Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

shimo · shimo

WEDNESDAY AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM (EST) TOPICS: Trust; 3 A's (Awareness, Acceptance, Action); Changing the Things I Can The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other ways to join the room also. Using mIRC or other chat client, the ser...

MidCenturyModern · MidCenturyModern

Hey hey everyone! I have been wanting to do this for awhile but kept thinking things would resolve on their own... lesson learned! My friend, and ex partner (let's call her "Jane"), needs some help. I will give a run-down below of what has went down. Edit: Jane and I only recently (approx....

Skorpi · Skorpi

So, My wife's first court date was yesterday. Just the initial appearance and signature bond. Today, she got a letter notifying her of a sentencing that happened for her refusal to allow a blood test without a warrant. (Since it is her third, the blood draw instead of the breathalyzer was required.)...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I wish that I didn't have to remember things from the past. My cousin was available to me for a long time. Now her daughter has learned that I won't tolerate her the way she is. I can't change her I know but our belief systems are very different. I wanted to be close to her but what I see in her is not healthy for...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

This is just like trying to not eat fattennng food. I have to bite my tonque not to scream that ah promised to go to his aa meetings etc since he got out of rehab and hasnt. He promised alot of things and i have to use all my strength to not scream about it.. I have to be strong and not touch the piles of paperwork...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

we went to a meeting i seldom go to because I need a ride to get there. afterwards, i asked him what he thought. He was less than impressed. he said that it just seemed like a place where people share their stories. He said he didnt understand the hands off approach to the alcoholic. he said that they didnt h...

John · John

This is one of the most powerful songs I have heard about a toxic relationship finally being left. It has the sound of empowerment, freedom and independence wrapped into it nicely.

cooper1 · cooper1

Hey there Everyone, I would love the groups input on this because I simply don't know how to handle it and I haven't seen it covered in Alanon. Scenerio: I call my AH, I KNOW right away by the sound of his voice that he has used -something- (drugs or alcohol). He is not completely drunk/high, but, I can he...

Effdee · Effdee

Im 28 and attended alanon consistenly for about 5 years, but havent been in about 3 years, alanon turned my life around, and i still am able to work through alanon concepts and relate them to my everyday life, i just felt i wasnt getting as much from the meetings anymore as i had great compassion and had go...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Well another weekend without police involved in my life is a good thing if you don't count the kids and I went out to dinner and wound up being an extremely expensive dinner to the tune of 297$. Poor little waitress ringing us out spoke no English we went for Mexican that night, one of my favorite custome...

Sammy Sunday · Sammy Sunday

Hi, my brother's mother in law is addicted to Percoset. She's in her late 70s and is suffering from congestive heart failure, among other aliments. These are prescription drugs that she's become dependent on over time. At times she's admitted she has a problem but other times she's in denial. R...

Nannynoo · Nannynoo

Hi - My daughter is an alcoholic I would LIKE to say a recovering alcoholic , but am not sure She SAYS she is , is doing all the 'right' things eg attending AA , PLUG , inpatient rehab etc , seems sober and says she has stopped drinking and doing well I thought she was making progress but am not sure now My Grand...

LedfootJenny · LedfootJenny

Hi, I've been on the board for a couple of months and working my own meeting for several years. Considering there are no F2F meetings on Sundays near me, I've enjoyed the online meetings you offer here for those days. Thank you for having them. The strangest thing happened today though - after our meet...

el-cee · el-cee

....its nothing to do with love. We might call it 'love,' 'soul mate' etc. I learned it was obsession, compulsion, possessiveness, jealousy, dependancy. Never ever love.

Llo · Llo

Hi there. I was directed here by another site, but I'm not sure if it's okay for me to share this due to the fact that I'm an alcoholic myself, and I know that you all are facing pain due to an alcoholic in your own life, but I'll share anyway. I guess just remove the post if you find it inappropriate. I'm marr...

mattymags · mattymags

Good afternoon, this is my first post so bear with me. I have attended 2 of the on-line meetings and received a lot of benefit, so I am hoping that just typing out my feelings may help me get to a better place. My AW is just recently out of treatment and I am struggling to determine how to cope with some of her b...

John · John

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for today is a perfect reminder to keep the focus on ourselves, and listen to the loud voices within that are telling us that were not good enough. The reading points out that this is not the truth, and it is a caused by damaged self-esteem that is a result of living with the disease of al...

CoopsMom · CoopsMom

Just wondering if anyone has tips on how to handle when A wakes up in a $hit mood (probably due to a hangover) and with a few choice statement attempts to ruin your whole day just as you step out the door. This AM I was getting ready to leave and had to communicate a few things about our son to my AH before leav...

Mattie · Mattie

I am trying to handle this feeling of infuriation but I can't seem to get my tools to work. I am feeling like my blood pressure is through the roof and I can't seem to calm down. I had to go out of town to a conference etc. and I was stuck for childcare, so I agreed that my ex-AH would come to this house and take c...

John · John

http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html

rainbow · rainbow

Hi to ((all)) I've been isolating because I have been feeling low. I tried to go to a couple of f2f meetings but turns out that I am recognisable and that made me feel like I shouldn't be there. Like many of you, I work in mental health and it is so hard that we are expected not to participate in these programs...

el-cee · el-cee

I still have a certain need for approval in my life at times. Im changing. I dont want to need anyone elses approval. As soon as i need it then they have my power and control me. I am good enough or else pee off really. For example, i love my sister but she can be hard to be with, she gives a little and withdraws s...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for today speaks about attending alanon meetings and listening to the opening. Here it is explained that the purpose of our fellowship is to support each other as we grow and change.. We are asked to share our experience in using alanon tools, the strength we gain from doing so b...

Jazzie18 · Jazzie18

Boy do I have some bottled up emotions. Went to my third f2f meeting today at lunch. Didn't talk but at the end one of he members was walking out of the meeting with me and just ask who my A was. Started bawling right on the spot and really couldn't stop for an hour. Thank god for two of the nice members who s...

4myboys · 4myboys

I really could have used a f2f tonight. My boys had ball games so I was unable to make one on time. I started reading paths to recovery a few nights ago, so I'm trying to understand the steps! I can't believe it's taken me 18 years to believe alcoholism is a disease! Still haven't quit accepted it yet. Getti...

ladybugnessa · ladybugnessa

I met with Sponsor #1 yesterday. We discussed step one. 1. We admitted that we were powerless over alcohol that our lives had become unmanageable. Now I truly thought that this was going to be an easy step. I know that I have no control over him. I know that I have no control over his alcoholism or...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Although I am walking in the rain today, I am wondering what y'all do when you have nothing in particular to do? Maybe I should dance in the rain???? I need to focus & really need some feedback & your opinions on what to do except get online? The floor is yours. Kathleen

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Some really good things have happened lately but today I am sitting on a very uncomfortable chair so I won't be long. I am still grateful for everything that is going right. I am happy to say that spring has sprung. I had that the most beautiful walk in a long time. The winter here was mild. I am going to go ge...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODA T today speaks about Al-Anon fundamentals. It suggests that when we attend meetings and may be feeling out of sorts , we look around and begin to be judgmental of others. Then we must remind ourselves why we are attending Al-Anon meetings.. We are at Al-Anon meetings with the sole purpose o...

missmeliss · missmeliss

This is a little bit difficult to write about. I suppose it is about guilt after living with an A and small children, and when is it alright to stop being guilty and ashamed and start being a whole parent again? I did something today that was a bit out of character for me. I'm not sure how I feel about it. For m...

a4l · a4l

Good morning all. On thinking of gratitude, my 2 year old daughter comes skipping out of bed, resplendent in stripey lime green socks on her hands and a grin. Wow! A year ago, I was cursing my stupidity in having children. Today, I am grateful of the work, the company, the gorgeous moments and the love th...

Mich · Mich

On Sunday night my husband came home at midnight after a week long business trip. He'd been drinking on the plane. I kicked him out right there and then. He didn't even have time to bring in his suitcases. I simply lost it, not control of my anger, but my faith that it would ever get better. I was remarkabl...

mjferg · mjferg

They say that depression is anger turned inwards,I have struggled with depression for years.Right now I am very down,feeling overwhelmed.I suppose I am realizing that a lot of my coping skills and things that I learned, or didn't learn has contributed to where I am right now.They say ignorance is bl...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hi Everyone, Well, push is really coming to shove, and I have got to have my thesis to committee next Monday! EEek! I am taking a few days off this week to wrap things up. This weekend was incredibly baffling to me, especially after the week I had last week. My wife has been sober since last Monday, and we...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

Today is my one year anniversary of dating the greatest and healthiest man I could have ever dreamed up. I am so grateful to al-anon for teaching me how to make the changes within to be able to stop repeating the old habits and find healthier people to surround myself with. Life has only gotten better th...

mjferg · mjferg

So I have been struggling with some decisions as to where I want to live next,my rental situation isn't going too well here,so I have been checking into some possibilities.My daughter wants to go to culinary school and there is one in another state where I have an ex,we talk once in awhile and chat on fac...

mjferg · mjferg

A family member of mine lost an uncle today because of liver disease.So sad, he wasn't very old,just shows the power of this disease.

hotrod · hotrod

The Courage to Change reading for today speaks about accepting alcoholism as a disease. It points out that alcoholism iss very similar to Alzheimer's disease. This is because we see our loved ones slip away and they are not even aware that it is happening.. The reading points out that although...

Bloodshotbetty · Bloodshotbetty

Since the car accident, my AH has separated from some of our mutual friends. In some ways its a good thing, because they are the "partiers" and there is always beer and whiskey flowing. But I have also come to realize it's a way for him to avoid the consequences. They are angry at him for dr...

Mike B · Mike B

March 26 "Having an honest relationship with my sponsor allowed me an honest relationship with myself and others."

hotrod · hotrod

http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t59893091/alanon-tradition-5/

hotrod · hotrod

Great topic in the Courage to Change today. It speaks about being confused over what are our responsibilities and what is another's. It states that we are responsible to be; Loyal to our values, to please ourselves first; to keep an open mind; to detach with love; to rid ourselves of anger and resentme...

mercedes1959 · mercedes1959

I am still struggling, any experience strength and hope is appreciated. Last week, my wonderful student was working with me all week, she was in spring break. We got all kinds of work done, old papers boxed up, some thrown away dating back to 2000. DC was not there until Friday. She followed me around lo...

el-cee · el-cee

Alanon has given me a life worth living. It sounds like an exageration, too good to be true but it has given me tools to see clearly the facts of my life and to accept them and take action to change things to make my life better, this in turn has made things better for my whole family. The three c's, awareness...

el-cee · el-cee

Alanon has taught me that life is for living, not merely existing, not putting up with unacceptable behaviour and sitting stuck in self pity waiting for a knight in shining armour to come and solve all my problems. The time for living my life is now, today. Taking pleasure and enjoying each day the bes...

hotrod · hotrod

Courage to Change reading for March 23rd speaks about the deep pain and sadness over the dashed hopes broken dreams that dwells deep within us after living with the disease of alcoholism. It points out that Al-Anon helps us to face these destructive painful emotions of the past. We can best face th...

shimo · shimo

WEDNESDAY AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM (EST) TOPICS: Silence; Responsibility; Choices The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other ways to join the room also. Using mIRC or other chat client, the server we use is irc.chat4all.org, port...

elmo7 · elmo7

It's been up and down the last 7 to 8 years with my alcoholic wife, and the downs have been pretty low. Back before Christmas this past year, I almost walked away after another relapse. She has been sober since that time, attending regular meetings, and she has finally found a great therapist that see...

needtolearnhow · needtolearnhow

Hello, I've decided to post on here on the urging of my ex-girlfriend telling me I need Al-Anon. I am a musician, working fulltime in the music business. I got sober almost four years ago now. It wasn't easy. I am surrounded by alcohol and people smoking weed and occasionally taking cocaine and E. One of...

Bloodshotbetty · Bloodshotbetty

Since my AH put our lives at risk by drinking and driving and flipping our car, and my job loss, I have found more peace and passion than I have ever had. These events opened my eyes to some hard truths that I have been ignoring- my unprofessional behavior at work, lack of motivation to take care of myself a...

GreenerGal · GreenerGal

Since my A moved out things have been so much better for me! We are still close, even going on dates here and there. We are able to share feelings about our relationship and about just plain old life without his temper running high. He is staying on an even keel when around me, as was our agreement. He i...

Helpangel · Helpangel

My ah is trying to stay sober and is going to therapy and taking his drugs. He thinks he is bipolar and I kinda new it but for some reason it worries me more now that he realizes it and that it is out and I have no idea why! I guess I am thinking great one more thing for him to obsess about... One more excuse to be a j...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

I feel like a sucker..ah has been out of rehab less than 1 wk and its like the movie Groundhog day. same behavior differnt month. I am not trying to do his inventory or tell him what to do I swear. He is again bugging me to tell his employer he is sick Monday at court I had another opportunity to have a restrain...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good Morning MIP: Today's reading is about step 4 and how it can be difficult for different reasons to take an inventory and be willing to get rid of character defects in ourselves. Sometimes we want to hold on to them, sometimes they are difficult to see. As the writer mentioned, looking at defects as...

missmeliss · missmeliss

I found a list yesterday that blew my mind. I had written it around 1 year ago, and it was a list of the "most important" things that I wanted to achieve. Now everything on the list was something that, at the time, I thought was unobtainable. It was, for me, a pie in the sky "wish list"...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Hello Everyone, It's been awhile since I've posted. I'm trying to work through some feelings about a recent success. I've been doing my best to work my program by taking the next right action and letting go of the results in my work search efforts. Recently, I've had a lot of interviews and I've been of...

AlmaDaigle · AlmaDaigle

Today my therapist asked if I had ever thought about conducting an intervention. I just started crying and found it difficult to move forward with the conversation. I decided that it's not something I feel strong enough to do, not yet anyway. She told me that I should try watching an episode of Interve...

Confused2379 · Confused2379

I am feeling very emotional. I've dropped out of many clubs because of the pain and grief I am feeling. My ah told me to leave him alone. My adult children have told me to back off. I've gotten the message. Stay away!!! Stop talking!!! i was even told at alanon group there is no hope until I get it!! ...

Aloha · Aloha

This was shared at a meeting tonight where a member shared she was having a conversation with a friend and was asking about her relationship. Her friend's husband overheard the conversation and said to her "Ask yourself who you are and what do YOU want?" Isn't that amazing. I know I've hear...

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	WEDNESDAY AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM (EST) TOPICS: Trust; 3 A's (Awareness, Acceptance, Action); Changing the Things I Can (Preview) WEDNESDAY AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM (EST) TOPICS: Trust; 3 A's (Awareness, Acceptance, Action); Changing the Things I Can The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other ways to join the room also. Using mIRC or other chat client, the ser...	shimo	0	436	Apr 1, 2015 by shimo
	ACOA friend needs intervention, what are the steps? (Preview) Hey hey everyone! I have been wanting to do this for awhile but kept thinking things would resolve on their own... lesson learned! My friend, and ex partner (let's call her "Jane"), needs some help. I will give a run-down below of what has went down. Edit: Jane and I only recently (approx....	MidCenturyModern	10	817	Mar 31, 2015 by MidCenturyModern
	Sticking with the Program (Preview) So, My wife's first court date was yesterday. Just the initial appearance and signature bond. Today, she got a letter notifying her of a sentencing that happened for her refusal to allow a blood test without a warrant. (Since it is her third, the blood draw instead of the breathalyzer was required.)...	Skorpi	10	593	Mar 31, 2015 by cmb
	sometimes I wish... (Preview) I wish that I didn't have to remember things from the past. My cousin was available to me for a long time. Now her daughter has learned that I won't tolerate her the way she is. I can't change her I know but our belief systems are very different. I wanted to be close to her but what I see in her is not healthy for...	Hoot Nanny	1	461	Mar 31, 2015 by Skorpi
	biting my tongue and holding on (Preview) This is just like trying to not eat fattennng food. I have to bite my tonque not to scream that ah promised to go to his aa meetings etc since he got out of rehab and hasnt. He promised alot of things and i have to use all my strength to not scream about it.. I have to be strong and not touch the piles of paperwork...	YARNCRAZY	7	745	Mar 31, 2015 by GreenerGal
	went to facetoface alanon meeting with bro in law (Preview) we went to a meeting i seldom go to because I need a ride to get there. afterwards, i asked him what he thought. He was less than impressed. he said that it just seemed like a place where people share their stories. He said he didnt understand the hands off approach to the alcoholic. he said that they didnt h...	YARNCRAZY	4	649	Mar 31, 2015 by ladybugnessa
	Beth Hart, (Song) Setting Me Free (Preview) This is one of the most powerful songs I have heard about a toxic relationship finally being left. It has the sound of empowerment, freedom and independence wrapped into it nicely.	John	1	1693	Mar 30, 2015 by LinSC
	How to handle it when you know they're drunk or drank and they swear they're not or didn't? (Preview) Hey there Everyone, I would love the groups input on this because I simply don't know how to handle it and I haven't seen it covered in Alanon. Scenerio: I call my AH, I KNOW right away by the sound of his voice that he has used -something- (drugs or alcohol). He is not completely drunk/high, but, I can he...	cooper1	29	1218	Mar 30, 2015 by Jen61
	Not been in a while, struggling with suicide Suicide father dd adult child grief loss resentment guilt (Preview) Im 28 and attended alanon consistenly for about 5 years, but havent been in about 3 years, alanon turned my life around, and i still am able to work through alanon concepts and relate them to my everyday life, i just felt i wasnt getting as much from the meetings anymore as i had great compassion and had go...	Effdee	5	7304	Mar 30, 2015 by Mirandac
	Great Weekend :) Still having a few A HA moments :) (Preview) Well another weekend without police involved in my life is a good thing if you don't count the kids and I went out to dinner and wound up being an extremely expensive dinner to the tune of 297$. Poor little waitress ringing us out spoke no English we went for Mexican that night, one of my favorite custome...	SerenityRUS	3	604	Mar 30, 2015 by SerenityRUS
	Advice helping someone with addiction (Preview) Hi, my brother's mother in law is addicted to Percoset. She's in her late 70s and is suffering from congestive heart failure, among other aliments. These are prescription drugs that she's become dependent on over time. At times she's admitted she has a problem but other times she's in denial. R...	Sammy Sunday	9	730	Mar 30, 2015 by Mirandac
	Feeling heartbroken ... AGAIN (Preview) Hi - My daughter is an alcoholic I would LIKE to say a recovering alcoholic , but am not sure She SAYS she is , is doing all the 'right' things eg attending AA , PLUG , inpatient rehab etc , seems sober and says she has stopped drinking and doing well I thought she was making progress but am not sure now My Grand...	Nannynoo	7	688	Mar 30, 2015 by Mattie
	New to online meetings - can you explain? (Preview) Hi, I've been on the board for a couple of months and working my own meeting for several years. Considering there are no F2F meetings on Sundays near me, I've enjoyed the online meetings you offer here for those days. Thank you for having them. The strangest thing happened today though - after our meet...	LedfootJenny	6	734	Mar 30, 2015 by Lyne
	The defects within us attract us to alcoholics... (Preview) ....its nothing to do with love. We might call it 'love,' 'soul mate' etc. I learned it was obsession, compulsion, possessiveness, jealousy, dependancy. Never ever love.	el-cee	18	943	Mar 30, 2015 by el-cee
	Dealing w/emotional abuse and terrified (Preview) Hi there. I was directed here by another site, but I'm not sure if it's okay for me to share this due to the fact that I'm an alcoholic myself, and I know that you all are facing pain due to an alcoholic in your own life, but I'll share anyway. I guess just remove the post if you find it inappropriate. I'm marr...	Llo	6	677	Mar 29, 2015 by a4l
	Need to vent and a little support (Preview) Good afternoon, this is my first post so bear with me. I have attended 2 of the on-line meetings and received a lot of benefit, so I am hoping that just typing out my feelings may help me get to a better place. My AW is just recently out of treatment and I am struggling to determine how to cope with some of her b...	mattymags	5	528	Mar 29, 2015 by Debb
	What too much coffee looks like and sounds like on me at 2 AM. (Preview)	John	5	494	Mar 29, 2015 by KennyFenderjazz
	C2C 3-29 (Preview) The C2C reading for today is a perfect reminder to keep the focus on ourselves, and listen to the loud voices within that are telling us that were not good enough. The reading points out that this is not the truth, and it is a caused by damaged self-esteem that is a result of living with the disease of al...	hotrod	2	540	Mar 29, 2015 by Debb
	How do you handle it? (Preview) Just wondering if anyone has tips on how to handle when A wakes up in a $hit mood (probably due to a hangover) and with a few choice statement attempts to ruin your whole day just as you step out the door. This AM I was getting ready to leave and had to communicate a few things about our son to my AH before leav...	CoopsMom	18	961	Mar 29, 2015 by xeno59
	Infuriated (Preview) I am trying to handle this feeling of infuriation but I can't seem to get my tools to work. I am feeling like my blood pressure is through the roof and I can't seem to calm down. I had to go out of town to a conference etc. and I was stuck for childcare, so I agreed that my ex-AH would come to this house and take c...	Mattie	10	613	Mar 29, 2015 by SerenityRUS
	Sunday Morning Meeting starting in 10 minutes.. topic - Letting Go and Letting God (Preview) http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html	John	0	353	Mar 29, 2015 by John
	Update and a question (Preview) Hi to ((all)) I've been isolating because I have been feeling low. I tried to go to a couple of f2f meetings but turns out that I am recognisable and that made me feel like I shouldn't be there. Like many of you, I work in mental health and it is so hard that we are expected not to participate in these programs...	rainbow	6	556	Mar 29, 2015 by pinkchip
	need for approval is a prison (Preview) I still have a certain need for approval in my life at times. Im changing. I dont want to need anyone elses approval. As soon as i need it then they have my power and control me. I am good enough or else pee off really. For example, i love my sister but she can be hard to be with, she gives a little and withdraws s...	el-cee	11	826	Mar 28, 2015 by Debb
	ODAT 3-28 (Preview) The ODAT reading for today speaks about attending alanon meetings and listening to the opening. Here it is explained that the purpose of our fellowship is to support each other as we grow and change.. We are asked to share our experience in using alanon tools, the strength we gain from doing so b...	hotrod	0	382	Mar 28, 2015 by hotrod
	Bottled up emotions (Preview) Boy do I have some bottled up emotions. Went to my third f2f meeting today at lunch. Didn't talk but at the end one of he members was walking out of the meeting with me and just ask who my A was. Started bawling right on the spot and really couldn't stop for an hour. Thank god for two of the nice members who s...	Jazzie18	7	739	Mar 28, 2015 by Irish7
	Thinking again (Preview) I really could have used a f2f tonight. My boys had ball games so I was unable to make one on time. I started reading paths to recovery a few nights ago, so I'm trying to understand the steps! I can't believe it's taken me 18 years to believe alcoholism is a disease! Still haven't quit accepted it yet. Getti...	4myboys	5	498	Mar 28, 2015 by Mirandac
	Revelation--Step One is NOT as easy as it sounds.. (Preview) I met with Sponsor #1 yesterday. We discussed step one. 1. We admitted that we were powerless over alcohol that our lives had become unmanageable. Now I truly thought that this was going to be an easy step. I know that I have no control over him. I know that I have no control over his alcoholism or...	ladybugnessa	8	676	Mar 28, 2015 by 4myboys
	what do you do when there is nothing to do? (Preview) Although I am walking in the rain today, I am wondering what y'all do when you have nothing in particular to do? Maybe I should dance in the rain???? I need to focus & really need some feedback & your opinions on what to do except get online? The floor is yours. Kathleen	Hoot Nanny	6	636	Mar 27, 2015 by Skorpi
	here I sit! (Preview) Some really good things have happened lately but today I am sitting on a very uncomfortable chair so I won't be long. I am still grateful for everything that is going right. I am happy to say that spring has sprung. I had that the most beautiful walk in a long time. The winter here was mild. I am going to go ge...	Hoot Nanny	2	360	Mar 27, 2015 by Skorpi
	ODAT 3-27 (Preview) The ODA T today speaks about Al-Anon fundamentals. It suggests that when we attend meetings and may be feeling out of sorts , we look around and begin to be judgmental of others. Then we must remind ourselves why we are attending Al-Anon meetings.. We are at Al-Anon meetings with the sole purpose o...	hotrod	5	450	Mar 27, 2015 by hotrod
	probably weird. (Preview) This is a little bit difficult to write about. I suppose it is about guilt after living with an A and small children, and when is it alright to stop being guilty and ashamed and start being a whole parent again? I did something today that was a bit out of character for me. I'm not sure how I feel about it. For m...	missmeliss	14	768	Mar 27, 2015 by Breakingfree
	good morning gratitude, nice to run into you. (Preview) Good morning all. On thinking of gratitude, my 2 year old daughter comes skipping out of bed, resplendent in stripey lime green socks on her hands and a grin. Wow! A year ago, I was cursing my stupidity in having children. Today, I am grateful of the work, the company, the gorgeous moments and the love th...	a4l	4	2518	Mar 27, 2015 by el-cee
	It's over ( 1 2 ) (Preview) On Sunday night my husband came home at midnight after a week long business trip. He'd been drinking on the plane. I kicked him out right there and then. He didn't even have time to bring in his suitcases. I simply lost it, not control of my anger, but my faith that it would ever get better. I was remarkabl...	Mich	41	1208	Mar 27, 2015 by Mattie
	tears again (Preview) They say that depression is anger turned inwards,I have struggled with depression for years.Right now I am very down,feeling overwhelmed.I suppose I am realizing that a lot of my coping skills and things that I learned, or didn't learn has contributed to where I am right now.They say ignorance is bl...	mjferg	11	449	Mar 27, 2015 by mjferg
	Baffling Disease (Preview) Hi Everyone, Well, push is really coming to shove, and I have got to have my thesis to committee next Monday! EEek! I am taking a few days off this week to wrap things up. This weekend was incredibly baffling to me, especially after the week I had last week. My wife has been sober since last Monday, and we...	Skorpi	12	701	Mar 26, 2015 by hotrod
	Things just keep getting better with al-anon (Preview) Today is my one year anniversary of dating the greatest and healthiest man I could have ever dreamed up. I am so grateful to al-anon for teaching me how to make the changes within to be able to stop repeating the old habits and find healthier people to surround myself with. Life has only gotten better th...	Breakingfree	6	544	Mar 26, 2015 by Jen61
	red flags?? (Preview) So I have been struggling with some decisions as to where I want to live next,my rental situation isn't going too well here,so I have been checking into some possibilities.My daughter wants to go to culinary school and there is one in another state where I have an ex,we talk once in awhile and chat on fac...	mjferg	15	773	Mar 26, 2015 by Breakingfree
	another tragic loss due to alcohol (Preview) A family member of mine lost an uncle today because of liver disease.So sad, he wasn't very old,just shows the power of this disease.	mjferg	4	526	Mar 26, 2015 by Jen61
	C2C 3-26 (Preview) The Courage to Change reading for today speaks about accepting alcoholism as a disease. It points out that alcoholism iss very similar to Alzheimer's disease. This is because we see our loved ones slip away and they are not even aware that it is happening.. The reading points out that although...	hotrod	3	453	Mar 26, 2015 by ntd2001
	When others focus more on the alcoholic than you do. (Preview) Since the car accident, my AH has separated from some of our mutual friends. In some ways its a good thing, because they are the "partiers" and there is always beer and whiskey flowing. But I have also come to realize it's a way for him to avoid the consequences. They are angry at him for dr...	Bloodshotbetty	4	634	Mar 26, 2015 by Mike B
	Nice Quote (Preview) March 26 "Having an honest relationship with my sponsor allowed me an honest relationship with myself and others."	Mike B	1	314	Mar 26, 2015 by hotrod
	Tradition 5 (Preview) http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t59893091/alanon-tradition-5/	hotrod	0	531	Mar 25, 2015 by hotrod
	C2C 3-25 (Preview) Great topic in the Courage to Change today. It speaks about being confused over what are our responsibilities and what is another's. It states that we are responsible to be; Loyal to our values, to please ourselves first; to keep an open mind; to detach with love; to rid ourselves of anger and resentme...	hotrod	3	440	Mar 25, 2015 by ntd2001
	Still struggling with the dysfunctional co worker (Preview) I am still struggling, any experience strength and hope is appreciated. Last week, my wonderful student was working with me all week, she was in spring break. We got all kinds of work done, old papers boxed up, some thrown away dating back to 2000. DC was not there until Friday. She followed me around lo...	mercedes1959	5	667	Mar 25, 2015 by mercedes1959
	what has alanon given you? (Preview) Alanon has given me a life worth living. It sounds like an exageration, too good to be true but it has given me tools to see clearly the facts of my life and to accept them and take action to change things to make my life better, this in turn has made things better for my whole family. The three c's, awareness...	el-cee	12	880	Mar 25, 2015 by Skorpi
	life is short, what are you waiting on? (Preview) Alanon has taught me that life is for living, not merely existing, not putting up with unacceptable behaviour and sitting stuck in self pity waiting for a knight in shining armour to come and solve all my problems. The time for living my life is now, today. Taking pleasure and enjoying each day the bes...	el-cee	4	903	Mar 25, 2015 by rainbow
	C2C 3-23 (Preview) Courage to Change reading for March 23rd speaks about the deep pain and sadness over the dashed hopes broken dreams that dwells deep within us after living with the disease of alcoholism. It points out that Al-Anon helps us to face these destructive painful emotions of the past. We can best face th...	hotrod	8	536	Mar 25, 2015 by hotrod
	WEDNESDAY AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM (EST) (Preview) WEDNESDAY AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM (EST) TOPICS: Silence; Responsibility; Choices The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other ways to join the room also. Using mIRC or other chat client, the server we use is irc.chat4all.org, port...	shimo	0	265	Mar 25, 2015 by shimo
	Just wanted to share this (Preview) It's been up and down the last 7 to 8 years with my alcoholic wife, and the downs have been pretty low. Back before Christmas this past year, I almost walked away after another relapse. She has been sober since that time, attending regular meetings, and she has finally found a great therapist that see...	elmo7	3	552	Mar 25, 2015 by ladybugnessa
	Bandmate smokes Weed all the time...has had sudden rage at me...trying to learn how to not be affected by moods and rage (Preview) Hello, I've decided to post on here on the urging of my ex-girlfriend telling me I need Al-Anon. I am a musician, working fulltime in the music business. I got sober almost four years ago now. It wasn't easy. I am surrounded by alcohol and people smoking weed and occasionally taking cocaine and E. One of...	needtolearnhow	9	563	Mar 25, 2015 by yanksfan51
	Reflection on a blessing in disguise (Preview) Since my AH put our lives at risk by drinking and driving and flipping our car, and my job loss, I have found more peace and passion than I have ever had. These events opened my eyes to some hard truths that I have been ignoring- my unprofessional behavior at work, lack of motivation to take care of myself a...	Bloodshotbetty	4	765	Mar 24, 2015 by hotrod
	Baby Steps but feeling very positive (Preview) Since my A moved out things have been so much better for me! We are still close, even going on dates here and there. We are able to share feelings about our relationship and about just plain old life without his temper running high. He is staying on an even keel when around me, as was our agreement. He i...	GreenerGal	4	512	Mar 24, 2015 by hotrod
	110 days sober and my ah tells me he thinks he is bipolar (Preview) My ah is trying to stay sober and is going to therapy and taking his drugs. He thinks he is bipolar and I kinda new it but for some reason it worries me more now that he realizes it and that it is out and I have no idea why! I guess I am thinking great one more thing for him to obsess about... One more excuse to be a j...	Helpangel	8	745	Mar 24, 2015 by Helpangel
	Angry (Preview) I feel like a sucker..ah has been out of rehab less than 1 wk and its like the movie Groundhog day. same behavior differnt month. I am not trying to do his inventory or tell him what to do I swear. He is again bugging me to tell his employer he is sick Monday at court I had another opportunity to have a restrain...	YARNCRAZY	9	626	Mar 24, 2015 by krwlvt
	HFT Mar 24 (Preview) Good Morning MIP: Today's reading is about step 4 and how it can be difficult for different reasons to take an inventory and be willing to get rid of character defects in ourselves. Sometimes we want to hold on to them, sometimes they are difficult to see. As the writer mentioned, looking at defects as...	yanksfan51	6	564	Mar 24, 2015 by ntd2001
	The List (Preview) I found a list yesterday that blew my mind. I had written it around 1 year ago, and it was a list of the "most important" things that I wanted to achieve. Now everything on the list was something that, at the time, I thought was unobtainable. It was, for me, a pie in the sky "wish list"...	missmeliss	7	506	Mar 24, 2015 by Jen61
	Accepting the Good Feelings (Preview) Hello Everyone, It's been awhile since I've posted. I'm trying to work through some feelings about a recent success. I've been doing my best to work my program by taking the next right action and letting go of the results in my work search efforts. Recently, I've had a lot of interviews and I've been of...	tiredtonite	4	613	Mar 24, 2015 by Skorpi
	Intervention? (Preview) Today my therapist asked if I had ever thought about conducting an intervention. I just started crying and found it difficult to move forward with the conversation. I decided that it's not something I feel strong enough to do, not yet anyway. She told me that I should try watching an episode of Interve...	AlmaDaigle	9	1047	Mar 24, 2015 by AlmaDaigle
	Isolation (Preview) I am feeling very emotional. I've dropped out of many clubs because of the pain and grief I am feeling. My ah told me to leave him alone. My adult children have told me to back off. I've gotten the message. Stay away!!! Stop talking!!! i was even told at alanon group there is no hope until I get it!! ...	Confused2379	24	797	Mar 24, 2015 by Confused2379
	"Who are you and what do you want?" (Preview) This was shared at a meeting tonight where a member shared she was having a conversation with a friend and was asking about her relationship. Her friend's husband overheard the conversation and said to her "Ask yourself who you are and what do YOU want?" Isn't that amazing. I know I've hear...	Aloha	6	891	Mar 24, 2015 by andromeda
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