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I am living with a boyfriend that has had alcohol problems in the past, but that is "no longer an issue". I can't handle a relationship with an alcohol problem, and he occasionally acts odd, which makes me think he has been drinking something and hiding it, or maybe taking some kind of drug, and hiding it. It's not very obvious, but it's the way he speaks, the way he walks. Tonight, he cooked a great meal, but said some strange things, and at 6pm asked me if I was getting sleepy. It's 6pm! I'm tired, he says, and went in for a nap. I'm sure for the night.
I'm thinking about what I can do to find out what is happening. I'm thinking of a breathalizer. I don't know what exists regarding drugs. If he's got a problem with them, the relationship is done, as I know it won't change.
Aloha Lammy...are you going to face to face Al-Anon meetings? Being a friend, or spouse or relative or associate of an alcoholic is pure insanity without help. Read back thru former posts here and find out what others are/have been saying. We loose our sanity and "self" control is only some of what happens. Keep coming back (((hugs)))
It will drive you crazy to figure out if hes doing something. Once you start you keep digging in a little deeper. I wouldnt do nothing to find out. If he starts acting strange again and you know this relationship isnt for you then just leave.
Thank you for responding Jerry and Bryteyes. I haven't felt it necessary for Al-Anon meetings, and it will be difficult to find time for that right now. I can "feel" how it could drive me crazy trying to figure this all out.... (((hugs)))) back!
