The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Step 3 and Step 11 are always helpful steps for me when I'm seeking clarity in a certain situation.
I've also learned in Al-Anon the ODAT method of helping us determine our HP's will for me:
In what I am considering: Is there Opportunity? Is there Desire? Is there Ability? Is there Time? If any of the answers to the 4 questions is No - it may not be in my best interest to do what I am considering. If all 4 answers to the questions are Yes - then I can be fairly certain that what I am entertaining is best for me at that time. And if new facts come to be before I act, I can ask all 4 questions again.
In my life experience, I've also learned that it is best for me to wait on acting on something that I am in emotional turmoil about until I have clarity of thinking and am relatively peaceful.
In some cases, I don't have the luxury of doing all this and then I ask my HP to guide me and to protect me and then do what appears to be the next right thing to do for that situation.
And if I screw up bigtime - well, then I can learn from the consequences of it something I might not have learned any other way.
-- Edited by grateful2be on Wednesday 17th of July 2013 06:53:38 PM
I am going to NC with my lil boy in the morning to see family. Im thinking too much (maybe??) There is no trust with me for my AH ...there is love ...but NO trust. You all know my story, every book I read knows my story.. An AH is pretty much similar qualities.. The dreaded merry go 'round.
Ive read to let them hit bottm,dont think you could stop em or "we" wouldve already stopped them from this disease. Ive read detaach, work on yourself. But so unfair... I feel at times Im Mourning the life I was promised and not sure if filing for divorce and starting over is right or wrong????
Knowing their are people that are worse than my AH can be ??? ???
Ive got hobbies, work at myself and keeping my mind on me, guess Ill keep doing this until I know what the right choice is... YEP
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..."expecting the world to treat you fairly because your a good person, is like expecting a bull to not attack you because your a vegetarian "
Ive got hobbies, work at myself and keeping my mind on me, guess Ill keep doing this until I know what the right choice is... YEP
Sounds like working on you, taking care of you, and just "chillin" with your hobbies and letting outcome go....you will know when the time is right........YEP , I think that sounds like a good plan
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Live and let live and do it with peace and goodwill to all!!!!
