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information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
. The truth of love, however , is found in our sincerity
to act for the happiness and freedom of others."
Shin Yatomi
Hi Bettina
I believe that I tried to love in this manner and on the surface it looked as if I did. Entering alanon I discovered that I did sincerely try to act for the happiness and freedom of others, however my motives were not without expectations. I believed if I did this then the person would reciprocate, love me and take care of me.
Without the alanon tools I could never have learned how to love unconditionally. I found that I had to love myself first and act for my own happiness and freedom and then I could love others in the same manner.
. The truth of love, however , is found in our sincerity
to act for the happiness and freedom of others."
Shin Yatomi
Hi Bettina
I believe that I tried to love in this manner and on the surface it looked as if I did. Entering alanon I discovered that I did sincerely try to act for the happiness and freedom of others, however my motives were not without expectations. I believed if I did this then the person would reciprocate, love me and take care of me.
Without the alanon tools I could never have learned how to love unconditionally. I found that I had to love myself first and act for my own happiness and freedom and then I could love others in the same manner.
Done it that way myself...just love the Al-Anon method. ((((hugs))))
Bettina I agree The quote is talking about unconditional love. Before alanon I truly thought I was loving unconditionally. I then could not understand why I was then filled with anger, resentment etc.
Entering alanon I found that my love was not unconditional. It had strings buried very deep within my being.. I was abandoning myself, completely to please another.
Alanon taught me to take care of myself, Love myself and then I could love unconditionally
I absolutely felt that doing for others, trying to control them and being obsessed with them was some kind of love. I felt incredibly virtuous and giving on so many levels. Truth was I was wracked with fear and anger. I still have those moments. I no longer "depend" on others to define me in the same ways.
