Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

winnie · winnie

joined 1 minute ago. feel so helpless, again. can't stop crying because i miss the man i fell in love with. found more hidden alcohol and started looking up online help. can't believe i read the exact post of what i had just done moments before. i threw it out. i'm tired of all the empty promises. b...

Tattyhead · Tattyhead

Just wanted to let you know my husband of 39 + years died peacefully in his sleep at 5 O'clock this morning - (British time). The last 5 years may have been a nightmare but he was the love of my life and we had so many happy years before the drink took hold. Thank you for all your thoughts and prayers - you will n...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

But I don't. My biggest issue is the fact that he hides his drinking in the late afternoon when I'm out with my son at the gym or at after school activities. Then, if I want to go to a party with my girlfriends(jewerly parties, candle parties, etc) and ds wants to go out and get food I know that my husband wi...

hawaiilover · hawaiilover

Hi family: Just checking in today. No updates to report. Maintaining pretty much at this time. Still job searching as well as taking care of Shirley. I will report to work on Sept. 6. Since my job depends on students' enrollment, it is uncertain how many hours I will work. I am not worried about it at all...

KLotus · KLotus

I am again having difficulty concentrating at work. I am again struggling to feel anything other than negative about myself. I don't really even know why. So, I check in here, I read, "listen," and write to all of you instead of sit in "silence," hoping it will help me to cente...

abbyal · abbyal

Our f2f meeting this morning was on self esteem and self worth it was amazing , some of us seek it from our work others from our relationships and most of us from our partners who were too sick to give any encouragement for our efforts . most of us were people pleasers at one time but also resented the reque...

Hot Chicka · Hot Chicka

Drinking last night turned into drinking today. Months and months of sobriety ended by a 2-day bender. So what am I going to do about me? I am not going to be snarky, naggy, lecture, or be catty. I will be respectful and courteous. I will keep a respectful distance since I don't like to be around him whe...

Storm21 · Storm21

My family is filled with alcoholics, recovering and still drinking. For many years I didn't want to touch a drop of alcohol or even be around people that drink. When I see my father who is a "recovering alcoholic" drink or talk about drinking, it makes my skin crawl. Thankfully he got away fr...

Pushka · Pushka

My grandma is 93 years old. She's in a nursing home and has stopped eating. It seems like maybe this is it. It could be two days or it could be two weeks. My mom and I are both only children and I'm not around the corner from them. They have been living together for about 8 years now. This summer is the fi...

Doozy · Doozy

Well, I am really, really missing my ex abf lately. Tonight has been really tough. I'm posting here because I know you guys will understand and because I'm dangerously close to contacting him and I don't think that would do anything good. we had about 3 years together and family weekends with his kid...

Lindaoakford · Lindaoakford

Hi I was just wondering, do any of you drink or anything? Most people in Al Anon that I know, do not drink if their partner is an alcoholic. In my youth I was a big pot smoker and loved the stuff, and my husband knows that. He has seen me stoned on substances in a recreational use sense, he is stoned also at t...

sameoldstuff · sameoldstuff

Hi everyone! As some of you know my ah has been in and out of 30 day rehabs since april. I had filed for divorce while he was away, but as of a few weeks ago I have dropped the divorce. I had done that before I found this site and al-anon f2f mtgs (only been to a couple). Here is my question he is a different man al...

KLotus · KLotus

Thanks to all of you for the continued support. I tried to reach out to a couple of trusted individuals yesterday, which also got me through. I decided to spend the last two nights sleeping in a different bedroom. I know my AH is angry, but it would be a big deal for me to do that and not feel guilty about it...

nyc018 · nyc018

I am new to this forum and have just started attending Alanon meetings. Feeling very down now. AH and I separated last month (not legally, he went to live with his mom) after his alcoholism got out of control and he landed in the hospital detoxing a week. He is in an outpatient rehab and attends AA, but has...

Lindaoakford · Lindaoakford

I looked at my profile I joined this group 21 days ago. three small weeks. It feels like so much longer. The truth is it is open at work all day long and am on here for hours at a time reading. If my boss knew... woops!!!! 21 days ago I was spinning out of control. I was checking up on my husband (pot smoke...

onewholovesrock · onewholovesrock

I had f2f meeting tonight, she had a AA meeting in the same building. She drove. (The car I bought for her) She was being pretty revved up today. After the meetings we argued over dinner plans just like most nights. She was very angry and was driving very dangerously. I tried keeping my mouth shut to keep...

Tracy · Tracy

Hi all my A is active again after 9 months sober his disease has progressed and I have detached trying hard to work my programme and do what is right for me and my kids. I text him couple of days ago and said that he was ill and hoped he could reach out to his hp but I can not watch and i wanted no contact anymore....

Ruby · Ruby

Yesterday I was so happy about my al/ad drgoing to an n/a meeting, and she said she was going to go to an a/a meeting also. Today was another story, we were talking and I was enjoying her and happy I decided to let her stay for a few days. Then she started talking about witchcraft, and feeling she has been...

GailMichelle · GailMichelle

In a recent post, Jerry F asked all of us MIPers who haven't written a bio to do so in order to make the "family real." Well Jerry, I strived to do so and got anxious. I didn't know what to include. But I agree, adding a bio does help. I will do so later. Until "later" gets here, I deci...

rara avis · rara avis

Hey everybody! Does anybody have any suggestions for anger? Besides physical exercise - I definitely do that when I'm mad! I mean, what has worked for you when you're mad at your qualifier and reading soothing literature/music/whatnot is to gentle for you for the moment? Meanwhile your qualifie...

Jess · Jess

My brother, age 34, finally decided to go to a sober living home after we (3 friends of his and I) had an intervention w/ him. He's been there for 2 weeks. My father agreed to pay for it, hoping he'll be able to start paying his rent within 3 months. He has 2 warrants out for his arrest b/c of 2 unresolved DUIs...

usedtobeanyer · usedtobeanyer

I wanted to share something I heard in my meeting last night. A long time member was reflecting on his early days in Al Anon, where he was talking to someone who had been in the program a while. He was venting about all of the horrible things his wife was doing, and the other member just kept saying "ye...

esp_58 · esp_58

I have been married for 26 years. Of those years my husband has been drinking off and on for 15 years. It could be longer but I am numb to how long. My counselor has asked me to go to al-anon meetings, just cannot get there. I think I am done? What should I do?

MrsHennepope · MrsHennepope

Hi everyone! I suppose this post is mostly to vent but also to see if anyone else had had this same problem I'm having.My AH is constantly changing the "rules",by rules I just mean things we've agreed on or what not,not actual rules he sets out for me.The ame plan always changes in the morning...

GailMichelle · GailMichelle

All in all, things are quite good right now. As some of you may recall, it wasn't too long ago that I posted about my ex-AH going through horrific withdrawals. He did go in to a 30-day rehab and continues to go to outpatient classes. He believes this was his bottom. Hopefully, he is correct. He has ha...

Hot Chicka · Hot Chicka

I got a text a bit ago that AH (who has been sober for quite some time now) stopped off for a beer with the guys. He's previously told me he thought he'd eventually drink again, just in moderation this time. Maybe he will. I feel like I am being tested.... "How is she going to react?" "Wh...

Hot Chicka · Hot Chicka

Lindaoakford you talk a lot about your ongoing relationship with "the drawer", and the desire to look, but the understanding that looking is only going to make you crazy. Although AH has been dry (until tonight, see other post), I like that visual. Although AH doesn't have a drawer, per s...

odalis · odalis

My dad is visiting me. Aside from 4 months ago, I have not seen him in 4 years. He is also an alcoholic, part of the reason he and my mother separated when I was 10 was because of his drinking problem. he also helped me tremendously during one of the most difficult times in my life as pregnant teen who had bee...

youfoundme · youfoundme

Hi, I am youfoundme and I am a grateful member of alanon... I had a bad night last night. There was some stuff going on and I knew I had not control over it. I had two glasses of wine with my A....He has been having a couple of drinks only here and there and for some reason I thought, well why not? I am not...

atheos · atheos

The woman I sat next to at my face-to-face meeting today had sniffles and a runny nose, and kept wiping it with her hand (without using Kleenex). I was getting really grossed out, and wasn't sure what I should do at the end of the meeting when it came time to join hands for the serenity prayer I wound up spen...

RLC · RLC

I received this from an Al-Anon friend today and thought I would share it with my MIP FamilyHUGS,RLC THE BUTTERFLY STORY Whenever we see a fuzzy caterpillar it is hard for us to realize that s...

jbunny · jbunny

I gave my abf the break-up letter I wrote this morning. I know I did the right thing for my sanity. I could not go on riding the emotional rollercoaster I have been on for the past 3 and 1/2 years in this relationship. I feel calm and peaceful about my decision right now. In the past breaking up has felt l...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

I just don't get it. Why would you hide beer when you drink beer in the open around the family anyway? How silly is that? Is hiding alcohol just habitual? I get why he hides the little bottles of vodka or whiskey, but beer? Beer needs to be chilled. You may as well just put it in the fridge next to the Gu...

Pushka · Pushka

This past couple of weeks the word "willingness" has kept popping out at me. It's been so great to know that there are two different kinds of steps the "ready now" steps and the "willing now" ones. I have been ready to admit where I am powerless over my life and I try an...

KLotus · KLotus

Gratitude everyone. I am thankful for this board. Yesterday my AH and I had our first real marriage counseling session. I liked the counselor well enough, and she has experience/background in addiction issues. We basically laid some groundwork, and gave an overview. My AH was much more calm th...

maresie · maresie

Today I learned someone whoI had a real resentment towards had died suddenly. The resentment was a pretty remote one, an envy at their success so please don't send me condolences. This isn't about loss, or wanting to have closure or any of that. I have not spoken to this person for years they weren't...

Lyne · Lyne

Ok so my Aspouse went out last night for dinner to thank so co-workers for a summer project. I figured she was going to drink. Prior to joining alanon, I had bought alcohol saliva tests on a q-tip type thing. I just can't stand her lying and drinking, and I wanted to have some control. I also don't want...

Priscilla83 · Priscilla83

Hi everybody. Today for the first time in almost a year my AH missed his appointment with his psychiatrist/therapist. He said he was too tired, but I knw is cause he found this new doctor that will give prescriptions without a session. So I told him exactly that and he snapped. I guess people don't like t...

canadianguy · canadianguy

This morning on Facebook, a friend had posted a quote from Dr. Suess (love quotes from Dr. Suess). I smiled when I read it, as it made me think of MIP, and/or Al-Anon.... I hope it doesn't offend anyone, but I think it fits rather well for us, as we come from all different walks of life, with all kinds of un...

sirchef · sirchef

another acronym that I find so difficult. Why is it that my anger can just fuel such emotion in me I understand it on;y make things worse? And when I'm hungry I eat poorly and binge on junk rather tfan take the time to eat something that will nourish me rather fill the whole? I'm lonely and sometimes so very...

rose903 · rose903

Hello, Not sure who to ask this, please let me know who to inform. I needed to ask if meetings are sometimes cancelled? This morning's meeting wasn't starting a half hour after the scheduled time so I asked the chat room if there was going to be one and someone called Anonymous (name removed) said he/s...

Otie · Otie

I had a long phone conversation with my sister and she was bemoaning many things about our mother. This made me think of the many discussions here on the board. My sister is under the impression that her personality bears no similarity to that of our mother. WRONG. I see soo many characteristics tha...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Today like most days I really feel like I might be coming around to where I need to be. I struggle w/ so much. I hope I can find some peace & serenity where I am at today. Only my HP knows how much I can handle. I know He is watching & waiting for me to come to grips w/ all my issues, insecurities, etc. So m...

clep · clep

My sister is an ACOA as am I. I have been fortunate to have been in the rooms of Al-anon for a couple of years and many years of work on myself before that. My charachteristics have almost gone now from my A childhood and father. My sister who lives with me is a basket case however. She has the classic symp...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

There is a tear in my coffee some days. I am not really that sad but I do have my moments! I realized after my last post that I can be a real downer. I feel this is true especially when I talk about not having kids. I guess I still have to live in acceptance at 45. I just wish that I could over my regrets--medicati...

Doozy · Doozy

I feel really good about my progress over the last year and especially since finding Alanon a few months ago. It was definitely the right time for me! I am going through the steps and attending face to face meetings and doing nearly everything I'm "supposed" to do except I still haven't foun...

Priscilla83 · Priscilla83

Hell hello. It's been a looong time since I last logged in, but I;m happy to report that overall I'm doing Ok and so is my family. My husband is almost a year sober, strong, and my three year old is just as amazing as ever. Right now I;m feeling a bit overwhelmed by my AH's family. My husband has recently bega...

likemyheart · likemyheart

Betsy the wonder dog is sick, Parvo no less. Caught it early, I hope, had a shot but..... well, she's got it. Pretty sick dog, still alert right now, they said its gonna get worse before it gets better, lots of bodily fluids to clean up - grin and bear it because, well, she's my baby. I have IV fluids to give h...

oldgraduate · oldgraduate

I have a question about the codependence of an Alcoholic. And my own detachment too. I noticed that this past weekend, my AH and I had a good weekend but he was very needy. I spent all day Saturday away visiting my daughter and then Sunday he was so clingy and over-attentive. I have a hard time acceptin...

Lindaoakford · Lindaoakford

Hi yesterday i shared a moment of realisation for me that I was being very silly about finding a lighter in the bin. Such a little trigger. As the afternoon progressed and I went home, I wanted it to continue. I deliberately did not want to know or even have an idea if he had been smoking or not. If someth...

MDK · MDK

I know it has been a while but things have been going on that I can not control. My husband lost his job last week! I have been on a rollercoaster of emotions. I am so thankful for my alanon and higher power during these times. Last night I got very angry at my daughter because she was whining and complaining...

amills4294 · amills4294

I did it again, I let the focus leave me. My spouse and I are separated and have been for a year. I just in the past 2 weeks started to go to Al-anon (I'm an ACOA). I've been to 5 meetings in 9 days. All very helpful. I'm just getting my feet wet. My spouse very much wants us back together - I'm not sure that i...

youfoundme · youfoundme

You Found Me...Thanks alanon for finding me and loving me when I didn't know I could even fathom loving myself. I am feeling good lately, I am working on me, I am going to meetings and staying on my side of the street. Each day I wake up to a new day to cherish. I don't let things bother me like they used to....

Lindaoakford · Lindaoakford

Good morning (830 am Tuesday here) I had a reminder of my over exaggerated responses this morning. To prelude this conversation, I have not checked his drawer since my slip up how ever long ago when I looked. I have stopped counting or worrying about if I am looking or not, I somehow.... just stopped??...

oldgraduate · oldgraduate

I could very easily get down and out today and have had my moments, but I am going to chose to take a different approach. I think my HP has great changes in store for me because: my car got wrecked, our Air Conditioning Went Out at the house (and I live in Texas) and my renters in our rent house just told us...

Anne01 · Anne01

My father was an alcoholic, my grandfather was also, I have 3 brothers who are alcoholic. One is sober, one is actively drinking, and the other is in rehab., for the 4th time, I think it is, I've lost count. He is 44 and been in jail for a total of about 10 years. He has driven without insurance and a license...

Hoping for Happiness · Hoping for Happiness

So, I told my AH last night that I want a D. He thought I would change my mind after "sleeping on it." When I didn't he tried to blame me and then decided to ask what he could do to "salvage" our marriage and keep our family together. I told him that if he goes into a treatment program...

Hoping for Happiness · Hoping for Happiness

I am doing my best at working my own recovery and not my AH's (most days). However, I have one thing that I am not sure how to handle. We have 2 small children (6 and 2) and I continue to find hidden bottles of vodka. I don't want to pour them out and move on, because they aren't my bottles to pour out. So I ha...

KLotus · KLotus

Hello Again Everyone :) Ok, so my AH is two months out of inpatient treatment. He's been unbearable, the majority of the time. He's so angry, and mostly tries to pick fights with and blame me. Aside from the recent crisis that built over a few weeks of dwindling AA meetings - is this still normal? I was...

onewholovesrock · onewholovesrock

Hello everyone. I've been reading all your post for a couple weeks now. Great stuff. I Just signed up. I've been to two meetings now. I've just been through the worst 2 yrs of my life. I'm miserable. Not sure if Al Anon is for me or not. I'm in a relationship to an addict. Also I strongly believe she is me...

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	i need help (Preview) joined 1 minute ago. feel so helpless, again. can't stop crying because i miss the man i fell in love with. found more hidden alcohol and started looking up online help. can't believe i read the exact post of what i had just done moments before. i threw it out. i'm tired of all the empty promises. b...	winnie	9	883	Aug 27, 2011 by Hot Chicka
	RIP Stephen (Preview) Just wanted to let you know my husband of 39 + years died peacefully in his sleep at 5 O'clock this morning - (British time). The last 5 years may have been a nightmare but he was the love of my life and we had so many happy years before the drink took hold. Thank you for all your thoughts and prayers - you will n...	Tattyhead	31	908	Aug 27, 2011 by Rocky38
	Another question that I feel I should have the answer to.... (Preview) But I don't. My biggest issue is the fact that he hides his drinking in the late afternoon when I'm out with my son at the gym or at after school activities. Then, if I want to go to a party with my girlfriends(jewerly parties, candle parties, etc) and ds wants to go out and get food I know that my husband wi...	ilovedogs	11	480	Aug 27, 2011 by Pushka
	Just Checking In (Preview) Hi family: Just checking in today. No updates to report. Maintaining pretty much at this time. Still job searching as well as taking care of Shirley. I will report to work on Sept. 6. Since my job depends on students' enrollment, it is uncertain how many hours I will work. I am not worried about it at all...	hawaiilover	3	390	Aug 27, 2011 by hawaiilover
	Trying to center (Preview) I am again having difficulty concentrating at work. I am again struggling to feel anything other than negative about myself. I don't really even know why. So, I check in here, I read, "listen," and write to all of you instead of sit in "silence," hoping it will help me to cente...	KLotus	11	565	Aug 27, 2011 by pinkchip
	Self esteem and self worth (Preview) Our f2f meeting this morning was on self esteem and self worth it was amazing , some of us seek it from our work others from our relationships and most of us from our partners who were too sick to give any encouragement for our efforts . most of us were people pleasers at one time but also resented the reque...	abbyal	5	3480	Aug 27, 2011 by hotrod
	Checking In (Preview) Drinking last night turned into drinking today. Months and months of sobriety ended by a 2-day bender. So what am I going to do about me? I am not going to be snarky, naggy, lecture, or be catty. I will be respectful and courteous. I will keep a respectful distance since I don't like to be around him whe...	Hot Chicka	7	620	Aug 27, 2011 by Hot Chicka
	Where do I start for online Christian chatting (Preview) My family is filled with alcoholics, recovering and still drinking. For many years I didn't want to touch a drop of alcohol or even be around people that drink. When I see my father who is a "recovering alcoholic" drink or talk about drinking, it makes my skin crawl. Thankfully he got away fr...	Storm21	2	2214	Aug 27, 2011 by tommyecat
	Need some prayers, positive thoughts (Preview) My grandma is 93 years old. She's in a nursing home and has stopped eating. It seems like maybe this is it. It could be two days or it could be two weeks. My mom and I are both only children and I'm not around the corner from them. They have been living together for about 8 years now. This summer is the fi...	Pushka	16	545	Aug 27, 2011 by Doozy
	Missing him... (Preview) Well, I am really, really missing my ex abf lately. Tonight has been really tough. I'm posting here because I know you guys will understand and because I'm dangerously close to contacting him and I don't think that would do anything good. we had about 3 years together and family weekends with his kid...	Doozy	6	633	Aug 27, 2011 by Doozy
	Do any of you 'partake'? (Preview) Hi I was just wondering, do any of you drink or anything? Most people in Al Anon that I know, do not drink if their partner is an alcoholic. In my youth I was a big pot smoker and loved the stuff, and my husband knows that. He has seen me stoned on substances in a recreational use sense, he is stoned also at t...	Lindaoakford	28	852	Aug 26, 2011 by mikeco
	Is this good or bad? (Preview) Hi everyone! As some of you know my ah has been in and out of 30 day rehabs since april. I had filed for divorce while he was away, but as of a few weeks ago I have dropped the divorce. I had done that before I found this site and al-anon f2f mtgs (only been to a couple). Here is my question he is a different man al...	sameoldstuff	7	503	Aug 26, 2011 by maryjane
	Trying to start over today (Preview) Thanks to all of you for the continued support. I tried to reach out to a couple of trusted individuals yesterday, which also got me through. I decided to spend the last two nights sleeping in a different bedroom. I know my AH is angry, but it would be a big deal for me to do that and not feel guilty about it...	KLotus	6	454	Aug 26, 2011 by Pushka
	Pressure From Family (Preview) I am new to this forum and have just started attending Alanon meetings. Feeling very down now. AH and I separated last month (not legally, he went to live with his mom) after his alcoholism got out of control and he landed in the hospital detoxing a week. He is in an outpatient rehab and attends AA, but has...	nyc018	10	765	Aug 26, 2011 by abbyal
	21 days (Preview) I looked at my profile I joined this group 21 days ago. three small weeks. It feels like so much longer. The truth is it is open at work all day long and am on here for hours at a time reading. If my boss knew... woops!!!! 21 days ago I was spinning out of control. I was checking up on my husband (pot smoke...	Lindaoakford	10	653	Aug 26, 2011 by Lindaoakford
	Scared for life (Preview) I had f2f meeting tonight, she had a AA meeting in the same building. She drove. (The car I bought for her) She was being pretty revved up today. After the meetings we argued over dinner plans just like most nights. She was very angry and was driving very dangerously. I tried keeping my mouth shut to keep...	onewholovesrock	13	770	Aug 26, 2011 by onewholovesrock
	compassion (Preview) Hi all my A is active again after 9 months sober his disease has progressed and I have detached trying hard to work my programme and do what is right for me and my kids. I text him couple of days ago and said that he was ill and hoped he could reach out to his hp but I can not watch and i wanted no contact anymore....	Tracy	8	593	Aug 26, 2011 by youfoundme
	Daughter crazy I think! (Preview) Yesterday I was so happy about my al/ad drgoing to an n/a meeting, and she said she was going to go to an a/a meeting also. Today was another story, we were talking and I was enjoying her and happy I decided to let her stay for a few days. Then she started talking about witchcraft, and feeling she has been...	Ruby	7	731	Aug 26, 2011 by pinkchip
	My Latest Avatar (Preview) In a recent post, Jerry F asked all of us MIPers who haven't written a bio to do so in order to make the "family real." Well Jerry, I strived to do so and got anxious. I didn't know what to include. But I agree, adding a bio does help. I will do so later. Until "later" gets here, I deci...	GailMichelle	8	667	Aug 26, 2011 by tommyecat
	Suggestions for anger? (Preview) Hey everybody! Does anybody have any suggestions for anger? Besides physical exercise - I definitely do that when I'm mad! I mean, what has worked for you when you're mad at your qualifier and reading soothing literature/music/whatnot is to gentle for you for the moment? Meanwhile your qualifie...	rara avis	12	600	Aug 26, 2011 by tommyecat
	New and overwhelmed - alcoholic brother w/ dog (Preview) My brother, age 34, finally decided to go to a sober living home after we (3 friends of his and I) had an intervention w/ him. He's been there for 2 weeks. My father agreed to pay for it, hoping he'll be able to start paying his rent within 3 months. He has 2 warrants out for his arrest b/c of 2 unresolved DUIs...	Jess	8	572	Aug 26, 2011 by Jess
	I'm going to be ok (Preview) I wanted to share something I heard in my meeting last night. A long time member was reflecting on his early days in Al Anon, where he was talking to someone who had been in the program a while. He was venting about all of the horrible things his wife was doing, and the other member just kept saying "ye...	usedtobeanyer	4	541	Aug 25, 2011 by maryjane
	When do you know that you have had enough? (Preview) I have been married for 26 years. Of those years my husband has been drinking off and on for 15 years. It could be longer but I am numb to how long. My counselor has asked me to go to al-anon meetings, just cannot get there. I think I am done? What should I do?	esp_58	16	888	Aug 25, 2011 by maresie
	Rukes always changing (Preview) Hi everyone! I suppose this post is mostly to vent but also to see if anyone else had had this same problem I'm having.My AH is constantly changing the "rules",by rules I just mean things we've agreed on or what not,not actual rules he sets out for me.The ame plan always changes in the morning...	MrsHennepope	14	651	Aug 25, 2011 by Jerry F
	Reflecting on Al-Anon This Morning (Preview) All in all, things are quite good right now. As some of you may recall, it wasn't too long ago that I posted about my ex-AH going through horrific withdrawals. He did go in to a 30-day rehab and continues to go to outpatient classes. He believes this was his bottom. Hopefully, he is correct. He has ha...	GailMichelle	4	575	Aug 25, 2011 by rrib
	Being Tested (Preview) I got a text a bit ago that AH (who has been sober for quite some time now) stopped off for a beer with the guys. He's previously told me he thought he'd eventually drink again, just in moderation this time. Maybe he will. I feel like I am being tested.... "How is she going to react?" "Wh...	Hot Chicka	8	652	Aug 25, 2011 by oldgraduate
	Don't look in the drawer (Preview) Lindaoakford you talk a lot about your ongoing relationship with "the drawer", and the desire to look, but the understanding that looking is only going to make you crazy. Although AH has been dry (until tonight, see other post), I like that visual. Although AH doesn't have a drawer, per s...	Hot Chicka	3	513	Aug 25, 2011 by youfoundme
	feeling a little down today (Preview) My dad is visiting me. Aside from 4 months ago, I have not seen him in 4 years. He is also an alcoholic, part of the reason he and my mother separated when I was 10 was because of his drinking problem. he also helped me tremendously during one of the most difficult times in my life as pregnant teen who had bee...	odalis	4	492	Aug 25, 2011 by youfoundme
	We all fall down.... (Preview) Hi, I am youfoundme and I am a grateful member of alanon... I had a bad night last night. There was some stuff going on and I knew I had not control over it. I had two glasses of wine with my A....He has been having a couple of drinks only here and there and for some reason I thought, well why not? I am not...	youfoundme	15	703	Aug 25, 2011 by youfoundme
	Meeting etiquette: How would you have handled this? (Preview) The woman I sat next to at my face-to-face meeting today had sniffles and a runny nose, and kept wiping it with her hand (without using Kleenex). I was getting really grossed out, and wasn't sure what I should do at the end of the meeting when it came time to join hands for the serenity prayer I wound up spen...	atheos	12	791	Aug 25, 2011 by abbyal
	The Butterfly Story (Preview) I received this from an Al-Anon friend today and thought I would share it with my MIP FamilyHUGS,RLC THE BUTTERFLY STORY Whenever we see a fuzzy caterpillar it is hard for us to realize that s...	RLC	11	8080	Aug 24, 2011 by hotrod
	I know I made the right decision, now how do I stick to it? (Preview) I gave my abf the break-up letter I wrote this morning. I know I did the right thing for my sanity. I could not go on riding the emotional rollercoaster I have been on for the past 3 and 1/2 years in this relationship. I feel calm and peaceful about my decision right now. In the past breaking up has felt l...	jbunny	13	909	Aug 24, 2011 by jbunny
	UGH, UGH, and more UGH (Preview) I just don't get it. Why would you hide beer when you drink beer in the open around the family anyway? How silly is that? Is hiding alcohol just habitual? I get why he hides the little bottles of vodka or whiskey, but beer? Beer needs to be chilled. You may as well just put it in the fridge next to the Gu...	ilovedogs	10	640	Aug 24, 2011 by White Rabbit
	Willingness (Preview) This past couple of weeks the word "willingness" has kept popping out at me. It's been so great to know that there are two different kinds of steps the "ready now" steps and the "willing now" ones. I have been ready to admit where I am powerless over my life and I try an...	Pushka	6	492	Aug 24, 2011 by Pushka
	First appointment (Preview) Gratitude everyone. I am thankful for this board. Yesterday my AH and I had our first real marriage counseling session. I liked the counselor well enough, and she has experience/background in addiction issues. We basically laid some groundwork, and gave an overview. My AH was much more calm th...	KLotus	5	576	Aug 24, 2011 by youfoundme
	toxic resentment (Preview) Today I learned someone whoI had a real resentment towards had died suddenly. The resentment was a pretty remote one, an envy at their success so please don't send me condolences. This isn't about loss, or wanting to have closure or any of that. I have not spoken to this person for years they weren't...	maresie	8	698	Aug 24, 2011 by maresie
	alcohol saliva test (Preview) Ok so my Aspouse went out last night for dinner to thank so co-workers for a summer project. I figured she was going to drink. Prior to joining alanon, I had bought alcohol saliva tests on a q-tip type thing. I just can't stand her lying and drinking, and I wanted to have some control. I also don't want...	Lyne	6	490	Aug 24, 2011 by usedtobeanyer
	Anxiety attack (Preview) Hi everybody. Today for the first time in almost a year my AH missed his appointment with his psychiatrist/therapist. He said he was too tired, but I knw is cause he found this new doctor that will give prescriptions without a session. So I told him exactly that and he snapped. I guess people don't like t...	Priscilla83	5	665	Aug 24, 2011 by tommyecat
	Dr. Suess does Al-Anon? - Weird..... (Preview) This morning on Facebook, a friend had posted a quote from Dr. Suess (love quotes from Dr. Suess). I smiled when I read it, as it made me think of MIP, and/or Al-Anon.... I hope it doesn't offend anyone, but I think it fits rather well for us, as we come from all different walks of life, with all kinds of un...	canadianguy	9	817	Aug 24, 2011 by lacewing
	halt (Preview) another acronym that I find so difficult. Why is it that my anger can just fuel such emotion in me I understand it on;y make things worse? And when I'm hungry I eat poorly and binge on junk rather tfan take the time to eat something that will nourish me rather fill the whole? I'm lonely and sometimes so very...	sirchef	3	795	Aug 24, 2011 by lacewing
	Al Anon meeting cancelled and hacks- who do I talk to about this? (Preview) Hello, Not sure who to ask this, please let me know who to inform. I needed to ask if meetings are sometimes cancelled? This morning's meeting wasn't starting a half hour after the scheduled time so I asked the chat room if there was going to be one and someone called Anonymous (name removed) said he/s...	rose903	2	607	Aug 24, 2011 by lacewing
	Otie HAS A THOUGHT (Preview) I had a long phone conversation with my sister and she was bemoaning many things about our mother. This made me think of the many discussions here on the board. My sister is under the impression that her personality bears no similarity to that of our mother. WRONG. I see soo many characteristics tha...	Otie	6	533	Aug 24, 2011 by lacewing
	I think I am coming around. (Preview) Today like most days I really feel like I might be coming around to where I need to be. I struggle w/ so much. I hope I can find some peace & serenity where I am at today. Only my HP knows how much I can handle. I know He is watching & waiting for me to come to grips w/ all my issues, insecurities, etc. So m...	Hoot Nanny	4	361	Aug 23, 2011 by Doozy
	I am not sure saying something would be of use. (Preview) My sister is an ACOA as am I. I have been fortunate to have been in the rooms of Al-anon for a couple of years and many years of work on myself before that. My charachteristics have almost gone now from my A childhood and father. My sister who lives with me is a basket case however. She has the classic symp...	clep	3	392	Aug 23, 2011 by Doozy
	tear in my coffee! (Preview) There is a tear in my coffee some days. I am not really that sad but I do have my moments! I realized after my last post that I can be a real downer. I feel this is true especially when I talk about not having kids. I guess I still have to live in acceptance at 45. I just wish that I could over my regrets--medicati...	Hoot Nanny	8	654	Aug 23, 2011 by Doozy
	In the trenches of step 4! (Preview) I feel really good about my progress over the last year and especially since finding Alanon a few months ago. It was definitely the right time for me! I am going through the steps and attending face to face meetings and doing nearly everything I'm "supposed" to do except I still haven't foun...	Doozy	8	592	Aug 23, 2011 by Doozy
	Overwhelmed by family. (Preview) Hell hello. It's been a looong time since I last logged in, but I;m happy to report that overall I'm doing Ok and so is my family. My husband is almost a year sober, strong, and my three year old is just as amazing as ever. Right now I;m feeling a bit overwhelmed by my AH's family. My husband has recently bega...	Priscilla83	4	487	Aug 23, 2011 by Priscilla83
	Betsy is sick (Preview) Betsy the wonder dog is sick, Parvo no less. Caught it early, I hope, had a shot but..... well, she's got it. Pretty sick dog, still alert right now, they said its gonna get worse before it gets better, lots of bodily fluids to clean up - grin and bear it because, well, she's my baby. I have IV fluids to give h...	likemyheart	10	645	Aug 23, 2011 by pineapple
	codependence and detachment - the roller coaster ride (Preview) I have a question about the codependence of an Alcoholic. And my own detachment too. I noticed that this past weekend, my AH and I had a good weekend but he was very needy. I spent all day Saturday away visiting my daughter and then Sunday he was so clingy and over-attentive. I have a hard time acceptin...	oldgraduate	7	590	Aug 23, 2011 by rrib
	continued it into the evening (Preview) Hi yesterday i shared a moment of realisation for me that I was being very silly about finding a lighter in the bin. Such a little trigger. As the afternoon progressed and I went home, I wanted it to continue. I deliberately did not want to know or even have an idea if he had been smoking or not. If someth...	Lindaoakford	3	381	Aug 23, 2011 by RLC
	Keeping The Serenity (Preview) I know it has been a while but things have been going on that I can not control. My husband lost his job last week! I have been on a rollercoaster of emotions. I am so thankful for my alanon and higher power during these times. Last night I got very angry at my daughter because she was whining and complaining...	MDK	5	1293	Aug 23, 2011 by MDK
	"keep the focus on you" - a tool that is vital yet so elusive sometimes... (Preview) I did it again, I let the focus leave me. My spouse and I are separated and have been for a year. I just in the past 2 weeks started to go to Al-anon (I'm an ACOA). I've been to 5 meetings in 9 days. All very helpful. I'm just getting my feet wet. My spouse very much wants us back together - I'm not sure that i...	amills4294	3	381	Aug 23, 2011 by Jerry F
	Its me :) (Preview) You Found Me...Thanks alanon for finding me and loving me when I didn't know I could even fathom loving myself. I am feeling good lately, I am working on me, I am going to meetings and staying on my side of the street. Each day I wake up to a new day to cherish. I don't let things bother me like they used to....	youfoundme	11	516	Aug 23, 2011 by canadianguy
	what a small trigger for a big response (Preview) Good morning (830 am Tuesday here) I had a reminder of my over exaggerated responses this morning. To prelude this conversation, I have not checked his drawer since my slip up how ever long ago when I looked. I have stopped counting or worrying about if I am looking or not, I somehow.... just stopped??...	Lindaoakford	13	662	Aug 23, 2011 by oldgraduate
	HP is really shaking things up (Preview) I could very easily get down and out today and have had my moments, but I am going to chose to take a different approach. I think my HP has great changes in store for me because: my car got wrecked, our Air Conditioning Went Out at the house (and I live in Texas) and my renters in our rent house just told us...	oldgraduate	5	429	Aug 23, 2011 by oldgraduate
	I need help with a problem, please! (Preview) My father was an alcoholic, my grandfather was also, I have 3 brothers who are alcoholic. One is sober, one is actively drinking, and the other is in rehab., for the 4th time, I think it is, I've lost count. He is 44 and been in jail for a total of about 10 years. He has driven without insurance and a license...	Anne01	9	650	Aug 23, 2011 by youfoundme
	Hooray for me!! (Preview) So, I told my AH last night that I want a D. He thought I would change my mind after "sleeping on it." When I didn't he tried to blame me and then decided to ask what he could do to "salvage" our marriage and keep our family together. I told him that if he goes into a treatment program...	Hoping for Happiness	4	484	Aug 23, 2011 by likemyheart
	What to do when finding "hidden alcohol" (Preview) I am doing my best at working my own recovery and not my AH's (most days). However, I have one thing that I am not sure how to handle. We have 2 small children (6 and 2) and I continue to find hidden bottles of vodka. I don't want to pour them out and move on, because they aren't my bottles to pour out. So I ha...	Hoping for Happiness	5	5075	Aug 23, 2011 by youfoundme
	New recovery check-in (Preview) Hello Again Everyone :) Ok, so my AH is two months out of inpatient treatment. He's been unbearable, the majority of the time. He's so angry, and mostly tries to pick fights with and blame me. Aside from the recent crisis that built over a few weeks of dwindling AA meetings - is this still normal? I was...	KLotus	7	665	Aug 23, 2011 by youfoundme
	Just can't do it. Newbie (Preview) Hello everyone. I've been reading all your post for a couple weeks now. Great stuff. I Just signed up. I've been to two meetings now. I've just been through the worst 2 yrs of my life. I'm miserable. Not sure if Al Anon is for me or not. I'm in a relationship to an addict. Also I strongly believe she is me...	onewholovesrock	11	835	Aug 23, 2011 by Doozy
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