Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Andrea12 · Andrea12

As I sit here thinking about the past few days as much as everything really is the same, things change. Hub sober for 2 days, big deal I say, but really it is to him. To me it's just an illusion of a life that was. It is gone, because this is just a brief stop. I know it's one day at a time, one minute at at time...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

I spoke with Swolves tonight and she wants me to say hi to all. Her computer is down and she has a new job and is working a lot of hours. She promises to get her computer fixed soon and get her butt back to meetings. She and her family are all doing well. Josey

unsure24 · unsure24

Today I told my husband about starting to go to celebrate recovery and AA meetings. I also told him about my meetings with my counselor/psychologist. I told him that i wasnt going to enable his drinking anymore. That I would go with him to dinner if he was going to order an alcoholic...

Hanna · Hanna

In my last post I asked for advice and many of you said that you do not give advice here. I think that isn't quite true. Through the strength you show through your writing you are in a way giving advice saying, "i can get through it...so can you". One of the replies to my last post gave me a pretty good ide...

rtexas · rtexas

I just spent the last 30 minutes talking one of my co-workers off the ledge... LOL It's good friday and lots of folks are out, he is responsable for distributing work to our group, and he had a PILE of last minute tasks sent to him for distribution. Since most of the team is gone, he was panic stric...

msykesp · msykesp

This morning was bad. As I was getting ready for work, I rememberec i had no cash on me, so I yelled at him i was goingto take the 50 out of his wallet and bring him home 30 tonight. (did I mention it is his bday today!) Its not like it was the only money there, there was a 100 too, so I wasnt cutting h...

ditto · ditto

We first met three years ago through an internet dating site. I recently looked at the profile I had written. I was requesting an honest, caring, healthy person. I specifically stated I did not want someone who had an addiction to drugs, alcohol, gambling or pornography....

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((((Family)))))))))), I wanted to share the story of the camel with you. I treated myself and hubby to some early Easter gifts: 2 books on recovery for him, 1 for me along with the coin. The coin on one side says ODAT and has a picture of a camel on it. The other side of the coin tells this story...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

For those of you miserable at home, don't make my mistake and let the housework go. I moved out the 31st and I am still going back to the other house cleaning up. How did we live like that? I let myself get so depressed, I didn't care. Granted I had days I was ill, but I also got lazy...

Hanna · Hanna

I believed my A when he said he wouldn't drink anymore. I believed when he begged me not to leave me. I believed when he promised he wouldn't make my final semester of university hell. Now I feel stupid. There are two weeks left in the term. I graduate in less then a month. In a month after that I have to p...

rio · rio

I keep seeing people use this phrase in meetings. There is a song by the same name that I listen to many times every day because it has a very powerful message. It's by a member of my favorite band. He's a recovering alcoholic/drug addict himself. If you want to hear it, I uploa...

serendipity · serendipity

my a husband has been "out there" for almost 2 months. i haven't seen him and he hasn't seen the kids. he has tried to be consistent with calling them but he can't be. i have tried to be kind. i really wasn't very angry, just disappointed. we've been doing this every few years for 12 years. but here is my ques...

Lunamoth · Lunamoth

((((everyone))))) I had my al-anon b-day a few months ago, and since then I've been thinking about how I got started, not only how I came thru the doors but especially about a person I met there when I did. My first meeting I cried the entire time, the meeting was about control though I didn't u...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

I've wanted to post on this topic for a while, more to get feedback and understanding from those of you who have seasoned knowledge on the progression of this disease. I have experienced alcoholics who have drank most of their lives. The have DT tremors, they can't remember anything, th...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Beware of the rubber conscience and the concrete heart. I read this in the pamphlet Alcoholism the Family Disease this morning. Probably have read it a hundred no maybe hundreds of times LOL but today it stuck out. How many times have I justified actions I am not proud of? thousands H...

Cyn · Cyn

The true backlash of dealing with an A in my life is happening. Its affecting the relationships I have in my life even though he is no longer a part of it anymore. Its been almost 6 months since I have seen, or heard from him. And I have been very happily involved with a stable, ca...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello Everyone, Quick background ... a couple weeks ago I decided I was tiredof managing AH's personal money, gave it to him and poof it was gone in a couple days ... rough week thinking about how to take care of myself without it benefitting him, dealing with anger over his irresponsibility and poss...

bubbles1990 · bubbles1990

OK I am having a very low night so I was going to talk about the problem but I think instread I will talk about Graditude. I know I have done this before quite a few post back but i have decied to do it again and share it with all of you: 1. I am grateful for HP 2.I am grateful for a roof over my head 3. I am gr...

Barbara · Barbara

A husbands car just broke down. He was on the highway and the brakes went. Im the one with the money Im the one who usually gets stuck paying for everything. Its "expected" of me. He needed car repair a few months ago and I made him put it on his charge card. But then when the tax return came back I gave him 1/2 s...

confused · confused

I am amazed at how this program works. And just wanted to take a minute to share my thoughts on "It works if you work it" I need to just say that each and every time I have allowed the program, the people in the program, the literature, the steps, the slogans... in they have worked. But m...

peewee · peewee

Something I like from Native American Wisdom "When you lose the rhythm of the drumbeat of God, you are lost from the peace and rhythm of life." Cheyenne proverb Just another way of wording what I'm looking for. MsPeewee

search41 · search41

I want to thank all of you who replied to my post a few days ago. They were all so helpful and encouraging. I have done a lot of thinking these past several days since i posted. i'm still not convinced that i'm being a good mom to our 7 yr old, cuz i know i could do better. but s...

tea2 · tea2

(((((Lunamoth)))))

Wanted to wish you a Very Happy Birthday!

love, care and well wishes ~ for the whole year thru

tea2

aunitedway · aunitedway

(((BigHugs to Deblynn & d53 and ALL))) for the subject going on.... I want to write a bit and share. I chose this because it seems to keep coming up lately. Ok, here goes. Where ever you go that are new places &nbs...

Powerless · Powerless

I am checking in from the public library. I got angry last weekend and threw my laptop. I ended up braking the screen and had to send it to Gateway for repairs. It should be back in 7-10 days. I am fine. Sorry for worrying everyone. Been going to f2f meetings every...

nycbt · nycbt

I have realize that I am in love with my husband who is an alchoic. I am in love with him. I do get upset when he drinks like everyone else. I am happy the rest of the time with him. Thanks to the program I have detached at times when he is drinking. The other times I feel the love of him. I love to give my husband hu...

rtexas · rtexas

So I'm standing outside (feeding my addiction) and contemplating the events of last night. My A is totally beside herself about the fact that I will not agree to doing something other than Al-Anon. I mean she has been absolutely hysterical about it for over a month n...

kitty · kitty

Let It Begin With Me When anyone, anywhere reaches out for help ~ let the hand of Al-Anon & Alateen always be there and ~ Let It Begin With Me. I have had this card in my wallet ever since 1987. My One Day at a Time book has my signature and the date April 24, 1987. My ex-husband cared morea bout be...

robyn76 · robyn76

Hi all ~ Just wondering what ESH stands for?????...thanks robyn

doxie · doxie

At the meeting last night someone quoted the "acceptance" paragraph or something like that from the Big Book (AA) I believe. I really cannot remember for sure, as I was at work and trying to do two things at once

. But it was a really cool paragraph. Can someone help me identify where to find it? &...

Barbara · Barbara

Yup time to go again tomorrow. Last mammo was 14months ago. I go yearly since my older brother had breast cancer 5yrs ago. Im also having my bloodwork done while in the city. Doc keeps track of both my cholesterol and thyroid. Same brother had heart trouble/heart bypass in 2003. I lost 45lbs, got to goal...

unsure24 · unsure24

My name is Tonia. I joined the forum and didnt have the courage to post until i read this. I didnt realize that the things i have been seeing were commonplace i wasnt even sure that i should be here. My husband and i have been married for a year and a half. I am 24 and he is 34. ...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

This was asked in a previous post. Again referring to the Alcoholism the Family Disease pamphlet (P-4) p. 24 "...Our leaders are chosen not to govern, but to serve. No member of Al-Anon should direct, assume authority or give advice. Our program is based on suggestion, intercha...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Don't ya watch tv commercials pa? Happy cows come from California!!!! LOLOLOL Mooooooooooo!!

bill y · bill y

Ok all the replys to my too soon post are great but what I failed to mention was that he is not living at home right now and I nkow he wants to and I want him to but what do I do.

Christy · Christy

An f2f Alanon friend e-mailed this to me, I liked it and thought I'd share... I'm Glad You're In My Dash I read of a man who stood to speak At the funeral of a friend. He referred to the dates on her tombstone, From the beginning...to the end. He noted that first came her dat...

debilyn · debilyn

Omgosh!!! I believe I have made a hurdle!!!! Becuz my brain is not clogged with the A disease, I have a NEW um avatar!!! go see go see!! It's Estersue!!! love,debilyn

flintfeet · flintfeet

almost everyone in my family is addicted to something. we have our many alcoholics. we also have family members addicted to smoking(i'm guilty of that!). we also have our fair share of druggies, gamblers, "marriage addicts", ...ect . my whole family is addicted to something! today is my first day...

sandie123 · sandie123

I got this email today on courage and thought someone might be able to benefit from it too. Courage is fear that has said its prayers. -- Dorothy Bernard No one of us is always courageous. With trepidation we embark on many journeys. Fear is dispelled each time we rely on our inne...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Last night in my F/F someone brought up something about Shame. He said that so many of us feel shame and the alcoholic's shame can often lead to more drinking to cover up that emotion. I have thought about my own shameful feelings, but I'm struggling with how I might have directed shame tow...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

If at all possible, I encourage all to get the pamphlet "Alcoholism the Family Disease" (P-4). This is available at local meetings for free, you can also order it online at the WSO website http://www.al-anon.org/publications.html This pamphlet tells the purpose of Al-Anon, has s...

hudsond · hudsond

Well I got the results back, HCG level dropped, but still not all is gone. So I will have to repeat again next week. So I guess I'm still waiting to see if anything more drastic must be done. At least the numbers dropped some more. Thanks for the prayers and encouragement! Dawn

kitty · kitty

Walked into chat, it was chaos... why are we not listening to each other & reaching out in unity as Trad 1 suggests? I just saw a girl mention suicide & poof was gone b/c of the feeding frenzy that went off-track over the debate of "religion" & God. Being suicidal in the passed, it...

david62 · david62

I came home last night after my local ftf (face to face) meeting and a really great meeting after the meeting at the local cafe, feeling great, having spent roughly 2 and a half hours with people in recovery. Not wanting the wave to end, I popped into the chatroom. I was amazed. This was about an hour a...

cabma · cabma

I've been posting a lot lately since my h told me he's leaving. He filed for separation and plans to leave at the end of may. His lawyer called me yesterday to see if I wanted to come pick up the papers. I told her no, she can serve me. He came home from work and asked why I was making...

ditto · ditto

Today I was driving in the middle of a very metropolitan area. I was going to the grocery store to buy food. Just before I left, my a had started a conversation with me telling me that he doesn't really understand why I want to leave Florida and go to Texas. Frankly, I've been scared of...

bill y · bill y

My A has been clean and dry this time for just over 30 days, he seems to have changed his whole atitude and is doing what he was supposed to be doing in the first place the yard work on time, painting, keeping the house straight and just being responsible, so that I don't have to do it all. The thing is h...

Christy · Christy

OK, so today my 16 yr old son and I set out to install a chain link fence. I went to Lowe's yesterday and bought everything we needed, poles fencing, clips, gate, cement etc. So this morning we get started on clearing the brush and cutting back limbs that would be in the way of the fence line. Under the brush...

Rebecca · Rebecca

hi guys just thought id check in and let ye know what the story is these days.... i havent seen my "A" in over 3 weeks. we have spoken once on the phone and every 2-3 days in texts. we wont be doing that anymore... the "bad company" that is was keeping..he is now in with again..and it has led hi...

drucilla06 · drucilla06

Finally went to a face to face meeting as they call it.I haven't been to one in many years.When I did go before I was never really present.I think I was waiting for something to happen,a big change or something,I don't know.All I did back then was criticize in my head and judge.No wonder I was mis...

snt · snt

So today my H went to pick up his boys for easter weekend. he was going to take my car and i would have his truck but at the last moment he discovered that my back brakes are shot....lol thats part of the downfalls marrying a mechanic your stuff is always the last to get fixed. Anyway......

allison · allison

My AH has been gone for almost 5 months.I thought this whole time that all I wanted was for him to come back.Well, he called me tonight and said he wanted to come home...his money ran out and low and behold..he needs me..or wants to use me! I thought It would make me happy but I`m depressed...I don`t think I...

debilyn · debilyn

I have not been to the chat room much. I like it here. lol Are there not ops in there??? GG is right, we are NOT to be talking religion in alanon at all. hmmm love,debilyn

Gailey · Gailey

I have been praying for HP to speak to my son. I just got a call at work from him asking me if I would like to go along with him tonight to hear a recovering alcoholic, who speaks for 2 hours every Wednesday night. I am really seeing HP work in my life. I was blown away by that call. Especially after he denie...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

My name is De, I am 45, in a 14 year relationship with my best friend. I am relativley new to AlAnon, Maybe a month. I should be in bed asleep but I am so angry at my alcoholic. Her idea of a beer is a 24oz beer. I say it is 2, well it is usually 3 a nite or 6 in my book. She can not go beyond one month sober. She may be w...

d53sjurne · d53sjurne

I thought this was Al-Anon . For people seaking recovery. I thought respect was part of the program. Is open chat a no rules place that you have to have a program to survive in like coming from a life destroyed by alcohol ? Are there any rules for not trampling on others and giving excuses for doing it ? Pain...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

My "a" got his driver's license back yesterday. Look out!! He got a DUI with an accident 9 years ago!! He hit a doctor's wife two seconds after pulling out of a parking lot. When he told me how much he drank that night before I'm amazed he was even walking. Basically, the...

HadEnuff · HadEnuff

I had the opportunity to close the door forever, and move on to a normal and sane life (whatever that is), but instead I chose to let go of all the pain and anger that has built up over this 11 year relationship, and start treating him as though none of it ever happened. Doing the things that I know wou...

seachange · seachange

Hi Everyone! Just wondering if you too have had difficulty in your lives asking questions and getting all the information you need. Especially when it comes to financial stuff, but even other things too! I've recently been on quite a roll, having to talk to people on the phon...

Barbara · Barbara

Been enjoying the space Ive been in the past few days. I dont need to feel like a martyr. I dont need to always have up that protective shell. Thanks everyone. Feeling very serene. Good time for a massage (Thurs night!)

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Just A Little Peace (Preview) As I sit here thinking about the past few days as much as everything really is the same, things change. Hub sober for 2 days, big deal I say, but really it is to him. To me it's just an illusion of a life that was. It is gone, because this is just a brief stop. I know it's one day at a time, one minute at at time...	Andrea12	4	320	Apr 15, 2006 by mel123
	Hello from Swolves (Preview) I spoke with Swolves tonight and she wants me to say hi to all. Her computer is down and she has a new job and is working a lot of hours. She promises to get her computer fixed soon and get her butt back to meetings. She and her family are all doing well. Josey	jrtjosey	2	303	Apr 15, 2006 by buzzfree
	frustrated (Preview) Today I told my husband about starting to go to celebrate recovery and AA meetings. I also told him about my meetings with my counselor/psychologist. I told him that i wasnt going to enable his drinking anymore. That I would go with him to dinner if he was going to order an alcoholic...	unsure24	4	318	Apr 15, 2006 by bobump
	getting through (Preview) In my last post I asked for advice and many of you said that you do not give advice here. I think that isn't quite true. Through the strength you show through your writing you are in a way giving advice saying, "i can get through it...so can you". One of the replies to my last post gave me a pretty good ide...	Hanna	2	326	Apr 15, 2006 by bobump
	The art of being overwhelmed (Preview) I just spent the last 30 minutes talking one of my co-workers off the ledge... LOL It's good friday and lots of folks are out, he is responsable for distributing work to our group, and he had a PILE of last minute tasks sent to him for distribution. Since most of the team is gone, he was panic stric...	rtexas	3	392	Apr 15, 2006 by Barbara
	I reacted... (Preview) This morning was bad. As I was getting ready for work, I rememberec i had no cash on me, so I yelled at him i was goingto take the 50 out of his wallet and bring him home 30 tonight. (did I mention it is his bday today!) Its not like it was the only money there, there was a 100 too, so I wasnt cutting h...	msykesp	9	364	Apr 15, 2006 by unsure24
	And I shall take the blame (Preview) We first met three years ago through an internet dating site. I recently looked at the profile I had written. I was requesting an honest, caring, healthy person. I specifically stated I did not want someone who had an addiction to drugs, alcohol, gambling or pornography....	ditto	9	605	Apr 14, 2006 by leo
	Kari & the Camel (Preview) ((((((((((((Family)))))))))), I wanted to share the story of the camel with you. I treated myself and hubby to some early Easter gifts: 2 books on recovery for him, 1 for me along with the coin. The coin on one side says ODAT and has a picture of a camel on it. The other side of the coin tells this story...	Karilynn	3	439	Apr 14, 2006 by leo
	Don't make my mistake (Preview) For those of you miserable at home, don't make my mistake and let the housework go. I moved out the 31st and I am still going back to the other house cleaning up. How did we live like that? I let myself get so depressed, I didn't care. Granted I had days I was ill, but I also got lazy...	jrtjosey	9	479	Apr 14, 2006 by aunitedway
	He promised (Preview) I believed my A when he said he wouldn't drink anymore. I believed when he begged me not to leave me. I believed when he promised he wouldn't make my final semester of university hell. Now I feel stupid. There are two weeks left in the term. I graduate in less then a month. In a month after that I have to p...	Hanna	10	523	Apr 14, 2006 by nmike
	Trust The Process (Preview) I keep seeing people use this phrase in meetings. There is a song by the same name that I listen to many times every day because it has a very powerful message. It's by a member of my favorite band. He's a recovering alcoholic/drug addict himself. If you want to hear it, I uploa...	rio	0	305	Apr 14, 2006 by rio
	any comments? (Preview) my a husband has been "out there" for almost 2 months. i haven't seen him and he hasn't seen the kids. he has tried to be consistent with calling them but he can't be. i have tried to be kind. i really wasn't very angry, just disappointed. we've been doing this every few years for 12 years. but here is my ques...	serendipity	5	345	Apr 14, 2006 by serendipity
	You never know who you will touch (Preview) ((((everyone))))) I had my al-anon b-day a few months ago, and since then I've been thinking about how I got started, not only how I came thru the doors but especially about a person I met there when I did. My first meeting I cried the entire time, the meeting was about control though I didn't u...	Lunamoth	8	378	Apr 14, 2006 by Maria123
	What does the progression of Alcoholism look like? (Preview) I've wanted to post on this topic for a while, more to get feedback and understanding from those of you who have seasoned knowledge on the progression of this disease. I have experienced alcoholics who have drank most of their lives. The have DT tremors, they can't remember anything, th...	twinmom2	8	2072	Apr 14, 2006 by megan
	Beware (Preview) Beware of the rubber conscience and the concrete heart. I read this in the pamphlet Alcoholism the Family Disease this morning. Probably have read it a hundred no maybe hundreds of times LOL but today it stuck out. How many times have I justified actions I am not proud of? thousands H...	Jennifer	4	580	Apr 14, 2006 by Ria
	Rearing its ugly head (Preview) The true backlash of dealing with an A in my life is happening. Its affecting the relationships I have in my life even though he is no longer a part of it anymore. Its been almost 6 months since I have seen, or heard from him. And I have been very happily involved with a stable, ca...	Cyn	3	302	Apr 14, 2006 by flintfeet
	taking care of me is so easy :-) (Preview) Hello Everyone, Quick background ... a couple weeks ago I decided I was tiredof managing AH's personal money, gave it to him and poof it was gone in a couple days ... rough week thinking about how to take care of myself without it benefitting him, dealing with anger over his irresponsibility and poss...	Jennifer	5	313	Apr 14, 2006 by leo
	Another Graditude list....... (Preview) OK I am having a very low night so I was going to talk about the problem but I think instread I will talk about Graditude. I know I have done this before quite a few post back but i have decied to do it again and share it with all of you: 1. I am grateful for HP 2.I am grateful for a roof over my head 3. I am gr...	bubbles1990	4	362	Apr 14, 2006 by Lunamoth
	Finances - do you just keep paying for the A? (Preview) A husbands car just broke down. He was on the highway and the brakes went. Im the one with the money Im the one who usually gets stuck paying for everything. Its "expected" of me. He needed car repair a few months ago and I made him put it on his charge card. But then when the tax return came back I gave him 1/2 s...	Barbara	7	633	Apr 14, 2006 by KathyS
	the power of sponsorship (Preview) I am amazed at how this program works. And just wanted to take a minute to share my thoughts on "It works if you work it" I need to just say that each and every time I have allowed the program, the people in the program, the literature, the steps, the slogans... in they have worked. But m...	confused	2	323	Apr 14, 2006 by KathyS
	Peace (Preview) Something I like from Native American Wisdom "When you lose the rhythm of the drumbeat of God, you are lost from the peace and rhythm of life." Cheyenne proverb Just another way of wording what I'm looking for. MsPeewee	peewee	3	369	Apr 14, 2006 by leo
	My thoughts to all who replied... (Preview) I want to thank all of you who replied to my post a few days ago. They were all so helpful and encouraging. I have done a lot of thinking these past several days since i posted. i'm still not convinced that i'm being a good mom to our 7 yr old, cuz i know i could do better. but s...	search41	2	264	Apr 14, 2006 by search41
	HaPpY bIrThDaY Lunamoth (Preview) (((((Lunamoth))))) Wanted to wish you a Very *Happy Birthday*! love, care and well wishes ~ for the whole year thru tea2	tea2	14	467	Apr 13, 2006 by DebC
	Chat room Subjects and POS NEG to NEWBIES and ALL (Preview) (((BigHugs to Deblynn & d53 and ALL))) for the subject going on.... I want to write a bit and share. I chose this because it seems to keep coming up lately. Ok, here goes. Where ever you go that are new places &nbs...	aunitedway	4	491	Apr 13, 2006 by DebC
	Checking in from the library (Preview) I am checking in from the public library. I got angry last weekend and threw my laptop. I ended up braking the screen and had to send it to Gateway for repairs. It should be back in 7-10 days. I am fine. Sorry for worrying everyone. Been going to f2f meetings every...	Powerless	8	316	Apr 13, 2006 by leo
	my husband (Preview) I have realize that I am in love with my husband who is an alchoic. I am in love with him. I do get upset when he drinks like everyone else. I am happy the rest of the time with him. Thanks to the program I have detached at times when he is drinking. The other times I feel the love of him. I love to give my husband hu...	nycbt	18	501	Apr 13, 2006 by Krze_kel
	Even Buzzards are beautiful sometimes... (Preview) So I'm standing outside (feeding my addiction) and contemplating the events of last night. My A is totally beside herself about the fact that I will not agree to doing something other than Al-Anon. I mean she has been absolutely hysterical about it for over a month n...	rtexas	11	462	Apr 13, 2006 by leo
	Let It Begin with Me (Preview) Let It Begin With Me When anyone, anywhere reaches out for help ~ let the hand of Al-Anon & Alateen always be there and ~ Let It Begin With Me. I have had this card in my wallet ever since 1987. My One Day at a Time book has my signature and the date April 24, 1987. My ex-husband cared morea bout be...	kitty	3	373	Apr 13, 2006 by kitty
	Lingo Help (Preview) Hi all ~ Just wondering what ESH stands for?????...thanks robyn	robyn76	1	386	Apr 13, 2006 by aunitedway
	At the meeting last night.... (Preview) At the meeting last night someone quoted the "acceptance" paragraph or something like that from the Big Book (AA) I believe. I really cannot remember for sure, as I was at work and trying to do two things at once . But it was a really cool paragraph. Can someone help me identify where to find it? &...	doxie	2	407	Apr 13, 2006 by kismetstrand
	mammogram and cholesterol & thyroid bloodwork (Preview) Yup time to go again tomorrow. Last mammo was 14months ago. I go yearly since my older brother had breast cancer 5yrs ago. Im also having my bloodwork done while in the city. Doc keeps track of both my cholesterol and thyroid. Same brother had heart trouble/heart bypass in 2003. I lost 45lbs, got to goal...	Barbara	5	378	Apr 13, 2006 by leo
	unsure (Preview) My name is Tonia. I joined the forum and didnt have the courage to post until i read this. I didnt realize that the things i have been seeing were commonplace i wasnt even sure that i should be here. My husband and i have been married for a year and a half. I am 24 and he is 34. ...	unsure24	10	374	Apr 13, 2006 by unsure24
	What is Dominance... (Preview) This was asked in a previous post. Again referring to the Alcoholism the Family Disease pamphlet (P-4) p. 24 "...Our leaders are chosen not to govern, but to serve. No member of Al-Anon should direct, assume authority or give advice. Our program is based on suggestion, intercha...	kismetstrand	0	1090	Apr 13, 2006 by kismetstrand
	David...re Happy Cows (Preview) Don't ya watch tv commercials pa? Happy cows come from California!!!! LOLOLOL Mooooooooooo!!	kismetstrand	8	427	Apr 13, 2006 by kismetstrand
	Replys (Preview) Ok all the replys to my too soon post are great but what I failed to mention was that he is not living at home right now and I nkow he wants to and I want him to but what do I do.	bill y	2	320	Apr 13, 2006 by Jeannie
	I'm glad you're in my dash :) (Preview) An f2f Alanon friend e-mailed this to me, I liked it and thought I'd share... I'm Glad You're In My Dash I read of a man who stood to speak At the funeral of a friend. He referred to the dates on her tombstone, From the beginning...to the end. He noted that first came her dat...	Christy	6	876	Apr 13, 2006 by jonibaloni21
	progree jest fer me!!! (Preview) Omgosh!!! I believe I have made a hurdle!!!! Becuz my brain is not clogged with the A disease, I have a NEW um avatar!!! go see go see!! It's Estersue!!! love,debilyn	debilyn	9	426	Apr 13, 2006 by Lunamoth
	addictive personality!! (Preview) almost everyone in my family is addicted to something. we have our many alcoholics. we also have family members addicted to smoking(i'm guilty of that!). we also have our fair share of druggies, gamblers, "marriage addicts", ...ect . my whole family is addicted to something! today is my first day...	flintfeet	3	329	Apr 13, 2006 by hudsond
	Courage (Preview) I got this email today on courage and thought someone might be able to benefit from it too. Courage is fear that has said its prayers. -- Dorothy Bernard No one of us is always courageous. With trepidation we embark on many journeys. Fear is dispelled each time we rely on our inne...	sandie123	1	308	Apr 13, 2006 by jrtjosey
	Need some ESH on "shame" (Preview) Last night in my F/F someone brought up something about Shame. He said that so many of us feel shame and the alcoholic's shame can often lead to more drinking to cover up that emotion. I have thought about my own shameful feelings, but I'm struggling with how I might have directed shame tow...	twinmom2	10	533	Apr 13, 2006 by twinmom2
	3 Obstacles to Success in Al-Anon (Preview) If at all possible, I encourage all to get the pamphlet "Alcoholism the Family Disease" (P-4). This is available at local meetings for free, you can also order it online at the WSO website http://www.al-anon.org/publications.html This pamphlet tells the purpose of Al-Anon, has s...	kismetstrand	6	8237	Apr 13, 2006 by bobump
	Test results (Preview) Well I got the results back, HCG level dropped, but still not all is gone. So I will have to repeat again next week. So I guess I'm still waiting to see if anything more drastic must be done. At least the numbers dropped some more. Thanks for the prayers and encouragement! Dawn	hudsond	5	340	Apr 13, 2006 by hudsond
	sharks in the chat room smell the blood & feed (Preview) Walked into chat, it was chaos... why are we not listening to each other & reaching out in unity as Trad 1 suggests? I just saw a girl mention suicide & poof was gone b/c of the feeding frenzy that went off-track over the debate of "religion" & God. Being suicidal in the passed, it...	kitty	20	2657	Apr 13, 2006 by mac57
	Christmas in April (MIP Style) (Preview) I came home last night after my local ftf (face to face) meeting and a really great meeting after the meeting at the local cafe, feeling great, having spent roughly 2 and a half hours with people in recovery. Not wanting the wave to end, I popped into the chatroom. I was amazed. This was about an hour a...	david62	10	348	Apr 13, 2006 by sparkette
	How can he make me feel so bad (Preview) I've been posting a lot lately since my h told me he's leaving. He filed for separation and plans to leave at the end of may. His lawyer called me yesterday to see if I wanted to come pick up the papers. I told her no, she can serve me. He came home from work and asked why I was making...	cabma	6	477	Apr 13, 2006 by Rita G
	Texans, is this a sign (Preview) Today I was driving in the middle of a very metropolitan area. I was going to the grocery store to buy food. Just before I left, my a had started a conversation with me telling me that he doesn't really understand why I want to leave Florida and go to Texas. Frankly, I've been scared of...	ditto	13	541	Apr 13, 2006 by leo
	too soon ? (Preview) My A has been clean and dry this time for just over 30 days, he seems to have changed his whole atitude and is doing what he was supposed to be doing in the first place the yard work on time, painting, keeping the house straight and just being responsible, so that I don't have to do it all. The thing is h...	bill y	13	451	Apr 13, 2006 by nycbt
	What a day!! (Preview) OK, so today my 16 yr old son and I set out to install a chain link fence. I went to Lowe's yesterday and bought everything we needed, poles fencing, clips, gate, cement etc. So this morning we get started on clearing the brush and cutting back limbs that would be in the way of the fence line. Under the brush...	Christy	7	390	Apr 13, 2006 by just me
	Checking in.... (Preview) hi guys just thought id check in and let ye know what the story is these days.... i havent seen my "A" in over 3 weeks. we have spoken once on the phone and every 2-3 days in texts. we wont be doing that anymore... the "bad company" that is was keeping..he is now in with again..and it has led hi...	Rebecca	6	288	Apr 13, 2006 by bobump
	went to first f2f (Preview) Finally went to a face to face meeting as they call it.I haven't been to one in many years.When I did go before I was never really present.I think I was waiting for something to happen,a big change or something,I don't know.All I did back then was criticize in my head and judge.No wonder I was mis...	drucilla06	5	428	Apr 13, 2006 by Becky1
	I did it to myself again (Preview) So today my H went to pick up his boys for easter weekend. he was going to take my car and i would have his truck but at the last moment he discovered that my back brakes are shot....lol thats part of the downfalls marrying a mechanic your stuff is always the last to get fixed. Anyway......	snt	6	436	Apr 13, 2006 by Jerry F
	so cofused (Preview) My AH has been gone for almost 5 months.I thought this whole time that all I wanted was for him to come back.Well, he called me tonight and said he wanted to come home...his money ran out and low and behold..he needs me..or wants to use me! I thought It would make me happy but I`m depressed...I don`t think I...	allison	7	375	Apr 13, 2006 by Jerry F
	where are the chat room ops? (Preview) I have not been to the chat room much. I like it here. lol Are there not ops in there??? GG is right, we are NOT to be talking religion in alanon at all. hmmm love,debilyn	debilyn	9	604	Apr 13, 2006 by debilyn
	HP is so awesome!!! (Preview) I have been praying for HP to speak to my son. I just got a call at work from him asking me if I would like to go along with him tonight to hear a recovering alcoholic, who speaks for 2 hours every Wednesday night. I am really seeing HP work in my life. I was blown away by that call. Especially after he denie...	Gailey	2	307	Apr 12, 2006 by tea2
	letting go of anger & learning to forgive (Preview) My name is De, I am 45, in a 14 year relationship with my best friend. I am relativley new to AlAnon, Maybe a month. I should be in bed asleep but I am so angry at my alcoholic. Her idea of a beer is a 24oz beer. I say it is 2, well it is usually 3 a nite or 6 in my book. She can not go beyond one month sober. She may be w...	hmrnrnmm	8	739	Apr 12, 2006 by hmrnrnmm
	Jokes don't fix pain and desperation (Preview) I thought this was Al-Anon . For people seaking recovery. I thought respect was part of the program. Is open chat a no rules place that you have to have a program to survive in like coming from a life destroyed by alcohol ? Are there any rules for not trampling on others and giving excuses for doing it ? Pain...	d53sjurne	9	511	Apr 12, 2006 by d53sjurne
	He's on the road, let's hope onwards and upwards!! (Preview) My "a" got his driver's license back yesterday. Look out!! He got a DUI with an accident 9 years ago!! He hit a doctor's wife two seconds after pulling out of a parking lot. When he told me how much he drank that night before I'm amazed he was even walking. Basically, the...	twinmom2	4	300	Apr 12, 2006 by Jeannie
	Can ANYONE Understand this??? (Preview) I had the opportunity to close the door forever, and move on to a normal and sane life (whatever that is), but instead I chose to let go of all the pain and anger that has built up over this 11 year relationship, and start treating him as though none of it ever happened. Doing the things that I know wou...	HadEnuff	5	432	Apr 12, 2006 by mebjk
	Asking questions and getting info (Preview) Hi Everyone! Just wondering if you too have had difficulty in your lives asking questions and getting all the information you need. Especially when it comes to financial stuff, but even other things too! I've recently been on quite a roll, having to talk to people on the phon...	seachange	8	350	Apr 12, 2006 by Robinks
	Today I dont need the tough shell OR to feel like a martyr (Preview) Been enjoying the space Ive been in the past few days. I dont need to feel like a martyr. I dont need to always have up that protective shell. Thanks everyone. Feeling very serene. Good time for a massage (Thurs night!)	Barbara	4	271	Apr 12, 2006 by Robinks
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