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overwhelmed!
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I am overwhelmed but in a good way! I have to admit that some days have been stressful but if I live in the now, I can recover from the bad days & not keep mentioning what happened yesterday. Yesterday is gone. I am so happy that today can be the best day of my life if I look from the right perspective. I jus...
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Hoot Nanny
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Discouraged
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I'm just trying to not give in to disappointment these days but it isn't easy. My workplace is going through a huge overhaul. The mission is getting lost in this transition and only jobs that generate revenue for this non profit are now plentiful. Many of us didn't sign on for this. After losing my mothe...
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My son
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As I posted this month, my son was released from prison recently. I would not let him stay here, haven't given him money, rides, clothes, cleaning supplies, food - nothing that I did before with him. He's attending classes, looking for work, and is tethered as parole requirements dictate and curr...
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grateful2be
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Finding a sponsor
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Hi everyone. I am fairly new to Alanon. I started in January. The F2F group I attend is wonderful. There are a several people in my group just like me, new to Alanon. The group is small. Therein lies the problem. Several of us in the group have all said that we need a sponsor to work the steps. It is...
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Clou
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texting alanon friend helped...
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I have been at home contemplating all that has been going on. And I finally reached out to an alanon friend from the meeting. I felt like I was going crazy. He came home for lunch and acted like nothing had happened and so did I. Then I thought to myself why did I engage in his crazy fight? I'm learning that hi...
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newgirl17
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10 Things I learned at Work Today
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I came across this article today at work. It is written for a business audience, but it struck me how much of this is right in line with all that I've learned (and keep learning) here and in my Al-anon meetings. A link to the article is at the end. Enjoy! 1. You can do anything, but you can't do everything. Li...
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ParisMemories
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my AS physically assaulted my daughter
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my daughter is home from college. she called me last night hysterical. her alcoholic brother came to her house (drunk of course) and physically assaulted her. apparently the neighbors heard the assault and called the police. daughter did not press charges. she is a mess. upset because she alw...
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debhud
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detachment causing the alcoholic to get angry
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I remember reading in a book about alcoholism that whether you do everything the alcoholic wants, or you don't, it is not going to make them treat you any better so you might as well take care of you. Of course in the beginning of my recovery I did not believe that, as my alcoholic had me riddled with anxiet...
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giraffe13
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This feels wrong.
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My son is still homeless, he has made no effort to get accomodation because he has a court case pending. He is so miserable looking. He came in tonight, asked for money and became angry when I said no. He says I have pushed him away and i will regret it. He says the people he is staying with thinks I am a bad mot...
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Keeping perspective & trusting God
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http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/electronic-meetingsUsingI am ok considering the stress of being up close around the disease for a while. Actuall...
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luv123
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What do you do when you're discouraged?
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I am very seriously thinking that I am getting depressed, not something that normally happens to me. I feel like life just keeps throwing me challenge after challenge and I am sooo not ready for them. I've had setbacks with my son's educational needs, thinking of holding him back to repeat 8th grade...
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frustrated and very sad
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My husband came home tonight and told me that his mom said it was ok to throw me out of the house. The house we live in is my mother in laws old house that she usually rents out. That it was time for me to leave. That he was giving me the gift of freedom from him. That he loved me but he wasn't in love with me amymore...
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newgirl17
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Have two kids, pregnant with the 3rd, argued with AH and he left the house
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Hello! This is my first post, i hope somebody can respond. Have been married for 9 years, have two girls, and expecting a boy. AH has been drinking since the beginning, which i didn't notice but with the time it started to get worse and worse. He used to just drink on the weekends, but always go to work. It e...
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Venera
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Looking for an e-mail/chat sponsor
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Hello everyone! I've been in the program for almost a year now, and have not had a lot of luck with finding a sponsor. I've built a nice group of people I can call in program to chat with - which is great!- but everyone I've asked to actually be my sponsor has been too busy, or had too many sponsees, or not be...
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samc
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TRO granted
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My daughter went to court today on the TRO request against the insane (Ex) BF. He got a lawyer and decided to fight it - why I don't know. Anyway, my son went as a witness and the Judge interviewed everyone in private and decided in favor of a TRO for a full year. The BF started complaining that he still...
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Path to Serenity
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So frustrated tonight with the exAH
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I generally don't communicate with the exAH much at all since I have the kids the majority of the time and trade when they get a week off here and there, for Summer I try to share them 2 weeks on and off. So I emailed him and tried to get an idea of what dates could work for him. I did not wait too long, but never ha...
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Feeling like such a fool right now
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I had completely given up on my marriage to my AH. I decided I wasn't going to put my life on hold any longer hoping that the man I used to love would return. I filed for divorce 2 months ago and thought that there was no way I would allow him back into my life. The past 3 weeks it seemed like he was finally getti...
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Reality is Harsh!!!!
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"Reality is harsh, It can be cruel and ugly. Yet, no matter how much we grieve, it won't change our circumstances. What is important is to not be defeated, forge ahead bravely. If we do this, a path will open up before us." Ikeda
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Bettina
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God/Church Issues
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Ok, I'm going to warn everyone right off the bat that this is going to be a "venting" post. I was raised in the church, attended faithfully for years. I've been a Sunday School teacher, sat on committees, even chaired some. I've been involved with the politics of the church, sitting in as &qu...
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Overcome
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Thoughts!!
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"One of the greatest obstacles to the joy of loving is our desire for control. To master the art of loving is to overcome this selfish desire." Shin Yatomi
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Bettina
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anothe day, more gratitude!
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I am discovering that days are going well--I am still happy about my new eyes, & I can still walk even though I have arthritis. I have a darn good roof over my head! I am at peace most of the time. My HP is so good to me that I can truly see where my gratitude comes from. He is the way of peace & serenity. I...
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Hoot Nanny
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Saying hello
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Long time no post :D. I have been lurking around the board and popped into the chat room a couple times. So I figured maybe it was time to say hello and also introduce myself to the new people and wave hello to my old friends. For those of you who don't know me I got my first taste of alanon here at MIP. My first m...
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Mandy123
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stuggling with sense of loss
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I am really struggling with the loss of my husband. In a way it feels like he died. He has been using meth for almost 7 months. We are separated. He hasn't been living here for a long time. He says now he has a few days sober but I don't think so. HE has changed so much, he drinks all the time. He is leaner, h...
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Rinn
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Hello family
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Its been quite some time since I've been here. I have been working at a new job and it takes most of my energy and time. I miss coming here for meetings and a sense of belonging to a family. My life is the usual train wreck we all seem to share in one way or another. I had learned so much from all of you here but as I...
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More prayers please :)
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There is a lot of not good stuff happening, however there is a LOT of positive things going on as well. I am grateful for this group and sooo many other things that have happened. Back to working thank goodness .. was starting to get a little worried about some things. I have exactly what I need at the m...
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Pushka
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Really feeling emotional!!!!
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Even though I had a great visit with my son and church service on Sunday was great.. and recalling what my son said "mom go be happy" I still have fear. I am trying real hard to work my program and pray to my HP.. Why am I having set backs ???!!! Just so confused and emotional..
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AL-ANON INTERNATIONAL CONVENTION JULY 5-7 th
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Hi everyone abbyal here . I am hoping some of you from this site are attending our convention in a few weeks . I would love to meet you f2f if possible . I only know one thing for sure I will be volunteering in the Hospitality Room on Thurs the 4th from 1pm to 4 pm . My name tag will be Louise G. hope we can meet...
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Just Overwhelmed...
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Hi everyone! Yes, I am here, and yes I have been reading so many of your post and replies. I pull a few pieces from this board every day and try to use them as a point of focus for myself as I go about my day. However, I must admit that I start feeling very overwhelmed by it all sometimes and so helpless to rea...
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John
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Not in Denial ANYMORE...what next?
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This is my first post to your message board and I will try to make this short! I have been with/married to my AH since 2006. We are truly blessed with 5 amazing children-my 3 and his 2, who I love and adore like they are my own. Being my 3rd marriage and his 2nd I was in it to win it w/ divorce not being an option. I...
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chamoisdog
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The role of Money in Serenity
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Hi all- I love this board and I lurk a lot, but I don't seem to post unless I'm in crisis. And I'm in crisis now. But because of my active f2f Al-anon work, I am more peaceful and rational this time. I'd still like your input, however.
My AH drank again last night after 6 months of hard working sobriety. We ha...
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crazycatlady
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How Important is it?
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I had a rough day yesterday, my fault really because I answered the phone to my ex A, just not really thinking! Anyway wont bother to relate the detail, but the usual whinging self pity and how if we could just get back together everything would be so great, how everybody abandons him etc, etc, ah and of c...
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flinn66
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detached on the outside...fuming on the inside
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Lately I have been able to detach in peace but tonight my husband came home with a hickey on his chest. I was so hurt snd disgusted at the same time. I went to restroom to cry and talk things out with HP. I came out and ignored him.I budgeted to see if it was possible for me to move but everytime I did the numbers...
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newgirl17
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Tomorrow night first F2F
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Tomorrow night I am going to my first F2F meeting. I am as excited as if I was going to my favorite music or play or anything magical and wonderful. I've been coming on and off to this board for many months, but now I am more serious. Help from one of you folks made me realize I need the live, human being he...
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Lyne
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What are the actual physical affects of having three glasses of wine a night for a 50 year old woman?
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I am new to this forum and I love it! As a non-dinker and never-drinker, I would love to know what it actually feels like when a 50 year old woman wakes up after a quiet night but one with the consumption of three glasses of wine. I do not want to ask her but would love to know.
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Have had a rough night tonight
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My AM came home tonight and started drinking. Her and my dad got into it although I only heard the last of what he said to her which was that she is a zombie (in how she looks, acts etc) and he told me he has a wife who's an A and I have a mother of who's an A. She went to bed without a word. I tried to calm down my dad te...
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phoenixmagicgirl
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Daaang!!
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My wife's first leg flight back to her family showed up 2 hours late so after I dropped her at the airport with fond wishes for a safe flight and happiness that she would be at the 1st birthday party for our youngest grand child, a girl, Olivia...I get a call that she called she had missed her flight. She...
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Jerry F
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Happiness within the drinkers group of friends vs. non drinkers. Who is truly happier?
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I am in the non-drinker category. Never have been a drinker and I am a 46 year old female. My question is this: Why does it seem drinkers are so much happier than me? Is it true that they are or is just an illusion? There is more to this and I will share as a responses come in. Thank you.
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ToocaringNY
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Update in the visit with my son in rehab..
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We got there right at 1 pm. I seen my son pulling up behind us in a white truck with a huge smile. I smiled back, his little sister ran up and hugged him and then he can up and hugged me and his step dad. He introduced us to others and their families. He said let's go to our church which is in the same area as where h...
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Gaby
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Needing space to breathe
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So, currently I'm living with my parents, helping them with errands (they cannot drive and people drive a lot where I live), left my job to focus on my children's mental and physical health, my niece ....moved in with us (she is almost 8 months pregnant and husband works in the oil fields.....her firs...
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RoseODAT
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Daaang the second...
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Just got off the email tool sending the airlines a request for repayment of $60.00 which are additional cost for rescheduling her trip. My wife is somewhat over the deep blue's of missing Olivia's first birthday celebration and is back at work until next Friday when we try this over again. She has d...
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Jerry F
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Flowers
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These flowers bloom for just one day and when the evening comes, they close and drop. But for that one day I can enjoy the beauty.
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Cathyinaz
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not much to post--just gratitude!
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Hi everyone! Attitude of gratitude today! I am so blessed! How bout you? Kathleen
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Hoot Nanny
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Overwhelmed
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I wanted to vent so here I am again. I had been keeping a journal online but decided to delete it. Every time I re-read it, I got upset. My husband was let go from his job a month ago and is having a hard time finding another one. So what do you think happens - yep Heineken and Corona have moved back in. Some...
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DebLisa55
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made it to a meeting :)
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I made it to my morning meeting :) my husband didn't come home last night. He got here at 6 in the morning. I didn't bother to greet him or ask him questions (he is going to lie about it anyway) I just turned over and fell asleep. At 7 I woke up and went for a morning walk then came home and made breakfast ate and w...
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newgirl17
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Enabling
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My AH returned from a 30 day in treatment program 3 weeks ago. Since then he has not been drinking but continues to go to bars on an almost nightly basis and drink NA beers. Tonight he is at a bar with some of our friends and I decided not to go because I thought it is enabling and unsupportive of his sobriet...
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peacewillcome
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A Good Week
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I feel like this week has been a turning point for me. Maybe I am really learning how to "let go and let God". I feel like I have some clarity about my role in this dysfunctional marriage, and I can see how much my actions and reactions have served to perpetuate this d**m merry go round of the dise...
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ParisMemories
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The Lake is Still Poisoned
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My daughter is good at analogies. We were garage sale-ing the other day and as usual talking about anything and everything, usually at least some conversation turns towards the recent past with the ex-A. She said, its like having an open bottle of poison in a lake, you remove the bottle of poison (the A...
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likemyheart
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Age of Al-Anon members
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Hi Everyone, My name is Slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. This weekend I attended my local regional conference. Unfortunately due to finances, our area will not be having a conference next year :(. That's ok though. One day at a time. After speaking with a friend on the committee, this y...
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slogan_jim
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Lack of meetings set back
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So back in my pissy pot . Just need to rant ,I'm frustrasted . My 30 day trial seperation from ah husband went sour to me he only gave me 2 full days of peace other wise he was here everyday to drop off Tupperware or check the mail and asked to sleep over so he will( baby sit) our children for me to get to a meeting...
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Ms co-dependent
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Positive steps
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My AH of 32 years, who I am separated from for the last 6 months, is heaping loads of guilt on me for his situation. He lives in what he describes as a "crappy" apartment and feels an "outcast" because I filed for divorce and got a court order for him to move out. Our 19 year old daugh...
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Clou
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How to use the program in this situation? ES & H?
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My husband Jim has an office and we got a new secretary about 2 months ago. Yesterday was the first time I have worked with her. I just answer phones and do very light work since I am more of the receptionist. So yesterday my husband was gone and she first commented on how beautiful and sweet I was, then she w...
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hope4ever
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Visiting my son in rehab for the first time.
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So tomorrow myself my husband and my daughter will be visiting my son in rehab for the first time since he has been in may 9.13.. Please advise on what to say or not to say.. But let me tell you I still carry the hurt and anger and pain that was caused when he was home and its something that I'm working on to try t...
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Gaby
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let the miracles keep coming!
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I have a miracle to share--I am sorry for those of you who don't believe in miracles. Anyhow, I am sitting here today w/ a pair of new eyes & I believe that is a miracle! I had the RLE surgery June 4th & June 17th. I have nothing but good feelings about it. Yes, it was scary & yes, I did have some res...
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Hoot Nanny
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IOP - new opportunity
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I have an offer to work part time and run sessions at an IOP (intensive out patient). I am leaning towards doing it because it will be a good career experience and I've been talking about wanting to break away from kids and more into adult substance abuse treatment for a long time. Been musing though cuz...
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pinkchip
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Expansion of Love...
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Even After All This Time The Sun Never Says To The Earth " You Owe Me". Look What Happens With a Love Like That...It Lights Up the Whole Sky.!!! 14 century Sufi Hafiz
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Bettina
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feeling sad
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It has been a rough few days. My husband just ignores me. I try to talk to him but he just ignores me He acts as if I'm not even in the room. He is the one who cheated for 2 yrs and I get the silent treatment. I feel so sad and alone. I kept busy by cleaning and washing all day but I feel so alone. I texted a few friends...
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newgirl17
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Angry ..
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Tonight I'm very fed up with this whole disease of alcoholism and how it affects the whole family. Anyway, it's all overwhelming and I just needed to say that right now, this is where I'm at. Hugs P :)
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Pushka
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l don't know what to do...
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The past few days my husband has ignored me. I have carried on with my own business. I have not texted him or called looking for him. Tonight at bedtime he said he needed to talk. He said that he felt we needed a break. That he was ignoring me so I could get used to being alone. He said that he loved me but that he...
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newgirl17
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TRUST
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" If your HP shuts a door, stop banging on it. Trust that whatever is behind it , is not meant for you."
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Bettina
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glass half full?
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I was supposed to go to a meeting tonight but my ride fell through but I am going to go to one in the morning. My husband has been loving yesterday and today but this afternoon he got his check and it was a very low check (he works on commission). My check wasn't that much either (i only worked 6hrs). He was ver...
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