Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

tortuga · tortuga

Yesterday I made a big mistake, because I didn't take enough time to sit and think. Yes I am meditating now, as a new discipline to keep my practice of serenity going, and it works, for me. But yes, I also still have an alcoholic in my life, who is kind of managing his own recovery, his way...which is none o...

WorkingIt4Me · WorkingIt4Me

I am trying to remember to question my motives today but I think I am a little late. ABF is out of town for work and will be returning at some point this afternoon/evening. I have a work meeting to go to in a couple of hours, followed by a Pampered Chef party with one of my coworkers. Instead of going into w...

John · John

Well, I got my physical and blood work done last Friday... today I spoke to the Dr. "Over sensitive thyroid, very dehydrated, coupled with such low numbers for Iron, Potassium, (Protein level not even registering its so low) and a slew of other nutrients, that indicate I am very malnourished. Gluc...

sadsusie · sadsusie

I have been away now for about 30 days. I have my own well appointed furnished 1bed/1bath home and I am comfortable. I have enrolled in a class to get a real estate license. I have found a part time job (that starts in 2 more weeks). I left My AH because his drinking (and sporadic drug use, and poor decision...

WorkingIt4Me · WorkingIt4Me

Hi everyone! My cousin is interested in attending meetings...her dad is an A in recovery. She is angry and is lost. I would like to take her to a meeting with me but I am not sure that it is appropriate considering that she is 12. She is definitely an "old soul" and could definitely benefit...

neshema2 · neshema2

Saw this and thought of all of us "alanoners" and "Codies"...... Whatever will be will be.....so why worry??? well....That is one reason why I am HERE....

Bettina · Bettina

Today one of the most important people in my life, my X husband, passed away. This morning at 5:38. He is released from his demons and from this mappo world . May all the Buddha's from the 10 directions Posess his body and carry him on his journey into the Cosmos. Even though you caused me the most pain...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Hi everyone I'm in a thank you God moment. I think it's to good to be true. Just waiting for the ball to drop on my head and I will wake up. I will not get my hopes up yet. My son stopped by this evening. He wanted to let me know he has a place to live, free room and board. 3 squares a day working on a horse ranch fr...

sweeetr · sweeetr

I'm reading codependence and the power of detachment - so far it has helped me in calming my thinking and making sense. One part has hit me hard. " she has learned from alanon she could live her husband and stay with him even though he was not sober, ..." It's talking about walking next to the di...

cinders · cinders

My wedding anniversary was yesterday. Ever since my ex and I got married, I have taken my annual vacation time over our anniversary. Since we do our vacation bids at work in October and I moved out of our home in November, my vacation was already bid for during our anniversary. I could have changed it...

Debilyn · Debilyn

um what I see out of my bedroom slider Glory girl punkido who seems to always find a way in....

souljoy · souljoy

It has been about a year and a half since hubby started drinking again. I have been able to stay this long due to one thing: My involvement in Alanon and recovery. Still I wonder what it will take to wake me up and say no more. Back in October he got an "online girlfriend". He has since decide...

deacon · deacon

Picked up son from his counseling session today and could smell the alcohol. Said nothing because I don't know what to say. Came home and it was apparent that hubby had once again been drinking in the garage while I spent the whole day in the city in blazing hot weather taking our son to his class. Son imm...

mama2nca · mama2nca

my husband is a recovering alcoholic and narcotic addict. for about 4 years he has been clean . during this time nor he or i have been to meetings or have worked any kind of program. but the problems of he and i alone and together are all starting to un ravel. we realized that we need help both individually a...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I am not seeming to feel sad or mourning after almost a year of hanging out with this guy. He was getting too serious and I was not feeling like he was the one, so I ended it for the last time seriously and I feel so good about it. I had ignored some of my red flags earlier on and began to get resentful. I talked to...

Debilyn · Debilyn

few more lost horse and her pal came to my place. my piggies and dogs prudie stuck in cat food bag Lady who walks and feeds my critters every morn cat I placed bowl of grasses for my skinny pigs,roses and fresh eggs um my stuck to me dog Happy, and my heart outside my body, tavish -- Edited by Debilyn on Tuesd...

Debilyn · Debilyn

I was laying in the grass with my farm pig Augie talking, petting him. we got up. I was sitting there and he decided he wanted the clover under me and lifts me with his snouter under my arm!!! oweeee like a torch burn!!! I put my hand down in front of me to get up and glory stepped on my hand~! lifted it up and s...

PP · PP

I suspected the way my past week and a half has gone with my husband that he has been working his program his way. And as I say that, I need to look where I have been working my program my way, "if I spot it then maybe I got it". I lost my temper with him last evening and crossed over onto his side of t...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I thought it would be easier, but yet I never thought I could do it at the same time. I have made it through a full year of school and have 2 more years to go. I work 2 part time jobs for the summer then back to just 1 when school starts back up. I have 2 finals on Thursday and am accomplishing more than I ever imagi...

pinkchip · pinkchip

I am at the beach in Ocean City, Maryland. This is the beach we came to growing up every year of my childhood. It is fun to relive them as an adult but also share them with my partner who grew up in Alabama (we live together in Fort Lauderdale now). I was at the end of the boardwalk looking at the rides I used to r...

laurab · laurab

Am I naive, or am just trying to give myself hope? ASon is bipolar. When he takes the meds he is ok, works, has a life. Then he decides that he is fine and doesn't need them and he can't live with all the water and peeing. So he tapers down and starts drinking until the next hideous event. Then back to square on...

needy · needy

Hello members I am hoping you can help me regarding meetings. I called the local chapter and only got their answering machine and didn't feel like leaving a message. I should have become a member so many years ago but for so many reasons I didn't. I guess I was an ostrich with my head stuck in the sand. ...

grateful2be · grateful2be

As some of you know, my son was arrested and put in jail again. He was released in a blinding storm some time on Saturday morning. While I was at work, he called and left a message that he was in the hospital and gave a list of symptoms. He told me he'd call again. On Sunday morning, at 7 am, the phone rang....

neshema2 · neshema2

Lately, I have been hit up on w/a lot of CHANGE...and so far, I don't like any of them......Sister Gini obviously worse with her Alzheimers.....Moma Aunt Helen being moved out of her assist. living pvt. apartment to WHERE??? nobody has told me yet (as of 1pm today) AND a client I thought I had "b...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Tomorrow is definitely going to be a good day! I have good plans & won't be on here that day. I am just so grateful for another day of recovery & hope for the future. I am turning 47 & I don't look a day over 46! I am such a comic! I just love to make people laugh, lighten the mood. So, after my 27 year...

DavidG · DavidG

Life has shifted for me- I am willingly waiting for the pension- in 2 or more years time- but am working and getting dug in to work part time for another ten years. On my income the pension will be a fair amount of money. I want to fund some regular travel. In my neck of the woods we have sometimes welcomed vi...

el-cee · el-cee

The best thing about recovery for me is the realizations that just keep coming. I am open to looking inside and finding out more about me. I am no longer terrified of the guilt. I can dig in and find that defect of character and I can face it, accept it and be willing to change it or replace it. Before Alanon t...

Highlyfavored · Highlyfavored

I can't believe it took me 3+ yrs. to come out of denial about my xabf being an alcoholic and addict. I really wasn't in denial, it was more like , he has a canibus card and he uses it for medical reason, his back and sciatia nerve pain. and the beer, he drinks only 2-5 cans during a week-end when he is here and...

jaycasale · jaycasale

Hi there, I'll try to keep my background brief. Here is the deal. My brother and I always lived with my grandparents and my mother. My mother had addiction problems and eventually died from a heroin overdose when I was 17 and my brother was 12 (I'm 34 now). My brother was the one who found my mother and it w...

Lyne · Lyne

Ya know, several days last week I felt SO much better, and today is not so good. I am not coping well today and nothing REALLY horrible has happened. I'm too new at feeling good and way too comfortable feeling bad. So I'm thinking ODAT, reminding myself what I'm powerless over, tomorrow is my F2F, an...

TurtleBear · TurtleBear

Good evening everyone. Im new hereI really dont know where to startso here I go. My ex-husband, Robert, is a crack addict. It was a HUGE shock to everyone who knew him, including me. We dated for 5 and a half years (Oct 2002 to March 2008), lived together for four and a half (Sept 2003 to March 2008), befor...

Pushka · Pushka

Last night the kids went with their dad for their visitation weekend .. they are home now if that gives anyone any idea how it all went. My daughter called crying that her dad was drinking and acting odd. He's in the background wanting to know if I want to talk to him and I hear her turn and say .. no dad, mom...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Had a really nice weekend with my son. We went mud riding in the Razor after the rain storm and got so muddy it took an hour to clean the razor and us off. lol Now it will be time to let him go soon.....go back to the his problems and how he's going to fix it. I'm feeling bad but have kept quite not to bring up an...

JesseBobo · JesseBobo

Hello All, I have been with my husband for a year and a half. We have a baby boy due in 2 and a half months and I have a beautiful 8 year old little girl from my previous marriage. My husband is an alcoholic. He abuses it so badly and I have begged him to please stop. He will wake up at 8am, open a beer and drink all d...

Mimi3 · Mimi3

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person.When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty; to provide you with guida...

laurab · laurab

Here we go again. After 4 sober months 36 year old DS decided he didn't need Lithium anymore, stopped, and had a 3 day binge at a friend's house, banged up his car, and drove home drunk. I knew he was beyond detoxing at home and we had to call the troopers to get him to the ER. His blood level was 0.3. about 4 tim...

neshema2 · neshema2

I am at the pool...Met another sorta cute guy and swam w/him...and met 2 young girls and had fun with them... Also one of the lifeguards and I made friends and with ALL of them I noticed something....I am not afraid or looking down when I talk to people anymore.......I actually , and this sounds weird, Bu...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi everyone, My name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of the fellowship al-anon. My dad wanted to go to an AA bbq yesterday in out area. He got home from work at 2pm, phoned and wanted to be sure I still wanted to come. I said I'd leave my house at 3pm. I got in my car, drove over, he's passed out on the cou...

Overcome · Overcome

I knew this day would come. My alcoholic (Cowboy) started drinking again. He had been sober for 3 1/2 years, but no program. Said he could do it on his own, only the weak needed AA. I never argued with him, or tried to convince him otherwise, because I knew it would do no good. I knew that without a program he...

InspiredPhotography · InspiredPhotography

I can't help but thinking about love. If it really does exists the way I think it does? To what extent is love shared between both man and woman? The nurturing, caring, sacrificing one selfish to make sure the needs are met. To feel completely secure without no question and knowing your place. The honor...

Ms co-dependent · Ms co-dependent

Trying to get over bad feeling I have over my mom in law who is actively drinking and has my children

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Now that I have a chance to change my focus, I will not let the separation from my mom ruin my day. Right now she is out of my life. I am not going to try to resolve the issues, they are not my issues. The money situation will be resolved her way no other way! I am so sick of her trying to control money so I let it go!...

neshema2 · neshema2

First I want to thank all of you kind souls who prayed for us and gave me your hearts over this terrible scare The police found her at the beach....She is no fool...Its HOT....So where do ya go when its sizzling??? to the beach Her 2 daughters are going to pick her up... I'm relieved that she has been found...

neshema2 · neshema2

I'm gonna try and do this regularly b/c I can get so down sometimes.... so here I go TODAY, I am thankful that My kids are ok My truck is running ok I earned money today We got some more rain to ward off this earth drying up thought I lost my cat outside in this rain, but she was in the house all the time... I am dry...

WorkingIt4Me · WorkingIt4Me

I am overwhelmed, in a good way, with everything I have learned in the past couple of weeks from reading everyone's posts, going to meetings, and chatting with others in recovery. Since ABF and I have been together over a year, he is starting to witness some of my "crazy," for a lack of a bett...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I have been dating a guy on and off for the last almost year and we spent some time together the last couple days. I have been feeling like the relationship isn't heading towards what I am wanting or that he is the one. So I was open and honest with him, it went well while we were talking in person. Now that he i...

neshema2 · neshema2

Dear MIP family I did two posts about my missing and later found sister, Gini....I want thank the souls who replied on either board to give me some support in my time of great anxiety and fear. Gini has Alzheimer's and is married to an abusive AH , his drinking and abuse caused her to kinda "shut down...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

AH is not talking to me. He came home from his meeting and before I saw him, I could smell the alcohol lingering in the kitchen. I should have turned around, but I went out to the yard, where he was w the dogs. I said hello, he barely spoke. I sat next to him and told him about my morning. He barely responded. We...

Lyne · Lyne

Hi-Today I had a joint session with a substance abuse/counselor with my son as we are having troubles due to my A. It's going on for 5 months now. It's a long story. In our session I told him he needs a tune-up on his recovery. He is mentally addicted to pot and dependent on pain meds. I printed out info...

neshema2 · neshema2

My older sister Gini is GONE...She has alzheimer's....AH came home drunk yesterday night...left the car keys on the counter...she got them and LEFT I am soooo worried about her.....She has alzheimers and has taken off to go somewhere She lives in Massachusetts and I know she has "safe places'...

neshema2 · neshema2

WOW, I love to read Melodie Beattie's Language of letting go Dont remember what page it was on, but she was talking about how do we know when we are angry and what to do about it I learned that if I am feeling hurt or victimized, trapped or even guilty or I see myself withdrawing or just going into denial t...

neshema2 · neshema2

And a good Saturday/Weekend to all my good recovery mates Late last night I felt sick, something I ate or drank disagreed w/me but I am alright now It looks to be a hot one so caution as I go out in the sun Ya know, I was thinking.....LIFE can be safe, Life does not have to always be a scary proposition... It re...

WorkingIt4Me · WorkingIt4Me

I often complain about ABF being selfish and I really struggle with this. I am supportive of his recovery and I understand that his recovery should come first (to him) and mine (to me). I have a really hard time dealing with his selfishness in other areas of his life. I need to vent for a minute. I've a...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

As I work the steps and I reveal to myself my own shortcomings and personality defects, I start questioning where I am going wrong. I worry that I am putting my son in the middle sometimes and I pray that God shows that to me and that he releases me from that issue. I have come to realize that my experience...

LiveLaughLove · LiveLaughLove

Okay, so I've drilled into my head the three C's. I realize that only the alcoholic can decide if and when they want to become sober and its not the responsibility of their significant other, family, friends, etc. to get them sober and keep them sober. However, is it unrealistic to think that those...

neshema2 · neshema2

Hey all My beloved younger sis is my bestest friend...yea, I love the two older ones big time, but me and "D" are soul mates She has even done research on anxiety and ptsd to help me and kinda acts as fill in sponsor for me when my sponsor is unavailable well, she is (adopted) but still native am...

lgnutah · lgnutah

I hope it is OK to do a cut/paste from another thread (I didn't want to go off on a tangent in their thread so am starting another thread). I was reading in the thread where someone was talking about having to write a victim impact statement, and someone posted this: "I wold give them a letter....ad...

Bettina · Bettina

When I was in the throes of struggling and suffering with my life I sought a lot of guidance. I thought nobody could suffer more than me. In my journey to find serenity and happiness It was suggested that I read the book "Man's search for meaning". It is written by Viktor E. Frankl. Its not a n...

To ALL my Alanon, MIP family members · neshema2

Saw this and thought of you guys

grateful2be · grateful2be

I've been waiting to see what would happen with regards to my son. I haven't called him since I noticed he was slurring his words and heard women's voices in the background about a week ago. Each day I checked in with my HP when it came close to the time I could call him at his assigned location. Each tim...

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	the mistake of ENABLING (Preview) Yesterday I made a big mistake, because I didn't take enough time to sit and think. Yes I am meditating now, as a new discipline to keep my practice of serenity going, and it works, for me. But yes, I also still have an alcoholic in my life, who is kind of managing his own recovery, his way...which is none o...	tortuga	7	506	Jul 26, 2013 by tortuga
	struggling with motives (Preview) I am trying to remember to question my motives today but I think I am a little late. ABF is out of town for work and will be returning at some point this afternoon/evening. I have a work meeting to go to in a couple of hours, followed by a Pampered Chef party with one of my coworkers. Instead of going into w...	WorkingIt4Me	11	497	Jul 26, 2013 by pinkchip
	Medical Report... (Preview) Well, I got my physical and blood work done last Friday... today I spoke to the Dr. "Over sensitive thyroid, very dehydrated, coupled with such low numbers for Iron, Potassium, (Protein level not even registering its so low) and a slew of other nutrients, that indicate I am very malnourished. Gluc...	John	17	509	Jul 26, 2013 by Rocky38
	Deciding when it is okay to go back. (Preview) I have been away now for about 30 days. I have my own well appointed furnished 1bed/1bath home and I am comfortable. I have enrolled in a class to get a real estate license. I have found a part time job (that starts in 2 more weeks). I left My AH because his drinking (and sporadic drug use, and poor decision...	sadsusie	12	471	Jul 26, 2013 by grateful2be
	Alanon/Alateen Meeting Question (Preview) Hi everyone! My cousin is interested in attending meetings...her dad is an A in recovery. She is angry and is lost. I would like to take her to a meeting with me but I am not sure that it is appropriate considering that she is 12. She is definitely an "old soul" and could definitely benefit...	WorkingIt4Me	6	298	Jul 26, 2013 by DavidG
	For all of us worriers (Preview) Saw this and thought of all of us "alanoners" and "Codies"...... Whatever will be will be.....so why worry??? well....That is one reason why I am HERE....	neshema2	2	241	Jul 25, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	A day of release (Preview) Today one of the most important people in my life, my X husband, passed away. This morning at 5:38. He is released from his demons and from this mappo world . May all the Buddha's from the 10 directions Posess his body and carry him on his journey into the Cosmos. Even though you caused me the most pain...	Bettina	19	523	Jul 25, 2013 by Jerry F
	Has HP answered my prayers (Preview) Hi everyone I'm in a thank you God moment. I think it's to good to be true. Just waiting for the ball to drop on my head and I will wake up. I will not get my hopes up yet. My son stopped by this evening. He wanted to let me know he has a place to live, free room and board. 3 squares a day working on a horse ranch fr...	Cathyinaz	30	706	Jul 25, 2013 by Jerry F
	Book worth reading for me (Preview) I'm reading codependence and the power of detachment - so far it has helped me in calming my thinking and making sense. One part has hit me hard. " she has learned from alanon she could live her husband and stay with him even though he was not sober, ..." It's talking about walking next to the di...	sweeetr	5	352	Jul 25, 2013 by Theoceancalls
	Passing of anniversary (Preview) My wedding anniversary was yesterday. Ever since my ex and I got married, I have taken my annual vacation time over our anniversary. Since we do our vacation bids at work in October and I moved out of our home in November, my vacation was already bid for during our anniversary. I could have changed it...	cinders	8	405	Jul 25, 2013 by grateful2be
	ok ok I know enoug is enough...just want to lighten you up and maybe help ya think! (Preview) um what I see out of my bedroom slider Glory girl punkido who seems to always find a way in....	Debilyn	5	411	Jul 25, 2013 by Debilyn
	Tired (Preview) It has been about a year and a half since hubby started drinking again. I have been able to stay this long due to one thing: My involvement in Alanon and recovery. Still I wonder what it will take to wake me up and say no more. Back in October he got an "online girlfriend". He has since decide...	souljoy	5	244	Jul 25, 2013 by orchidlover
	I am so angry at my husband and son (Preview) Picked up son from his counseling session today and could smell the alcohol. Said nothing because I don't know what to say. Came home and it was apparent that hubby had once again been drinking in the garage while I spent the whole day in the city in blazing hot weather taking our son to his class. Son imm...	deacon	6	540	Jul 25, 2013 by orchidlover
	starting to work my program (Preview) my husband is a recovering alcoholic and narcotic addict. for about 4 years he has been clean . during this time nor he or i have been to meetings or have worked any kind of program. but the problems of he and i alone and together are all starting to un ravel. we realized that we need help both individually a...	mama2nca	9	517	Jul 25, 2013 by orchidlover
	3 full days single and I am not feeling like I thought I would at all (Preview) I am not seeming to feel sad or mourning after almost a year of hanging out with this guy. He was getting too serious and I was not feeling like he was the one, so I ended it for the last time seriously and I feel so good about it. I had ignored some of my red flags earlier on and began to get resentful. I talked to...	Breakingfree	6	394	Jul 25, 2013 by orchidlover
	PICS (Preview) few more lost horse and her pal came to my place. my piggies and dogs prudie stuck in cat food bag Lady who walks and feeds my critters every morn cat I placed bowl of grasses for my skinny pigs,roses and fresh eggs um my stuck to me dog Happy, and my heart outside my body, tavish -- Edited by Debilyn on Tuesd...	Debilyn	9	311	Jul 25, 2013 by Jen61
	Broke myself (Preview) I was laying in the grass with my farm pig Augie talking, petting him. we got up. I was sitting there and he decided he wanted the clover under me and lifts me with his snouter under my arm!!! oweeee like a torch burn!!! I put my hand down in front of me to get up and glory stepped on my hand~! lifted it up and s...	Debilyn	9	433	Jul 24, 2013 by neshema2
	A Tough Night (Preview) I suspected the way my past week and a half has gone with my husband that he has been working his program his way. And as I say that, I need to look where I have been working my program my way, "if I spot it then maybe I got it". I lost my temper with him last evening and crossed over onto his side of t...	PP	14	504	Jul 24, 2013 by PP
	2 years today I have been divorced (Preview) I thought it would be easier, but yet I never thought I could do it at the same time. I have made it through a full year of school and have 2 more years to go. I work 2 part time jobs for the summer then back to just 1 when school starts back up. I have 2 finals on Thursday and am accomplishing more than I ever imagi...	Breakingfree	8	441	Jul 24, 2013 by Pushka
	Vacation!! (Preview) I am at the beach in Ocean City, Maryland. This is the beach we came to growing up every year of my childhood. It is fun to relive them as an adult but also share them with my partner who grew up in Alabama (we live together in Fort Lauderdale now). I was at the end of the boardwalk looking at the rides I used to r...	pinkchip	7	228	Jul 24, 2013 by ilovedogs
	Am I naive? (Preview) Am I naive, or am just trying to give myself hope? ASon is bipolar. When he takes the meds he is ok, works, has a life. Then he decides that he is fine and doesn't need them and he can't live with all the water and peeing. So he tapers down and starts drinking until the next hideous event. Then back to square on...	laurab	5	444	Jul 23, 2013 by neshema2
	questions regarding meeting (Preview) Hello members I am hoping you can help me regarding meetings. I called the local chapter and only got their answering machine and didn't feel like leaving a message. I should have become a member so many years ago but for so many reasons I didn't. I guess I was an ostrich with my head stuck in the sand. ...	needy	6	330	Jul 23, 2013 by neshema2
	Need E/S/H - Son (Preview) As some of you know, my son was arrested and put in jail again. He was released in a blinding storm some time on Saturday morning. While I was at work, he called and left a message that he was in the hospital and gave a list of symptoms. He told me he'd call again. On Sunday morning, at 7 am, the phone rang....	grateful2be	13	424	Jul 23, 2013 by neshema2
	Changes (Preview) Lately, I have been hit up on w/a lot of CHANGE...and so far, I don't like any of them......Sister Gini obviously worse with her Alzheimers.....Moma Aunt Helen being moved out of her assist. living pvt. apartment to WHERE??? nobody has told me yet (as of 1pm today) AND a client I thought I had "b...	neshema2	4	307	Jul 23, 2013 by neshema2
	tomorrow(July 23rd) is my BB birthday! (Preview) Tomorrow is definitely going to be a good day! I have good plans & won't be on here that day. I am just so grateful for another day of recovery & hope for the future. I am turning 47 & I don't look a day over 46! I am such a comic! I just love to make people laugh, lighten the mood. So, after my 27 year...	Hoot Nanny	4	272	Jul 23, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	My reading from Hope For Today... (Preview) Life has shifted for me- I am willingly waiting for the pension- in 2 or more years time- but am working and getting dug in to work part time for another ten years. On my income the pension will be a fair amount of money. I want to fund some regular travel. In my neck of the woods we have sometimes welcomed vi...	DavidG	5	644	Jul 23, 2013 by hotrod
	The best thing about recovery! (Preview) The best thing about recovery for me is the realizations that just keep coming. I am open to looking inside and finding out more about me. I am no longer terrified of the guilt. I can dig in and find that defect of character and I can face it, accept it and be willing to change it or replace it. Before Alanon t...	el-cee	7	356	Jul 23, 2013 by hotrod
	Learning how to love myself! (Preview) I can't believe it took me 3+ yrs. to come out of denial about my xabf being an alcoholic and addict. I really wasn't in denial, it was more like , he has a canibus card and he uses it for medical reason, his back and sciatia nerve pain. and the beer, he drinks only 2-5 cans during a week-end when he is here and...	Highlyfavored	6	387	Jul 23, 2013 by Breakingfree
	New Here..Really Need Advice help (Preview) Hi there, I'll try to keep my background brief. Here is the deal. My brother and I always lived with my grandparents and my mother. My mother had addiction problems and eventually died from a heroin overdose when I was 17 and my brother was 12 (I'm 34 now). My brother was the one who found my mother and it w...	jaycasale	21	9980	Jul 23, 2013 by neshema2
	happy to sad (Preview) Ya know, several days last week I felt SO much better, and today is not so good. I am not coping well today and nothing REALLY horrible has happened. I'm too new at feeling good and way too comfortable feeling bad. So I'm thinking ODAT, reminding myself what I'm powerless over, tomorrow is my F2F, an...	Lyne	6	383	Jul 23, 2013 by neshema2
	new here...could exhusband still be using??? (Preview) Good evening everyone. Im new hereI really dont know where to startso here I go. My ex-husband, Robert, is a crack addict. It was a HUGE shock to everyone who knew him, including me. We dated for 5 and a half years (Oct 2002 to March 2008), lived together for four and a half (Sept 2003 to March 2008), befor...	TurtleBear	8	478	Jul 23, 2013 by TurtleBear
	The shoe dropped .. (Preview) Last night the kids went with their dad for their visitation weekend .. they are home now if that gives anyone any idea how it all went. My daughter called crying that her dad was drinking and acting odd. He's in the background wanting to know if I want to talk to him and I hear her turn and say .. no dad, mom...	Pushka	11	629	Jul 23, 2013 by grateful2be
	The Weekend is over (Preview) Had a really nice weekend with my son. We went mud riding in the Razor after the rain storm and got so muddy it took an hour to clean the razor and us off. lol Now it will be time to let him go soon.....go back to the his problems and how he's going to fix it. I'm feeling bad but have kept quite not to bring up an...	Cathyinaz	8	288	Jul 22, 2013 by laurab
	New Here- Confused and Broken (Preview) Hello All, I have been with my husband for a year and a half. We have a baby boy due in 2 and a half months and I have a beautiful 8 year old little girl from my previous marriage. My husband is an alcoholic. He abuses it so badly and I have begged him to please stop. He will wake up at 8am, open a beer and drink all d...	JesseBobo	12	536	Jul 22, 2013 by Lyne
	Reason, Season or Lifetime? (Preview) People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person.When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty; to provide you with guida...	Mimi3	5	517	Jul 22, 2013 by LeenieBeanie
	Where is the elusive bottom? (Preview) Here we go again. After 4 sober months 36 year old DS decided he didn't need Lithium anymore, stopped, and had a 3 day binge at a friend's house, banged up his car, and drove home drunk. I knew he was beyond detoxing at home and we had to call the troopers to get him to the ER. His blood level was 0.3. about 4 tim...	laurab	17	626	Jul 22, 2013 by PP
	those little lightbulb moments (Preview) I am at the pool...Met another sorta cute guy and swam w/him...and met 2 young girls and had fun with them... Also one of the lifeguards and I made friends and with ALL of them I noticed something....I am not afraid or looking down when I talk to people anymore.......I actually , and this sounds weird, Bu...	neshema2	2	274	Jul 22, 2013 by DavidG
	Where I am in my recovery. (Preview) Hi everyone, My name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of the fellowship al-anon. My dad wanted to go to an AA bbq yesterday in out area. He got home from work at 2pm, phoned and wanted to be sure I still wanted to come. I said I'd leave my house at 3pm. I got in my car, drove over, he's passed out on the cou...	slogan_jim	5	303	Jul 22, 2013 by Breakingfree
	I knew this day would come. (Preview) I knew this day would come. My alcoholic (Cowboy) started drinking again. He had been sober for 3 1/2 years, but no program. Said he could do it on his own, only the weak needed AA. I never argued with him, or tried to convince him otherwise, because I knew it would do no good. I knew that without a program he...	Overcome	11	568	Jul 22, 2013 by Breakingfree
	Questioning Love (Preview) I can't help but thinking about love. If it really does exists the way I think it does? To what extent is love shared between both man and woman? The nurturing, caring, sacrificing one selfish to make sure the needs are met. To feel completely secure without no question and knowing your place. The honor...	InspiredPhotography	11	492	Jul 22, 2013 by InspiredPhotography
	Can't get pass the anger (Preview) Trying to get over bad feeling I have over my mom in law who is actively drinking and has my children	Ms co-dependent	5	394	Jul 22, 2013 by neshema2
	separation w/o anxiety! (Preview) Now that I have a chance to change my focus, I will not let the separation from my mom ruin my day. Right now she is out of my life. I am not going to try to resolve the issues, they are not my issues. The money situation will be resolved her way no other way! I am so sick of her trying to control money so I let it go!...	Hoot Nanny	4	356	Jul 21, 2013 by neshema2
	UPDATE ON MY MISSING SISTER (Preview) First I want to thank all of you kind souls who prayed for us and gave me your hearts over this terrible scare The police found her at the beach....She is no fool...Its HOT....So where do ya go when its sizzling??? to the beach Her 2 daughters are going to pick her up... I'm relieved that she has been found...	neshema2	12	541	Jul 21, 2013 by neshema2
	what can I give thanks for today???? (Preview) I'm gonna try and do this regularly b/c I can get so down sometimes.... so here I go TODAY, I am thankful that My kids are ok My truck is running ok I earned money today We got some more rain to ward off this earth drying up thought I lost my cat outside in this rain, but she was in the house all the time... I am dry...	neshema2	6	361	Jul 21, 2013 by lgnutah
	Recovery Conversation Boundaries (Preview) I am overwhelmed, in a good way, with everything I have learned in the past couple of weeks from reading everyone's posts, going to meetings, and chatting with others in recovery. Since ABF and I have been together over a year, he is starting to witness some of my "crazy," for a lack of a bett...	WorkingIt4Me	9	584	Jul 21, 2013 by pinkchip
	Had a very honest and difficult convo..... (Preview) I have been dating a guy on and off for the last almost year and we spent some time together the last couple days. I have been feeling like the relationship isn't heading towards what I am wanting or that he is the one. So I was open and honest with him, it went well while we were talking in person. Now that he i...	Breakingfree	9	507	Jul 21, 2013 by PP
	thank you (Preview) Dear MIP family I did two posts about my missing and later found sister, Gini....I want thank the souls who replied on either board to give me some support in my time of great anxiety and fear. Gini has Alzheimer's and is married to an abusive AH , his drinking and abuse caused her to kinda "shut down...	neshema2	1	252	Jul 21, 2013 by PP
	Doing the dance (Preview) AH is not talking to me. He came home from his meeting and before I saw him, I could smell the alcohol lingering in the kitchen. I should have turned around, but I went out to the yard, where he was w the dogs. I said hello, he barely spoke. I sat next to him and told him about my morning. He barely responded. We...	ParisMemories	8	784	Jul 21, 2013 by grateful2be
	painful session with son (Preview) Hi-Today I had a joint session with a substance abuse/counselor with my son as we are having troubles due to my A. It's going on for 5 months now. It's a long story. In our session I told him he needs a tune-up on his recovery. He is mentally addicted to pot and dependent on pain meds. I printed out info...	Lyne	4	370	Jul 21, 2013 by grateful2be
	MY SISTER IS MISSING......NEED PRAYER (Preview) My older sister Gini is GONE...She has alzheimer's....AH came home drunk yesterday night...left the car keys on the counter...she got them and LEFT I am soooo worried about her.....She has alzheimers and has taken off to go somewhere She lives in Massachusetts and I know she has "safe places'...	neshema2	7	539	Jul 21, 2013 by neshema2
	How do I know I am angry??? (Preview) WOW, I love to read Melodie Beattie's Language of letting go Dont remember what page it was on, but she was talking about how do we know when we are angry and what to do about it I learned that if I am feeling hurt or victimized, trapped or even guilty or I see myself withdrawing or just going into denial t...	neshema2	2	396	Jul 21, 2013 by grateful2be
	HAPPY WEEKEND, Alanoners (Preview) And a good Saturday/Weekend to all my good recovery mates Late last night I felt sick, something I ate or drank disagreed w/me but I am alright now It looks to be a hot one so caution as I go out in the sun Ya know, I was thinking.....LIFE can be safe, Life does not have to always be a scary proposition... It re...	neshema2	0	238	Jul 20, 2013 by neshema2
	Seems so small but... (Preview) I often complain about ABF being selfish and I really struggle with this. I am supportive of his recovery and I understand that his recovery should come first (to him) and mine (to me). I have a really hard time dealing with his selfishness in other areas of his life. I need to vent for a minute. I've a...	WorkingIt4Me	14	422	Jul 20, 2013 by neshema2
	Learning about my part (Preview) As I work the steps and I reveal to myself my own shortcomings and personality defects, I start questioning where I am going wrong. I worry that I am putting my son in the middle sometimes and I pray that God shows that to me and that he releases me from that issue. I have come to realize that my experience...	ilovedogs	10	501	Jul 20, 2013 by ilovedogs
	I just need to voice my frustrations (Preview) Okay, so I've drilled into my head the three C's. I realize that only the alcoholic can decide if and when they want to become sober and its not the responsibility of their significant other, family, friends, etc. to get them sober and keep them sober. However, is it unrealistic to think that those...	LiveLaughLove	8	380	Jul 20, 2013 by LiveLaughLove
	A boundary AND an amend to younger and wonderful SIS (Preview) Hey all My beloved younger sis is my bestest friend...yea, I love the two older ones big time, but me and "D" are soul mates She has even done research on anxiety and ptsd to help me and kinda acts as fill in sponsor for me when my sponsor is unavailable well, she is (adopted) but still native am...	neshema2	1	284	Jul 20, 2013 by neshema2
	Writing a letter telling people how their "deeds" have harmed (Preview) I hope it is OK to do a cut/paste from another thread (I didn't want to go off on a tangent in their thread so am starting another thread). I was reading in the thread where someone was talking about having to write a victim impact statement, and someone posted this: "I wold give them a letter....ad...	lgnutah	8	456	Jul 20, 2013 by Bettina
	the bigger picture (Preview) When I was in the throes of struggling and suffering with my life I sought a lot of guidance. I thought nobody could suffer more than me. In my journey to find serenity and happiness It was suggested that I read the book "Man's search for meaning". It is written by Viktor E. Frankl. Its not a n...	Bettina	13	440	Jul 20, 2013 by neshema2
	To ALL my Alanon, MIP family members (Preview) Saw this and thought of you guys	neshema2	6	336	Jul 20, 2013 by Lyne
	Update on my son (Preview) I've been waiting to see what would happen with regards to my son. I haven't called him since I noticed he was slurring his words and heard women's voices in the background about a week ago. Each day I checked in with my HP when it came close to the time I could call him at his assigned location. Each tim...	grateful2be	16	479	Jul 20, 2013 by neshema2
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