Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

deacon · deacon

We have had no contact with our son for two weeks now. I think about him hourly, I pray for him all the time. But I am ashamed to admit that, with him being in another country thousands of miles from us, there is some relief in just not knowing and not seeing what he is doing. When he is here, I can see what is ha...

Kah27 · Kah27

So Im going to try to make this as short as possible. My husband is an alcoholic and has been drinking our whole marriage for 3 years with periods of sobriety the longest one being 2 years ago after he got a duo and was on probation but since we moved in October 2013 he has been drinking off and on trying to hid...

sirchef · sirchef

Hello everyone its been too long since I've been here. Life gets in the way of everything. All of you are on my mind often and mean to stop by to share some thoughts but like I said life gets in the way. this past week we experienced a great holydayEaster. Some of us don't celebrate it or don't have that beli...

Isthisreal · Isthisreal

A couple years back my husbands reaction to alcohol came to the forefront. Alcohol turned him into a dark person...maybe that's an exaggeration but it did. The loving person I'm married to, would go away after 1-11/2 drinks each night. alcohol tuned him into an agitated, irritated, quick to anger, m...

NavySealWife · NavySealWife

I have been so busy spring cleaning my home, I feel a busy as bee lately! I have not had the chance to get on here to post and took few minutes of my day to share some of the changes that has happened in the last three weeks. I lost my jobs three weeks ago, which I feel it was meant to be from my HP to take care of me a...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

My STBAX has been running amuck over my boundaries and thankfully I've been able to continually take small steps back .. I feel as if I have opened the door to take a small peak outside and he's thrust his leg through the door and will not let me shut it. I feel unsafe. I don't like to feel that I have no co...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I know that when things are crazy I know it pretty much has to be me. The way I handle situations is up to me. I have issues w/ my mom from as far back as I can remember. The only thing is my parents were together long enough that we had a fairly good life. I do remember times when it seemed like she(my mom) was a go...

Truth · Truth

Oh I feel wonderful. Day 2 hip hip hooray.

Jerry F · Jerry F

done. The inventory is very revealing. I think I know and know that I know and then the inventory reveals much more (often much much more). The inventory revealed all of the motivations for my rant...where I came from in the disease; yeppers, The freaking bank that brought down our financial hom...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Ok .. if you like Almond Joy, Mounds, or Whatchamacallits, you have been warned to stop reading right now. It will get ugly and you probably won't ever look at a candy bar the same way. My STBAX has an open FB page that I honestly don't think he knows is open and I choose NOT to look for two reasons .. I...

spouseofacoa · spouseofacoa

I am knew to this. My grandfathers were both Alcoholics but my parents were not. But I have heard alot from them what they went through as kids. But they seem to have worked through it. My husband is an ACOA his father drank alot when he was growing up and is starting to drink again. My husband has never deal...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

My prayers are being answered. I am not so sad as I was last Saturday. I am taking my time & enjoying another lovely Spring day! It rains often here so I need to enjoy the weather while I can. I have to admit that I wanted to have another fit recently. I didn't but my husband did. He totally spilled some ch...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi Everyone, My name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. I have decided that in order to save some money for my home purchase I will take my dad upon his offer and live with him while I search. I feel it's best for me and my needs. I don't know what to think. I am nervous, but I have the tools to de...

Jerry F · Jerry F

A pity party and now I am hung over. It occurred to me to shut the hell up and then there was some news about how my family is "coming along" (that isn't about a success story...not in this disease) and that fueled my oration...motivation. Crap!! that voice in my head which was suggestin...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

So, I had some good news last week about the community outreach project we work on in our spare time. The specifics aren't important but it's all good. I have to devote some more time to it, though. so if you don't see me that much its not because I disappeared again. I'm just busy.

Jenn86 · Jenn86

My boyfriend was just in a bicycle accident and is now in a coma. Right now I am still in shock. I am looking toward my Higher Power for guidance. Please please pray for him/send positive thoughts etc... Thank you to everyone who has assisted me in the past. My annoyance with his symptoms of alcoho...

Tossed Salad · Tossed Salad

My AH and I have been separated for the past 3 months. We set up an arrangement that when he is going to be with the kids(10 & 7), he must breathalyze before & after the visit. If he blows positive before the visit, he does not get to be with the kids. If he blows positive on the back end, he looses h...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Someone asked me to share a little more ESH in terms of dealing with the keen alcoholic mind. This is strictly my journey and while it should be clear cut .. it's amazing how twisted my own mind can get in dealing with my stbax. I spent a lot of time trying to get him to think like I do. First off, thank you G...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Well.. this really isn't the holiday any of us would have expected. My bf dad died during the night. The family and his doc had determined that he needed long term care about three weeks ago. There are lots of feelings of guilt now that bf's mom and siblings are experience. I'm trying to be supportiv...

el-cee · el-cee

Todays odat, 'when I cant accomplish all id like to, when im confronted with reverses and nothing seems to work right, il just remember easy does it. Some how it guides me into a less hectic frame of mind. Changing to a more comfortable rhythm smooths out the bumps. ' 'When im trying to hard to change thin...

grateful2be · grateful2be

Today, spring and Easter bring their blessings of hope, renewal and transformation to my life. Since it was sunny and warmer, I chose to peek out my garage access door at the flowers blooming, trees budding, and little critters running in my yard. I looked at my red butterfly bird feeder into which I...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Happy Easter All It is a very grateful day for me this year. I am grateful to have my son alive and safe in place where he can't hurt himself. I'm grateful for everything I have learn and practiced over this last couple of years. I am grateful to be able to sit here happy that I'm not in worry or fear and I can...

likemyheart · likemyheart

Happy Easter everyone, mine has been spent so far, watching 5 episodes of The Mentalist, which I NEVER sit still this long; doing some dishes, drinking more coffee than I usually have time for and enjoying the silence, well, sort of silence, birds and the cold-induced ringing in my ears aside. One of m...

Raven Juniper · Raven Juniper

Hi everybody! Here we all are again on this fine day, and I hope you all are having a great Sunday. Many people are celebrating Easter and I have many fond memories of hunting for those sneaky eggs;) As I've gotten older and my kids are grown, this has turned into a more reflective time, and I usually find m...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

I have realized that what I am trying to control is all of the people who want to control me into being who they want me to be. Confusing, right?! Like, wait...let me read that sentence again. When you're a people-pleaser your whole life, it's not comfortable to a lot of people when we stop. THIS is really...

milkwood · milkwood

Wishing my MIP family Happy Easter with this picture of Springtime here in Italy...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

I am working twelve hour shifts today and tomorrow so happy Easter and I hope your days are peaceful. -- Edited by Wolfie55 on Sunday 20th of April 2014 03:09:55 AM

Sallygcoe · Sallygcoe

I am having so much trouble getting control of my anxiety. I know I cannot control my AS, but it causes me so much anxiety knowing he is using. he thinks I don't know but it is obvious. Not worrying about the what if's seems impossible for me today. any advise would be greatly appreciated.

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi guys, my name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon.Recently Ive been examining my relationships with people and the ones that make me unhappy. I asked why they were making me so unhappy and what it was about them that left me wanting more internally. Then one day I saw a saying that went B...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am very down this morning. I don't feel much like talking to anyone but I do want to share on here. I am going through a lot of trials in my life right now. I thought that I was doing OK for awhile but now it seems that things are going terribly wrong. I can't seem to shake the sadness. I have already shared mos...

Wisdom67 · Wisdom67

Yesterday I decided to go to a hotel I wasn't feeling safe at home plus I needed do some paper work for housing Medicaid exc. I left the hotel to get something to eat and left my phone at the hotel . My AH sober 18 months shows up at the hotel and see my car there . The only way he would of known that is he was snoopi...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Well, I'm beyond excited after 5 years of either no internet service, .. crappy internet service I am finally able to go and have REAL internet service and I broke down and got cable to go with it. I may have to rethink that idea after a few months at least though for today we have it .. lol. I hate spending...

tortuga · tortuga

This week I made a big step forward in my recovery. I noticed and realized so many things about myself, that kept me blocking for so long. A step 4 used to be a difficult thing for me, but I have made a practice and learned to do it more often it was then step 5 that i found even more difficultafter all the wron...

ClearTheFog · ClearTheFog

This whole 'recycling' thing in recovery is rough! I'd say one step forward, two steps back but then I get a really annoying 80s song stuck in my head. I have yet to get into some kind of regular groove that puts me already a few levels up (within myself, not on others), so that I can stop reacting all the ti...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I will make this quick as I am having a hard time seeing out of my right eye. As most of you know last summer I had surgery on both of my eyes. They told me that if I had any issues to let them know. Well...yesterday I believe, I found a floater in my right eye. I already have had one in my left eye for about 10 years...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Good Morning Everyone I took yesterday and today off work so I could go visit my son. Yesterday I was going to clean and fiddle around and then today go for my visit. My son had been moved into the inmate working section because they gave him a job. Second day into the job he had a seizure so that ended his w...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

The past week has been filled with somewhat unpleasant experiences, as I have shared. And although I have been taking things in my stride and seeing the funny side, I guess there is some pent up anger in there because one night I did something strange and a bit disturbing. See, the next morning the alcoh...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

It has been a very, very long week. I'm emotionally and mentally exhausted in a good way. The kids and I have been very busy. I moved into my new place and finally today took the last load. I was just ready to be done. I could have done more .. honestly .. why bother .. I'm just to that point. These peopl...

SamToller · SamToller

Hello everyone- I am new to this whole thing, I honestly do not know how or where to begin, but i'm sure I will figure it out. My wife suffers from Alcoholism and Drug abuse. Her drug abuse is a direct correspondence of her drinking. I love her very much and want her to be healthy and happy. She recently wil...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I personally am not really under too much stress as some of my problems have been solved. The thing that really gets me is that my cousin just informed me yesterday that she is going to be living in her van starting this weekend. She told me to continue to text her but I can't email her anymore. Calling her s...

Beatrice · Beatrice

" Your best relationship should be the relationship with yourself." unk

Truth · Truth

Okay so my Ex-A had a visit today. We agreed to meet at 7:15 to do an exchange in a public place. I did this at the suggestion of the police and family violence. The police have told me to keep my doors locked. He shows up at my house at 5:30. He is banging on the door for a half an hour. Trying to use my keyless ent...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

This is my fifth step story. It's also the story of how I met my current wife. A version of this story appeared in the May 2010 issue of Grapevine, the monthly journal of Alcoholics Anonymous and this version is from a book I wrote about the gifts I have received in recovery. Hope it brings a bit of happines...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

I met with a friend last night for dinner. I guess she's more of an acquaintance. I met her when I was taking a class and we've stayed in touch. I don't know... I left feeling uncomfortable and just not good with myself and where I am at this time. I felt like I was sitting in a high chair with a sippy cup ac...

laststraw899 · laststraw899

I'm new here, and I've never attended an al-anon meeting before, although I probably should have...I'm not quite sure how this works, so I suppose providing a little introduction as to how I got here would help. I've had a lot of experience dealing with alcoholism, as both my brother and my husband are...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

I shared this with my fake book friends but none of you all are there so I will share it here. I feel better already. More.....centered. I went to the meeting here Sunday night, woke up early this morning, took in a noon meeting....f2f.....came home had a nice meal with my wife, a nice long nap and now I'm w...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

I had my first "government sponsored" driving lesson yesterday. The instructor they sent was awesome; I felt so at ease with her. I think because she's used to working with grown-ups instead of teenagers she had a completely different approach and made small talk the entire time; she sai...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

Without going into a lot of detail, I wasn't always cute and adorable like I am now. When I was in relationships I took hostages. Everything was about me and you were all out to get me. Through the twelve steps I learned that most of what I thought about myself about god and about the people around me was a di...

el-cee · el-cee

Step 5 is scary. Im doing my first official big step 5 today, revealling all my guilty secrets to cleanse my soul and deepen my recovery. Ive been in alanon for 2 years this month and I have done mini step 5s on a daily basis and with friends really but today, I meet with my sponsor and im going to tell her wha...

Truth · Truth

So I realized where I have an issue with my Ex-A that I need to acknowledge. When he came and made his amends, he "swept things under the rug". He then accused me of being "focused" on the past. He knows because "his sponsor" told him. A sponser who has never met me in my li...

Katy · Katy

Well I am greatful, for the not drinking but it isn't enough, I need more and I need better, I need to see and feel change from them, I am 50 plus now and life is extremely busy we all work hard and we all get tired quicker and the days we spend out of work are so precious, something that has become a huge part of m...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

Let me begin by saying I do not sponsor women anymore. I had some problems with that so the safest solution now is not to. I still am available for chit chat or if you wanna be friends or facebook buddies, I'm very approachable that way, I just avoid those intimate sponsorship relationships with members...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

well its school vacation. we r staying hone for the most part. getting caught up.on family and home stuff. just to.ketyou all know. . as you may remember. .i was hoping for a posibility of a job change. wellll. . .the one i was hoping for let me kniw they were in need of someone with credentials a step above...

Mari1978 · Mari1978

I received a message yesterday from the father of my two oldest daughters. I still randomly send pictures not really having the expectations that he will respond. I have learned to accept that knowing he suffers greatly from his disease. I know that when there is silence its really bad. Each time I fin...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

Now they say that when life hands you lemons, you ought make lemonade, don't they? And I try to, I really do. I consider it a huge part of my healing. Because there's always a positive, isn't there? A lesson to be learnt at least? A silver lining of some description? So last night Michael Douglas the Cat de...

Green Eyes · Green Eyes

Yesterday was my AD and her twin sister's birthday. This is the second birthday since her dad's, my AH, passing. The only time I have been in contact since that time was at her sister's wedding and the day after when we spread my AH's ashes at sea. She also responded to me by email a couple of months ago when...

UCOmar · UCOmar

Hi there, I was hoping to get some insight on this. I have recently been re-connected with a man whom I've known from my home town years ago. We were a couple years apart, so didn't go to school together and so I didn't know him that well. About 5 years ago, we met at my work where he had just started, recogniz...

lilfriend1964 · lilfriend1964

I turned 50 this year , have been married to S , an alcoholic for 20 years now and have been through unspeakable craziness with my husband due to drinking. Hes had periods of honest to goodness sobriety in the past ( 7 years at one time) but he reminds me of a skipping stone with high times and low times and I...

mongowal · mongowal

AH and I are in the middle of a divorce completely on the part of my AH. He has been mentally and verbally for over a year and a half. He told me he wanted a divorce because he fell out of love with me and will never love me again. I found out two weeks later that he had a girlfriend and had taken her on a weeken...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

I don't remember if I shared this here before, but I'm just going to throw it out there. It's not an original thought. It's a story I heard someone else tell and I changed it a bit. One day a young girl asked her daddy if they could go for a walk in the park like they used to do. Her daddy said, "not now pri...

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	Right now it is a blessing not knowing (Preview) We have had no contact with our son for two weeks now. I think about him hourly, I pray for him all the time. But I am ashamed to admit that, with him being in another country thousands of miles from us, there is some relief in just not knowing and not seeing what he is doing. When he is here, I can see what is ha...	deacon	4	390	Apr 24, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	Not sure if I should go back to him (Preview) So Im going to try to make this as short as possible. My husband is an alcoholic and has been drinking our whole marriage for 3 years with periods of sobriety the longest one being 2 years ago after he got a duo and was on probation but since we moved in October 2013 he has been drinking off and on trying to hid...	Kah27	22	686	Apr 23, 2014 by Kah27
	Hope (Preview) Hello everyone its been too long since I've been here. Life gets in the way of everything. All of you are on my mind often and mean to stop by to share some thoughts but like I said life gets in the way. this past week we experienced a great holydayEaster. Some of us don't celebrate it or don't have that beli...	sirchef	2	379	Apr 23, 2014 by DavidG
	HELP needed...I don't know what to do. (Preview) A couple years back my husbands reaction to alcohol came to the forefront. Alcohol turned him into a dark person...maybe that's an exaggeration but it did. The loving person I'm married to, would go away after 1-11/2 drinks each night. alcohol tuned him into an agitated, irritated, quick to anger, m...	Isthisreal	9	606	Apr 23, 2014 by Beatrice
	Busy as a bee... (Preview) I have been so busy spring cleaning my home, I feel a busy as bee lately! I have not had the chance to get on here to post and took few minutes of my day to share some of the changes that has happened in the last three weeks. I lost my jobs three weeks ago, which I feel it was meant to be from my HP to take care of me a...	NavySealWife	3	383	Apr 23, 2014 by PP
	Boundaries .. (again) (Preview) My STBAX has been running amuck over my boundaries and thankfully I've been able to continually take small steps back .. I feel as if I have opened the door to take a small peak outside and he's thrust his leg through the door and will not let me shut it. I feel unsafe. I don't like to feel that I have no co...	SerenityRUS	10	562	Apr 23, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	only I can make things crazier (Preview) I know that when things are crazy I know it pretty much has to be me. The way I handle situations is up to me. I have issues w/ my mom from as far back as I can remember. The only thing is my parents were together long enough that we had a fairly good life. I do remember times when it seemed like she(my mom) was a go...	Hoot Nanny	3	492	Apr 23, 2014 by milkwood
	Day 2 - No Cigarettes (Preview) Oh I feel wonderful. Day 2 hip hip hooray.	Truth	8	602	Apr 22, 2014 by Truth
	Inventory and amends are (Preview) done. The inventory is very revealing. I think I know and know that I know and then the inventory reveals much more (often much much more). The inventory revealed all of the motivations for my rant...where I came from in the disease; yeppers, The freaking bank that brought down our financial hom...	Jerry F	9	455	Apr 22, 2014 by Cathyinaz
	Candy Bars and nonsense .. (Preview) Ok .. if you like Almond Joy, Mounds, or Whatchamacallits, you have been warned to stop reading right now. It will get ugly and you probably won't ever look at a candy bar the same way. My STBAX has an open FB page that I honestly don't think he knows is open and I choose NOT to look for two reasons .. I...	SerenityRUS	11	544	Apr 22, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	spouse of acoa (Preview) I am knew to this. My grandfathers were both Alcoholics but my parents were not. But I have heard alot from them what they went through as kids. But they seem to have worked through it. My husband is an ACOA his father drank alot when he was growing up and is starting to drink again. My husband has never deal...	spouseofacoa	9	692	Apr 22, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	getting through life w/o having a fit! (Preview) My prayers are being answered. I am not so sad as I was last Saturday. I am taking my time & enjoying another lovely Spring day! It rains often here so I need to enjoy the weather while I can. I have to admit that I wanted to have another fit recently. I didn't but my husband did. He totally spilled some ch...	Hoot Nanny	3	311	Apr 21, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	So, I will be going back with my dad. (Preview) Hi Everyone, My name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. I have decided that in order to save some money for my home purchase I will take my dad upon his offer and live with him while I search. I feel it's best for me and my needs. I don't know what to think. I am nervous, but I have the tools to de...	slogan_jim	5	362	Apr 21, 2014 by Beatrice
	Went to a party... (Preview) A pity party and now I am hung over. It occurred to me to shut the hell up and then there was some news about how my family is "coming along" (that isn't about a success story...not in this disease) and that fueled my oration...motivation. Crap!! that voice in my head which was suggestin...	Jerry F	16	580	Apr 21, 2014 by Beatrice
	Busy but its all good (Preview) So, I had some good news last week about the community outreach project we work on in our spare time. The specifics aren't important but it's all good. I have to devote some more time to it, though. so if you don't see me that much its not because I disappeared again. I'm just busy.	Wolfie55	2	235	Apr 21, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	In Need of Prayers (Preview) My boyfriend was just in a bicycle accident and is now in a coma. Right now I am still in shock. I am looking toward my Higher Power for guidance. Please please pray for him/send positive thoughts etc... Thank you to everyone who has assisted me in the past. My annoyance with his symptoms of alcoho...	Jenn86	10	302	Apr 21, 2014 by PP
	Breathalyzer question (Preview) My AH and I have been separated for the past 3 months. We set up an arrangement that when he is going to be with the kids(10 & 7), he must breathalyze before & after the visit. If he blows positive before the visit, he does not get to be with the kids. If he blows positive on the back end, he looses h...	Tossed Salad	12	2596	Apr 21, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	Elborating on a topic .. (Preview) Someone asked me to share a little more ESH in terms of dealing with the keen alcoholic mind. This is strictly my journey and while it should be clear cut .. it's amazing how twisted my own mind can get in dealing with my stbax. I spent a lot of time trying to get him to think like I do. First off, thank you G...	SerenityRUS	8	533	Apr 21, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	Prayers and Support (Preview) Well.. this really isn't the holiday any of us would have expected. My bf dad died during the night. The family and his doc had determined that he needed long term care about three weeks ago. There are lots of feelings of guilt now that bf's mom and siblings are experience. I'm trying to be supportiv...	tiredtonite	11	411	Apr 21, 2014 by Sweet Stanley
	easy does it (Preview) Todays odat, 'when I cant accomplish all id like to, when im confronted with reverses and nothing seems to work right, il just remember easy does it. Some how it guides me into a less hectic frame of mind. Changing to a more comfortable rhythm smooths out the bumps. ' 'When im trying to hard to change thin...	el-cee	6	286	Apr 21, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	An Easter Blessing (Preview) Today, spring and Easter bring their blessings of hope, renewal and transformation to my life. Since it was sunny and warmer, I chose to peek out my garage access door at the flowers blooming, trees budding, and little critters running in my yard. I looked at my red butterfly bird feeder into which I...	grateful2be	8	266	Apr 21, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	Happy Easter (Preview) Happy Easter All It is a very grateful day for me this year. I am grateful to have my son alive and safe in place where he can't hurt himself. I'm grateful for everything I have learn and practiced over this last couple of years. I am grateful to be able to sit here happy that I'm not in worry or fear and I can...	Cathyinaz	6	289	Apr 21, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	Easter, religion and faith (Preview) Happy Easter everyone, mine has been spent so far, watching 5 episodes of The Mentalist, which I NEVER sit still this long; doing some dishes, drinking more coffee than I usually have time for and enjoying the silence, well, sort of silence, birds and the cold-induced ringing in my ears aside. One of m...	likemyheart	6	523	Apr 21, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	Rantings, Rumblings, and New Beginnings Pt. 1 ;) (Preview) Hi everybody! Here we all are again on this fine day, and I hope you all are having a great Sunday. Many people are celebrating Easter and I have many fond memories of hunting for those sneaky eggs;) As I've gotten older and my kids are grown, this has turned into a more reflective time, and I usually find m...	Raven Juniper	6	605	Apr 21, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	Control (Preview) I have realized that what I am trying to control is all of the people who want to control me into being who they want me to be. Confusing, right?! Like, wait...let me read that sentence again. When you're a people-pleaser your whole life, it's not comfortable to a lot of people when we stop. THIS is really...	WorkingThroughIt	12	546	Apr 20, 2014 by WorkingThroughIt
	Happy Easter…. (Preview) Wishing my MIP family Happy Easter with this picture of Springtime here in Italy...	milkwood	9	245	Apr 20, 2014 by PP
	Happy Easter (Preview) I am working twelve hour shifts today and tomorrow so happy Easter and I hope your days are peaceful. -- Edited by Wolfie55 on Sunday 20th of April 2014 03:09:55 AM	Wolfie55	7	328	Apr 20, 2014 by PP
	Need suggestions on how to handle the anxiety (Preview) I am having so much trouble getting control of my anxiety. I know I cannot control my AS, but it causes me so much anxiety knowing he is using. he thinks I don't know but it is obvious. Not worrying about the what if's seems impossible for me today. any advise would be greatly appreciated.	Sallygcoe	10	428	Apr 20, 2014 by Cathyinaz
	Tolerated, but not celebrated. (Preview) Hi guys, my name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon.Recently Ive been examining my relationships with people and the ones that make me unhappy. I asked why they were making me so unhappy and what it was about them that left me wanting more internally. Then one day I saw a saying that went B...	slogan_jim	1	376	Apr 20, 2014 by el-cee
	so sad... (Preview) I am very down this morning. I don't feel much like talking to anyone but I do want to share on here. I am going through a lot of trials in my life right now. I thought that I was doing OK for awhile but now it seems that things are going terribly wrong. I can't seem to shake the sadness. I have already shared mos...	Hoot Nanny	2	439	Apr 20, 2014 by Jerry F
	Violated RO stocking order (Preview) Yesterday I decided to go to a hotel I wasn't feeling safe at home plus I needed do some paper work for housing Medicaid exc. I left the hotel to get something to eat and left my phone at the hotel . My AH sober 18 months shows up at the hotel and see my car there . The only way he would of known that is he was snoopi...	Wisdom67	8	581	Apr 19, 2014 by hotrod
	Happy Easter (again) and other thoughts .. (Preview) Well, I'm beyond excited after 5 years of either no internet service, .. crappy internet service I am finally able to go and have REAL internet service and I broke down and got cable to go with it. I may have to rethink that idea after a few months at least though for today we have it .. lol. I hate spending...	SerenityRUS	1	415	Apr 19, 2014 by Cathyinaz
	sometimes it's 2 steps back, and sometimes it's 1 step forward:in recovery (Preview) This week I made a big step forward in my recovery. I noticed and realized so many things about myself, that kept me blocking for so long. A step 4 used to be a difficult thing for me, but I have made a practice and learned to do it more often it was then step 5 that i found even more difficultafter all the wron...	tortuga	2	386	Apr 19, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	Still holding others responsible for my happiness (Preview) This whole 'recycling' thing in recovery is rough! I'd say one step forward, two steps back but then I get a really annoying 80s song stuck in my head. I have yet to get into some kind of regular groove that puts me already a few levels up (within myself, not on others), so that I can stop reacting all the ti...	ClearTheFog	9	499	Apr 19, 2014 by ClearTheFog
	more health issues... (Preview) I will make this quick as I am having a hard time seeing out of my right eye. As most of you know last summer I had surgery on both of my eyes. They told me that if I had any issues to let them know. Well...yesterday I believe, I found a floater in my right eye. I already have had one in my left eye for about 10 years...	Hoot Nanny	3	258	Apr 19, 2014 by WorkingThroughIt
	I saw my son (Preview) Good Morning Everyone I took yesterday and today off work so I could go visit my son. Yesterday I was going to clean and fiddle around and then today go for my visit. My son had been moved into the inmate working section because they gave him a job. Second day into the job he had a seizure so that ended his w...	Cathyinaz	8	445	Apr 18, 2014 by Cathyinaz
	No pain no gain? (Preview) The past week has been filled with somewhat unpleasant experiences, as I have shared. And although I have been taking things in my stride and seeing the funny side, I guess there is some pent up anger in there because one night I did something strange and a bit disturbing. See, the next morning the alcoh...	Melly1248	4	642	Apr 18, 2014 by grateful2be
	Long week .. weird .. (Preview) It has been a very, very long week. I'm emotionally and mentally exhausted in a good way. The kids and I have been very busy. I moved into my new place and finally today took the last load. I was just ready to be done. I could have done more .. honestly .. why bother .. I'm just to that point. These peopl...	SerenityRUS	5	387	Apr 18, 2014 by Jen61
	Hello- I am new (Preview) Hello everyone- I am new to this whole thing, I honestly do not know how or where to begin, but i'm sure I will figure it out. My wife suffers from Alcoholism and Drug abuse. Her drug abuse is a direct correspondence of her drinking. I love her very much and want her to be healthy and happy. She recently wil...	SamToller	9	437	Apr 18, 2014 by bud
	more bad news! I am praying... (Preview) I personally am not really under too much stress as some of my problems have been solved. The thing that really gets me is that my cousin just informed me yesterday that she is going to be living in her van starting this weekend. She told me to continue to text her but I can't email her anymore. Calling her s...	Hoot Nanny	2	213	Apr 18, 2014 by bud
	Wisdom (Preview) " Your best relationship should be the relationship with yourself." unk	Beatrice	11	558	Apr 18, 2014 by Tasha
	So glad I am trusting my gut (Preview) Okay so my Ex-A had a visit today. We agreed to meet at 7:15 to do an exchange in a public place. I did this at the suggestion of the police and family violence. The police have told me to keep my doors locked. He shows up at my house at 5:30. He is banging on the door for a half an hour. Trying to use my keyless ent...	Truth	13	635	Apr 17, 2014 by Truth
	the date (Preview) This is my fifth step story. It's also the story of how I met my current wife. A version of this story appeared in the May 2010 issue of Grapevine, the monthly journal of Alcoholics Anonymous and this version is from a book I wrote about the gifts I have received in recovery. Hope it brings a bit of happines...	Wolfie55	4	498	Apr 17, 2014 by Jerry F
	Where I'm At (Preview) I met with a friend last night for dinner. I guess she's more of an acquaintance. I met her when I was taking a class and we've stayed in touch. I don't know... I left feeling uncomfortable and just not good with myself and where I am at this time. I felt like I was sitting in a high chair with a sippy cup ac...	tiredtonite	4	353	Apr 17, 2014 by tiredtonite
	In need of support (Preview) I'm new here, and I've never attended an al-anon meeting before, although I probably should have...I'm not quite sure how this works, so I suppose providing a little introduction as to how I got here would help. I've had a lot of experience dealing with alcoholism, as both my brother and my husband are...	laststraw899	10	491	Apr 17, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	Feeling better already (Preview) I shared this with my fake book friends but none of you all are there so I will share it here. I feel better already. More.....centered. I went to the meeting here Sunday night, woke up early this morning, took in a noon meeting....f2f.....came home had a nice meal with my wife, a nice long nap and now I'm w...	Wolfie55	5	320	Apr 17, 2014 by Lyne
	Oh! Forgot to mention!! (Preview) I had my first "government sponsored" driving lesson yesterday. The instructor they sent was awesome; I felt so at ease with her. I think because she's used to working with grown-ups instead of teenagers she had a completely different approach and made small talk the entire time; she sai...	Melly1248	16	553	Apr 16, 2014 by el-cee
	Letters (Preview) Without going into a lot of detail, I wasn't always cute and adorable like I am now. When I was in relationships I took hostages. Everything was about me and you were all out to get me. Through the twelve steps I learned that most of what I thought about myself about god and about the people around me was a di...	Wolfie55	4	411	Apr 16, 2014 by Rose50
	step 5 (Preview) Step 5 is scary. Im doing my first official big step 5 today, revealling all my guilty secrets to cleanse my soul and deepen my recovery. Ive been in alanon for 2 years this month and I have done mini step 5s on a daily basis and with friends really but today, I meet with my sponsor and im going to tell her wha...	el-cee	12	2125	Apr 16, 2014 by grateful2be
	Sweeping things under the rug (Preview) So I realized where I have an issue with my Ex-A that I need to acknowledge. When he came and made his amends, he "swept things under the rug". He then accused me of being "focused" on the past. He knows because "his sponsor" told him. A sponser who has never met me in my li...	Truth	13	464	Apr 16, 2014 by pinkchip
	when they think, that just not drinking is enough and you should be greateful! (Preview) Well I am greatful, for the not drinking but it isn't enough, I need more and I need better, I need to see and feel change from them, I am 50 plus now and life is extremely busy we all work hard and we all get tired quicker and the days we spend out of work are so precious, something that has become a huge part of m...	Katy	10	591	Apr 16, 2014 by el-cee
	Right Place Right Time (Preview) Let me begin by saying I do not sponsor women anymore. I had some problems with that so the safest solution now is not to. I still am available for chit chat or if you wanna be friends or facebook buddies, I'm very approachable that way, I just avoid those intimate sponsorship relationships with members...	Wolfie55	2	337	Apr 16, 2014 by Tracy
	a quiet two weeks. (Preview) well its school vacation. we r staying hone for the most part. getting caught up.on family and home stuff. just to.ketyou all know. . as you may remember. .i was hoping for a posibility of a job change. wellll. . .the one i was hoping for let me kniw they were in need of someone with credentials a step above...	Theoceancalls	3	254	Apr 16, 2014 by el-cee
	Cry, Pray and then Let go and Let God. (Preview) I received a message yesterday from the father of my two oldest daughters. I still randomly send pictures not really having the expectations that he will respond. I have learned to accept that knowing he suffers greatly from his disease. I know that when there is silence its really bad. Each time I fin...	Mari1978	5	534	Apr 16, 2014 by Tracy
	Yay!! (Preview) Now they say that when life hands you lemons, you ought make lemonade, don't they? And I try to, I really do. I consider it a huge part of my healing. Because there's always a positive, isn't there? A lesson to be learnt at least? A silver lining of some description? So last night Michael Douglas the Cat de...	Melly1248	13	557	Apr 15, 2014 by Truth
	AD Still Does Not Want Me in her Life (Preview) Yesterday was my AD and her twin sister's birthday. This is the second birthday since her dad's, my AH, passing. The only time I have been in contact since that time was at her sister's wedding and the day after when we spread my AH's ashes at sea. She also responded to me by email a couple of months ago when...	Green Eyes	9	478	Apr 15, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	Relationships and AA (Preview) Hi there, I was hoping to get some insight on this. I have recently been re-connected with a man whom I've known from my home town years ago. We were a couple years apart, so didn't go to school together and so I didn't know him that well. About 5 years ago, we met at my work where he had just started, recogniz...	UCOmar	5	784	Apr 15, 2014 by Beatrice
	just getting too old for this and need help (Preview) I turned 50 this year , have been married to S , an alcoholic for 20 years now and have been through unspeakable craziness with my husband due to drinking. Hes had periods of honest to goodness sobriety in the past ( 7 years at one time) but he reminds me of a skipping stone with high times and low times and I...	lilfriend1964	13	542	Apr 15, 2014 by PP
	Frustrated!!! (Preview) AH and I are in the middle of a divorce completely on the part of my AH. He has been mentally and verbally for over a year and a half. He told me he wanted a divorce because he fell out of love with me and will never love me again. I found out two weeks later that he had a girlfriend and had taken her on a weeken...	mongowal	6	391	Apr 15, 2014 by mongowal
	Please Daddy Don't Cry (Preview) I don't remember if I shared this here before, but I'm just going to throw it out there. It's not an original thought. It's a story I heard someone else tell and I changed it a bit. One day a young girl asked her daddy if they could go for a walk in the park like they used to do. Her daddy said, "not now pri...	Wolfie55	3	419	Apr 15, 2014 by hotrod
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