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maresie2 · maresie2

I saw the A yesterday and came away feeling drained to death. He managed to absolutely bombard me with demands and manipulate me. I felt totally put upon, distressed and fed up. The norm. I have levelled with the people he is staying with. They are willing to work with me. I feel like I am going to...

Gurl25 · Gurl25

We were invited to a party last night and he we were both wanting to go, but then the anxiety set in when I though abt alcohol maybe being there - so I said "can you not drink?" "I'll just have a couple" YEAH RIGHT LOL!!!!! I'm not abt to put myself in a situation where I will look like th...

gimmpy · gimmpy

My daughters friend who was17 died of an over-dose, they decided to take him off life support, there was so little brain activity, he went without oxygen for too long. I talked to my daughter about getting help for her addiction, for the first time she didn't disagree. I have cried all the tears I think...

QOD · QOD

My AH left for work Tuesday morning and I haven't seen or heard from him since. I thought that he might show up Wed night so that he could get up and go to work today but he was a no show. Now I am figuring there is no telling when he will turn up this time. I am leaving for my vacation on the 14th and he was suppos...

Diva · Diva

He went out this afternoon and stayed about three hours. I think he has been drinking. He is avoiding me, because he knows I can detect it immediately. His voice has "that sound." I am convinced it will never end. OK, OK. Breathe. Keep myself calm and in order. I'll make it. Damn, I hat...

debilyn · debilyn

I rarely lose my temper. In fact it drove my A nuts how I delt with my anger so quitely. But after my diagnoses,and the diabetes med making me so sick, I was a B to two of my friends... geez. raving lunatic. Apologized to both. one has forgiven me, The other well I told her if she does not talk to me, I am heading...

Friendofyours · Friendofyours

Who would have thunk? lol So after fireworks I called ah to see if he was sober so he could talk to the kids and he actually was. I asked how he managed to do that? and he said "the guys are out sitting by the fire drinking and I didn't want to be stupid and get drunk so I've stayed in my room all day" He...

Mamallama · Mamallama

I am new to this board but not to Al-Anon although it's been a couple of years since I went to a face-to-face meeting. I am really needing to start back with meetings and this will help in between. My AH is really sinking to the bottom but it's bringing me down. I can't let it but I am so depressed. We ar...

lin0606 · lin0606

Hi, I haven't been around too much lately - busy and sad time. My husband's cancer progressed faster than we expected it to, and he died last week. He died at home, just at the beginning of the journey we both dreaded - pain and incapacity, hospitals and tubes ... The last few weeks of his life had me as alm...

Lunamoth · Lunamoth

(((Everyone)))) I just jumped on here because I had a twitch in the nerve between my eyebrow, so bad you could see it. Yep it's got to do with the A and I could vent away about what is going on but I was interupted by sirens which meant the start of our neighborhood parade. I love my neighborhood, and the pe...

ally · ally

((((((((((((((((MISS USA))))))))))))))))) I know how your feeling about your dog...I also let my wee jack russell go 3 years ago.. She was nearlly 15 years old.. I kept her for ME....and I finally had to make the "Hardest" decision of my life... I staye with her, looking into her wee eyes...

itsgot2bgd · itsgot2bgd

Hi friends, I heard this term on TV last night and read it one of the posts. What is "tweaking?" Since my H is recovering from addiction to prescription meds, I just like to be aware of the terms... just in case. thanks! hugs, Lee Ann

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

It has been almost a year since I moved out of the house and there is a one year waiting period for filing for divorce in NC. I am dirt poor and am wondering if anyone has any resources for attorneys who might possibly give a tidbit of direction in what I need to do to file for divorce. I am wanting to find out...

suzydawn · suzydawn

Hi. I'm actually new here. I found the site about a year ago but then never returned. My live in BF and father of my baby has been arrested 5 times for DUI over the course of his adult life (45yrs old). I met him while he was in "recovery" and on house arrest. He does not have a DL (lost for life...

camiliajojo · camiliajojo

I'm new to this forum. I attended Al-Anon maybe 4 years ago since I was with someone in NA. The past few years I've been with my best friend who is also in NA. He has 2 daughters I love madly and who love me too. We're getting married in September. He had three years clean when we met...but he relapsed last May...

serendipity · serendipity

My mom has a boyfriend who is an A. He goes to AA and does alot of service work but is in a constant state of relapse. My mom grew up in an A home and is untreated ADD. Anyway, they fight, that is what they do. She abuses him and he is mean to her. He is the most annoying, strange man anyone has ever met. I think it w...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((Family))))))), May you all have a wonderful, safe, and Happy 4th of July! May we take a moment to honor those who are serving in our armed forces, past and present. Love and blessings to you and your family. Live strong, Karilynn, Hubby, and Pipers Kitty

Maria123 · Maria123

You haven't gotten rid of me yet . This past month has had so many highs and lows and thanks to this program, I've been able to process the lows and cherish and enjoy the highs. I haven't been able to respond as much to other's post (which I love to do to keep my 12th step work in progress). Sadly enough, I had...

ally · ally

(((((((((((((Guys))))))))))))))) Ive just returned home from a face to face open meeting. Al-Anon and AA. Shared top table. And It was fantastic, the feelings, emotions I got tonight were so unreal. To listen to an Al-anon female sharing her story, and then to listen to a male AA member sharing his s...

QOD · QOD

I love my family - my parents, my 2 older sisters and my younger brother.....but they are driving me nuts. We have a pretty close relationship, talk about everything and are wide open typically. But ever since my AH's addiction to crack came to light, I find that I am distancing myself from them. And I...

Becky1 · Becky1

Well, here I am in Kansas. Things are going pretty well with my Mom, I just have to go in the other room now and then and BREATHE!!! Too much togetherness right now. Today went with my sis to take the recycleables to the recycle bins, and to grocery. Had to get out of Mom's house for a while! She had me corn...

confused · confused

HI all, I have been getting a lot of backlash from my AH about my program and my coming to MIP. Don't know if he has read my posts but he does know my nick so I am going to change it. My new nick will be myturn. Thank you all for all of the support you have and continue to give me. Lynn

serendipity · serendipity

I first wanted to say that our entertainment industry lossed a great singer last night, beverly stiles. She made opera accesible and entertaing. She was the best soprano americahas ever produced. She will be missed. But don't they say that divas never die they just become the ledgend.....I guess I...

serendipity · serendipity

Someone said this at a meeting tonight. Because if you don't forgive, you can't detatch because you'll keep getting sucked back in. It made sense to me. Another good reason to forgive. My problem is my motive for forgiving. Last year when my A was relapsing I had so much compassion for him and his diseas...

gknee · gknee

Hi all- Just wanted to update on how things are going in my world. I looked back on my profile and saw that I have been a member here since March of 2005-- so much has happened since that time. I know that I could have never gotten thru it all without learning about alanon. My addict(alcohol and var...

realestatepup · realestatepup

Thanks to everyone who replied (and viewed) my posting about detaching. It's not what I thougt it was. Wierd, huh? I am a total hard-ass about certain things. One of those things is when people I am very close to and love relapse. Even though I have been sober for over three years, go to meetings, identif...

Friendofyours · Friendofyours

I was surprised how my six year old spoke to him, both girls did. They said "dad, do you not like us anymore? Because you promised you would come this weekend and you didn't. You lied" I was like oh wooooooow! He said "it's a long story, I'll tell you later" and my daughter said &quo...

Kim65 · Kim65

I think yesterday I finally got some energy back. It's a weird feeling, feeling essentially good, reasonably hopeful, and yet having NO ENERGY. I have always had a hard time reading my body's messages to me, and accepting it's needs. So I'm chillin' in a nice clean house and get a call from the sheri...

david62 · david62

Hi (((((Family)))))) Well I did it! Yesterday evening I told my story for the first time at a Speaker Meeting. It was an amazing experience, I highly recommend it!! The meeting was in San Antonio about an hour and a half from where I live and I and some friends from my home group drove over. We went a little...

gimmpy · gimmpy

My daughter was camping out with friends, and they were all partying. She's 19 and another 18. Her other frined who is 17 over-dosed on cold medicine and is in a coma. His girl friend is only 15, so my daughter and the 18 were told taht they may be charged with endangering the wellfair of a minor. She"...

confused · confused

Boundaries are a great thing, but what if they are not respected. So what happens when they are not respected. Wouldn't it be great if we set a boundary and the A actually agreed to it. I have been on a long road with my AH and feel as though I am nearing an end, at least to the road I have been on. I spoke to a...

Gurl25 · Gurl25

I need some opinions / experiences any of you've had in this regard: My emotions are off the wall. Sometimes I think that I need help, medication, something. But then I think, there's no possible way this is going to be helped as long as I'm with AH or at least as long as he's still in the throws of Aism. I'm e...

Diva · Diva

A few days ago, in a post of mine, I responded in a rather unkind way to your reply to me. Looking back, I know I took your answer all wrong, and read into it that which was not intended to be there. I am sorry. Best wishes, Diva -- Edited by Diva at 22:42, 2007-06-30

Becky1 · Becky1

Well, only for a week to see my mom in another state. The A is not going, I will be 900 miles away. We have not made love in almost 2 months. He's not seeing anyone else, he is always home, or just across the street with his A friend (and his wife.) This morning, I laid in bed when I should have been up, hoping t...

DT1221 · DT1221

Hello (((Everyone))). I am in Great need of some EH&S today. My mind is taking over and all I want to do is cry. i know this is not a bad thing as it helps to cleanse the soul but I need to get through my day. My dilemna is that now that my A is in AA and making all kinds of new female and male friends. I feel left...

gardengal · gardengal

I can remember the days when I couldnt say "no" even though I didnt want to do a particular thing. I was a people pleaser and sometimes still am. I wanted people to count on me, I wanted to be the one they came to with problems , and you know I thought I knew all the solutions. Barely even knowing...

Friendofyours · Friendofyours

I adore so many people here but I wanted to say out loud how much I appreciate Twinmom. She's pretty much in my boat and understand and she takes the time to make sure I am ok. She's just really special. That's why this board isn't like any other. People genuinly care about one another and even though we do n...

John · John

Rose and I are pretty excited about our wedding that is right around the corner. July 7th, 2007. Just days away. Our families will be sitting in the same rooms for the first time... oh gawh... two dysfunctional families celebrating with us LOL Friends from Al-Anon, AA and NA will be present... we a...

ditto · ditto

I've been doing some soul searching. Prior to being married to an a I never really thought about the problem, or how many people might be addicted, or how many people might be effected by someone else's addiction. However, since I joined al-anon and began counting the numbers, it just seemed too vas...

karrele · karrele

I've taken 15 steps backward I believe. My husband got out of rehab last Monday and stayed at my house ( we've been separated since April) for the week until he could move into the halfway house on Saturday. Everything was great. He was going to his meetings, we were getting along. We even went to the park...

karrele · karrele

I've taken 15 steps backward I believe. My husband got out of rehab last Monday and stayed at my house ( we've been separated since April) for the week until he could move into the halfway house on Saturday. Everything was great. He was going to his meetings, we were getting along. We even went to the park...

debilyn · debilyn

hello, well you guys know I have been feeling very rough. Ok I am eating the way I am suppose to since Thursday. Feel absolutely awful. Like living with the flu, which I rarely get. stomach flu. The med is called,"Metforman" I have to take it twice a day with food. plus I have my vitamins and min...

maresie2 · maresie2

I am so much better in a crisis than I am in everyday life. Now the A is not homeless. I am not in imminent danger of pennilessness and leading a tolerable existence I can't sit still.. I want it all tomorrow. I know this is one of the traits that leads me towards the A. I will have to do a lot of work on h...

twinkie · twinkie

I'm feeling a bit uneasy - after the past 4 weeks of binging my A finally made it to a rehab center last Friday. He is in a safe place and I feel a sense of relief now. But now the hard part, I finally spoke to him today by phone and once again reiterated the message I've been saying all along...."I love...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Just wanted to say hi to everyone, I haven't posted in a little bit. I am alive and had a great 4 day vacation from my kids 2 at a fancy hotel for a conference and 2 at home alone. It was fabulous and the first time I have been away from them for a long long time. My life is in slight turmoil at the moment, I may h...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Right now outside of the computer lab, the emergency sirens for the university/local AFB are blaring. It's no emergency; it's the first Monday of the month. The first Monday of the month, the university, the local governments, and the local AFB go through the emergency catastrophe procedures, go...

ShelBell · ShelBell

So my sober AH was pouring himself a glass of iced tea last night, in a huge glass mug. He looked at the mug for a moment and said "I never did use this for it's intended purpose." So I said "What purpose was that?" "Well, it was supposed to be my drinking mug when I went TDY.&...

realestatepup · realestatepup

Hi everyone.... I am new to Al Anon but not to AA. I am sober 3 years and counting. But, the person I am in a relationship with is a chronic relapser! I am trying to let go, let him hit bottom, but..... HOW!!! This whole stupid love thing keeps getting in the way! I hate that feeling in the pit of my stomach when...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Got a call Friday, as I was pulling into a parking garage to help set up for City Folk. It was my step dad. Yes, mom and he were still coming down...and they were having a "pre-4th of July BBQ", complete with steaks on the grill. Now, those of you who know me pretty well know nothing signs my RSVP f...

kissers · kissers

My father (the A) and I haven't spoken to each other for a year. This was my choice. He would always make fun of women in front of me, criticize everything I did, and can become quite violent at times. He would always try to get me to take care of him when he is quite capable of taking care of himself. I don't li...

Gurl25 · Gurl25

His Addiction's Done She's sittin' in the livin' room Knowin' all his friends, Think she's crazy, Cause she can't stop callin' him. They don't have a clue, What his addiction's done. He comes home trippin' off somethin', She's got no idea where he's been, Comin' into bed he'll rub all over her, N' if sh...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

I got ready for work this morning as usual, but right when it was time to leave, the AH said he had to go to the ER because something was wrong with his arm. I saw it sort of flop around when he tried to do things and hang limp. I was worried. I called into work (first time ever) and went to the ER where the doctor b...

maresie2 · maresie2

Well the saga with my codependent neighbor continues. She has kicked up a huge fuss about the kitchen so only she can cook her huge meals for her entourage. She left a really cyptic public note for me which I didn't appreciate. So now I have taken to just saying "hello" to her no more no less....

ally · ally

(((((((((((((((Yo Roomies)))))))))))) Well, I am working my days on, and my regular partner is on holiday for a few weeks. Which means I am running the rota (Work in the community, care assistant), with different people everyday. I am the one who is showing direction to these people. They are all ag...

dcathem · dcathem

I just want to say thank you to this community for being here. I found you on a google search and looked through many of the postings and realized that my story isn't all that different and I'm not crazy or overreacting. My A started on another drinking spree last week...actually, since December I'...

pabell · pabell

Our son was accepted into a boot camp. It was completely his choice, he wants to go. This isn't one of those that you put your kids into, they have to want to go, and they can not be in any trouble with the law. I think mainly for him its the credit recovery part. He will be gone for 22 weeks Anyways...it's...

Please Read · Please Read

I wanted to appologize to anyone that I hurt or made feel uncomfortable. I am VERY VERY sorry. I was online last night with my son and we went threw something online that made me uncomfortable. I remember a few of my posts that I made that were written in the past. I was really confused back then and believe...

Lunamoth · Lunamoth

(((Everyone)))) The other day while cutting the grass, I looked at my house and thought, God please let us stay here a while longer and if that's not be be then please give me the strength to accept it. It's just a feeling that I keep having. When we built this house it was all for the A....I ended up h...

serendipity · serendipity

I am really mad at AA. I have been mad at "them" before but I haven't let go of the resentments yet. I am wondering why. Why do I always have to be mad at someone? My mother, my ex, AA. Today it is AA. I used to go to open AA speaker meetings and it would about kill me to have to clap for the chip handout...

Friendofyours · Friendofyours

The other day when ah and I talked (yelled) I explained that I wanted to do the divorce as civil as possible but he had to keep throwing things into the fire and one of them has me so mad. He seems to think that since he calls himself a "recovering alcoholic" that he will be able to take the kids on t...

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	Absolutely bombarded (Preview) I saw the A yesterday and came away feeling drained to death. He managed to absolutely bombard me with demands and manipulate me. I felt totally put upon, distressed and fed up. The norm. I have levelled with the people he is staying with. They are willing to work with me. I feel like I am going to...	maresie2	5	554	Jul 6, 2007 by maresie2
	More pointless fighting... (Preview) We were invited to a party last night and he we were both wanting to go, but then the anxiety set in when I though abt alcohol maybe being there - so I said "can you not drink?" "I'll just have a couple" YEAH RIGHT LOL!!!!! I'm not abt to put myself in a situation where I will look like th...	Gurl25	8	516	Jul 6, 2007 by Gurl25
	can't sleep, I feel numb. (Preview) My daughters friend who was17 died of an over-dose, they decided to take him off life support, there was so little brain activity, he went without oxygen for too long. I talked to my daughter about getting help for her addiction, for the first time she didn't disagree. I have cried all the tears I think...	gimmpy	13	556	Jul 5, 2007 by debilyn
	I am feeling high levels of anxiety today! (Preview) My AH left for work Tuesday morning and I haven't seen or heard from him since. I thought that he might show up Wed night so that he could get up and go to work today but he was a no show. Now I am figuring there is no telling when he will turn up this time. I am leaving for my vacation on the 14th and he was suppos...	QOD	11	631	Jul 5, 2007 by debilyn
	It has been a little more than a year... (Preview) He went out this afternoon and stayed about three hours. I think he has been drinking. He is avoiding me, because he knows I can detect it immediately. His voice has "that sound." I am convinced it will never end. OK, OK. Breathe. Keep myself calm and in order. I'll make it. Damn, I hat...	Diva	4	529	Jul 5, 2007 by gardengal
	I need to be slapped.... (Preview) I rarely lose my temper. In fact it drove my A nuts how I delt with my anger so quitely. But after my diagnoses,and the diabetes med making me so sick, I was a B to two of my friends... geez. raving lunatic. Apologized to both. one has forgiven me, The other well I told her if she does not talk to me, I am heading...	debilyn	4	465	Jul 5, 2007 by Friendofyours
	What?? 4th of July and sober? (Preview) Who would have thunk? lol So after fireworks I called ah to see if he was sober so he could talk to the kids and he actually was. I asked how he managed to do that? and he said "the guys are out sitting by the fire drinking and I didn't want to be stupid and get drunk so I've stayed in my room all day" He...	Friendofyours	3	523	Jul 5, 2007 by Friendofyours
	I am new here (Preview) I am new to this board but not to Al-Anon although it's been a couple of years since I went to a face-to-face meeting. I am really needing to start back with meetings and this will help in between. My AH is really sinking to the bottom but it's bringing me down. I can't let it but I am so depressed. We ar...	Mamallama	9	590	Jul 5, 2007 by QOD
	Update (Preview) Hi, I haven't been around too much lately - busy and sad time. My husband's cancer progressed faster than we expected it to, and he died last week. He died at home, just at the beginning of the journey we both dreaded - pain and incapacity, hospitals and tubes ... The last few weeks of his life had me as alm...	lin0606	26	694	Jul 5, 2007 by Rita G
	Venting... well maybe not (Preview) (((Everyone)))) I just jumped on here because I had a twitch in the nerve between my eyebrow, so bad you could see it. Yep it's got to do with the A and I could vent away about what is going on but I was interupted by sirens which meant the start of our neighborhood parade. I love my neighborhood, and the pe...	Lunamoth	3	427	Jul 5, 2007 by Maria123
	FOR MISS USA (AKA MARIA) (Preview) ((((((((((((((((MISS USA))))))))))))))))) I know how your feeling about your dog...I also let my wee jack russell go 3 years ago.. She was nearlly 15 years old.. I kept her for ME....and I finally had to make the "Hardest" decision of my life... I staye with her, looking into her wee eyes...	ally	1	414	Jul 5, 2007 by Maria123
	quick ? : What is (Preview) Hi friends, I heard this term on TV last night and read it one of the posts. What is "tweaking?" Since my H is recovering from addiction to prescription meds, I just like to be aware of the terms... just in case. thanks! hugs, Lee Ann	itsgot2bgd	6	465	Jul 5, 2007 by itsgot2bgd
	It's about that time... (Preview) It has been almost a year since I moved out of the house and there is a one year waiting period for filing for divorce in NC. I am dirt poor and am wondering if anyone has any resources for attorneys who might possibly give a tidbit of direction in what I need to do to file for divorce. I am wanting to find out...	carolinagirl	6	418	Jul 5, 2007 by QOD
	What do you think? (Preview) Hi. I'm actually new here. I found the site about a year ago but then never returned. My live in BF and father of my baby has been arrested 5 times for DUI over the course of his adult life (45yrs old). I met him while he was in "recovery" and on house arrest. He does not have a DL (lost for life...	suzydawn	10	580	Jul 5, 2007 by suzydawn
	if you want to make god laugh, make plans for the future (Preview) I'm new to this forum. I attended Al-Anon maybe 4 years ago since I was with someone in NA. The past few years I've been with my best friend who is also in NA. He has 2 daughters I love madly and who love me too. We're getting married in September. He had three years clean when we met...but he relapsed last May...	camiliajojo	2	874	Jul 5, 2007 by debilyn
	my mother and her "friend" (Preview) My mom has a boyfriend who is an A. He goes to AA and does alot of service work but is in a constant state of relapse. My mom grew up in an A home and is untreated ADD. Anyway, they fight, that is what they do. She abuses him and he is mean to her. He is the most annoying, strange man anyone has ever met. I think it w...	serendipity	2	555	Jul 4, 2007 by wp
	HAPPY 4TH OF JULY! (Preview) (((((((Family))))))), May you all have a wonderful, safe, and Happy 4th of July! May we take a moment to honor those who are serving in our armed forces, past and present. Love and blessings to you and your family. Live strong, Karilynn, Hubby, and Pipers Kitty	Karilynn	5	402	Jul 4, 2007 by DeeDee
	Just in case you were wondering ........... (Preview) You haven't gotten rid of me yet . This past month has had so many highs and lows and thanks to this program, I've been able to process the lows and cherish and enjoy the highs. I haven't been able to respond as much to other's post (which I love to do to keep my 12th step work in progress). Sadly enough, I had...	Maria123	8	639	Jul 4, 2007 by wp
	ALCOHOL OR NOT, ARE WE SO DIFFERENT (Preview) (((((((((((((Guys))))))))))))))) Ive just returned home from a face to face open meeting. Al-Anon and AA. Shared top table. And It was fantastic, the feelings, emotions I got tonight were so unreal. To listen to an Al-anon female sharing her story, and then to listen to a male AA member sharing his s...	ally	1	502	Jul 4, 2007 by serendipity
	My family is driving me crazy!!! (Preview) I love my family - my parents, my 2 older sisters and my younger brother.....but they are driving me nuts. We have a pretty close relationship, talk about everything and are wide open typically. But ever since my AH's addiction to crack came to light, I find that I am distancing myself from them. And I...	QOD	9	619	Jul 4, 2007 by Gurl25
	I'm In OZ! (Preview) Well, here I am in Kansas. Things are going pretty well with my Mom, I just have to go in the other room now and then and BREATHE!!! Too much togetherness right now. Today went with my sis to take the recycleables to the recycle bins, and to grocery. Had to get out of Mom's house for a while! She had me corn...	Becky1	2	473	Jul 4, 2007 by ally
	new identity (Preview) HI all, I have been getting a lot of backlash from my AH about my program and my coming to MIP. Don't know if he has read my posts but he does know my nick so I am going to change it. My new nick will be myturn. Thank you all for all of the support you have and continue to give me. Lynn	confused	6	515	Jul 4, 2007 by Diva
	goodbye to bubbles off topic (Preview) I first wanted to say that our entertainment industry lossed a great singer last night, beverly stiles. She made opera accesible and entertaing. She was the best soprano americahas ever produced. She will be missed. But don't they say that divas never die they just become the ledgend.....I guess I...	serendipity	3	419	Jul 4, 2007 by Diva
	I have to forgive to detatch? (Preview) Someone said this at a meeting tonight. Because if you don't forgive, you can't detatch because you'll keep getting sucked back in. It made sense to me. Another good reason to forgive. My problem is my motive for forgiving. Last year when my A was relapsing I had so much compassion for him and his diseas...	serendipity	12	800	Jul 4, 2007 by DeeDee
	patience pays off (Preview) Hi all- Just wanted to update on how things are going in my world. I looked back on my profile and saw that I have been a member here since March of 2005-- so much has happened since that time. I know that I could have never gotten thru it all without learning about alanon. My addict(alcohol and var...	gknee	6	526	Jul 4, 2007 by Karilynn
	Starting to understand (Preview) Thanks to everyone who replied (and viewed) my posting about detaching. It's not what I thougt it was. Wierd, huh? I am a total hard-ass about certain things. One of those things is when people I am very close to and love relapse. Even though I have been sober for over three years, go to meetings, identif...	realestatepup	2	492	Jul 3, 2007 by realestatepup
	He talked to the kids. (Preview) I was surprised how my six year old spoke to him, both girls did. They said "dad, do you not like us anymore? Because you promised you would come this weekend and you didn't. You lied" I was like oh wooooooow! He said "it's a long story, I'll tell you later" and my daughter said &quo...	Friendofyours	1	323	Jul 3, 2007 by QOD
	Three for three (Preview) I think yesterday I finally got some energy back. It's a weird feeling, feeling essentially good, reasonably hopeful, and yet having NO ENERGY. I have always had a hard time reading my body's messages to me, and accepting it's needs. So I'm chillin' in a nice clean house and get a call from the sheri...	Kim65	9	592	Jul 3, 2007 by Kim65
	Yep, "The Screw" made an appearance (Preview) Hi (((((Family)))))) Well I did it! Yesterday evening I told my story for the first time at a Speaker Meeting. It was an amazing experience, I highly recommend it!! The meeting was in San Antonio about an hour and a half from where I live and I and some friends from my home group drove over. We went a little...	david62	11	919	Jul 3, 2007 by gardengal
	scared! (Preview) My daughter was camping out with friends, and they were all partying. She's 19 and another 18. Her other frined who is 17 over-dosed on cold medicine and is in a coma. His girl friend is only 15, so my daughter and the 18 were told taht they may be charged with endangering the wellfair of a minor. She"...	gimmpy	7	446	Jul 3, 2007 by gardengal
	boundaries...great concept but not always effective...back to the drawing board (Preview) Boundaries are a great thing, but what if they are not respected. So what happens when they are not respected. Wouldn't it be great if we set a boundary and the A actually agreed to it. I have been on a long road with my AH and feel as though I am nearing an end, at least to the road I have been on. I spoke to a...	confused	5	512	Jul 3, 2007 by lin0606
	Emotions (Preview) I need some opinions / experiences any of you've had in this regard: My emotions are off the wall. Sometimes I think that I need help, medication, something. But then I think, there's no possible way this is going to be helped as long as I'm with AH or at least as long as he's still in the throws of Aism. I'm e...	Gurl25	7	520	Jul 3, 2007 by Gurl25
	Apologies to gardengal. (Preview) A few days ago, in a post of mine, I responded in a rather unkind way to your reply to me. Looking back, I know I took your answer all wrong, and read into it that which was not intended to be there. I am sorry. Best wishes, Diva -- Edited by Diva at 22:42, 2007-06-30	Diva	3	448	Jul 3, 2007 by gardengal
	Leaving (Preview) Well, only for a week to see my mom in another state. The A is not going, I will be 900 miles away. We have not made love in almost 2 months. He's not seeing anyone else, he is always home, or just across the street with his A friend (and his wife.) This morning, I laid in bed when I should have been up, hoping t...	Becky1	9	550	Jul 3, 2007 by suzydawn
	looking for some EH&S to get me by (Preview) Hello (((Everyone))). I am in Great need of some EH&S today. My mind is taking over and all I want to do is cry. i know this is not a bad thing as it helps to cleanse the soul but I need to get through my day. My dilemna is that now that my A is in AA and making all kinds of new female and male friends. I feel left...	DT1221	7	662	Jul 3, 2007 by DT1221
	Can you say "No", and leave it as just an answer? (Preview) I can remember the days when I couldnt say "no" even though I didnt want to do a particular thing. I was a people pleaser and sometimes still am. I wanted people to count on me, I wanted to be the one they came to with problems , and you know I thought I knew all the solutions. Barely even knowing...	gardengal	10	899	Jul 3, 2007 by Karilynn
	Twinmom (Preview) I adore so many people here but I wanted to say out loud how much I appreciate Twinmom. She's pretty much in my boat and understand and she takes the time to make sure I am ok. She's just really special. That's why this board isn't like any other. People genuinly care about one another and even though we do n...	Friendofyours	2	429	Jul 3, 2007 by Alanoner
	Count Down To "Married" (Preview) Rose and I are pretty excited about our wedding that is right around the corner. July 7th, 2007. Just days away. Our families will be sitting in the same rooms for the first time... oh gawh... two dysfunctional families celebrating with us LOL Friends from Al-Anon, AA and NA will be present... we a...	John	16	845	Jul 2, 2007 by wp
	National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism (Preview) I've been doing some soul searching. Prior to being married to an a I never really thought about the problem, or how many people might be addicted, or how many people might be effected by someone else's addiction. However, since I joined al-anon and began counting the numbers, it just seemed too vas...	ditto	0	331	Jul 2, 2007 by ditto
	No more sanity! Help!! (Preview) I've taken 15 steps backward I believe. My husband got out of rehab last Monday and stayed at my house ( we've been separated since April) for the week until he could move into the halfway house on Saturday. Everything was great. He was going to his meetings, we were getting along. We even went to the park...	karrele	4	432	Jul 2, 2007 by Friendofyours
	No more sanity! Help!! (Preview) I've taken 15 steps backward I believe. My husband got out of rehab last Monday and stayed at my house ( we've been separated since April) for the week until he could move into the halfway house on Saturday. Everything was great. He was going to his meetings, we were getting along. We even went to the park...	karrele	14	579	Jul 2, 2007 by debilyn
	off topic, need help, experience please (Preview) hello, well you guys know I have been feeling very rough. Ok I am eating the way I am suppose to since Thursday. Feel absolutely awful. Like living with the flu, which I rarely get. stomach flu. The med is called,"Metforman" I have to take it twice a day with food. plus I have my vitamins and min...	debilyn	13	658	Jul 2, 2007 by debilyn
	Want everything yesterday (Preview) I am so much better in a crisis than I am in everyday life. Now the A is not homeless. I am not in imminent danger of pennilessness and leading a tolerable existence I can't sit still.. I want it all tomorrow. I know this is one of the traits that leads me towards the A. I will have to do a lot of work on h...	maresie2	3	518	Jul 2, 2007 by Katy
	encouragement and thanks (Preview) I'm feeling a bit uneasy - after the past 4 weeks of binging my A finally made it to a rehab center last Friday. He is in a safe place and I feel a sense of relief now. But now the hard part, I finally spoke to him today by phone and once again reiterated the message I've been saying all along...."I love...	twinkie	2	444	Jul 2, 2007 by chris52
	I'm alive. (Preview) Just wanted to say hi to everyone, I haven't posted in a little bit. I am alive and had a great 4 day vacation from my kids 2 at a fancy hotel for a conference and 2 at home alone. It was fabulous and the first time I have been away from them for a long long time. My life is in slight turmoil at the moment, I may h...	carolinagirl	3	409	Jul 2, 2007 by Tiger2006
	"This is only a test..." (Preview) Right now outside of the computer lab, the emergency sirens for the university/local AFB are blaring. It's no emergency; it's the first Monday of the month. The first Monday of the month, the university, the local governments, and the local AFB go through the emergency catastrophe procedures, go...	Tiger2006	1	473	Jul 2, 2007 by maresie2
	An example of the distorted thinking (Preview) So my sober AH was pouring himself a glass of iced tea last night, in a huge glass mug. He looked at the mug for a moment and said "I never did use this for it's intended purpose." So I said "What purpose was that?" "Well, it was supposed to be my drinking mug when I went TDY.&...	ShelBell	7	1085	Jul 2, 2007 by twinkie
	trying to detach (Preview) Hi everyone.... I am new to Al Anon but not to AA. I am sober 3 years and counting. But, the person I am in a relationship with is a chronic relapser! I am trying to let go, let him hit bottom, but..... HOW!!! This whole stupid love thing keeps getting in the way! I hate that feeling in the pit of my stomach when...	realestatepup	5	511	Jul 2, 2007 by beej
	Feeling quite guilt ridden this weekend...and I'm the one practicing HEALTHY behaviors!! (Preview) Got a call Friday, as I was pulling into a parking garage to help set up for City Folk. It was my step dad. Yes, mom and he were still coming down...and they were having a "pre-4th of July BBQ", complete with steaks on the grill. Now, those of you who know me pretty well know nothing signs my RSVP f...	Tiger2006	3	483	Jul 2, 2007 by beej
	Dad, the A (Preview) My father (the A) and I haven't spoken to each other for a year. This was my choice. He would always make fun of women in front of me, criticize everything I did, and can become quite violent at times. He would always try to get me to take care of him when he is quite capable of taking care of himself. I don't li...	kissers	2	437	Jul 2, 2007 by carolena
	His Addiction's Done (a poem) (Preview) His Addiction's Done She's sittin' in the livin' room Knowin' all his friends, Think she's crazy, Cause she can't stop callin' him. They don't have a clue, What his addiction's done. He comes home trippin' off somethin', She's got no idea where he's been, Comin' into bed he'll rub all over her, N' if sh...	Gurl25	3	453	Jul 2, 2007 by Gurl25
	Saturday Night Palsy (Preview) I got ready for work this morning as usual, but right when it was time to leave, the AH said he had to go to the ER because something was wrong with his arm. I saw it sort of flop around when he tried to do things and hang limp. I was worried. I called into work (first time ever) and went to the ER where the doctor b...	RainyJamie	3	462	Jul 2, 2007 by maresie2
	The Codependent neighbor saga (Preview) Well the saga with my codependent neighbor continues. She has kicked up a huge fuss about the kitchen so only she can cook her huge meals for her entourage. She left a really cyptic public note for me which I didn't appreciate. So now I have taken to just saying "hello" to her no more no less....	maresie2	2	464	Jul 2, 2007 by carolena
	GOD WORKS IN MYSTERIOUS WAYS....LOL (Preview) (((((((((((((((Yo Roomies)))))))))))) Well, I am working my days on, and my regular partner is on holiday for a few weeks. Which means I am running the rota (Work in the community, care assistant), with different people everyday. I am the one who is showing direction to these people. They are all ag...	ally	8	687	Jul 2, 2007 by ally
	Thank you (Preview) I just want to say thank you to this community for being here. I found you on a google search and looked through many of the postings and realized that my story isn't all that different and I'm not crazy or overreacting. My A started on another drinking spree last week...actually, since December I'...	dcathem	5	494	Jul 2, 2007 by abbyal
	Feeling a tad bit bitter! (Preview) Our son was accepted into a boot camp. It was completely his choice, he wants to go. This isn't one of those that you put your kids into, they have to want to go, and they can not be in any trouble with the law. I think mainly for him its the credit recovery part. He will be gone for 22 weeks Anyways...it's...	pabell	2	401	Jul 1, 2007 by Friendofyours
	Please Read ALL (Preview) I wanted to appologize to anyone that I hurt or made feel uncomfortable. I am VERY VERY sorry. I was online last night with my son and we went threw something online that made me uncomfortable. I remember a few of my posts that I made that were written in the past. I was really confused back then and believe...	Please Read	2	623	Jul 1, 2007 by Jerry F
	Trying not to project (Preview) (((Everyone)))) The other day while cutting the grass, I looked at my house and thought, God please let us stay here a while longer and if that's not be be then please give me the strength to accept it. It's just a feeling that I keep having. When we built this house it was all for the A....I ended up h...	Lunamoth	4	494	Jul 1, 2007 by maresie2
	What is this anger? (Preview) I am really mad at AA. I have been mad at "them" before but I haven't let go of the resentments yet. I am wondering why. Why do I always have to be mad at someone? My mother, my ex, AA. Today it is AA. I used to go to open AA speaker meetings and it would about kill me to have to clap for the chip handout...	serendipity	10	719	Jul 1, 2007 by maresie2
	I have to have control. (Preview) The other day when ah and I talked (yelled) I explained that I wanted to do the divorce as civil as possible but he had to keep throwing things into the fire and one of them has me so mad. He seems to think that since he calls himself a "recovering alcoholic" that he will be able to take the kids on t...	Friendofyours	7	449	Jul 1, 2007 by maresie2
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