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Jozie · Jozie

This Disease Has been! Since My AGram's Stroke on Mothers Day I have been Run Ragged... Today I had to take to the Doctors, and her Only comment when he leaves the Room! "When Can I Get Me a BIG Bottle?" She hasn't drank since her Stroke, but apparently its still Fresh in her Mind! She doesn't Re...

Ms co-dependent · Ms co-dependent

im tired of talking..... my children are away for the month , this is my time for me to figure me out. not time to work on a marrage thats distroyed due to this illness. past 2 weeks my ah now 8 moths sober has been mean ,ugly, demeaning. he hates me. he hates everything about me. this is fact!!! he has t...

neshema2 · neshema2

Good morning everyone Today is raining, the flowers and the creatures get a respite from the heat and dryness and for them I am happy This am, I had a hell of a time getting my old dog up on her feet to go for restroom break outside I guess her days are numbered now, its gonna be sad when I have to "help her...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I went with a guy I have been dating on and off for the last year his teenagers and mine and I decided to just go and enjoy the music festival and flow with it. I was wanting to go for the last year and we had gone back and forth about whether we were going together or not. It was easier for me to go with him since he...

jbat · jbat

I have never been in a close relationship with someone going through AA, so this is all very new to me. Let me share my story. I recently starting dating a really great woman. We have a lot in common and get along great. While our relationship is still young, we seem to be making the natural progressio...

grateful2be · grateful2be

Verbal abuse is something most of us would probably agree is a constant as the disease progresses in our relationships. But, are there times when someone is courageous and caring enough to point something out about us that we don't want to hear or see because it wounds our pride and we call that verb...

giraffe13 · giraffe13

I am feeling really sad and hurting pretty bad so I just want to do a post to let it out. Out of anger, and emotion on Tuesday I broke up with my boyfriend over something that he did which wasn't so serious that happened the night before. And a bit of a lie I realized he told on tuesday as well. Much worse things...

Bettina · Bettina

" Happiness in life is not determined by marriage. The secret to happiness lies in building a strong inner self , a self that no trial or hardship can diminish."

debhud · debhud

first of all, thank you all for your thoughtful responses. i appreciated all of your insight. after a short period of time, my husband apologized for the way he acted and we were able to talk about my fears with his driving in a healthy adult way. i have come to realize that he really wasn't aware of how fr...

sweeetr · sweeetr

Growing apart and only bothers me. I'm the only one who cares, well my lil boy trys to make everything better. If alcohol isn't an issue for him. Why doesn't he stop and quit lying etc I'm so lonely and tired of smelling the booze. He's in the same room and I'm crying over his drunk snoring. I know all I sa...

EverlyNeverly · EverlyNeverly

Hey All, This is my first post here. I'm reaching out in hopes this community can help me understand alcoholism better and learn how to help my boyfriend. We have been together for nearly 7 years and alcoholism has only been an issue for the past 1.5 - 2 years. He started drinking heavily after getting a D...

neshema2 · neshema2

Hey alanoners Met my granddaughter, Janet and she is a beauty...Her mom was happy to see me and its so funny I am gushing over the grand baby and "C" got a teeny bit , like "I want your attention and hugs, too, Mom" So I made amends to her and agreed that she needed love and attention t...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Blessed Sunday All I feel bad I haven't been here for a few days but I have been so busy with work, the work on my home and making a few more meetings in the last week. I quit my counselor and picked up meetings instead. I felt I was at a point in my program that Al-anon was enough and why spend so much money an...

Bettina · Bettina

" If you dig where you're at , you'll find gold."

neshema2 · neshema2

This is me..Holding baby Adrian, born on May 3, 2011...I call him the "little screamer" b/c when he sees me and I leave the house, he chases after me and I swear...he sounds like a baby Lion in a very pissed off state of mind....He chases me up the sidewalk, arms out stretched, hollaring in his...

Green Eyes · Green Eyes

"I am the Mother of an AddictThis is not like being the mother of a child with cancer, diabetes, or aidsThis is not like being the mother of a child who is serving with honor in a foreign landThis is not like being the mother of a child who lives no more and is mourned by all I am the Mother of an Addict The...

John · John

I have tried to write this twice, and both times my laptop shut down while I was writing so I will make it quick. I got a phone call from my son yesterday. Other than running into each other in a grocery store and doing a few second greeting exchange we have not spoken since the bond I got him out of jail on, b...

LaurieLee · LaurieLee

Howdy, Is anyone in this room, I am new...maintaining the positive but in emotional pain everyday

neshema2 · neshema2

Daughter #2 is home...Baby is a girl....Janeth Judith is her name Daughter calls me (I haven't seen her since b4 she went to hosp) and asks me How I am and I say fine and ask her how she is doing and she says fine and shes home and "are you going to come over and see the baby???" I told her that my tru...

John · John

By a special woman I came to know through Miracles In Progress Aftercare Recovery Homes. These were both written as a direct result of her ongoing recovery process. In the first one, its as though she is telling my story before recovery... and this one, afte...

debhud · debhud

hi everyone, my AH has been sober for over 3 years we both work our programs. he wants to drive cross county with me to do some sightseeing and is really looking forward to it. we had a discussion this morning and i told him, "i don't think i can do it." he asked why and i told him because his...

neshema2 · neshema2

Reading this is what I kinda feel about my daughter and the siblings who are no longer a part of my life..... Its not about punishing anyone...I am sure of that...its ALL about taking good care of ME ***Higher Power within........I am READY to make peace with the things and people I cannot change and let...

Gaby · Gaby

I got a phone call from my sons rehab. He got kicked out because he was not pulling his wait on working and started getting lazy. Well in recovery you need to have respect and learn to handle discipline. Well I am on my way to pick him up because the plan this weekend was to go get him Saturday and take him to ge...

grateful2be · grateful2be

To parents living in fear for their children with this disease. This doesn't have a fairy tale happy ending, but it is true. My son is afflicted with this disease as many of you know. It has drug him through more trouble and pain than I would think anyone could endure. I've had to separate myself from...

neshema2 · neshema2

U know I have been back about 1.5 weeks now and I am seeing something in me that can be good, can be not so good I don't want to lose my ability to have compassion for the ones who truly are struggling to do and be better...The folks who have good and not evil in their hearts...Even the A's and the NA's who reall...

neshema2 · neshema2

I was two years old in this pic...Smiling...I was made in the image of Creator...How can I NOT forgive me for my mistakes??? I want the same total love of self that shows here...I will work for it...I am in recovery.... This little child still lives somewhere within me...Not the painful, scared one wh...

neshema2 · neshema2

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello All, It has been a while since I have been around. The life of addiction has been consuming me. My daughter moved out a few months ago because of addiction, honestly just couldn't take it anymore. She seems to be finding sobriety and her way in the world. However, I have my doubts. I threw my son...

Elliot G · Elliot G

Hi. My name is Elliot and I am an alcoholic. Thanks to the 12 Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous I have not had a drink in over a year and a half and I have 7 months of true sobriety. As a result I have had so many wondrous changes in my life and I am grateful to the fellowship, my sponsor and my Higher Power for those m...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi Everyone, My name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. I was invited to a birthday party in a few weeks. The birthday party is at a bar. A place this guy frequents often and is a regular. I may have mentioned him and this place a few times on here. I have been to this place before. It's dark, i...

John · John

I got a pressure washing job yesterday that included doing the roof. It was in really bad shape with mold and mildew all over it. The chemical I use allows me to wash a roof with very low pressure so as to not damage the shingles, but it also makes the mold and mildew real slippery. I have all the equipmen...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

I am on vacation in FL so I should be in a great mood. I'm not. I am away from AH for 2 weeks and I am enjoying my time away, but right now I dread going home. I'm having a hard time just enjoying the 'moments' on vacation. And, you know what's funny? I won't be going home to a drunk or even abusiveness. My...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

just a quick feel good post. . my ah is out for evening. . it was planned so my anxiety is quite low, my daught is staying w nana and papa. . im alone. the heatwave broke tonight so i have every window in the house open. , ahhh, fresh air. . and in the moment i am taking the time to be serene and hear the night sound...

megaroni5 · megaroni5

Hi, I am new to Al Anon, and this message board. Things have gotten to a point where I can't take it anymore, and I am so sick of the cycle that my AH and I are in. I have realized that I am a sick, sick person and I have been allowing myself to be miserable for years. My AH and I have been together for 8 years, and we...

neshema2 · neshema2

for the past two weeks, daughter #2 has actually been calling me........of COURSE...She is do to give birth Has NOTHING to do w/me otherwise.......Last summer when I had pneumonia she never walked next door to check up on me just left me to suffer fast forward to Monday....She calls me, Oh and its &qu...

In The Forest · In The Forest

I've been thinking a lot lately about what kind of boundaries I want to set for myself. Like a lot of people here I am struggling to learn what kind of behaviors are enabling and what behaviors are detachment. I am getting better at it but still have a ways to go. I am trying to figure out where driving for th...

wornoutmrsfixit · wornoutmrsfixit

Just a quick update on my last post regarding the gun and my safety. I talked to the mental health/substance abuse authorities and they couldn't do much but make a report unless he was threatening suicide. I did talk to his therapist who gave me some encouraging news. My AH has to go to court at the end of t...

hotrod · hotrod

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FAITH1988 · FAITH1988

Hi, my name is Faith1988, I became an Al anon member in 1990 when my husband at the time was struggling with alcoholism. Al anon was a lifesaver to me it gave me the courage to grab my 3 babies and leave the very abusive alcoholic I was married to. It was easier than this crisis, I had to protect my children fr...

grateful2be · grateful2be

"Unwearied ceaseless effort is the price that must be paid for turning faith into a rich infallible experience." Mahatma Ghandi Sometimes I must ask myself when life's light grows dim and I feel low - "Where I have I placed my faith? In disaster? In darkness? In myself or my resou...

KSwiss · KSwiss

My sober AH talked to his sister about his issues with how is treated in his family. A lot of stuff came out and I was amazed at how he handled it. She accused our 15 yr old son of ignoring her at a party and he said that our kids are old enough to make up their own minds about family especially how they have been i...

likemyheart · likemyheart

But I suspect they don't really exist, amazing what can be done with computer graphics. Hope it works, its quite fun to watch. http://www.youtube.com/embed/XlyCLbt3Thk?rel=0> -- Edited by likemyheart on Thursday...

pinkchip · pinkchip

So a whole lot in my life has changed in the 5 years that I have been sober and also been out of a relationship with another drunk. I recall that when I was in that position, my whole life revolved around alcoholism/addiction and I had no choices. All I ever did was complain about my life and I was a giant vi...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Good Morning everyone, beautiful day in southern ontario. I want to talk about some insecurity I have. It seems like every time the weekend roles around I get a strong sense of dread. A sense of 'uggghh here we go again. More lonely days sitting by myself running errands, with nothing to do.It's funny b...

HAshby · HAshby

Am I an idiot for being in this relationship? I have been dating a man that is everything I have ever wanted minus an addiction. I think from things hes said that he is ready to admit he has a problem. We havent really talked about it. He is on day 9 totally clean. Not by choice but because he abused his prescr...

John · John

Pushka · Pushka

I think it's really important to remember and I know this is true for me .. I can put myself in a worse spin and be just as sick as I was the first day I walked into Alanon .. it's why I'm grateful that this is a program of progress not perfection .. those old feelings can come roaring back and even though my tool...

Gaholfer · Gaholfer

Hi all, My AW of 7+ years has been sober for about 7 months now. We have 2 children together, 7 & 2yrs old. She was sober for both their pregnancies and for a while after, but eventually started drinking again. We've certainly had our problems. A few years ago, she cheated on me emotionally, which...

wornoutmrsfixit · wornoutmrsfixit

I got some information last night that I think I should act on but I'm not sure what to do with it or if I will even be listened to. I have known for some time that my AH (separated since August) could be threatening but he has been staying away from my apartment since I told him to and since I changed my phone #...

Venera · Venera

Time goes so slow, my AH is coming back from his vacation tomorrow. Not sure at what condition, drunk or dry, and I cant stop thinking about it. I have tried to read a lot, detach, not think much about him, do my things, something nice everyday for myself, but nothing really works.. This is the first time i...

grateful2be · grateful2be

My (Lord) God, I have no idea where I am going. I do not see the road ahead of me. I cannot know for certain where it will end. Nor do I really know myself, and the fact that I think I am following your will does not mean that I am actually doing so. But I believe that the desire to please you does in fact plea...

needhope · needhope

Hi all, I am new here. I have been spouse to an in denial high functioning alcoholic and substance abuser for 25 years. This man has emotionally abused me the entire time. He is very clever and was very, very good at blaming me for his bad behavior. He is truly Dr.Jekyll and Mr.Hyde. Really good at putting...

sandydv · sandydv

Having a down day. Had bad night last night. It started out okay, did my own thing, went for a run, worked out, felt good. H came home slept woke up and drank beer, typical... Was having conversation with my teenage daughter, she was frustrated looking for work. H decides to interupt, to disagree wit...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

I am anxious and would appreciate some calming energy. I know my worries are just my own bad habits, but why cant I shake them? There is a flutter in my chest and my mind keeps racing, foxused on what ifs. I look forward to the day when this disease ( his and mine) is not the primary focus of my attention. I rea...

grateful2be · grateful2be

"Seeing the Holy in the Ordinary" is a subtitle to a book, A Tree Full of Angels, written by Macrina Wiederkehr. This morning, after reading the MIP board - part of my daily Program work now - I went outdoors to put some bill payments into my mailbox. No one was outdoors. No mowers running. ...

alexmaui · alexmaui

So, when do I achieve perfection? I left my AH 2 1/2 years ago after 8 years of chaos and pain.... I left, rented a sweet little house and found serenity. I kept going to my f2f meeting and was recovering. My husband is a sweet man, who is damaged by this escalating disease. So, I tried to maintain a connecti...

giraffe13 · giraffe13

I made a discovery about recovery last night. I took my A bf on a wonderful weekend getaway July 4th and paid for everything. Bed and Breakfast, tennis, beach, and relaxing. We truly had a wonderful time. Of course, before this trip we barely have seen each other the last two months as I have been less to...

Rinn · Rinn

i am having a hard time. For those who don't know the back story in brief husband started using meth seven months ago. He has been out of home for a few months. I filed for separation back in may. Today I got the order by default because he refused to respond. I also got a restraining order to prevent hi...

Bettina · Bettina

Came across this in my morning readings, hope this is inspirational as you go thru your own storms. "Everything has profound meaning. There is no need whatsoever to vacillate between elation and despair at each turn of events. There is no such thing as a storm that will continue blowing , wreak...

Lyne · Lyne

Well I haven't wanted to "know" this but my son has pot addiction even though he isn't using at the moment, and he has developed dependence on pain meds from two back surgeries. I don't know whether it's the guilt from leaving his father years ago, or I have been too dependent on him for emoti...

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	What a Whirl Wind! (Preview) This Disease Has been! Since My AGram's Stroke on Mothers Day I have been Run Ragged... Today I had to take to the Doctors, and her Only comment when he leaves the Room! "When Can I Get Me a BIG Bottle?" She hasn't drank since her Stroke, but apparently its still Fresh in her Mind! She doesn't Re...	Jozie	5	332	Jul 16, 2013 by Jozie
	i hate the disease. (Preview) im tired of talking..... my children are away for the month , this is my time for me to figure me out. not time to work on a marrage thats distroyed due to this illness. past 2 weeks my ah now 8 moths sober has been mean ,ugly, demeaning. he hates me. he hates everything about me. this is fact!!! he has t...	Ms co-dependent	12	636	Jul 16, 2013 by Breakingfree
	GOOD MORNING Alanoners (Preview) Good morning everyone Today is raining, the flowers and the creatures get a respite from the heat and dryness and for them I am happy This am, I had a hell of a time getting my old dog up on her feet to go for restroom break outside I guess her days are numbered now, its gonna be sad when I have to "help her...	neshema2	5	221	Jul 16, 2013 by Jerry F
	Went camping for 4 days and used my tools through the 4 day Christian camp big time (Preview) I went with a guy I have been dating on and off for the last year his teenagers and mine and I decided to just go and enjoy the music festival and flow with it. I was wanting to go for the last year and we had gone back and forth about whether we were going together or not. It was easier for me to go with him since he...	Breakingfree	4	264	Jul 16, 2013 by Jerry F
	New to this! (Preview) I have never been in a close relationship with someone going through AA, so this is all very new to me. Let me share my story. I recently starting dating a really great woman. We have a lot in common and get along great. While our relationship is still young, we seem to be making the natural progressio...	jbat	3	261	Jul 16, 2013 by Jerry F
	Is it verbal abuse or is it truth? (Preview) Verbal abuse is something most of us would probably agree is a constant as the disease progresses in our relationships. But, are there times when someone is courageous and caring enough to point something out about us that we don't want to hear or see because it wounds our pride and we call that verb...	grateful2be	29	1105	Jul 15, 2013 by grateful2be
	Broken Heart. (Preview) I am feeling really sad and hurting pretty bad so I just want to do a post to let it out. Out of anger, and emotion on Tuesday I broke up with my boyfriend over something that he did which wasn't so serious that happened the night before. And a bit of a lie I realized he told on tuesday as well. Much worse things...	giraffe13	15	541	Jul 16, 2013 by Lyne
	Happiness! (Preview) " Happiness in life is not determined by marriage. The secret to happiness lies in building a strong inner self , a self that no trial or hardship can diminish."	Bettina	8	259	Jul 16, 2013 by Bettina
	update about driving cross country. leaving in 2 weeks!! (Preview) first of all, thank you all for your thoughtful responses. i appreciated all of your insight. after a short period of time, my husband apologized for the way he acted and we were able to talk about my fears with his driving in a healthy adult way. i have come to realize that he really wasn't aware of how fr...	debhud	6	175	Jul 15, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	I'm back - falling apart again (Preview) Growing apart and only bothers me. I'm the only one who cares, well my lil boy trys to make everything better. If alcohol isn't an issue for him. Why doesn't he stop and quit lying etc I'm so lonely and tired of smelling the booze. He's in the same room and I'm crying over his drunk snoring. I know all I sa...	sweeetr	7	411	Jul 15, 2013 by neshema2
	Boyfriend Accepts He Has a Problem, Doesn't Know How to Stop Drinking alcoholism alcohol help girlfriend support addiction next steps therapy treatment detox rehab (Preview) Hey All, This is my first post here. I'm reaching out in hopes this community can help me understand alcoholism better and learn how to help my boyfriend. We have been together for nearly 7 years and alcoholism has only been an issue for the past 1.5 - 2 years. He started drinking heavily after getting a D...	EverlyNeverly	8	6871	Jul 15, 2013 by neshema2
	Met my granddaughter--Day went well (Preview) Hey alanoners Met my granddaughter, Janet and she is a beauty...Her mom was happy to see me and its so funny I am gushing over the grand baby and "C" got a teeny bit , like "I want your attention and hugs, too, Mom" So I made amends to her and agreed that she needed love and attention t...	neshema2	10	358	Jul 15, 2013 by grateful2be
	Busy Busy Busy (Preview) Blessed Sunday All I feel bad I haven't been here for a few days but I have been so busy with work, the work on my home and making a few more meetings in the last week. I quit my counselor and picked up meetings instead. I felt I was at a point in my program that Al-anon was enough and why spend so much money an...	Cathyinaz	6	242	Jul 15, 2013 by neshema2
	Old Wise Japanese saying: (Preview) " If you dig where you're at , you'll find gold."	Bettina	5	2539	Jul 15, 2013 by neshema2
	one of my all time favorites (Preview) This is me..Holding baby Adrian, born on May 3, 2011...I call him the "little screamer" b/c when he sees me and I leave the house, he chases after me and I swear...he sounds like a baby Lion in a very pissed off state of mind....He chases me up the sidewalk, arms out stretched, hollaring in his...	neshema2	3	193	Jul 15, 2013 by grateful2be
	I Am the Mother of an Addict (Alcoholic) (Preview) "I am the Mother of an AddictThis is not like being the mother of a child with cancer, diabetes, or aidsThis is not like being the mother of a child who is serving with honor in a foreign landThis is not like being the mother of a child who lives no more and is mourned by all I am the Mother of an Addict The...	Green Eyes	9	1097	Jul 15, 2013 by Peggy7
	Spent time with my son yesterday... (Preview) I have tried to write this twice, and both times my laptop shut down while I was writing so I will make it quick. I got a phone call from my son yesterday. Other than running into each other in a grocery store and doing a few second greeting exchange we have not spoken since the bond I got him out of jail on, b...	John	10	347	Jul 14, 2013 by muddlehead
	Anyone out there now? (Preview) Howdy, Is anyone in this room, I am new...maintaining the positive but in emotional pain everyday	LaurieLee	7	294	Jul 14, 2013 by muddlehead
	Daugher2 is home from hospital...Its a girl!!!! (Preview) Daughter #2 is home...Baby is a girl....Janeth Judith is her name Daughter calls me (I haven't seen her since b4 she went to hosp) and asks me How I am and I say fine and ask her how she is doing and she says fine and shes home and "are you going to come over and see the baby???" I told her that my tru...	neshema2	6	261	Jul 14, 2013 by neshema2
	Two songs I can really relate to... (Preview) By a special woman I came to know through Miracles In Progress Aftercare Recovery Homes. These were both written as a direct result of her ongoing recovery process. In the first one, its as though she is telling my story before recovery... and this one, afte...	John	4	313	Jul 14, 2013 by Breakingfree
	i didn't say it mean. why do i feel so horrible? (Preview) hi everyone, my AH has been sober for over 3 years we both work our programs. he wants to drive cross county with me to do some sightseeing and is really looking forward to it. we had a discussion this morning and i told him, "i don't think i can do it." he asked why and i told him because his...	debhud	10	790	Jul 14, 2013 by pinkchip
	now THIS kind I can do (Preview) Reading this is what I kinda feel about my daughter and the siblings who are no longer a part of my life..... Its not about punishing anyone...I am sure of that...its ALL about taking good care of ME ***Higher Power within........I am READY to make peace with the things and people I cannot change and let...	neshema2	2	182	Jul 14, 2013 by Sweet Stanley
	I need support and strength ;( (Preview) I got a phone call from my sons rehab. He got kicked out because he was not pulling his wait on working and started getting lazy. Well in recovery you need to have respect and learn to handle discipline. Well I am on my way to pick him up because the plan this weekend was to go get him Saturday and take him to ge...	Gaby	11	360	Jul 14, 2013 by neshema2
	Some of what occurs for adult children with this disease whose parents have had to set them free (Preview) To parents living in fear for their children with this disease. This doesn't have a fairy tale happy ending, but it is true. My son is afflicted with this disease as many of you know. It has drug him through more trouble and pain than I would think anyone could endure. I've had to separate myself from...	grateful2be	6	375	Jul 14, 2013 by grateful2be
	I just want to fight the good fight but be "sorta" normal???? (Preview) U know I have been back about 1.5 weeks now and I am seeing something in me that can be good, can be not so good I don't want to lose my ability to have compassion for the ones who truly are struggling to do and be better...The folks who have good and not evil in their hearts...Even the A's and the NA's who reall...	neshema2	11	342	Jul 14, 2013 by neshema2
	The next time I "get on me" I will look at this!!! (Preview) I was two years old in this pic...Smiling...I was made in the image of Creator...How can I NOT forgive me for my mistakes??? I want the same total love of self that shows here...I will work for it...I am in recovery.... This little child still lives somewhere within me...Not the painful, scared one wh...	neshema2	6	222	Jul 13, 2013 by neshema2
	Something I want to think more on (Preview)	neshema2	1	181	Jul 13, 2013 by PP
	Venting (Preview) Hello All, It has been a while since I have been around. The life of addiction has been consuming me. My daughter moved out a few months ago because of addiction, honestly just couldn't take it anymore. She seems to be finding sobriety and her way in the world. However, I have my doubts. I threw my son...	Andrea12	5	222	Jul 13, 2013 by grateful2be
	I just want to understand. (Preview) Hi. My name is Elliot and I am an alcoholic. Thanks to the 12 Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous I have not had a drink in over a year and a half and I have 7 months of true sobriety. As a result I have had so many wondrous changes in my life and I am grateful to the fellowship, my sponsor and my Higher Power for those m...	Elliot G	6	431	Jul 13, 2013 by 1911A1
	Am I isolating? Being to stuck up? In this situation? (Preview) Hi Everyone, My name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. I was invited to a birthday party in a few weeks. The birthday party is at a bar. A place this guy frequents often and is a regular. I may have mentioned him and this place a few times on here. I have been to this place before. It's dark, i...	slogan_jim	13	408	Jul 13, 2013 by neshema2
	God on a roof top... (Preview) I got a pressure washing job yesterday that included doing the roof. It was in really bad shape with mold and mildew all over it. The chemical I use allows me to wash a roof with very low pressure so as to not damage the shingles, but it also makes the mold and mildew real slippery. I have all the equipmen...	John	6	488	Jul 13, 2013 by wp
	Confused and depressed (Preview) I am on vacation in FL so I should be in a great mood. I'm not. I am away from AH for 2 weeks and I am enjoying my time away, but right now I dread going home. I'm having a hard time just enjoying the 'moments' on vacation. And, you know what's funny? I won't be going home to a drunk or even abusiveness. My...	ilovedogs	16	457	Jul 13, 2013 by stephaniej
	in the moment :-) (Preview) just a quick feel good post. . my ah is out for evening. . it was planned so my anxiety is quite low, my daught is staying w nana and papa. . im alone. the heatwave broke tonight so i have every window in the house open. , ahhh, fresh air. . and in the moment i am taking the time to be serene and hear the night sound...	Theoceancalls	4	255	Jul 12, 2013 by neshema2
	New to Message Board (Preview) Hi, I am new to Al Anon, and this message board. Things have gotten to a point where I can't take it anymore, and I am so sick of the cycle that my AH and I are in. I have realized that I am a sick, sick person and I have been allowing myself to be miserable for years. My AH and I have been together for 8 years, and we...	megaroni5	5	806	Jul 12, 2013 by neshema2
	She only wants me when she needs me (Preview) for the past two weeks, daughter #2 has actually been calling me........of COURSE...She is do to give birth Has NOTHING to do w/me otherwise.......Last summer when I had pneumonia she never walked next door to check up on me just left me to suffer fast forward to Monday....She calls me, Oh and its &qu...	neshema2	11	377	Jul 12, 2013 by neshema2
	Drunk Driving??? (Preview) I've been thinking a lot lately about what kind of boundaries I want to set for myself. Like a lot of people here I am struggling to learn what kind of behaviors are enabling and what behaviors are detachment. I am getting better at it but still have a ways to go. I am trying to figure out where driving for th...	In The Forest	6	252	Jul 12, 2013 by In The Forest
	Update on Worn Out Mrs. Fix It's Life (Preview) Just a quick update on my last post regarding the gun and my safety. I talked to the mental health/substance abuse authorities and they couldn't do much but make a report unless he was threatening suicide. I did talk to his therapist who gave me some encouraging news. My AH has to go to court at the end of t...	wornoutmrsfixit	11	399	Jul 12, 2013 by Pushka
	Step 8 (Preview) http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t54330879/alanon-step-8/?page=last#lastPostAnchor	hotrod	0	667	Jul 12, 2013 by hotrod
	My 2nd Journey this one much harder (Preview) Hi, my name is Faith1988, I became an Al anon member in 1990 when my husband at the time was struggling with alcoholism. Al anon was a lifesaver to me it gave me the courage to grab my 3 babies and leave the very abusive alcoholic I was married to. It was easier than this crisis, I had to protect my children fr...	FAITH1988	26	659	Jul 12, 2013 by grateful2be
	Ghandi, Faith and the Benefits of It (Preview) "Unwearied ceaseless effort is the price that must be paid for turning faith into a rich infallible experience." Mahatma Ghandi Sometimes I must ask myself when life's light grows dim and I feel low - "Where I have I placed my faith? In disaster? In darkness? In myself or my resou...	grateful2be	7	456	Jul 12, 2013 by grateful2be
	Have that yucky feeling (Preview) My sober AH talked to his sister about his issues with how is treated in his family. A lot of stuff came out and I was amazed at how he handled it. She accused our 15 yr old son of ignoring her at a party and he said that our kids are old enough to make up their own minds about family especially how they have been i...	KSwiss	4	326	Jul 12, 2013 by neshema2
	I want one! (Preview) But I suspect they don't really exist, amazing what can be done with computer graphics. Hope it works, its quite fun to watch. http://www.youtube.com/embed/XlyCLbt3Thk?rel=0> -- Edited by likemyheart on Thursday...	likemyheart	3	181	Jul 12, 2013 by grateful2be
	Freedom to make choices / self-doubt. (Preview) So a whole lot in my life has changed in the 5 years that I have been sober and also been out of a relationship with another drunk. I recall that when I was in that position, my whole life revolved around alcoholism/addiction and I had no choices. All I ever did was complain about my life and I was a giant vi...	pinkchip	16	729	Jul 11, 2013 by yanksfan51
	Insecure come weekend time (Preview) Good Morning everyone, beautiful day in southern ontario. I want to talk about some insecurity I have. It seems like every time the weekend roles around I get a strong sense of dread. A sense of 'uggghh here we go again. More lonely days sitting by myself running errands, with nothing to do.It's funny b...	slogan_jim	8	295	Jul 11, 2013 by Jerry F
	What am I doing? (Preview) Am I an idiot for being in this relationship? I have been dating a man that is everything I have ever wanted minus an addiction. I think from things hes said that he is ready to admit he has a problem. We havent really talked about it. He is on day 9 totally clean. Not by choice but because he abused his prescr...	HAshby	13	359	Jul 11, 2013 by neshema2
	Showing my "stuff" off... an ad I created to gain more work... :) (Preview)	John	4	189	Jul 11, 2013 by neshema2
	Sometimes .. (Preview) I think it's really important to remember and I know this is true for me .. I can put myself in a worse spin and be just as sick as I was the first day I walked into Alanon .. it's why I'm grateful that this is a program of progress not perfection .. those old feelings can come roaring back and even though my tool...	Pushka	7	286	Jul 11, 2013 by stephaniej
	AW sober for 7 months wants divorce (Preview) Hi all, My AW of 7+ years has been sober for about 7 months now. We have 2 children together, 7 & 2yrs old. She was sober for both their pregnancies and for a while after, but eventually started drinking again. We've certainly had our problems. A few years ago, she cheated on me emotionally, which...	Gaholfer	8	626	Jul 11, 2013 by John
	Not Sure How To Handle This ??? (Preview) I got some information last night that I think I should act on but I'm not sure what to do with it or if I will even be listened to. I have known for some time that my AH (separated since August) could be threatening but he has been staying away from my apartment since I told him to and since I changed my phone #...	wornoutmrsfixit	13	506	Jul 11, 2013 by wornoutmrsfixit
	Feeling Sad (Preview) Time goes so slow, my AH is coming back from his vacation tomorrow. Not sure at what condition, drunk or dry, and I cant stop thinking about it. I have tried to read a lot, detach, not think much about him, do my things, something nice everyday for myself, but nothing really works.. This is the first time i...	Venera	15	450	Jul 11, 2013 by giraffe13
	A prayer of Merton's inre seeking knowledge of God's will (Preview) My (Lord) God, I have no idea where I am going. I do not see the road ahead of me. I cannot know for certain where it will end. Nor do I really know myself, and the fact that I think I am following your will does not mean that I am actually doing so. But I believe that the desire to please you does in fact plea...	grateful2be	7	251	Jul 11, 2013 by Breakingfree
	new and need help (Preview) Hi all, I am new here. I have been spouse to an in denial high functioning alcoholic and substance abuser for 25 years. This man has emotionally abused me the entire time. He is very clever and was very, very good at blaming me for his bad behavior. He is truly Dr.Jekyll and Mr.Hyde. Really good at putting...	needhope	6	336	Jul 11, 2013 by grateful2be
	a down day (Preview) Having a down day. Had bad night last night. It started out okay, did my own thing, went for a run, worked out, felt good. H came home slept woke up and drank beer, typical... Was having conversation with my teenage daughter, she was frustrated looking for work. H decides to interupt, to disagree wit...	sandydv	4	337	Jul 11, 2013 by Debilyn
	Anxiety (Preview) I am anxious and would appreciate some calming energy. I know my worries are just my own bad habits, but why cant I shake them? There is a flutter in my chest and my mind keeps racing, foxused on what ifs. I look forward to the day when this disease ( his and mine) is not the primary focus of my attention. I rea...	ParisMemories	12	236	Jul 11, 2013 by Theoceancalls
	"Seeing the Holy in the Ordinary" (Preview) "Seeing the Holy in the Ordinary" is a subtitle to a book, A Tree Full of Angels, written by Macrina Wiederkehr. This morning, after reading the MIP board - part of my daily Program work now - I went outdoors to put some bill payments into my mailbox. No one was outdoors. No mowers running. ...	grateful2be	17	479	Jul 11, 2013 by Theoceancalls
	Progress not perfection (Preview) So, when do I achieve perfection? I left my AH 2 1/2 years ago after 8 years of chaos and pain.... I left, rented a sweet little house and found serenity. I kept going to my f2f meeting and was recovering. My husband is a sweet man, who is damaged by this escalating disease. So, I tried to maintain a connecti...	alexmaui	7	280	Jul 11, 2013 by orchidlover
	frustrated, and wanting to be further along than I am in recovery ** (Preview) I made a discovery about recovery last night. I took my A bf on a wonderful weekend getaway July 4th and paid for everything. Bed and Breakfast, tennis, beach, and relaxing. We truly had a wonderful time. Of course, before this trip we barely have seen each other the last two months as I have been less to...	giraffe13	7	335	Jul 11, 2013 by orchidlover
	feeling guilt, and missing him. (Preview) i am having a hard time. For those who don't know the back story in brief husband started using meth seven months ago. He has been out of home for a few months. I filed for separation back in may. Today I got the order by default because he refused to respond. I also got a restraining order to prevent hi...	Rinn	8	588	Jul 11, 2013 by orchidlover
	Hope thru the Storm! (Preview) Came across this in my morning readings, hope this is inspirational as you go thru your own storms. "Everything has profound meaning. There is no need whatsoever to vacillate between elation and despair at each turn of events. There is no such thing as a storm that will continue blowing , wreak...	Bettina	5	236	Jul 10, 2013 by PP
	sad reality about son (Preview) Well I haven't wanted to "know" this but my son has pot addiction even though he isn't using at the moment, and he has developed dependence on pain meds from two back surgeries. I don't know whether it's the guilt from leaving his father years ago, or I have been too dependent on him for emoti...	Lyne	3	285	Jul 10, 2013 by hotrod
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