Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

a4l · a4l

it still aches but not as much as clinging to the rope and getting whiplashed. I seperated from my husband, though he did move back in a few times before finally moving to live above a bar. Sometimes we get along, sometimes we don't but overall he's still someone I call a friend. However, as as are loathe t...

el-cee · el-cee

You know how you can read something over and over and hear it over and over but you dont quite get it? Well, ive only just come to realise that alcoholism is a family disease!!! Its taken me 3 years for that one to penetrate. This program just keeps giving me more and more. I was listening to aa speakers on y...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Am told to keep down and stay quiet so am doing that. I came to check in and listen and learn. You all are the same dedicated family I put aside with love just before going to be self-responsible. I'm back home now more of just a jelly fish in the moment following AFG suggestions and listening t...

andromeda · andromeda

I am having mixed emotions, mostly sadness. Not sad about the marriage ending but sad for my xah and where he is today. He showed up at court (we filed at the same time: I filed the petition and he signed the acceptance of service) 20 minutes late and reeking of alcohol. He was mean and made snarky comme...

pinkchip · pinkchip

I'm confused by this term. I see a lot of people using it to describe 1. Newly sober behavior 2. Dry drunk behavior 3. Behaviors they just don't like or agree with 4. Jerky A-hole behavior 5. Erratic behavior To me, sober people show a lot of the behaviors that are mentioned too. Alcoholics don't have...

Nannynoo · Nannynoo

It is difficult , but we HAVE to do it My situation is I HAVE to stay strong for my 7 yr old Grandsons sake who is in foster care at present but social services are going to reassess me to look after him So it is VITAL I stay strong with my DD who is an alcoholic She is down right now and her sister is worried abo...

Kerrymom · Kerrymom

Realizing how many expectations I had about moving out. Moved myself and kids out Friday, AH didn't change his behavior the last weeks we were there, just mainly sulked and moped around. the expectations I had on this change included 1) me being happier/relieved - really not there yet, why did I thi...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

2nd trip to rehab didnt help ah. or should i say, he didnt follow through on it at all. I am going through the same sad,angry,empty feeling while he repeats the same ah behavior he always does. I must get off this treadmill or i will completely lose myself. Yes, I have been applying alanon tools but they ar...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- It's been a while since I've posted, although I have been here reading and learning along with all of you. I am having a tough time with something and am going to get it off my chest. I will do my best to make a long story shorter. A couple of years ago, in a last ditch effort to try an...

anxious · anxious

My daughter is a single mom with 2 children . Girls. She had been in a very abusive relationship with the father of her children. I got her out of that - and she was at a women's shelter for a while. Then housing. Things worked good for 2 years until I bought a mobile home for them as a family home.She was supp...

WebD · WebD

My AD has had a problem for a couple of years, but managed to live her life, school, work etc. most recently she started dating a guy with a record for drugs who was on probation. She ended up staying there many nights and then I found out from her friends, there were domestic assault issues with his past...

Jill · Jill

Today I was comparing my yoga posture to that of the teacher. I am new at it. When she referenced our heads ON THE FLOOR (mine wouldn't even come close), I realized it was closer today than it was last time. I need to be faithful to trying, and I trust I will progress. I know that's how this works, too. I'm no...

tjk · tjk

I feel like I can't handle it anymore. He drinks usually 2 750 ML Whiskey or Vodka a week. All I do is worry about him. I tell him how I feel and he either jokes about, tells me to just worry about myself, or turns it around and says that there are things I do that bother him but he doesn't bug me about it. If I get r...

el-cee · el-cee

Everythjng is perfect. Just as it should be. Right in this moment is happiness and peace. Unhappiness, anxiety, worry is not about this very moment, its about yesterday and tomorrow. I cant change yesterday and tomorrow so i will stay where the peace is, right here in this moment.

hopefortoday29 · hopefortoday29

Hi, I am trying new things in al-anon right now because I am not in a position at the moment to get to regular face to face meetings. I have a sponsor and some al-anon friends but I am missing the contact of having that readily available source of community. I have tried the phone bridge meetings which are w...

missmeliss · missmeliss

For years now I have allowed my daughter to go to her fathers house for Christmas and Easter. In my mind, she would have lots more fun there as they have little kids and make a big deal out of these festivals. I spent last Christmas sitting alone in a room being sad. I had it in my mind that spending these happ...

LinSC · LinSC

acronym for "DON'T EVEN NO I AM LYING" ! how perfect is this....

el-cee · el-cee

I learned i was an enabler to alcoholics. It meant i helped the disease grow strong, i gave money, a soft place to land, excuses and lies for the drinker, let them verbally abuse me, put up with anything that was thrown at me, and what i didnt realise was that this encouraged and assisted the drinking. Th...

Wisdom67 · Wisdom67

Today is a good day . I got out of the hospital last Thursday and put on the right meds and hopeful I can stay in the moment and in the day . I let myself become a wreck and ended up having a mental emtional breakdown that lead me in the hospital . I was running around with my head cut off , worried about the week th...

mikenusaf · mikenusaf

I am new to Al-Anon (I have never been to a meeting and this is my first time posting). I have 5 months sober today and am going to AA. My wife still drinks and is anti AA, although she has told me she sees how it has made positive changes in me. She asks me questions about AA and I do my best to answer them to my u...

Hildabenta · Hildabenta

Hello I am 29 years Kenyan girl with a 10 months son,,I have no job ,,,please I need a sponsor,,,help me,,,I am single

missmeliss · missmeliss

Oooh here's my illness in full swing. Wow! I haven't seen A for maybe 5 weeks. I haven't wanted to talk to him really because he just wants to tell me about how I should give him my old car because he cn't get a job to pay me back he thousands of dollars he borrowed from me unless I do...blah blah blah whatever....

shealah · shealah

Is it simply the nature of alcoholics to lie and try to hide relapse? can alcoholics be honest about cravings and relapse, or is that expecting too much? Specifically be honest with their significant other?

AWSmith · AWSmith

So, she came home, drunk, today. Of course she claims she wasn't drunk. It was the Tequila flavored dipping sauce from Zaxby's (a chicken fast food chain out here). Still, she blew a 0.0701. Not legally drunk ,no. But with 2 DUIs (but only 1 conviction, thank you connecticut) its a bad sign when she...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Happy Easter to those who color eggs, stay up late making baskets, having the late night sugar rush, and celebrate the holiday in the Christian sense of the word. Let me just say the weird crazy dreams that I had this early AM. UGH! LOL .. they were very strange and not happy at all that's what I get for e...

Truth · Truth

K well for some reason I have been getting triggered and my anxiety attacks have started again. I have been practicing so I responded to it better this time. I went to a chair... Focused on the present moment and told my body it was safe. It worked just makes you completely exhausted!!! I cannot wait for s...

likemyheart · likemyheart

Tomorrow is Easter so today was the Easter Egg Hunt for one of my jobs and the job falls to ME to organize the event - EEEK! Years ago when I first took on the job, after getting refusal of help from the previous organizer (she was mad), someone told me to make it my own, so I did. I make it fun for ME; spend $850 M...

Lenora · Lenora

My son is a 24/7 alcoholic. I am at the end of my sanity. I have no support system with in my family and friends. My health is declining rapidly and I have severe panic attacks. I don't know how to help him. I feel like I have already lost him to this disease. I don't know where else to turn. Please can...

Irish7 · Irish7

I haven't seen this raised before, and frankly, I haven't been able to find much on the web about this. One of my qualifiers is a healthy 25 yr old male whose drinking has escalated from an occasional binge to 5x to 7x weekly binge. I've found evidence (in my laundry room) that he is wetting the bed about 2x...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

I liked today's reading as it compliments my program of recovery very well. It talks about how not being hard on ourselves - and putting something up on the shelf for a while and even having a laugh or some fun - can help is come back to our problems refreshed. Aaaaaahhhhh. this is perfect for me, as someti...

Amorris89 · Amorris89

This is my first time posting on anything like this so sorry if I ramble a little bit. I've been with my husband almost 9 years, 3 married. He has always seemed to have a little problem with alcohol. Drinking too much too quickly, especially on an empty stomach. When he drinks like this he will get very me...

mjferg · mjferg

I am realizing that thinking good healthy positive thoughts hasn't been a habit of mine.After ending my relationship with my A I thought I would be very peaceful and happy.Well it turns out my little brain is my own worst abuser at times and I can work myself into quite a frenzy.Something like chicken...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

This is really difficult for me to do. A few things going on at the moment. No communication for my son's actual birthday .. and I refer to the kids as my kids. 2 hours a month doesn't qualify as a parent, it is more like an Uncle removed by marriage kind of deal. That's his issue not mine and definitely n...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good Morning Everyone-- This reading speaks to our relationship with our Higher Power. Although I never have felt hatred or even fear toward God, I can relate to the reading as far as feeling my relationship with my HP feeling strengthened since coming into the program. I am grateful that growing up...

pinkchip · pinkchip

One of those days....actually the whole week. It was filled with drama. Everyone was acting like they wanted to kill each other. Everyone was complaining. It was volatile and umcomfortable. All other admin but me was out...bad planning overall. There were a million fires tg at got lit over stupid cr...

loser · loser

WHERE ARE THERE ALANON MEETINGS IN FARMINGTON NM OR CLOSE TO THE 4 CORNERS (RED MESA AREA?)

Lyne · Lyne

When I was an alanon newbie, at times I thought some of the member responses were nearly callous in response to the shares on the board. One that came to me (over a year ago) really hurt my feelings and I thought something was wrong with that responder. So now I have almost two years in, and my sister in an...

Skorpi · Skorpi

The internet! Because our service was disconnected over the weekend, and I wasn't able to pop online for support. SO thankful to have it connected again today! What are you thankful for today?

Lenora · Lenora

Hello, I posted yesterday about my son who is an alcoholic. I got a lot of good advice, but I am still really scared of the whole process. Will I have to live the rest of my life like this? If so, then it is not much of a life to live. Could someone please give me the names of some good books that might help. I...

MeTwo2 · MeTwo2

it is so hard to have this many years in program and still recognize the reality of step 1 for me .. know I will always be on it no matter what step i'm on because the powerless to me is many things but lacking clarity (wisdom) is a huge piece of why i am powerless .. shoulding on myself this morning .. should be...

Flower49 · Flower49

Hi everyone! Lately I have been feeling this way towards my AH. Simultaneous mixed feelings of starting to trust and then the I can't trust you hits. I can't really declare how I feel about things. Nothing is going wrong or is horrible, it's just weird. The other day his Probation Officer showed up on ou...

LinSC · LinSC

I've always thought the opposite, here on earth my experiences help define who I am. In a sense that you learned something from your experiences good or bad, and you know to watch it next time, or keep your mind open, I think experiences do mold me into a different person for better or worse, and hopefull...

tnwife · tnwife

I took my husband to treatment at the end of December. We had been separated before that but had discussed our marriage and decided that we were going to stay married. After his 28 day program he decided that he was going to stay where he went to treatment in a halfway house. I was fine with that. I thought w...

John · John

I am simply the physical manifestation of what I was created to be in spirit. A energy of love and light in the world. This was my form prior to any physical form being developed. Now, I am visible, touchable, and simply being carried within the capsulation of my physical being. My life experiences...

ladybugnessa · ladybugnessa

My AH is sober 83 days. Saturday night he came to bed around 3:30 am (he stays up late all the time) he was acting weird. Like he had been drinking. I got up in the morning and he had cleaned up the kitchen including bagging up two bags of trash to go out. The next day he said "thank you for ba...

GreenerGal · GreenerGal

I have been working so hard on focusing on me that I think I may have actually been being more than lovingly detached. I think I've been a bit nasty, just waiting for the next shoe to drop so I could prove to myself what an asshat my qualifier really is. And the fact is, yes, yes he's been making mistakes he...

shimo · shimo

WEDNESDAY AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM (EST) TOPICS: Trust; 3 A's (Awareness, Acceptance, Action); Changing the Things I Can The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other ways to join the room also. Using mIRC or other chat client, the ser...

MidCenturyModern · MidCenturyModern

Hey hey everyone! I have been wanting to do this for awhile but kept thinking things would resolve on their own... lesson learned! My friend, and ex partner (let's call her "Jane"), needs some help. I will give a run-down below of what has went down. Edit: Jane and I only recently (approx....

Skorpi · Skorpi

So, My wife's first court date was yesterday. Just the initial appearance and signature bond. Today, she got a letter notifying her of a sentencing that happened for her refusal to allow a blood test without a warrant. (Since it is her third, the blood draw instead of the breathalyzer was required.)...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I wish that I didn't have to remember things from the past. My cousin was available to me for a long time. Now her daughter has learned that I won't tolerate her the way she is. I can't change her I know but our belief systems are very different. I wanted to be close to her but what I see in her is not healthy for...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

This is just like trying to not eat fattennng food. I have to bite my tonque not to scream that ah promised to go to his aa meetings etc since he got out of rehab and hasnt. He promised alot of things and i have to use all my strength to not scream about it.. I have to be strong and not touch the piles of paperwork...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

we went to a meeting i seldom go to because I need a ride to get there. afterwards, i asked him what he thought. He was less than impressed. he said that it just seemed like a place where people share their stories. He said he didnt understand the hands off approach to the alcoholic. he said that they didnt h...

John · John

This is one of the most powerful songs I have heard about a toxic relationship finally being left. It has the sound of empowerment, freedom and independence wrapped into it nicely.

cooper1 · cooper1

Hey there Everyone, I would love the groups input on this because I simply don't know how to handle it and I haven't seen it covered in Alanon. Scenerio: I call my AH, I KNOW right away by the sound of his voice that he has used -something- (drugs or alcohol). He is not completely drunk/high, but, I can he...

Effdee · Effdee

Im 28 and attended alanon consistenly for about 5 years, but havent been in about 3 years, alanon turned my life around, and i still am able to work through alanon concepts and relate them to my everyday life, i just felt i wasnt getting as much from the meetings anymore as i had great compassion and had go...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Well another weekend without police involved in my life is a good thing if you don't count the kids and I went out to dinner and wound up being an extremely expensive dinner to the tune of 297$. Poor little waitress ringing us out spoke no English we went for Mexican that night, one of my favorite custome...

Sammy Sunday · Sammy Sunday

Hi, my brother's mother in law is addicted to Percoset. She's in her late 70s and is suffering from congestive heart failure, among other aliments. These are prescription drugs that she's become dependent on over time. At times she's admitted she has a problem but other times she's in denial. R...

Nannynoo · Nannynoo

Hi - My daughter is an alcoholic I would LIKE to say a recovering alcoholic , but am not sure She SAYS she is , is doing all the 'right' things eg attending AA , PLUG , inpatient rehab etc , seems sober and says she has stopped drinking and doing well I thought she was making progress but am not sure now My Grand...

LedfootJenny · LedfootJenny

Hi, I've been on the board for a couple of months and working my own meeting for several years. Considering there are no F2F meetings on Sundays near me, I've enjoyed the online meetings you offer here for those days. Thank you for having them. The strangest thing happened today though - after our meet...

el-cee · el-cee

....its nothing to do with love. We might call it 'love,' 'soul mate' etc. I learned it was obsession, compulsion, possessiveness, jealousy, dependancy. Never ever love.

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	detaching with love. (Preview) it still aches but not as much as clinging to the rope and getting whiplashed. I seperated from my husband, though he did move back in a few times before finally moving to live above a bar. Sometimes we get along, sometimes we don't but overall he's still someone I call a friend. However, as as are loathe t...	a4l	3	673	Apr 9, 2015 by hotrod
	realisation (Preview) You know how you can read something over and over and hear it over and over but you dont quite get it? Well, ive only just come to realise that alcoholism is a family disease!!! Its taken me 3 years for that one to penetrate. This program just keeps giving me more and more. I was listening to aa speakers on y...	el-cee	3	611	Apr 9, 2015 by hotrod
	(((((Family))))) (Preview) Am told to keep down and stay quiet so am doing that. I came to check in and listen and learn. You all are the same dedicated family I put aside with love just before going to be self-responsible. I'm back home now more of just a jelly fish in the moment following AFG suggestions and listening t...	Jerry F	12	717	Apr 8, 2015 by Jozie
	Divorce papers filed today (Preview) I am having mixed emotions, mostly sadness. Not sad about the marriage ending but sad for my xah and where he is today. He showed up at court (we filed at the same time: I filed the petition and he signed the acceptance of service) 20 minutes late and reeking of alcohol. He was mean and made snarky comme...	andromeda	14	835	Apr 8, 2015 by andromeda
	Alcoholic behavior (Preview) I'm confused by this term. I see a lot of people using it to describe 1. Newly sober behavior 2. Dry drunk behavior 3. Behaviors they just don't like or agree with 4. Jerky A-hole behavior 5. Erratic behavior To me, sober people show a lot of the behaviors that are mentioned too. Alcoholics don't have...	pinkchip	17	891	Apr 8, 2015 by Mirandac
	Staying strong (Preview) It is difficult , but we HAVE to do it My situation is I HAVE to stay strong for my 7 yr old Grandsons sake who is in foster care at present but social services are going to reassess me to look after him So it is VITAL I stay strong with my DD who is an alcoholic She is down right now and her sister is worried abo...	Nannynoo	26	1111	Apr 8, 2015 by pinkchip
	Expectations (Preview) Realizing how many expectations I had about moving out. Moved myself and kids out Friday, AH didn't change his behavior the last weeks we were there, just mainly sulked and moped around. the expectations I had on this change included 1) me being happier/relieved - really not there yet, why did I thi...	Kerrymom	2	523	Apr 8, 2015 by yanksfan51
	FEELINGS (Preview) 2nd trip to rehab didnt help ah. or should i say, he didnt follow through on it at all. I am going through the same sad,angry,empty feeling while he repeats the same ah behavior he always does. I must get off this treadmill or i will completely lose myself. Yes, I have been applying alanon tools but they ar...	YARNCRAZY	3	511	Apr 7, 2015 by Irish7
	having a hard time today (Preview) Good morning Everyone- It's been a while since I've posted, although I have been here reading and learning along with all of you. I am having a tough time with something and am going to get it off my chest. I will do my best to make a long story shorter. A couple of years ago, in a last ditch effort to try an...	yanksfan51	12	967	Apr 7, 2015 by Truth
	Drug addiction ??? (Preview) My daughter is a single mom with 2 children . Girls. She had been in a very abusive relationship with the father of her children. I got her out of that - and she was at a women's shelter for a while. Then housing. Things worked good for 2 years until I bought a mobile home for them as a family home.She was supp...	anxious	7	878	Apr 7, 2015 by anxious
	Need Help dealing with the emotions caused by 22 yr old AD (Preview) My AD has had a problem for a couple of years, but managed to live her life, school, work etc. most recently she started dating a guy with a record for drugs who was on probation. She ended up staying there many nights and then I found out from her friends, there were domestic assault issues with his past...	WebD	14	844	Apr 7, 2015 by hightlyfavored
	My Progress (Preview) Today I was comparing my yoga posture to that of the teacher. I am new at it. When she referenced our heads ON THE FLOOR (mine wouldn't even come close), I realized it was closer today than it was last time. I need to be faithful to trying, and I trust I will progress. I know that's how this works, too. I'm no...	Jill	4	560	Apr 7, 2015 by Breakingfree
	New to board - husband alcoholic (Preview) I feel like I can't handle it anymore. He drinks usually 2 750 ML Whiskey or Vodka a week. All I do is worry about him. I tell him how I feel and he either jokes about, tells me to just worry about myself, or turns it around and says that there are things I do that bother him but he doesn't bug me about it. If I get r...	tjk	9	841	Apr 7, 2015 by ladybugnessa
	right here, right now..... (Preview) Everythjng is perfect. Just as it should be. Right in this moment is happiness and peace. Unhappiness, anxiety, worry is not about this very moment, its about yesterday and tomorrow. I cant change yesterday and tomorrow so i will stay where the peace is, right here in this moment.	el-cee	9	624	Apr 7, 2015 by Debb
	New to the forum (Preview) Hi, I am trying new things in al-anon right now because I am not in a position at the moment to get to regular face to face meetings. I have a sponsor and some al-anon friends but I am missing the contact of having that readily available source of community. I have tried the phone bridge meetings which are w...	hopefortoday29	8	827	Apr 6, 2015 by ntd2001
	Easter this and Easter that. (Preview) For years now I have allowed my daughter to go to her fathers house for Christmas and Easter. In my mind, she would have lots more fun there as they have little kids and make a big deal out of these festivals. I spent last Christmas sitting alone in a room being sad. I had it in my mind that spending these happ...	missmeliss	7	865	Apr 6, 2015 by Breakingfree
	DENIAL (Preview) acronym for "DON'T EVEN NO I AM LYING" ! how perfect is this....	LinSC	7	1017	Apr 6, 2015 by el-cee
	helped to die (Preview) I learned i was an enabler to alcoholics. It meant i helped the disease grow strong, i gave money, a soft place to land, excuses and lies for the drinker, let them verbally abuse me, put up with anything that was thrown at me, and what i didnt realise was that this encouraged and assisted the drinking. Th...	el-cee	21	1144	Apr 6, 2015 by Lenora
	Happy easter (Preview) Today is a good day . I got out of the hospital last Thursday and put on the right meds and hopeful I can stay in the moment and in the day . I let myself become a wreck and ended up having a mental emtional breakdown that lead me in the hospital . I was running around with my head cut off , worried about the week th...	Wisdom67	6	718	Apr 6, 2015 by Jerry F
	New to Al-Anon. Need help/advice (Preview) I am new to Al-Anon (I have never been to a meeting and this is my first time posting). I have 5 months sober today and am going to AA. My wife still drinks and is anti AA, although she has told me she sees how it has made positive changes in me. She asks me questions about AA and I do my best to answer them to my u...	mikenusaf	10	1059	Apr 6, 2015 by ladybugnessa
	help (Preview) Hello I am 29 years Kenyan girl with a 10 months son,,I have no job ,,,please I need a sponsor,,,help me,,,I am single	Hildabenta	7	523	Apr 6, 2015 by ladybugnessa
	Sigh. Not my finest day today. (Preview) Oooh here's my illness in full swing. Wow! I haven't seen A for maybe 5 weeks. I haven't wanted to talk to him really because he just wants to tell me about how I should give him my old car because he cn't get a job to pay me back he thousands of dollars he borrowed from me unless I do...blah blah blah whatever....	missmeliss	26	1281	Apr 6, 2015 by missmeliss
	Relapse (Preview) Is it simply the nature of alcoholics to lie and try to hide relapse? can alcoholics be honest about cravings and relapse, or is that expecting too much? Specifically be honest with their significant other?	shealah	3	757	Apr 6, 2015 by pinkchip
	Hotel Room - 1st time (Preview) So, she came home, drunk, today. Of course she claims she wasn't drunk. It was the Tequila flavored dipping sauce from Zaxby's (a chicken fast food chain out here). Still, she blew a 0.0701. Not legally drunk ,no. But with 2 DUIs (but only 1 conviction, thank you connecticut) its a bad sign when she...	AWSmith	17	1054	Apr 6, 2015 by ladybugnessa
	Happy Easter :) (Preview) Happy Easter to those who color eggs, stay up late making baskets, having the late night sugar rush, and celebrate the holiday in the Christian sense of the word. Let me just say the weird crazy dreams that I had this early AM. UGH! LOL .. they were very strange and not happy at all that's what I get for e...	SerenityRUS	3	736	Apr 5, 2015 by Wisdom67
	Anxiety Attack (Preview) K well for some reason I have been getting triggered and my anxiety attacks have started again. I have been practicing so I responded to it better this time. I went to a chair... Focused on the present moment and told my body it was safe. It worked just makes you completely exhausted!!! I cannot wait for s...	Truth	5	711	Apr 5, 2015 by SerenityRUS
	Make it your own (Preview) Tomorrow is Easter so today was the Easter Egg Hunt for one of my jobs and the job falls to ME to organize the event - EEEK! Years ago when I first took on the job, after getting refusal of help from the previous organizer (she was mad), someone told me to make it my own, so I did. I make it fun for ME; spend $850 M...	likemyheart	3	690	Apr 5, 2015 by KennyFenderjazz
	I need help please (Preview) My son is a 24/7 alcoholic. I am at the end of my sanity. I have no support system with in my family and friends. My health is declining rapidly and I have severe panic attacks. I don't know how to help him. I feel like I have already lost him to this disease. I don't know where else to turn. Please can...	Lenora	13	1005	Apr 5, 2015 by pinkchip
	Bed wetting? Sorry if TMI (Preview) I haven't seen this raised before, and frankly, I haven't been able to find much on the web about this. One of my qualifiers is a healthy 25 yr old male whose drinking has escalated from an occasional binge to 5x to 7x weekly binge. I've found evidence (in my laundry room) that he is wetting the bed about 2x...	Irish7	7	3595	Apr 5, 2015 by 4myboys
	C2C - March 31 (Preview) I liked today's reading as it compliments my program of recovery very well. It talks about how not being hard on ourselves - and putting something up on the shelf for a while and even having a laugh or some fun - can help is come back to our problems refreshed. Aaaaaahhhhh. this is perfect for me, as someti...	WorkingThroughIt	3	606	Apr 4, 2015 by Mirandac
	Living with a binge drinker (Preview) This is my first time posting on anything like this so sorry if I ramble a little bit. I've been with my husband almost 9 years, 3 married. He has always seemed to have a little problem with alcohol. Drinking too much too quickly, especially on an empty stomach. When he drinks like this he will get very me...	Amorris89	7	1716	Apr 4, 2015 by Mirandac
	positive thinking! (Preview) I am realizing that thinking good healthy positive thoughts hasn't been a habit of mine.After ending my relationship with my A I thought I would be very peaceful and happy.Well it turns out my little brain is my own worst abuser at times and I can work myself into quite a frenzy.Something like chicken...	mjferg	8	724	Apr 4, 2015 by milkwood
	Biting my tongue .. (Preview) This is really difficult for me to do. A few things going on at the moment. No communication for my son's actual birthday .. and I refer to the kids as my kids. 2 hours a month doesn't qualify as a parent, it is more like an Uncle removed by marriage kind of deal. That's his issue not mine and definitely n...	SerenityRUS	10	781	Apr 3, 2015 by Irish7
	Hope For Today Mar 31 (Preview) Good Morning Everyone-- This reading speaks to our relationship with our Higher Power. Although I never have felt hatred or even fear toward God, I can relate to the reading as far as feeling my relationship with my HP feeling strengthened since coming into the program. I am grateful that growing up...	yanksfan51	5	764	Apr 3, 2015 by ntd2001
	Frustrating day at work (Preview) One of those days....actually the whole week. It was filled with drama. Everyone was acting like they wanted to kill each other. Everyone was complaining. It was volatile and umcomfortable. All other admin but me was out...bad planning overall. There were a million fires tg at got lit over stupid cr...	pinkchip	14	1137	Apr 3, 2015 by Truth
	NAVAJO AREA (Preview) WHERE ARE THERE ALANON MEETINGS IN FARMINGTON NM OR CLOSE TO THE 4 CORNERS (RED MESA AREA?)	loser	2	664	Apr 2, 2015 by KennyFenderjazz
	what a difference a year makes (Preview) When I was an alanon newbie, at times I thought some of the member responses were nearly callous in response to the shares on the board. One that came to me (over a year ago) really hurt my feelings and I thought something was wrong with that responder. So now I have almost two years in, and my sister in an...	Lyne	2	657	Apr 2, 2015 by Jill
	Today, I am thankful for... (Preview) The internet! Because our service was disconnected over the weekend, and I wasn't able to pop online for support. SO thankful to have it connected again today! What are you thankful for today?	Skorpi	7	787	Apr 2, 2015 by Breakingfree
	Good books for self help (Preview) Hello, I posted yesterday about my son who is an alcoholic. I got a lot of good advice, but I am still really scared of the whole process. Will I have to live the rest of my life like this? If so, then it is not much of a life to live. Could someone please give me the names of some good books that might help. I...	Lenora	4	708	Apr 2, 2015 by Lenora
	Still unmanageable in many areas .. shoulding on me (shame) (Preview) it is so hard to have this many years in program and still recognize the reality of step 1 for me .. know I will always be on it no matter what step i'm on because the powerless to me is many things but lacking clarity (wisdom) is a huge piece of why i am powerless .. shoulding on myself this morning .. should be...	MeTwo2	4	788	Apr 1, 2015 by MeTwo2
	Ambivalent (Preview) Hi everyone! Lately I have been feeling this way towards my AH. Simultaneous mixed feelings of starting to trust and then the I can't trust you hits. I can't really declare how I feel about things. Nothing is going wrong or is horrible, it's just weird. The other day his Probation Officer showed up on ou...	Flower49	3	669	Apr 1, 2015 by Lyne
	I Wonder When People say my experiences don't define me....? (Preview) I've always thought the opposite, here on earth my experiences help define who I am. In a sense that you learned something from your experiences good or bad, and you know to watch it next time, or keep your mind open, I think experiences do mold me into a different person for better or worse, and hopefull...	LinSC	10	3420	Apr 1, 2015 by ntd2001
	separation (Preview) I took my husband to treatment at the end of December. We had been separated before that but had discussed our marriage and decided that we were going to stay married. After his 28 day program he decided that he was going to stay where he went to treatment in a halfway house. I was fine with that. I thought w...	tnwife	12	963	Apr 1, 2015 by Flower49
	I love you.... (Preview) I am simply the physical manifestation of what I was created to be in spirit. A energy of love and light in the world. This was my form prior to any physical form being developed. Now, I am visible, touchable, and simply being carried within the capsulation of my physical being. My life experiences...	John	8	996	Apr 1, 2015 by MeTwo2
	Non-drinking blacouts? (Preview) My AH is sober 83 days. Saturday night he came to bed around 3:30 am (he stays up late all the time) he was acting weird. Like he had been drinking. I got up in the morning and he had cleaned up the kitchen including bagging up two bags of trash to go out. The next day he said "thank you for ba...	ladybugnessa	8	819	Apr 1, 2015 by ladybugnessa
	An enlightened morning (Preview) I have been working so hard on focusing on me that I think I may have actually been being more than lovingly detached. I think I've been a bit nasty, just waiting for the next shoe to drop so I could prove to myself what an asshat my qualifier really is. And the fact is, yes, yes he's been making mistakes he...	GreenerGal	6	658	Apr 1, 2015 by ladybugnessa
	WEDNESDAY AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM (EST) TOPICS: Trust; 3 A's (Awareness, Acceptance, Action); Changing the Things I Can (Preview) WEDNESDAY AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM (EST) TOPICS: Trust; 3 A's (Awareness, Acceptance, Action); Changing the Things I Can The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other ways to join the room also. Using mIRC or other chat client, the ser...	shimo	0	541	Apr 1, 2015 by shimo
	ACOA friend needs intervention, what are the steps? (Preview) Hey hey everyone! I have been wanting to do this for awhile but kept thinking things would resolve on their own... lesson learned! My friend, and ex partner (let's call her "Jane"), needs some help. I will give a run-down below of what has went down. Edit: Jane and I only recently (approx....	MidCenturyModern	10	964	Mar 31, 2015 by MidCenturyModern
	Sticking with the Program (Preview) So, My wife's first court date was yesterday. Just the initial appearance and signature bond. Today, she got a letter notifying her of a sentencing that happened for her refusal to allow a blood test without a warrant. (Since it is her third, the blood draw instead of the breathalyzer was required.)...	Skorpi	10	738	Mar 31, 2015 by cmb
	sometimes I wish... (Preview) I wish that I didn't have to remember things from the past. My cousin was available to me for a long time. Now her daughter has learned that I won't tolerate her the way she is. I can't change her I know but our belief systems are very different. I wanted to be close to her but what I see in her is not healthy for...	Hoot Nanny	1	567	Mar 31, 2015 by Skorpi
	biting my tongue and holding on (Preview) This is just like trying to not eat fattennng food. I have to bite my tonque not to scream that ah promised to go to his aa meetings etc since he got out of rehab and hasnt. He promised alot of things and i have to use all my strength to not scream about it.. I have to be strong and not touch the piles of paperwork...	YARNCRAZY	7	861	Mar 31, 2015 by GreenerGal
	went to facetoface alanon meeting with bro in law (Preview) we went to a meeting i seldom go to because I need a ride to get there. afterwards, i asked him what he thought. He was less than impressed. he said that it just seemed like a place where people share their stories. He said he didnt understand the hands off approach to the alcoholic. he said that they didnt h...	YARNCRAZY	4	768	Mar 31, 2015 by ladybugnessa
	Beth Hart, (Song) Setting Me Free (Preview) This is one of the most powerful songs I have heard about a toxic relationship finally being left. It has the sound of empowerment, freedom and independence wrapped into it nicely.	John	1	2068	Mar 30, 2015 by LinSC
	How to handle it when you know they're drunk or drank and they swear they're not or didn't? (Preview) Hey there Everyone, I would love the groups input on this because I simply don't know how to handle it and I haven't seen it covered in Alanon. Scenerio: I call my AH, I KNOW right away by the sound of his voice that he has used -something- (drugs or alcohol). He is not completely drunk/high, but, I can he...	cooper1	29	1348	Mar 30, 2015 by Jen61
	Not been in a while, struggling with suicide Suicide father dd adult child grief loss resentment guilt (Preview) Im 28 and attended alanon consistenly for about 5 years, but havent been in about 3 years, alanon turned my life around, and i still am able to work through alanon concepts and relate them to my everyday life, i just felt i wasnt getting as much from the meetings anymore as i had great compassion and had go...	Effdee	5	8895	Mar 30, 2015 by Mirandac
	Great Weekend :) Still having a few A HA moments :) (Preview) Well another weekend without police involved in my life is a good thing if you don't count the kids and I went out to dinner and wound up being an extremely expensive dinner to the tune of 297$. Poor little waitress ringing us out spoke no English we went for Mexican that night, one of my favorite custome...	SerenityRUS	3	711	Mar 30, 2015 by SerenityRUS
	Advice helping someone with addiction (Preview) Hi, my brother's mother in law is addicted to Percoset. She's in her late 70s and is suffering from congestive heart failure, among other aliments. These are prescription drugs that she's become dependent on over time. At times she's admitted she has a problem but other times she's in denial. R...	Sammy Sunday	9	846	Mar 30, 2015 by Mirandac
	Feeling heartbroken ... AGAIN (Preview) Hi - My daughter is an alcoholic I would LIKE to say a recovering alcoholic , but am not sure She SAYS she is , is doing all the 'right' things eg attending AA , PLUG , inpatient rehab etc , seems sober and says she has stopped drinking and doing well I thought she was making progress but am not sure now My Grand...	Nannynoo	7	801	Mar 30, 2015 by Mattie
	New to online meetings - can you explain? (Preview) Hi, I've been on the board for a couple of months and working my own meeting for several years. Considering there are no F2F meetings on Sundays near me, I've enjoyed the online meetings you offer here for those days. Thank you for having them. The strangest thing happened today though - after our meet...	LedfootJenny	6	863	Mar 30, 2015 by Lyne
	The defects within us attract us to alcoholics... (Preview) ....its nothing to do with love. We might call it 'love,' 'soul mate' etc. I learned it was obsession, compulsion, possessiveness, jealousy, dependancy. Never ever love.	el-cee	18	1071	Mar 30, 2015 by el-cee
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