The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
The reading for Monday, 11/23, is a goal the writer has not to be afraid of anythingno dreads, no unreality, no focus on yesterday. Instead, the author will have a reliance on HP for protection and guidance.
Todays reminder is quite profound: If I live just this one day at a time, I will not so readily entertain fears of what might happen tomorrow. If I am concentrating on todays activities, there will be no room in my mind for fretting and worrying. I will fill every minute of this day with something good, seen, heard, or accomplished. Then when the day is ended, I can look back on it with satisfaction and serenity.
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My FOO consisted of a raging brother who controlled the household. I had reacted out of fear into adulthood. OMG what a waste of growing up without any joy, serenity, or peace. Thats one of the reasons being at peace and feeling serene is so important to me now. There are no more years to waste. Time is precious. Program has given me great growth in this area. Always grateful...
Great page, thank you Lyne for your service and ESH.
Fear has been a prime mover in the past, exposed by the wisdom of AlAnon and lessened greatly by focusing on the steps, slogans and reminders. The point is simple but so powerful: stay in the present, focus on what I can control, turn over all the rest to my higher power and leave it there.
Loved this part of the page: "If my mind is clouded with nameless dreads, I will track them down and expose their unreality. I will remind myself that God is in charge..."
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Paul
"...when we try to control others, we lose the ability to manage our own lives." - Paths to Recovery
Thank you Lyne for your service and the daily. Thank you both for your ESH & shares....The longer I live and practice recovery, the more value I see in being in this day, and only this day - letting go of the past and allowing the future to unfold. I'm always reminded of what my Aunt used to say when I would share my fears, frets, vents, etc. - "If you're worrying, you're not praying." For the love of all that is holy - this frustrated me for many, many years - and then...I realized that it's so, so true.
If I fill my mind/heart with faith in a power greater than I who can/does/will restore me to sanity/calm, there is no room for worry, fret, anxiety, fear. It's a decision - one that I embrace each day, upon awakening. It just seems to work well for me so it's not an optional moment each day, instead it's a loved new and healthy habit.
I woke up and realized that one year ago today, my 'golden girl' cousin was diagnosed with lung, liver and brain cancer. She wanted to battle and tried to battle, yet passed instead 30 days later. A part of me is working to find gratitude for this pandemic as it will allow me to focus differently during this holiday season. I can sit today with the sadness of missing her yet know that she's no longer in pain, no longer battling a deadly, painful disease, etc. It warms my heart to know that she passed first and was able to welcome our Betty and my sweet Layla who passed after...
Happy Monday all - make it a great day....that's my hope and plan!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
I have nothing more to add to what has already been shared than Mahalo...Thank You all. I did just a smidgen of my morning readings and a whole lot more meditation and mental recovery focus. I am now more interested in finishing up what I have left to do.
Again Mahalo and Ho`o Maika`i Blessings. ((((hugs))))
