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marie096 · marie096

I am new to this forum. My husband is a recovering addict and alcoholic. He has just returned from rehab. It is driving me crazy because he wants the car to go and apply for a job. It seems like he hasn't taken the time to "look around" at home it's all I got, I got.

kissers · kissers

I posted a message not long ago about someone I had talked to for a year and wound up becoming physically intimate. He told me he loved me then after I would not let up until I got the truth he told me he didn't know what love is. He lied to me. I should have known he was an A. The truth came out shortly after that...

sissy · sissy

I am having trouble with enabling behavior and taking care of myself. Beside the AH in my life. I have dad that needs 24/7 care and grandmother. It is so hard to have time for myself. Marsha

sash · sash

My husband has been sober now for about three weeks. I know this is very early, but he is doing really well. This week he started his out-patient rehab and he attends AA meetings every night. Yesterday was a hectic day (as most of my days are). I worked all day, he didn't have rehab yesterday so he was h...

gardengal · gardengal

This a question which comes very hard to us in Alanon. Most of us are too busy worrying about the A taking on "his/her" responsibilities or doing the thinking for them or trying to think for them. We put ourselves on the backburner as we continually obsess about another. Getting up in the mo...

Gailey · Gailey

I have watched the first of a four part series on addiction. It was an HBO documentary....but I don't have HBO. I am getting 1 dvd at a time through Netflix. Anyway, I found the first one very interesting and informative. It goes into the fact that A'ism is a brain disease. It also talks alot about 12 step r...

Maria123 · Maria123

So often people are confused about what detachment means and today I read from Hope for Today a few simple words about detachment that will help me. "Detach from my problem and attach, instead, to my Higher Power." That's simple. I can do that.

HEARTBROKEN IN NJ · HEARTBROKEN IN NJ

Over the weekend it was suggested to me that I attend an actual AA meeting. Although I am extremely leary to do so, I'm going to attend one tonight. I'm a very curious woman and these meetings have left me very curious. Especially since when my relationship with my A was active, he would always say tha...

Diva · Diva

We are going to visit friends in Utah and will be gone 9 days. Leaving tomorrow early morning. I will keep all of you close in my thoughts and prayers as always. Do something good for yourselves. With love to all, Diva

ally · ally

(((((((((((((((((Guys))))))))))))))) I will be gone for a week. I am going on holiday tomorrow, and will not be here or in the chatroom.. Just incase you think I have done a runner...lol Looking forward to my holiday, a new adventure for me!!! Flying to France, have never been up in the air before..(w...

pls · pls

Ok. So I am new here, for about 2 months now. I am so very hard trying to work my program, but this weekend, I feel like everything keeps setting me back. A little history first. I live next door to my A, we have been separated for 8 months now. He feels he "is old enough to decide if he wants to drink...

HEARTBROKEN IN NJ · HEARTBROKEN IN NJ

Dating an alcoholic is more like having a dependent than a partner. This is soooo true!!!

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

I was crying like crazy last night, because I guess I was letting My A get the best of me. He has women friends that come visit him. My dad says as a man, from what I told him, Charlie is getting his whipped somewhere else. Even when the time came (after 6 weeks of waiting), we still haven't had sex. I ha...

maresie2 · maresie2

2 years ago when I first came on board here the A pulled a huge crisis number. he is good at that. He makes a huge crisis then he leaves me with the mess and I am so disorientated by that and desperate I don't get to look at what is going on. This latest crisis with setting up the eviction (after all what else i...

java · java

Al-anon does not offer advice or tell another person what to do. We just offer our experience, strengh and hope (e,s & h). However in the event that someone is living in a potentally violent situaltion where physical and mental abuse is going on, it is appropriate for al-anon's to say get out and ge...

angel123 · angel123

hope you enjoy (((group hugs)))

shadow1 · shadow1

(((((((((((((roomies)))))))))))))) I just got word that one of our mip members is very ill. She has been in the hospital for a few days. I don't want to give details or names but if you could please pray for her HP will know who it is. Thanks Yours in Recovery Shad -- Edited by shadow1 at 21:26, 2007-04-1...

BlueCloud · BlueCloud

Dear ((((Family)))), At times, I confuse being recovered with being made of TEFLON--things should just slide off me or STEEL--hurtful things shouldn't hurt me. LOL. I recently realized that I was so focused on proving to myself and other people that I was RECOVERED--that it equated to--SEE I AM TO...

Fifi · Fifi

I haven't been onsite here in some time......past month has been all about me and my cancer diagnosis. Last week i had a masectomy....all pathology looks good and there will be no need for chemo or radiation. Getting back to life with a little less stress of all that change/fear/choice is the tiring st...

albertarose · albertarose

Yesterday my husband and I found out that he has cancer. We are both in shock right now, but dealing with things the best way we know how right now. I am seeking my HP for his guidence and that whatever treatment my husband decides to go with will be the right decision. I am grateful that he has been sober for...

angel123 · angel123

Thank You, Everyone for your love and prayers. I believe in the power of prayer with all my heart. I felt all of you touch me with your hearts. Amazing group of friends. Love Sharon/angel((((group hugs))))

cac · cac

Hello - Today I took my A husband to rehab. Glenbeigh. I think I might be in shock. I can't believe he finally took this step. I can't talk to him for 48 hours. I don't know how long he is going to be in there. They said they customize each program for each person. I wish I would have gotten a ball park. ...

lonelymom · lonelymom

This may sound kind of nasty, but I am SICK SICK SICK of hearing that alcoholism is a disease as if that is some kind of excuse for this stupid, pigheaded, selfish behavior. He may not be able to help wanting to drink, but he is capable of not picking up a dang beer! He is capable of not acting like a moron when...

Leetle · Leetle

My A b/f, just released from jail picked up our daughter from school. The school called to ask me if it was okay after they left. I asked if he had a car seat, sort of on automatic pilot and she said hold on and ran outside. They were already gone. I asked what kind of car they were in and she said she wasn'...

QOD · QOD

My AH and I have been separated for 3 months. It has been a little over a month since he was arrested for possession. It has been a month full of ups and downs. He has been mad, sad and glad over that time. I have an easier time coping when he is mad at me and doesn't want to talk to me or see me. I can go on with l...

Leetle · Leetle

He is out of jail. He called me at work. He hadn't been to my house, where he will find the locks changed, his things in the garage, a note from me listing my boundaries and a change of address form from the post office. If he listened to me or cared about what I was trying to say the last two weeks, he would k...

QOD · QOD

I am having a hard time of it today. My AH continues to push for reconciliation. Everything I say to him bounces right off of him. He refuses to accept an end to our relationship. He loves me, he'll wait for ever for me, give him another chance to make me happy, let him prove he can be the man he once was. ...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

ON A SHOPPING TRIP with my daughter, a Navy flight surgeon, I noticed that one item on her list was Snoopy bandages. She said they were for some of her patients who were unnecessarily upset by their minor scratches and routine shots. Beaming with maternal pride, I told her how thoughtful she was to make...

serendipity · serendipity

Lately I feel like I have been wallowing in my insanity. At the same time I feel like I couldn't get out of it no matter what I did. I have choices but I have been making the wrong ones for the most part. Tonight, in my f2f it occured to me that the tools are right here at my fingertips and I just keep ignoring th...

HEARTBROKEN IN NJ · HEARTBROKEN IN NJ

Here it is Friday afternoon and its another tough day. Friday nights we went to dinner and a movie, this was our routine for months and months. My weekends were always spent with my ex A b/f living our lives doing fun things and keeping busy. Now I sit here thinking, ok, what am I going to do this weekend....

Tammy · Tammy

I told my husband yesterday about my doctors apt. and he actually got mad that I hadnt told him sooner. I told him that he had enough to do and didnt want him worrying about me. He keeps asking me how I feel, if I am having chest pains ? I havent (thank God) I also told him that I didnt want his decision about...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

I can't tell if I've gone numb, or if I've found serenity. See, nothing's changed. I suppose that, when you get right down to it, the only thing that's really changed is me. I know my father's waiting--for me to "screw up, bomb out, or blow up," and he'll milk it for all it's worth. I know my mo...

gimmpy · gimmpy

Now I found morphine in my daughters room, she's 19. When I confronted her, she actually asked for it back.. She dropped out of college, has called in sick to work the last few days, but insists she has no problem. when I inform her of her needing to pay her bills, car insurance, cell phone, etc., her boy f...

SingingLeaves · SingingLeaves

My son just turned 19 this past weekend. He's been a struggling A for many years already. He's out in the world on his own. There is nothing I can do for him. I wrote this little poem a few days after his birthday and I'd like to share it. A Mother's Broken Heart A scrap book full of sadness, brings...

kerry5 · kerry5

Chat room is up and running kerry

kissers · kissers

Some of the people I work with work over-time. At a meeting recently, one of the owners was hinting about us working over-time. One of the employees offered to bring in her son to work. The guilt feelings started bubbling within me, then I think about what is best for me and for my children. I felt very ang...

meagain · meagain

I am sorry-perhaps this is not where I should post for feedback on this subject--but we can use alanon anywhere in our lives right? Oh I so wish I could. I have had asked for help before with my DIL-regarding soooo many issues of her "using"me--(and I guess I let her). I am the grandmother...

nmike · nmike

Hi friends, Thank you for your continued support and insight here at MIP! It helps so much. I still struggle with my AHsober's and my separation. He acts like an alcoholic - self centered. Why am I surprised? It makes me sad. I wonder how to keep my three grown together as a family. They each are in differe...

rtexas · rtexas

(((((Everyone))))) It is so easy today for me to look at the dark side of life. Not just look, but stare at it. Started my day by having a civil conversation with my AW whom I have been seperated from for 6 months (for those who I haven't bored with the story yet), and she wants to start divorce proceeding...

TLM · TLM

In my former marriage, I practiced detachment - to the point where I no longer cared at all. I never even shed a tear at the end of that relationship. I know I am co-dependent, and I want to learn to detach, and still feel the feelings. Is it just me that is challenged with this? How do you all do it?

lmt123 · lmt123

I hate my A (sober) husband.

debilyn · debilyn

lol hey you or anyone can blame anything on me. lol I just really do not mind. I have said it before, when that guy was being blamed for the catastrophy in New Orleans, I was saying, for petes sake just blame me. quit wasting money and time on your buttsm over things that don't matter. Quit blaming and get b...

Lindy · Lindy

I've discovered more lies that my AH has told me and I'm even more desparate to get rid of him and on with my life. I finally emailed his sister. I was afraid to do this because who knew what he was telling her about me. She knows him well enough to not believe anything he says, but I was amazed that even after I...

HEARTBROKEN IN NJ · HEARTBROKEN IN NJ

Why are somedays without my A so much easier than other days? Yesterday was an OK day, but last night I just couldnt sleep because all I could do is think about my ex A B/F. I wondered if he's hurting as much as I am. I wonder if he has tears too. I went to an Alanon mtg last night and it really helped. The...

carolena · carolena

Hi, I feel sad every time I talk to my oldest daughter or my grandaughter. My daughter has two children; my granddaughter has two and one on the way. They're both so depressed because they don't have the discipline to handle their finances. Every time I call them (we live 1,000 miles from eac...

serendipity · serendipity

I went to family councling today with my 3 kids. My 12 yr old and her cutting herself is what motivated me. I went once last week alone to kind of explain what I/we need help with. It was good. My 12 yr old cried which is hard for her to do. For me to do also. I finally explained to her why her dad is again out of the...

wp · wp

Just wanted to update the room on having peeps on hand at the very last minute! lol There is no shortage at walgreens. Happy Easter weekend, wp aka mspw

Sunny2007 · Sunny2007

See previous post on 9April07 entitled "NO CHATROOM APRIL 12-13" posted by shadow1 Chatroom scheduled to reopen about 4AM EASTERN *DAYLIGHT* time, about 3AM EASTERN *STANDARD* time as I recall the times. But hey! I could be wrong. :) Also, when has a scheduled move of a server ever been o...

serendipity · serendipity

is there a trick i don't know?

albertarose · albertarose

When I went to an open AA meeting last Friday I shared a little bit of my story on the topic that was chosen for the night. There was only 3 of us Alanons there. At the end of the meeting an A came up to me and asked if I could be the Alanon speaker for his group function that is being held on April 26th. I was so hono...

Maria123 · Maria123

Tomorrow (April 12th) is Imfree's (Rose) Birthday Happy, happy Birthday Rose

. I hope you have a beautiful day whatever you choose to do. love Maria

serendipity · serendipity

My dad's house sold. I am planning to buy my own home with the proceeds. I have to buy it outright as the foreclosure is still so recent. I found 2 houses that I love. Having just sold my dad's for far less than it was listed for the past 11 months, I know that it is a buyers market. At least here it is. If I wait to...

lilms · lilms

I can see there have been a few changes made to the board. Can someone please tell me what the five stars are in the upper right hand corner of peoples posts? Please, please, please tell me we are not rating people posts. If so, then everyone deserves 5 stars just for having the courage to go through thi...

serenity62 · serenity62

HI alanoner friends, I have some good news to tell you all, I have been looking for a sponsor to guide me on my journey and thankfully i have finally found one online.So im hoping with the help of the sponsor my journey will be easier, im sure it will be cuz i need guidance badly, since there is no f2f in my are...

Tammy · Tammy

Well, my husband and I talked today. We got nowhere but we talked. He is so angry at me and all the things that I did to him. Says, that he just doesnt think that he can forgive me. I said that is funny because, i have already forgiven you for all the terrible things that you have done to me. He has been sta...

lilms · lilms

((((Friends)))))) The book I lamented about purchasing has arrived and I have read it from front cover to back cover. I cannot say how huge this was for me to spend money on something I didn't need but only wanted. Diva, Thanks for threatening to come beat me up. lilms -- Edited by lilms at 16:44, 2007-...

Tammy · Tammy

As you know my alcoholic husband walked out on me and the kids on Easter. Just said he cant do it anymore and left crying ( so was I ) .. I cried all day Sunday and Sunday night then managed to get up and get myself off to work. Well, he called me to "check in" and see how I was doing. I said FINE, wel...

Lindy · Lindy

My AH has been taking huge risks with the drinking and driving lately and he finally got caught on Friday night. His last DWI was about 4 years ago. The second DWI in ten year's time is serious in this state. He tested at .25. I guess when he left the bar on Friday night he could hardly even walk. He now is tell...

andrea · andrea

Please is anybody out there that can help me, I really need to know what to do, I tried talking to my husband about it, but it turns out to be all about himself, should I send my son away so maybe he can start fresh in another country... I know that might not be the best solution but he does not want to go to rehab...

rtexas · rtexas

(((((Everyone)))) I think my HP must be trying to help me gain a new skill. Seems every where I look, there are people, not just my A, picking and choosing responsabilities and trying to offload them to me. I have come to handle many situations better these days, hostility, rage, self-pity (well, may...

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	Need Help (Preview) I am new to this forum. My husband is a recovering addict and alcoholic. He has just returned from rehab. It is driving me crazy because he wants the car to go and apply for a job. It seems like he hasn't taken the time to "look around" at home it's all I got, I got.	marie096	5	460	Apr 16, 2007 by marie096
	I Should Have Known!!! (Preview) I posted a message not long ago about someone I had talked to for a year and wound up becoming physically intimate. He told me he loved me then after I would not let up until I got the truth he told me he didn't know what love is. He lied to me. I should have known he was an A. The truth came out shortly after that...	kissers	7	521	Apr 16, 2007 by hudsond
	Taking care of myself. (Preview) I am having trouble with enabling behavior and taking care of myself. Beside the AH in my life. I have dad that needs 24/7 care and grandmother. It is so hard to have time for myself. Marsha	sissy	5	534	Apr 16, 2007 by sissy
	Am I wrong (Preview) My husband has been sober now for about three weeks. I know this is very early, but he is doing really well. This week he started his out-patient rehab and he attends AA meetings every night. Yesterday was a hectic day (as most of my days are). I worked all day, he didn't have rehab yesterday so he was h...	sash	26	1624	Apr 16, 2007 by marie096
	"Tough question"-- How do you feel about yourself today? (Preview) This a question which comes very hard to us in Alanon. Most of us are too busy worrying about the A taking on "his/her" responsibilities or doing the thinking for them or trying to think for them. We put ourselves on the backburner as we continually obsess about another. Getting up in the mo...	gardengal	8	1492	Apr 16, 2007 by barisax
	ADDICTION: why can't they just stop? (Preview) I have watched the first of a four part series on addiction. It was an HBO documentary....but I don't have HBO. I am getting 1 dvd at a time through Netflix. Anyway, I found the first one very interesting and informative. It goes into the fact that A'ism is a brain disease. It also talks alot about 12 step r...	Gailey	2	504	Apr 16, 2007 by hudsond
	simple words about detachment (Preview) So often people are confused about what detachment means and today I read from Hope for Today a few simple words about detachment that will help me. "Detach from my problem and attach, instead, to my Higher Power." That's simple. I can do that.	Maria123	4	400	Apr 16, 2007 by weggie
	Dreading tonight (Preview) Over the weekend it was suggested to me that I attend an actual AA meeting. Although I am extremely leary to do so, I'm going to attend one tonight. I'm a very curious woman and these meetings have left me very curious. Especially since when my relationship with my A was active, he would always say tha...	HEARTBROKEN IN NJ	2	632	Apr 16, 2007 by babysteps
	You'll all have a short break from dealing with Diva... (Preview) We are going to visit friends in Utah and will be gone 9 days. Leaving tomorrow early morning. I will keep all of you close in my thoughts and prayers as always. Do something good for yourselves. With love to all, Diva	Diva	11	588	Apr 16, 2007 by maire rua
	ALLY WILL BE AWAY FOR A WEEK (Preview) (((((((((((((((((Guys))))))))))))))) I will be gone for a week. I am going on holiday tomorrow, and will not be here or in the chatroom.. Just incase you think I have done a runner...lol Looking forward to my holiday, a new adventure for me!!! Flying to France, have never been up in the air before..(w...	ally	11	404	Apr 15, 2007 by wp
	My first time to vent. HELP (Preview) Ok. So I am new here, for about 2 months now. I am so very hard trying to work my program, but this weekend, I feel like everything keeps setting me back. A little history first. I live next door to my A, we have been separated for 8 months now. He feels he "is old enough to decide if he wants to drink...	pls	6	578	Apr 15, 2007 by wp
	Something I heard last night that sums it up (Preview) Dating an alcoholic is more like having a dependent than a partner. This is soooo true!!!	HEARTBROKEN IN NJ	4	442	Apr 15, 2007 by lilms
	need help, heart is breaking (Preview) I was crying like crazy last night, because I guess I was letting My A get the best of me. He has women friends that come visit him. My dad says as a man, from what I told him, Charlie is getting his whipped somewhere else. Even when the time came (after 6 weeks of waiting), we still haven't had sex. I ha...	hippietrippiechick	9	955	Apr 15, 2007 by hippietrippiechick
	believing the lies (Preview) 2 years ago when I first came on board here the A pulled a huge crisis number. he is good at that. He makes a huge crisis then he leaves me with the mess and I am so disorientated by that and desperate I don't get to look at what is going on. This latest crisis with setting up the eviction (after all what else i...	maresie2	2	460	Apr 15, 2007 by TLC2
	I can breath again, thanks to al-anon (Preview) Al-anon does not offer advice or tell another person what to do. We just offer our experience, strengh and hope (e,s & h). However in the event that someone is living in a potentally violent situaltion where physical and mental abuse is going on, it is appropriate for al-anon's to say get out and ge...	java	5	606	Apr 15, 2007 by Maria123
	BILL of RIGHTS (Preview) hope you enjoy (((group hugs)))	angel123	1	1846	Apr 15, 2007 by Maria123
	URGENT PRAYERS NEEDED PLEASE!!!! (Preview) (((((((((((((roomies)))))))))))))) I just got word that one of our mip members is very ill. She has been in the hospital for a few days. I don't want to give details or names but if you could please pray for her HP will know who it is. Thanks Yours in Recovery Shad -- Edited by shadow1 at 21:26, 2007-04-1...	shadow1	24	1030	Apr 15, 2007 by gardengal
	I AM NOT MADE OF TEFLON (Preview) Dear ((((Family)))), At times, I confuse being recovered with being made of TEFLON--things should just slide off me or STEEL--hurtful things shouldn't hurt me. LOL. I recently realized that I was so focused on proving to myself and other people that I was RECOVERED--that it equated to--SEE I AM TO...	BlueCloud	3	618	Apr 15, 2007 by abbyal
	checking in (Preview) I haven't been onsite here in some time......past month has been all about me and my cancer diagnosis. Last week i had a masectomy....all pathology looks good and there will be no need for chemo or radiation. Getting back to life with a little less stress of all that change/fear/choice is the tiring st...	Fifi	3	306	Apr 14, 2007 by debilyn
	Prayers needed for my AH (Preview) Yesterday my husband and I found out that he has cancer. We are both in shock right now, but dealing with things the best way we know how right now. I am seeking my HP for his guidence and that whatever treatment my husband decides to go with will be the right decision. I am grateful that he has been sober for...	albertarose	17	477	Apr 14, 2007 by wp
	HEARTS (Preview) Thank You, Everyone for your love and prayers. I believe in the power of prayer with all my heart. I felt all of you touch me with your hearts. Amazing group of friends. Love Sharon/angel((((group hugs))))	angel123	4	397	Apr 14, 2007 by aunitedway
	In rehab (Preview) Hello - Today I took my A husband to rehab. Glenbeigh. I think I might be in shock. I can't believe he finally took this step. I can't talk to him for 48 hours. I don't know how long he is going to be in there. They said they customize each program for each person. I wish I would have gotten a ball park. ...	cac	6	941	Apr 14, 2007 by Busbe
	my 2nd ever post- I am very angry (Preview) This may sound kind of nasty, but I am SICK SICK SICK of hearing that alcoholism is a disease as if that is some kind of excuse for this stupid, pigheaded, selfish behavior. He may not be able to help wanting to drink, but he is capable of not picking up a dang beer! He is capable of not acting like a moron when...	lonelymom	15	922	Apr 14, 2007 by maresie2
	Crazy Update (Preview) My A b/f, just released from jail picked up our daughter from school. The school called to ask me if it was okay after they left. I asked if he had a car seat, sort of on automatic pilot and she said hold on and ran outside. They were already gone. I asked what kind of car they were in and she said she wasn'...	Leetle	4	498	Apr 14, 2007 by maresie2
	I gave in last night. (Preview) My AH and I have been separated for 3 months. It has been a little over a month since he was arrested for possession. It has been a month full of ups and downs. He has been mad, sad and glad over that time. I have an easier time coping when he is mad at me and doesn't want to talk to me or see me. I can go on with l...	QOD	5	449	Apr 14, 2007 by maresie2
	He's out... (Preview) He is out of jail. He called me at work. He hadn't been to my house, where he will find the locks changed, his things in the garage, a note from me listing my boundaries and a change of address form from the post office. If he listened to me or cared about what I was trying to say the last two weeks, he would k...	Leetle	5	511	Apr 14, 2007 by maresie2
	I am Shattered. AH doesn't get it! (Preview) I am having a hard time of it today. My AH continues to push for reconciliation. Everything I say to him bounces right off of him. He refuses to accept an end to our relationship. He loves me, he'll wait for ever for me, give him another chance to make me happy, let him prove he can be the man he once was. ...	QOD	8	624	Apr 14, 2007 by maresie2
	some prospective for your day.... (Preview) ON A SHOPPING TRIP with my daughter, a Navy flight surgeon, I noticed that one item on her list was Snoopy bandages. She said they were for some of her patients who were unnecessarily upset by their minor scratches and routine shots. Beaming with maternal pride, I told her how thoughtful she was to make...	Tiger2006	2	379	Apr 14, 2007 by Sunny2007
	How badly do I want to be healthy (Preview) Lately I feel like I have been wallowing in my insanity. At the same time I feel like I couldn't get out of it no matter what I did. I have choices but I have been making the wrong ones for the most part. Tonight, in my f2f it occured to me that the tools are right here at my fingertips and I just keep ignoring th...	serendipity	3	575	Apr 14, 2007 by BlueCloud
	Weekends without him are the worst!! (Preview) Here it is Friday afternoon and its another tough day. Friday nights we went to dinner and a movie, this was our routine for months and months. My weekends were always spent with my ex A b/f living our lives doing fun things and keeping busy. Now I sit here thinking, ok, what am I going to do this weekend....	HEARTBROKEN IN NJ	9	454	Apr 14, 2007 by lin0606
	Still struggling :( (Preview) I told my husband yesterday about my doctors apt. and he actually got mad that I hadnt told him sooner. I told him that he had enough to do and didnt want him worrying about me. He keeps asking me how I feel, if I am having chest pains ? I havent (thank God) I also told him that I didnt want his decision about...	Tammy	9	797	Apr 14, 2007 by sandie123
	serenity, insanity, or surrender? (Preview) I can't tell if I've gone numb, or if I've found serenity. See, nothing's changed. I suppose that, when you get right down to it, the only thing that's really changed is me. I know my father's waiting--for me to "screw up, bomb out, or blow up," and he'll milk it for all it's worth. I know my mo...	Tiger2006	8	606	Apr 14, 2007 by CJ
	I'm sooooo tired..I feel like I'm getting old... (Preview) Now I found morphine in my daughters room, she's 19. When I confronted her, she actually asked for it back.. She dropped out of college, has called in sick to work the last few days, but insists she has no problem. when I inform her of her needing to pay her bills, car insurance, cell phone, etc., her boy f...	gimmpy	5	646	Apr 13, 2007 by lin0606
	A Mother's Broken Heart (Preview) My son just turned 19 this past weekend. He's been a struggling A for many years already. He's out in the world on his own. There is nothing I can do for him. I wrote this little poem a few days after his birthday and I'd like to share it. A Mother's Broken Heart A scrap book full of sadness, brings...	SingingLeaves	5	661	Apr 13, 2007 by Sallen
	Chat is Open again (Preview) Chat room is up and running kerry	kerry5	2	351	Apr 13, 2007 by Denoraphy
	Overtime Pressure At work (Preview) Some of the people I work with work over-time. At a meeting recently, one of the owners was hinting about us working over-time. One of the employees offered to bring in her son to work. The guilt feelings started bubbling within me, then I think about what is best for me and for my children. I felt very ang...	kissers	3	529	Apr 13, 2007 by Tiger2006
	needing HELP (Preview) I am sorry-perhaps this is not where I should post for feedback on this subject--but we can use alanon anywhere in our lives right? Oh I so wish I could. I have had asked for help before with my DIL-regarding soooo many issues of her "using"me--(and I guess I let her). I am the grandmother...	meagain	5	605	Apr 13, 2007 by Mobirdie
	Changing my focus (Preview) Hi friends, Thank you for your continued support and insight here at MIP! It helps so much. I still struggle with my AHsober's and my separation. He acts like an alcoholic - self centered. Why am I surprised? It makes me sad. I wonder how to keep my three grown together as a family. They each are in differe...	nmike	3	368	Apr 13, 2007 by Leetle
	Look for the beauty in today... (Preview) (((((Everyone))))) It is so easy today for me to look at the dark side of life. Not just look, but stare at it. Started my day by having a civil conversation with my AW whom I have been seperated from for 6 months (for those who I haven't bored with the story yet), and she wants to start divorce proceeding...	rtexas	9	437	Apr 13, 2007 by Diva
	HOW do you "detach with love?" (Preview) In my former marriage, I practiced detachment - to the point where I no longer cared at all. I never even shed a tear at the end of that relationship. I know I am co-dependent, and I want to learn to detach, and still feel the feelings. Is it just me that is challenged with this? How do you all do it?	TLM	12	25925	Apr 13, 2007 by Karilynn
	hate (Preview) I hate my A (sober) husband.	lmt123	12	620	Apr 13, 2007 by Karilynn
	sunny 2007 (Preview) lol hey you or anyone can blame anything on me. lol I just really do not mind. I have said it before, when that guy was being blamed for the catastrophy in New Orleans, I was saying, for petes sake just blame me. quit wasting money and time on your buttsm over things that don't matter. Quit blaming and get b...	debilyn	2	456	Apr 13, 2007 by Sunny2007
	Lie after lie (Preview) I've discovered more lies that my AH has told me and I'm even more desparate to get rid of him and on with my life. I finally emailed his sister. I was afraid to do this because who knew what he was telling her about me. She knows him well enough to not believe anything he says, but I was amazed that even after I...	Lindy	5	656	Apr 13, 2007 by annmarie
	Why are some days harder than others? (Preview) Why are somedays without my A so much easier than other days? Yesterday was an OK day, but last night I just couldnt sleep because all I could do is think about my ex A B/F. I wondered if he's hurting as much as I am. I wonder if he has tears too. I went to an Alanon mtg last night and it really helped. The...	HEARTBROKEN IN NJ	4	492	Apr 12, 2007 by nmike
	sad, trying to detach, venting (Preview) Hi, I feel sad every time I talk to my oldest daughter or my grandaughter. My daughter has two children; my granddaughter has two and one on the way. They're both so depressed because they don't have the discipline to handle their finances. Every time I call them (we live 1,000 miles from eac...	carolena	7	476	Apr 12, 2007 by carolena
	I have to leave it alone (Preview) I went to family councling today with my 3 kids. My 12 yr old and her cutting herself is what motivated me. I went once last week alone to kind of explain what I/we need help with. It was good. My 12 yr old cried which is hard for her to do. For me to do also. I finally explained to her why her dad is again out of the...	serendipity	2	606	Apr 12, 2007 by carolena
	arrival of peeps! (Preview) Just wanted to update the room on having peeps on hand at the very last minute! lol There is no shortage at walgreens. Happy Easter weekend, wp aka mspw	wp	7	439	Apr 12, 2007 by ErinB
	CHAT ROOM CLOSED AS ANNOUNCED ... (Preview) See previous post on 9April07 entitled "NO CHATROOM APRIL 12-13" posted by shadow1 Chatroom scheduled to reopen about 4AM EASTERN DAYLIGHT time, about 3AM EASTERN STANDARD time as I recall the times. But hey! I could be wrong. :) Also, when has a scheduled move of a server ever been o...	Sunny2007	1	403	Apr 12, 2007 by shadow1
	can't get into chat (Preview) is there a trick i don't know?	serendipity	3	418	Apr 12, 2007 by serendipity
	Was asked to be Alanon speaker for a function in my area. (Preview) When I went to an open AA meeting last Friday I shared a little bit of my story on the topic that was chosen for the night. There was only 3 of us Alanons there. At the end of the meeting an A came up to me and asked if I could be the Alanon speaker for his group function that is being held on April 26th. I was so hono...	albertarose	10	2659	Apr 12, 2007 by albertarose
	Birthday (Preview) Tomorrow (April 12th) is Imfree's (Rose) Birthday Happy, happy Birthday Rose . I hope you have a beautiful day whatever you choose to do. love Maria	Maria123	9	542	Apr 12, 2007 by aunitedway
	There is STILL no bread at the hardware store (Preview) My dad's house sold. I am planning to buy my own home with the proceeds. I have to buy it outright as the foreclosure is still so recent. I found 2 houses that I love. Having just sold my dad's for far less than it was listed for the past 11 months, I know that it is a buyers market. At least here it is. If I wait to...	serendipity	8	597	Apr 12, 2007 by Rita G
	Confused, are we rating posts now? (Preview) I can see there have been a few changes made to the board. Can someone please tell me what the five stars are in the upper right hand corner of peoples posts? Please, please, please tell me we are not rating people posts. If so, then everyone deserves 5 stars just for having the courage to go through thi...	lilms	10	872	Apr 12, 2007 by Rita G
	I got a SPONSOR :) (Preview) HI alanoner friends, I have some good news to tell you all, I have been looking for a sponsor to guide me on my journey and thankfully i have finally found one online.So im hoping with the help of the sponsor my journey will be easier, im sure it will be cuz i need guidance badly, since there is no f2f in my are...	serenity62	4	387	Apr 12, 2007 by Tiger2006
	just another day in paradise :( (Preview) Well, my husband and I talked today. We got nowhere but we talked. He is so angry at me and all the things that I did to him. Says, that he just doesnt think that he can forgive me. I said that is funny because, i have already forgiven you for all the terrible things that you have done to me. He has been sta...	Tammy	4	489	Apr 12, 2007 by Tiger2006
	DIVA, I HAVE THE BOOK!!!! (Preview) ((((Friends)))))) The book I lamented about purchasing has arrived and I have read it from front cover to back cover. I cannot say how huge this was for me to spend money on something I didn't need but only wanted. Diva, Thanks for threatening to come beat me up. lilms -- Edited by lilms at 16:44, 2007-...	lilms	5	456	Apr 12, 2007 by Karilynn
	okay, NOW what ????? (Preview) As you know my alcoholic husband walked out on me and the kids on Easter. Just said he cant do it anymore and left crying ( so was I ) .. I cried all day Sunday and Sunday night then managed to get up and get myself off to work. Well, he called me to "check in" and see how I was doing. I said FINE, wel...	Tammy	6	570	Apr 12, 2007 by roygbiv
	Another DWI for AH, financially ruined (Preview) My AH has been taking huge risks with the drinking and driving lately and he finally got caught on Friday night. His last DWI was about 4 years ago. The second DWI in ten year's time is serious in this state. He tested at .25. I guess when he left the bar on Friday night he could hardly even walk. He now is tell...	Lindy	10	576	Apr 12, 2007 by roygbiv
	need help understanding my son (Preview) Please is anybody out there that can help me, I really need to know what to do, I tried talking to my husband about it, but it turns out to be all about himself, should I send my son away so maybe he can start fresh in another country... I know that might not be the best solution but he does not want to go to rehab...	andrea	8	628	Apr 12, 2007 by mel123
	How do you handle irresponsability? (Preview) (((((Everyone)))) I think my HP must be trying to help me gain a new skill. Seems every where I look, there are people, not just my A, picking and choosing responsabilities and trying to offload them to me. I have come to handle many situations better these days, hostility, rage, self-pity (well, may...	rtexas	7	628	Apr 11, 2007 by wp
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