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el-cee · el-cee

The little alanon pamphlet called detachment has been very important to me. It was one of the first things i read and one of the first things that gave me that moment of wow, this is it, this is what i need to do. At first, it went against every idea i was brought up to believe. The influences in my life, my mot...

Truth · Truth

Okay so I really did not expect anything different so I am not hurt or upset. I am wondering what is a healthy way to respond when you have discovered someone has mislead you by leaving out important information that would have changed your decision.

Bloodshotbetty · Bloodshotbetty

As I have mentioned before,my AH drove drunk and flipped our car with us in it. Since then, many members of my family have not wanted contact with him. Which I understand. I have a niece and nephew who are the light of my world. My sister told me she doesn't want my AH around the kids. I have regular sle...

Irish7 · Irish7

I've been going to f2f al anon meetings for 3 months and am working the program very intently. I've also been listening to speaker tapes daily, and it get so much from them. I attend an open AA meeting each week, which helps me develop compassion that I lacked here at home with AH and alcoholic stepson (I t...

mersi · mersi

Hallo I would like to ask you, other adult children of alcoholics how do u feel and how is your life like???do u also feel often sad and depressed?like u dont know where u going in life and what u want and who u really are?my life is full of ups and downs and i have mood swings and terrible feelings of isolatio...

mercedes1959 · mercedes1959

I have been finding that I am back to that bad habit of concentrating on others way too much. I have decided to go back to two hobbies I used to have. I am going to gardening programs, want to someday get my master gardener designation, I have been to two programs, a fruit tree sale and have two programs to go...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

I've heard in meetings lately "My thinking can kill me." Please share what that means to you, and what you do about it. Thank you.

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good Morning MIP: The focus of today's reading is the slogan "Live And Let Live". The writer admits not being completely comfortable with the phrase, until an Alanon speaker compared it to working his own plot of land (his 'emotional acre') and not trying to tend other people's. This me...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hi Everyone, It has been close to a month since my wife wrecked her car, and I feel like my journey with Alanon has been extremely positive and productive so far. I have been working on detachment, and letting my wife make her own decisions and be responsible for those decisions. While I make my own dec...

likemyheart · likemyheart

And I didn't have to do anything to make it so - Its early March and our temp was in the mid-sixties; I spent a lot of time yesterday and today trimming that in my yard that needed trimming and then, this morning found me burning burning burning it to my heart's content. Nearing the end of the pyromaniac hou...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODA T reading for today is really powerful and thought provoking. It speaks about one of the symptoms of living with the disease of alcoholism.--- which is an attack of anger. It defines this attack as an "uncontrollable impulse to judge and condemn someone". In this explosion. I am re...

sweeetr · sweeetr

I always come back for guidance. My life has been going well last few months. Unbeleivably well actually. My ex AH has been tying his life up with legal probs, rehabs and jail for breaking probation requirements with more DWI's. BTW ... the abilility to buy out (have disposed) DWI's in Tx is unnerving!...

Smiley99 · Smiley99

Yesterday, my husband brought hard liquor in to our home, which is something I have told him many times is unacceptable to me. He tends to become verbally abusive after consuming hard liquor and it is very upsetting even though I try to detatch. It happens every time he touches the stuff. Anyway, he...

Debb · Debb

I had an epiphany and wanted to share, because when you have suffered for a long period of time and have emerged a better person, the need to share becomes very important and the part of the last step in the Al-Anon protocol. I am not a very verbose person so you may find this short and sweet, but very to the...

Beatrice · Beatrice

I'm doing good. Sorry I have been remiss . I've been attending school to get my certification to be an Alcohol and Drug counselor. That's where I have been. Loving it... We are all counselor's here on this board with much experience and knowledge. Hope this finds you all doing well and living it every da...

lgnutah · lgnutah

I know I am not supposed to be trying to fix my Alcoholic, nor do I think I am in any way responsible for my A's choices. But if I feel annoyed at their repetitious blaming, negativity, and bad decisions.....does that mean I have not let go? Does anyone ever get to the point where the A' blaming, negati...

MeTwo2 · MeTwo2

just came from a meeting and was listening to the opening read: changed attitudes can aid recovery .. I began to think about power .. there's never been a time in my life when I was powerless . either I had the power to crush me or effect another in a negative way or the balance was that once I got in recovery,...

Jme · Jme

My husband has 18 months sobriety and for the first time in an 8 year struggle is active in AA, has a sponsor, is working the steps and is make amends. This has been the best 18 months of our marriage and I am finally starting to trust him again and he has repaired so much damage done over the years. For the l...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I had a lovely conversation last night with a lovely man and I actually think I was being hit on .. lol. Seriously speaking not something I'm usually aware of if and when it does happen. At least he's not married .. lol . well I haven't gotten that full story yet. I know he's in transition. The statemen...

LinSC · LinSC

I just want to say there are some good people on this board, people who are trying there best to recover in Al-Anon. And being careful not to hurt others in the process, people who think first before reacting to keep the peace. Gentle lovers as Jerry might agree. All in all making the earth where ever you a...

hotrod · hotrod

Daylight savings time, went into effect last night here in New York City. It is difficult to get used to, but I love the increased daylight in the mornings and evening. The C2 C reading for today is a great reminder of an important reason for attending meetings or even coming here to MIP. to post or s...

mjferg · mjferg

I received some bad news,I will be losing half of my income soon!I don't know how I am going to make it.I am going to have to move and I don't know if I am emotionally ready for the stress.I am really worried about keeping up with school during the process of moving.I am so tired it seems like I constantly str...

Truth · Truth

Today I have to surrender and let go ... It kind of sucks when your HP teaches you things and then you can see what is going on and want to force the lesson on others. All in due time or maybe never, my part is just to say no.

missmeliss · missmeliss

When last I posted here, A had been staying over and making himself indispensable. I mean he was, for a couple of weeks, really, really nice. Nicer and more helpful to me than he has been. quite literally, EVER. And I was thinking well, hey, maybe? Of course it deteriorated, he started trying to enforce...

a4l · a4l

well I'm back and hopefully still welcome. I was aqua mom: I took a break for reasons all my own. I return to think on making amends. Many thoughts. My f2f group is a true balm, yet I found a connection here via writing and reading that I really connect with. And I miss everyone, Hotrod,my hero, Jerry,who s...

el-cee · el-cee

Todays reading is about beauty and how living with alcoholism can mean we have a negative self defeating attitude and dont see the beauty in ourselves. It talks about how changing our negative attitude into a positive makes us more beautiful human beings. Living with love and gratitude brings out ou...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

IM WORKING HARD AT ALANON,FACE TO FACE MEETING,READING,WORKING ON THE PATHS BOOK,GO ON OUR GROUP OFTEN. I WOULD LIKE TO THINK THAT EVEN WITH THE BEHAVIOR AH SHOWED, WE CAN WORK IT OUT. HE IS IN REHAB NOW MY SPONSER IS A RECOVERING ALCOHOLIC AND HER HUSBAND IS A RECOVERING LCOHOLIC AND HER SON IS A RECOVE...

Jen61 · Jen61

I have had the hardest time with detaching. I would have these conversations in my mind every day, being irritable - all with a pit in my stomach. About a month or so ago my husband went to visit his brothers and I opted to stay home. I said a lot of prayers and then felt that warm feeling inside that he und...

Bloodshotbetty · Bloodshotbetty

In the 4.5 years I have been with my AH I have never seen him take a drink. Not. Once. And we are talking an alcoholic who drinks listerine and rubbing alcohol when hes desperate. He's hardcore. This means I have chronic anxiety about whether or not he's drunk. A month ago, he crashed our car and blew a...

Wisdom67 · Wisdom67

Hello everyone I hope you all are well and working on getting better. I'm on and off again this emotional ride still even though the alcholic is not currently in my life but the remains of the disease still lives on in me and in my house. My health is not well I been in the hospital off and on due to my stress le...

el-cee · el-cee

This has been day 5 of not having a voice. Ive got laryngitis, cant make a sound. I usually dont shut up so this is a weird experiemce. Its like my higher power has pulled my brakes and said stop. The chattering inside my head is never ending thougn. So, no work, no phonecalls, nothing. Feeling so sorry for...

Truth · Truth

Well after repeating to myself ... Over and over again ... "I am capable of making healthy decisions". I am starting to feel like my old self. My old self was a person who had boundaries, liked making healthy choices, and was not fearful of others responses to my choices. I am also learning...

hotrod · hotrod

I can so identify with today's reading in the Courage to Change. It speaks about expecting others to know what we need and want, without having to ask for it. It points out that no one is a mind reader and no one can tell what is in my mind, heart and soul unless I reveal it. Before program I always felt as if my...

LedfootJenny · LedfootJenny

Hi Everyone, I'm Jenny and I'm new here - but have already felt so inspired and supported by your stories. Thank you. I've been at this recovery thing awhile. I'm married to an addict who has had a recent relapse after several years of being clean...however, I see now that he's what you might call a dry...

mercedes1959 · mercedes1959

Hello all = I always feel better when I get ES&H from you guys. I have been struggling all week, when I start the stinking thinking, I say the serenity prayer, go to a meeting and think of slogans. One that is coming to mind is "It's non of my business what others think of me" Friday night at a...

marsaray · marsaray

Six years ago I met a girl and fell in love with her, she was on many prescription pills but I didn't think it was a big deal. We lived together for 3 years and at the end she turned into a full on alcoholic/drug abuser. I left her at the end because she refused to get help and she blamed me for help addiction. We...

losingit · losingit

Thanks everyone for alanon -- Edited by losingit on Friday 6th of March 2015 10:18:57 AM

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT today suggests that just because we practice Al-Anon,it does not mean that life will always be completely joyful and happy. It points out that when we are strengthened by the Al-Anon philosophy, we find ourselves able to look at things in their proper perspective and that by starting...

Hopefull15 · Hopefull15

My husband who is active keeps harrasing me about my 'progress' He knows that I go to 'meetings' to help me 'be a better person and to help me deal with some childhood dysfunction that I grew up in but thats all Ive told him. Now he keeps asking me 'so what have u learned' and 'what exactly are the things ur tr...

TryingToMoveOn · TryingToMoveOn

My husband is an addict. To my knowledge, he has not been using for some time now. But things are just awful. His behavior is erratic and I feel like I am constantly walking on eggshells, waiting for the other shoe to drop and then his incredible anger will come crashing down. He refuses or 'forgets' to...

Tash2 · Tash2

Hi all not posted for a while. Been looking after myself & working my program. I've learned loads from alannon & on here & can't believe how much better I am! anyway, after 2 years of watching My AH suffer with the consequences of his drinking, hes finally made that step & gone to AA. Iv...

el-cee · el-cee

I think i may owe some mip folks an apology. I have come to realise that i dont always give esh away freely. It often comes with expectations that are unrealistic on my part, like, i know best kind of esh, so you better listen to me. Sometimes the suggestions i give have an underlying demand attached. I sti...

CoopsMom · CoopsMom

Hi Everyone, I have to admit that I have been anonymously reading your conversations for a few months now and it has helped me feel more and more comfortable about jumping into this recovery program. I have read 'how al-anon works', Getting them Sober, and a few other books you all have recommended a...

ladybugnessa · ladybugnessa

Hi Gang, Hope you all had a great weekend. Saturday something happened and I think I may be getting this whole detachment thing. We were going to play some board games and AH got frustrated with something I don't even remember what, and he yelled and called me his favorite B word. I just put my stuff...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

The reason(I think) that I don't post much anymore is because I am no longer in a crisis. That should never be an excuse for me. I know that I have a lot to be of assistance to others. It isn't about me. I just hope in the future I am not apprehensive about being there for anyone. I used to feel like I had so much t...

Bloodshotbetty · Bloodshotbetty

Hi everyone, My name is Alycia and I have been lurking on these boards for a couple of weeks now. I plan to attend one of the online meetings soon! 1 month ago my AH decided to drive our car while intoxicated. He is very sneaky with his drinking and me nor our friends had any idea he was drunk. He hit a parke...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C for today speaks about working the steps and being afraid of having our defects removed. Many of us feel that will be an empty shell if these defects are lifted. The reading points out that in no way nor in any step do we ever ask HP to add anything to us. We only request that our negative attitude...

Helpangel · Helpangel

My ah is 95 days sober and I realized that I know why I am having such a hard time. Mine was never physically abusive but definetly emotionally abusive and very manipulating. He is trying and I am trying since last weeks therapy appointment he hasn't been as negative and grumpy which has helped me so much...

chemistryiscool · chemistryiscool

Hi everyone, This is my first posting, after reading so many of the posts here over the last few months. I'm sure what I'm about to write will mirror so many of your experiences, but I feel the need to get it out there. I've been in an on/off relationship with my HFA boyfriend for 8 years. I'm not even sur...

Debb · Debb

Hi Everyone!! Was just thinking about the 10th and 11th steps ... seems I get stuck on these two every so often:Tenth Step Prayer I pray I am continue:To grow in understanding and effectiveness; To take daily spot-check inventories of myself;To correct mistakes when I make them;To take respon...

Truth · Truth

So today I need to work on my self-righteousness!!!!! I honestly can say that I don't have this trait often, however this last bout of e-mails has put me into this state and I am having a hard time letting go. My ex-A has this down to a tee...he will push my buttons until I cannot take it anymore and then I fin...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hi Everyone, Yesterday, my wife and I went to town to run some errands and take care of a few things. The walk from where we had to park the car to our first stop was long and COLD. And, we were about an hour early, so we decided to go into a restaurant to warm up and use the restroom. I went to the restroom first...

Timjack · Timjack

Hi. I'm writing this home alone. My husband who was almost 2 years sober, drank today because our 28 year old son who has a heroin addiction could not be found. I truly, truly don't know what to do. My husband wanted to throw my son out, and I just cant do that! I'm his mom! Could someone give me some dir...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good Morning Everyone-- There are three specific ideas that resonate with me from today's reading: One--RESPONSIBILITY. Some of it was growing up in such a big family, some of it was growing up with an alcoholic father and parents who divorced bitterly; I had a lot of responsibility as a young child...

Truth · Truth

Well I went through the emotions .... Got to my part and feel better!!! I am more aware of my limits and understand the importance of not reacting (if I react now it is a choice not a mistake because it is in my awareness). I am capable of making healthy decisions!!!!

mjferg · mjferg

I was reading about making decisions and one suggestion was to picture yourself as a wise older woman,what would she say to you?What would she want your life to be like?It is an interesting concept.I am pretty sure it would be pretty good advice.

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

The kids finally saw their dad today after not seeing him since 12/24. Saying it was awkward is probably putting it mildly. The kids picked a place that the staff is very familiar with me and my son so they watched out for them which I was extremely grateful for, and the kids had a good time. Their dad an...

Agape · Agape

Hi, I'm looking for some online support though, honestly, I'd like to be on (almost) any website other than this one...I'd much prefer to just stick my head in the sand and pretend this isn't happening. My husband's been in recovery for nine years and I went to family counselling then (a lot like Al Anon...

DavidG · DavidG

...I'll mind my own business and you can mind yours...? Sometimes group business is everyone's business. That is, if we are a group member.... I think that is the crux of the traditions... ...in our lives our power boundaries are all messed up. As a kid i took quite a lot adult responsibility, and the a...

Fairlee · Fairlee

hi! It's snowy and freezing cold down here in Texas! I do not do well in this weather :( I wonder if anyone else struggles with "am I making more out of this problem than there really is?" I sat, listening to a conversation my AH was having with his mother, talking about how "everyone&qu...

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	the myths about detaching (Preview) The little alanon pamphlet called detachment has been very important to me. It was one of the first things i read and one of the first things that gave me that moment of wow, this is it, this is what i need to do. At first, it went against every idea i was brought up to believe. The influences in my life, my mot...	el-cee	6	961	Mar 11, 2015 by DavidG
	Dealing with someone misleading you... (Preview) Okay so I really did not expect anything different so I am not hurt or upset. I am wondering what is a healthy way to respond when you have discovered someone has mislead you by leaving out important information that would have changed your decision.	Truth	14	983	Mar 10, 2015 by Truth
	Feeling sad about reaction from sister. (Preview) As I have mentioned before,my AH drove drunk and flipped our car with us in it. Since then, many members of my family have not wanted contact with him. Which I understand. I have a niece and nephew who are the light of my world. My sister told me she doesn't want my AH around the kids. I have regular sle...	Bloodshotbetty	15	908	Mar 10, 2015 by tiredtonite
	Is loss of interest typical as you work the al anon program? (Preview) I've been going to f2f al anon meetings for 3 months and am working the program very intently. I've also been listening to speaker tapes daily, and it get so much from them. I attend an open AA meeting each week, which helps me develop compassion that I lacked here at home with AH and alcoholic stepson (I t...	Irish7	12	746	Mar 10, 2015 by Fairlee
	AC O A (Preview) Hallo I would like to ask you, other adult children of alcoholics how do u feel and how is your life like???do u also feel often sad and depressed?like u dont know where u going in life and what u want and who u really are?my life is full of ups and downs and i have mood swings and terrible feelings of isolatio...	mersi	6	838	Mar 10, 2015 by LedfootJenny
	This is what I did for me today. (Preview) I have been finding that I am back to that bad habit of concentrating on others way too much. I have decided to go back to two hobbies I used to have. I am going to gardening programs, want to someday get my master gardener designation, I have been to two programs, a fruit tree sale and have two programs to go...	mercedes1959	19	741	Mar 10, 2015 by mercedes1959
	Our Thinking (Preview) I've heard in meetings lately "My thinking can kill me." Please share what that means to you, and what you do about it. Thank you.	WorkingThroughIt	8	657	Mar 10, 2015 by WorkingThroughIt
	Hope For Today Mar 10 (Preview) Good Morning MIP: The focus of today's reading is the slogan "Live And Let Live". The writer admits not being completely comfortable with the phrase, until an Alanon speaker compared it to working his own plot of land (his 'emotional acre') and not trying to tend other people's. This me...	yanksfan51	2	662	Mar 10, 2015 by hotrod
	Trying to stay off the roller-coaster (Preview) Hi Everyone, It has been close to a month since my wife wrecked her car, and I feel like my journey with Alanon has been extremely positive and productive so far. I have been working on detachment, and letting my wife make her own decisions and be responsible for those decisions. While I make my own dec...	Skorpi	4	1599	Mar 9, 2015 by Skorpi
	Today was a beautiful day (Preview) And I didn't have to do anything to make it so - Its early March and our temp was in the mid-sixties; I spent a lot of time yesterday and today trimming that in my yard that needed trimming and then, this morning found me burning burning burning it to my heart's content. Nearing the end of the pyromaniac hou...	likemyheart	4	698	Mar 9, 2015 by Breakingfree
	3-9 ODAT (Preview) The ODA T reading for today is really powerful and thought provoking. It speaks about one of the symptoms of living with the disease of alcoholism.--- which is an attack of anger. It defines this attack as an "uncontrollable impulse to judge and condemn someone". In this explosion. I am re...	hotrod	3	619	Mar 9, 2015 by Debb
	nightmares and fear upon my exAH being released from jail in next couple days #fearful #reopened old wounds (Preview) I always come back for guidance. My life has been going well last few months. Unbeleivably well actually. My ex AH has been tying his life up with legal probs, rehabs and jail for breaking probation requirements with more DWI's. BTW ... the abilility to buy out (have disposed) DWI's in Tx is unnerving!...	sweeetr	19	1055	Mar 9, 2015 by sweeetr
	Am I setting boundaries or being controlling? (Preview) Yesterday, my husband brought hard liquor in to our home, which is something I have told him many times is unacceptable to me. He tends to become verbally abusive after consuming hard liquor and it is very upsetting even though I try to detatch. It happens every time he touches the stuff. Anyway, he...	Smiley99	6	594	Mar 9, 2015 by Jerry F
	Sharing My Epiphany (Preview) I had an epiphany and wanted to share, because when you have suffered for a long period of time and have emerged a better person, the need to share becomes very important and the part of the last step in the Al-Anon protocol. I am not a very verbose person so you may find this short and sweet, but very to the...	Debb	7	673	Mar 9, 2015 by Debb
	Hi All!! (Preview) I'm doing good. Sorry I have been remiss . I've been attending school to get my certification to be an Alcohol and Drug counselor. That's where I have been. Loving it... We are all counselor's here on this board with much experience and knowledge. Hope this finds you all doing well and living it every da...	Beatrice	5	624	Mar 9, 2015 by Beatrice
	Is feeling fed up with an Alcoholic's behavior a sign of progress or my inability to "let go"? (Preview) I know I am not supposed to be trying to fix my Alcoholic, nor do I think I am in any way responsible for my A's choices. But if I feel annoyed at their repetitious blaming, negativity, and bad decisions.....does that mean I have not let go? Does anyone ever get to the point where the A' blaming, negati...	lgnutah	12	819	Mar 9, 2015 by SunshineGirl
	changed attitudes .. power & Power .. just sharing & reflecting with coffee . (Preview) just came from a meeting and was listening to the opening read: changed attitudes can aid recovery .. I began to think about power .. there's never been a time in my life when I was powerless . either I had the power to crush me or effect another in a negative way or the balance was that once I got in recovery,...	MeTwo2	3	760	Mar 8, 2015 by hotrod
	18 months sober- now drinking O'douls (Preview) My husband has 18 months sobriety and for the first time in an 8 year struggle is active in AA, has a sponsor, is working the steps and is make amends. This has been the best 18 months of our marriage and I am finally starting to trust him again and he has repaired so much damage done over the years. For the l...	Jme	22	14339	Mar 8, 2015 by Mattie
	Calculated loss (Preview) I had a lovely conversation last night with a lovely man and I actually think I was being hit on .. lol. Seriously speaking not something I'm usually aware of if and when it does happen. At least he's not married .. lol . well I haven't gotten that full story yet. I know he's in transition. The statemen...	SerenityRUS	23	819	Mar 8, 2015 by SerenityRUS
	Great People (Preview) I just want to say there are some good people on this board, people who are trying there best to recover in Al-Anon. And being careful not to hurt others in the process, people who think first before reacting to keep the peace. Gentle lovers as Jerry might agree. All in all making the earth where ever you a...	LinSC	10	609	Mar 8, 2015 by el-cee
	C2C and ODAT 3- 8 (Preview) Daylight savings time, went into effect last night here in New York City. It is difficult to get used to, but I love the increased daylight in the mornings and evening. The C2 C reading for today is a great reminder of an important reason for attending meetings or even coming here to MIP. to post or s...	hotrod	1	356	Mar 8, 2015 by KennyFenderjazz
	uphill battle (Preview) I received some bad news,I will be losing half of my income soon!I don't know how I am going to make it.I am going to have to move and I don't know if I am emotionally ready for the stress.I am really worried about keeping up with school during the process of moving.I am so tired it seems like I constantly str...	mjferg	4	498	Mar 8, 2015 by mjferg
	Surrender (Preview) Today I have to surrender and let go ... It kind of sucks when your HP teaches you things and then you can see what is going on and want to force the lesson on others. All in due time or maybe never, my part is just to say no.	Truth	5	636	Mar 7, 2015 by Debb
	Talk about wow! (Preview) When last I posted here, A had been staying over and making himself indispensable. I mean he was, for a couple of weeks, really, really nice. Nicer and more helpful to me than he has been. quite literally, EVER. And I was thinking well, hey, maybe? Of course it deteriorated, he started trying to enforce...	missmeliss	19	966	Mar 7, 2015 by Debb
	time to think (Preview) well I'm back and hopefully still welcome. I was aqua mom: I took a break for reasons all my own. I return to think on making amends. Many thoughts. My f2f group is a true balm, yet I found a connection here via writing and reading that I really connect with. And I miss everyone, Hotrod,my hero, Jerry,who s...	a4l	8	607	Mar 7, 2015 by Debb
	c2c 7th march-beauty (Preview) Todays reading is about beauty and how living with alcoholism can mean we have a negative self defeating attitude and dont see the beauty in ourselves. It talks about how changing our negative attitude into a positive makes us more beautiful human beings. Living with love and gratitude brings out ou...	el-cee	4	468	Mar 7, 2015 by Debb
	DONT ANY OF YOU STAY WITH YOUR LONG TIME HUSBAND? (Preview) IM WORKING HARD AT ALANON,FACE TO FACE MEETING,READING,WORKING ON THE PATHS BOOK,GO ON OUR GROUP OFTEN. I WOULD LIKE TO THINK THAT EVEN WITH THE BEHAVIOR AH SHOWED, WE CAN WORK IT OUT. HE IS IN REHAB NOW MY SPONSER IS A RECOVERING ALCOHOLIC AND HER HUSBAND IS A RECOVERING LCOHOLIC AND HER SON IS A RECOVE...	YARNCRAZY	29	1274	Mar 7, 2015 by Beatrice
	Detaching (Preview) I have had the hardest time with detaching. I would have these conversations in my mind every day, being irritable - all with a pit in my stomach. About a month or so ago my husband went to visit his brothers and I opted to stay home. I said a lot of prayers and then felt that warm feeling inside that he und...	Jen61	4	617	Mar 7, 2015 by hotrod
	Tonight I am angry and struggling to detach. (Preview) In the 4.5 years I have been with my AH I have never seen him take a drink. Not. Once. And we are talking an alcoholic who drinks listerine and rubbing alcohol when hes desperate. He's hardcore. This means I have chronic anxiety about whether or not he's drunk. A month ago, he crashed our car and blew a...	Bloodshotbetty	5	792	Mar 7, 2015 by Mattie
	Hardship and health and support (Preview) Hello everyone I hope you all are well and working on getting better. I'm on and off again this emotional ride still even though the alcholic is not currently in my life but the remains of the disease still lives on in me and in my house. My health is not well I been in the hospital off and on due to my stress le...	Wisdom67	7	881	Mar 6, 2015 by LedfootJenny
	higher power telling me to be quiet?? (Preview) This has been day 5 of not having a voice. Ive got laryngitis, cant make a sound. I usually dont shut up so this is a weird experiemce. Its like my higher power has pulled my brakes and said stop. The chattering inside my head is never ending thougn. So, no work, no phonecalls, nothing. Feeling so sorry for...	el-cee	6	729	Mar 6, 2015 by hotrod
	Learning my Triggers and my Choices (Preview) Well after repeating to myself ... Over and over again ... "I am capable of making healthy decisions". I am starting to feel like my old self. My old self was a person who had boundaries, liked making healthy choices, and was not fearful of others responses to my choices. I am also learning...	Truth	5	607	Mar 6, 2015 by Truth
	C2C 3 6 (Preview) I can so identify with today's reading in the Courage to Change. It speaks about expecting others to know what we need and want, without having to ask for it. It points out that no one is a mind reader and no one can tell what is in my mind, heart and soul unless I reveal it. Before program I always felt as if my...	hotrod	3	474	Mar 6, 2015 by MeTwo2
	Help with an A who "J.A.D.E"s (Preview) Hi Everyone, I'm Jenny and I'm new here - but have already felt so inspired and supported by your stories. Thank you. I've been at this recovery thing awhile. I'm married to an addict who has had a recent relapse after several years of being clean...however, I see now that he's what you might call a dry...	LedfootJenny	25	1798	Mar 6, 2015 by LedfootJenny
	Working on detachment (Preview) Hello all = I always feel better when I get ES&H from you guys. I have been struggling all week, when I start the stinking thinking, I say the serenity prayer, go to a meeting and think of slogans. One that is coming to mind is "It's non of my business what others think of me" Friday night at a...	mercedes1959	19	874	Mar 6, 2015 by Truth
	Really need help and advice (Preview) Six years ago I met a girl and fell in love with her, she was on many prescription pills but I didn't think it was a big deal. We lived together for 3 years and at the end she turned into a full on alcoholic/drug abuser. I left her at the end because she refused to get help and she blamed me for help addiction. We...	marsaray	7	751	Mar 6, 2015 by Truth
	Thanks (Preview) Thanks everyone for alanon -- Edited by losingit on Friday 6th of March 2015 10:18:57 AM	losingit	4	1149	Mar 6, 2015 by Jerry F
	ODAT reading March 4th (Preview) The ODAT today suggests that just because we practice Al-Anon,it does not mean that life will always be completely joyful and happy. It points out that when we are strengthened by the Al-Anon philosophy, we find ourselves able to look at things in their proper perspective and that by starting...	hotrod	3	417	Mar 6, 2015 by hotrod
	My alcoholic keeps trying to take my inventory... (Preview) My husband who is active keeps harrasing me about my 'progress' He knows that I go to 'meetings' to help me 'be a better person and to help me deal with some childhood dysfunction that I grew up in but thats all Ive told him. Now he keeps asking me 'so what have u learned' and 'what exactly are the things ur tr...	Hopefull15	15	995	Mar 6, 2015 by Mirandac
	In a bad place, trying to get to a better one (Preview) My husband is an addict. To my knowledge, he has not been using for some time now. But things are just awful. His behavior is erratic and I feel like I am constantly walking on eggshells, waiting for the other shoe to drop and then his incredible anger will come crashing down. He refuses or 'forgets' to...	TryingToMoveOn	10	545	Mar 6, 2015 by hotrod
	Gone to AA so why do I feel so sad? (Preview) Hi all not posted for a while. Been looking after myself & working my program. I've learned loads from alannon & on here & can't believe how much better I am! anyway, after 2 years of watching My AH suffer with the consequences of his drinking, hes finally made that step & gone to AA. Iv...	Tash2	10	763	Mar 6, 2015 by Jerry F
	an amends (Preview) I think i may owe some mip folks an apology. I have come to realise that i dont always give esh away freely. It often comes with expectations that are unrealistic on my part, like, i know best kind of esh, so you better listen to me. Sometimes the suggestions i give have an underlying demand attached. I sti...	el-cee	14	678	Mar 5, 2015 by LinSC
	I am new here and would like to thank you all. (Preview) Hi Everyone, I have to admit that I have been anonymously reading your conversations for a few months now and it has helped me feel more and more comfortable about jumping into this recovery program. I have read 'how al-anon works', Getting them Sober, and a few other books you all have recommended a...	CoopsMom	6	731	Mar 5, 2015 by YARNCRAZY
	Would you define this as Loving Detachment... or what? (Preview) Hi Gang, Hope you all had a great weekend. Saturday something happened and I think I may be getting this whole detachment thing. We were going to play some board games and AH got frustrated with something I don't even remember what, and he yelled and called me his favorite B word. I just put my stuff...	ladybugnessa	12	833	Mar 5, 2015 by Hopefull15
	don't post much anymore (Preview) The reason(I think) that I don't post much anymore is because I am no longer in a crisis. That should never be an excuse for me. I know that I have a lot to be of assistance to others. It isn't about me. I just hope in the future I am not apprehensive about being there for anyone. I used to feel like I had so much t...	Hoot Nanny	1	535	Mar 5, 2015 by hotrod
	New here! (Preview) Hi everyone, My name is Alycia and I have been lurking on these boards for a couple of weeks now. I plan to attend one of the online meetings soon! 1 month ago my AH decided to drive our car while intoxicated. He is very sneaky with his drinking and me nor our friends had any idea he was drunk. He hit a parke...	Bloodshotbetty	7	567	Mar 5, 2015 by Bloodshotbetty
	C2C reading for 2-3 (Preview) The C2C for today speaks about working the steps and being afraid of having our defects removed. Many of us feel that will be an empty shell if these defects are lifted. The reading points out that in no way nor in any step do we ever ask HP to add anything to us. We only request that our negative attitude...	hotrod	4	514	Mar 5, 2015 by karma13
	Why it is hard to stay (Preview) My ah is 95 days sober and I realized that I know why I am having such a hard time. Mine was never physically abusive but definetly emotionally abusive and very manipulating. He is trying and I am trying since last weeks therapy appointment he hasn't been as negative and grumpy which has helped me so much...	Helpangel	4	687	Mar 5, 2015 by maryjane
	HFA Boyfriend (Preview) Hi everyone, This is my first posting, after reading so many of the posts here over the last few months. I'm sure what I'm about to write will mirror so many of your experiences, but I feel the need to get it out there. I've been in an on/off relationship with my HFA boyfriend for 8 years. I'm not even sur...	chemistryiscool	8	682	Mar 5, 2015 by glad
	10th & 11th Steps (Preview) Hi Everyone!! Was just thinking about the 10th and 11th steps ... seems I get stuck on these two every so often:Tenth Step Prayer I pray I am continue:To grow in understanding and effectiveness; To take daily spot-check inventories of myself;To correct mistakes when I make them;To take respon...	Debb	5	548	Mar 5, 2015 by el-cee
	How to get rid of self-righteousness? ( 1 2 ) (Preview) So today I need to work on my self-righteousness!!!!! I honestly can say that I don't have this trait often, however this last bout of e-mails has put me into this state and I am having a hard time letting go. My ex-A has this down to a tee...he will push my buttons until I cannot take it anymore and then I fin...	Truth	40	2157	Mar 4, 2015 by Truth
	Dealing with a "relapse" (Preview) Hi Everyone, Yesterday, my wife and I went to town to run some errands and take care of a few things. The walk from where we had to park the car to our first stop was long and COLD. And, we were about an hour early, so we decided to go into a restaurant to warm up and use the restroom. I went to the restroom first...	Skorpi	11	1036	Mar 4, 2015 by LedfootJenny
	I'm not new to this, but I'm new to this (Preview) Hi. I'm writing this home alone. My husband who was almost 2 years sober, drank today because our 28 year old son who has a heroin addiction could not be found. I truly, truly don't know what to do. My husband wanted to throw my son out, and I just cant do that! I'm his mom! Could someone give me some dir...	Timjack	7	951	Mar 4, 2015 by LedfootJenny
	Hope For Today Mar 3 (Preview) Good Morning Everyone-- There are three specific ideas that resonate with me from today's reading: One--RESPONSIBILITY. Some of it was growing up in such a big family, some of it was growing up with an alcoholic father and parents who divorced bitterly; I had a lot of responsibility as a young child...	yanksfan51	8	703	Mar 4, 2015 by yanksfan51
	Feel Better Today (Preview) Well I went through the emotions .... Got to my part and feel better!!! I am more aware of my limits and understand the importance of not reacting (if I react now it is a choice not a mistake because it is in my awareness). I am capable of making healthy decisions!!!!	Truth	4	415	Mar 4, 2015 by Jerry F
	decision making (Preview) I was reading about making decisions and one suggestion was to picture yourself as a wise older woman,what would she say to you?What would she want your life to be like?It is an interesting concept.I am pretty sure it would be pretty good advice.	mjferg	1	479	Mar 3, 2015 by milkwood
	Weird Visitation (Preview) The kids finally saw their dad today after not seeing him since 12/24. Saying it was awkward is probably putting it mildly. The kids picked a place that the staff is very familiar with me and my son so they watched out for them which I was extremely grateful for, and the kids had a good time. Their dad an...	SerenityRUS	4	681	Mar 3, 2015 by SerenityRUS
	Wish I wasn't here...again... (Preview) Hi, I'm looking for some online support though, honestly, I'd like to be on (almost) any website other than this one...I'd much prefer to just stick my head in the sand and pretend this isn't happening. My husband's been in recovery for nine years and I went to family counselling then (a lot like Al Anon...	Agape	3	609	Mar 3, 2015 by Jerry F
	Live, and let live... (Preview) ...I'll mind my own business and you can mind yours...? Sometimes group business is everyone's business. That is, if we are a group member.... I think that is the crux of the traditions... ...in our lives our power boundaries are all messed up. As a kid i took quite a lot adult responsibility, and the a...	DavidG	2	1021	Mar 2, 2015 by Jerry F
	Do you second guess yourself? (Preview) hi! It's snowy and freezing cold down here in Texas! I do not do well in this weather :( I wonder if anyone else struggles with "am I making more out of this problem than there really is?" I sat, listening to a conversation my AH was having with his mother, talking about how "everyone&qu...	Fairlee	12	847	Mar 2, 2015 by Jerry F
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