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I want to start off right away with a sponsor. I am female and need someone that married an alcoholic. the problems are starting and it has only been a week since I married him. Please help.
I'm so sorry your going through this but you have come to the right place. I don't know if anyone sponsors online here but you can sure find a good sponsor at your local Al-anon meetings. Go to the Al-anon website and look up where your local meetings are held and start going.
Keep coming back and let us give you some ESH ( experience, strength and hope ) as you learn to take care of you.
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Welcome. Although there are MIP members who do on-line sponsoring, it might be more helpful to you to attend f2f meetings for awhile and also come here, too. You'll get to know folks at both the face to face meetings and on this board and then you'll have an idea of who you might like to sponsor you based on whether or not that person actually walks the walk and seems to have something you'd like to emulate or learn, too?
I want to congratulate you for seeing there is a problem and reaching out for help! That is such a healthy choice to make and I do hope you find a good sponsor to help you work the steps.
I can only echo what the others have said. I found that face to face is the best. After you been to some meetings and have watched some people and how they do things and you see someone that looks promising, go have a coffee with them. or tea. or water or whatever. When you're in the coffee shop, see how they are there. If they work their program the same outside of the meeting as they do inside the meeting, that's a good sign.
Originally, I had an online sponsor. Never met him. Never spoke to him on the phone. We didn't have skype back then. LOL. But there was something about him. The way he shared showed me that he had a lot of experience and let me tell you I needed a lot of work. He died several years ago and I got another sponsor, f2f and that's great. I'm low-maintenance now but it's still helpful to have someone to talk to. Anyway, I think its great that you want to get started right away and I wish you all the blessings this new life offers.
As has already been said, hang around. Listen and learn. Make some friends. There's lots of great ladies at this site. You'll make a connection and you'll know she's the one for you when that happens.
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Not all my days are priceless, but none of them are worthless, anymore.
