Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

nycbt · nycbt

I have realize that I am in love with my husband who is an alchoic. I am in love with him. I do get upset when he drinks like everyone else. I am happy the rest of the time with him. Thanks to the program I have detached at times when he is drinking. The other times I feel the love of him. I love to give my husband hu...

rtexas · rtexas

So I'm standing outside (feeding my addiction) and contemplating the events of last night. My A is totally beside herself about the fact that I will not agree to doing something other than Al-Anon. I mean she has been absolutely hysterical about it for over a month n...

kitty · kitty

Let It Begin With Me When anyone, anywhere reaches out for help ~ let the hand of Al-Anon & Alateen always be there and ~ Let It Begin With Me. I have had this card in my wallet ever since 1987. My One Day at a Time book has my signature and the date April 24, 1987. My ex-husband cared morea bout be...

robyn76 · robyn76

Hi all ~ Just wondering what ESH stands for?????...thanks robyn

doxie · doxie

At the meeting last night someone quoted the "acceptance" paragraph or something like that from the Big Book (AA) I believe. I really cannot remember for sure, as I was at work and trying to do two things at once

. But it was a really cool paragraph. Can someone help me identify where to find it? &...

Barbara · Barbara

Yup time to go again tomorrow. Last mammo was 14months ago. I go yearly since my older brother had breast cancer 5yrs ago. Im also having my bloodwork done while in the city. Doc keeps track of both my cholesterol and thyroid. Same brother had heart trouble/heart bypass in 2003. I lost 45lbs, got to goal...

unsure24 · unsure24

My name is Tonia. I joined the forum and didnt have the courage to post until i read this. I didnt realize that the things i have been seeing were commonplace i wasnt even sure that i should be here. My husband and i have been married for a year and a half. I am 24 and he is 34. ...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

This was asked in a previous post. Again referring to the Alcoholism the Family Disease pamphlet (P-4) p. 24 "...Our leaders are chosen not to govern, but to serve. No member of Al-Anon should direct, assume authority or give advice. Our program is based on suggestion, intercha...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Don't ya watch tv commercials pa? Happy cows come from California!!!! LOLOLOL Mooooooooooo!!

bill y · bill y

Ok all the replys to my too soon post are great but what I failed to mention was that he is not living at home right now and I nkow he wants to and I want him to but what do I do.

Christy · Christy

An f2f Alanon friend e-mailed this to me, I liked it and thought I'd share... I'm Glad You're In My Dash I read of a man who stood to speak At the funeral of a friend. He referred to the dates on her tombstone, From the beginning...to the end. He noted that first came her dat...

debilyn · debilyn

Omgosh!!! I believe I have made a hurdle!!!! Becuz my brain is not clogged with the A disease, I have a NEW um avatar!!! go see go see!! It's Estersue!!! love,debilyn

flintfeet · flintfeet

almost everyone in my family is addicted to something. we have our many alcoholics. we also have family members addicted to smoking(i'm guilty of that!). we also have our fair share of druggies, gamblers, "marriage addicts", ...ect . my whole family is addicted to something! today is my first day...

sandie123 · sandie123

I got this email today on courage and thought someone might be able to benefit from it too. Courage is fear that has said its prayers. -- Dorothy Bernard No one of us is always courageous. With trepidation we embark on many journeys. Fear is dispelled each time we rely on our inne...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Last night in my F/F someone brought up something about Shame. He said that so many of us feel shame and the alcoholic's shame can often lead to more drinking to cover up that emotion. I have thought about my own shameful feelings, but I'm struggling with how I might have directed shame tow...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

If at all possible, I encourage all to get the pamphlet "Alcoholism the Family Disease" (P-4). This is available at local meetings for free, you can also order it online at the WSO website http://www.al-anon.org/publications.html This pamphlet tells the purpose of Al-Anon, has s...

hudsond · hudsond

Well I got the results back, HCG level dropped, but still not all is gone. So I will have to repeat again next week. So I guess I'm still waiting to see if anything more drastic must be done. At least the numbers dropped some more. Thanks for the prayers and encouragement! Dawn

kitty · kitty

Walked into chat, it was chaos... why are we not listening to each other & reaching out in unity as Trad 1 suggests? I just saw a girl mention suicide & poof was gone b/c of the feeding frenzy that went off-track over the debate of "religion" & God. Being suicidal in the passed, it...

david62 · david62

I came home last night after my local ftf (face to face) meeting and a really great meeting after the meeting at the local cafe, feeling great, having spent roughly 2 and a half hours with people in recovery. Not wanting the wave to end, I popped into the chatroom. I was amazed. This was about an hour a...

cabma · cabma

I've been posting a lot lately since my h told me he's leaving. He filed for separation and plans to leave at the end of may. His lawyer called me yesterday to see if I wanted to come pick up the papers. I told her no, she can serve me. He came home from work and asked why I was making...

ditto · ditto

Today I was driving in the middle of a very metropolitan area. I was going to the grocery store to buy food. Just before I left, my a had started a conversation with me telling me that he doesn't really understand why I want to leave Florida and go to Texas. Frankly, I've been scared of...

bill y · bill y

My A has been clean and dry this time for just over 30 days, he seems to have changed his whole atitude and is doing what he was supposed to be doing in the first place the yard work on time, painting, keeping the house straight and just being responsible, so that I don't have to do it all. The thing is h...

Christy · Christy

OK, so today my 16 yr old son and I set out to install a chain link fence. I went to Lowe's yesterday and bought everything we needed, poles fencing, clips, gate, cement etc. So this morning we get started on clearing the brush and cutting back limbs that would be in the way of the fence line. Under the brush...

Rebecca · Rebecca

hi guys just thought id check in and let ye know what the story is these days.... i havent seen my "A" in over 3 weeks. we have spoken once on the phone and every 2-3 days in texts. we wont be doing that anymore... the "bad company" that is was keeping..he is now in with again..and it has led hi...

drucilla06 · drucilla06

Finally went to a face to face meeting as they call it.I haven't been to one in many years.When I did go before I was never really present.I think I was waiting for something to happen,a big change or something,I don't know.All I did back then was criticize in my head and judge.No wonder I was mis...

snt · snt

So today my H went to pick up his boys for easter weekend. he was going to take my car and i would have his truck but at the last moment he discovered that my back brakes are shot....lol thats part of the downfalls marrying a mechanic your stuff is always the last to get fixed. Anyway......

allison · allison

My AH has been gone for almost 5 months.I thought this whole time that all I wanted was for him to come back.Well, he called me tonight and said he wanted to come home...his money ran out and low and behold..he needs me..or wants to use me! I thought It would make me happy but I`m depressed...I don`t think I...

debilyn · debilyn

I have not been to the chat room much. I like it here. lol Are there not ops in there??? GG is right, we are NOT to be talking religion in alanon at all. hmmm love,debilyn

Gailey · Gailey

I have been praying for HP to speak to my son. I just got a call at work from him asking me if I would like to go along with him tonight to hear a recovering alcoholic, who speaks for 2 hours every Wednesday night. I am really seeing HP work in my life. I was blown away by that call. Especially after he denie...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

My name is De, I am 45, in a 14 year relationship with my best friend. I am relativley new to AlAnon, Maybe a month. I should be in bed asleep but I am so angry at my alcoholic. Her idea of a beer is a 24oz beer. I say it is 2, well it is usually 3 a nite or 6 in my book. She can not go beyond one month sober. She may be w...

d53sjurne · d53sjurne

I thought this was Al-Anon . For people seaking recovery. I thought respect was part of the program. Is open chat a no rules place that you have to have a program to survive in like coming from a life destroyed by alcohol ? Are there any rules for not trampling on others and giving excuses for doing it ? Pain...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

My "a" got his driver's license back yesterday. Look out!! He got a DUI with an accident 9 years ago!! He hit a doctor's wife two seconds after pulling out of a parking lot. When he told me how much he drank that night before I'm amazed he was even walking. Basically, the...

HadEnuff · HadEnuff

I had the opportunity to close the door forever, and move on to a normal and sane life (whatever that is), but instead I chose to let go of all the pain and anger that has built up over this 11 year relationship, and start treating him as though none of it ever happened. Doing the things that I know wou...

seachange · seachange

Hi Everyone! Just wondering if you too have had difficulty in your lives asking questions and getting all the information you need. Especially when it comes to financial stuff, but even other things too! I've recently been on quite a roll, having to talk to people on the phon...

Barbara · Barbara

Been enjoying the space Ive been in the past few days. I dont need to feel like a martyr. I dont need to always have up that protective shell. Thanks everyone. Feeling very serene. Good time for a massage (Thurs night!)

Gailey · Gailey

My detaching with love seems to be happening slowly but surely. A couple of weeks ago my A son did not come home...which is normal. Even though he is 35 I still worry when I do not know where he is. Of course I will worry...he is an A and anything could have happened the night before. This one particular Sund...

hudsond · hudsond

going for another blood test today. Hopefully my HCG level will have completely dropped and everything will be gone. If not I will possibly have to have more blood work and a DNC. I can't wait to feel "normal" again. It's not like I even know what that is, but man my hormones ha...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

I never thought I was an emotional person growing up. When I got upset about something I kept it to myself and cried by myself in my room. I realize why I did that now because my father could not handle seeing the pain and fear his rages caused for me. It did not feel acceptable to stand u...

Robinks · Robinks

Hi everyone - I am setting a boundary and need some positive support on it. My son has been gone the past two weekends with his dad, this coming weekend he wants to go with his dad on Friday to get his cousins and spend the night and take them to the airport on Saturday. He said he will stay with me the next we...

sunny123 · sunny123

I have been with my A for 13 years, living together 10 and married 3. His drinking just got to a point where I know there is a serious problem -- going out with his drinking buddies 4-5 nights a week. He would come home completely trashed. A month ago I finally put the pressure on when he was drunk. I was just s...

Barbara · Barbara

Sat May 6 is the date for the Healthy Women Informed Women seminar to be held in Marlboro, MA. Im registered and will be attending a few workshops on stress, eating right, etc. There is a fashion show during the lunch provided. Its a great day for women to learn about how to take care of themselves. Ive att...

kitty · kitty

Again, I feel like I am slipping but maybe it is just growing pains. I have had this weird indegestion pop up, over a month now, I just know it is fear related ~ I can't seem to sleep regularly ~ this past week/end has been trying & I'm getting rundown from sheer exhaustion, stress, allergies. ...

JulieLynn · JulieLynn

Well I made it through my 2nd anniversary without my AH. I kept myself as busy as I could so that I was not dwelling on the date or the fact that my husband and I are seperated. I, of course, did not hear from him. I would be lying if I said that I didn't think of him a couple of times but my tho...

confused · confused

HI everyone, I haven't posted in awhile. I have been coming on, reading, replying here and there, but just haven't been taking the time to post. I don't know why? I think at one point I got the thinking that if I had nothing nice to say, say nothing, that everyone in the world did not...

QOD · QOD

I must be crazy!! Last week I was dead set to file for divorce and leave my AH. I have been ignoring him for 3 weeks. Building my wall around me to protect me from getting hurt again and to help me keep my strength to go through w/leaving him. THEN Friday night came. I had a reall...

cdb · cdb

I guess I am only human and I do suffer from depression. It is a blessing for me to have a message board to vent and talk about my real feelings. So much has happened in my life this past week that was stressful and extremely overwhelming. I am not going to share it with you now. Tonight I was feeling li...

cabma · cabma

Last Friday was the day my h was going to file for divorce. He had an appt with his lawyer. In the morning he called to say his car broke down and would need to take it in to get fixed. I stupidly said he could have my car for the day. Here I am being nice and giving him my car and...

confused · confused

feeling kind of uncomfortable today. I have been getting weird vibes from my husband for a few days now. Kind of a cold, silent treatment. Don't really know what it is all about. We have plans to go to Maryland for the weekend. It will be the first time we are toge...

Becky1 · Becky1

Powerless, have not seen or heard from you in a while.

Please let us know how you are. You are needed here.

Love in Recovery Becky1

AlaMom · AlaMom

the roller coaster anymore. After attending the MA Alanon Convention this past weekend I had come to realizations for myself that I am putting into practice. The most important of them for me at this time is that I am chosing not to ride the roller coaster of my husband's disease. T...

bobump · bobump

Met w/ one of my wifes clinicians today. She seemed pretty confident that they were going to read me to riot act. They asked what my concerns where and asked what theirs and my wifes concerns where since they called the meeting. We chatted, I expressed my concerns. He heard that I'm not comfortable w/ he...

ditto · ditto

"The Little Prince" was published in 1943. It was written by Antoine de Saint Exupery. It is a children's book. It is amazing that in these 60 years little has happened to alter the disease of alcoholism. This is a quote from "The Little Prince" as translated from the...

emma · emma

Acceptance, boundaries, and focus on me ... oh my! I thought I understood acceptance, but in recent mtgs you all and others have shared wisdom of your ESH that humbles me, and gives me insight. So, essentially, if I can ever get to a point of truly accepting, then by definition, the fear goes aw...

maresie · maresie

Well I am back on the clumsy rhythm of trying to work and do EVERYTHING at home. The A has some skin condtion which he says precludes doing housework. He also injured his thumb pretty badly. And he likes to lay around and feel sorry for himself too of course because since he was diagnosed wit...

sparkette · sparkette

In class tonight we had to fill out this bio-poem sheet that our literature teacher gave us. Man did I struggle with this puppy. Here at home, with all of you, honesty is so much easier. In a nutshell here is what I wrote - just wanted to share it. Cyndee fiesty caring trustworthy...

search41 · search41

cv hi all! i havent written in a long time, but tonite i feel the need to vent, and feel the need for some encouragement and support. i used to know many of the people here, but now i think there are many new people that probably dont know me. to make a long story short, through many trials a...

Barbara · Barbara

Wow! Just returned home from the Cape AlAnon convention. My head is in such a better spot today. Took a "spiritual walk" this morn- very frightening when it was my turn to walk down but I did it. Sun was shining on my way home - raining on the way to the Cape. Met alot of new friends - it was nice to put faces to n...

Gailey · Gailey

I finally did it. I told my son he has to move out. May 1st is the deadline. I hope I can hold out. Why is it when he was in recovery he admitted he was A and now that he is active he says he is not. And he thinks I can actually believe that. Has he forgotten that 5 months ago he was an A? I know it will be the hardes...

drucilla06 · drucilla06

I thought I was doing so well earlier today.I have been noticing that I have been able to think of myself separately from my husband.At first when the whole thing came out about his online girlfriend and the enevitability of the marriage ending I was nable to do that.I have been with him 36 years....

search41 · search41

sorry about that amp; amp; thing....i have no idea how that happened! search41

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	my husband (Preview) I have realize that I am in love with my husband who is an alchoic. I am in love with him. I do get upset when he drinks like everyone else. I am happy the rest of the time with him. Thanks to the program I have detached at times when he is drinking. The other times I feel the love of him. I love to give my husband hu...	nycbt	18	488	Apr 13, 2006 by Krze_kel
	Even Buzzards are beautiful sometimes... (Preview) So I'm standing outside (feeding my addiction) and contemplating the events of last night. My A is totally beside herself about the fact that I will not agree to doing something other than Al-Anon. I mean she has been absolutely hysterical about it for over a month n...	rtexas	11	448	Apr 13, 2006 by leo
	Let It Begin with Me (Preview) Let It Begin With Me When anyone, anywhere reaches out for help ~ let the hand of Al-Anon & Alateen always be there and ~ Let It Begin With Me. I have had this card in my wallet ever since 1987. My One Day at a Time book has my signature and the date April 24, 1987. My ex-husband cared morea bout be...	kitty	3	313	Apr 13, 2006 by kitty
	Lingo Help (Preview) Hi all ~ Just wondering what ESH stands for?????...thanks robyn	robyn76	1	337	Apr 13, 2006 by aunitedway
	At the meeting last night.... (Preview) At the meeting last night someone quoted the "acceptance" paragraph or something like that from the Big Book (AA) I believe. I really cannot remember for sure, as I was at work and trying to do two things at once . But it was a really cool paragraph. Can someone help me identify where to find it? &...	doxie	2	393	Apr 13, 2006 by kismetstrand
	mammogram and cholesterol & thyroid bloodwork (Preview) Yup time to go again tomorrow. Last mammo was 14months ago. I go yearly since my older brother had breast cancer 5yrs ago. Im also having my bloodwork done while in the city. Doc keeps track of both my cholesterol and thyroid. Same brother had heart trouble/heart bypass in 2003. I lost 45lbs, got to goal...	Barbara	5	335	Apr 13, 2006 by leo
	unsure (Preview) My name is Tonia. I joined the forum and didnt have the courage to post until i read this. I didnt realize that the things i have been seeing were commonplace i wasnt even sure that i should be here. My husband and i have been married for a year and a half. I am 24 and he is 34. ...	unsure24	10	361	Apr 13, 2006 by unsure24
	What is Dominance... (Preview) This was asked in a previous post. Again referring to the Alcoholism the Family Disease pamphlet (P-4) p. 24 "...Our leaders are chosen not to govern, but to serve. No member of Al-Anon should direct, assume authority or give advice. Our program is based on suggestion, intercha...	kismetstrand	0	1061	Apr 13, 2006 by kismetstrand
	David...re Happy Cows (Preview) Don't ya watch tv commercials pa? Happy cows come from California!!!! LOLOLOL Mooooooooooo!!	kismetstrand	8	418	Apr 13, 2006 by kismetstrand
	Replys (Preview) Ok all the replys to my too soon post are great but what I failed to mention was that he is not living at home right now and I nkow he wants to and I want him to but what do I do.	bill y	2	307	Apr 13, 2006 by Jeannie
	I'm glad you're in my dash :) (Preview) An f2f Alanon friend e-mailed this to me, I liked it and thought I'd share... I'm Glad You're In My Dash I read of a man who stood to speak At the funeral of a friend. He referred to the dates on her tombstone, From the beginning...to the end. He noted that first came her dat...	Christy	6	866	Apr 13, 2006 by jonibaloni21
	progree jest fer me!!! (Preview) Omgosh!!! I believe I have made a hurdle!!!! Becuz my brain is not clogged with the A disease, I have a NEW um avatar!!! go see go see!! It's Estersue!!! love,debilyn	debilyn	9	384	Apr 13, 2006 by Lunamoth
	addictive personality!! (Preview) almost everyone in my family is addicted to something. we have our many alcoholics. we also have family members addicted to smoking(i'm guilty of that!). we also have our fair share of druggies, gamblers, "marriage addicts", ...ect . my whole family is addicted to something! today is my first day...	flintfeet	3	317	Apr 13, 2006 by hudsond
	Courage (Preview) I got this email today on courage and thought someone might be able to benefit from it too. Courage is fear that has said its prayers. -- Dorothy Bernard No one of us is always courageous. With trepidation we embark on many journeys. Fear is dispelled each time we rely on our inne...	sandie123	1	298	Apr 13, 2006 by jrtjosey
	Need some ESH on "shame" (Preview) Last night in my F/F someone brought up something about Shame. He said that so many of us feel shame and the alcoholic's shame can often lead to more drinking to cover up that emotion. I have thought about my own shameful feelings, but I'm struggling with how I might have directed shame tow...	twinmom2	10	518	Apr 13, 2006 by twinmom2
	3 Obstacles to Success in Al-Anon (Preview) If at all possible, I encourage all to get the pamphlet "Alcoholism the Family Disease" (P-4). This is available at local meetings for free, you can also order it online at the WSO website http://www.al-anon.org/publications.html This pamphlet tells the purpose of Al-Anon, has s...	kismetstrand	6	7743	Apr 13, 2006 by bobump
	Test results (Preview) Well I got the results back, HCG level dropped, but still not all is gone. So I will have to repeat again next week. So I guess I'm still waiting to see if anything more drastic must be done. At least the numbers dropped some more. Thanks for the prayers and encouragement! Dawn	hudsond	5	317	Apr 13, 2006 by hudsond
	sharks in the chat room smell the blood & feed (Preview) Walked into chat, it was chaos... why are we not listening to each other & reaching out in unity as Trad 1 suggests? I just saw a girl mention suicide & poof was gone b/c of the feeding frenzy that went off-track over the debate of "religion" & God. Being suicidal in the passed, it...	kitty	20	2623	Apr 13, 2006 by mac57
	Christmas in April (MIP Style) (Preview) I came home last night after my local ftf (face to face) meeting and a really great meeting after the meeting at the local cafe, feeling great, having spent roughly 2 and a half hours with people in recovery. Not wanting the wave to end, I popped into the chatroom. I was amazed. This was about an hour a...	david62	10	340	Apr 13, 2006 by sparkette
	How can he make me feel so bad (Preview) I've been posting a lot lately since my h told me he's leaving. He filed for separation and plans to leave at the end of may. His lawyer called me yesterday to see if I wanted to come pick up the papers. I told her no, she can serve me. He came home from work and asked why I was making...	cabma	6	458	Apr 13, 2006 by Rita G
	Texans, is this a sign (Preview) Today I was driving in the middle of a very metropolitan area. I was going to the grocery store to buy food. Just before I left, my a had started a conversation with me telling me that he doesn't really understand why I want to leave Florida and go to Texas. Frankly, I've been scared of...	ditto	13	528	Apr 13, 2006 by leo
	too soon ? (Preview) My A has been clean and dry this time for just over 30 days, he seems to have changed his whole atitude and is doing what he was supposed to be doing in the first place the yard work on time, painting, keeping the house straight and just being responsible, so that I don't have to do it all. The thing is h...	bill y	13	440	Apr 13, 2006 by nycbt
	What a day!! (Preview) OK, so today my 16 yr old son and I set out to install a chain link fence. I went to Lowe's yesterday and bought everything we needed, poles fencing, clips, gate, cement etc. So this morning we get started on clearing the brush and cutting back limbs that would be in the way of the fence line. Under the brush...	Christy	7	375	Apr 13, 2006 by just me
	Checking in.... (Preview) hi guys just thought id check in and let ye know what the story is these days.... i havent seen my "A" in over 3 weeks. we have spoken once on the phone and every 2-3 days in texts. we wont be doing that anymore... the "bad company" that is was keeping..he is now in with again..and it has led hi...	Rebecca	6	268	Apr 13, 2006 by bobump
	went to first f2f (Preview) Finally went to a face to face meeting as they call it.I haven't been to one in many years.When I did go before I was never really present.I think I was waiting for something to happen,a big change or something,I don't know.All I did back then was criticize in my head and judge.No wonder I was mis...	drucilla06	5	409	Apr 13, 2006 by Becky1
	I did it to myself again (Preview) So today my H went to pick up his boys for easter weekend. he was going to take my car and i would have his truck but at the last moment he discovered that my back brakes are shot....lol thats part of the downfalls marrying a mechanic your stuff is always the last to get fixed. Anyway......	snt	6	426	Apr 13, 2006 by Jerry F
	so cofused (Preview) My AH has been gone for almost 5 months.I thought this whole time that all I wanted was for him to come back.Well, he called me tonight and said he wanted to come home...his money ran out and low and behold..he needs me..or wants to use me! I thought It would make me happy but I`m depressed...I don`t think I...	allison	7	361	Apr 13, 2006 by Jerry F
	where are the chat room ops? (Preview) I have not been to the chat room much. I like it here. lol Are there not ops in there??? GG is right, we are NOT to be talking religion in alanon at all. hmmm love,debilyn	debilyn	9	591	Apr 13, 2006 by debilyn
	HP is so awesome!!! (Preview) I have been praying for HP to speak to my son. I just got a call at work from him asking me if I would like to go along with him tonight to hear a recovering alcoholic, who speaks for 2 hours every Wednesday night. I am really seeing HP work in my life. I was blown away by that call. Especially after he denie...	Gailey	2	292	Apr 12, 2006 by tea2
	letting go of anger & learning to forgive (Preview) My name is De, I am 45, in a 14 year relationship with my best friend. I am relativley new to AlAnon, Maybe a month. I should be in bed asleep but I am so angry at my alcoholic. Her idea of a beer is a 24oz beer. I say it is 2, well it is usually 3 a nite or 6 in my book. She can not go beyond one month sober. She may be w...	hmrnrnmm	8	690	Apr 12, 2006 by hmrnrnmm
	Jokes don't fix pain and desperation (Preview) I thought this was Al-Anon . For people seaking recovery. I thought respect was part of the program. Is open chat a no rules place that you have to have a program to survive in like coming from a life destroyed by alcohol ? Are there any rules for not trampling on others and giving excuses for doing it ? Pain...	d53sjurne	9	501	Apr 12, 2006 by d53sjurne
	He's on the road, let's hope onwards and upwards!! (Preview) My "a" got his driver's license back yesterday. Look out!! He got a DUI with an accident 9 years ago!! He hit a doctor's wife two seconds after pulling out of a parking lot. When he told me how much he drank that night before I'm amazed he was even walking. Basically, the...	twinmom2	4	287	Apr 12, 2006 by Jeannie
	Can ANYONE Understand this??? (Preview) I had the opportunity to close the door forever, and move on to a normal and sane life (whatever that is), but instead I chose to let go of all the pain and anger that has built up over this 11 year relationship, and start treating him as though none of it ever happened. Doing the things that I know wou...	HadEnuff	5	417	Apr 12, 2006 by mebjk
	Asking questions and getting info (Preview) Hi Everyone! Just wondering if you too have had difficulty in your lives asking questions and getting all the information you need. Especially when it comes to financial stuff, but even other things too! I've recently been on quite a roll, having to talk to people on the phon...	seachange	8	337	Apr 12, 2006 by Robinks
	Today I dont need the tough shell OR to feel like a martyr (Preview) Been enjoying the space Ive been in the past few days. I dont need to feel like a martyr. I dont need to always have up that protective shell. Thanks everyone. Feeling very serene. Good time for a massage (Thurs night!)	Barbara	4	260	Apr 12, 2006 by Robinks
	something must be working (Preview) My detaching with love seems to be happening slowly but surely. A couple of weeks ago my A son did not come home...which is normal. Even though he is 35 I still worry when I do not know where he is. Of course I will worry...he is an A and anything could have happened the night before. This one particular Sund...	Gailey	5	270	Apr 12, 2006 by danz123
	Going for test (Preview) going for another blood test today. Hopefully my HCG level will have completely dropped and everything will be gone. If not I will possibly have to have more blood work and a DNC. I can't wait to feel "normal" again. It's not like I even know what that is, but man my hormones ha...	hudsond	7	328	Apr 12, 2006 by danz123
	I'm not apologizing for who I am anymore (Preview) I never thought I was an emotional person growing up. When I got upset about something I kept it to myself and cried by myself in my room. I realize why I did that now because my father could not handle seeing the pain and fear his rages caused for me. It did not feel acceptable to stand u...	twinmom2	9	395	Apr 12, 2006 by Robinks
	Support on Setting Boundaries (Preview) Hi everyone - I am setting a boundary and need some positive support on it. My son has been gone the past two weekends with his dad, this coming weekend he wants to go with his dad on Friday to get his cousins and spend the night and take them to the airport on Saturday. He said he will stay with me the next we...	Robinks	2	287	Apr 12, 2006 by Robinks
	can you relate? (Preview) I have been with my A for 13 years, living together 10 and married 3. His drinking just got to a point where I know there is a serious problem -- going out with his drinking buddies 4-5 nights a week. He would come home completely trashed. A month ago I finally put the pressure on when he was drunk. I was just s...	sunny123	2	342	Apr 12, 2006 by Robinks
	Sat May 6 - another day to take care of Me (Preview) Sat May 6 is the date for the Healthy Women Informed Women seminar to be held in Marlboro, MA. Im registered and will be attending a few workshops on stress, eating right, etc. There is a fashion show during the lunch provided. Its a great day for women to learn about how to take care of themselves. Ive att...	Barbara	2	316	Apr 12, 2006 by Robinks
	Feeling Sick(ened) (Preview) Again, I feel like I am slipping but maybe it is just growing pains. I have had this weird indegestion pop up, over a month now, I just know it is fear related ~ I can't seem to sleep regularly ~ this past week/end has been trying & I'm getting rundown from sheer exhaustion, stress, allergies. ...	kitty	9	357	Apr 12, 2006 by aunitedway
	I made it thru my anniversary (Preview) Well I made it through my 2nd anniversary without my AH. I kept myself as busy as I could so that I was not dwelling on the date or the fact that my husband and I are seperated. I, of course, did not hear from him. I would be lying if I said that I didn't think of him a couple of times but my tho...	JulieLynn	8	388	Apr 12, 2006 by aunitedway
	the program progresses - will it work? (Preview) HI everyone, I haven't posted in awhile. I have been coming on, reading, replying here and there, but just haven't been taking the time to post. I don't know why? I think at one point I got the thinking that if I had nothing nice to say, say nothing, that everyone in the world did not...	confused	8	492	Apr 12, 2006 by Rita G
	I must be CRAZY!! (Preview) I must be crazy!! Last week I was dead set to file for divorce and leave my AH. I have been ignoring him for 3 weeks. Building my wall around me to protect me from getting hurt again and to help me keep my strength to go through w/leaving him. THEN Friday night came. I had a reall...	QOD	16	418	Apr 12, 2006 by marmare
	Thoughts of totally giving up today... (Preview) I guess I am only human and I do suffer from depression. It is a blessing for me to have a message board to vent and talk about my real feelings. So much has happened in my life this past week that was stressful and extremely overwhelming. I am not going to share it with you now. Tonight I was feeling li...	cdb	16	911	Apr 12, 2006 by leo
	This is so hard (Preview) Last Friday was the day my h was going to file for divorce. He had an appt with his lawyer. In the morning he called to say his car broke down and would need to take it in to get fixed. I stupidly said he could have my car for the day. Here I am being nice and giving him my car and...	cabma	5	371	Apr 12, 2006 by leo
	uneasy feelings (Preview) feeling kind of uncomfortable today. I have been getting weird vibes from my husband for a few days now. Kind of a cold, silent treatment. Don't really know what it is all about. We have plans to go to Maryland for the weekend. It will be the first time we are toge...	confused	3	281	Apr 12, 2006 by QOD
	POWERLESS? WHERE ARE YOU? (Preview) Powerless, have not seen or heard from you in a while. Please let us know how you are. You are needed here. Love in Recovery Becky1	Becky1	1	270	Apr 12, 2006 by QOD
	Dont want to ride... (Preview) the roller coaster anymore. After attending the MA Alanon Convention this past weekend I had come to realizations for myself that I am putting into practice. The most important of them for me at this time is that I am chosing not to ride the roller coaster of my husband's disease. T...	AlaMom	9	546	Apr 12, 2006 by Andrea12
	glad HP brought me here (Preview) Met w/ one of my wifes clinicians today. She seemed pretty confident that they were going to read me to riot act. They asked what my concerns where and asked what theirs and my wifes concerns where since they called the meeting. We chatted, I expressed my concerns. He heard that I'm not comfortable w/ he...	bobump	16	546	Apr 12, 2006 by Andrea12
	Quote from a children's book (Preview) "The Little Prince" was published in 1943. It was written by Antoine de Saint Exupery. It is a children's book. It is amazing that in these 60 years little has happened to alter the disease of alcoholism. This is a quote from "The Little Prince" as translated from the...	ditto	5	357	Apr 12, 2006 by Barbara
	HP, please beam me up for an acceptance lesson (Preview) Acceptance, boundaries, and focus on me ... oh my! I thought I understood acceptance, but in recent mtgs you all and others have shared wisdom of your ESH that humbles me, and gives me insight. So, essentially, if I can ever get to a point of truly accepting, then by definition, the fear goes aw...	emma	1	407	Apr 12, 2006 by abbyal
	being graceful under pressure (Preview) Well I am back on the clumsy rhythm of trying to work and do EVERYTHING at home. The A has some skin condtion which he says precludes doing housework. He also injured his thumb pretty badly. And he likes to lay around and feel sorry for himself too of course because since he was diagnosed wit...	maresie	6	807	Apr 11, 2006 by debilyn
	me (Preview) In class tonight we had to fill out this bio-poem sheet that our literature teacher gave us. Man did I struggle with this puppy. Here at home, with all of you, honesty is so much easier. In a nutshell here is what I wrote - just wanted to share it. Cyndee fiesty caring trustworthy...	sparkette	9	375	Apr 11, 2006 by debilyn
	feeling discouraged, scared &amp; confused (Preview) cv hi all! i havent written in a long time, but tonite i feel the need to vent, and feel the need for some encouragement and support. i used to know many of the people here, but now i think there are many new people that probably dont know me. to make a long story short, through many trials a...	search41	6	601	Apr 11, 2006 by debilyn
	I can honestly say Im in a better spot - thank you (Preview) Wow! Just returned home from the Cape AlAnon convention. My head is in such a better spot today. Took a "spiritual walk" this morn- very frightening when it was my turn to walk down but I did it. Sun was shining on my way home - raining on the way to the Cape. Met alot of new friends - it was nice to put faces to n...	Barbara	4	308	Apr 11, 2006 by Maria123
	please God...help me to stick to my guns (Preview) I finally did it. I told my son he has to move out. May 1st is the deadline. I hope I can hold out. Why is it when he was in recovery he admitted he was A and now that he is active he says he is not. And he thinks I can actually believe that. Has he forgotten that 5 months ago he was an A? I know it will be the hardes...	Gailey	5	366	Apr 11, 2006 by Maria123
	he held out the bait and I jumped on the hook (Preview) I thought I was doing so well earlier today.I have been noticing that I have been able to think of myself separately from my husband.At first when the whole thing came out about his online girlfriend and the enevitability of the marriage ending I was nable to do that.I have been with him 36 years....	drucilla06	7	324	Apr 11, 2006 by aunitedway
	sorry! amp;am;? no clue where that came from! (Preview) sorry about that amp; amp; thing....i have no idea how that happened! search41	search41	1	279	Apr 11, 2006 by rtexas
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