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grateful2be


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I've been waiting to see what would happen with regards to my son.  I haven't called him since I noticed he was slurring his words and heard women's voices in the background about a week ago.  Each day I checked in with my HP when it came close to the time I could call him at his assigned location.  Each time, HP's guidance seemed to be an immediate no.  He was arrested Sunday afternoon.  I don't know what the charges are this time - whatever they are they are related to using.  Some of you have been waiting with me which has a big help.  He's still alive.  There is still hope for him.  Interestingly enough, none of this showed up yesterday when he was arrested.  I surrendered him totally to his HP and told mine I would accept whatever would happen with help.  I've been afraid that this drinking or drug binge would be the end for him, but didn't hang onto that projection.  Just felt it's sting and let it go.  I still ache with disappointment and concern for him, but to get maudlin about it won't benefit him or me.  Thank you so much for waiting in the dark of the unknown with me and helping me do what is necessary for me.  I know you'll be praying for him, too, as you pray for your own children.

St. Augustine, of my tradition, had lots and lots of troubles as he ran amuck in life.  According to legend, his mother - a devout believer in God - prayed for him continually.  He got to a certain age and her prayer was something like this:  "God, if this is as good as it gets, take him home (or let him die) now."  He didn't die.  When Augustine was about 40 years old, he began to live his life quite differently.  He became one of the "early fathers of the Christian church - both Catholic and Protestant.  His teachings are still read and in many cases - utilized.

I share this story as a means of hope for myself and a reminder that projection of future events hurts me - whether I project positively or negatively.  Truth is - I just can't know what the future holds for my son or for me.  I can know that right now - there is a group of people who understand this disease and its many twists and turns - who tend to each other in the best ways we know how to do that.  I can share my experience, strength and hope in the now of my life.  It is good to have this board to come to when I can't share what is going on with others or get to a meeting.  Blessings, all.



-- Edited by grateful2be on Monday 15th of July 2013 11:51:16 AM



-- Edited by grateful2be on Monday 15th of July 2013 11:55:49 AM

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I am sorry for you and your son.  Your post reflects your faith and generosity..thank you for the update...  blessings for all concerned



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blankstareThank you, Paula.  This is one of those "God.  I believe.  Help my disbelief," times.  Nights are the hardest for me, but I know that tonight, there will be candles lit for all our children by one of our dearest MIP members.  May the smoke of those candles rise to the heavens like incense and the light of faith in our hearts keep us keeping on.  I so appreciate your candid and genuine support, Paula.  You have mine as well.     



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" reminder that projection of future events hurts me - whether I project positively or negatively.  Truth is - I just can't know what the future holds for my son or for me.  I can know that right now - there is a group of people who understand this disease and its many twists and turns - who tend to each other in the best ways we know how to do that.  I can share my experience, strength and hope in the now of my life.  It is good to have this board to come to when I can't share what is going on with others or get to a meeting.  Blessings, all."

 

(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((G))))))))))))))))))))))) Sister lady, you are one hell of a lady and an awesome representation of this program.......That post made me sad for your son,  grateful that you are here with all of us who care about you and your child, and the post also made me realize that for SURE...All we got is now....AND where there is life, I guess there is hope......I , too have said  "if this is the best I can do or so and so can do, take me/them HOME"......

Nobody knows what the future brings, maybe that is good news, I don't know, I know that handling today is all I can handle......I soooooo relate to what you are feeling........I have a niece whom I took away from my sister and raised up b/c she was unfit...."T" ended up a druggie....cocaine and meth.....I never know when I am gonna get that call that she is gone.......so far she is clean, but she just did almost 8 months in jail for being high and attacking a cop..........ONE DAY AT A TIME is all any of can do

I SO care about ya , sweetie....hang in there......Wish I could give you a monster hug and make you a nice cup of any tea I got that you want and just sit w/you and listen to anything U want to pour out to me........................

Sending you BIG hugs,  smiles , and positive thoughts..........



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((((Dear Grateful2be)))
 
I too loved to read the account of Saint Augustine, his early life  and his Conversion.  Your Acceptance and Faith are powerful  reminders that if we trust HP we may not get what we want but we will have the Courage, Serenity  and Wisdom  to carry on.
 
You and your son will continue in my prayers. 


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You and your son are in my prayers!

Gettingitright!!



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I"m so so sorry but as we know if they aren't working any programs it's just a matter of time before something happens. Like you have said in the past...to be in custody might be better because you at least know he's alive. I know how much it hurts and not project so prayers and program is what needs to consume you right now. This too shall pass....

Special prayers tonight my friend.

((((( hugs )))))



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Thank you, Nemesha, Betty and Highly Favored. Your care and loving attention eases things for me. Your prayers for us and for the rest of my family are more than appreciated. Nemesha, your up close and personal style helps me stay soft inside. I so appreciate your own personal journeys that you have shared with me in trust. I know your own lives as you have shared them are a gift to be received. Thank you.

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((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((G))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))



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Thank you, my friend. Seeing that precious face and your support typed through your fingers onto the board puts a smile on my face and a warm place in my heart. I do know you care, Debilyn. Love wears your face - a face I've never seen - but a face of Love none-the-less.



-- Edited by grateful2be on Tuesday 16th of July 2013 12:05:48 AM



-- Edited by grateful2be on Tuesday 16th of July 2013 12:06:32 AM

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((((Grateful))))  you sound like you are being abided with.  I don't think and it hasn't been my experience that it ever gets any better than that.  I don't get to see how it comes out and I am always accepting of how it comes out.   Auggies Mom was as in touch then as you are now.  In support (((((hugs))))) smile



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Thank you, Jerry. Up late, waiting again in the darkness of faith, with hope as my light - not hope in the outcome, but hope in the One Who brings new life from ashes.

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I can feel your heavy heart. It has to be a horrible thing to bear. You are continuing to do the right thing. Hoping it gets easier as the skills just become part of you.

I am always around if you need to vent privately too. YOu know i care very much. love to you and your son, debilyn



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I began to live my life differently at close to 40. It really took that long for me also...not that I'm a saint lol.

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Pinkchip!  Your life is one of the reasons I have spent my life in the work I was called to do.  I believe in miracles - not miracles as in getting to see what I want to see, but miracles that I know only a power greater than us little you's and me's could have brought about on our own power.  And because of that HP's power coupled with your co-operation, I can start my day once again in hope, in faith, in openness to what will be.  You may or may not be a saint (although I do believe saints help us laugh a lot), you sure are a miracle to me.  Thanks, PC, for helping me start off my day in a trusting way.

 



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(((Grateful2be)))

Keeping you and your son in my thoughts and prayers.

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Hey Grateful

Just checkin in to see how things are going re: your son.....I send you prayers of peace and serenity during this difficult time

I do sooo hope that things get better....Here you are going through so much and you take time to post and help others.....sending you BIG energy of peace and hugs

((((((((((((G)))))))))



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