Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Jerry F · Jerry F

my early sponsorship worked me and had me practice understanding the disease and recovery on these levels. My elder sponsor gave me a serious caveat that I took as a warning the first time I heard it...it was said so seriously and I knew work on it was going to be higher learning. "Unless you ar...

Coach7227 · Coach7227

I need a place to vent and to find people who understand. I suspect it is here. I live with a functional alcoholic woman. She's up to 5 bottles of wine a day. I've tried everything. Asking nicely and lovingly for her to stop. Expressing my fears for her health. Arguing. Even talking to her doctor (which se...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

Whenever I get back home to California we see each other and catch up and my 15 year old sees her 14 year old second cousin Victoria. Well today I read on facebook from a family member that my cousins were in the Arizona desert riding 4 wheelers, which they often do in the summer and Victoria had an accide...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

I made a big mistake having my son up here this weekend. Usually things go well but this time he is on something. Not alcohol.....think Librium. Just as screwed up in the head anyways. He will get upset very very easy so I'm having to step lightly. I wish I didn't put myself in this situation...dang....

stephaniej · stephaniej

As far as I've come in my program, I STILL struggle with this from time to time: unhealthy obsessing about other people, what they're doing, what their choices are, etc. If I was in AA, I would call any one of the dozens of people on my phone tree for real-time support and suggestions for re-focusing my e...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

Yesterday I had a conversation with a friend/colleague that opened my eyes a bit. Her mother was diagnosed two years ago with a serious blood disorder, and during that time the entire family has been deeply affected by the disease. When the diagnosis first came, I remember my friend and I were traveli...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

My AH has been very depressed lately. A good friend of his passed away the other day and that along with our marriage issues, I think is bringing him down. I went in to the bedroom to speak to him, just asking how his day was going and asking him if there are any funeral plans yet. He wouldn't even make eye...

grateful2be · grateful2be

I know I'm chatty lately. I also know this really isn't alcoholism related, but it is related to denial that we talk so much about. I just watched a TV clip on a bank robbery. The bank is full of customers. A man approaches a teller with tree branches duct-taped to his head. Demands money. No custo...

Jerry F · Jerry F

My friend asked me and I responded "How do I look"? He took another look and said "You always look good...and healthy" which caused me to smile and reply..."then I can keep on going huh"? He laughed and went away. Today wasn't one of those keep on going days...PT...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

... and I guess they aren't going to go away until I take my power back. I'm either being abandoned, banished or terrorized in the dreams. What we don't resolve in daylight haunts us through the night? I don't know. I have so much going on and I feel like I'm dangling from a thin branch sticking out of a...

thistooshallpass · thistooshallpass

My alcoholic has been sober for 18 months. He doesn't miss a meeting. He left the house tonight at 5:30 and will attend 3 meetings tonight! However, he can't seem to get motivated to find a job or do chores around the house. When I try to talk to him about our financial situation and that bills are pil...

grateful2be · grateful2be

As you know, I'm planning on retiring in the new year from a work that was fascinating to me although often incredibly difficult and painful. This year, I am slowly saying goodbye to the people and to the location of the work - both interiorly and exteriorly - when appropriate. Last night I had a dream th...

neshema2 · neshema2

I was cleaning out my bedroom and ran into an OLD and DEARLY loved friend!!! His name is Mr. Bunny....Here is his story... I was 15 and walking down this path at the Cape Cod, Massachusetts summer home we had and i found this UGLY bunny rabbit...he was BUTT ugly.. head was not ripped off but wobbly, dirt...

FAITH1988 · FAITH1988

Letter to ALCOHOLIC SON ~ a draft any suggestions are welcome first and foremost I want you to know I love you very much. I do hope one day you know how deeply a parents love is for their child. How did we get here, how much pain has been suffered in 6 years. Since you have been getting help I learned that you we...

phoenixmagicgirl · phoenixmagicgirl

hi everyone! I haven't been on here in quite a while due to working a lot and taking a summer Statistics class for the second time. It's challenging but I'm understanding the material much better. Work has been a bit of a challenge as of late... I'm learning the importance of time management. It's a bit f...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Hopefully wholeness will come sooner than later! I am excited about getting it together again. I am making it through summer w/o any more incidents. It is a warm but wonderful day. Anything is possible. My husband is mellowing out about my mother. He decided that we should forgive those that trespass...

norasq · norasq

I have been struggling with the issue of what to say to friends and family lately. My AH and I have been married for 20 years. It has taken most of that time to understand that he is, and has been for all of that time, a highly functional alcoholic. We separated 6 months ago, with AH still denying that his...

hotrod · hotrod

http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t54478468/alanon-step-9/

Blanche · Blanche

I can't seem to find it. Yesterday was the date I moved out two months ago from my husband. I have never felt so low. I have never felt so sad. We talk maybe twice a month. He says he wants to fix it, and then does nothing to fix it. I told him to make a counseling appointment. He said in a couple months. I said no,...

Jim P · Jim P

I'm an atheist and I am comfortable with my beliefs. I have never talked about my beliefs in the group, but I have told them I am an atheist. I probably should never have done that, even in private or just between members outside the meetings. There are members of my group who are not comfortable with my b...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Hit the sack at 10 yesterday...got back up at 12:30AM...Just knew that you guys and gals wouldn't mind if I popped in and read and smurfed with you....gonna try the sack again. A Hui Ho...CULater. ((((hugs))))

nancymom4 · nancymom4

Haven't been on here much in the last couple weeks. I didn't want anyone to worry. We have been busy here with the 4-H fair here locally. I am still going to meetings on Monday nights. It is up to me to make sure I make arrangements for my daughter's soccer practice in order to go. My hubbie says " What y...

islandbliss · islandbliss

Hi, I am in a 3 year relationship with a recovering alcoholic that has 14 years sober. I go through a rollercoaster of struggles with him anytime there is a major change in his life such as a new position at work, having to go to school for retraining, or even a new work schedule. I understand that he has t...

Mrs t · Mrs t

In summary my dad has been a heavily/ dependant drinker most of his adult life - however he lives in the USA alone and I am in Uk. Last week he was admitted to hospital he had become ill cause he was not taking his heart and blood pressure medication properly however after 2 days in hospital he started to ex...

Gaby · Gaby

Even though I know my son is bettering himself. I sure do miss him. He has been in rehab for 3 months. But I love him with all my heart and miss him. I do not miss the chaos just my son. So many emotions going through me right now.. Good bad and indifferent. God bless ..

RoseODAT · RoseODAT

Had begun the divorce process, AH begged and pleaded to hold off.....my mind did not want to but went along with him anyway (perhaps out of pity for him and lonliness by my part now that I realize).....creating another great cognitive dissonance in my life. He took off 1,800 miles away to recover, then...

neshema2 · neshema2

My study step 4 topic is EXPECTATION b/c I think that is what got me all in a wad of late, re: certain family member My younger sister (1 yr. younger) has worked in mental health till she retired and did research on my condition (anxiety / ptsd) to help me... Anyway, I called her about my post re: Daugther #...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi everyone, My name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. I find a part of life I am having a hard time dealing with is the notion of keeping score. Facebook is not a healthy tool in my recovery it seems. Every time I go on the site I see posts about people younger than I being featured in magazi...

neshema2 · neshema2

some background I adopted my daughter #2 when she was 15....long story and I want to protect her as much as possible, so will leave it at that..both parents were deceased and so enter me, through relatives etc. etc. It has been rocky from the start, I know I tried..In fact I maybe tried TOO hard to "m...

Tracy · Tracy

Hi all just wanted to share my experience at the world convention wow!!!! Firstly Vancouver is amazin being around over 3,000 al anons was even more amazing I met some amazing preppie and it gave me so much hope to see the level of recover some have achieved. I went into 1 workshop called living with sobr...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Why are some birthdays so eventful? Do we make them that way? Or is the HP in control? I had a good day & then car trouble but the good news is, it was solvable & someone cared enough to give us advice what to do! I am so grateful for Alanon because I didn't freak out at all. I just made a call to an Alanon...

tortuga · tortuga

Yesterday I made a big mistake, because I didn't take enough time to sit and think. Yes I am meditating now, as a new discipline to keep my practice of serenity going, and it works, for me. But yes, I also still have an alcoholic in my life, who is kind of managing his own recovery, his way...which is none o...

WorkingIt4Me · WorkingIt4Me

I am trying to remember to question my motives today but I think I am a little late. ABF is out of town for work and will be returning at some point this afternoon/evening. I have a work meeting to go to in a couple of hours, followed by a Pampered Chef party with one of my coworkers. Instead of going into w...

John · John

Well, I got my physical and blood work done last Friday... today I spoke to the Dr. "Over sensitive thyroid, very dehydrated, coupled with such low numbers for Iron, Potassium, (Protein level not even registering its so low) and a slew of other nutrients, that indicate I am very malnourished. Gluc...

sadsusie · sadsusie

I have been away now for about 30 days. I have my own well appointed furnished 1bed/1bath home and I am comfortable. I have enrolled in a class to get a real estate license. I have found a part time job (that starts in 2 more weeks). I left My AH because his drinking (and sporadic drug use, and poor decision...

WorkingIt4Me · WorkingIt4Me

Hi everyone! My cousin is interested in attending meetings...her dad is an A in recovery. She is angry and is lost. I would like to take her to a meeting with me but I am not sure that it is appropriate considering that she is 12. She is definitely an "old soul" and could definitely benefit...

neshema2 · neshema2

Saw this and thought of all of us "alanoners" and "Codies"...... Whatever will be will be.....so why worry??? well....That is one reason why I am HERE....

Bettina · Bettina

Today one of the most important people in my life, my X husband, passed away. This morning at 5:38. He is released from his demons and from this mappo world . May all the Buddha's from the 10 directions Posess his body and carry him on his journey into the Cosmos. Even though you caused me the most pain...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Hi everyone I'm in a thank you God moment. I think it's to good to be true. Just waiting for the ball to drop on my head and I will wake up. I will not get my hopes up yet. My son stopped by this evening. He wanted to let me know he has a place to live, free room and board. 3 squares a day working on a horse ranch fr...

sweeetr · sweeetr

I'm reading codependence and the power of detachment - so far it has helped me in calming my thinking and making sense. One part has hit me hard. " she has learned from alanon she could live her husband and stay with him even though he was not sober, ..." It's talking about walking next to the di...

cinders · cinders

My wedding anniversary was yesterday. Ever since my ex and I got married, I have taken my annual vacation time over our anniversary. Since we do our vacation bids at work in October and I moved out of our home in November, my vacation was already bid for during our anniversary. I could have changed it...

Debilyn · Debilyn

um what I see out of my bedroom slider Glory girl punkido who seems to always find a way in....

souljoy · souljoy

It has been about a year and a half since hubby started drinking again. I have been able to stay this long due to one thing: My involvement in Alanon and recovery. Still I wonder what it will take to wake me up and say no more. Back in October he got an "online girlfriend". He has since decide...

deacon · deacon

Picked up son from his counseling session today and could smell the alcohol. Said nothing because I don't know what to say. Came home and it was apparent that hubby had once again been drinking in the garage while I spent the whole day in the city in blazing hot weather taking our son to his class. Son imm...

mama2nca · mama2nca

my husband is a recovering alcoholic and narcotic addict. for about 4 years he has been clean . during this time nor he or i have been to meetings or have worked any kind of program. but the problems of he and i alone and together are all starting to un ravel. we realized that we need help both individually a...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I am not seeming to feel sad or mourning after almost a year of hanging out with this guy. He was getting too serious and I was not feeling like he was the one, so I ended it for the last time seriously and I feel so good about it. I had ignored some of my red flags earlier on and began to get resentful. I talked to...

Debilyn · Debilyn

few more lost horse and her pal came to my place. my piggies and dogs prudie stuck in cat food bag Lady who walks and feeds my critters every morn cat I placed bowl of grasses for my skinny pigs,roses and fresh eggs um my stuck to me dog Happy, and my heart outside my body, tavish -- Edited by Debilyn on Tuesd...

Debilyn · Debilyn

I was laying in the grass with my farm pig Augie talking, petting him. we got up. I was sitting there and he decided he wanted the clover under me and lifts me with his snouter under my arm!!! oweeee like a torch burn!!! I put my hand down in front of me to get up and glory stepped on my hand~! lifted it up and s...

PP · PP

I suspected the way my past week and a half has gone with my husband that he has been working his program his way. And as I say that, I need to look where I have been working my program my way, "if I spot it then maybe I got it". I lost my temper with him last evening and crossed over onto his side of t...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I thought it would be easier, but yet I never thought I could do it at the same time. I have made it through a full year of school and have 2 more years to go. I work 2 part time jobs for the summer then back to just 1 when school starts back up. I have 2 finals on Thursday and am accomplishing more than I ever imagi...

pinkchip · pinkchip

I am at the beach in Ocean City, Maryland. This is the beach we came to growing up every year of my childhood. It is fun to relive them as an adult but also share them with my partner who grew up in Alabama (we live together in Fort Lauderdale now). I was at the end of the boardwalk looking at the rides I used to r...

laurab · laurab

Am I naive, or am just trying to give myself hope? ASon is bipolar. When he takes the meds he is ok, works, has a life. Then he decides that he is fine and doesn't need them and he can't live with all the water and peeing. So he tapers down and starts drinking until the next hideous event. Then back to square on...

needy · needy

Hello members I am hoping you can help me regarding meetings. I called the local chapter and only got their answering machine and didn't feel like leaving a message. I should have become a member so many years ago but for so many reasons I didn't. I guess I was an ostrich with my head stuck in the sand. ...

grateful2be · grateful2be

As some of you know, my son was arrested and put in jail again. He was released in a blinding storm some time on Saturday morning. While I was at work, he called and left a message that he was in the hospital and gave a list of symptoms. He told me he'd call again. On Sunday morning, at 7 am, the phone rang....

neshema2 · neshema2

Lately, I have been hit up on w/a lot of CHANGE...and so far, I don't like any of them......Sister Gini obviously worse with her Alzheimers.....Moma Aunt Helen being moved out of her assist. living pvt. apartment to WHERE??? nobody has told me yet (as of 1pm today) AND a client I thought I had "b...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Tomorrow is definitely going to be a good day! I have good plans & won't be on here that day. I am just so grateful for another day of recovery & hope for the future. I am turning 47 & I don't look a day over 46! I am such a comic! I just love to make people laugh, lighten the mood. So, after my 27 year...

DavidG · DavidG

Life has shifted for me- I am willingly waiting for the pension- in 2 or more years time- but am working and getting dug in to work part time for another ten years. On my income the pension will be a fair amount of money. I want to fund some regular travel. In my neck of the woods we have sometimes welcomed vi...

el-cee · el-cee

The best thing about recovery for me is the realizations that just keep coming. I am open to looking inside and finding out more about me. I am no longer terrified of the guilt. I can dig in and find that defect of character and I can face it, accept it and be willing to change it or replace it. Before Alanon t...

Highlyfavored · Highlyfavored

I can't believe it took me 3+ yrs. to come out of denial about my xabf being an alcoholic and addict. I really wasn't in denial, it was more like , he has a canibus card and he uses it for medical reason, his back and sciatia nerve pain. and the beer, he drinks only 2-5 cans during a week-end when he is here and...

jaycasale · jaycasale

Hi there, I'll try to keep my background brief. Here is the deal. My brother and I always lived with my grandparents and my mother. My mother had addiction problems and eventually died from a heroin overdose when I was 17 and my brother was 12 (I'm 34 now). My brother was the one who found my mother and it w...

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	Mind, Body, Spirit and Emotions... (Preview) my early sponsorship worked me and had me practice understanding the disease and recovery on these levels. My elder sponsor gave me a serious caveat that I took as a warning the first time I heard it...it was said so seriously and I knew work on it was going to be higher learning. "Unless you ar...	Jerry F	12	584	Jul 29, 2013 by neshema2
	Completely Lost Newbie Living with AW newbie living with wine endanger self (Preview) I need a place to vent and to find people who understand. I suspect it is here. I live with a functional alcoholic woman. She's up to 5 bottles of wine a day. I've tried everything. Asking nicely and lovingly for her to stop. Expressing my fears for her health. Arguing. Even talking to her doctor (which se...	Coach7227	9	5738	Jul 29, 2013 by grateful2be
	My cousins 14 year old daughter died today (Preview) Whenever I get back home to California we see each other and catch up and my 15 year old sees her 14 year old second cousin Victoria. Well today I read on facebook from a family member that my cousins were in the Arizona desert riding 4 wheelers, which they often do in the summer and Victoria had an accide...	Breakingfree	20	656	Jul 29, 2013 by Peggy7
	Here with my Son (Preview) I made a big mistake having my son up here this weekend. Usually things go well but this time he is on something. Not alcohol.....think Librium. Just as screwed up in the head anyways. He will get upset very very easy so I'm having to step lightly. I wish I didn't put myself in this situation...dang....	Cathyinaz	31	647	Jul 28, 2013 by FAITH1988
	Real World Suggestions For Strategies to Avoid Obsessing (Preview) As far as I've come in my program, I STILL struggle with this from time to time: unhealthy obsessing about other people, what they're doing, what their choices are, etc. If I was in AA, I would call any one of the dozens of people on my phone tree for real-time support and suggestions for re-focusing my e...	stephaniej	11	376	Jul 29, 2013 by stephaniej
	Alcoholism as a disease (Preview) Yesterday I had a conversation with a friend/colleague that opened my eyes a bit. Her mother was diagnosed two years ago with a serious blood disorder, and during that time the entire family has been deeply affected by the disease. When the diagnosis first came, I remember my friend and I were traveli...	ParisMemories	6	461	Jul 29, 2013 by Jen61
	Help me find patience (Preview) My AH has been very depressed lately. A good friend of his passed away the other day and that along with our marriage issues, I think is bringing him down. I went in to the bedroom to speak to him, just asking how his day was going and asking him if there are any funeral plans yet. He wouldn't even make eye...	ilovedogs	11	423	Jul 28, 2013 by PP
	The epitome of denial brings laughter (Preview) I know I'm chatty lately. I also know this really isn't alcoholism related, but it is related to denial that we talk so much about. I just watched a TV clip on a bank robbery. The bank is full of customers. A man approaches a teller with tree branches duct-taped to his head. Demands money. No custo...	grateful2be	14	511	Jul 28, 2013 by neshema2
	So when are you going to quit? (Preview) My friend asked me and I responded "How do I look"? He took another look and said "You always look good...and healthy" which caused me to smile and reply..."then I can keep on going huh"? He laughed and went away. Today wasn't one of those keep on going days...PT...	Jerry F	16	569	Jul 28, 2013 by FAITH1988
	The nightmares are back (Preview) ... and I guess they aren't going to go away until I take my power back. I'm either being abandoned, banished or terrorized in the dreams. What we don't resolve in daylight haunts us through the night? I don't know. I have so much going on and I feel like I'm dangling from a thin branch sticking out of a...	tiredtonite	6	440	Jul 28, 2013 by tiredtonite
	I'm frustrated! (Preview) My alcoholic has been sober for 18 months. He doesn't miss a meeting. He left the house tonight at 5:30 and will attend 3 meetings tonight! However, he can't seem to get motivated to find a job or do chores around the house. When I try to talk to him about our financial situation and that bills are pil...	thistooshallpass	6	340	Jul 28, 2013 by Aloha
	A dream (Preview) As you know, I'm planning on retiring in the new year from a work that was fascinating to me although often incredibly difficult and painful. This year, I am slowly saying goodbye to the people and to the location of the work - both interiorly and exteriorly - when appropriate. Last night I had a dream th...	grateful2be	10	386	Jul 28, 2013 by grateful2be
	Mr. Bunny (Preview) I was cleaning out my bedroom and ran into an OLD and DEARLY loved friend!!! His name is Mr. Bunny....Here is his story... I was 15 and walking down this path at the Cape Cod, Massachusetts summer home we had and i found this UGLY bunny rabbit...he was BUTT ugly.. head was not ripped off but wobbly, dirt...	neshema2	3	311	Jul 28, 2013 by hotrod
	MY LETTER TO MY SON I HAVE TO READ TO HIM NEXT WEEK (Preview) Letter to ALCOHOLIC SON ~ a draft any suggestions are welcome first and foremost I want you to know I love you very much. I do hope one day you know how deeply a parents love is for their child. How did we get here, how much pain has been suffered in 6 years. Since you have been getting help I learned that you we...	FAITH1988	26	538	Jul 28, 2013 by grateful2be
	update on myself and prayers for my AM please (Preview) hi everyone! I haven't been on here in quite a while due to working a lot and taking a summer Statistics class for the second time. It's challenging but I'm understanding the material much better. Work has been a bit of a challenge as of late... I'm learning the importance of time management. It's a bit f...	phoenixmagicgirl	4	231	Jul 27, 2013 by neshema2
	getting whole again! (Preview) Hopefully wholeness will come sooner than later! I am excited about getting it together again. I am making it through summer w/o any more incidents. It is a warm but wonderful day. Anything is possible. My husband is mellowing out about my mother. He decided that we should forgive those that trespass...	Hoot Nanny	4	276	Jul 27, 2013 by hotrod
	Dealing with Friends and Family (Preview) I have been struggling with the issue of what to say to friends and family lately. My AH and I have been married for 20 years. It has taken most of that time to understand that he is, and has been for all of that time, a highly functional alcoholic. We separated 6 months ago, with AH still denying that his...	norasq	13	510	Jul 27, 2013 by grateful2be
	STEP 9 (Preview) http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t54478468/alanon-step-9/	hotrod	0	248	Jul 27, 2013 by hotrod
	Where is the Serenity? (Preview) I can't seem to find it. Yesterday was the date I moved out two months ago from my husband. I have never felt so low. I have never felt so sad. We talk maybe twice a month. He says he wants to fix it, and then does nothing to fix it. I told him to make a counseling appointment. He said in a couple months. I said no,...	Blanche	13	467	Jul 26, 2013 by grateful2be
	atheist in Al Anon (Preview) I'm an atheist and I am comfortable with my beliefs. I have never talked about my beliefs in the group, but I have told them I am an atheist. I probably should never have done that, even in private or just between members outside the meetings. There are members of my group who are not comfortable with my b...	Jim P	11	3157	Jul 26, 2013 by neshema2
	1:30 AM... (Preview) Hit the sack at 10 yesterday...got back up at 12:30AM...Just knew that you guys and gals wouldn't mind if I popped in and read and smurfed with you....gonna try the sack again. A Hui Ho...CULater. ((((hugs))))	Jerry F	7	369	Jul 27, 2013 by neshema2
	update on Nancymom (Preview) Haven't been on here much in the last couple weeks. I didn't want anyone to worry. We have been busy here with the 4-H fair here locally. I am still going to meetings on Monday nights. It is up to me to make sure I make arrangements for my daughter's soccer practice in order to go. My hubbie says " What y...	nancymom4	3	239	Jul 27, 2013 by neshema2
	The Rollercoaster (Preview) Hi, I am in a 3 year relationship with a recovering alcoholic that has 14 years sober. I go through a rollercoaster of struggles with him anytime there is a major change in his life such as a new position at work, having to go to school for retraining, or even a new work schedule. I understand that he has t...	islandbliss	3	416	Jul 27, 2013 by grateful2be
	Best way to help/ support my dad - am desperate (Preview) In summary my dad has been a heavily/ dependant drinker most of his adult life - however he lives in the USA alone and I am in Uk. Last week he was admitted to hospital he had become ill cause he was not taking his heart and blood pressure medication properly however after 2 days in hospital he started to ex...	Mrs t	18	510	Jul 26, 2013 by grateful2be
	Missing my son.. (Preview) Even though I know my son is bettering himself. I sure do miss him. He has been in rehab for 3 months. But I love him with all my heart and miss him. I do not miss the chaos just my son. So many emotions going through me right now.. Good bad and indifferent. God bless ..	Gaby	7	312	Jul 26, 2013 by Gaby
	6th fall and up again; time for renewal (Preview) Had begun the divorce process, AH begged and pleaded to hold off.....my mind did not want to but went along with him anyway (perhaps out of pity for him and lonliness by my part now that I realize).....creating another great cognitive dissonance in my life. He took off 1,800 miles away to recover, then...	RoseODAT	9	516	Jul 26, 2013 by RoseODAT
	Expectations (Preview) My study step 4 topic is EXPECTATION b/c I think that is what got me all in a wad of late, re: certain family member My younger sister (1 yr. younger) has worked in mental health till she retired and did research on my condition (anxiety / ptsd) to help me... Anyway, I called her about my post re: Daugther #...	neshema2	2	315	Jul 26, 2013 by RoseODAT
	Keeping score (Preview) Hi everyone, My name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. I find a part of life I am having a hard time dealing with is the notion of keeping score. Facebook is not a healthy tool in my recovery it seems. Every time I go on the site I see posts about people younger than I being featured in magazi...	slogan_jim	9	468	Jul 26, 2013 by Breakingfree
	HARD to just let go (Preview) some background I adopted my daughter #2 when she was 15....long story and I want to protect her as much as possible, so will leave it at that..both parents were deceased and so enter me, through relatives etc. etc. It has been rocky from the start, I know I tried..In fact I maybe tried TOO hard to "m...	neshema2	4	465	Jul 26, 2013 by neshema2
	Esh from convention xxx (Preview) Hi all just wanted to share my experience at the world convention wow!!!! Firstly Vancouver is amazin being around over 3,000 al anons was even more amazing I met some amazing preppie and it gave me so much hope to see the level of recover some have achieved. I went into 1 workshop called living with sobr...	Tracy	6	425	Jul 26, 2013 by PP
	another eventful bday! (Preview) Why are some birthdays so eventful? Do we make them that way? Or is the HP in control? I had a good day & then car trouble but the good news is, it was solvable & someone cared enough to give us advice what to do! I am so grateful for Alanon because I didn't freak out at all. I just made a call to an Alanon...	Hoot Nanny	2	201	Jul 26, 2013 by PP
	the mistake of ENABLING (Preview) Yesterday I made a big mistake, because I didn't take enough time to sit and think. Yes I am meditating now, as a new discipline to keep my practice of serenity going, and it works, for me. But yes, I also still have an alcoholic in my life, who is kind of managing his own recovery, his way...which is none o...	tortuga	7	532	Jul 26, 2013 by tortuga
	struggling with motives (Preview) I am trying to remember to question my motives today but I think I am a little late. ABF is out of town for work and will be returning at some point this afternoon/evening. I have a work meeting to go to in a couple of hours, followed by a Pampered Chef party with one of my coworkers. Instead of going into w...	WorkingIt4Me	11	525	Jul 26, 2013 by pinkchip
	Medical Report... (Preview) Well, I got my physical and blood work done last Friday... today I spoke to the Dr. "Over sensitive thyroid, very dehydrated, coupled with such low numbers for Iron, Potassium, (Protein level not even registering its so low) and a slew of other nutrients, that indicate I am very malnourished. Gluc...	John	17	536	Jul 26, 2013 by Rocky38
	Deciding when it is okay to go back. (Preview) I have been away now for about 30 days. I have my own well appointed furnished 1bed/1bath home and I am comfortable. I have enrolled in a class to get a real estate license. I have found a part time job (that starts in 2 more weeks). I left My AH because his drinking (and sporadic drug use, and poor decision...	sadsusie	12	498	Jul 26, 2013 by grateful2be
	Alanon/Alateen Meeting Question (Preview) Hi everyone! My cousin is interested in attending meetings...her dad is an A in recovery. She is angry and is lost. I would like to take her to a meeting with me but I am not sure that it is appropriate considering that she is 12. She is definitely an "old soul" and could definitely benefit...	WorkingIt4Me	6	322	Jul 26, 2013 by DavidG
	For all of us worriers (Preview) Saw this and thought of all of us "alanoners" and "Codies"...... Whatever will be will be.....so why worry??? well....That is one reason why I am HERE....	neshema2	2	264	Jul 25, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	A day of release (Preview) Today one of the most important people in my life, my X husband, passed away. This morning at 5:38. He is released from his demons and from this mappo world . May all the Buddha's from the 10 directions Posess his body and carry him on his journey into the Cosmos. Even though you caused me the most pain...	Bettina	19	547	Jul 25, 2013 by Jerry F
	Has HP answered my prayers (Preview) Hi everyone I'm in a thank you God moment. I think it's to good to be true. Just waiting for the ball to drop on my head and I will wake up. I will not get my hopes up yet. My son stopped by this evening. He wanted to let me know he has a place to live, free room and board. 3 squares a day working on a horse ranch fr...	Cathyinaz	30	737	Jul 25, 2013 by Jerry F
	Book worth reading for me (Preview) I'm reading codependence and the power of detachment - so far it has helped me in calming my thinking and making sense. One part has hit me hard. " she has learned from alanon she could live her husband and stay with him even though he was not sober, ..." It's talking about walking next to the di...	sweeetr	5	378	Jul 25, 2013 by Theoceancalls
	Passing of anniversary (Preview) My wedding anniversary was yesterday. Ever since my ex and I got married, I have taken my annual vacation time over our anniversary. Since we do our vacation bids at work in October and I moved out of our home in November, my vacation was already bid for during our anniversary. I could have changed it...	cinders	8	431	Jul 25, 2013 by grateful2be
	ok ok I know enoug is enough...just want to lighten you up and maybe help ya think! (Preview) um what I see out of my bedroom slider Glory girl punkido who seems to always find a way in....	Debilyn	5	436	Jul 25, 2013 by Debilyn
	Tired (Preview) It has been about a year and a half since hubby started drinking again. I have been able to stay this long due to one thing: My involvement in Alanon and recovery. Still I wonder what it will take to wake me up and say no more. Back in October he got an "online girlfriend". He has since decide...	souljoy	5	269	Jul 25, 2013 by orchidlover
	I am so angry at my husband and son (Preview) Picked up son from his counseling session today and could smell the alcohol. Said nothing because I don't know what to say. Came home and it was apparent that hubby had once again been drinking in the garage while I spent the whole day in the city in blazing hot weather taking our son to his class. Son imm...	deacon	6	566	Jul 25, 2013 by orchidlover
	starting to work my program (Preview) my husband is a recovering alcoholic and narcotic addict. for about 4 years he has been clean . during this time nor he or i have been to meetings or have worked any kind of program. but the problems of he and i alone and together are all starting to un ravel. we realized that we need help both individually a...	mama2nca	9	541	Jul 25, 2013 by orchidlover
	3 full days single and I am not feeling like I thought I would at all (Preview) I am not seeming to feel sad or mourning after almost a year of hanging out with this guy. He was getting too serious and I was not feeling like he was the one, so I ended it for the last time seriously and I feel so good about it. I had ignored some of my red flags earlier on and began to get resentful. I talked to...	Breakingfree	6	419	Jul 25, 2013 by orchidlover
	PICS (Preview) few more lost horse and her pal came to my place. my piggies and dogs prudie stuck in cat food bag Lady who walks and feeds my critters every morn cat I placed bowl of grasses for my skinny pigs,roses and fresh eggs um my stuck to me dog Happy, and my heart outside my body, tavish -- Edited by Debilyn on Tuesd...	Debilyn	9	336	Jul 25, 2013 by Jen61
	Broke myself (Preview) I was laying in the grass with my farm pig Augie talking, petting him. we got up. I was sitting there and he decided he wanted the clover under me and lifts me with his snouter under my arm!!! oweeee like a torch burn!!! I put my hand down in front of me to get up and glory stepped on my hand~! lifted it up and s...	Debilyn	9	459	Jul 24, 2013 by neshema2
	A Tough Night (Preview) I suspected the way my past week and a half has gone with my husband that he has been working his program his way. And as I say that, I need to look where I have been working my program my way, "if I spot it then maybe I got it". I lost my temper with him last evening and crossed over onto his side of t...	PP	14	527	Jul 24, 2013 by PP
	2 years today I have been divorced (Preview) I thought it would be easier, but yet I never thought I could do it at the same time. I have made it through a full year of school and have 2 more years to go. I work 2 part time jobs for the summer then back to just 1 when school starts back up. I have 2 finals on Thursday and am accomplishing more than I ever imagi...	Breakingfree	8	465	Jul 24, 2013 by Pushka
	Vacation!! (Preview) I am at the beach in Ocean City, Maryland. This is the beach we came to growing up every year of my childhood. It is fun to relive them as an adult but also share them with my partner who grew up in Alabama (we live together in Fort Lauderdale now). I was at the end of the boardwalk looking at the rides I used to r...	pinkchip	7	253	Jul 24, 2013 by ilovedogs
	Am I naive? (Preview) Am I naive, or am just trying to give myself hope? ASon is bipolar. When he takes the meds he is ok, works, has a life. Then he decides that he is fine and doesn't need them and he can't live with all the water and peeing. So he tapers down and starts drinking until the next hideous event. Then back to square on...	laurab	5	474	Jul 23, 2013 by neshema2
	questions regarding meeting (Preview) Hello members I am hoping you can help me regarding meetings. I called the local chapter and only got their answering machine and didn't feel like leaving a message. I should have become a member so many years ago but for so many reasons I didn't. I guess I was an ostrich with my head stuck in the sand. ...	needy	6	356	Jul 23, 2013 by neshema2
	Need E/S/H - Son (Preview) As some of you know, my son was arrested and put in jail again. He was released in a blinding storm some time on Saturday morning. While I was at work, he called and left a message that he was in the hospital and gave a list of symptoms. He told me he'd call again. On Sunday morning, at 7 am, the phone rang....	grateful2be	13	448	Jul 23, 2013 by neshema2
	Changes (Preview) Lately, I have been hit up on w/a lot of CHANGE...and so far, I don't like any of them......Sister Gini obviously worse with her Alzheimers.....Moma Aunt Helen being moved out of her assist. living pvt. apartment to WHERE??? nobody has told me yet (as of 1pm today) AND a client I thought I had "b...	neshema2	4	333	Jul 23, 2013 by neshema2
	tomorrow(July 23rd) is my BB birthday! (Preview) Tomorrow is definitely going to be a good day! I have good plans & won't be on here that day. I am just so grateful for another day of recovery & hope for the future. I am turning 47 & I don't look a day over 46! I am such a comic! I just love to make people laugh, lighten the mood. So, after my 27 year...	Hoot Nanny	4	298	Jul 23, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	My reading from Hope For Today... (Preview) Life has shifted for me- I am willingly waiting for the pension- in 2 or more years time- but am working and getting dug in to work part time for another ten years. On my income the pension will be a fair amount of money. I want to fund some regular travel. In my neck of the woods we have sometimes welcomed vi...	DavidG	5	669	Jul 23, 2013 by hotrod
	The best thing about recovery! (Preview) The best thing about recovery for me is the realizations that just keep coming. I am open to looking inside and finding out more about me. I am no longer terrified of the guilt. I can dig in and find that defect of character and I can face it, accept it and be willing to change it or replace it. Before Alanon t...	el-cee	7	378	Jul 23, 2013 by hotrod
	Learning how to love myself! (Preview) I can't believe it took me 3+ yrs. to come out of denial about my xabf being an alcoholic and addict. I really wasn't in denial, it was more like , he has a canibus card and he uses it for medical reason, his back and sciatia nerve pain. and the beer, he drinks only 2-5 cans during a week-end when he is here and...	Highlyfavored	6	410	Jul 23, 2013 by Breakingfree
	New Here..Really Need Advice help (Preview) Hi there, I'll try to keep my background brief. Here is the deal. My brother and I always lived with my grandparents and my mother. My mother had addiction problems and eventually died from a heroin overdose when I was 17 and my brother was 12 (I'm 34 now). My brother was the one who found my mother and it w...	jaycasale	21	10586	Jul 23, 2013 by neshema2
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