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WornOutMrsFixIt · WornOutMrsFixIt

I am out of my parent's house and in my own apartment!!!!! I moved out last weekend. It's just me and my 2 tea cup shih tzu "daughters". It is SO peaceful. I come in from work and the house is just like I left it and my stomach isn't in knots wondering how the mood of the home is going to be. The part t...

Sweet Stanley · Sweet Stanley

Today, I am feeling a little worried, but trying to ignore it. My recovering AH left yesterday, with my dog, to spend a few months in Arizona to get away from the cold north. The cold and humidity is really impacting his back pain issues and he was absolutely miserable here. I am quite proud of myself f...

movingon2013 · movingon2013

Hi everyone, I used to frequent these boards 2-3 years ago and honestly don't know where I'd be now without all your wonderful people. I'm back now because I want to share and am really hoping for some encouraging words of wisdom. some background: Four years ago my ah's drinking problem became undenia...

hotrod · hotrod

http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t52234016/step-7-alanon/

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

My son finally gets a job and now has dropped off the radar again. He had to pawn his Kindle to get money for a food handlers card so I'm guessing he took the money for alcohol. He just can't cope with anything in his life. Before I would be devastated about this, but I'm so much more relaxed and that is a goo...

debhud · debhud

hi everyone, i have AS who has no desire to stop drinking. (signed out of 2 rehabs, refused aa) he lost his wife, his kids and his job. i love him and i know he has to do it on his own. however for the past year my parents have been horrible enablers. they pay his mortgage, utilities,bills. give him booz...

scaredandconfused · scaredandconfused

I'm so upset with my husband I can barely control myself right now. My husband and I have been separated for 3 weeks after he assaulted me. He has DUI charges pending and he has court in two months but the police said he could take our car for now because it's marital property and I could get it later if his li...

grajac · grajac

Hi, I am new to this site, and as of this weekend, I am new to al-anon. My husband has not drank in two years. We have been married for ten years and he drank for all of those years, yet seemed to become more of an issue as the years went on. He made his life work around his drinking. It seems I have experienced al...

el-cee · el-cee

I found alanon around 9 months ago. I knew right away I was at the right place. I 'got' the concept immediately and totally embraced this program. I saw changes in all aspects of me and my life at once. I was on a high, until October. I came down to earth with a bump. My old negative thoughts began creeping in...

Annie1234 · Annie1234

Happy Friday everyone. Today my AH is 25 days sober. I am celebrating each day one day at a time. He has been happier and healthier, both physically and mentally. He told me that it feels so good to wake up not feeling bad. His attitude has been gracious and sweet. I am being realistic, and reognize...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I didn't have to worry about sharing: I listened through the whole meeting & then I shared a really good share for a change. It is sometimes so much easier to share on here. I did swallow my pride & let it go! I needed to share & I believe the group needed to hear what I had to say! No ego, just trut...

Pushka · Pushka

COURT REPORTERS HAVE TO KEEP STRAIGHT FACES!! These are from a book called Disorder in the American Courts and are things people actually said in court, word for word, taken down and published by court reporters that had the torment of staying calm while the exchanges were taking place. ATTORNEY: Wh...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

We have two cars. One my AH drives. One I drive. Both are registered in my name. We are both listed on the insurance for both cars. He has driven drunk far too many times for my comfort. Tonight, he came home obviously drunk. I had plans to go out for an hour with friends, I made him promise me he would just sta...

chinup · chinup

im haveing a really hard time not takeing others enventories especially my sisters eventory,and now ex a b/f,need help here really bad driveing me crazy and wrecking havic in my own life and doing or saying things i shouldnt say that only makes me look bad as well as them,esh plz ,,hugs,chinup.

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

I could use some positive vibes sent my way. AH and I have counseling again today and the last time he screamed at me saying, "You tell me the last time you SAW me drunk." and he accused me of cheating on him and challenged me saying, "You tell me why a celibate married woman needs to be on...

downonthefarm · downonthefarm

Hi I'm new yer but not to alcohol problems. My AH who has depression anxiety and PTSD is destroying our family. My 19yr old and 20yr old have moved out and now my 13yr old has asked if we can live with my dad as he can't stand the drinking and yelling anymore. I also have a 4yr old. My AH has become so emotionall...

Pushka · Pushka

Is anyone else having website issues? I'm posting things and they are gone, .. as in poof gone. So I think ok .. let me post again and then everything is there plus then some. Just wondering what's going on?? Thanks, P :)

Jozie · Jozie

Expectations vs. Preception vs. Projecting I still struggle at times in these three... I have Got ALOT better with the "Expectations" that I put on Others, but I still at times expect Myself to be More then I am at the moment, which can set me up to fail if I don't keep a Handle on it... Sometime...

imom · imom

Ok so alcoholism is a disease.....I get it. I would never leave a sick loved one in need. HOWEVER......if I was knowingly exposing my children to a contagious disease I would certainly remove them from the situation. Maybe this is just a thought that helps me justify my next move? Maybe....but I have t...

Annie1234 · Annie1234

The support we receive here is so important. I also get so much encouragement and so many reality checks in reading the posts of others. Last night I attended my first F2F Al-Anon meeting. It was a small gathering. There were 14 of us. It was nice and intimate. There was a variety of people there.....

chinup · chinup

odat,is all one can do when in our most vulerable times its not easy for any of us,but we got to hold on and not let go for if we let go even for a sec. we will fall back into the same old drama we stepped out of,serenity prayer and lots of distractions and staying as busy as i can be until this time passes is all i c...

steph0717 · steph0717

About 6 months ago I started dating a guy that I had met off of an online dating site. We really hit it off and have had an amazing connection ever since. When I met him he was only about a month and a half sober. He wasn't ready to get into a relationship but for some reason, we still kept seeing each other....

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

an option as far as dating again after all we have been through. He is just starting out with being sober and talking to his A.A. sponsor and he has been calling me to just chat with him on a couple hard nights he has had. He asked me in a few months if he continued doing well with his sobriety, if I would ever gi...

twladybug · twladybug

Isn't anyone else annoyed their significant other has a whole world of AA friends that they are not a part of? I have lived with my recovering A for a year and a half, he's been sober almost 4 years. I never knew the out of control part of his life and I'm thankful for that. I understand that AA changed his lif...

chinup · chinup

here i am trying to move on with my life to new horizons if its possible i feel like my life is so limited here now that my mom is gone, i spent most if not all of my time with my mom when she was here,now to redirect,while still greiveing my lost,its not gonna be easy still got spring and summer to go through and...

bryteyes · bryteyes

Im not able to attend online meetings and I currently have no transportation or family support to take me to local meetings. Please will someone be my sponser. P.s. very emotional and eager to learn. Scared every day.

rehprof · rehprof

Every year the ExA's dad gives the 2 kids $50 checks each. That "side" had their Xmas celebration a week before, on the 18th. So, that week, the ex called my 16yo and asked if he could "borrow" their xmas money to take them shopping to buy me a gift, and to shop and buy for each other. (...

1976love · 1976love

So my month sober AH just got laid off. Before when this would happen, I would come home from work with either a passed out husband or one so drunk he could barely function. I have been praying for strength for me and him and keeping a positive attitude. I will not let this ruin my night with worry and fea...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

I was reading my posts over these last couple of months and I'm all over the board. Reading them sure does give me some perpective on how stupid I sound. Embarrassing.... I pray it helps me to get with the program and quit this madness I create for myself. I am grateful for MIP I am grateful for Al-anon I a...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Today I need to swallow my pride. I am going to my usual out-of-town Alanon meeting--60 miles away. I sometimes go to any lengths to get to a meeting. But, I haven't received my Alanon coin yet this year. I am thinking that I won't mention it tonight as I would feel too proud & did not receive it. I am hop...

stephaniej · stephaniej

Hello, my beloved MIPers! You may recall that my long-term temporary job ended on November 1. In mid-December I had an interview for a very, very good job with my county. Yesterday they called me and asked me to come in on Wednesday morning (tomorrow) to "meet with" the big cheese. I assu...

Aloha · Aloha

I was reading through some posts and was reminded very clearly that A's do what A's do... and time and again folks like myself get bowled over in shock when we expect the A to suddenly behave like someone other than an A. I even had this experience with my exA. He called me back in October to let me know that h...

willowtree · willowtree

The last 2 months have been really challenging for me. I planned my inlaws 50th wedding anniversary, it was Christmas, kept helping SO many people out to the point of exhaustion and then slight resentment, and my brother in law and his 3 kids stayed with us for a week. Having my BIL stay with us really p...

el-cee · el-cee

I've been thinking about why I ended up as a codependant enabler. At what point in my life did I become like this? Is it a self esteem issue? I think it comes from my childhood, I've always people pleased and was brought up like this. My ex ah and I were made for each other really, two mixed up people who got si...

Pushka · Pushka

I know it's before the court time .. LOL .. that's OOOOKKKKK. Turns out my atty and her folks found out I didn't need to be there today. They have continued the case until??? Don't know that answer just yet. Suffice to say that doing the next right thing is a good thing. I highly encourage anyone deal...

John · John

Rarely am i someone at a loss for words. However, i feel like i was hit with a stun gun lately. I paid to bring my 32 yr old son here to North Carolina after his marriage took the plunge. First thing he found was alcohol, then a girlfriend he got preg, then two felony charges for b&e at a closed store a few block...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

I guess I've always liked hearing that "today is another chance to get it right." Of course this has mean't not only days of second chances but years of trying to make progress. I am sometimes better than other times but I know I will never get it "right." I'm not sure I even know w...

DellaB · DellaB

I made it to and through my first meeting and went to another yesterday. Thank you ALL for your encouragement to go! I felt like I should have signed in though with a big fat Crayon instead of a pen! :) But seriously, I could relate to so many, cried the whole time, and have felt numb since......but it i...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I just celebrated 27 years in the program on Friday! I am so grateful to this program; it has saved my life more than once--it can save & change your lives too. I have never been able to find anything that was more effective than alanon. It really is the best thing that has ever happened to me except the...

Gw · Gw

Their father gets out of jail this month and I am wondering how to protect the kids from contact When it was just alcohol that was the addiction, I could tell when he was under the influence after one spoken word. Now that drugs are involved, I am unaware. I am concerned the drugs have done permanent br...

hightlyfavored · hightlyfavored

My a/a daughter called, told me about the program to get her GED, before the conversation ended she asked if I had any pants or warmup suits she could have, she said she can't wear jeans to class. I told to go to the thrift store, she said she didn't have any $. She reminded of my surplus of clothes, I told h...

frannix · frannix

After my brother went through rehab, I allowed him to move into my house until he got on his feet. He was sober for the first year and I gave him all the support I could. But then he started drinking more and more. He just ruined our Christmas celebration for the 3rd year in a row -- as well as our Easter d...

cinders · cinders

I have to say I am very proud of myself. When my AH and I seperated, I moved to a new house. He does not have the address, phone number or new email address. I chose to create a very large barrier in order to start finding my sanity and having as much division between us as possible. I was really hurt and th...

Annie1234 · Annie1234

Well, best laid plans. I attempted to go to my first F2F meeting today at 1:00. When I arrived at the location that was listed on the Al-Anon meeting website, I was told that they stopped having meetings there on Tuesday afternoons. I'm having such a rough time today, and really felt it was time for m...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

All was well last night as I retired and I wake up to a message that my son had this burning desire to drink. He said he called his sponser but I don't know if it did any good or not. Can only pray Not doing so well this morning so I understand my need of continued support and help of Al-anon. I let my guard down...

Pushka · Pushka

It was another sleepless night last night each time I think I'm ok, I wind up with some weird dream I can't remember. Asking for prayers again my friends, .. I do not know the outcome .. I do know God is bigger and has a better plan. I have tried not to choose or push the "if you insist" door. It'...

tortuga · tortuga

I want to share here today, for isolation is not good for me, and because sharing with some people in my life isn't always easy, and keeps them worrying, and sometimes they cannot understand the actual situation I am in, because they stand outside the madness. here in MIP I have been feeling safe since t...

imom · imom

So tonight I finally got to my first f2f meeting in a few months. I have made every excuse in the book about why I cannot get to them. I knew I would be late because I had to pick up my daughter from practice first, but I allowed myself to do that and walk in late. I was only ten minutes late and I still made it. I t...

amarchand · amarchand

Hello this is my first time on here and looking for advice. My husband and i have been married 9 years and together 14 years (we are 33). We started dating when we were 19 and partied full on with alcohol and all kinds off drugs till we were 24 (got married). We started for baby and 2 miscarraiges and a year of...

Kismet · Kismet

My AH has been sober for 5 months now; 3 months in rehab and home for the past 2 months. He is doing really well and is very active in his AA and NA meetings, he has been approached to be someone's sponsor and he is really enjoying helping people. I have been working on my co-dependency and have really begun t...

stephaniej · stephaniej

I have been a grateful member here for over 2 years. In the past 18 months, during which my AH's drinking has escalated steadily, I have slowly worked toward detaching from his behavior. I have been feeling more and more like I am ready to leave him. One of the reasons I have been able to detach is that h...

Debilyn · Debilyn

We met here at MIP, over ten years ago. He and I kept in communication over ten years, we were very close friends. Reminded each other of our Al Anon skills dealing with my now ex AH, and his soon to be ex AW. Kids are grown now and gone, he is done. Very sadly he has found the evidense of the drug use. We had seen...

1976love · 1976love

Since my AH has been going to AA and has been sober for 4weeks now, he is starting to do more around the house and thinks everyone else should too. Today he flipped his lid when he was trying to move a chair from the basement to the upstairs. While he was in the basement my younger son was down there playing...

Pushka · Pushka

You know you would think I would get that lesson and seriously it still boggles my mind. There are some freaky things going on at the moment. I have court tomorrow and I am asking for prayers. I feel like the best thing that could happen is (I know wait for it .. LOL) it would actually be delayed. I can't...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

I've been to 5 or 6 meetings over the last few months, and just recently made the commitment to come at least once a week. I came to my first meeting in complete desperation, having just had another blow out argument with my husband, an active alcoholic / addict. The cycle was the same, he would be drunk wh...

bryteyes · bryteyes

Been with my verbally abusive AB for 2 years and although his drinking has slowed down extremely im still terrified of what could happen and find myself scared every time he walks out the door which is a lot because we have no transportation and he walks everywhere. Ive been diagnosed with PTSD just fro...

willowtree · willowtree

Has anyone heard about the law of attraction? I am getting stuck with how I can use it with alanon as well. My conflict is coming in because I feel like a lot of the LOA teachers speak as if we have all of this power with in us - but alanon teaches us we are powerless over others. I feel so conflicted because...

savvygirl · savvygirl

Hey everyone, I was linked to this site by a friend and I honestly have no idea if I'm posting in the right place or not. I've never looked into Al-Anon or anything of the sort because I've never felt the need to before. The alcoholic is my godfather, so he's not blood related but he was there during child...

robin1212 · robin1212

Hi, I've been through a lot with my AW and reading some of the posts on this site I have come to realise there is some hope for myself. I'm sitting in a hotel room now after another incident with AW and I feel that a great weight has been lifted of my shoulders. I've known my AW for just over 20 years and at the st...

bryteyes · bryteyes

My boyfriends dad died 16 years ago that he has issues with. My boyfriend has been doing good with his drinking but days like this not so much. This morning he started out positive so I hope it stays that way. He took extra money tho and has to walk passed all the liquor stores. Is there any key words that wou...

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	"I Kinda Like It In My Brand New Place" (Preview) I am out of my parent's house and in my own apartment!!!!! I moved out last weekend. It's just me and my 2 tea cup shih tzu "daughters". It is SO peaceful. I come in from work and the house is just like I left it and my stomach isn't in knots wondering how the mood of the home is going to be. The part t...	WornOutMrsFixIt	7	372	Jan 13, 2013 by pinkchip
	letting go (Preview) Today, I am feeling a little worried, but trying to ignore it. My recovering AH left yesterday, with my dog, to spend a few months in Arizona to get away from the cold north. The cold and humidity is really impacting his back pain issues and he was absolutely miserable here. I am quite proud of myself f...	Sweet Stanley	3	266	Jan 13, 2013 by LearningAsIGo
	divorce and confusion (Preview) Hi everyone, I used to frequent these boards 2-3 years ago and honestly don't know where I'd be now without all your wonderful people. I'm back now because I want to share and am really hoping for some encouraging words of wisdom. some background: Four years ago my ah's drinking problem became undenia...	movingon2013	3	447	Jan 13, 2013 by Abtmc
	STEP 7 (Preview) http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t52234016/step-7-alanon/	hotrod	0	218	Jan 12, 2013 by hotrod
	Another let down (Preview) My son finally gets a job and now has dropped off the radar again. He had to pawn his Kindle to get money for a food handlers card so I'm guessing he took the money for alcohol. He just can't cope with anything in his life. Before I would be devastated about this, but I'm so much more relaxed and that is a goo...	Cathyinaz	11	479	Jan 12, 2013 by Debilyn
	any type of intervention available for the "enablers?" (Preview) hi everyone, i have AS who has no desire to stop drinking. (signed out of 2 rehabs, refused aa) he lost his wife, his kids and his job. i love him and i know he has to do it on his own. however for the past year my parents have been horrible enablers. they pay his mortgage, utilities,bills. give him booz...	debhud	3	326	Jan 12, 2013 by Jerry F
	so angry and frustrated (Preview) I'm so upset with my husband I can barely control myself right now. My husband and I have been separated for 3 weeks after he assaulted me. He has DUI charges pending and he has court in two months but the police said he could take our car for now because it's marital property and I could get it later if his li...	scaredandconfused	4	391	Jan 12, 2013 by WornOutMrsFixIt
	Husband sober for two years and just beginning to deal (Preview) Hi, I am new to this site, and as of this weekend, I am new to al-anon. My husband has not drank in two years. We have been married for ten years and he drank for all of those years, yet seemed to become more of an issue as the years went on. He made his life work around his drinking. It seems I have experienced al...	grajac	6	453	Jan 12, 2013 by pinkchip
	Progress (Preview) I found alanon around 9 months ago. I knew right away I was at the right place. I 'got' the concept immediately and totally embraced this program. I saw changes in all aspects of me and my life at once. I was on a high, until October. I came down to earth with a bump. My old negative thoughts began creeping in...	el-cee	2	579	Jan 12, 2013 by hotrod
	Feeling good today (Preview) Happy Friday everyone. Today my AH is 25 days sober. I am celebrating each day one day at a time. He has been happier and healthier, both physically and mentally. He told me that it feels so good to wake up not feeling bad. His attitude has been gracious and sweet. I am being realistic, and reognize...	Annie1234	4	243	Jan 12, 2013 by Beekee
	it worked! (Preview) I didn't have to worry about sharing: I listened through the whole meeting & then I shared a really good share for a change. It is sometimes so much easier to share on here. I did swallow my pride & let it go! I needed to share & I believe the group needed to hear what I had to say! No ego, just trut...	Hoot Nanny	0	211	Jan 11, 2013 by Hoot Nanny
	I needed this :) (Preview) COURT REPORTERS HAVE TO KEEP STRAIGHT FACES!! These are from a book called Disorder in the American Courts and are things people actually said in court, word for word, taken down and published by court reporters that had the torment of staying calm while the exchanges were taking place. ATTORNEY: Wh...	Pushka	7	456	Jan 12, 2013 by one_moment
	Boundaries or Control? (Preview) We have two cars. One my AH drives. One I drive. Both are registered in my name. We are both listed on the insurance for both cars. He has driven drunk far too many times for my comfort. Tonight, he came home obviously drunk. I had plans to go out for an hour with friends, I made him promise me he would just sta...	ParisMemories	11	419	Jan 12, 2013 by orchidlover
	takeing others eventories (Preview) im haveing a really hard time not takeing others enventories especially my sisters eventory,and now ex a b/f,need help here really bad driveing me crazy and wrecking havic in my own life and doing or saying things i shouldnt say that only makes me look bad as well as them,esh plz ,,hugs,chinup.	chinup	7	312	Jan 11, 2013 by Aloha
	Fear about marriage counseling today (Preview) I could use some positive vibes sent my way. AH and I have counseling again today and the last time he screamed at me saying, "You tell me the last time you SAW me drunk." and he accused me of cheating on him and challenged me saying, "You tell me why a celibate married woman needs to be on...	ilovedogs	17	529	Jan 11, 2013 by likemyheart
	New (Preview) Hi I'm new yer but not to alcohol problems. My AH who has depression anxiety and PTSD is destroying our family. My 19yr old and 20yr old have moved out and now my 13yr old has asked if we can live with my dad as he can't stand the drinking and yelling anymore. I also have a 4yr old. My AH has become so emotionall...	downonthefarm	4	229	Jan 11, 2013 by Highlyfavored
	Website issues?? (Preview) Is anyone else having website issues? I'm posting things and they are gone, .. as in poof gone. So I think ok .. let me post again and then everything is there plus then some. Just wondering what's going on?? Thanks, P :)	Pushka	8	233	Jan 11, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	Expectations vs. Preception vs. Projecting Vs. ME (Preview) Expectations vs. Preception vs. Projecting I still struggle at times in these three... I have Got ALOT better with the "Expectations" that I put on Others, but I still at times expect Myself to be More then I am at the moment, which can set me up to fail if I don't keep a Handle on it... Sometime...	Jozie	7	344	Jan 11, 2013 by downonthefarm
	My thought for the day (Preview) Ok so alcoholism is a disease.....I get it. I would never leave a sick loved one in need. HOWEVER......if I was knowingly exposing my children to a contagious disease I would certainly remove them from the situation. Maybe this is just a thought that helps me justify my next move? Maybe....but I have t...	imom	3	2397	Jan 11, 2013 by downonthefarm
	Went to my first F2F (Preview) The support we receive here is so important. I also get so much encouragement and so many reality checks in reading the posts of others. Last night I attended my first F2F Al-Anon meeting. It was a small gathering. There were 14 of us. It was nice and intimate. There was a variety of people there.....	Annie1234	8	412	Jan 11, 2013 by Annie1234
	trying to keep it all together (Preview) odat,is all one can do when in our most vulerable times its not easy for any of us,but we got to hold on and not let go for if we let go even for a sec. we will fall back into the same old drama we stepped out of,serenity prayer and lots of distractions and staying as busy as i can be until this time passes is all i c...	chinup	1	316	Jan 11, 2013 by hotrod
	Dating a recovering alcoholic (Preview) About 6 months ago I started dating a guy that I had met off of an online dating site. We really hit it off and have had an amazing connection ever since. When I met him he was only about a month and a half sober. He wasn't ready to get into a relationship but for some reason, we still kept seeing each other....	steph0717	4	317	Jan 11, 2013 by tiredtonite
	Am I crazy to consider the exAH (Preview) an option as far as dating again after all we have been through. He is just starting out with being sober and talking to his A.A. sponsor and he has been calling me to just chat with him on a couple hard nights he has had. He asked me in a few months if he continued doing well with his sobriety, if I would ever gi...	Breakingfree	10	347	Jan 11, 2013 by Mattie
	finding acceptance (Preview) Isn't anyone else annoyed their significant other has a whole world of AA friends that they are not a part of? I have lived with my recovering A for a year and a half, he's been sober almost 4 years. I never knew the out of control part of his life and I'm thankful for that. I understand that AA changed his lif...	twladybug	8	305	Jan 11, 2013 by twladybug
	trying to move on (Preview) here i am trying to move on with my life to new horizons if its possible i feel like my life is so limited here now that my mom is gone, i spent most if not all of my time with my mom when she was here,now to redirect,while still greiveing my lost,its not gonna be easy still got spring and summer to go through and...	chinup	4	364	Jan 11, 2013 by orchidlover
	needing a sponser (Preview) Im not able to attend online meetings and I currently have no transportation or family support to take me to local meetings. Please will someone be my sponser. P.s. very emotional and eager to learn. Scared every day.	bryteyes	3	241	Jan 11, 2013 by orchidlover
	Christmas Money (Preview) Every year the ExA's dad gives the 2 kids $50 checks each. That "side" had their Xmas celebration a week before, on the 18th. So, that week, the ex called my 16yo and asked if he could "borrow" their xmas money to take them shopping to buy me a gift, and to shop and buy for each other. (...	rehprof	9	463	Jan 11, 2013 by orchidlover
	laid off (Preview) So my month sober AH just got laid off. Before when this would happen, I would come home from work with either a passed out husband or one so drunk he could barely function. I have been praying for strength for me and him and keeping a positive attitude. I will not let this ruin my night with worry and fea...	1976love	5	310	Jan 11, 2013 by orchidlover
	I'm a lost in my madness (Preview) I was reading my posts over these last couple of months and I'm all over the board. Reading them sure does give me some perpective on how stupid I sound. Embarrassing.... I pray it helps me to get with the program and quit this madness I create for myself. I am grateful for MIP I am grateful for Al-anon I a...	Cathyinaz	11	549	Jan 11, 2013 by orchidlover
	swallow my pride (Preview) Today I need to swallow my pride. I am going to my usual out-of-town Alanon meeting--60 miles away. I sometimes go to any lengths to get to a meeting. But, I haven't received my Alanon coin yet this year. I am thinking that I won't mention it tonight as I would feel too proud & did not receive it. I am hop...	Hoot Nanny	4	303	Jan 11, 2013 by orchidlover
	Second Interview (Preview) Hello, my beloved MIPers! You may recall that my long-term temporary job ended on November 1. In mid-December I had an interview for a very, very good job with my county. Yesterday they called me and asked me to come in on Wednesday morning (tomorrow) to "meet with" the big cheese. I assu...	stephaniej	10	352	Jan 11, 2013 by orchidlover
	Quit expecting irrational people to suddenly behave rationally (Preview) I was reading through some posts and was reminded very clearly that A's do what A's do... and time and again folks like myself get bowled over in shock when we expect the A to suddenly behave like someone other than an A. I even had this experience with my exA. He called me back in October to let me know that h...	Aloha	5	502	Jan 11, 2013 by orchidlover
	Am I feeling sorry for myself? (Preview) The last 2 months have been really challenging for me. I planned my inlaws 50th wedding anniversary, it was Christmas, kept helping SO many people out to the point of exhaustion and then slight resentment, and my brother in law and his 3 kids stayed with us for a week. Having my BIL stay with us really p...	willowtree	8	516	Jan 11, 2013 by orchidlover
	why? (Preview) I've been thinking about why I ended up as a codependant enabler. At what point in my life did I become like this? Is it a self esteem issue? I think it comes from my childhood, I've always people pleased and was brought up like this. My ex ah and I were made for each other really, two mixed up people who got si...	el-cee	7	363	Jan 11, 2013 by orchidlover
	Court Results!!! (Preview) I know it's before the court time .. LOL .. that's OOOOKKKKK. Turns out my atty and her folks found out I didn't need to be there today. They have continued the case until??? Don't know that answer just yet. Suffice to say that doing the next right thing is a good thing. I highly encourage anyone deal...	Pushka	3	298	Jan 11, 2013 by orchidlover
	At a loss... (Preview) Rarely am i someone at a loss for words. However, i feel like i was hit with a stun gun lately. I paid to bring my 32 yr old son here to North Carolina after his marriage took the plunge. First thing he found was alcohol, then a girlfriend he got preg, then two felony charges for b&e at a closed store a few block...	John	9	480	Jan 11, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	Starting Again Today (Preview) I guess I've always liked hearing that "today is another chance to get it right." Of course this has mean't not only days of second chances but years of trying to make progress. I am sometimes better than other times but I know I will never get it "right." I'm not sure I even know w...	tiredtonite	5	444	Jan 10, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	First local meeting(s) (Preview) I made it to and through my first meeting and went to another yesterday. Thank you ALL for your encouragement to go! I felt like I should have signed in though with a big fat Crayon instead of a pen! :) But seriously, I could relate to so many, cried the whole time, and have felt numb since......but it i...	DellaB	10	340	Jan 9, 2013 by hotrod
	27 years & counting... (Preview) I just celebrated 27 years in the program on Friday! I am so grateful to this program; it has saved my life more than once--it can save & change your lives too. I have never been able to find anything that was more effective than alanon. It really is the best thing that has ever happened to me except the...	Hoot Nanny	4	324	Jan 9, 2013 by tiredtonite
	How to protect the kids? (Preview) Their father gets out of jail this month and I am wondering how to protect the kids from contact When it was just alcohol that was the addiction, I could tell when he was under the influence after one spoken word. Now that drugs are involved, I am unaware. I am concerned the drugs have done permanent br...	Gw	5	374	Jan 9, 2013 by stephaniej
	More questions? (Preview) My a/a daughter called, told me about the program to get her GED, before the conversation ended she asked if I had any pants or warmup suits she could have, she said she can't wear jeans to class. I told to go to the thrift store, she said she didn't have any $. She reminded of my surplus of clothes, I told h...	hightlyfavored	5	438	Jan 9, 2013 by el-cee
	I really need your support on this family problem brother evict (Preview) After my brother went through rehab, I allowed him to move into my house until he got on his feet. He was sober for the first year and I gave him all the support I could. But then he started drinking more and more. He just ruined our Christmas celebration for the 3rd year in a row -- as well as our Easter d...	frannix	9	1346	Jan 8, 2013 by frannix
	I did what was best for me (Preview) I have to say I am very proud of myself. When my AH and I seperated, I moved to a new house. He does not have the address, phone number or new email address. I chose to create a very large barrier in order to start finding my sanity and having as much division between us as possible. I was really hurt and th...	cinders	4	275	Jan 9, 2013 by Annie1234
	Ugh (Preview) Well, best laid plans. I attempted to go to my first F2F meeting today at 1:00. When I arrived at the location that was listed on the Al-Anon meeting website, I was told that they stopped having meetings there on Tuesday afternoons. I'm having such a rough time today, and really felt it was time for m...	Annie1234	6	371	Jan 8, 2013 by Annie1234
	Need of some words (Preview) All was well last night as I retired and I wake up to a message that my son had this burning desire to drink. He said he called his sponser but I don't know if it did any good or not. Can only pray Not doing so well this morning so I understand my need of continued support and help of Al-anon. I let my guard down...	Cathyinaz	8	284	Jan 8, 2013 by Breakingfree
	Another court day .. (Preview) It was another sleepless night last night each time I think I'm ok, I wind up with some weird dream I can't remember. Asking for prayers again my friends, .. I do not know the outcome .. I do know God is bigger and has a better plan. I have tried not to choose or push the "if you insist" door. It'...	Pushka	2	237	Jan 8, 2013 by Jackie11
	in the struggle. still...an update! (Preview) I want to share here today, for isolation is not good for me, and because sharing with some people in my life isn't always easy, and keeps them worrying, and sometimes they cannot understand the actual situation I am in, because they stand outside the madness. here in MIP I have been feeling safe since t...	tortuga	6	465	Jan 8, 2013 by tiredtonite
	Being honest with myself (Preview) So tonight I finally got to my first f2f meeting in a few months. I have made every excuse in the book about why I cannot get to them. I knew I would be late because I had to pick up my daughter from practice first, but I allowed myself to do that and walk in late. I was only ten minutes late and I still made it. I t...	imom	3	358	Jan 8, 2013 by Jozie
	can't let it go... (Preview) Hello this is my first time on here and looking for advice. My husband and i have been married 9 years and together 14 years (we are 33). We started dating when we were 19 and partied full on with alcohol and all kinds off drugs till we were 24 (got married). We started for baby and 2 miscarraiges and a year of...	amarchand	8	426	Jan 8, 2013 by amarchand
	Struggling to be patient, please help (Preview) My AH has been sober for 5 months now; 3 months in rehab and home for the past 2 months. He is doing really well and is very active in his AA and NA meetings, he has been approached to be someone's sponsor and he is really enjoying helping people. I have been working on my co-dependency and have really begun t...	Kismet	3	289	Jan 8, 2013 by Kismet
	Change in Perspective (Preview) I have been a grateful member here for over 2 years. In the past 18 months, during which my AH's drinking has escalated steadily, I have slowly worked toward detaching from his behavior. I have been feeling more and more like I am ready to leave him. One of the reasons I have been able to detach is that h...	stephaniej	3	261	Jan 8, 2013 by orchidlover
	Things can change so fast! (Preview) We met here at MIP, over ten years ago. He and I kept in communication over ten years, we were very close friends. Reminded each other of our Al Anon skills dealing with my now ex AH, and his soon to be ex AW. Kids are grown now and gone, he is done. Very sadly he has found the evidense of the drug use. We had seen...	Debilyn	5	519	Jan 8, 2013 by AlAnonDave
	the feelings come back (Preview) Since my AH has been going to AA and has been sober for 4weeks now, he is starting to do more around the house and thinks everyone else should too. Today he flipped his lid when he was trying to move a chair from the basement to the upstairs. While he was in the basement my younger son was down there playing...	1976love	8	336	Jan 8, 2013 by orchidlover
	God is bigger than me ... Share (Preview) You know you would think I would get that lesson and seriously it still boggles my mind. There are some freaky things going on at the moment. I have court tomorrow and I am asking for prayers. I feel like the best thing that could happen is (I know wait for it .. LOL) it would actually be delayed. I can't...	Pushka	6	383	Jan 8, 2013 by orchidlover
	I'm a newcomer and I have to say, this works (Preview) I've been to 5 or 6 meetings over the last few months, and just recently made the commitment to come at least once a week. I came to my first meeting in complete desperation, having just had another blow out argument with my husband, an active alcoholic / addict. The cycle was the same, he would be drunk wh...	ParisMemories	8	312	Jan 8, 2013 by orchidlover
	scared every time he walks out the door (Preview) Been with my verbally abusive AB for 2 years and although his drinking has slowed down extremely im still terrified of what could happen and find myself scared every time he walks out the door which is a lot because we have no transportation and he walks everywhere. Ive been diagnosed with PTSD just fro...	bryteyes	2	257	Jan 8, 2013 by orchidlover
	law of attraction and alanon question (Preview) Has anyone heard about the law of attraction? I am getting stuck with how I can use it with alanon as well. My conflict is coming in because I feel like a lot of the LOA teachers speak as if we have all of this power with in us - but alanon teaches us we are powerless over others. I feel so conflicted because...	willowtree	7	783	Jan 7, 2013 by Gette
	Newbie in need of encouragement drinkng (Preview) Hey everyone, I was linked to this site by a friend and I honestly have no idea if I'm posting in the right place or not. I've never looked into Al-Anon or anything of the sort because I've never felt the need to before. The alcoholic is my godfather, so he's not blood related but he was there during child...	savvygirl	1	421	Jan 7, 2013 by hotrod
	in the end nothing else matters (Preview) Hi, I've been through a lot with my AW and reading some of the posts on this site I have come to realise there is some hope for myself. I'm sitting in a hotel room now after another incident with AW and I feel that a great weight has been lifted of my shoulders. I've known my AW for just over 20 years and at the st...	robin1212	10	590	Jan 7, 2013 by Jozie
	needing support today (Preview) My boyfriends dad died 16 years ago that he has issues with. My boyfriend has been doing good with his drinking but days like this not so much. This morning he started out positive so I hope it stays that way. He took extra money tho and has to walk passed all the liquor stores. Is there any key words that wou...	bryteyes	2	257	Jan 7, 2013 by el-cee
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