Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

JerryF · JerryF

Aloha all and thanks for continuing the support. My computer attempted suicide after failing a series of step 1 attempts. I took it too a computer sponsor and it needs more support so that is what I will do with it. Hope this report makes the family. Still reading and getting blessed. (((hugs)...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's author uses an avalanche to help visualize best practices in dealing with a problem drinker (qualifier) and our own challenges.Avalanche: As snow piles up, risk of avalanche increases. Ill advised actions: Jump in front of approaching avalanche, or take action to trigger avalanche over...

Overcome · Overcome

I have been dealing with many fears lately (I'm not proud to admit, but unless we get honest in this program we can't heal, right?), by sharing here I'm hoping to overcome some of them. In the last two years I have become increasingly scared to drive, scared to cook (meaning I don't know what to do), scare...

Overcome · Overcome

If you'd like to join us in a meeting tonight, please click on Chat room entrance above and it will take you to the room. Hope you join us! Meeting last from 9 - 10 p.m.

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 12/7, cites a paragraph from a poet : Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible without surrender, be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly; listen to others, even the dull and ignor...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about decision making and the difficulties that can be tied to that process. The writer describes trying to look for his/her HPs will when making decisions. Although the writer would love to see an obvious sign, validating a choice or warning against it, wh...

DavidG · DavidG

Something I am working on- plus heaps and heaps of group based journalling here. ... USING MUSIC AS THERAPY... I think some of us invent ways of getting better.I am lucky in a way- outside of the USA.Appropriate therapy is a long way off here- even more so on my budget!Four years ago I found out I c...

Bettertomorrow · Bettertomorrow

Hello friends. Sorry I have not posted for awhile, but I have been reading your shares and hope. I feel like I have hit a bit of a brick wall and while I am focusing on odat - I still feel like I am trudging through treacle and just need to hear your e,s,h as a light at the end of my tunnel. I have separated fr...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP family. Today's reading talks about how an attitude of gratitude really can change things up. The author suggests that they were sure there had to be somebody in this world who would understand all moods, always have time for them and always bring a smile to their face. Fairy-tale...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Running a bit later than usual with today's post, and appreciative of the program, which has taught me to be gentle with myself in situations where things don't go according to my plans.

Today's author reflects on how easy it is to list a loved one's limitations and opportunities the l...

DavidG · DavidG

Cooler here. It nearly froze yesterday morning. Getting towards summer though... The top share here this morning as as good as anything I have read in our literature. I am awed and inspired. But I need to go onto my own tangent... As I moved through my teens I had a grandmother and an...

a4l · a4l

Was talking to daughter about kindness today. We somehow got to discussing hypothetical half sandwiches to consider when it's kind to give and when it's inappropriate. With her hypothetical half a sand which and imagining not having any food at home for the rest of the day or the next day, she if faced...

DavidG · DavidG

I like to see feedback in our group. For me an example is a good reacher. Attraction and not promotion. My nephews ex. went through a four month treatment a few months ago... he aim was to get her kids back. "P" is the form of meth here in NZ and it is fairly rampant. But K. seems to have beaten it. On meth...

Lyne · Lyne

The author of the reading for Monday, 11/30, discusses how we can learn something from everyone who enters our life. People can be mirrors, showing us our better or worse qualities. Some can help us resolve conflicts from the past. They can be catalysts, activating parts of ourselves. And other...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about letting go of resentment and finding acceptance. The writer describes having grown up feeling frustration and anger toward his/her mother, not because she was an alcoholic, but because she did not protect her children from her husband who was abusi...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Good Morning ((Everyone)) Today's reading touches on the confusion the author felt concerning their character trai...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading is so amazing that I am going to put the quotation first: "When it gets dark enough, you can see the stars." -- Charles A. Beard (American historian) Today's author says "I am a survivor" -- having survived many troubles, and come out as a human being with dignity, a wealth of experienc...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP....happy Thanksgiving to one and all. I am grateful each of you is a part of my journey. Today's reading is about the family disease of alcoholism. Many of us arrive to Al-Anon and aren't certain if we belong. As we learn more about the disease and it's reaches, we come to see that even i...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Yea, lots of bad crap goin on this year with the disease, economy, etc., but even so, I can say THANK you to HP that my needs have been met so far and I am recovering from this latest spasm that I think I caused by jumping the gun and not waiting for the original one to heal, so i piled up insult after insult, bu...

mamalioness · mamalioness

hey Everyone!!! Missed you guys I've been so sick with my back...spasm after spasm so I decided, after I talked with my doctor to do my own research, now that I know its not my spine, but nerve damage, myofascial issues caused by the C_PTSD I am recovering from the latest and had to change my exercise prot...

pinkchip · pinkchip

In today's world in general, I find myself repeatedly questioning how people can think a certain way that I consider absurd or wrong. The healthy lessons I learned in alanon have an immediately calming come back to this line of thinking, as I can let myself get pretty wrapped up in this to the point I'm...

SayLaV · SayLaV

I have been stuggling once again with guilt. My A son has gone down the rabbit hole again. At 34 yrs old he is not getting to the "hit bottom" part I thought would maybe happen someday. It has always helped to think about "Didn't cause it, Cannot control it, Cannot cure it. It's that awful knot in my stomach...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading from C2C, the author reflects on their initial approach to Al-Anon. They went to meetings unless there was something else to do, didn't get a sponsor, knew that a close relative drank too much, and didn't see a personal need for very much help. Still, the author's growth in the prog...

DavidG · DavidG

Less and less angst as I go on... or so it seems... went out to a singing acting on person show last night. I did fall asleep for about 10 mins- usual for me- and something I may have to live with. But I was asked to be a guest poet next Friday night... being a support person for younger artists... oh my! Th...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's author weighs using meeting shares for detailed blow by blow descriptions of perceived misdeeds of others, versus their much more valuable potential: sharing constructive, program based takeaways that may help others.The former may enforce the thought that we all experience similar t...

DavidG · DavidG

Below is a share I pinned up on the business board in March. In march I was going through a really rough time. It seemed to me to be life threatening. Threatening my identity, in effect. Looking back on it it was by me and for me. But I was able to lean this MIP Alanon group heavily. And having gaine...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... ...kia ora koutou... my therapy seems to be working...! I see and hear people going to specialists, and expect this or that treatment to work for them. Sometimes, or often, it does... I find that C-PTSD is an inside job, and we, the suffers are the only ones who really and fully know wh...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about how for some of us the holidays can be a difficult time. The writer describes how the holidays were always connected to the depression of his/her father, during childhood and in adult life as well. The writer describes the difference in adult life and...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 11/23, is a goal the writer has not to be afraid of anythingno dreads, no unreality, no focus on yesterday. Instead, the author will have a reliance on HP for protection and guidance. Todays reminder is quite profound: If I live just this one day at a time, I will not so readily en...

DavidG · DavidG

A good friend/member has become the District Rep. He said I might become one after him? But I am not a GR. I looked him in the eye and pointed at the younger upcoming members- and told him straight to look for his successor there. Our southern-most city if a small provincial town by world standards. Bu...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Today, the reading in Courage to Change talks about how we begin to feel after some good time with the program. We begin to feel strong, healthy again. Many may feel like we no longer need Al-Anon because we shouldn't have anymore problems. When difficulties arise (and they will), we may feel like ther...

Kokopelli · Kokopelli

Hello, My divorce will be finalized next week. I am keeping the house. My question is how did others deal with the packing up and moving out process? We have still been living in the same household, which has made this whole situation even harder. My soon to be ex has not been taking care of himself and ju...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading starts with the example of taming a horse. The important thing is not to break the horse's spirit -- and the same with any creature that is full of joy in being alive. When living with alcoholism had broken the author's spirit, the Al-Anon fellowship allowed that spirit to heal. One th...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Happy Thursday MIP. The reading for today discusses our goal in Al-Anon - an overall sense of wellness - mental, spiritual and emotional. The writer suggests lamenting for years over the absence of a label that would help identify the soul sickness that brought them to Al-Anon. She found many of t...

a4l · a4l

There's magic in this program and it's tips tools and suggestions alright. Keep showing up and do the next right thing. Betty taught me that. She was a really special lady. I'm so glad she was there to walk me through doing the next right thing so that I could experience a new way of life really. I put it in...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author reflects on the second step (Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.) To the author, a return to sanity is about more than being able to function in a responsible and realistic way. Living in a sane way also includes play, taking a br...

sad_dog_mommy · sad_dog_mommy

One night at an FTF al-anon meeting someone said a 'warning sign' of doing too much for others was the feeling of resentment. I sort of stored that thought into the back of my brain until recently when I began to feel overwhelming resentment. I live with my BF in a house that I bought before I met him. I h...

Lyne · Lyne

The writing for Monday, 11/16, asks the question, how does one actually detach? The writer admits it isnt easy when we are embroiled in all kinds of trouble day after day. They remind us to find a moment in the day to express a few words and think of their meaning: Let go and let God, Live and let live, or...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's reading considers the importance of hearing "Keep Coming Back" both early and well along in our recovery. A tendency to want to want to apply a 'fix' along with an impatience for 'just' sitting down at a meeting may feed a feeling that we can do go it alone. Challenges in recovery don't cease aft...

Maresie888 · Maresie888

I appreciate that AA came up with various slogans and I have had to learn to interpret them. Everyday the bv wisdom of those slogans is a comfort to me. There is being paralyzed by fear which is obviously very clearly possible in.a pandemic. Then there is a healthy fear I work at night. Due to day light...

Salome · Salome

Hello Alanon family, I have been a member of the MIP family since 2001 when I first stumbled upon the group before I really knew what Alanon was. I think my last posts were in 2010/2011. I am not sure when or why I stopped posting. I was just reading some of my old posts from my previous profile. I was thinki...

DavidG · DavidG

...what is left after years of Alanon? My f2f Alanon assembly is next week. I have been expecting it... I had some issues with Alanon in our district. I hav been sharing with this group now for 8 years- and have learned a thing or two. I have seen where I missed the boat a time for two ago. I cannot re-litigat...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is focused on our slogan Let Go and Let God. The writer describes confusion about this phrase as to what we should be letting go of and what we are allowing God to do! Looking at specific situations, the writer was able to let go of trying to control other people and t...

Cooper · Cooper

To the best of my knowledge my son has been clean for six years, since he suffered an overdose at the age of 21. After the OD he moved to another state, has worked at the same job continuously, has a stable living environment, and has had a couple of nice girlfriends. He has been weight lifting and hiking...

Freetime · Freetime

"First Things First" is the topic of today's reading. The author discovered that things which are urgent are rarely important, and things which are important are rarely urgent. By getting bogged down in trivial matters, they may forget to make time for what is important. The author's top priority...

texas yankee · texas yankee

Sometimes I feel like my Al Anon journey is like driving down a bumpy, twisting and turning road, with many of the directional signs point the wrong direction, and me trying to "remember" what the map looked like. Maybe my latest "Ah ha!" moment can help someone else preserve their sanity. My younger...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

I am posting Friday night so that all the people on the east coast may see this in the early a.m. Sat! Step 6 talks about becoming entirely ready to have God remove all my defects of character. As the author continues explaining, they say that this readiness rarely appears in a sudden blinding flash of en...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

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SunnyFrogs · SunnyFrogs

I'm embarrassed to admit it, that I purposely started an argument. I did though, I didn't realize it at the time but in hindsight that's precisely what I did. A couple of days ago I was feeling so much tension around AH and it gave me bad anxiety. I couldn't stand the way I was feeling and I felt like someth...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP family. Today's reading discusses the many tools of our program. The author suggests a lack of handiness when it comes to using hand/power tools. Another teaches how to oil a saw so it works more smoothly - and gives cause for pause. In our program, learning how to oil a saw is a littl...

DavidG · DavidG

... a lot of things about me were damaged and wounded. In my growing years- sometimes- my reality was too much to bear. I treasure and celebrate little changes, moment on moment, day by day, dia por dia, month by month and year by year. I attend a meeting on Wednesdays in Kent- Great Britain. It is a smal...

a4l · a4l

I'm in a depression. I will go see a doctor this coming week. I know the signs: constant feeling of sadness, not eating, lack of concentration and for me, I just go into shutdown mode where I function to the bare minimum required and basically stay in bed or on the couch reading garbage that serves me no pu...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP!!! In today's share, the author reflects on the definition of insanity - doing something over and over the same way and expecting different results. The author tried to control people, thinking that they knew best that their way was the right way. Step 3, turning our will and our lives over...

Albion · Albion

Hi Guys a bit of advice please. I have been in Al-Anon for just over 2 years and I honestly cant think it enough. I honestly felt I was losing my mind before I got to meetings. I'm a recovering alcoholic and have been sober for 24 years. When I met my wife she barely drank at all but over the last 6 years or so it p...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

What can I do right here, right now? From today's page in C2C, this is the question we can ask ourselves to help rightsize our (sometimes exaggerated) sense of responsibility. Often the anxiety we feel is based upon something we fear in the future (minutes, hours, days, weeks) or something already co...

Lyne · Lyne

Manipulation is the focus for the reading on Monday, 11/9. The author reflects upon the use of manipulating others as a creative solution to get what we want. Especially in an alcoholic environment, it may feel like manipulation is necessary for survival. It is suggested that program can teach us...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... Day dawning here in the South Pacific... ...mine was a hopeless case- tired- exhausted. Angry and worse- rage. Sadness and grief beyond measure- you name it. I was in a room with other frightened people. And I stayed in this room- and other rooms for years. And it has paid off. Tomorrow we...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading focuses on why we are attracted to alcoholics. How is it that alcoholism becomes part of our lives? For a lot of us, there is a familiarity with the disease, and even with an issue that can affect our lives so negatively, we are drawn to what we know. It took me a lon...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Today's reading is from The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie. "There is a gift for us in each relationship that comes our way. Sometimes the gift is a behavior we're learning to acquire: detachment, self-esteem, becoming confident enough to set a boundary, or owning our own power in another w...

SunnyFrogs · SunnyFrogs

Sometimes I feel like focusing on myself is doing something "wrong". Speaking up for myself .setting boundaries and sticking to them sometimes feels wrong. I know it's not wrong but it feels like it is at times. I can be doing pretty good and then something happens with/to somebody else and I start...

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	Still here reading and growing (Preview) Aloha all and thanks for continuing the support. My computer attempted suicide after failing a series of step 1 attempts. I took it too a computer sponsor and it needs more support so that is what I will do with it. Hope this report makes the family. Still reading and getting blessed. (((hugs)...	JerryF	10	596	Dec 9, 2020 by JerryF
	12/8/20 Avalanches : Recovery (Preview) Today's author uses an avalanche to help visualize best practices in dealing with a problem drinker (qualifier) and our own challenges.Avalanche: As snow piles up, risk of avalanche increases. Ill advised actions: Jump in front of approaching avalanche, or take action to trigger avalanche over...	Enigmatic	5	508	Dec 8, 2020 by DavidG
	Fear - dealing with the after effects of living in an alcoholic marriage (Preview) I have been dealing with many fears lately (I'm not proud to admit, but unless we get honest in this program we can't heal, right?), by sharing here I'm hoping to overcome some of them. In the last two years I have become increasingly scared to drive, scared to cook (meaning I don't know what to do), scare...	Overcome	15	1047	Dec 8, 2020 by a4l
	Meeting starting in chat room (Preview) If you'd like to join us in a meeting tonight, please click on Chat room entrance above and it will take you to the room. Hope you join us! Meeting last from 9 - 10 p.m.	Overcome	0	481	Dec 7, 2020 by Overcome
	ODAT in alanon, 12/7 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 12/7, cites a paragraph from a poet : Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible without surrender, be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly; listen to others, even the dull and ignor...	Lyne	4	538	Dec 7, 2020 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today Dec 6 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about decision making and the difficulties that can be tied to that process. The writer describes trying to look for his/her HPs will when making decisions. Although the writer would love to see an obvious sign, validating a choice or warning against it, wh...	yanksfan51	5	523	Dec 6, 2020 by DavidG
	Combining group work and therapy... (Preview) Something I am working on- plus heaps and heaps of group based journalling here. ... USING MUSIC AS THERAPY... I think some of us invent ways of getting better.I am lucky in a way- outside of the USA.Appropriate therapy is a long way off here- even more so on my budget!Four years ago I found out I c...	DavidG	4	679	Dec 5, 2020 by DavidG
	This is hard (Preview) Hello friends. Sorry I have not posted for awhile, but I have been reading your shares and hope. I feel like I have hit a bit of a brick wall and while I am focusing on odat - I still feel like I am trudging through treacle and just need to hear your e,s,h as a light at the end of my tunnel. I have separated fr...	Bettertomorrow	3	1490	Dec 3, 2020 by Bettertomorrow
	Courage to Change 12/3 (Preview) Good morning MIP family. Today's reading talks about how an attitude of gratitude really can change things up. The author suggests that they were sure there had to be somebody in this world who would understand all moods, always have time for them and always bring a smile to their face. Fairy-tale...	Iamhere	3	1963	Dec 3, 2020 by Freetime
	Courage to Change December 2 (Preview) Hello MIP! Running a bit later than usual with today's post, and appreciative of the program, which has taught me to be gentle with myself in situations where things don't go according to my plans. Today's author reflects on how easy it is to list a loved one's limitations and opportunities the l...	Skorpi	1	515	Dec 2, 2020 by Iamhere
	My Sunday share... a step 10 for myself... (Preview) Cooler here. It nearly froze yesterday morning. Getting towards summer though... The top share here this morning as as good as anything I have read in our literature. I am awed and inspired. But I need to go onto my own tangent... As I moved through my teens I had a grandmother and an...	DavidG	4	577	Dec 2, 2020 by Maresie888
	On compassion. (Preview) Was talking to daughter about kindness today. We somehow got to discussing hypothetical half sandwiches to consider when it's kind to give and when it's inappropriate. With her hypothetical half a sand which and imagining not having any food at home for the rest of the day or the next day, she if faced...	a4l	7	926	Dec 1, 2020 by Jill
	Some good news on the home front... (Preview) I like to see feedback in our group. For me an example is a good reacher. Attraction and not promotion. My nephews ex. went through a four month treatment a few months ago... he aim was to get her kids back. "P" is the form of meth here in NZ and it is fairly rampant. But K. seems to have beaten it. On meth...	DavidG	2	564	Dec 1, 2020 by a4l
	C2C, 11/30 (Preview) The author of the reading for Monday, 11/30, discusses how we can learn something from everyone who enters our life. People can be mirrors, showing us our better or worse qualities. Some can help us resolve conflicts from the past. They can be catalysts, activating parts of ourselves. And other...	Lyne	3	628	Nov 30, 2020 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today Nov 29 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about letting go of resentment and finding acceptance. The writer describes having grown up feeling frustration and anger toward his/her mother, not because she was an alcoholic, but because she did not protect her children from her husband who was abusi...	yanksfan51	4	623	Nov 29, 2020 by a4l
	Courage to Change November 28 (Preview) Good Morning ((Everyone)) Today's reading touches on the confusion the author felt concerning their character trai...	tiredtonite	4	594	Nov 28, 2020 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change, November 27 (Preview) Today's reading is so amazing that I am going to put the quotation first: "When it gets dark enough, you can see the stars." -- Charles A. Beard (American historian) Today's author says "I am a survivor" -- having survived many troubles, and come out as a human being with dignity, a wealth of experienc...	Freetime	3	547	Nov 28, 2020 by a4l
	Courage to Change 11/26 (Preview) Good morning MIP....happy Thanksgiving to one and all. I am grateful each of you is a part of my journey. Today's reading is about the family disease of alcoholism. Many of us arrive to Al-Anon and aren't certain if we belong. As we learn more about the disease and it's reaches, we come to see that even i...	Iamhere	6	798	Nov 26, 2020 by DavidG
	HAPPY and SAFE Thanksgiving all (Preview) Yea, lots of bad crap goin on this year with the disease, economy, etc., but even so, I can say THANK you to HP that my needs have been met so far and I am recovering from this latest spasm that I think I caused by jumping the gun and not waiting for the original one to heal, so i piled up insult after insult, bu...	mamalioness	2	533	Nov 26, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Helloooo sorry its been so long (Preview) hey Everyone!!! Missed you guys I've been so sick with my back...spasm after spasm so I decided, after I talked with my doctor to do my own research, now that I know its not my spine, but nerve damage, myofascial issues caused by the C_PTSD I am recovering from the latest and had to change my exercise prot...	mamalioness	7	560	Nov 25, 2020 by mamalioness
	How Can You Think That Way??? (Preview) In today's world in general, I find myself repeatedly questioning how people can think a certain way that I consider absurd or wrong. The healthy lessons I learned in alanon have an immediately calming come back to this line of thinking, as I can let myself get pretty wrapped up in this to the point I'm...	pinkchip	9	2871	Nov 25, 2020 by Iamhere
	I'm returning for help after a few years of not being active in Alanon. (Preview) I have been stuggling once again with guilt. My A son has gone down the rabbit hole again. At 34 yrs old he is not getting to the "hit bottom" part I thought would maybe happen someday. It has always helped to think about "Didn't cause it, Cannot control it, Cannot cure it. It's that awful knot in my stomach...	SayLaV	10	666	Nov 25, 2020 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change November 25 (Preview) In today's reading from C2C, the author reflects on their initial approach to Al-Anon. They went to meetings unless there was something else to do, didn't get a sponsor, knew that a close relative drank too much, and didn't see a personal need for very much help. Still, the author's growth in the prog...	Skorpi	4	850	Nov 25, 2020 by JerryF
	A Saturday share... (Preview) Less and less angst as I go on... or so it seems... went out to a singing acting on person show last night. I did fall asleep for about 10 mins- usual for me- and something I may have to live with. But I was asked to be a guest poet next Friday night... being a support person for younger artists... oh my! Th...	DavidG	13	5394	Nov 25, 2020 by Maresie888
	11/24/20 ODAT - Helping Others (Preview) Today's author weighs using meeting shares for detailed blow by blow descriptions of perceived misdeeds of others, versus their much more valuable potential: sharing constructive, program based takeaways that may help others.The former may enforce the thought that we all experience similar t...	Enigmatic	6	592	Nov 25, 2020 by Maresie888
	Fears and tears... (Preview) Below is a share I pinned up on the business board in March. In march I was going through a really rough time. It seemed to me to be life threatening. Threatening my identity, in effect. Looking back on it it was by me and for me. But I was able to lean this MIP Alanon group heavily. And having gaine...	DavidG	1	550	Nov 25, 2020 by Maresie888
	...learning to live, and living to learn... (Preview) Hi y'all... ...kia ora koutou... my therapy seems to be working...! I see and hear people going to specialists, and expect this or that treatment to work for them. Sometimes, or often, it does... I find that C-PTSD is an inside job, and we, the suffers are the only ones who really and fully know wh...	DavidG	3	602	Nov 24, 2020 by mamalioness
	Hope for Today Nov 22 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about how for some of us the holidays can be a difficult time. The writer describes how the holidays were always connected to the depression of his/her father, during childhood and in adult life as well. The writer describes the difference in adult life and...	yanksfan51	5	4036	Nov 23, 2020 by Maresie888
	ODAT in alanon, 11/23 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 11/23, is a goal the writer has not to be afraid of anythingno dreads, no unreality, no focus on yesterday. Instead, the author will have a reliance on HP for protection and guidance. Todays reminder is quite profound: If I live just this one day at a time, I will not so readily en...	Lyne	4	720	Nov 23, 2020 by Maresie888
	...our local assembly... (Preview) A good friend/member has become the District Rep. He said I might become one after him? But I am not a GR. I looked him in the eye and pointed at the younger upcoming members- and told him straight to look for his successor there. Our southern-most city if a small provincial town by world standards. Bu...	DavidG	1	595	Nov 23, 2020 by Lyne
	C2C 11/21/2020 (Preview) Today, the reading in Courage to Change talks about how we begin to feel after some good time with the program. We begin to feel strong, healthy again. Many may feel like we no longer need Al-Anon because we shouldn't have anymore problems. When difficulties arise (and they will), we may feel like ther...	PosiesandPuppies	5	656	Nov 22, 2020 by JerryF
	Moving out (Preview) Hello, My divorce will be finalized next week. I am keeping the house. My question is how did others deal with the packing up and moving out process? We have still been living in the same household, which has made this whole situation even harder. My soon to be ex has not been taking care of himself and ju...	Kokopelli	14	1401	Nov 21, 2020 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change - November 20 (Preview) Today's reading starts with the example of taming a horse. The important thing is not to break the horse's spirit -- and the same with any creature that is full of joy in being alive. When living with alcoholism had broken the author's spirit, the Al-Anon fellowship allowed that spirit to heal. One th...	Freetime	4	963	Nov 20, 2020 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change 11/19 (Preview) Happy Thursday MIP. The reading for today discusses our goal in Al-Anon - an overall sense of wellness - mental, spiritual and emotional. The writer suggests lamenting for years over the absence of a label that would help identify the soul sickness that brought them to Al-Anon. She found many of t...	Iamhere	4	692	Nov 19, 2020 by WendyP
	When you do your part. (Preview) There's magic in this program and it's tips tools and suggestions alright. Keep showing up and do the next right thing. Betty taught me that. She was a really special lady. I'm so glad she was there to walk me through doing the next right thing so that I could experience a new way of life really. I put it in...	a4l	7	695	Nov 19, 2020 by a4l
	Courage to Change November 18 (Preview) In today's reading, the author reflects on the second step (Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.) To the author, a return to sanity is about more than being able to function in a responsible and realistic way. Living in a sane way also includes play, taking a br...	Skorpi	4	543	Nov 19, 2020 by Iamhere
	codependency & resentment (Preview) One night at an FTF al-anon meeting someone said a 'warning sign' of doing too much for others was the feeling of resentment. I sort of stored that thought into the back of my brain until recently when I began to feel overwhelming resentment. I live with my BF in a house that I bought before I met him. I h...	sad_dog_mommy	4	3450	Nov 18, 2020 by Skorpi
	ODAT in alanon, 11/16 (Preview) The writing for Monday, 11/16, asks the question, how does one actually detach? The writer admits it isnt easy when we are embroiled in all kinds of trouble day after day. They remind us to find a moment in the day to express a few words and think of their meaning: Let go and let God, Live and let live, or...	Lyne	6	611	Nov 17, 2020 by Freetime
	11/17/20 C2C No Situation Too Difficult... (Preview) Today's reading considers the importance of hearing "Keep Coming Back" both early and well along in our recovery. A tendency to want to want to apply a 'fix' along with an impatience for 'just' sitting down at a meeting may feed a feeling that we can do go it alone. Challenges in recovery don't cease aft...	Enigmatic	5	1969	Nov 17, 2020 by Freetime
	Gratitude (Preview) I appreciate that AA came up with various slogans and I have had to learn to interpret them. Everyday the bv wisdom of those slogans is a comfort to me. There is being paralyzed by fear which is obviously very clearly possible in.a pandemic. Then there is a healthy fear I work at night. Due to day light...	Maresie888	4	705	Nov 17, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Saying hello (Preview) Hello Alanon family, I have been a member of the MIP family since 2001 when I first stumbled upon the group before I really knew what Alanon was. I think my last posts were in 2010/2011. I am not sure when or why I stopped posting. I was just reading some of my old posts from my previous profile. I was thinki...	Salome	6	4021	Nov 16, 2020 by JerryF
	J.A.D.E. AND jaded... (Preview) ...what is left after years of Alanon? My f2f Alanon assembly is next week. I have been expecting it... I had some issues with Alanon in our district. I hav been sharing with this group now for 8 years- and have learned a thing or two. I have seen where I missed the boat a time for two ago. I cannot re-litigat...	DavidG	3	3366	Nov 16, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Hope for Today Nov 15 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is focused on our slogan Let Go and Let God. The writer describes confusion about this phrase as to what we should be letting go of and what we are allowing God to do! Looking at specific situations, the writer was able to let go of trying to control other people and t...	yanksfan51	3	654	Nov 16, 2020 by Iamhere
	Son may be using again...not sure what to do (Preview) To the best of my knowledge my son has been clean for six years, since he suffered an overdose at the age of 21. After the OD he moved to another state, has worked at the same job continuously, has a stable living environment, and has had a couple of nice girlfriends. He has been weight lifting and hiking...	Cooper	9	4715	Nov 16, 2020 by Salome
	Courage to Change, November 13 (Preview) "First Things First" is the topic of today's reading. The author discovered that things which are urgent are rarely important, and things which are important are rarely urgent. By getting bogged down in trivial matters, they may forget to make time for what is important. The author's top priority...	Freetime	4	3617	Nov 15, 2020 by Lyne
	Another "Ah ha!" moment about my son (Preview) Sometimes I feel like my Al Anon journey is like driving down a bumpy, twisting and turning road, with many of the directional signs point the wrong direction, and me trying to "remember" what the map looked like. Maybe my latest "Ah ha!" moment can help someone else preserve their sanity. My younger...	texas yankee	3	933	Nov 14, 2020 by Iamhere
	COURAGE TO CHANGE 11/14/20 (Preview) I am posting Friday night so that all the people on the east coast may see this in the early a.m. Sat! Step 6 talks about becoming entirely ready to have God remove all my defects of character. As the author continues explaining, they say that this readiness rarely appears in a sudden blinding flash of en...	PosiesandPuppies	4	1660	Nov 14, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Another day of remembrance... (Preview) We	Hoot Nanny	6	2871	Nov 13, 2020 by DavidG
	I Purposely Started An Argument (Preview) I'm embarrassed to admit it, that I purposely started an argument. I did though, I didn't realize it at the time but in hindsight that's precisely what I did. A couple of days ago I was feeling so much tension around AH and it gave me bad anxiety. I couldn't stand the way I was feeling and I felt like someth...	SunnyFrogs	5	737	Nov 13, 2020 by newnoz
	C2C - 11/12 (Preview) Good morning MIP family. Today's reading discusses the many tools of our program. The author suggests a lack of handiness when it comes to using hand/power tools. Another teaches how to oil a saw so it works more smoothly - and gives cause for pause. In our program, learning how to oil a saw is a littl...	Iamhere	3	627	Nov 13, 2020 by Lyne
	A lunchtime share... (Preview) ... a lot of things about me were damaged and wounded. In my growing years- sometimes- my reality was too much to bear. I treasure and celebrate little changes, moment on moment, day by day, dia por dia, month by month and year by year. I attend a meeting on Wednesdays in Kent- Great Britain. It is a smal...	DavidG	5	1601	Nov 12, 2020 by SunnyFrogs
	Just a ramble. (Preview) I'm in a depression. I will go see a doctor this coming week. I know the signs: constant feeling of sadness, not eating, lack of concentration and for me, I just go into shutdown mode where I function to the bare minimum required and basically stay in bed or on the couch reading garbage that serves me no pu...	a4l	10	640	Nov 12, 2020 by DavidG
	Courage to Change November 11 (Preview) Hello MIP!!! In today's share, the author reflects on the definition of insanity - doing something over and over the same way and expecting different results. The author tried to control people, thinking that they knew best that their way was the right way. Step 3, turning our will and our lives over...	Skorpi	4	739	Nov 12, 2020 by a4l
	Sponsorship (Preview) Hi Guys a bit of advice please. I have been in Al-Anon for just over 2 years and I honestly cant think it enough. I honestly felt I was losing my mind before I got to meetings. I'm a recovering alcoholic and have been sober for 24 years. When I met my wife she barely drank at all but over the last 6 years or so it p...	Albion	18	5406	Nov 11, 2020 by Albion
	11/10/20 C2C Right Here, Right Now (Preview) What can I do right here, right now? From today's page in C2C, this is the question we can ask ourselves to help rightsize our (sometimes exaggerated) sense of responsibility. Often the anxiety we feel is based upon something we fear in the future (minutes, hours, days, weeks) or something already co...	Enigmatic	8	630	Nov 11, 2020 by sunmustshine
	C2C, 11/9 (Preview) Manipulation is the focus for the reading on Monday, 11/9. The author reflects upon the use of manipulating others as a creative solution to get what we want. Especially in an alcoholic environment, it may feel like manipulation is necessary for survival. It is suggested that program can teach us...	Lyne	4	630	Nov 9, 2020 by Iamhere
	Saturday Share Step 12... (Preview) Hi y'all... Day dawning here in the South Pacific... ...mine was a hopeless case- tired- exhausted. Angry and worse- rage. Sadness and grief beyond measure- you name it. I was in a room with other frightened people. And I stayed in this room- and other rooms for years. And it has paid off. Tomorrow we...	DavidG	4	634	Nov 9, 2020 by Maresie888
	Hope for Today Nov 8 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading focuses on why we are attracted to alcoholics. How is it that alcoholism becomes part of our lives? For a lot of us, there is a familiarity with the disease, and even with an issue that can affect our lives so negatively, we are drawn to what we know. It took me a lon...	yanksfan51	8	649	Nov 8, 2020 by yanksfan51
	THE DAILY - Sat 11/7/20 (Preview) Today's reading is from The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie. "There is a gift for us in each relationship that comes our way. Sometimes the gift is a behavior we're learning to acquire: detachment, self-esteem, becoming confident enough to set a boundary, or owning our own power in another w...	PosiesandPuppies	5	561	Nov 8, 2020 by a4l
	I'm Not Doing Anything Wrong (Preview) Sometimes I feel like focusing on myself is doing something "wrong". Speaking up for myself .setting boundaries and sticking to them sometimes feels wrong. I know it's not wrong but it feels like it is at times. I can be doing pretty good and then something happens with/to somebody else and I start...	SunnyFrogs	8	4694	Nov 6, 2020 by Maresie888
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