not let the separation from my mom ruin my day. Right now she is out of my life. I am not going to try to resolve the issues, they are not my issues. The money situation will be resolved her way no other way! I am so sick of her trying to control money so I let it go!...

neshema2 · neshema2

First I want to thank all of you kind souls who prayed for us and gave me your hearts over this terrible scare The police found her at the beach....She is no fool...Its HOT....So where do ya go when its sizzling??? to the beach Her 2 daughters are going to pick her up... I'm relieved that she has been found...

neshema2 · neshema2

I'm gonna try and do this regularly b/c I can get so down sometimes.... so here I go TODAY, I am thankful that My kids are ok My truck is running ok I earned money today We got some more rain to ward off this earth drying up thought I lost my cat outside in this rain, but she was in the house all the time... I am dry...

WorkingIt4Me · WorkingIt4Me

I am overwhelmed, in a good way, with everything I have learned in the past couple of weeks from reading everyone's posts, going to meetings, and chatting with others in recovery. Since ABF and I have been together over a year, he is starting to witness some of my "crazy," for a lack of a bett...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I have been dating a guy on and off for the last almost year and we spent some time together the last couple days. I have been feeling like the relationship isn't heading towards what I am wanting or that he is the one. So I was open and honest with him, it went well while we were talking in person. Now that he i...

neshema2 · neshema2

Dear MIP family I did two posts about my missing and later found sister, Gini....I want thank the souls who replied on either board to give me some support in my time of great anxiety and fear. Gini has Alzheimer's and is married to an abusive AH , his drinking and abuse caused her to kinda "shut down...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

AH is not talking to me. He came home from his meeting and before I saw him, I could smell the alcohol lingering in the kitchen. I should have turned around, but I went out to the yard, where he was w the dogs. I said hello, he barely spoke. I sat next to him and told him about my morning. He barely responded. We...

Lyne · Lyne

Hi-Today I had a joint session with a substance abuse/counselor with my son as we are having troubles due to my A. It's going on for 5 months now. It's a long story. In our session I told him he needs a tune-up on his recovery. He is mentally addicted to pot and dependent on pain meds. I printed out info...

neshema2 · neshema2

My older sister Gini is GONE...She has alzheimer's....AH came home drunk yesterday night...left the car keys on the counter...she got them and LEFT I am soooo worried about her.....She has alzheimers and has taken off to go somewhere She lives in Massachusetts and I know she has "safe places'...

neshema2 · neshema2

WOW, I love to read Melodie Beattie's Language of letting go Dont remember what page it was on, but she was talking about how do we know when we are angry and what to do about it I learned that if I am feeling hurt or victimized, trapped or even guilty or I see myself withdrawing or just going into denial t...

neshema2 · neshema2

And a good Saturday/Weekend to all my good recovery mates Late last night I felt sick, something I ate or drank disagreed w/me but I am alright now It looks to be a hot one so caution as I go out in the sun Ya know, I was thinking.....LIFE can be safe, Life does not have to always be a scary proposition... It re...

WorkingIt4Me · WorkingIt4Me

I often complain about ABF being selfish and I really struggle with this. I am supportive of his recovery and I understand that his recovery should come first (to him) and mine (to me). I have a really hard time dealing with his selfishness in other areas of his life. I need to vent for a minute. I've a...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

As I work the steps and I reveal to myself my own shortcomings and personality defects, I start questioning where I am going wrong. I worry that I am putting my son in the middle sometimes and I pray that God shows that to me and that he releases me from that issue. I have come to realize that my experience...

LiveLaughLove · LiveLaughLove

Okay, so I've drilled into my head the three C's. I realize that only the alcoholic can decide if and when they want to become sober and its not the responsibility of their significant other, family, friends, etc. to get them sober and keep them sober. However, is it unrealistic to think that those...

neshema2 · neshema2

Hey all My beloved younger sis is my bestest friend...yea, I love the two older ones big time, but me and "D" are soul mates She has even done research on anxiety and ptsd to help me and kinda acts as fill in sponsor for me when my sponsor is unavailable well, she is (adopted) but still native am...

lgnutah · lgnutah

I hope it is OK to do a cut/paste from another thread (I didn't want to go off on a tangent in their thread so am starting another thread). I was reading in the thread where someone was talking about having to write a victim impact statement, and someone posted this: "I wold give them a letter....ad...

Bettina · Bettina

When I was in the throes of struggling and suffering with my life I sought a lot of guidance. I thought nobody could suffer more than me. In my journey to find serenity and happiness It was suggested that I read the book "Man's search for meaning". It is written by Viktor E. Frankl. Its not a n...

To ALL my Alanon, MIP family members · neshema2

Saw this and thought of you guys

grateful2be · grateful2be

I've been waiting to see what would happen with regards to my son. I haven't called him since I noticed he was slurring his words and heard women's voices in the background about a week ago. Each day I checked in with my HP when it came close to the time I could call him at his assigned location. Each tim...

pinkchip · pinkchip

This week is high drama. Last week of work at a job where I have been working with therapeutic foster children for a long time. I have worked with the foster kids for quite some time and this set of foster parents even longer. For once, I'm not leaving because I hate the job or even because the pay is bad b...

In The Forest · In The Forest

I have written before about the fears I have in regard to my husband's drinking and the drinking that goes on in his family. They are all very high functioning which makes it very easy for him to sometimes act like I am some kind of prude. His brother is visiting this week with his wife and three kids. The f...

stephaniej · stephaniej

Hi all. I've been reading others' posts, and occasionally posting replies, but I haven't updated in awhile. My AH left two weeks ago to work several hundred miles away. The peace has been wonderful for me. He came back for less than 24 hours last weekend, to visit and to pick up his dog. During that l...

mercedes1959 · mercedes1959

My apologies to the newcomer to the meeting this morning, I hope you will come back, this is a really good group.

Aloha · Aloha

I had to take a personal inventory on the relationship I was in recently. I knew in my heart things were not really going to work out with this guy. There's nothing "wrong" with him - I felt so lucky to have attracted to me someone who didn't appear to have any substance abuse issues - the type of...

neshema2 · neshema2

Dunno why , I wake up....and I am doing my morning work on me (alanon) thining maybe I can sneak my grandson to pool b/4 daughter can come up w/something to bollix that up and I feel sad today Looking at what am I doing??? where am I going??? is it just gonna be struggling to find a bit more work and exist??...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Simply said, I want to break free from the madness money does to people. I am generally pretty good w/ money but today I feel the pressures of it! If anyone on here can relate to just being fed up w/ the burden money causes on them would they please speak up! I am still drowning on the 2nd time I have posted on t...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Hi Everyone I need help!! I talked to my son tonight and he is scared to death about being homeless. His father agreed to store his furniture and he is trying to find a place that will take him in but having a hard time. He hasn't asked for a thing just would like to see me this weekend. NO HE WILL NOT LIV...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Good morning everyone. Growing up in an alcoholic home, raised by a single AF, I never felt I had anyone to turn to. Noone was looking out for me or my interests. I've had to carve out my own life without anyone to look to for re-assurance. I've mentioned in the past here that life has been very mundane. I wa...

FAITH1988 · FAITH1988

Hi everyone, I hope this topic is ok on this forum. I have not been on the board in 5 or so days. My son 24 yrs old has a drinking problem and after 6 years sought help. I got to see him last Sunday I was nervous and somewhat withdrawn. Every Sunday is visitation and every time you go you have to watch a film and a c...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I am writing a paper on sexually transmitted diseases or to be correct STI's now. I was scrolling through different sites finding resources to cite and I fell across this page of babies and very young children and I am beyond sick and angry that these sites even exist. I already have a hard time seeing th...

neshema2 · neshema2

I did a post on my facebook re: the importance of eating clean, non processed foods and I happen to believe that GMO's are dangerous...I had IBS so bad, I was ready to drown me and when I went organic , "poof" IBS gone....coincidence??? I don't think so but that is MY take...and I put that on M...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Okay...no guessing...Jerry F loves HP gifts which are everywhere. These are "baby yellows" (of course) which were gifted to me by another member years ago and each time they bloom they bring beauty and magical memories and strong spiritual support. I cannot even come close to creat...

neshema2 · neshema2

Hey everyone I have quite a "file" on posts I got from other sites, or stuff from "hope for today" and Melodie Beattie stuff, and other authors, not sure they are CAL or not..... What are the rules for posting their works??? I want to ask b4 I mess up....Are there any rules or prec...

nomoretalkin · nomoretalkin

First off I will say that I'm tired, confused, and overwhelmed so I apologize if I don't make sense. I attended my first al anon meeting last week to try to get some help for some condependency in my 8 year long relationship with my boyfriend who I think has a chemical dependency on alcohol. More backgrou...

neshema2 · neshema2

I have heard about affirmations....Tried affirmations....Got books and read about them and tried again My inner child just does not buy it... Soooo what I am doing to try and get around it is just TREAT me better with a demonstration.....Its almost like if I say "i am good" or "I am a...

KLotus · KLotus

May be the hardest thing I've ever faced. I am back again, writing on the issue of grief over leaving my AH, and an abusive marriage. In my heart, I know I want more for myself, deserve more, and so does my child. God keeps moving me forward, somehow, even when I don't want to do this. I am re-working ste...

LunaSpeaks · LunaSpeaks

Hi everyone - I'm new to this kind of posting so forgive me if I sound awkward! I also have a large backstory, so I'm sorry if this turns out to be a novel! About six months ago, I found out the guy I was in a committed relationship (of four years) with had been hiding a growing rapidly larger by the minute dri...

SerenitySoon · SerenitySoon

Because I'm a people pleaser, don't want to rock the boat, but also don't trust myself, always second guessing,etc. I found myself out for dinner with my son who is in the throes of a separation.As an ACOA, I take full responsibility for all of my children's decisions, actions, reactions, problems, e...

PP · PP

Just when I think I am hot stuff, my HP shows me I am not. Like a fisherman, I bite the worm treat offered, get caught and the only way I can get reeled in and set free is to surrender...cause I am not the "big catch" I thought I was. So many opportunities to practice the steps and there is ne...

neshema2 · neshema2

I am sorta working on ALL of them, LOL....These little gems, in tandem w/the 12 steps are my "Life 101" How to manual on life...... Easy Does It First Things First How Important Is It? Just for Today Keep It Simple Keep an Open Mind Let Go and Let God Let It Begin With Me Listen & Learn Live...

Lyne · Lyne

Hello. I do feel a relief from the depression I've been in for the past few months. Nothing major has been resolved except that I'm working on myself with the help of alanon. Still have all the same problems with addicted family members but maybe I'm not so sucked in today. Less codependent? Don't...

SerenitySoon · SerenitySoon

child of an alcoholicmy alcoholic has been dead for 20 years59 years of agenewbie to AlAnonfear it's too late for happinessafraid of what I'll discover about what I did to my kids/my marriageno where to turn will I ever stop crying?

sweeetr · sweeetr

I am going to NC with my lil boy in the morning to see family. Im thinking too much (maybe??) There is no trust with me for my AH ...there is love ...but NO trust. You all know my story, every book I read knows my story.. An AH is pretty much similar qualities.. The dreaded merry go 'round. Ive read to let them h...

neshema2 · neshema2

Called daughter #2 this am to see if she wanted haircut.....She said she didn't want to today, sounded like she really was "occupied" so I said, "hey look, I only called you re: the haircut b/c I had promised to and no worries...its your hair, its your decision, just call me when and i...

tortuga · tortuga

It has been a Full year since I discovered the Al Anon program and MIP family, after a lot of struggle in codependency...and maybe even 'thanks' to the disease of alcohol, i have had my so called awakening. I experienced the misery this disease brings along, but at the same time I realized the importan...

AngieK · AngieK

It's been one month since my last post. One month since I've had to wonder if he's alive or dead, in jail, if someone else got hurt because of him. I opened myself up to family today, mine and his. It feels better to have had some kind, supportive, and constructive words sent my way. There is so much love in...

WorkingIt4Me · WorkingIt4Me

Hello everyone! This is my first time posting on the forum. I am new to Alanon and recovery. I have attended a few online meetings and one f2f meeting. I will be attending my second f2f meeting this evening (and am VERY excited about it!). Here's a little history about me....I grew up in a dysfunct...

SeekingSerenity237 · SeekingSerenity237

Hi, I'm new to this online forum and looking forward to gaining from everyone's experience, strength, & hope. I've been in alanon for about 1.5 yrs now and am working steps 1 & 2 with my sponsor. I'm making progress, but really struggle when my husband goes out of town for work. I've come to real...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	happy to sad (Preview) Ya know, several days last week I felt SO much better, and today is not so good. I am not coping well today and nothing REALLY horrible has happened. I'm too new at feeling good and way too comfortable feeling bad. So I'm thinking ODAT, reminding myself what I'm powerless over, tomorrow is my F2F, an...	Lyne	6	409	Jul 23, 2013 by neshema2
	new here...could exhusband still be using??? (Preview) Good evening everyone. Im new hereI really dont know where to startso here I go. My ex-husband, Robert, is a crack addict. It was a HUGE shock to everyone who knew him, including me. We dated for 5 and a half years (Oct 2002 to March 2008), lived together for four and a half (Sept 2003 to March 2008), befor...	TurtleBear	8	502	Jul 23, 2013 by TurtleBear
	The shoe dropped .. (Preview) Last night the kids went with their dad for their visitation weekend .. they are home now if that gives anyone any idea how it all went. My daughter called crying that her dad was drinking and acting odd. He's in the background wanting to know if I want to talk to him and I hear her turn and say .. no dad, mom...	Pushka	11	654	Jul 23, 2013 by grateful2be
	The Weekend is over (Preview) Had a really nice weekend with my son. We went mud riding in the Razor after the rain storm and got so muddy it took an hour to clean the razor and us off. lol Now it will be time to let him go soon.....go back to the his problems and how he's going to fix it. I'm feeling bad but have kept quite not to bring up an...	Cathyinaz	8	313	Jul 22, 2013 by laurab
	New Here- Confused and Broken (Preview) Hello All, I have been with my husband for a year and a half. We have a baby boy due in 2 and a half months and I have a beautiful 8 year old little girl from my previous marriage. My husband is an alcoholic. He abuses it so badly and I have begged him to please stop. He will wake up at 8am, open a beer and drink all d...	JesseBobo	12	562	Jul 22, 2013 by Lyne
	Reason, Season or Lifetime? (Preview) People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person.When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty; to provide you with guida...	Mimi3	5	541	Jul 22, 2013 by LeenieBeanie
	Where is the elusive bottom? (Preview) Here we go again. After 4 sober months 36 year old DS decided he didn't need Lithium anymore, stopped, and had a 3 day binge at a friend's house, banged up his car, and drove home drunk. I knew he was beyond detoxing at home and we had to call the troopers to get him to the ER. His blood level was 0.3. about 4 tim...	laurab	17	652	Jul 22, 2013 by PP
	those little lightbulb moments (Preview) I am at the pool...Met another sorta cute guy and swam w/him...and met 2 young girls and had fun with them... Also one of the lifeguards and I made friends and with ALL of them I noticed something....I am not afraid or looking down when I talk to people anymore.......I actually , and this sounds weird, Bu...	neshema2	2	298	Jul 22, 2013 by DavidG
	Where I am in my recovery. (Preview) Hi everyone, My name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of the fellowship al-anon. My dad wanted to go to an AA bbq yesterday in out area. He got home from work at 2pm, phoned and wanted to be sure I still wanted to come. I said I'd leave my house at 3pm. I got in my car, drove over, he's passed out on the cou...	slogan_jim	5	327	Jul 22, 2013 by Breakingfree
	I knew this day would come. (Preview) I knew this day would come. My alcoholic (Cowboy) started drinking again. He had been sober for 3 1/2 years, but no program. Said he could do it on his own, only the weak needed AA. I never argued with him, or tried to convince him otherwise, because I knew it would do no good. I knew that without a program he...	Overcome	11	595	Jul 22, 2013 by Breakingfree
	Questioning Love (Preview) I can't help but thinking about love. If it really does exists the way I think it does? To what extent is love shared between both man and woman? The nurturing, caring, sacrificing one selfish to make sure the needs are met. To feel completely secure without no question and knowing your place. The honor...	InspiredPhotography	11	519	Jul 22, 2013 by InspiredPhotography
	Can't get pass the anger (Preview) Trying to get over bad feeling I have over my mom in law who is actively drinking and has my children	Ms co-dependent	5	420	Jul 22, 2013 by neshema2
	separation w/o anxiety! (Preview) Now that I have a chance to change my focus, I will not let the separation from my mom ruin my day. Right now she is out of my life. I am not going to try to resolve the issues, they are not my issues. The money situation will be resolved her way no other way! I am so sick of her trying to control money so I let it go!...	Hoot Nanny	4	378	Jul 21, 2013 by neshema2
	UPDATE ON MY MISSING SISTER (Preview) First I want to thank all of you kind souls who prayed for us and gave me your hearts over this terrible scare The police found her at the beach....She is no fool...Its HOT....So where do ya go when its sizzling??? to the beach Her 2 daughters are going to pick her up... I'm relieved that she has been found...	neshema2	12	569	Jul 21, 2013 by neshema2
	what can I give thanks for today???? (Preview) I'm gonna try and do this regularly b/c I can get so down sometimes.... so here I go TODAY, I am thankful that My kids are ok My truck is running ok I earned money today We got some more rain to ward off this earth drying up thought I lost my cat outside in this rain, but she was in the house all the time... I am dry...	neshema2	6	385	Jul 21, 2013 by lgnutah
	Recovery Conversation Boundaries (Preview) I am overwhelmed, in a good way, with everything I have learned in the past couple of weeks from reading everyone's posts, going to meetings, and chatting with others in recovery. Since ABF and I have been together over a year, he is starting to witness some of my "crazy," for a lack of a bett...	WorkingIt4Me	9	612	Jul 21, 2013 by pinkchip
	Had a very honest and difficult convo..... (Preview) I have been dating a guy on and off for the last almost year and we spent some time together the last couple days. I have been feeling like the relationship isn't heading towards what I am wanting or that he is the one. So I was open and honest with him, it went well while we were talking in person. Now that he i...	Breakingfree	9	532	Jul 21, 2013 by PP
	thank you (Preview) Dear MIP family I did two posts about my missing and later found sister, Gini....I want thank the souls who replied on either board to give me some support in my time of great anxiety and fear. Gini has Alzheimer's and is married to an abusive AH , his drinking and abuse caused her to kinda "shut down...	neshema2	1	276	Jul 21, 2013 by PP
	Doing the dance (Preview) AH is not talking to me. He came home from his meeting and before I saw him, I could smell the alcohol lingering in the kitchen. I should have turned around, but I went out to the yard, where he was w the dogs. I said hello, he barely spoke. I sat next to him and told him about my morning. He barely responded. We...	ParisMemories	8	811	Jul 21, 2013 by grateful2be
	painful session with son (Preview) Hi-Today I had a joint session with a substance abuse/counselor with my son as we are having troubles due to my A. It's going on for 5 months now. It's a long story. In our session I told him he needs a tune-up on his recovery. He is mentally addicted to pot and dependent on pain meds. I printed out info...	Lyne	4	395	Jul 21, 2013 by grateful2be
	MY SISTER IS MISSING......NEED PRAYER (Preview) My older sister Gini is GONE...She has alzheimer's....AH came home drunk yesterday night...left the car keys on the counter...she got them and LEFT I am soooo worried about her.....She has alzheimers and has taken off to go somewhere She lives in Massachusetts and I know she has "safe places'...	neshema2	7	566	Jul 21, 2013 by neshema2
	How do I know I am angry??? (Preview) WOW, I love to read Melodie Beattie's Language of letting go Dont remember what page it was on, but she was talking about how do we know when we are angry and what to do about it I learned that if I am feeling hurt or victimized, trapped or even guilty or I see myself withdrawing or just going into denial t...	neshema2	2	422	Jul 21, 2013 by grateful2be
	HAPPY WEEKEND, Alanoners (Preview) And a good Saturday/Weekend to all my good recovery mates Late last night I felt sick, something I ate or drank disagreed w/me but I am alright now It looks to be a hot one so caution as I go out in the sun Ya know, I was thinking.....LIFE can be safe, Life does not have to always be a scary proposition... It re...	neshema2	0	261	Jul 20, 2013 by neshema2
	Seems so small but... (Preview) I often complain about ABF being selfish and I really struggle with this. I am supportive of his recovery and I understand that his recovery should come first (to him) and mine (to me). I have a really hard time dealing with his selfishness in other areas of his life. I need to vent for a minute. I've a...	WorkingIt4Me	14	450	Jul 20, 2013 by neshema2
	Learning about my part (Preview) As I work the steps and I reveal to myself my own shortcomings and personality defects, I start questioning where I am going wrong. I worry that I am putting my son in the middle sometimes and I pray that God shows that to me and that he releases me from that issue. I have come to realize that my experience...	ilovedogs	10	529	Jul 20, 2013 by ilovedogs
	I just need to voice my frustrations (Preview) Okay, so I've drilled into my head the three C's. I realize that only the alcoholic can decide if and when they want to become sober and its not the responsibility of their significant other, family, friends, etc. to get them sober and keep them sober. However, is it unrealistic to think that those...	LiveLaughLove	8	406	Jul 20, 2013 by LiveLaughLove
	A boundary AND an amend to younger and wonderful SIS (Preview) Hey all My beloved younger sis is my bestest friend...yea, I love the two older ones big time, but me and "D" are soul mates She has even done research on anxiety and ptsd to help me and kinda acts as fill in sponsor for me when my sponsor is unavailable well, she is (adopted) but still native am...	neshema2	1	305	Jul 20, 2013 by neshema2
	Writing a letter telling people how their "deeds" have harmed (Preview) I hope it is OK to do a cut/paste from another thread (I didn't want to go off on a tangent in their thread so am starting another thread). I was reading in the thread where someone was talking about having to write a victim impact statement, and someone posted this: "I wold give them a letter....ad...	lgnutah	8	481	Jul 20, 2013 by Bettina
	the bigger picture (Preview) When I was in the throes of struggling and suffering with my life I sought a lot of guidance. I thought nobody could suffer more than me. In my journey to find serenity and happiness It was suggested that I read the book "Man's search for meaning". It is written by Viktor E. Frankl. Its not a n...	Bettina	13	463	Jul 20, 2013 by neshema2
	To ALL my Alanon, MIP family members (Preview) Saw this and thought of you guys	neshema2	6	358	Jul 20, 2013 by Lyne
	Update on my son (Preview) I've been waiting to see what would happen with regards to my son. I haven't called him since I noticed he was slurring his words and heard women's voices in the background about a week ago. Each day I checked in with my HP when it came close to the time I could call him at his assigned location. Each tim...	grateful2be	16	510	Jul 20, 2013 by neshema2
	Emotionally amped (Preview) This week is high drama. Last week of work at a job where I have been working with therapeutic foster children for a long time. I have worked with the foster kids for quite some time and this set of foster parents even longer. For once, I'm not leaving because I hate the job or even because the pay is bad b...	pinkchip	13	471	Jul 20, 2013 by neshema2
	Kids And the Messages They Get (Preview) I have written before about the fears I have in regard to my husband's drinking and the drinking that goes on in his family. They are all very high functioning which makes it very easy for him to sometimes act like I am some kind of prude. His brother is visiting this week with his wife and three kids. The f...	In The Forest	14	573	Jul 20, 2013 by neshema2
	Update (Preview) Hi all. I've been reading others' posts, and occasionally posting replies, but I haven't updated in awhile. My AH left two weeks ago to work several hundred miles away. The peace has been wonderful for me. He came back for less than 24 hours last weekend, to visit and to pick up his dog. During that l...	stephaniej	4	245	Jul 19, 2013 by Breakingfree
	Newcomer at the meeting this morning (Preview) My apologies to the newcomer to the meeting this morning, I hope you will come back, this is a really good group.	mercedes1959	0	246	Jul 19, 2013 by mercedes1959
	Guilt is not conducive to self-love. (Preview) I had to take a personal inventory on the relationship I was in recently. I knew in my heart things were not really going to work out with this guy. There's nothing "wrong" with him - I felt so lucky to have attracted to me someone who didn't appear to have any substance abuse issues - the type of...	Aloha	9	356	Jul 19, 2013 by neshema2
	Feeling kinda of Crappy (Preview) Dunno why , I wake up....and I am doing my morning work on me (alanon) thining maybe I can sneak my grandson to pool b/4 daughter can come up w/something to bollix that up and I feel sad today Looking at what am I doing??? where am I going??? is it just gonna be struggling to find a bit more work and exist??...	neshema2	13	545	Jul 19, 2013 by neshema2
	I want to break free! (Preview) Simply said, I want to break free from the madness money does to people. I am generally pretty good w/ money but today I feel the pressures of it! If anyone on here can relate to just being fed up w/ the burden money causes on them would they please speak up! I am still drowning on the 2nd time I have posted on t...	Hoot Nanny	4	273	Jul 19, 2013 by grateful2be
	Help Needed (Preview) Hi Everyone I need help!! I talked to my son tonight and he is scared to death about being homeless. His father agreed to store his furniture and he is trying to find a place that will take him in but having a hard time. He hasn't asked for a thing just would like to see me this weekend. NO HE WILL NOT LIV...	Cathyinaz	22	551	Jul 19, 2013 by Jerry F
	I had a bit of a freak out with myself last night (Preview) Good morning everyone. Growing up in an alcoholic home, raised by a single AF, I never felt I had anyone to turn to. Noone was looking out for me or my interests. I've had to carve out my own life without anyone to look to for re-assurance. I've mentioned in the past here that life has been very mundane. I wa...	slogan_jim	12	426	Jul 19, 2013 by AngieP
	I have to write a victim impact letter to my son to read to him before he graduates rehab (Preview) Hi everyone, I hope this topic is ok on this forum. I have not been on the board in 5 or so days. My son 24 yrs old has a drinking problem and after 6 years sought help. I got to see him last Sunday I was nervous and somewhat withdrawn. Every Sunday is visitation and every time you go you have to watch a film and a c...	FAITH1988	11	4368	Jul 19, 2013 by neshema2
	I am so upset, I fell upon a pedophile site last night writing a paper (Preview) I am writing a paper on sexually transmitted diseases or to be correct STI's now. I was scrolling through different sites finding resources to cite and I fell across this page of babies and very young children and I am beyond sick and angry that these sites even exist. I already have a hard time seeing th...	Breakingfree	11	462	Jul 19, 2013 by WorkingThroughIt
	LOL I think I brought Alanon to my Facebook (Preview) I did a post on my facebook re: the importance of eating clean, non processed foods and I happen to believe that GMO's are dangerous...I had IBS so bad, I was ready to drown me and when I went organic , "poof" IBS gone....coincidence??? I don't think so but that is MY take...and I put that on M...	neshema2	8	441	Jul 18, 2013 by neshema2
	The new Avatar... (Preview) Okay...no guessing...Jerry F loves HP gifts which are everywhere. These are "baby yellows" (of course) which were gifted to me by another member years ago and each time they bloom they bring beauty and magical memories and strong spiritual support. I cannot even come close to creat...	Jerry F	12	362	Jul 18, 2013 by el-cee
	WHAT is the rule for posting posts written by other authors i.e. Melodie Beattie, et al?????? (Preview) Hey everyone I have quite a "file" on posts I got from other sites, or stuff from "hope for today" and Melodie Beattie stuff, and other authors, not sure they are CAL or not..... What are the rules for posting their works??? I want to ask b4 I mess up....Are there any rules or prec...	neshema2	27	567	Jul 18, 2013 by neshema2
	Help FOR a counselor: Is he an alcoholic? (Preview) First off I will say that I'm tired, confused, and overwhelmed so I apologize if I don't make sense. I attended my first al anon meeting last week to try to get some help for some condependency in my 8 year long relationship with my boyfriend who I think has a chemical dependency on alcohol. More backgrou...	nomoretalkin	22	667	Jul 18, 2013 by neshema2
	why doesn't my inner child "buy" affirmations (Preview) I have heard about affirmations....Tried affirmations....Got books and read about them and tried again My inner child just does not buy it... Soooo what I am doing to try and get around it is just TREAT me better with a demonstration.....Its almost like if I say "i am good" or "I am a...	neshema2	21	570	Jul 18, 2013 by neshema2
	Letting go - (Preview) May be the hardest thing I've ever faced. I am back again, writing on the issue of grief over leaving my AH, and an abusive marriage. In my heart, I know I want more for myself, deserve more, and so does my child. God keeps moving me forward, somehow, even when I don't want to do this. I am re-working ste...	KLotus	9	547	Jul 18, 2013 by neshema2
	Betrayal... A Novel of a Post. Please help (Preview) Hi everyone - I'm new to this kind of posting so forgive me if I sound awkward! I also have a large backstory, so I'm sorry if this turns out to be a novel! About six months ago, I found out the guy I was in a committed relationship (of four years) with had been hiding a growing rapidly larger by the minute dri...	LunaSpeaks	4	462	Jul 18, 2013 by pinkchip
	The Courage to Change the Things I Can (Preview) Because I'm a people pleaser, don't want to rock the boat, but also don't trust myself, always second guessing,etc. I found myself out for dinner with my son who is in the throes of a separation.As an ACOA, I take full responsibility for all of my children's decisions, actions, reactions, problems, e...	SerenitySoon	4	282	Jul 18, 2013 by neshema2
	Hot Stuff, huh? (Preview) Just when I think I am hot stuff, my HP shows me I am not. Like a fisherman, I bite the worm treat offered, get caught and the only way I can get reeled in and set free is to surrender...cause I am not the "big catch" I thought I was. So many opportunities to practice the steps and there is ne...	PP	8	333	Jul 18, 2013 by neshema2
	Some slogans (Preview) I am sorta working on ALL of them, LOL....These little gems, in tandem w/the 12 steps are my "Life 101" How to manual on life...... Easy Does It First Things First How Important Is It? Just for Today Keep It Simple Keep an Open Mind Let Go and Let God Let It Begin With Me Listen & Learn Live...	neshema2	6	420	Jul 18, 2013 by grateful2be
	feel better today (Preview) Hello. I do feel a relief from the depression I've been in for the past few months. Nothing major has been resolved except that I'm working on myself with the help of alanon. Still have all the same problems with addicted family members but maybe I'm not so sucked in today. Less codependent? Don't...	Lyne	9	351	Jul 18, 2013 by grateful2be
	Tiny Steps (Preview) child of an alcoholicmy alcoholic has been dead for 20 years59 years of agenewbie to AlAnonfear it's too late for happinessafraid of what I'll discover about what I did to my kids/my marriageno where to turn will I ever stop crying?	SerenitySoon	14	401	Jul 18, 2013 by grateful2be
	well (Preview) I am going to NC with my lil boy in the morning to see family. Im thinking too much (maybe??) There is no trust with me for my AH ...there is love ...but NO trust. You all know my story, every book I read knows my story.. An AH is pretty much similar qualities.. The dreaded merry go 'round. Ive read to let them h...	sweeetr	2	261	Jul 17, 2013 by grateful2be
	I'll take even the little breakthroughs (Preview) Called daughter #2 this am to see if she wanted haircut.....She said she didn't want to today, sounded like she really was "occupied" so I said, "hey look, I only called you re: the haircut b/c I had promised to and no worries...its your hair, its your decision, just call me when and i...	neshema2	2	297	Jul 17, 2013 by hotrod
	passing it on- in service to others: BE HAPPY! (Preview) It has been a Full year since I discovered the Al Anon program and MIP family, after a lot of struggle in codependency...and maybe even 'thanks' to the disease of alcohol, i have had my so called awakening. I experienced the misery this disease brings along, but at the same time I realized the importan...	tortuga	7	343	Jul 17, 2013 by neshema2
	it's been one month (Preview) It's been one month since my last post. One month since I've had to wonder if he's alive or dead, in jail, if someone else got hurt because of him. I opened myself up to family today, mine and his. It feels better to have had some kind, supportive, and constructive words sent my way. There is so much love in...	AngieK	7	266	Jul 17, 2013 by Jerry F
	New and Ready (Preview) Hello everyone! This is my first time posting on the forum. I am new to Alanon and recovery. I have attended a few online meetings and one f2f meeting. I will be attending my second f2f meeting this evening (and am VERY excited about it!). Here's a little history about me....I grew up in a dysfunct...	WorkingIt4Me	5	390	Jul 17, 2013 by Jerry F
	Learning selfcare and letting go of jealousy (Preview) Hi, I'm new to this online forum and looking forward to gaining from everyone's experience, strength, & hope. I've been in alanon for about 1.5 yrs now and am working steps 1 & 2 with my sponsor. I'm making progress, but really struggle when my husband goes out of town for work. I've come to real...	SeekingSerenity237	7	581	Jul 17, 2013 by neshema2
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