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pinkchip · ~*Service Worker*~

Emotionally amped

PP · ~*Service Worker*~

Be well Pinkchip. I know the sick thing well when there are big tansitions for me..leaving in anger used to be the preferred way because I did not want to deal with all of the feelings (but they got all stored up inside). I now prefer the sick thing (as long as it does not last for days, then I get downright depressed) because it is my reminder to stop and deal with my stuff. You have a strong program and so much support wherever you go and will be greatly missed by your co-workers and families. I look forward to hearing about your new friends and co-workers that are waiting for you...and take some probiotics to replenish the good bacteria in the gut.

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

Too much!!!!!!!! Too much!!!!!! Too much!!!!!!!! All that stuff all at once!!!!! HALT!!! HALT!!! HALT!!! I'm a heart person. I get in trouble if I don't pay attention to my feelings, feel them, and pay attention to the guidance beneath them in the solitude of prayer and journaling. Your new job will be just like the old job. Your HP, your program and your willingness to live one day at a time will be there with you.

ilovedogs · ~*Service Worker*~

Like G2B said, HALT. I personally have had it with the sick thing. See, this would not have been a good week for us to visit with eachother, LOL! Everything will be fine. I was so worried about my son's viral hand and foot thing and if we should even go to FL. Well, we're here and he's surviving and so am I. YOU are a survivor, you are bigger than your feelings, and you already know what to do: find a meeting!

I do hope that the antibiotics kick in before you have to leave town so that you can travel healthy. Sending you lots of support. I remember what my alcoholic father used to say when I started complaining about life being overwhelming, "Ahhh, quit your bellyaching, it could always be worse." I guess, in some ways, he's right but his delivery always sucked, LOL.

Jerry F · ~*Service Worker*~

Let you a tool Pink...Its one of my best when my spirit, emotions, mind and body are in flux like trying to find my footing while standing in a big bowl of jello. (what??) Tool:...I stand very still and consciously look down at my feet and ask..."where am I at"? and then do an inventory after that's done I look straight up above me and ask "where do you want me"? After I do that I do the simple and also listen. When it gets to your body you have to do the opposite. In support brother. ((((hugs)))) smile

neshema2 · ~*Service Worker*~

Old sponsor is right...U wanted this and I am sure you didn't just do it half cocked...it probably took thought and planning

re: the feelings...feelings are not facts...they are just emotions....let them pass through u w/out judgement, anger, frustration, embrace them and let them pass

U will be FINE...from what I see on your posts , you have a good head..good mind....it will be OK..

BREATHE in and out, sloooooowly breathe in and out......see all the tension float away from you, wave it goodbye

its OK....change is difficult....experience overload, when that happens to me, I "break it down" into chunks....

EASY does it.....

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yanksfan51 · ~*Service Worker*~

Pinkchip:

Sounds like a lot, all at once--just the way we like it! I like JerryFs thought of where am I and where do you need me to be? I'm going to work on that one big time!

Have a great time at the reunion and good luck on the new job

Mary

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Hey Mark This is a difficult time Saying good bye and endings at a job are difficult. Family reuinons are stressful. Please be gentle with yourself-- Stay in the moment and let go and Let God.

You are ot alone

Pushka · ~*Service Worker*~

Hugs Pink,

What a wonderful opportunity .. grief is ever present in our lives from something ending and new beginnings. I'm still learning to flow with it all.

Hugs P :)

bud · ~*Service Worker*~

Transitions can be a bitter-sweet and nerve-wracking challenge- you're not alone. Keep breathing and putting one foot in front of the other, take extra-good care of you during this process. All the best for your new job!

Breakingfree · ~*Service Worker*~

You received great ESH and I am so glad you also can hear your sponsor in your head also. I hope you feel better and I pray you find your flow. Sending you much love and support on your new journey!

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

So stop it Mark! lol YOu do know this is what you do right? Being sick is not helping at all. It takes time to develop new habits you want to make to make your life better.

Jer is right. I feel one needs to find balance right where you are at that moment. I was taught what Jer said plus you also stop, what do you see, um tv glass of sweedet tea, kitchen sink the couch. What do you hear? traffic, the fridge, birds outside. smell, the insence in the corner, bfast, etc. what do you feel. completely center you where you are. YOu can also ad tensing your muscles from head to toe then letting go, all the while feeling those feelings NOTHING else.

Also what are you doing for fun Mr? Are ya going swimming? Walking? I believe you need a dog to focus on, you are alone there right? Take it to work with you. Dogs can help you to remember who really matters, them. lol Really they are a greatnd way to help one mellow out.

What are you eating and drinking? caffiene nicotine, sugar will not help you. Are you eating healthy? Drinking lots of good waterc?

All the things you seem to be concerned are outside of you, other than being sick. Maybe if you worked more on self, focused on that first the other challenges might be more fun.

Anxiety is tough. from my experience as we talked before is to do things you love, focus on that. Exercise is a huge help. I mean even just walking around.

I am like you, very emotional. Had trouble going to family things though I loved it when I got there. You know its ok to take a nap, ok to meditate. sounds like you need refreshing.

I am serious though, you sound like you need a layed back dog to bring you back to a simple reality. They can teach you so much about life. I am talking a Basset Hound, English Bulldog, Pomeranian, NO terriers or working dogs. Just some big old lazy thing that likes to be with you, sleep and likes to be with you. lol Some mix that is well rounded and mellow. Do you garden? Do you have plants?

Who are you anyway??? lol.

remember again maybe if you thought more, mellow out, be in the moment, don't look past now.If you have done all you can to prepare for the new career, the trip, when you start obsessing, say stop in your head, and put the ocean there, how the sun feels on your face, hearing the waves, smelling the salty air, feeling a light moistness in the air too. feeling your feet in the sand, seagulls, think you brought bread and you are feeding the gulls, lay down in the warm sand, put bread all around you then lay down and hear the gulls wings flapping all around you. I LOVE doing that. You may want to put a towel over your nose and lips. haha

I do this but I am taking my dogs to a favorite place.

big sigh my boyfriend when i was a kid always got me a hot fudge sundae when he took me to the beach as a teen. so now after telling you that i want one!!!! lol

slugging you softly, mellow out Mark, go drink some water and take a nap. take your vitamins and minerals. get better! then go adopt a dog. Just go to my face book page, I can help ya find one......lol hugs,debilyn

pinkchip · ~*Service Worker*~

Thanks everyone for the support and feedback!

Deb - there are 3 dogs, 2 parrots, 1 cat, and a boyfriend where I live lol. And yes it is very stress releasing to have all the pets. Often when I have read your threads and heard of your animals I think about my own animal menagerie - They do help - Alot. The dogs were my partner's before I moved in with him though I absolutely love my stepdogchildren. The cat is my true animal daughter and we procreated another parrot in addition to the one he already had - (I guess that's the best procreation gay people can do lol).

I got my cat 5 years ago. I also have 5 years sober and it's been 5 years since I broke up with my ex-A. Guess who is my sobriety kitty - my transition kitty? yep.

I too like what Jerry said about reminding myself where I am right now.

neshema2 · ~*Service Worker*~

pinkchip wrote:
Thanks everyone for the support and feedback!

Deb - there are 3 dogs, 2 parrots, 1 cat, and a boyfriend where I live lol. And yes it is very stress releasing to have all the pets. Often when I have read your threads and heard of your animals I think about my own animal menagerie - They do help - Alot. The dogs were my partner's before I moved in with him though I absolutely love my stepdogchildren. The cat is my true animal daughter and we procreated another parrot in addition to the one he already had - (I guess that's the best procreation gay people can do lol).
I got my cat 5 years ago. I also have 5 years sober and it's been 5 years since I broke up with my ex-A. Guess who is my sobriety kitty - my transition kitty? yep.
I too like what Jerry said about reminding myself where I am right now.

I just LOVE this post...I can SEE all the fur and feather babies around you guys.....I don't know what I would do if I didn't have my sweet little pittie female, my old fat lab female and the kitty....ALL rescues and my 3 parakeets......I can be so down in the dumps and my pittie will come up with another stuffed animal she has beheaded and wag her tail and shes like "ok, I ripped its head off but we can still play tug o war with the legs" and the cat...she gets up on the bed w/me and kneeds her paws on me...I heard when a kitty does that they think of U as their parent??? and yea, I like Jerry's post about reminding U where U R ...right now..........take care

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