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jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

So far I have not caved and called him or sent him a text OR drove by his apartment OR any of his usual haunts. I have asked everyone to NOT tell me if they see him somewhere, to NOT bring up my name if they happen to bump into him. I am not coping well. I need to hear his voice! I need to touch him! I need to see h...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

Been doing a lot of reading this weekend because it is cool and felt like snuggling with the dogs under a blanket. As most of you know I seperated from my AH 6 weeks ago after 13 months in the program. I came in hell bent on learning how to live with it, and decided I couldn't for my kids sake. Now al...

search41 · search41

hi all the last time i posted was regarding my 18 yr old son needing to move in with my a, our 7 yr old son, and i, and talking about how i knew my a would never agree to it. i still havent told my a that my 18 yr old needs to move in with us, and i still know my a isnt going to agree with it. i am st...

serendipity · serendipity

thank you all for your comments and prayers. i am home for the night and back to dad's to stay tomarrow. i was really missing my kids today and they love mother's day and all the things they make themselves. love is incredible. as in dealing with the a and having to continuously remind myself of the...

peewee · peewee

Why? Prayers for all of us who believe we know the right , who have allowed the wrong to rule us. I knew I was right in some important issues raising son, allowed the dad to overrule when I knew he was wrong. I was not strong enough. I was raised with the mantra: Father know...

d53sjurne · d53sjurne

Upon looking around this site, I found a wealth of information on just about every aspect recovery from almost anything there is to recover from. It even has updated info on PTSD, including Hurricane Katrina, besides affects of trauma from most all sources and great links and 12 step progra...

nmike · nmike

Hi Friends, I am in a rural part of Arizona. I travel alot and may have the opportunity to attend an Alanon function. Can you lead me to anything that is going on this summer? You can answer me here or PM me. In support, Nancy -- Edited by nmike at 12:34, 2006-05-15

shep · shep

First, let me give you a little background before asking my question: My A daughter, in her 30's, lives in another city. She has been in rehab twice, has stayed sober for some fairly extended periods of time, but has had several dramatic relapses. When she starts drinking, she manages to handle...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

(((Hello Alanon Buddies))) I hope all you mom's had a great day yesterday with lots of appreciation, gratitude and love heaped on you. My day yesterday went fine up until a certain point. My Saturday with my mom and sis-in-law was much better. My mom made me a scrapbook off my bab...

angeleyes8462 · angeleyes8462

I wanted to wish all the mom's a Happy Mothers Day! I hope you all have a wonderful Day. I hope that it is filled with lots of magic and love. On my Mothers Day I have been taking the time to reflect. Reflect on my life. I try everyday to better myself for me since joining the program. I am learning to do the thin...

debilyn · debilyn

I did do what you'all suggested. However, Kent maybe you don't believe in guns. As far as the tv jive, I found that very hurtful. I am a woman, women are borned scared. Men have no idea how it feels to not feel safe anywhere. As women don' t know how men feel in certain circumstances. This is a ser...

confused · confused

I am once again amazed at how this program works. I was sharing at a meeting the other night about a situation I am faced with. I thought that the topic was "Say what you mean, mean what you say, and don't say it mean". I have been struggling with this, as I felt like I was not being heard,...

Goldie · Goldie

How do you grow up with an A, then marry one and expect to live thru it. When my A pushes my buttons, like showing up 3 hours late, cause he's been with his drinking buddies, my buttons get pushed. I watched my Mom do the same things for so many years; now it's like it's happ...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello Friends, As most of you know hub and I are seperated. Does the day ever come when the addict sees...gee I lost my family....I am not living there anymore. I am alone...... Wednesday took hub to Pittsburge to get leg checked. Dr gave him 50 darvacet, this morning he had 7 left....wow........

serendipity · serendipity

my father is dying. he and i had a crazy day yesterday. he tried to leave his house in his underware. he has been just wanting so badly to just die and it isn't happening in our time frame. i think he thought if he left the house we could go somewhere and then he'd be safe and could die. it was truly awful. we wou...

Karilynn · Karilynn

This is for my Mom (Toni as she was known) and for all my AlaMoms. Mom, Even though we can't be together because God called you home when I was only 19, I wanted to thank you for still being there for me. Your life was far from perfect, but it was you who taught me the lessons I use today. Thank you for sho...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi, A friend of mine sent me this in an email today. Though it is not Alanon, the message is so clear. Hp can easily be substituted for God.     &n...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

I feel like unclaimed baggage.......... everyone has heard of others having baggage. Well I do not even want this baggage. I have a migraine big time. One of my worst abused dogs......... she did not like anyone but the two of us and a little girl. We had her since she was 2 months old. Her name was T...

nails · nails

Hi folks. Im nails & my husband is an alcoholic and our relationship is dying. I am 7 months pregnant and I love him and my two step kids. I dont want to give up on our life together but I feel so broken and desperate. I am starting to hate him. Please let me know where I should properly start this an...

sandie123 · sandie123

My mind is overflowing with information and thoughts from a meeting. I am, once more, having new thoughts and ideas. What I am struggling with is the difference between TRUST and FAITH. These are both new feelings for me which I am trying to figure out. I feel t...

wanderlust · wanderlust

I am so fed up with my husband right now I could scream. He drinks 1/2 bottle of vodka a day. It usually starts around 6pm at night, and he gets so beligerent and unreasonable I feel as though we have no relationship left. Since evenings were our time to re connect, talk, watch TV together, etc. this is now g...

debilyn · debilyn

you guys something bad is happening. When I went to the doctor last thursday I was being followed by a new durango. I thought I was over reacting. But I got lost in that city suburb thing and was back tracking and he was behind me. Just sorta forgot about it. Thought maybe I was seeing a different vehic...

richard · richard

Well, I have helped my son financially on more time. Only this time, I told him that, that night was an eye opener for me. I told him he needs to learn to be self-supportive and not lean on me for financial support. I told him this is the last time I help him financially. He said he...

marmare · marmare

As I started thinking of Mother's Day, I started thinking of everyday. We all hear "one day at a time" but do we follow with what it means. Most of you know this is most likely my last mother's day with my mother. Everytime I see her, talk to her, or think of her, my heart is filled with lo...

Lunamoth · Lunamoth

(((((Everyone))))) Today was so incrediblely beautiful. 75 degree w/ the most beautiful Carolina blue sky. I'm sitting here reflecting on why it has been a good day and I've discovered I'm back in the moment. Aaaaahhh, I'm lov'n it too. Today I didn't run from my...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

I know some of you know who the fly lady is, thought I would share this Food For Thought from Her. It can be applied with what we are suppose to do in our program. Moving in May isn't about parking a little further out at Wal-Mart and logging on a few extra steps on your pedometer. Nor is it jus...

Miranda · Miranda

I don't know what to do. My little brother started having seizures the other day and got sent to the Children's Hospital. The neurologist did tests on him and my brother didn't do very well. The doctor said he might be physically and/or mentally handicapped. I'm so scared. My mom is being terrible she'...

smpoli · smpoli

Thank you all for the support you have all given me during this hard time. For those of you that know me and my situation, here is the latest update. Bryon went in Monday for his regular scheduled overnight chemo treatment. They were preparing his discharge Tue when he spiked a fever.&n...

tippergirl · tippergirl

My sponsor gave me a really nice compliment. She said she was very proud of me and that she could tell that I was willing to go to any length necesary in order to gain recovery. That was great to hear. So I went to two al-anon meetings today. One I sahred and the other I didn't. I was glad I didn't share in the se...

jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

OH my A.... I went to his house yesterday at noon to get my things, before I left he followed me out to my car and kissed me, told me he does love me and told me to please come back at 2:30 when he was sure the electrician and cable guy would be gone. I went back. His first words, "Jennifer, I just think we nee...

Barbara · Barbara

I have the readings up to Step 5. Sponsor is bringing me Steps 6 & 7 tomorrow. Does anyone have the Big Book readings for the remaining steps?

jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

My A has not phoned at all since yesterday. I guess I could be relieved that he is possibly out of my life forever and I will never have to deal with the insanity of alcoholism again, believe me, if I EVER encounter another A, I will leave them in the dust! I am not relieved, I am trying so desperately to be s...

DanaAngel · DanaAngel

Here's some funny real church bulletins (with typos) someone sent me, so I thought I'd share them with the board just for fun- Church Bulletins:The Fasting & Prayer Conference will include meals.The sermon this morning: "Jesus Walks on the Water." The sermon tonight:"Searching for Jesus....

nmike · nmike

Hi Alanoners, I am spending the weekend doing errands with my AH who I am separated from. It never goes well. I get in my love addict/dysfunction/disease right away. My AH threatens divorce and says he is ready to start dating etc. He says when am I going to let go? When I am ready I say. With or wit...

Zarah · Zarah

Have you ever been on the beach enjoying your day, building an enchanting sand castle, just to have some bully come along and destroy it? This is how I feel about alcoholism - it's like a bully. Alcoholism is a family disease - It affects the entire family. -- Edited by Zarah at 22:18, 200...

ErinB · ErinB

I don't usually post but thought I'd share this with you all, it touched me when I read it. It's a poem called Broken Wings. I once had dreams of soaring like an eagle strong and free. My world would have no limits and the sky would belong to me. I visioned a world of beauty, which I could view from ab...

Scamper · Scamper

I just thought I would jot down a few words tonight because I am feeling alone and scared. My A is looking for a place to live. He was able to get on disability, which is what he wanted. He has been helping me out financially for the past 3 mos and I have become somewhat dependent on the mo...

Elizabeth M · Elizabeth M

I am new to alanon and have so many questions. I know that yelling and screaming at my AH is the wrong approach so I have remained quiet for the past two weeks...the problem is that he isn't saying anything either. Am I suppose to pretend that he didn't come home hours late seve...

sarahlm · sarahlm

My husband, who is in jail just called me grilling me about where I was last night (at work) why was still sleeping (I am depressed and didnt want to wake up) and then got jmad at me for being depressed because he said he is the one that should be depressed and when i said, its not all about you he said "yes it is...

ImOkay · ImOkay

I just wanted to share my light bulb moment I recently had. I’ve been struggling with letting go of some of my resentments for years. After talking and reading about resentments (anger) and boundaries, a light finally went off. I use resentments and/or anger in the place of boundaries. Just sett...

Zarah · Zarah

Just Want to Say Happy Mother's Day and Thank You Mom For Being a Blessing To Me -- Edited by Zarah at 18:58, 2006-05-13 -- Edited by Zarah at 19:00, 2006-05-13

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hi (((Everybody))) My heart is at war with my brian right now. Actually it has been for quite some time. For years I have listened to my heart saying just be patient he will see what life could be and this will make both of you better people, a truly intimate couple. My brain has always had a few res...

emma · emma

Where did this slapping people with a trout and trouts away come from??? I love the lightheartedness of it --- but am new enough, yet been around to enough weeks, to wonder ..........????????

Barbara · Barbara

While doing the 12 steps my sponsor has me using the AA dictionary to look up the meaning of different words. Has anyone else done this?

rtexas · rtexas

I don't typically log in over the weekend so Happy Mothers Day (((((Everyone)))))!!! If you are a Mom... no better day to take care of you! If you got a Mom (LOL) tell them how much you appreciate them. Take care of you!

bigthoughts · bigthoughts

I wrote the other day about the hardships I am going through with my A boyfriend. Yesterday, day after the bad night, he told me that it was all over. He is going to stop, he is going to get treatment, he knows that if he doesn't he is going to lose me, that he will end up destroying himself. Of course, I...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

(((Hello Group))) I recently sat down and began a moral and fearless personal Inventory to help me with honesty and to put my character flaws on paper to reflect on them. I just started listing things down that i have done to others or things that I myself have lied about, protected out of fear,...

gardengal · gardengal

For years I thought my way was the right way. Living with active alcoholism makes us search for answers and find solutions to "fix" the problem. I would try this and then try that only to fail each time miserabley, but I persisted to the point where I hit my bottom. For years as his alcoholism progr...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Good Morning! To: YOU Date: TODAY From: GOD Subject: YOURSELF Reference: LIFE This is God. Today I will be handling All of your problems for you. I do Not need your help. So, have a nice day. I love you. P.S. And, remember... If life happens to deliver a situation to you that you cannot handle, do No...

jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

I went to his house today at noon to pick up my things...he said he does not want things to end he just wants them to slow way way down....to what? I asked if our relationship should be where we make plans to drive down the same street at the same time and wave to one another, he said "Yeah!" and laughed...I di...

Scamper · Scamper

I just want to thank the people who responded to my 'feeling alone and scared' post. You uplifted me tremendously this morning when I came on the site. There were things that were said that I so needed to be reminded of. God bless you guys and I love to read these posts too - I don't feel...

angel123 · angel123

Healing tears....Some cry easy some do not... For me I am a crier I take things deep.I thought it was a defect that I was easy for depression or I was just not accepting things. But I had alot of pain to heal walking into the doors of Alanon.I had guilt, fear all the negative emotions.My tears were fr...

tippergirl · tippergirl

I am supposed to start a daily gratitude list today. Gotta run-but I am grateful I get to take care of my little baby girl (hence why I am running)

dipstick75 · dipstick75

Hello Anyone who is looking to sponsor a newbie. I have visited here for one week today. In the chat room I am aka Allmessedup. Please message me if you are interested in helping me through this journey that I am about to take. Thank you. Hugs.

hersh · hersh

Hi everyone: I have been separated from my A for two months now. He relapsed after a year of sobriety (no program) It was the most horrible thing I have ever been through, like watching someone die. Things are improving and he will not attend AA but is reading a religious book and p...

shadow1 · shadow1

My A that once was a very gentle person started showing signs of anger while drinking. I stopped "nagging" him while he was under the infulece. Now the anger seems to happen when he is not drinking . I think that he is very capable of going into a rage and unknowingly hurt someone. He is on med...

debilyn · debilyn

You guys asked me what would make me want to visit my A in jail or write to him. Someone also said why does it have to be, he has to write me first or whatever. You guys came up with some important points and I listened and took it to heart. I have not contacted him. It has been 22 days now. I realized I want to...

Lily7 · Lily7

My ah and I separated on my request two months ago and I am struggling with what to do. He denies drinking. I think I cannot cope with living with him while he actively drinks but I do not want to end a relationship of 20 years, or do I? One minute I want in, the next minute I want out...

lilms · lilms

I am a little confused as to the setting of boundaries and the natural consequences, or predetermined consequences to those boundaries being crossed. Found out 10 days ago that my stepdaughter is using cocaine again. I was not here the first time in her life that that was an issue but I was tol...

angeleyes8462 · angeleyes8462

Last night, I wanted to do something for me. So I got home from my second job and took a bath. And went into my room grabbed my "Courage to Change" book. I have had something weighing on me alot lately something I have been letting my own feelings getting in the way of instead of letting my hp have it. I have ha...

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	Cannot Cope...I need to hear him, feel him, be close (Preview) So far I have not caved and called him or sent him a text OR drove by his apartment OR any of his usual haunts. I have asked everyone to NOT tell me if they see him somewhere, to NOT bring up my name if they happen to bump into him. I am not coping well. I need to hear his voice! I need to touch him! I need to see h...	jennneeefffurrr	7	435	May 15, 2006 by justme
	If I could have fixed me first. (Preview) Been doing a lot of reading this weekend because it is cool and felt like snuggling with the dogs under a blanket. As most of you know I seperated from my AH 6 weeks ago after 13 months in the program. I came in hell bent on learning how to live with it, and decided I couldn't for my kids sake. Now al...	jrtjosey	12	633	May 15, 2006 by justme
	prayers still needed (Preview) hi all the last time i posted was regarding my 18 yr old son needing to move in with my a, our 7 yr old son, and i, and talking about how i knew my a would never agree to it. i still havent told my a that my 18 yr old needs to move in with us, and i still know my a isnt going to agree with it. i am st...	search41	6	371	May 15, 2006 by search41
	thanks y'all (Preview) thank you all for your comments and prayers. i am home for the night and back to dad's to stay tomarrow. i was really missing my kids today and they love mother's day and all the things they make themselves. love is incredible. as in dealing with the a and having to continuously remind myself of the...	serendipity	5	273	May 15, 2006 by peewee
	Who is right? Who is strong? (Preview) Why? Prayers for all of us who believe we know the right , who have allowed the wrong to rule us. I knew I was right in some important issues raising son, allowed the dad to overrule when I knew he was wrong. I was not strong enough. I was raised with the mantra: Father know...	peewee	7	401	May 15, 2006 by peewee
	Wealth of info,PTSD,self-esteem, recovery,addictions,etc. (Preview) Upon looking around this site, I found a wealth of information on just about every aspect recovery from almost anything there is to recover from. It even has updated info on PTSD, including Hurricane Katrina, besides affects of trauma from most all sources and great links and 12 step progra...	d53sjurne	3	350	May 15, 2006 by peewee
	Arizona Alanon Retreats, Weekends, etc?? (Preview) Hi Friends, I am in a rural part of Arizona. I travel alot and may have the opportunity to attend an Alanon function. Can you lead me to anything that is going on this summer? You can answer me here or PM me. In support, Nancy -- Edited by nmike at 12:34, 2006-05-15	nmike	1	2243	May 15, 2006 by david62
	How Much Detachment for A Daughter (Preview) First, let me give you a little background before asking my question: My A daughter, in her 30's, lives in another city. She has been in rehab twice, has stayed sober for some fairly extended periods of time, but has had several dramatic relapses. When she starts drinking, she manages to handle...	shep	5	404	May 15, 2006 by tippergirl
	My thoughts and feelings are racing today (Preview) (((Hello Alanon Buddies))) I hope all you mom's had a great day yesterday with lots of appreciation, gratitude and love heaped on you. My day yesterday went fine up until a certain point. My Saturday with my mom and sis-in-law was much better. My mom made me a scrapbook off my bab...	twinmom2	2	667	May 15, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Happy Mothers Day (Preview) I wanted to wish all the mom's a Happy Mothers Day! I hope you all have a wonderful Day. I hope that it is filled with lots of magic and love. On my Mothers Day I have been taking the time to reflect. Reflect on my life. I try everyday to better myself for me since joining the program. I am learning to do the thin...	angeleyes8462	3	314	May 15, 2006 by seachange
	Thankyou (Preview) I did do what you'all suggested. However, Kent maybe you don't believe in guns. As far as the tv jive, I found that very hurtful. I am a woman, women are borned scared. Men have no idea how it feels to not feel safe anywhere. As women don' t know how men feel in certain circumstances. This is a ser...	debilyn	5	438	May 15, 2006 by hudsond
	not being heard..or.. trying to control the response WOW< is our disease manipulative or what? (Preview) I am once again amazed at how this program works. I was sharing at a meeting the other night about a situation I am faced with. I thought that the topic was "Say what you mean, mean what you say, and don't say it mean". I have been struggling with this, as I felt like I was not being heard,...	confused	4	595	May 15, 2006 by kent_s
	Pushing my Buttons (Preview) How do you grow up with an A, then marry one and expect to live thru it. When my A pushes my buttons, like showing up 3 hours late, cause he's been with his drinking buddies, my buttons get pushed. I watched my Mom do the same things for so many years; now it's like it's happ...	Goldie	2	309	May 14, 2006 by nmike
	The Insanity of it All (Preview) Hello Friends, As most of you know hub and I are seperated. Does the day ever come when the addict sees...gee I lost my family....I am not living there anymore. I am alone...... Wednesday took hub to Pittsburge to get leg checked. Dr gave him 50 darvacet, this morning he had 7 left....wow........	Andrea12	4	445	May 14, 2006 by Lexie
	feeling sad (Preview) my father is dying. he and i had a crazy day yesterday. he tried to leave his house in his underware. he has been just wanting so badly to just die and it isn't happening in our time frame. i think he thought if he left the house we could go somewhere and then he'd be safe and could die. it was truly awful. we wou...	serendipity	6	464	May 14, 2006 by Lexie
	For Toni (My Mom) (Preview) This is for my Mom (Toni as she was known) and for all my AlaMoms. Mom, Even though we can't be together because God called you home when I was only 19, I wanted to thank you for still being there for me. Your life was far from perfect, but it was you who taught me the lessons I use today. Thank you for sho...	Karilynn	9	478	May 14, 2006 by Lexie
	Survivor (Preview) *Hi,* *A friend of mine sent me this in an email today. Though it is not Alanon, the message is so clear. Hp can easily be substituted for God.* *    &n...*	Jeannie	3	353	May 14, 2006 by drucilla06
	unclaimed baggage/ damaged goods repairs under construction. (Preview) I feel like unclaimed baggage.......... everyone has heard of others having baggage. Well I do not even want this baggage. I have a migraine big time. One of my worst abused dogs......... she did not like anyone but the two of us and a little girl. We had her since she was 2 months old. Her name was T...	hmrnrnmm	1	284	May 14, 2006 by Jennifer
	Hi Im new , what do I do? (Preview) Hi folks. Im nails & my husband is an alcoholic and our relationship is dying. I am 7 months pregnant and I love him and my two step kids. I dont want to give up on our life together but I feel so broken and desperate. I am starting to hate him. Please let me know where I should properly start this an...	nails	8	424	May 14, 2006 by peewee
	Trust and Faith (Preview) My mind is overflowing with information and thoughts from a meeting. I am, once more, having new thoughts and ideas. What I am struggling with is the difference between TRUST and FAITH. These are both new feelings for me which I am trying to figure out. I feel t...	sandie123	6	303	May 14, 2006 by drucilla06
	New at this and need help! (Preview) I am so fed up with my husband right now I could scream. He drinks 1/2 bottle of vodka a day. It usually starts around 6pm at night, and he gets so beligerent and unreasonable I feel as though we have no relationship left. Since evenings were our time to re connect, talk, watch TV together, etc. this is now g...	wanderlust	9	389	May 14, 2006 by wanderlust
	what do you think? (Preview) you guys something bad is happening. When I went to the doctor last thursday I was being followed by a new durango. I thought I was over reacting. But I got lost in that city suburb thing and was back tracking and he was behind me. Just sorta forgot about it. Thought maybe I was seeing a different vehic...	debilyn	9	751	May 14, 2006 by drucilla06
	An update on my son and me... (Preview) Well, I have helped my son financially on more time. Only this time, I told him that, that night was an eye opener for me. I told him he needs to learn to be self-supportive and not lean on me for financial support. I told him this is the last time I help him financially. He said he...	richard	4	342	May 14, 2006 by aunitedway
	Mother's Day (Preview) As I started thinking of Mother's Day, I started thinking of everyday. We all hear "one day at a time" but do we follow with what it means. Most of you know this is most likely my last mother's day with my mother. Everytime I see her, talk to her, or think of her, my heart is filled with lo...	marmare	3	310	May 14, 2006 by drucilla06
	A Beautiful Day (Preview) (((((Everyone))))) Today was so incrediblely beautiful. 75 degree w/ the most beautiful Carolina blue sky. I'm sitting here reflecting on why it has been a good day and I've discovered I'm back in the moment. Aaaaahhh, I'm lov'n it too. Today I didn't run from my...	Lunamoth	3	279	May 14, 2006 by aunitedway
	Get Moving in May - Fly Lady - sorry guys (Preview) I know some of you know who the fly lady is, thought I would share this Food For Thought from Her. It can be applied with what we are suppose to do in our program. Moving in May isn't about parking a little further out at Wal-Mart and logging on a few extra steps on your pedometer. Nor is it jus...	jrtjosey	10	969	May 14, 2006 by maresie
	Help!!! (Preview) I don't know what to do. My little brother started having seizures the other day and got sent to the Children's Hospital. The neurologist did tests on him and my brother didn't do very well. The doctor said he might be physically and/or mentally handicapped. I'm so scared. My mom is being terrible she'...	Miranda	7	297	May 14, 2006 by Miranda
	Bryon Update (Preview) Thank you all for the support you have all given me during this hard time. For those of you that know me and my situation, here is the latest update. Bryon went in Monday for his regular scheduled overnight chemo treatment. They were preparing his discharge Tue when he spiked a fever.&n...	smpoli	13	341	May 14, 2006 by leo
	willing to go any lengths (Preview) My sponsor gave me a really nice compliment. She said she was very proud of me and that she could tell that I was willing to go to any length necesary in order to gain recovery. That was great to hear. So I went to two al-anon meetings today. One I sahred and the other I didn't. I was glad I didn't share in the se...	tippergirl	3	342	May 14, 2006 by confused
	More issues than alcohol (Preview) OH my A.... I went to his house yesterday at noon to get my things, before I left he followed me out to my car and kissed me, told me he does love me and told me to please come back at 2:30 when he was sure the electrician and cable guy would be gone. I went back. His first words, "Jennifer, I just think we nee...	jennneeefffurrr	4	479	May 13, 2006 by sarahlm
	Does anyone have a list of what AA Big Book readings go with each step? (Preview) I have the readings up to Step 5. Sponsor is bringing me Steps 6 & 7 tomorrow. Does anyone have the Big Book readings for the remaining steps?	Barbara	4	442	May 13, 2006 by sarahlm
	Shambles, Devastation, Confusion, HOPE?? (Preview) My A has not phoned at all since yesterday. I guess I could be relieved that he is possibly out of my life forever and I will never have to deal with the insanity of alcoholism again, believe me, if I EVER encounter another A, I will leave them in the dust! I am not relieved, I am trying so desperately to be s...	jennneeefffurrr	4	288	May 13, 2006 by sunny123
	Church bulletins- some humor for the board! (Preview) Here's some funny real church bulletins (with typos) someone sent me, so I thought I'd share them with the board just for fun- Church Bulletins:The Fasting & Prayer Conference will include meals.The sermon this morning: "Jesus Walks on the Water." The sermon tonight:"Searching for Jesus....	DanaAngel	5	295	May 13, 2006 by aunitedway
	The gift I give myself (Preview) Hi Alanoners, I am spending the weekend doing errands with my AH who I am separated from. It never goes well. I get in my love addict/dysfunction/disease right away. My AH threatens divorce and says he is ready to start dating etc. He says when am I going to let go? When I am ready I say. With or wit...	nmike	3	287	May 13, 2006 by Andrea12
	Sand Castles (Preview) Have you ever been on the beach enjoying your day, building an enchanting sand castle, just to have some bully come along and destroy it? This is how I feel about alcoholism - it's like a bully. Alcoholism is a family disease - It affects the entire family. -- Edited by Zarah at 22:18, 200...	Zarah	0	245	May 13, 2006 by Zarah
	Broken Wings (Preview) I don't usually post but thought I'd share this with you all, it touched me when I read it. It's a poem called Broken Wings. I once had dreams of soaring like an eagle strong and free. My world would have no limits and the sky would belong to me. I visioned a world of beauty, which I could view from ab...	ErinB	4	276	May 13, 2006 by dwa1163
	Feeling Alone and Scared (Preview) I just thought I would jot down a few words tonight because I am feeling alone and scared. My A is looking for a place to live. He was able to get on disability, which is what he wanted. He has been helping me out financially for the past 3 mos and I have become somewhat dependent on the mo...	Scamper	4	464	May 13, 2006 by aunitedway
	how do I react (Preview) I am new to alanon and have so many questions. I know that yelling and screaming at my AH is the wrong approach so I have remained quiet for the past two weeks...the problem is that he isn't saying anything either. Am I suppose to pretend that he didn't come home hours late seve...	Elizabeth M	10	364	May 13, 2006 by Elizabeth M
	I think he is crazy-or am I? so confused. (Preview) My husband, who is in jail just called me grilling me about where I was last night (at work) why was still sleeping (I am depressed and didnt want to wake up) and then got jmad at me for being depressed because he said he is the one that should be depressed and when i said, its not all about you he said "yes it is...	sarahlm	6	351	May 13, 2006 by donnajo
	Letting go of resentments (Preview) I just wanted to share my light bulb moment I recently had. I’ve been struggling with letting go of some of my resentments for years. After talking and reading about resentments (anger) and boundaries, a light finally went off. I use resentments and/or anger in the place of boundaries. Just sett...	ImOkay	1	545	May 13, 2006 by Zarah
	Happy Mother's Day (Preview) Just Want to Say Happy Mother's Day and Thank You Mom For Being a Blessing To Me -- Edited by Zarah at 18:58, 2006-05-13 -- Edited by Zarah at 19:00, 2006-05-13	Zarah	0	254	May 13, 2006 by Zarah
	My heart is at war with my brain (Preview) Hi (((Everybody))) My heart is at war with my brian right now. Actually it has been for quite some time. For years I have listened to my heart saying just be patient he will see what life could be and this will make both of you better people, a truly intimate couple. My brain has always had a few res...	Jennifer	4	367	May 13, 2006 by drucilla06
	Trout (Preview) Where did this slapping people with a trout and trouts away come from??? I love the lightheartedness of it --- but am new enough, yet been around to enough weeks, to wonder ..........????????	emma	3	321	May 13, 2006 by just me
	does anyone use the AA dictionary to go along with the 12 steps? (Preview) While doing the 12 steps my sponsor has me using the AA dictionary to look up the meaning of different words. Has anyone else done this?	Barbara	4	289	May 13, 2006 by Diva
	Happy Mothers Day (Preview) I don't typically log in over the weekend so Happy Mothers Day (((((Everyone)))))!!! If you are a Mom... no better day to take care of you! If you got a Mom (LOL) tell them how much you appreciate them. Take care of you!	rtexas	4	285	May 13, 2006 by confused
	feeling sad (Preview) I wrote the other day about the hardships I am going through with my A boyfriend. Yesterday, day after the bad night, he told me that it was all over. He is going to stop, he is going to get treatment, he knows that if he doesn't he is going to lose me, that he will end up destroying himself. Of course, I...	bigthoughts	2	279	May 12, 2006 by jrtjosey
	Need ESH on Step 4 Personal Inventory (Preview) (((Hello Group))) I recently sat down and began a moral and fearless personal Inventory to help me with honesty and to put my character flaws on paper to reflect on them. I just started listing things down that i have done to others or things that I myself have lied about, protected out of fear,...	twinmom2	5	300	May 12, 2006 by jrtjosey
	Question? Are you willing to admit that you dont have all the answers? (Preview) For years I thought my way was the right way. Living with active alcoholism makes us search for answers and find solutions to "fix" the problem. I would try this and then try that only to fail each time miserabley, but I persisted to the point where I hit my bottom. For years as his alcoholism progr...	gardengal	8	458	May 12, 2006 by tippergirl
	Let Go and Let God (heehee) (Preview) Good Morning! To: YOU Date: TODAY From: GOD Subject: YOURSELF Reference: LIFE This is God. Today I will be handling All of your problems for you. I do Not need your help. So, have a nice day. I love you. P.S. And, remember... If life happens to deliver a situation to you that you cannot handle, do No...	kismetstrand	3	267	May 12, 2006 by MrBlue42
	Weak against His Hold On MEEEEEE!!!!! (Preview) I went to his house today at noon to pick up my things...he said he does not want things to end he just wants them to slow way way down....to what? I asked if our relationship should be where we make plans to drive down the same street at the same time and wave to one another, he said "Yeah!" and laughed...I di...	jennneeefffurrr	7	398	May 12, 2006 by aunitedway
	Friday - Yay - feeling much better (Preview) I just want to thank the people who responded to my 'feeling alone and scared' post. You uplifted me tremendously this morning when I came on the site. There were things that were said that I so needed to be reminded of. God bless you guys and I love to read these posts too - I don't feel...	Scamper	4	262	May 12, 2006 by angeleyes8462
	Healing Tears (Preview) Healing tears....Some cry easy some do not... For me I am a crier I take things deep.I thought it was a defect that I was easy for depression or I was just not accepting things. But I had alot of pain to heal walking into the doors of Alanon.I had guilt, fear all the negative emotions.My tears were fr...	angel123	4	282	May 12, 2006 by kent_s
	gratitude (Preview) I am supposed to start a daily gratitude list today. Gotta run-but I am grateful I get to take care of my little baby girl (hence why I am running)	tippergirl	1	239	May 12, 2006 by tippergirl
	looking for sponsor (Preview) Hello Anyone who is looking to sponsor a newbie. I have visited here for one week today. In the chat room I am aka Allmessedup. Please message me if you are interested in helping me through this journey that I am about to take. Thank you. Hugs.	dipstick75	2	305	May 12, 2006 by tippergirl
	Tiptoeing into a Situation (Preview) Hi everyone: I have been separated from my A for two months now. He relapsed after a year of sobriety (no program) It was the most horrible thing I have ever been through, like watching someone die. Things are improving and he will not attend AA but is reading a religious book and p...	hersh	5	333	May 12, 2006 by sandy w
	Rage (Preview) My A that once was a very gentle person started showing signs of anger while drinking. I stopped "nagging" him while he was under the infulece. Now the anger seems to happen when he is not drinking . I think that he is very capable of going into a rage and unknowingly hurt someone. He is on med...	shadow1	4	331	May 12, 2006 by tea2
	thoughts (Preview) You guys asked me what would make me want to visit my A in jail or write to him. Someone also said why does it have to be, he has to write me first or whatever. You guys came up with some important points and I listened and took it to heart. I have not contacted him. It has been 22 days now. I realized I want to...	debilyn	4	252	May 12, 2006 by TLC2
	Decisions decisions (Preview) My ah and I separated on my request two months ago and I am struggling with what to do. He denies drinking. I think I cannot cope with living with him while he actively drinks but I do not want to end a relationship of 20 years, or do I? One minute I want in, the next minute I want out...	Lily7	2	262	May 12, 2006 by sandy w
	setting boundaries or being mean??? (Preview) I am a little confused as to the setting of boundaries and the natural consequences, or predetermined consequences to those boundaries being crossed. Found out 10 days ago that my stepdaughter is using cocaine again. I was not here the first time in her life that that was an issue but I was tol...	lilms	8	1048	May 12, 2006 by sandy w
	Forgiveness (Preview) Last night, I wanted to do something for me. So I got home from my second job and took a bath. And went into my room grabbed my "Courage to Change" book. I have had something weighing on me alot lately something I have been letting my own feelings getting in the way of instead of letting my hp have it. I have ha...	angeleyes8462	2	246	May 12, 2006 by angeleyes8462
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