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Hello members I am hoping you can help me regarding meetings. I called the local chapter and only got their answering machine and didn't feel like leaving a message. I should have become a member so many years ago but for so many reasons I didn't. I guess I was an ostrich with my head stuck in the sand. My husband was an alcoholic and passed away four months ago in his sleep, the cause of death still is unknown. Grieving has been difficult, a month ago I thought I forgave my husband but guess not, I am so angry at my husband and angry at myself. My husband isolated himself from the family to drink. My bereavement support group suggested I go to al-anon meetings. Would you recommend I go?
Welcome to Miracles in Progress. I am so very sorry to read of the loss of your husband and can so relate to the anger and sadness that you feel at your loss. My husband also passed suddenly and I felt the anger, rage, loss in such a powerful manner. Alanon was definitely the best resource for me. I urge you to check out your local face to face meetings and attend as many and as often as you are able.
It is at these meetings that you will find members who understand a few others can. Sharing , breaking the isolation, and developing new tools to release the past brought me to new place and a new opportunities to live life on life's term
Please also keep coming back here and sharing the journey.
Al-anon is for anyone who has been effected by another persons drinking. Many of us here have become an MIP family who love and support each other. Many of us also make it to face to face al-anon meetings it has made a huge difference for me. I hope you can find some meetings and give it a try. Sending you love and support!
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Sending you love and support on your journey always! BreakingFree
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" Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional."
"Serenity is when your body and mind are in the same place."
Thank you everyone for your quick replies. I am gathering up my courage and going to my first meeting tonight. Not sure why, but I am absolutely terrified.
so sorry for your loss, and yes, I can relate to the "after" anger...U grieve the loss, going through the passing and then all of a sudden when time goes by you realized that you are majorally pi**ed off
and that is very very normal and to be expected..even tho the passing was sad, he hurt you..hurt the marriage
and YES YES YES re: the alanon , should you go...absolutely....In the program you will learn the steps, traditions, meetings and you can work through the anger and put it away
When My A mother died...I didn't really feel much when she passed b/c there had been so much pain she caused, however not until recovery did I realize that I had unresolved anger at her, at my sire...oh yea,and program has helped me feel all the emotions....experience them all, do the anger, grief, crying, etc., then I am like at this place where I just want to move on.....I want to make my peace with what was and can't be changed and MOVE ON
you will to....welcome to the MIP board...
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