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I did a post on my facebook re: the importance of eating clean, non processed foods and I happen to believe that GMO's are dangerous...I had IBS so bad, I was ready to drown me and when I went organic , "poof" IBS gone....coincidence??? I don't think so but that is MY take...and I put that on MY Facebook page as such....
Anyway, this "friend" gets on MY page and "calls me out" about my "slamming" monsanto and their GMO's and yada yada yada
I tell her that she is welcome to disagree with me...No worries, but KEEP the FOCUS on HER take, and leave MY inventory alone
She comes back at me again, accusing me of being "upset" and I tell her "hey just take what u like and leave the rest...This is MY board and it is MY right to post my "experience and take" on a subject....and if u don't like it, you can #1 pass it by and scroll on down or #2 unfriend me because I am not gonna argue...Just please keep the focus on YOUR take/opinion and leave my inventory alone
She comes at me again, accusing me of "taking it personal"
I told her that I would help her out w/her dilemma about me and my obviously objectionable post.......Then I hit the unfriend button
I Other folks saw this "go around" and they told me "gee you did everything u could to tell her that its OK to disagree but keep it peaceful and non confrontational"
So I am thinking....B4, I had to "sell my point" I would get into a long exchange with them, trying to sell my point
THIS time I did not...I kept it short....my take...set a boundary in that she was welcome to post and disagree, but do NOT "call me out" on my own board......When she refused to keep it peaceful??? I unfriended her w/out saying anything further.....
I did not try to argue, defend, justify, explain my take, I think what I think....and i invited her to take what she could use and leave the rest....simple hey??? and she typed on there that she "refused to just take what i like and leave the rest" she was looking for a fight i think
well????? the J A D E (justify, argue,defend,explain) and NOT doing that I now incorporate in my life....I think what I think....GIVE me your take...I'll ponder ANYthing tha makes an ounce of sense....but I will not get into a arguement about it....
discussion with some people is like getting into a peeing contest w/a SKUNK......I "aint going there"..
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and I totally agree with you on the food issues....
thank you, my friend...I feel sooo much better since I went organic....and simple...like 1 ingrediant foods, clean...locally grown....organic.....I swear....I feel calmer....cleaner......less brain fog......more alert and frisky............my plumbing is renewed.........so I do what works for me the best.....
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Live and let live and do it with peace and goodwill to all!!!!
Wow, N. You kept what you believed to be true and let go of the rest - what she believed to be true. Respectful dialogue for the purpose of learning is certainly more peaceful in my experience that demanding others share my view.
Wow, N. You kept what you believed to be true and let go of the rest - what she believed to be true. Respectful dialogue for the purpose of learning is certainly more peaceful in my experience that demanding others share my view.
Hey G...oh yea, U should have seen her.....Like "calling me out" on my own board.....I was like "UH UHHHHH" NOT gonna happen...
I am not for censorship..I embrace an encourage free speach......I tell people on my FB board "Share your views...come on , lets talk, but keep it peaceful..keep it friendly....and don't call another out b/c U disagree....AND keep the focus on your take..your feelings....your experience"
NOW I can see clearly, WHY Alanon says "take what U like and leave the rest" and also the "keep the focus on me" an alanon CLEARLY warns against crosstalk....why??? b/c it makes the other feel threatened, pushed into a corner....unsafe....afraid to share their feelings out of fear of reprisal......boy I can see the wisdom in this program big time.......and I use that rule in my life....my facebook...my anything......
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Live and let live and do it with peace and goodwill to all!!!!
I kind of when through the same thing with a friend on Facebook. She was so upset with what I posted I just un-friended her. I just didn't need it
Hey Cathy, I tell people Facebook is optional....its MY board.....MY lil place and yea, if ya don't like me and ya dislike my posts???? "POOF" GONE!!!! LOL......I agree....I didn't need that lady either....
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