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Easter, religion and faith
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Happy Easter everyone, mine has been spent so far, watching 5 episodes of The Mentalist, which I NEVER sit still this long; doing some dishes, drinking more coffee than I usually have time for and enjoying the silence, well, sort of silence, birds and the cold-induced ringing in my ears aside. One of m...
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likemyheart
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Rantings, Rumblings, and New Beginnings Pt. 1 ;)
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Hi everybody! Here we all are again on this fine day, and I hope you all are having a great Sunday. Many people are celebrating Easter and I have many fond memories of hunting for those sneaky eggs;) As I've gotten older and my kids are grown, this has turned into a more reflective time, and I usually find m...
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Raven Juniper
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Control
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I have realized that what I am trying to control is all of the people who want to control me into being who they want me to be. Confusing, right?! Like, wait...let me read that sentence again. When you're a people-pleaser your whole life, it's not comfortable to a lot of people when we stop. THIS is really...
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WorkingThroughIt
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Happy Easter….
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Wishing my MIP family Happy Easter with this picture of Springtime here in Italy...
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milkwood
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Happy Easter
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I am working twelve hour shifts today and tomorrow so happy Easter and I hope your days are peaceful. -- Edited by Wolfie55 on Sunday 20th of April 2014 03:09:55 AM
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Wolfie55
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Need suggestions on how to handle the anxiety
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I am having so much trouble getting control of my anxiety. I know I cannot control my AS, but it causes me so much anxiety knowing he is using. he thinks I don't know but it is obvious. Not worrying about the what if's seems impossible for me today. any advise would be greatly appreciated.
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Sallygcoe
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Tolerated, but not celebrated.
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Hi guys, my name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon.Recently Ive been examining my relationships with people and the ones that make me unhappy. I asked why they were making me so unhappy and what it was about them that left me wanting more internally. Then one day I saw a saying that went B...
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slogan_jim
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so sad...
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I am very down this morning. I don't feel much like talking to anyone but I do want to share on here. I am going through a lot of trials in my life right now. I thought that I was doing OK for awhile but now it seems that things are going terribly wrong. I can't seem to shake the sadness. I have already shared mos...
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Hoot Nanny
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Violated RO stocking order
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Yesterday I decided to go to a hotel I wasn't feeling safe at home plus I needed do some paper work for housing Medicaid exc. I left the hotel to get something to eat and left my phone at the hotel . My AH sober 18 months shows up at the hotel and see my car there . The only way he would of known that is he was snoopi...
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Wisdom67
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Happy Easter (again) and other thoughts ..
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Well, I'm beyond excited after 5 years of either no internet service, .. crappy internet service I am finally able to go and have REAL internet service and I broke down and got cable to go with it. I may have to rethink that idea after a few months at least though for today we have it .. lol. I hate spending...
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SerenityRUS
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sometimes it's 2 steps back, and sometimes it's 1 step forward:in recovery
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This week I made a big step forward in my recovery. I noticed and realized so many things about myself, that kept me blocking for so long. A step 4 used to be a difficult thing for me, but I have made a practice and learned to do it more often it was then step 5 that i found even more difficultafter all the wron...
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tortuga
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Still holding others responsible for my happiness
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This whole 'recycling' thing in recovery is rough! I'd say one step forward, two steps back but then I get a really annoying 80s song stuck in my head. I have yet to get into some kind of regular groove that puts me already a few levels up (within myself, not on others), so that I can stop reacting all the ti...
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ClearTheFog
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more health issues...
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I will make this quick as I am having a hard time seeing out of my right eye. As most of you know last summer I had surgery on both of my eyes. They told me that if I had any issues to let them know. Well...yesterday I believe, I found a floater in my right eye. I already have had one in my left eye for about 10 years...
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Hoot Nanny
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I saw my son
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Good Morning Everyone I took yesterday and today off work so I could go visit my son. Yesterday I was going to clean and fiddle around and then today go for my visit. My son had been moved into the inmate working section because they gave him a job. Second day into the job he had a seizure so that ended his w...
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Cathyinaz
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No pain no gain?
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The past week has been filled with somewhat unpleasant experiences, as I have shared. And although I have been taking things in my stride and seeing the funny side, I guess there is some pent up anger in there because one night I did something strange and a bit disturbing. See, the next morning the alcoh...
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Melly1248
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Long week .. weird ..
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It has been a very, very long week. I'm emotionally and mentally exhausted in a good way. The kids and I have been very busy. I moved into my new place and finally today took the last load. I was just ready to be done. I could have done more .. honestly .. why bother .. I'm just to that point. These peopl...
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SerenityRUS
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Hello- I am new
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Hello everyone- I am new to this whole thing, I honestly do not know how or where to begin, but i'm sure I will figure it out. My wife suffers from Alcoholism and Drug abuse. Her drug abuse is a direct correspondence of her drinking. I love her very much and want her to be healthy and happy. She recently wil...
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SamToller
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more bad news! I am praying...
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I personally am not really under too much stress as some of my problems have been solved. The thing that really gets me is that my cousin just informed me yesterday that she is going to be living in her van starting this weekend. She told me to continue to text her but I can't email her anymore. Calling her s...
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Hoot Nanny
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Wisdom
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" Your best relationship should be the relationship with yourself." unk
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Beatrice
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So glad I am trusting my gut
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Okay so my Ex-A had a visit today. We agreed to meet at 7:15 to do an exchange in a public place. I did this at the suggestion of the police and family violence. The police have told me to keep my doors locked. He shows up at my house at 5:30. He is banging on the door for a half an hour. Trying to use my keyless ent...
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Truth
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the date
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This is my fifth step story. It's also the story of how I met my current wife. A version of this story appeared in the May 2010 issue of Grapevine, the monthly journal of Alcoholics Anonymous and this version is from a book I wrote about the gifts I have received in recovery. Hope it brings a bit of happines...
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Wolfie55
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Where I'm At
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I met with a friend last night for dinner. I guess she's more of an acquaintance. I met her when I was taking a class and we've stayed in touch. I don't know... I left feeling uncomfortable and just not good with myself and where I am at this time. I felt like I was sitting in a high chair with a sippy cup ac...
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tiredtonite
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In need of support
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I'm new here, and I've never attended an al-anon meeting before, although I probably should have...I'm not quite sure how this works, so I suppose providing a little introduction as to how I got here would help. I've had a lot of experience dealing with alcoholism, as both my brother and my husband are...
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laststraw899
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Feeling better already
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I shared this with my fake book friends but none of you all are there so I will share it here. I feel better already. More.....centered. I went to the meeting here Sunday night, woke up early this morning, took in a noon meeting....f2f.....came home had a nice meal with my wife, a nice long nap and now I'm w...
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Wolfie55
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Oh! Forgot to mention!!
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I had my first "government sponsored" driving lesson yesterday. The instructor they sent was awesome; I felt so at ease with her. I think because she's used to working with grown-ups instead of teenagers she had a completely different approach and made small talk the entire time; she sai...
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Melly1248
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Letters
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Without going into a lot of detail, I wasn't always cute and adorable like I am now. When I was in relationships I took hostages. Everything was about me and you were all out to get me. Through the twelve steps I learned that most of what I thought about myself about god and about the people around me was a di...
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Wolfie55
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step 5
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Step 5 is scary. Im doing my first official big step 5 today, revealling all my guilty secrets to cleanse my soul and deepen my recovery. Ive been in alanon for 2 years this month and I have done mini step 5s on a daily basis and with friends really but today, I meet with my sponsor and im going to tell her wha...
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el-cee
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Sweeping things under the rug
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So I realized where I have an issue with my Ex-A that I need to acknowledge. When he came and made his amends, he "swept things under the rug". He then accused me of being "focused" on the past. He knows because "his sponsor" told him. A sponser who has never met me in my li...
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Truth
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when they think, that just not drinking is enough and you should be greateful!
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Well I am greatful, for the not drinking but it isn't enough, I need more and I need better, I need to see and feel change from them, I am 50 plus now and life is extremely busy we all work hard and we all get tired quicker and the days we spend out of work are so precious, something that has become a huge part of m...
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Katy
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Right Place Right Time
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Let me begin by saying I do not sponsor women anymore. I had some problems with that so the safest solution now is not to. I still am available for chit chat or if you wanna be friends or facebook buddies, I'm very approachable that way, I just avoid those intimate sponsorship relationships with members...
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Wolfie55
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a quiet two weeks.
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well its school vacation. we r staying hone for the most part. getting caught up.on family and home stuff. just to.ketyou all know. . as you may remember. .i was hoping for a posibility of a job change. wellll. . .the one i was hoping for let me kniw they were in need of someone with credentials a step above...
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Theoceancalls
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Cry, Pray and then Let go and Let God.
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I received a message yesterday from the father of my two oldest daughters. I still randomly send pictures not really having the expectations that he will respond. I have learned to accept that knowing he suffers greatly from his disease. I know that when there is silence its really bad. Each time I fin...
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Mari1978
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Yay!!
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Now they say that when life hands you lemons, you ought make lemonade, don't they? And I try to, I really do. I consider it a huge part of my healing. Because there's always a positive, isn't there? A lesson to be learnt at least? A silver lining of some description? So last night Michael Douglas the Cat de...
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Melly1248
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AD Still Does Not Want Me in her Life
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Yesterday was my AD and her twin sister's birthday. This is the second birthday since her dad's, my AH, passing. The only time I have been in contact since that time was at her sister's wedding and the day after when we spread my AH's ashes at sea. She also responded to me by email a couple of months ago when...
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Green Eyes
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Relationships and AA
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Hi there, I was hoping to get some insight on this. I have recently been re-connected with a man whom I've known from my home town years ago. We were a couple years apart, so didn't go to school together and so I didn't know him that well. About 5 years ago, we met at my work where he had just started, recogniz...
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UCOmar
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just getting too old for this and need help
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I turned 50 this year , have been married to S , an alcoholic for 20 years now and have been through unspeakable craziness with my husband due to drinking. Hes had periods of honest to goodness sobriety in the past ( 7 years at one time) but he reminds me of a skipping stone with high times and low times and I...
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lilfriend1964
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Frustrated!!!
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AH and I are in the middle of a divorce completely on the part of my AH. He has been mentally and verbally for over a year and a half. He told me he wanted a divorce because he fell out of love with me and will never love me again. I found out two weeks later that he had a girlfriend and had taken her on a weeken...
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mongowal
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Please Daddy Don't Cry
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I don't remember if I shared this here before, but I'm just going to throw it out there. It's not an original thought. It's a story I heard someone else tell and I changed it a bit. One day a young girl asked her daddy if they could go for a walk in the park like they used to do. Her daddy said, "not now pri...
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Wolfie55
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Crazy Train... Exit Left :D
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Before I Landed at MIP, I was 110% Focused on SOLELY My Family... I Absessed over My Husband, My Son, My Brothers, My Sisters, Mom, Dad, My MIL, My SIL, My Neices, My Nephews How they were Being Raised, Was they Being Taking Care of, Did I have to Go Speak to their Parents (Like I was Queen of the Crop on Makin...
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Jozie
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Need Guidance
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So I am either figuring out one if my character defects or triggers. I have discovered that I get defensive when someone "talks down" to someone. I guess I would interpret it as condescending. I feel the need to speak up. Not sure what to do with this one.
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Truth
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STEP 4
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Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t57280663/alanon-step-4/Please
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hotrod
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Serendipity Strikes Again
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One day last month I was at work (I'm a condo cop, that's like a mall cop but....well you get it right?). My cell phone rang. Private number. Figured it was a sponcee so I answered it. It was a reporter for the local TV station. After he verified who I was, he starts asking me questions about a photo on - a popu...
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Wolfie55
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Returning Member
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I am back after what is it? a year? I couldn't remember my old login information so I created a new account. But it's still me. Wolfie aka Bernie. Hope to re-connect with my old friends here and to make new ones
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Wolfie58
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if all else fails...let go!
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I am struggling w/ a few things lately but I am going to let go of them right now. I don't have any control over any of the situations I have been in recently. I don't need to have another meltdown. Some things are just out of my control. I cannot let them bring me down. I talked to another member & she put s...
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Hoot Nanny
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Need advise on proper response
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I just got home from my weekly f2f meeting. My AS had come over while I was gone. My husband was honest and told him where I was when he asked. It made my son furious and he left mad. How should I respond to him? Not going to al-anon is not an option.
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Sallygcoe
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A Sunday before Easter
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Today I went to the store. I saw Easter cards. I wanted to purchase some for my son, my daughter, my grandson and my Dad. Then, I remembered - there is no need to buy him an a card. He isn't here anymore. He's gone. Memories of many years and many shopping trips and many cards and gifts I purchased for m...
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grateful2be
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A Letter from my Son
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Got my first letter today from my son and it was nice to hear from him. He said he hasn't gotten all my letters because they were redacted because of the content I guess. I cut and pasted news articles about what is going on around and world. Sucks he can't know about the plane missing or what is happenin...
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Cathyinaz
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Remember that book I said I was going to write?
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Remember that book I said I was going to write? I wrote it. I only mention it here because it's about recovery. About the gifts we find in it. About the gifts I have found in recovery. It's an e-book. Not a very big book. I published it myself. Sometimes I sell them. Sometimes I just give them away if it's som...
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Wolfie55
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anxiety
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I am suffering from a bout of anxiety these days. I know why but I can't seem to shake it. My mom is selling her house soon if the buyer agrees to the price. She might be gone in less than 2 mos. She plans to go to visit family for 2 graduations next month anyhow. But we will see what happens. I am anxious because...
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Hoot Nanny
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when is the right time?
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I thought I was being good and putting boundaries in place but unfortunately I can't and/or don't want to keep to them as I don't feel ready yet. The boundary that I stupidly said was that the alcoholic could move back home after they had been sober for three months! Sounds reasonable ? But unfortunate...
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southernlass
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Have I done the right thing?
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Have just shared my concerns with the alcoholic about them moving back home in 2 weeks and it went just as expected. It was turned round so that it was all about them. They tried to make me feel guilty about changing the goal posts (which I guess I have) but when I explained why have I and that I was not read...
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southernlass
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I need a sponsor
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I want to start off right away with a sponsor. I am female and need someone that married an alcoholic. the problems are starting and it has only been a week since I married him. Please help.
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beenaproblem
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A lovely powerless weekend.
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OK so this weekend I've been trying to get back to that "let go and let God" and "do the next right thing" combo that was working so well for me. Because I've come to realise that when I get caught up in the "big picture" and how everyone fits into it and what I need THEM to do...
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Melly1248
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Back in the saddle ....
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Well I had an excellent day. Got caught up at work. Just about organized at home. Helped out a friend. Just peaceful and happy.
Got started on organizing my notes if I need them for the Ex-A return and mediation session.
Grateful to all of you for assisting me along through this learning curve
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Truth
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***ATTENTION ALL MIP MEMBERS***
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http://meetinginfo.activeboard.com/t57236795/wso-registration-procedure-group-liaisons-findings/
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John
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I'm so smart
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I remembered that I was accessing this site on an old laptop, so I did some messing around and now I'm back as wolfie55 instead of wolfie58. I'm smarter than I thought I was.;)
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Wolfie55
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Fault Finding....
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I have been doing a lot of thinking lately of alcoholism. It is a progressive disease, family disease, and many more. When my AH was working full time he never drank. It was after he was in a forced retirement that got him started. My husband has a severe form of tinnitus (ringing in his ear with nerve...
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Jen61
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Sunday
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Good Morning all It's Sunday and I'm lying in bed this early morning reading everyone's posts and feeling the love I have for all of you. Even though I don't personally know you I have this bond that I can't explain. It's like your all right there when I need you. I'm at peace this morning, I worked my bu...
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Cathyinaz
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Getting Them Sober
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Hi everybody! I've been noticing a lot of new faces around here, and would like to bring up the topic of the book Getting Them Sober by Toby Rice Drews. Even though it isn't official 12-step literature, it came highly recommended to me at a meeting. It was a real game-changer for me in my ongoing recovery...
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Raven Juniper
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More detail
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I guess I should elaborate. I was using WolfIe55 as my old username so all those posts are mine. I was out of work for about six months, lost my internet, can't access my old account yet. I'm back though with more stories and to hear more of yours. So what's new. I have a ho-hum job that pays the bills. The rec...
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Wolfie58
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