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For those of you miserable at home, don't make my mistake and let the housework go. I moved out the 31st and I am still going back to the other house cleaning up. How did we live like that? I let myself get so depressed, I didn't care. Granted I had days I was ill, but I also got lazy after I decided to leave, and now I am paying for it. I am still bound to that house, because I have to keep going back and working on it. It would have been so much healthier for me and the boys to have just had to go back once and be done! This dragging it out and having to listen to him still bitch about it, is like living there part time.
Keep your side of the street clean always! You will thank yourself for it later.
Josey
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Julianne - It's best to move on. You cannot look back in anger in life. It's too short
Funny how you wrote this, I was in m bathroom this morning and realized it hasn't been cleaned in two months!!!! I will do that tomorrow!!! Thanks for reminding me to take care of things...not to let it go.
Christy, me and hubby have the role swap here too. It's pretty funny, I can go under the house and replace a pipe - paint the house - fix the roof, etc. and he always does the laundry and dishes and vacuums. My old Dad would faint if he knew.
This too shall pass. You are moving your life forward. You didn't know what you didn't know.
Here is how I lived with my A. I was so depressed that I had no energy at all to do anything around the house. I allowed the negativity and the abuse to wear me out.
Now that I am on my own my apartment is spotless, I have energy and can function like a somewhat normal human being and not just try to make it through the day and escape to sleeping pills every night. I did the best I could.
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Megan
If you want things you never had you need to do things you have never done
Its been a while since the "maid" has been here too. I always think why should I be the only one cleaning? (good excuse, huh?) Husband's suppose to be working on Mon, I have day off as a holiday. Im planning on having the "maid" come.